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Guy called to cancel the date two hours before because he wasn’t feeling it and tried to make me reschedule with him for the next day. I told him I was busy. He said “all right I guess tonight it is”.. I called it off because I felt like I was being manipulated.
1, I have never cheated on any man that I am trying to get to know and have a relationship with. I am devoted to them only. I want him to know that he is the one. I don't have wandering eyes. 2, I do what a man asks of me to show him that he can depend on my help if he needs it,just like I would with him. Only if it is not to overboard. 3, I've always stood up for myself, I've had to do it many times. I have also stood up for a man when he is not around when people start talking him down. Those people don't know him like I do, even if the relationship is new. 4,The things I like to do are simple things, If I'm not working crazy long hours that I am now. I have always been a people person, I can talk to anyone, I had to have these skills in order to be a manager of a moblie home community with over 300 residents. Right now during time of civic 19, it's hard to do the things I like to do. One thing I absolutely love to do is sing, I sing all the time, I come from a family of musicians, I have received standing ovations for my singing. Its a great feeling. If a man don't know me well enough yet, or what I like, I might seem a little crazy.
You’re right, it’s not for men’s test for respectability. But, your assumption is that women are waiting (for some reason). I want to check out sexual compatibility before going much further. If it’s not there, it never will be. Btw, now in a committed relationship.
Another good way to know if a guy has good intentions is if he calls you by your name instead of "baby" or something like that off the bat. If he doesnt say your name at all then he is not into you.
Everytime Ryan says his intro "I've got all that coming up for you, right now!", my hearts starts racing for a few seconds because i'm about to find out the possible reasons for my latest fuckups again. Thank you so much for your videos.
Me too. I need help. He just met me, he's telling me "love u b" and making wife statements. He told me about all his exes and wanted to talk to my parents the first time he called me. I just don't know what to do😅😅😅 Please help
@@ninafrederick6048 - Nina - he might be a Narcassist- there are many types. What he is doing is called 'Future Faking.' Don't get fooled, these are very manipulative, horrid people. Check out Dr. Les Carter 'Surviving Narcassism' & Dr. Ramani - both are excellent & both on youtube.
I find that when I put the sex boundary and put it off, guys just SCATTTER! Of course, I understand that then they're probably not the people I want to be with but it sure is hard to find relationship men
Yeap, same here girl. Anytime I tell a guy I don't have sex with him until we're exclusive and in a relationship, they run off! I see that as a good thing: that tells me what their intentions were and saves me having to deal with nonsense later on. It's sad most men refuse to wait anymore
@@amyjohnson2720 Yea!!! It's hard to find men that wants to wait. But you know what, I 'm glad we are sticking to our standards and boundaries. I know in the past, I would bend my standards for a guy. I have stopped doing that
I could've saved myself a lot of heartbreak if I had seen this video years ago. I'm gonna stop accepting the overt sexual innuendos just to date someone who ends up ghosting me anyway.
I find myself watching some of these videos retroactively slapping my own forehead. “Ooohhh, THAT’S what the eff that was!” Good hindsight makes for better foresight, lol. 🙏🏼❤️
I find it highly a turn off when a guy gets to you know right away he says “come over” like yeah that’s what I’m going to do why do guys think it’s okey to talk to a girl this way
Yooo Lowkey I’ve had guys test me on all of those but I unintentionally ended up psychoanalyzing them instead.... they wanted to test me but they ended telling me more about themselves than they intended. Let’s just say that it never got to a meet up and I unmatched
I could teach this myself! The key is to love yourself and spend time with yourself and build your own life. It teaches you who you are, what you like and don't like and most of all what you expect or will accept from others. The key is to need nothing from anyone else. Anything you gain outside of that is purely a bonus. Happy dating everyone and remember these are life's lessons and we can only gain from them ❤
See I can do this but it's so tiresome really. I'll tell you guys the tests I got. 1. Broken car go to unsafe place via uber for late night date. 2. Show me pics of yourself 3. Oh I forgot about our date.... how about tonight. 4. Inappropriate jokes My response " it was great getting to know you. I wish you all the best " 🤗 They'll then text " What? " then call a bunch because you were so eager before or think you're joking but then you dont respond. Looooooooots / majority back track. Men dont like to lose
I wonder why this video showed up in my recommendations. I no longer date or even actively looking for a man/mate. I gave up a long time ago. Women work on being the best you, you can be. Be happy with your life and LIVE IT TO THE FULLEST.
I wish I found your channel when I was in high school!!! I literally could have prevented wasting my time on guys or even being able to look at the red flags !!
do your own thing in social media clean house etc.... a guy ive been talking too he posts all the time on fb and I dont view his posts lol or like them 😂 he is surely liking mine at times but his q close book keeping it on a minimum he tests me all the time
This happened to me a few weeks ago so I thought I'd share and give you some entertainment. This guy was staring at me at the gas station. He came up to my car told me how beautiful I was and wanted my number and told me how good in bed he was. I said good for you. I'm just here to get a drink. He asked if I would buy him a drink. I said I would if he would forget getting my number. He followed me in, I got him a tea and went back out to my car. He said I bet your good in bed too. I said you never know. He then said maybe you could help me out I just got out of jail and am homeless. I said you need to work on your game a bit and if you want all that from someone maybe you should ask them their name first and drove away. Some people.
@@rpmcmurphey927 True, but I still think OP's point stands, which is he needs to up his game if he's going for all that, and not even asking someone's name is a big tip off to not being serious about wanting to talk to them to actually get to know them.
He literally tested my sex boundaries! We're not dating tho, but both of us confessed that we are interested in each other but we just don't have the time to invest on each other for dating rn. When I told him I am not going to act on my attraction to him and need emotional bond before sex, I feel like his respect for me increased. He looks after me, opens up to me and just behaves with respect around me.
One guy I was talking to told me to "Shut up," as like a joke. He did it again, and again like he thought I found it hilarious or something, until I shut it down. My only regret is not calling him out on it the first time. Oh, and if you're wondering he's blocked!! I really don't have the patience to tolerate being provoked and having my guard up all the time.
I had a guy do all these... I stood up but each time he backed down he later got worse and the deeper I was in the worse he got. It's useless standing up to these men, you need to leave them to their games.
Can't wait for the crappy guy lines vid! This one has such great advice Ryan. One of the things I love about your vids is how encouraging you are toward us to move past our self-esteem issues and keep our standards high. It's always such a nice, reinforcing message to start the week with! Thanks Ryan!
Coming soon! I shot it not too long ago, so I hope it turns out the way I'm hoping. Thanks, Lauren!! I appreciate your kind words and hope you find crappy guy lines entertaining! 😁
Just got ghosted when everything seemed to be going well. Why can’t people just stop the games. All tests 🤦🏻♀️. Dating is just annoying now and with work, school, activities and friends who has time to play these games.
I subscribed. This guy has some good advice but he also has advice that if you follow and don’t go with your gut and your situation you could ruin a really good thing. For instance I was taking in his advice that my boyfriend of neatly 2 years is shy reserved doesn’t communicate his feelings well etc-- and this guy says he will cheat with a stranger due to attachment issues. Well it would be awful just to assume my guy will cheat so take the good advice and take this all but assume your man is good and has good intentions. Don’t assume he’s out to do you wrong otherwise you’ll be on the defense and you won’t give in the relationship A man deserves attention devotion deserves Back rubs and love and the assumption that he will be loyal. Again lots of good advice but be open and don’t hesitate to always think the best and be the best for him Guys need love too 🥰
Hmm I appreciate you subscribing Lindsay (first off), but I feel you may have missed some of my larger points. I don't believe I said anything in this video that stated that you should assume men are out to do you wrong... or that guys will cheat on you with a stranger due to attachment issues. Is that me you're saying who said those things? 🤔
Hi Ryan. I remember that my last boyfriend, early on in the relationship, on two separate occasions asked me while we were just hanging out and watching TV "did you fart?"... 😳. Obviously - I didn't. I don't think he did either. There was no odd smell or anything. The question was totally out of context. I was surprised and taken aback but I never called him on it, I always just said "no" casually and carried on as if nothing happened. This relationship was not a very good one, and unfortunately I let it go on for way too long (years). I realize now some of the small mistakes I've made along the way. One of them being not stopping everything and calling him on the inappropriate questions. Seeing your video now makes me wonder: was this one of his tests for me? Do guys test girls subconsciously sometimes? Thanks for the video. 🙏
A guy once sent me an unsolicited picture of himself. Omg I didn't even respond I just blocked and deleted his number. Who honestly has the energy. These streets are tiring
The don't have sex too early is what everyone in Europe is trying to advise me not to do, because the culture tends to be different here. But I'm more for the Ryan way simply because I'm not into quick hookups. It's tiring when everyone around you tells you to loosen up.
You should do what's best for you and never be made to feel uncomfortable. With that said, Northern Europe that I live in has no dating culture, we don't go on dates, we hook up or pair up, and it happens fast. So we would have a hard time finding a man who will take you out for multiple dates like they do in the USA.
@@adday. That's what's starting to happen in Germany too... I'm struggling with it. I respect other cultures, but I don't understand why it is that way and cannot shake the feeling that it becomes superficial and makes you or him a sexual object. Especially since I grew up in a culture that is 100% the opposite where sex is only accepted after marriage. I found the middle ground of dating before sex, or 'courting' just fine and much better.. I'm ok with that... but switching 100% to the other side .. as much as I really want to integrate, I tried and noticed I'm always gonna have a problem with it. So I have to change cultures to feel at home XD but thanks for the info.. this is very interesting!
@@thunabs7759 Guten Tag. I am German. Yes, the challenge is that you didn't grow up with it, like you said. You are rooted in the dating culture that we don't have. It is what it is. Enjoy your time here.
@adda Y. Just to be clear, this was not a criticism of Germany. I'm not rooted because my culture does not even have open dating. But thanks for the reply :)
Can I just say, after my ex broke my nose he started calling me Owen Wilson. Man if that wasn’t a clue I don’t know what was... Definitely listen to Ryan’s advice and RUN don’t walk from the latter guys!!!
Breaking your nose was the clue. I hope he is out of your life. It doesn't matter what you say or do, nobody can beat you. Hopefully you'll find true love because that wasn't it.
What if you actually waited 30 days, you get intimate with the guy after this time, and THEN he pulls away when the whole time he indicated he wanted a relationship? Lol I'm just confused at this point
My fiance and i had sex on our very first date and since than we have been inseparable. We tried not to have sex on the first dare but he was single for 10 years snd i was single for 6 and both needed sex desperately... when i first had sex with him, i honestly didnt care if he left me or not cause i was desperate for a mans touch and i was going to get it. Didnt know we ended up together since than.
This guy I met told me he would do my daughter. He's 66,bim 62 and my daughter is 36 and beautiful inside and out. Turned me off, never talked to him again. Sick, twisted. Shes been in a relationship for 8 1/2 years.
One is being too physical to test if you're too 'easy' and they ignore you on purpose to see if you go crazy or can be independent haha mine was a hunter and that was his excuse. Dont ever ask about any friend who is a girl in his life. Same goes if he has a brother or friend. Also don't send any nudes whatsoever. Be nude in person only haha
For sex boundaries what if a guy came over a woman place and he was drunk sober and he wanna do her. Then 2 weeks gone by he just string her along but never make date plans. Is this a test to?
"If things start like this, they only get worse." That is SO true. I WISH I knew this as a teenager because I was taught by my parents, especially my MOM, to "just let it go."
Same here. I was taught by my narcissistic mother there is always something wrong with me, never with others (even when I was bullied at school) and later on she always said that I shouldn't have too high expectation about men, nobody is perfect. So I learnt to ignore red flags. Even if I felt deep inside - there is something wrong, tried convince myself that I should give him a chance and don't judge too quickly as I don't really know him yet etc. Always made excused for their inconsistent behaviour, feeling anxious and uncertain all the time. So went for toxic relationships with guys who constantly played with me some mind games.
Sometimes I tests guys... And it does and has really worked for me... if ya wanna know how committed a guy is to a relationship or how attentive he can be... ... Give a dude a flower. ... Yeah.. for real. I know... It's weird .. but... It will tell you so much about what kind of person he is from his reaction to you giving him a flower .. and if he chooses to care for that flower or if he chooses to toss it or just let it die cuz he forgot about it.. all of that really can tell you how in to you he really is.. Plus .. the reactions you get when you do this is freakin priceless! I once had a guy eat the flower 😹☠️😹 ... I guess he panicked and didn't know what to do or how to react.. then he ate it.. 😹😹😹 ... I've also had a guy totally gurl out on me... It makes for some everlasting moments to cherish for sure if you don't get anything else out of it.. 💜😹💜
Ryan, your videos are fun and lovely and to the point, but I know I've said this before in a comment on one of your other videos: I think they're very culturally specific. I'm from a culture which sometimes jokes around in order to show affection and/or humour. If someone misinterpreted one of these gentle jabs as a person giving them their "marching orders" and said "Do I look like a circus animal to you?" it would be regarded as extremely diva-ish and a major overreaction! I feel like sometimes you should clarify that your advice is very specific to the American cultural context and the kinda brash way Americans see things - someone who is effective with others (including in dating) needs to be able to "read the room"!
please do a video about online dating over 50 during the pandemic. Three times I have come across scammers asking me for money or itunes gift card!!! OMG I am so done!!!!
The thing I like about Ryan is that I feel like he doesn't try to lure us in for his content....I feel like his videos are soooo free for us....its not hyped up with drama to suck you in (even if its true). He keeps it simple. Love it.
OMG! So, I was talking to a guy for a week... A WEEK! Within that WEEK he told me “I’m gonna break you down and build you back up.” He told me I was digging myself deeper into a hole and was in the dog house because I didn’t send him enough pictures. Then the pics I sent were not good enough because they were not “sexy” pics. He asked me to take a pic of me in a towel and show cleavage and when I said it was too soon for that, he called me a p**sy. He hounded me about this pic all the time. When I set the boundaries and told him I didn’t like the comments he was making, he apologized and then turned around and wanted me to convince him I no longer saw him as demeaning or controlling and narcissistic. Oh, and he kept wanting me to call him “sir”. Yeah! I deleted him. I don’t know why I allowed it to go a week.
Oh, and when I commented that a player in GTA5 had a character in the game that looked “dapper”, he said “What are you trying to do, make me jealous?” Seriously! A video game? Dude!
@@datingcoachryanpatrick to clarify, not in a relationship or anything like that. But I do have some guys who say they like me and want to be with me and all that jazz but I haven’t experienced either of these signs from him. It’s more of a curiosity of what does he actually want from me?
True! The first time I was talking to a guy he called me “ babe “ this word it’s too intimate so I said I didn’t like it etc... and he stopped and continued to talk to me
I've seen MOST of these tests in action, and this video is really helpful! I'm not convinced that the sex test belongs in the "good guys" category though. If a guy is looking for a relationship, is it really fair for him to proposition a woman early on and then count her out if it works? In my experience, this test comes from the second category of guys.
The second category too, yes. But absolutely the first category 👌 Good guys want sex at different times. It's not as if they'd be disrespectful about it if they wanted it earlier than other "good guys," but they're still going to feel out the situation rather than not ask at all 😉 If he sees she'll have sex early on, some of these guys will discount that as someone *not* being relationship materials. Others won't do that is all 🤷🏻♂️
Ryan, I love how you explain the psychological perspective from both men and women. I was wondering if you could do a video or share your thoughts on friends with benefits from both sides, do's and don'ts, what to do when one side wants to keep the friends but lose the benefits etc. Look forward to seeing a video or hearing your thoughts. Keep up the fabulous work, you're adorable.
@Spooky Spectre I have a FWB that became my best friend. We've been seeing each other 4 years now. And yeah I did catch feelings but I also have come to accept that he won't (and we've had honest conversations about it). I just decided to appreciate what we have and not what we don't. However, it only works because he's not getting in the way of me finding someone else and vice versa...and because we're both pretty unusual people.
So, we r long distance for 4+ months now and we met twice only. I am hard to get so he was chasing me a lot. Finally, i opened up and his messages were irregular, and I actually made a mistake cause I kept asking him why aren’t we communicating enough and why isn’t he initiating the convos, he didn’t like it at all, always saying he doesn’t wanna argue. Finally, we met and I was again having my guards up and not being kinda warm with him.. we took a long walk and kissed a couple of times and had a long talk, mostly not about us. What happens next, he is about to leave he is in a hurry and I see like some hearts in his phone and I’m like oh u have chats with hearts? And then he was like it’s just a friend that helped me with some business questions, I just said thanks. And I’m like, why would u say thanks with hearts and kisses? And we were in his car by then and he was like well she is married and has kids, what’s the problem if I sent her a thanks, it’s just a chat thing. And I’m like ok, we kiss goodbye and he is like I will call u when I get home. His home is 4 hours driving and I waited and waited for him to say he’s got home, and I see him online and nothing. I don’t say nothing either... two days go by and I message him he is just like usual messages that he’s busy blah blah. And I’m like I’m depressed cause of u. And he was like oh did I make u feel bad? I’m like u r gone no words from u.. and then nothing. The next day I try to be nice and write a nice message, nothing. Third day I’m like where are u? I’m like tell me open what’s going on, or if u don’t wanna be with me anymore be open. And his response is “I think this won’t work btwn us”. I was so hit like a hurricane and sobbing... and I’m like do u really mean it why.. and he’s like “I’m done with the arguing.. also, no messages from u to see if I made it safe home, and a weird jealousy to some messages I sent saying thanks”. And ofc I’m like I waited for u to text me u said so, and messages I just saw and commented I didn’t attack u. And his response is how he always feel attacked by me and how we don’t have anything in common and he thinks we r not for each other. But everything he says begins with “I think...”. I even said I’m crying I’m so hurt, and he said no need to. So he’s been like this 3 days now, I sent him so many messages explaining I was wrong to be so cold with him and stubborn and that I really love him, but he is ignoring me. He just says he’s busy with work... and I sent even voice messages like just asking if he doesn’t wanna talk ever again but he isn’t replying. He is online but not replying... it’s almost like he enjoys having me in this state of chasing him cause it was vice versa before. I don’t know what to do, I’m in so much pain. He was supposed to come this weekend again but I haven’t mentioned it yet. I’m so hurt I have never ever felt like this in my entire life, I’m totally opposite, but this time it gotten me. I fell for him. I need to give him space but it’s so hard to. Idk what to do. 😔😔
Boy, I'm watched this and..is this why guys I have no interest in keep chasing me? No, I'm not playing hard to get. I genuinely have no interest in you. 🤷
If myself& significant other broke up.....I would never, ever date again....I am so glad he took my out of the dating pool 11+ years ago....It's too jarring&exhausting!!! Men really , really suck sometimes!!
Hie Ryan i just wanna ask you something should a girl ask his man that he had sex with anyone before....???? Please i need your help waiting for your reply please
So me and this guy I’m interested it started off by hooking up at a party the first day we met, and have just kept on hooking up after that. We also talk a lot and hang out sometimes, but taking sex off the table now is kind of difficult. So how do I know if he sees me as something serious or just some causal hookup?
Do you go out in public, like to a movie or dinner? Does he talk about his feelings with you or other very personal stuff? Have you met his friends or family members? If the answer is no, then no it's not serious. If the answer is yes, it still might not be serious but at least you'd know he has some feelings of friendship and affection. For some people that can lead to love but it doesn't always. If the answer to those previous questions was yes, ask if he'd be open to seeing if this could develop into a relationship. If he says he's not looking for a relationship "right now" that's just a polite way of saying no, he doesn't see you as serious girlfriend material.
As a man I'm here to gauge what advice is given to women in the dating world. You should know not as a man but as a human being that ghosting someone isn't healthy for either party. Although I know those aren't your intentions. Things can get misinterpreted and taken that way with such a broad audience
Seems like this happens with guy friends as well.. Gottasay, if I have time I genuely will tell it, and if I'm busy I'll tell that + if I'm able to make time for them. But maybe this is just me being an introvert with quality time as a huge love language, plus my clueless ass doesn't have the programs to navigate these things :'DD
You see I don't get this. If you meet someone who think is awesome, interesting and super attractive, why the hell would you want them to be busy!! I strongly believe if a guy thinks a girl is too "available", he just was never into her. If I find a guy too needy, it is because I was trying to force myself to like him in the first place. If I'm super into a guy, I want him to be super available. Everyone has a life but if they are prioritizing you, that's what you want!!
I'm not sure it's a good idea to say to a man you don't want sex before you are in a relationship. Just say ''I want to wait'' and then wait. Because if you do sleep with him sooner than you intended to initially, this way he is less likely to think that you are now head over heels for him, which, lets face it you are, but he doesn't need to know it for sure. I have never known one woman who could resist sex before commitment, if I had...
@@adday. but that’s Europe not in the States ... We are told to keep our legs closed and our eyes open. This is how we weed out the guys who just want sex.
It's OK if it's crossed and you want to slow things down again. You just don't want to keep sleeping with him consistently after that. I think you're playing it right 🙂
@@datingcoachryanpatrick I messed up. He made it clear he doesn't want relationship and I have feelings so I broke it off with him-twice. He won't stop pestering me to go out/hang out-he "misses me" I don't understand him at all.
I Had a ‘ one night stand ‘ with someone then we were messaging afterward, slowly developed feelings towards him & ended up with him for a year & a half! I broke up with him
OK sir new follower you’ve been popping up on my newsfeed I’m a give you a shot! Seems like you have a lot of great information to help ladies like I myself out.
