THINGS I GOT RID OF TO HELP ME FEEL MORE FEMININE 

1. Lack of color 2. Gym membership 3. Birth control pills 4. Guilt around paying for things related to beauty and wellness 5. Habit of constantly consuming content Great video! Instantly subscribed. :)

It’s so hard to be feminine in a world where we are told being feminine isn’t ok. Thank you for sharing this!!!!!

For me it was letting go of the feeling of guilt whenever someone spent their money on me. I’m the daughter of a single mother so I was hyper conscious of every cent that my mother spent on me and what it represented to her economy. I have spent most of my life feeling like an economic load. Also, I’m 22 years old and my generation (Gen Z) has almost killed chivalry and generous masculinity. I used to never have fun when dating people because I was too worried about being “cool” and not “a traditional up-tight girl who expected the guy to pay the check”. Letting go of that was so good for me. I had a hard time finding someone my age who was willing to adapt to this expectations that I have from a man even at this time in history when I, as a woman, am expected to be as worn out by life as any man and therefore, unable to enjoy it. Fortunately, even though stating your limits, desires and needs requieres sacrifice, it payed off and today, my boyfriend understands that femininity and beauty are important to me and supports it. He even feels better about himself when he does something masculine for me. I’m very lucky because this is really scarce within my age range. Before, I was completely unable to receive any kind of gift because I felt unworthy of it or forced to give back something in return. Now I receive with open arms and just give back gratitude. I feel so much better.

I recently introduced more colors into my wardrobe, even a few feminine patterned pieces (like flowers and polka dots) and I couldn’t believe how much more feminine I felt! I, too, got very minimal with my wardrobe with lots of grays, blacks, and navy. While I love and appreciate everything that experience taught me, I’m so much happier with having a more colorful wardrobe that let’s be feel girly and cute.

To feel more feminine, I am letting go of unhealthy expressions of competition against other women. Loved this video and resonated with so much of what you said, thank you!

I remember trying to let go of awkward feelings when embracing femininity in front of family/long term friends, especially transitioning from teenage into womanhood

you know weight lifting/strengthening is actually good for your bone strength. as you’re getting older, you will be more prone to osteoporosis which could lead to fractures (the older you get, the more prone you are to falls, thus more prone to fractures. So think about that.

I had the same issue with minimizing my wardrobe and making everything match by keeping things neutral. Ugh, so boring. I've added my favorite colors back and am much happier!

Femininity is an interesting topic for me. I've been aware for a long time now that I have feminine and masculine traits as well (as all of us do). What worked for me is just to embrace them both. Sometimes it's dresses with elaborate sleeves, sometimes it's Oxford shoes with trousers and vests. Sometimes my logical self analyses and breaks down the world around me, and sometimes my intuition takes over and leads me to explore new things. And sometimes I wonder what makes a trait feminine or masculine, and subjectively, I only label things as such (solely for myself, not prescribing it for others) when they make me feel so. So I think as long as one does what makes them feel like themselves, they are on the right track.

I canceled my gym membership too! Such a good suggestion. It also makes me feel so happy to go running in nature, roller skating and I love horseback riding :) Great tips ! It’s so important to help workouts playful 😍

I find this so interesting! I was depressed for a long time, and I recently noticed how my colour pallette has changed since I am no longer unhappy. I am no longer hiding my feminity behind a masculinised version of feminity. I LOVE pastels and frilly dresses and I wear them everyday! I enjoy curling in my hair in the morning! I enjoy putting on make up and my need for attention and affection from my partner isn't troublesome or needy. I deserve to be loved! And I drop that when I am starting to feel down. So now that's my first sign, when there is something wrong. At the end you talked about disconnecting from constant consumption and at the beginning of this year I went on a walk everyday 30-60 minutes. I have been wanting to put that back into my routine, because I have felt myself partially slipping back into my masculine. So I will try and bring that back into my daily schedule! When you mentioned Pilates and going to the gym, something clicked for me. I used to do Pilates but swapped it for going to the gym, and before a knee injury I would be hitting the gym 4 to 6 times a week. Always looking at the guys trying to compete with what they could do. I haven't got a gym membership at the moment because of a move, but was thinking about getting a new one. Now I am thinking, I'd rather sign up for Pilates classes. I don't need to compete, I don't need to prove myself through the amount I can push, pull or lift.... I'd rather relax while working out, stretch and align with my body and self. Thank you! I really enjoy and profit from your content! 💕

I love lifting and I love how strong and capable my body is after 3 years of just doing it a couple times a week. It's helped me really understand the value of sticking to your goals even if you can only give 5% to them. My husband and I have a home gym and we workout together as a way to connect; he is quite athletic and is basically my personal trainer. I always struggled with getting myself to the gym. I much prefer just incorporating more general physical activity into my lifestyle, like walking the dog or biking around my neighborhood. Hiking, camping, kayaking, yoga, etc. I do what feels good in the moment and the results have been way more effective and long-lasting than when I was trying to make myself to to the gym.

Fasting from information is something my intuition has been telling me to do. So glad to have that confirmed.

So many of these resonate with my own femininity journey! I didn’t even realize it until this video but one of the first things I ever started doing that helped me reconnect with my femininity was to decorate my room and make beautiful spaces. I’d rearrange my room every season (sometimes more) and make my space as inviting as possible. Creating beauty in spaces and with your style is so underrated.

Omg yes all of this !!! Especially about the birth control and embracing your cycle. I worked in womens health (a “feminist” center) and the message we gave women in that environment was so disempowering and anti-feminist. It disgusted me.

I went through the monochromatic capsule wardrobe phase and STILL had nothing to wear. After realizing jewel tones are my favorite and colors I look best in, I brought them into my wardrobe and I’ve never loved it more! I also realized I hate wearing black, grey and white…. So those items are gone. You taught me being feminine means embracing the flow of how you feel. I could never stick with a regimented workout routine and hated myself for it. I thought I was so lazy because of it. Now I do daily walks, sometimes runs if I feel like it, and daily stretching and meditation. I’ve lost 5 lbs in a month using my feelings as a guide rather than a strict schedule. THANK YOU!

Love the last part about consuming content. You’re so right. It takes away from your own feelings and has you second guessing yourself

When I tried BC pills back in my early twenties, I had such a bad experience that I said I would never take any form of BC ever again. Something about being all natural in that area makes me feel so womanly and definitely keeps me feeling feminine! These videos are really great. Im glad I found your channel! ❤️

Content consumption. This was me. I was over self improvement and I just wanted to give up. Turns out, that was the perfect thing to do. Because I Am. When the time comes to learn again, I trust I’ll know.

Getting off birth control and exercising a few days a week was the best thing I ever did for myself. In about 6 months my hormones began to stabilize and I had way more energy, I lost a few pounds, and was sleeping a lot better, and still am!

Birth control also lets women pick the man they’d never pick.. appreciate you sharing your story. I got off them a long time ago.

I've always been a masculine energy/character gril. But in the last 6-7 years I've really gotten in touch with my femininity. And even though I reside in my masculine state, embracing certain feminine traits/actions have worked wonders for my overall mental and physical state. I now feel so much more harmony in me and more complete as a person.

Well said, and a timely reminder to be centered and confident in my feminine, a difficult thing in this masculine-dominated world. You're so right about too much content putting us too into the masculine and thinking. It's one of the things I'm trying to reduce. This one was worth it. Thank you!💖

The part of the video about birth control pills is so true! I was on the pill for four years. I was concerned about being a natural woman and the pill suppresses ovulation. What’s more feminine than ovulation? I didn’t realize the subtlety until you explained it. So, thank you!

i have also stopped my birth control pill with the New Year, i try to learn my body, celebrate it, respect it, being in a dance with it. Also I am in process of writing a book for girls 12+, how to embrace femininity. It's a beautiful year, I am witnessing so many powerful positive changes, especially in women's lives. I bet you ladies can see it too. Lots of love!

What I did to work on my femininity: 1. Romanticize daily living 2. STOPPED CURSING!!!! 3. Got rid of blacks, greys and blues (I don’t really like blue) 4. Got rid of jeans (they just made me feel very masculine for some reason). I now have one pleated, high waisted trousers in olive green and one high waisted shorts in the same color made of very soft yet flattering fabric. 5. Introduced floral patterns into my wardrobe. 6. Midi skirts 7. Midi dresses 8. Soft cardigans (no more hoodies and sweat jackets) 9. Feminine thong sandals vs my old Birkenstocks. **1 and 2 were the most effective steps for my journey. It helped me be less negative about my life.

So grateful you’re promoting getting back in touch with one’s soul ! This has been on my heart to remind others about, too, and I get so excited when I see others do the same! ~ Thank you, for BEing you & doing what you do!

I love your approach to femininity! It’s so down to earth and you incorporate so many other values that I share as well (sustainability, caring for the earth, self-confidence and being authentic to ourselves through this feminine journey, etc)💛🤩

The perspective on birth control was pretty interesting. As a man just observing, I think that a lot of women actually resent their bodies because of their natural cycles. It's a rather insidious, subconscious belief to fall into, and it's honestly quite sad. I'm glad that your experience has led you into a different understanding.

#2 really shocked me. I mean, it really made me question if I am moving my body in a way that actually resonates with me.

A couple of things are opposite for me!! One of them is the gym, but I choose the things I love! We have an amazing yoga program, hot tubs, saunas, steam rooms, etc. I do also enjoy lifting, but I listen to my body when needed. Another one that’s opposite for me was getting off of birth control. It was extremely hard on my body and made me miserable and I gained a ton of weight. There are some forms of hormonal birth control that also make me miserable, but when I am on the right one, it helps make me feel my best self. I felt so pressured to get off of it, and even felt guilty going back on, but ultimately I decided it’s what’s best for me right now!!

It's weird because, I used to think a lot of these things were just part of my personality but after watching a few of your videos, I'm realizing it's actually that my growth into a woman has been stunted because of my experiences when I was younger! It's like you are describing me to a tee! Thank you x 10000 for this content and opening my eyes to it!

Thanks Jill! I just bought that book now and can’t wait to read it!

Its nice that you notice that about your BC! It really is different for everyone, my experience was the opposite, I had hormonal problems so my natural cycle and hormones were going towards the masculine side so despite me trying so hard to embrace my femininity, i keep failing because of hormones. When I went on the pill, its when I started seeing things in a different perspective, more in a womanly way and it felt good! I'm starting again on my femininity journey and found you. I love your content and it helped bring out so much of what I didn't notice before and I'm always excited to hear more from you. Xoxo

I can definitely relate to your point about birth control. I was on it for six years and once I got off I felt like my femininity really awakened and I became a totally different person and I’m so much happier. My depression and anxiety has improved so much. For anyone curious, my husband and I use NFP to plan and avoid pregnancy. Methods like the Creighton method and Marquette method are 99% effective when used properly just like birth control!

Adding more color into my wardrobe has definitely helped me get in touch with my femininity.

I’m planning on getting rid of my worn out or frumpy clothes- like today. I have a hard time getting rid of clothes until they’re completely ruined because of a limited budget and mindset- but every time I open my drawers I have to dig and dig to find anything I want to wear. I also added bright colors in recently, and am so excited about them!

You’re videos are so good! My ex used to make me feel guilty about how much I spend on my personal beauty care but it makes me feel so good about myself to be taken care of and to look my best. Spa days are the best therapy 🥰 ps the Brazilian blowout has changed my life highly recommended

Thank you!! You have taught me so much in a non condescending way. I truly feel taken care of with your advice ❤️

Good girl for getting off the pill 👏 I sleep with my blinds open, and over time, my cycles started to coincide with the moon's cycles.

This totally speaks to me! I’m starting to revive my bland wardrobe with jewel tones recently. Somehow my wardrobe became boring and androgynous. Also on the gym membership thing… I’m done with my life feeling like a list of lonely isolated chores. I’d rather ride horses with my girl friends, hit a yoga class to be social or take my daughter outside to take walks and play. I kicked the birth control 20 years ago. Grateful to be connected with my body and my hormone health. I think it is great you are talking on this.

I love your vibe. I have been doing things to take care/self care of myself and I feel so much more happy and at ease. Thank you for being a beautiful soul.

I love how confident you are in front of the camera!! I’ve just started my channel and I’m trying to improve on my speaking and editing🥺

I agree totally about consuming information. I realized that I was always tied in to other peoples thoughts and opinions. I’m very intelligent but I feel that social media is “us against them” mentality. When I quit being “ plugged in “through out the day, I was more calm, more at peace, had more objectivity. I now listen to 1-2 you tube videos a day and my phone goes airplane mode before dinner for the rest of the evening. Ahhh😇

Getting off of birth control (the pill, then IUD) and switching to Natural Family Planning was a game changer for me. I highly recommend it!

Loved this video, especially number 4 & 5! I would love if you could talk more about unneccessary feelings of guilt in general, I feel like through this idea of being "guilty" of something or not deserving something so much joy and playfulness gets lost. Also, thanks a lot for adding timestamps again!

I took birth control when I was young but I remember it negatively changing my emotions. I just didn’t like how I felt on it,so I stoped, I’m grateful I new myself and did what I thought was right not what “you should do”

This is the best femininity content I have come across! I agree with you on everything, especially the pill/contraceptives. For me the coil was the worst one even though it’s not hormonal. It’s so beautiful to be in touch with your natural cycle and natural hormones

the last one!! i never knew how to explain to others why i don't have any social media besides yt but now i get it, it makes me consume, see and compare my life less. i feel everything much more and i'm in my "essence" when i'm focusing on my life only. things are more meaningful to me. ahh thank uu! 💝

The last concept is really great. Will try to put it on practice.

I just feel so good just just hearing you speak. So calming and in touch with the feminine energy. Your videos have helped me achieve peace and flow in my life and also to take some important decisions 😊❤

Thank you so much for this content. I used to love wearing Men’s perfumes because I felt they were less enchanting and lasted longer but ever since I started the journey of recalling back my feminity, I no longer use Men’s perfumes and I love feminine scents so much now. My wardrobe now looks too boring to me as I have few colors in it.

I got divorced 3 years ago and recently someone who hadn’t seen me since before I got divorced commented that I dress so much cuter now than I used to. I wasn’t all black and grey before but my clothes were very plain. Solid tops, black pants or plain jeans, barely any dresses, plain ballet flats. Now my clothes are so much more “me”. I never even realized that when I was married I was so unhappy and I was burying my personality to the point where even my clothes weren’t what I liked.

I love this video. Thank you. I've been getting rid of almost all my black and gray clothing from the last couple years and replacing with pinks and other pretty colors. Feeling so much more myself in these pretty colors. Subscribed.

Jillz! I can totally relate to the having a dull toned wardrobe! I was the same way, but I never thought that adding even more brightness could tap me deeper into my feminine. I’m so excited to get some brighter colored threads! Also, I love the tip on beauty care - facials here I come! ❤️

Im also the same with colors in my wardrobe as well as consuming too much content- sometimes I sign up to watch everything and anything in the fear of missing out and I do lose touch with my own inner voice as you said. Great video

That birth control one!!! Omg, I started thinking it was effecting my personality in the most negative ways. My husband never wanted me on it to begin with, but I got an iud after our second child. It's been 15 years of having it, and when I told doctors I think it may be the problem with my mental health, they laughed. Finally took it out this year, and suddenly I'm thinking of who I was before, how I've become more "masculine" in my approach to everything, going back to feminity, etc. You are so right!!! I'm glad I finally to listened to my husband and removed it.

I agree with everything but especially about content consumption. In the morning, while drinking my coffee, I stay off the phone and just zone out and meditate/pray and let my mind free to think about whatever comes across. I love learning and consuming more knowledge, but there is a cutoff where it can get to be too much sometimes. I believe too much can be over stimulating and information overload. I have noticed this causes a strain on my energy level and mental stability. I also love the idea about water, it IS so relaxing and I do end my day with a hot shower to “wash the day off” and to relax and step back into my true self. ❤

This video was very helpful and reminded me of the confidence I know I’m capable of having. Much love!

I really liked the insight you made between the pill and masculinity

🤯🤯🤯 never thought that consuming content can put me into a thinking mode and take me away from feeling feminine, makes sense!!

Amazing video! Soo happy I found your channel. I’ve watched countless videos about femininity the last month and I learned a lot of valuable things however your list is very obtainable and specific and more modernized than what I’ve seen. Thanks for taking the time to create this content ❤️

This was the best video ever…. This was a great one to make. The last point was the most important and really hit home… that makes so much sense… you can’t listen to you’re own inner voice if you are constantly hearing others

I love your video. It resonates wirh me a lot. Firt time here and subscribed. Much love from Brazil 🇧🇷

it is so me! loved hearing your story, thanks for sharing.

I have quit the pill yesterday, I am so excited to see changes and change in my way of feeling and living and connecting back to myself

I absolutely love the gym and feel that's definitely important that we all find spaces to exercise in that make us feel good be that inside the gym or out of it. With a lot of social media posts based around gym settings I do feel like a lot of woman may feel pressured to go but you really do need to do what its your preferred method. I can fully admit that I am addicted to consuming content so I'm really pleased you touched on this. I need to put more into listening to me and taking time to implement all the good things I have got from content - however, I'm glad I made time to listen to this from you, thank you :)

This is such a wholesome and healing video, thank you for sharing

I love this. All the points are so true in my experience as well! I fully agree.

Dear Jillz, I feel so at home with your content. Finally. Thanks so much. ❤

I recently found ur channel and i'm really glad I did, your videos are so helpful and calming to watch,btw you are so beautiful😻

So helpful about not consuming too much content!

I enjoy watching a few fem videos since it's been a long time. Never stop learning, it's good to have a reminder to be soft and calm. I never used birth control, so I don't know about the consequences. I do know that casting out demons every day has changed my mood noticeably for the better. Oh yes fasting from the phone and tv is refreshing. My perspective on life had been negative for a long time because of the toxic people and things telling me how to think, but once I got in a freedom mindset while holding onto God at the same time I could as you said, be present.

First video of yours I have watched and seeing your Louise Hay proudly displayed makes me feel automatically connected to you 😊💋

Really great points you make about constantly consuming content, it being a very masculine mode of consciousness. I struggle a lot with that one. I just become like an information processor or something. But that part of me seems restless, always needing to be filled. It is based on rationality and needing to control, with an underlying restlessness. Fortunately, i am learning to be patient, grateful, and guided by intuition and my heart, rather than tyrannized by the discursive intellect.

These were unexpected but resonated so much!! You have a new subscriber

I love my gym membership for the amazing yoga and Zumba classes. And for the stream and sauna relaxation.

hey! eagerly waiting for your cycle syncing video for productivity and relationships :)

Brilliant! We keep hearing what to take in to be more feminine, but your simple list of what to get rid of is really powerful and valid! Thanks! The topic of how to increase our femininity and recognize some things that are more masculine is also important.

Absolutely beautiful video, many thanks 🙏 I agree with the colours. My favourites are usually grey, navy, white and black but I love to throw a splash of bright magenta or calming turquoise into it regularly.

I thought there was something wrong with me not liking weight lifting 😳 like everyone seems to be into it but I always felt like it wasn't aligning with my energy I'm so happy you shared your thoughts on movement ❤️

This are very, very good advices. I pass for something similar and conect with feminity has made my life easier and I enjoy it a lot more 💖🌺

I like the suggestion to quick taking in so much content!

I love your chanel! You exude feminine energy. Thank you so much for sharing all these tips. Can't wait to watch the rest of your videos :)

This was absolutely needed, thank you so much

I love all of these tips! I agree about the birth control. I would definitely suggest women reading the book you recommended if they are currently on birth control. I didn't realize until my mid 30s just how much our hormones affect our bodies.

Great video! I had almost the same experiences and insights on my feminine journey

Hi I am new to your channel. The best thing I did was get off the mirena. I was on it for almost 10 years and notice it made me more irritable, angry and mean. I also notice I was uncomfortable in my own body I had put 30 lbs on and I did not feel like myself. I was over eating, very moody, and I had constant crying break downs, brain fog alot, and could not keep a sentence going, and my acne was bad it was painful. Within a month I notice a lot of my side effects went away. My brain was more clear, I could focus, I started getting my drive back and notice that I am taking more pride in my skin clearing up.

I enjoy how practical and helpful this way!

i know she's not saying this exactly, but i feel like it's important to reiterate. this is a very strong reminder that *your birth control does not make you any less feminine or any less of a woman if it is the healthcare you need or desire.* birth control can be and is life saving health care.

Thank you for your videos! Would like to see a video on your all natural skin care products and makeup ;)

Loved this video overall. I'm actually on birth control for health reasons and I find my current birth control actually makes me feel more feminine than other birth control I've tried. It really depends on the person, I guess! :) (I have endometriosis, and my birth control helps ease the pain and bleeding I get from it when I get my period and stuff.) But adding color, moving in a fun way... Those sound like great methods! I'm going to watch more of your content to see how I feel, but so far, I like you a lot!

This video made me feel so much better about the choices Ive been making! I’m on the right track. I love all of your videos. 😊 I deactivated my instagram and facebook 2 weeks ago to work on my personal growth and tap into my feminine energy - recharge and realign myself after being at a corporate job for a few months (quit 3 weeks ago). so thank you for your videos Jillz! You’ve become a friend in my head 💗

I'm so grateful for all your insights ❤

*Things l got rid of to help me feel more femenine* 1 l bought coloulful clothes 2 l don't like the gym 3 I stopped taking birth control pills that make you lose touch with bodily functions 4 l stopped feeling guilty for using my own money 5 l stopped living in the real world GREAT LIST KEEP IT UP👍

Refreshingly honest and helpful. Thank you for this. Different to the rest. X

Love this video! Thanks for sharing your experiences.

Love it! I could never get rid of my gym membership though 🤪❤️

Great video. I basically got rid of the same things 😊😊 I was wearing almost black for the very same reasons as you, glad to know I'm not the only one that really wanted genuinely not to be seen and attention 🤗 I also was 6 years on birth control pills because of health issues but I got rid of them 1 year ago and I'm so happy about that, I don't regret either but didn't like the way it made me feel. I really felt this video, I felt like someone's literally describing me ♥️ Thank you for sharing this 🙏

I'm soooo glad you brought up birth control pills. I'm currently on the implant (will be removing it this week - thank goodness), and I share the exact same sentiments as you in terms of how it changes you as a person. It's been a while since I felt lively, adventurous and ambitious. Instead, I've been feeling the complete opposite. So it'll be interesting to see how things turn out after the removal. Thanks so much for this video Jillz. I truly appreciate it 🙏🏾 🦋💖 🇿🇦