how to radiate feminine energy - do nothing 

"If a men wants an angel he should create heaven for her" that quote changed the way I viewed dating.

It's so sad that other women today find femininity offensive and sexist when really it's beautiful and powerful.

"that is not my task" is my new favourite affirmation now I guess😅

Real life example of this in my life is my aunt. Girlie does NOTHING. Like, i don't think she ever work for even once in her life. She's 54 now but i swear she still pass as someone in her 30s! Her daily activities are pilates, cooking whatever she likes, shopping, and picnic with her husband. She's the embodiment of unbothered and being very secure in herself. Love that for her fr♡

- she is at peace so she brings peace to others -mind your own business - being in your feminine is less about doing and more about being.

As a woman, I feel this about other women! I see them and I go “wow, women bring so much grandeur and peace and calm by just existing”. And it makes me embody my own femininity with so much more grace 💕✨

I will not 🫡. “Can you not?” is my favorite line lol

My grandmother totally has feminine energy. She has peace and brings it to others

I can't believe it! I'm 60 years old and this amazing young lady less than half my age just summed it up better than anyone I ever heard in my life! Wow! Damn you're brilliant! Lady, you're destined to be a great teacher, healer, psychologist, coach, whatever! Thanks for being you! ❤

It’s not good to be only feminine or only masculine as a man or a woman. We all have both of the energies inside and we just have to learn how and when to use it.

I think I need to hear this everyday! I'm naturally feminine and masculine guys like that about me. BUT when I fell for a guy, I fell harder. That made me chase him, keep proving myself that I'm perfect for him, giving him too much attention even though we haven't even met yet! Now that I realized completely what I did, I was being a total creep! Especially because he's attractive in a lot of ways so he's used to have girls obsessed with him. I don't wanna be one of them. He was attracted to me first but he ends up pulling away 😢 Now I'm taking a step back as well, being in ghost mode so I can fix my feminine energy first. It's not my task to fix him, it's not my task to mother him. If I'm feeling at peace with myself, I'll naturally radiate peaceful energy so people can be comfortable around me 😊

Yes you are so right about the drained feeling. When i was doing too much, i felt constantly exhausted. Doing less has freed me

I soooo needed this as Gen X who was raised by a demanding narc father n mother! I often was called “useless”, “good for nothing “, “a pain in the neck”, etc so I grew up thinking I needed to be useful and prove myself to everyone. Even after years of therapy and NC w them I still hear their voices disturbing my peace. You’re a treasure! I’m going to keep playing this vid till it sinks in. Thanks!❤❤❤❤

as a girl in a tech world, i got to where i am now because i embodied my masculine energy. i strangled my feminine energy because i had a lot of incorrect misogynistic feelings about women and also felt like i had to literally act and dress like a man for the people to take me seriously, this really resonated with me because im healing mentally and getting more comfortable with my feminine energy recently and now i feel so much more empowered as a woman thank you. i still don't know ifm completely okay with the idea that im enough just by being a woman, because in my field women have to work hard to get valued, but i see ur point and i think itll take time

My man allowed me to fully enter my feminine energy and now even at work, all the men do the work and all I can focus on myself, my well-being, and my schooling. Im an EMT so even all the heavy lifting, the men do it for me and I bring the peace and compassion to my patients. I literally had a partner tell me “you’re the ambulance princess” 😭💕 What I meant by this comment was the heavy lifting part of my job. We would get really really heavy patients, 300lbs and up. And I would get my partners (majority men) say that they’ll do the lifting for me. I didn’t sit there and tell them to do it but I see it was kinda taken the wrong way which is understandable. I of course was able to lift my patients up but I had the men offer it to me and didn’t want me to. Hope that clears it up some.

Each time I wear a dress everyone suddenly wants to be around me and help me ❤ I’m the same person with sporty clothes, but ladies dresses effin help a lot!

I think for me I achieved this by listening to inner child healing affirmations at night to heal my unconscious beliefs. Then, I continued to do inner work and level up each day. Finally, I decided I was responsible for my own happiness and chose to not place it in the hands of things outside of myself✨️🌱

Alright. Gotta break this down. Definitely agree with minding your own business and not having martyr syndrome. It does no favors. The only thing I don’t agree with is the receiving part that so many people try to peddle. I’ve been in relationships and gone on dates with men who are well off. Yes, they were cool with paying the tickets for the first rounds or so but it would eventually turn into “we can’t afford that. It’s too expensive.” Suddenly my lifestyle and tastes were determined by his budget and comfort zone. Not having that. Yes, I decided to become that bread winner because I’m not going to let someone else’s budget, laziness, or stinginess determine where I live or where I eat. These guys wouldn’t even wipe their own kids’ ass if they had any. It’s all a front. Except for my dad. He was a real provider, nurturer, masculine and feminine balance, but he’s a rare one. And would you believe it that these dudes were the ones who would police what I say, my tone, my dreams, and my ambition? If “female gender roles” were introduced, duties would be assigned to me or his mother. Heaven forbid they’d get off their asses to cook or clean. Heaven forbid they would have drive to accommodate the both of us. But it was me who was, like said in the video, expected to pick up the slack? After those upper class, pampered men revealed themselves to be princess, I changed my direction. I’m dating a broke dude for years. Does he pay my meals at fancy restaurants? My wardrobe? My car? No. But he cooks me dinner, cares for our son, changes my car tire when I have a flat, mows my lawn, landscapes my garden. Grows me food. Cleans my house. I went into IT. He says, “go for it, babe.” I want to become a lawyer. It’s going to take 3 years and a lot of loans. He said “let me get my CDL so I can support us.” Roles, economic situations, and actions are fluid. They’re based on circumstances and those change at a whim because a lot of our environment is beyond our control. I was born here, in a country that puts men on a pedestal. But that doesn’t mean I can’t find a man who has the willingness to see beyond it. And it definitely goes beyond who pays god your meals at dinner. Dating is a facade for the first 3 - 6 months, anyway.

Girl….you are wise beyond your years. I’m 35 and I’m learning so much from you, you confirm a lot of what I thought I knew.

This goes hand in hand with people not necessarily truly liking you because you're a people pleaser. People like people who can say no because it can make the other person see you as an individual and are less likely to take advantage of you.

i just love being feminine. i used to try so hard to be tomboy when from like age 8-14ish but now for a while (couple years) ive been finding my peace in femininity.. i just love being in a unity with us women...girls for girls ⭐

“Get that bag” 💁🏻‍♀️😂 it’s so soothing to hear that women just need to *exist* around men. I used to always question my worth by asking myself “what am I bringing to a relationship if I don’t have a job and don’t earn money, why would he then be with me?” But these two have absolutely nothing in common 😅

I’m glad I bumped into this video. Because funnily enough, yesterday I was just thinking about how I’ve been more connected to my masculine energy throughout my late teens, all my 20s and early 30s… and how I ended up being truly exhausted. I’ve reached a point where I just can’t continue living like this anymore; so I recently decided, around my 37th birthday, to embrace more and more my femininity, and now I can feel how my peace is coming back to my mind. Thank you 💕

Thank you so much love. I really needed to hear this. As a woman who’s constantly been trying to prove to others for them to “like me” - it has ruined me, and people take advantage of me. I will try to focus on understanding that I don’t need to do anything other than my tasks. I am enough by simply existing. And if it’s not for me - then I don’t need it.

Hey bestie! Nice to see a different take on femininity, I'm so glad to see a definition that actually feels real and relatable

Feminine energy and masculine energy is meant to be embodied by both men and women it’s just a matter of finding harmony between those two in my opinion🫶🏻

when u were reading out the quote from the book "|Courage to be Disliked" it kinda reminded me of something Lord Krishna says which is if you embody another person's life you'll always be stressed because you will never be good at it, once you start embodying yourself you'll discover how amazing you are and essentially be a peace !

I think everyone has to understand their makeup of feminine and masculine energies and accept that it can change as they grow. There are some women who would suffocate in a life like this and there are some women who came into this world as dainty beings. But you’re right everyone has inherent worth and their own blend of feminine and masculine

You really healed within me the always “striving to achieve “, always stressed in case i was not productive even for just an hour during the day. Thank you so much !!!! 🙏🙏 we all need this. We all need to hear that just by existing we have immense value

Bestie, thanks for posting this, it really hits home! I love how you have broken this down and explained this to us. I too am guilty of trying to prove myself and overextended myself to the brink of extinction of self in the past. It was exhausting. I love that you are spreading this message to women, you are truly an inspiration not only to myself but to many other women who need to hear this. I too am on a mission to help others know their worth because in this patriarchal society it is not something that has been imparted to us. Ladies, be the feminine Goddesses that you are and don’t let anyone dim your light!

Yes, we must know our worth to move in this way. Mantra of the day: I deserve good things. ❤

Wow this was a beautiful video Elle! I've been taking it SUPER easy these last few months (reading, creating art, feeding my mind and body intentionally) and I also started reading Courage to Be Disliked recently! This was timed perfectly for where I'm at in life 💗

Thank you for creating this video. I’m going through a major change of accepting my nurturing creative messy chaotic and most authentic feminine self ❤

I just literally said, “thank you, Elle”, when this video ended like you could hear me!! Lol!! Love you & another one knocked out of the park!! 💓💓

Hey Elle, what about proving things to yourself? Like, doing big things while embracing the art of being because you know you have limitless potential and well, you just wanna prove yourself you CAN reach those big dreams?😁

I’ve been taking steps to be healthy after a traumatizing relationship. He did everything to make me feel worthless and now I’m trying to get over trying to PROVE my worth. This video is amazing.

I needed to hear it ! I’m always anxious to do more to fit in & being amazing so that people will like me more. Overthinking gets the best of me. But doing nothing & being silent is so relaxing to me.

Wish I would have had a friend like you, telling me this in my teens. Would have been of great help. Hope every girl hear this soon enough

Love this, I feel like the message is hard to hear like someone is shouting at me, when in reality I still have a long way to go on healing my feminine energy. This was great inspiration to keep working at it.

I've just discovered your channel yesterday and I can't express how happy and lucky I feel to listen to your wise words ♡♡

Nah your energy is something youtube was missing for the girlies, you are straight to the point, honest, but still caring and real. So glad I found you and your fantastic content bb wishing you the best

Thank you so much for this channel. I've done all the things to de-center romance from my life, and your work is really helping me to contemplate how I might reintroduce it, and maintain my priorities attitudinally and behaviorally. Also immensely helpful in recovering from a depression. I watch you daily and you're a part of my support team. Thank you with all sincerity.

Thank you so much!! You are helping so many women like me reclaim our power and healing our feminine wounds

my mom called me useless because of my femininity... I use to struggle with my worth because of not having material things only due to other negative thoughts that eventually instilled in me but I'm back confident now and watch these videos to keep it up thanks ❤❤❤❤❤❤

I needed to hear the line “embrace your chaos”. Thank you for saying that.

You are explaining things to us with such ease. You actually give us therapeutic advices. Like after months of therapy, the baseline of all was for me to understand, others happiness and others decisions were not my responsibility and I should not have burdened myself with other people's tasks. And here you are, saying exactly the same. You are so cool!

Oh my God, this is life changing. I've been so caught up in drama (other people's drama) that I forgot myself. Mantra rn is "that is not my task". Thank you so much bestie. Subscribed!

At the end of the day: don’t overthink anything that you do or say. Trying to emulate something or someone that feels inauthentic to you will show and that alone hinders your blessings and the right people from coming to you. As simple as it seems yet arduous as it is, love who you are and who you want to be! 🫶🩷

“that is not my task” reminds me of a short story i read in highschool abt a guy named bartleby. he would always say “i prefer not to” !

You're such a blessing to me. Getting that bag and thank you bestie.

I love how you kept calling me bestie while whipping me into shape 😂 Thank you ❤

Thank you so so much for this video! You just earned a subscriber. This is so true, what belongs to you will simply find you, and also if you feel like you have to put any effort with a man for him to consider you or love you, just move on, he's not the one. Idk if this will help anybody, but women shouldn't be the ones that are chasing. If you're worried about love, don't do anything, your soulmate will come into ur life and court you without doing anything. Don't chase, don't flirt first.

Thank you for these points ! 😊 I find that DANCE is the best way to ACTIVATE the mind-body connection and harness our internal feminine energy (Diva energy) for me and most of my students!

Hugs, sister ❤ This is my first time viewing a video from this channel and this message couldn't have come at a better time. Being raised in an orthodox South Indian family and taught to be meek, helpful, and supportive at any cost (coz self sacrifice and compromise is equated with thr degree of love), it's taken me a very long time to realize my worth.

Thanks bestie ❤

i LOVE your content, this needs to reach as many people as possible!!! YOU'RE SUCH A QUEEN

I felt like I was having conversation with my bestie. Thank you for making it casual and easy to understand.

your words got me for sure, im the middle daughter in my family and as more im busy as more everyone is resting , everyone depending on me to do things , espacialy my father , im just so pressed and on pressure everyday because everyone wants me to do things and no one do the same . i'll start to make them know how much im tired and i need to rest . pray for me yall 🤍

i wanna have a soft life, but only provided by myself, you can never trust a man, they'll leave you as soon as you age a bit

Thank you for doing this video, it's like an alarm that's awakening me from my feminine energy. This video means a lot😊

Ma'am you are bringing us to the sea and helping us cross like a whole She-Moeses! The content is giving EVERYTHING.

I love this! Thank you so much bestie for this video!

Omg ! ❤Thank you for spelling it out! This is what I’ve been feeling for years but not all being able to put my finger on it. I’m going to just be from now on 🙌🏻❤️🤗

I just discovered your channel and already got soo much value from your videos. Love u!

You are so right, we have been raised to be career women so everyone can depend on us and now my hubby depends on me too much. I feel to my core that this isnt the right way and trying to find my feminine energy, which I never had in my life. So it’s extra difficult, but videos like this help, so thanks

This video just really put me to ease. "That's not my task" 😌😌

Thank you for embodying this! Re-learning the value of authentic femininity

Thank you so much for making this video!! You just remind me that we are enough. In the past few years, I felt like I was not enough, not worthy. bcoz I thought I wasn't smart/pretty/good enough. So I become less confident and sometime I trynna prove myself that I won't be your burden by paying my own bills, going home by myself etc. I lost part of my femininity along my journey. Thank you, now I am starting to stand on my ground. we are enough, this is not our fault.

i feel this sudden calmness after listening to your insights on femininity. Thank you ❤

i really do understand this and your advice is amazing but my mum is a provider for my family and she exudes so much feminine energy and grace. her signature perfumes , lipsticks, dresses, she is effortlessly femenine . so in that way i think your take on gender roles is slightly wrong, i want to work and strive for what i want just like my mother, even if the task of providing falls on to me and my husband or wife does not provide- at least i have a loving partner who i also truly love regardless of money. i can be femenine as well and that's ok. nowadays, i think a lot of men feel pressure as well to provide, and for me the bare minimus is to be respectful to everyone and be in tune and be allowed to express their emotions.

I needed to hear that. I really did. Thank you ❤

my most favorite video of you so far 🥺🥺

sad how one of my classmates said "men are going to cheat we should just try hard and forgive them" like no girl. just no.

This video is so empowering that I cannot wait for the next video!!! thank u so much sissss 💗 i am so blessed that your channel reached me in this huge internet world 💗

I need to listen to all your videos on repeat everyday till it sinks in.

Just found your content and I am obsessed

Would you say being a high-achiever and wanting to earn a lot of money can coexist with this feminine way of “being?” I have strong ambitions because money is power, and it’s like self protection. But idk if I can get carried away with these things

I love your videos, they come right on time! Thank you bestie! 💛

i went through a breakup yestreday and now im trying to improve myself and get into my feminine energy and your video really made me smile thank u for this

This is soooo good. Thanks for this!!!

I did not expect this to make me tears up, towards the end of the video... just like, shit, how much I've made myself try so hard all these past years. Thank you so much ❤️🦋

I was sure when I'd look down you'd be one of those youtubers with a million subs. Thanks, bestie. I've been an overachiever all my life like many of us, and somehow this just made me sit straighter like "yeah!" I might not know yet how to access the courage to not people-please but... the will is there. (Also you're right that is a fantastic book!)

i love you for this 🤍

I took notes and everything thank you so much it was so useful ❤️

Thank you bestie!! 🎉 can't wait until you blow up 🎉 ❤ keep shining ✨️

Girl, you preached with that catchphrase: “That is not my task.” I love it!

AHHH IM SO HAPPY TO HAVE FOUND YOU, MUCH LOVE FROM THE PHILIPPINES MWAAA

Omg I just found this video randomly and I already love you, subscribed!!! 🎉🎉🎉

I’ve always loved being in my feminine energy and I am so glad that now I am able to embody and be that soft confident energy. It wasn’t always like that for me as the women in my life have encouraged me to be in my masculine energy. It was tiring for me and I felt so suffocated. Now I can balance both energies and exist peacefully xx

The bare minimum task that a man need to be able to do is provide. 💯

This is such loving and powerful video. I'm so grateful to this advice. It popped up in the right moment in my life. Thank you 🙏

I truly appreciate your work and words ... I truly appreciate your boldness in stating what it actually is and thus in helping many of us understand it is possible, it is Doable ... Kindly continue your this work without boundaries... We need someone that speaks our guts .. Thank you do much for sharing the Core Truth which sits in many of us in corners as wishes ....

the moment you started talking about how women often get the short end of the stick when couples (and society too tbh) decide to abandon gender roles i subscribed INSTANTLY. we need more people who think like u. i’m sick of women being forced to be masculine

The Second Shift by Arlie Hochschild talks about the incompatibility in relationships when it comes to traditional/egalitarian models of relationships. It’s from the late 80s but I think still holds up in relation to what you said about ‘egalitarian’ relationships usually devolving into women doing everything. She finds, however, that rather than one model (trad vs transitional vs egalitarian) being better than the others, it comes down to both couples’ conscious perception of the relationship, actual behavior, and true desires being compatible. While the book focuses on the often unequal division of labor between heterosexual couples, the resentment and tension between couples did not necessarily come from the unequal or differences in labor/roles, but rather a clash of expectations. I understand there are a lot of women who do really to be the ‘feminine’ in a relationship and take on a more receptive role. However, I think it’s kind of reductive to dismiss the value of egalitarianism in other people’s relationships because you believe that men and women naturally have different roles. I totally respect that that’s the kind of relationship that feels right to you, and I also know there would be (and are) lots of miserable people in more ‘traditional’ relationships because the dynamic doesn’t fit what they really want for themselves. My two cents anyways, especially coming from a non-binary perspective.

Thank you Bestie I needed to hear this today❤

Wow! This was so simple and insightful at the same time. My eyes are just wide open. Thanks!

I deeply appreciate YOU for sharing this with us❤

This is just what I needed this morning, thanks bestie. As woman, our softness and presence is so valuable to a man in his healthy masculine energy. The masculine and feminine union is truly magical when you love yourself enough to let go! Thankyou xx

Aaaaah! I finally found your YT channel.😀 This made my day... Thanks for all the advice you give it's super helpful when you're finding yourself again Super appreciated.❤

This is the first video I’ve seen from you! I’ve now subscribed! Absolutely adore! “Can you not?” So good!