THINGS THEY DON'T TELL YOU| 1 YEAR HYSTERECTOMY UPDATE, SEX LIFE, MENTAL HEALTH , BLADDER ISSUES? 

I had a total hysterectomy 2021 due to cancer. Praise God I am now cancer free. Glad to be alive!

It's not easy being a woman. We should be appreciated even more. Be encouraged. Thanks for sharing 🙏.

Hey Shell, had a hysterectomy in 2015 due to fibroids. You articulated the pros and cons so well. I love not having a period but having these random personal summers are no joke.

I've been dealing with uterine fibroids for about 10 years and had my first surgery in 2016, now they're back and even more ferocious than before. The bleeding is frightening. I'm gripped with severe anxiety when I have to leave the house during my period, whether it's for work or an appointment. My entire calendar of life is dictated by my periods, and I'm dressed in full black wherever I go. Getting up from bed in the mornings during my periods is like a fire hydrant gushing water. I have an incontinence sheet by the bedside to catch bleeding gushing down the legs despite how many pads I go to sleep with. It's insane. I avoid eating during this time so I don't have to use the toilet, or to keep my bulging belly down; I've looked 3-4 months pregnant for years due to fibroids and it's changed my whole aesthetic and the way I dress, I'm so self-conscious now sadly. Second time around and the doctors won't do another myomectomy due to large size of fibroids and much tissue scarring. They say I'd be considered a high risk surgery. MY options are Embolisation or a hysterectomy. I'm desperate for a hysterectomy as I never ever want to bleed again. I'm due another scan this December 3, 2023 by which time I will have to say tell my doctor what route we are taking. I am so scared. I don't have kids nor do I want them, but this feels so final, yet I'm desperate to be healed. PLease pray for me.

This 53 yr old is in tears because 9 days post-op, and I thank you for understanding needing a hysterectomy balanced with the pain of infertility. Wont miss my horrible periods.

I just had my hysterectomy two weeks ago. I'm glad I found a black woman perspective. I have no children but I still feel like this is the best decision for me. I had to be on the pill to stop my period because of how unbearable it was. That in itself has a whole list of side effects and I decided enough was enough. I agree with you when you said take a chance on yourself and health. I hope to moving on to a better state of life. Thanks for your videos.

As I'm gearing up for a hysterectomy, I'm beyond grateful to have found your channel. Sharing & documenting your experience is such a blessing in my journey. Bless your strength & courage 🙏

I had a hysterectomy due to four baseball size Fibroids. I couldn't wait until that day came. I had surgery last year in April 13th of 2023! So much better no more mess!❤

It's not just you deary, I've been taking vitamin C, regained my bladder control ,I finally sleep threw The night;Vitamin C keeps your nutrients in tact.

I have endo and my doctor is almost certain I have adeno as well. My hysterectomy is 2 weeks from today. No kids unfortunately but I'm ready for a better quality of life. Thank you for sharing, I keeping hearing so many success stories and how women are feeling so much better.

As a (Nurse) Chelle seeing and also hearing different experiences after a full hysterectomy I get it and completely understand. Women truly go through so much and now dealing with my husband and his health scare smh, it’s a lot. Enjoyed your video ❤I know I’m late as always😊stay blessed 😇 boo!

I had mine in January of this year, best decision I’ve made. My quality of life has improved greatly

I watched your hysterectomy video before my surgery to get an idea of what to expect, now I'm 4 days post op from a total hysterectomy ( i kept my ovaries also). I had a 20-week uterus that weighed 3.4lbs. They had to open me up via my old c-section scar to remove it. I have noticed an increase in hot flashes but I read that its due to the interruption of blood flow to the ovaries.

It’s been 2 months going on 3 on the 23rd. I had Adenomyosis, one of the easiest surgeries I’ve had, barely any pain afterwards….yes and I agree with you on the urges to pee.

Shell, you are such a beautiful soul! 😊 Your openness & willingness to share your experience (in addition to all the hair care videos) is so refreshing! May God continue to bless you sis. 🙏🏽❤️

I had a hysterectomy on 9/11/23. After years of dealing with fibroids, I had a myomectomey in 1998. Thought I was fine. I tried to have a child (no children) and found out I had endometrial hyperplasia along with ademynosis. Nothing worked in terms of treatment, so I opted to do the total hysterectomy. My MD told me there was an abundance of scar tissue covering my fibroids, which were covering my cervix and uterus. I'm hoping and praying my health will improve after this.

Thank you for sharing your story. I had a cuff dehiscence, vaginal cellulitis and this spacing. I SWEAR I had every complication aside from death from the surgery! So thank you for sharing your story. Women DEFINITELY need to be celebrated for what their bodies go through! Stay BEAUTIFUL and strong!

Absolutely I deal with hot flashes also. It’s been 7 weeks for me. I love your channel. I love that you love the lord. God bless you and your entire family…

🙌🏽 thank you for sharing your experience 🌹 glad to hear that you have healed, and that you are feeling better🙏🏾💪🏾

I had a hysterectomy on April 26 due to four large fibroids in my uterus which caused me unbearable menstrual pain with heavy bleeding. My condition resulted me getting my uterus and fallopian tubes removed. I've recovered and I feel a lot better now than before.

I'm 8 weeks post op. This is how I originally found your channel so appreciate your update. I'm just starting to begin to feel like a new normal. I had to have the c section style surgery due how much needed to be removed so the recovery was longer than I anticipated. Over all I feel so much better and I'm thankful.

Honestly, with excruciating fibroids right now, I retain fluids so badly I actually go up a shoe size sometimes, so what is a con for some, will be a pro for me once I've had this surgery. The bloating is insane. I also understand the sadness you feel post surgery. Normal surgery comes with post surgical trauma, let alone "female surgery" which can make you feel incomplete as a woman. I felt this during my first fibroid surgery and it plunged me into some depression, but I will be prepared this second time around. I'm already going through pre-menopausal stage, I'm also experiencing pre-diabetic symptoms and mimicked alpha thalassemia symptoms which I never heard of until my doctor told me this from my repeated blood tests. Phew! So much going on!!!! It's been an extremely long road with doctors, but I persisted and wore them down to be taken seriously.

I have an enormous fibroid...about the size of a grapefruit. I've slowly started immense cramps before my period. The last month was the worst. I had been putting off getting a hysterectomy for so long although that was the only solution by my OBGYN. I am finally seeing a new DR soon and will see what their opinion is. I think this will be my only resolve but I am still so scared of the end result. Thank you for your videos. They do help me a lot!

So glad you're feeling better and the decision was the right one for you. GOD bless you. And thank GOD for good doctors. Yea lady issues are no joke.

4 days postop and I’m so glad I made this decision thanks for the updates I’m a new Subb and love your videos ❤

Thanks for sharing your story! I just went through a partial hysterectomy left with only my right ovary i have no kids but that's okay i went through anxiety and depression after hearing that was the only way to fix my problem i had a fibroid that was big as a baby arm protruding through my cervix i thought it was my uterus prolapsing but these fibroids are not it but on the 14th of February I had my partial hysterectomy and i feel so much better in such little time and I am mentally healing with my body and it was the best thing for me even though i cant have kids adoption will do just fine cause i put my health first its good to know that I am not the only one who had to go through this as a young woman ❤

When I think about all my stuff taken out of my body, it freaks me out but I had it done and then afterwards I read that your vagina can collapse and other organs can fall into where your other parts were taking out.

I was adopted and I worked for an adoption agency for 8 years. 😁

Another excellent video! I first found your channel when you posted your story regarding your surgery. Thanks for encouraging and enlightening your audience.

Thanks for sharing your story. I'm 40 and have endometriosis and adenomyosis. May I know if your doctor still put you on any HRT medication after the hysterectomy?

Did you have ovaries out to ? I 32 just has a full hysterectomy today and I can’t shake the hot flashes and nausea

Good video. Very scary. At least you already had your kids because some women didn't get to have kids. ❤

I’m scheduled Oct 11th, along with a tummy tuck.. never had kids though… I have fibroids… I had a myomectomy about 8 years ago and a ablation about 2 years ago.. well I have a fibroid the size of my uterus and another one on the outside of my uterus ☹️☹️… so with prayer and careful thought I have decided to move forward.. I can remember when I would stand up and on my cycle it would be coming down my leg so I’m praying for better days 🙏🏽🙏🏽

I’m about to go in, in a few weeks for a hysterectomy. I was diagnosed through surgery with endometriosis in ‘18 (had my tubes removed during that time too). I wasn’t afraid then because I always knew something wasn’t right. Now, I’m all over the place mentally (I’m ok without having kids. I’ve been severely let down/ have a huge distrust of medical staff).

It’s so concerning to me that so many black women have uterine issues, fibroid issues at such an alarming rate. What is going on? Something just ain’t right. This is an epidemic.

i would give 5 thumbs up if I could😊 personal question... did he say that sex felt different since your cervix was also removed? or just different in general? you don't have to answer if that's too personal...i just have so many questions before i get boarded for my total hyster (also leaving my ovaries)

I have to say you are soo awesome!!! How you open your self up to people u don't know and sharing your experiences 😊 that's why I continue to watch 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼✌🏼

You are incredibly brave. I pray that God keeps a HEDGE of protection around you and your wonderful family.

Thank you for your videos. It made me more comfortable with my decision. This is day 8 post-op for me, and there's no pain just a little discomfort. Sleeping on my back is overrated 😂. I'm walking and moving very well.

❤Thank you for the update. So glad the pain is gone for you. ❤ Thank you for being so transparent with us! Sending you big hugs and love with your gorgeous self!! Precious Lady Bug!!

Your videos have calmed my nerves for this surgery. Thank you for the update. I’m waiting for a date from the hospital to have an abdominal hysterectomy. 🙏🏽

with healthy eating my hot flashes don’t come as much. glad those days are long gone from my hysterectomy days 🦋🦋💐💐🌷🌷

Just had my procedure done a few weeks ago I’m already having night sweats. Thank you for the information my sister

I had mine done July 15th and recovery has been awful. I find myself crying alone. My mom visited us from NC to GA and she’s tending to the kids and hubby is at work which leaves me lonely. I’m mentally depressed bc I have no support in that area and I’m hurting. I hope my days become better bc I have genuinely been so sad. Even in the hospital I was neglected. I had not received bedside manner. I had to report my nurse due to her negligence. Just pray for me bc I’m so depressed and in pain

Thank for for sharing. I am having a partial hysterectomy February 2024 due fibroids. My cycle comes when ever which keeps me on edge. Heavy periods multiple pads. Listening to your story has really helped take the anxious feeling down a notch. Thank you ❤❤

Good to hear your success journey. So amazing how the body recovers. Thank you for sharing.

I’m grateful for my 3 as well and I do not want more. 3 c-sections later…18, 6, 10m is enough. I’m ready, ready to be done with sacrificing my mental and physical with additional pregnancies, 2 cycles a month sometimes, heavy bleeding, excessive pain…I’m looking at how much it could effect me with a positive lupus trait, I feel like the pros outweigh the cons. I’m grateful that my GYN is putting me through the necessary testing to verify that I am a candidate as opposed to just doing the tuba ligation and it making things worse! I’m actually looking forward to it, despite my mom and her Bible Belt thoughts and fears. My husband and mom will be supportive, I’m sure of it because they keep telling me to do what’s best for me🥰thank you so much for sharing your experience 🙌🏾

Thank you for sharing!! I’m 4 days post op and still can’t believe I went through it !

My Mom ended up needing bladder surgery and had a sling installed after her hysterectomy, but she feels great now. Every one of us is different for sure. Thank you for sharing your story.

do you have pain in your lower abdomen sometimes like dysmenorrhea pain? i am one year post hysterectomy and recently i felt pain in my lower abdomen like i'm having my menses

Hey sis its tey, i had to get a new RU-vid start over. Im catching up on all yoir videos. Im actually getting my tubes tied after i give birth in February cause im done ❤

I’m 46 and has been dealing with fibroids for many many years. I had an ablation about 2 years ago and suddenly the pain and long periods reappeared. I had a vaginal ultrasound which showed I had so many fibroids they were intertwined and tangled together. It wasn’t even a thought to make the decision for an hysterectomy which is scheduled for October 10th, 2023. Unfortunately my daughter has endometriosis. She is 29 with no children. She also has Autism. She’s very high functioning, but her pain is beyond what I’ve ever experienced. She has had a procedure to help shrink the one fibroid she has but like myself the painful long periods have returned. They’re trying an approach with a new pill to avoid a hysterectomy due to her age. Watching your videos in search for myself has taught me a lot about her condition as well. I’m so scared for her. I’m so happy for you to feel free from the pain and get your life back. Thank you for sharing your story. I’ve now gained a better understanding of my daughter’s experience as well as my own. God bless you beautiful!❤

I’m scheduled for a hysterectomy in June 2024. I dnt have kids. I tried for two years and no luck. I do get very sad and depressed about it but I’m 44 so there’s nothing I can do now. But get this outta me 😢

I don't know why I thought you had a partial hysterectomy, and I thought you could still have children using one ovary? Learn something new every day( I was wrong)... I'm glad to know you're doing much better than before. Good informative video. 👍🏽 ❤❤

Came across your video. Thank you

This came up in my feed and it's perfect timing... mine is scheduled in 2 weeks! Heavy periods from fibroids and it has made me severely anemic, even with iron pills! I'm nervous and excited. This video was extremely helpful. Thank you!!

My name is Mary I’m going through everything you are talking about I am terrified but I need help and I’m tired of dealing with the bad pain back pain but pain and the bleeding Your story really help me feel much better about what I’m going through

I am approaching 4 weeks post @ age 39 no children. Fibroids, stage 4 Endometriosis, Adenomyosis, & Choc cysts. This was my last resort, but as of now I feel like I've made the best decision. I am still very sore and now dealing with muscle spasms. God has truly kept me so I know greater is coming. 🙏🏾🙏🏾 Thank You for your content continued blessings.

Glad your doing better after your surgery Shell. 💕

I’m going to have my hysterectomy in September, I have a question for you, did you lose weight or did you gain weight after the procedure? And how did the bloating go down?

I have hot flashes all the time. Even in the winter. Night sweats all the time. No more periods, I am very happy I got my surgery done.

I know it's ridiculous, but I've heard, you no longer have walls...No matter how big a man is, he hits rock bottom, when he goes inside

Hi, do you still get the hot flushes? It`s scary that you got your menopause symptoms so quick and with your ovaries kept. How do you feel 2 years after?

I also had a full hysterectomy and I have to agree 💯 about the hot flashes and night sweats!! I can totally relate to having the sudden urges to get up and go to the bathroom at least two to three times per night now. I thought it was just me but I’m glad you shared. Be Blessed!!

I just had a total hysterectomy two weeks ago, and I do appreciate your insight on the situation much more you enlighten me on a lot things if arise ,so I know what to ask my doctor about . I do thank you God bless you.

Hey namesake I need build courage like you too talk about my mastectomy, I'm not fully healed from it I found myself still crying about it so yeah I need to heal from the whole ordeal

I don't have kids I'm 33 is old i alway want a baby but had miscarriage 3 time. I been bleeding so bad in blood clot at the same time lost blood. I with to my Dr they was doing a lot of texts on me to make sure it not cancer it was cancer my dr told me i have get Hysterectomy spread and my dr told me if i get Hysterectomy i can't have kids she let me thank about it i was crying because i always want a baby and i don't have one but my mama was there she talke to me. So i decide to get Hysterectomy ovary but i don't have no uterus. I got Hysterectomy 2021 in September the 9. Now i been Emotional every sense i been taking care of my sister kids like they my.

Hey Shell! Thank you for sharing your journey. I’m just wondering if you uterus was adhered to your bowel or if you endo was adhered to any other organs? I’m terrified to have my surgery and it’s only a couple of weeks out. I can’t find many videos that talk about surgeries that involve other organs.

Thank you, thank you, thank you for this video. This video is so helpful (and your other one about post hysterectomy 6 months). I don't have a choice with mine. I have stage 1 cervical cancer and I'll be having a radical hysterectomy next month. It's a LOT to process. This video gives me some hope.

I am starting HRT hormone therapy before my upcoming hysterectomy and I am also having my urologist consult with my gyno so that I can have my bladder surgically put back in place during my hysterectomy cause I don't wanna have surgery twice!

I'm 64 with a family history of cancer. I've all the tests for cancer screening except for the genetic tests Long story I had a new cyst on my right ovaries I I decided to have the surgery to prolong my life after the surgery you do get a little depressed I have to live in children her grandkids we still feel a little lost even though you thank you for your videos they're helpful.

Hello, thanks for sharing your story and experience and that you are feeling better😊

I am 52 already my periods comes normal every 30days. My surgery this Thursday Thursday November 2, 2023. I am scared now. Three fibroid one large. hysterectomy ia the best to do? i am not sure if I should remove my ovaries. Doctor told me is upt to me. Please send wise advice, and prayers. be waiting for all your advices

Thanks so much for the update Shell! This is so encouraging ❤❤

New subscriber here! Thanks for sharing your journey with us ladies ❤ I'm 1 week post a partial abdominal hysterectomy. I'm feeling great so far. I did keep both ovaries, cervix and tubes. Haven't had any bladder issues whatsoever, but I wonder if its because I kept my cervix.

I really needed to watch your video. Thank you so much. I’m booked in for the hysterectomy in a few weeks. I have endo and Adeno. Bleeding for near 12 months despite being on Primolout. It’s been so difficult to cope.

I'm having a total laparoscopic hysterectomy in September. I live in Canada, and the only thing I'm worried about is the after math of everything like the pain and the bleeding. Was the bleeding like a period or like spotting? Did you lose any weight? I was looking for hysterectomy videos that weren't too old, and i came across yours. Very informative and very helpful. Thank you.

Hello Again Shell! I heard that the intermittent hot flashes post-hysterectomy (if you still have your ovaries) could be partially due to the change of blood flow to the ovaries as their main supply chanel has been taken away and there can be an adjustment period. Not sure but maybe that could be it?

Thanks for you video. I’m 8wks post surgery. I watched your videos before the surgery and it helped a lot.

Your delivery is very very good perfectly said 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 god bless you

What kind of mesh did you get ? Sacroplexy ?

I was so blessed to have a wonderful Doctor. I understand your situation. I keep my ovaries. Thank you for sharing your story. Amen GOD is great.❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉😊😊😊😊😊

Omg shell, u nail it with the bladder. Gosh, I hate it at night. Just when I'm getting into a good sleep, here comes the getting up going back to the restroom. Lol, I'm thinking about depends 🤣 naw I'm kidding for now, but it's a thought. Now the hot flashes I never used. To sweat now since my surgery it's like a water fall hot flashes sucks one minute I'm looking all cute face made up next thing I know here comes the sweating my face be looking like a map of Texas. We females go through a lot. Good topic. I watched ur video after ur surgery. I tear up, and I knew what u were going through

Thank you so much for sharing your journey!! ❤️ I am 2 months out from surgery day, scared and anxious, 37 with only 1 bio child and your videos have def helped ease my nerves! I too have IBS and it led to my endometriosis taking soooo long to be diagnosed! It's been ping pong from Gastro to OBGYN! But I want to suggest to you sea moss (I use Transformation Factory's brand). Having endometriosis and IBS has been the devil because I wasnt always able to differentiate the 2, but I thank God for the relief sea moss brought me! Thank you again for sharing and all the transparency and I hope to feel the same relief as you once my surgery is complete!

Hi, thank you so much for your video. I had a hysterectomy 3 days ago and I'm concerned about the bladder issues. Were you referred for and did you do any abdominal physiotherapy or kegel exercises? Apologies if you have previous mentioned this

Hey sis! Thank you for this video, I am so scared and nervous about my upcoming surgery on Oct 25. I really needed this. ❤

Glad to have found you. I’m getting prepared to have a total hysterectomy due to PCOS unbearable and traumatic bleeding for months and months and months all the time. And your videos have helped me to take the chance for my health and quality of life. Your videos have helped me prepare so thank you 🤗.

My fibroid was the size of 12 pond bowling balls and growing horn on it

Hi. I had an open hysterectomy 2weeks ago. My uterus was weighing 2kgs that’s 4pounds, the procedure went well and now am home recuperating but still pain occasionally. I must say it was the best decision I made since fibrosis had taken a great toll on me leading to severe anemia.

❤️ Thank you for sharing…your videos have really helped me throughout my journey 🙏🏾

Thank you for this video. I am so proud of you for going through and advocating for yourself. I pray that you are healed and still doing awesome. ! have you had any emotional mood swings from it I am scared of that too. I’m supposed to have surgery tomorrow but I’m soo freaking terrified!! I’m scared he’s gonna rush. I’m scared of not being able to orgasam again. Scared of everything that can go wrong 😭😭😭 I’m in pain but I’ve heard it can come back. You are very beautiful.

Hey Michelle I miss mama sandy B and I miss Eddie you should do some more videos with mama sandy B and Eddie Michelle

I had the exact same surgery as you on April 3rd so I’m 3 weeks post op and still suffering from pain. I feel like I’ve been on my period this whole time. I hope this gets better soon because if things continue this way, I don’t see what the purpose of the hysterectomy was. I just want to feel better 😭

You are in peripause Wich happens in your 40's it's the worst and Drs don't understand most of it or you are in another journey I spent 3years of research and hormones you need estrogen get the blood test check your level I had to out of pocket full blood panel 200 bucks olive in Rochester NY I did hormones pellet therapy now healing from hysterectomy cause of uterine fibroids but now all I need is estrogen it's gonna be your savior and until then you can check on food and drinks that are triggering hot flashes most things that spike your blood sugar does it like alcohol and chocolate

Very good I’m in recovery now and it suck but yes god is good/

Have you checked that your bladder has not prolapse? My bladder prolapse and after a Hysterectomy is possible for the bladder to prolapse because nothing is in there to help support it. Are planning my Hysterectomy and reataching the bladder while still in there.

Thank you for sharing your experience with us. I had to have an endometrial ablation, because of so much pain and some of the stuff you mention. I bleed like a period a few months after my procedure,my Doctor told me if I continue she wanted to do a hysterectomy. I have been fine since that episode. Nice to know what to expect if I had to have it done 🙏❤️

I feel you. The hot flashes are crazy. I'm 8wks PO and lawd.. these flashes have me in a choke hold😂

Fiber is good , probiotic and prebiotic is great for bowl area and movement

Thank you so much for this. I watched an earlier video of yours concerning this and you’ve helped reduce some of my anxiety. I think one of the hardest things is explaining why I’ve chosen to go this route to other women who haven’t been on this journey.