@@i10i60so? If u are in a certain community you have to follow their guidelines and not just act however u want and not care about their ethics or traditions. If u're gonna fo that don't complain about being called out by the locals.
@@rachel5478 Hmm. You're so shallow that you've somehow deluded yourself into thinking you're doing something good. Let's get to the root, love. This is Ugandan culture- There are an estimated 5 million child brides in Uganda. 1.3 million of them are under 15 years of age. They're not married to teenage boys I'll tell you that. 1 in 4 women report that their first sexual encounter was rape. Uganda has a population of 49 million. Yet there are only 1519 cases of rape that are filed, And of these rape cases only 19 received rape sentencing, the rest got off; according to the data of a year. So Uganda has a serious women's rights and gender inequality issue. This is rooted in Ugandan culture. Such as this dressing modest thing. According to many research studies, dressing modestly doesn't prevent sexual crimes at all. Infact most sexual crimes are commited by men the women already knew. Short clothes, or lust, sexual attractiveness have little role to play in these crimes. If modest clothing helped preven sexual crimes, women in Islamic countries would be safe. So where does this dressing modest thing come from? It's a way to blame women and take accountability away from men in sexual crimes. Stop trying to protect cultures, guidelines, etc. that are blatantly harmful. And don't call them "ethics" for fucks sake. You're insulting the word. Culture is frequently bad and harmful, it must be stopped.
@@veritorossidude if you don't like it then leave, nobody forced you to go there, nobody force you to stay, nobody forced you to spend your money and your "precious" time in their country, nobody care about you If you don't like it then LEAVE Why should they country follow your rule while you all aren't respecting and follow their rules???? Respect to guests is important when *the GUESTS also RESPECT the OWNER* Why should the owner respecting the guest when they wanted to get treated as the owner of the house? *Don't like it then LEAVE* I rather respecting people who understand, follow the rules and behave nicely than wasting my time respecting someone who doesn't even give a damn about mine
@@user-dv3kq3rm4h I mean, she basically saying "dress up or get harassed/raped". Personally I wouldn't go to a country where men are excused to do that simply for what women decide to wear.
My mom always said to me “when we visit someone else’s home, they are different, they have their own rules that maybe aren’t like ours so we listen and respect them”. That has been my no1 principal for my whole life and I love it because I get to know so many different people and cultures and learn from them! Definitely your outfit inspired me for my tomorrow outfit 😊
No, this is only pushed when Westerners go to places. By this logic, hijabs should be banned when people come to USA because it is not the culture there? Not right, it's just policing women. Because men roam half naked in Uganda all the time.
For context, I am a red headed woman. When I traveled to Honduras, the local kids we were working with kept calling me little witch 😅 I proceeded to show them pictures of my black cat to really seal the deal. 😅
She's right though. I have taken students to México and told them you cannot go into the church with a strapless or spaghetti strap top on, so bring a sweater that you can put on for the church and remove when you leave. They don't listen, and they don't get in. Girls have to tag team each other, loaning the sweater back and forth
Yes I totally agree ! I wish Europeans will respect this and take it as a good manner and well dressing code as well ! Nobody should show their naked bodies or show too much from it , In almost each religion they teach you to cover yourself so you will be protected and you don’t attract the eyes of people ! ❤
@Maryam-sh1oh I think it's the heat and the amount of coverage that creates the conflict. I'm glad to hear Americans aren't the only one. I always check the rules of the country that I go to, and if I'm going to a country where it's going to be extremely hot and I have to be covered down to my wrists and my ankles, I simply don't go. I'm not going to enjoy any trip where I'm uncomfortably hot and sweating 24 hours a day, so I just don't go.
This is great life advice for ANY country you are a visitor in. If you show their culture, just a little bit of respect you will see how much easier and enjoyable your visit can be.
I agree. So when she goes to American or England she should respect Western culture. None of this “multiculturalism” stuff. Why does it only work in one direction?
@@NineNineOneBecause America itself and its politicians actively promote multiculturalism and diversity. On the other hand some countries such as Uganda make it clear that they value their own traditions and don’t necessarily promote multiculturalism.
@samtheconqueror842his behavior started when men decided it was ok to objectify women based on what they wear after centuries of treating them like property, chattel and possessions...Cause and effect is right. I love how men are supposed to be superior, yet when they do dumb stuff, they blame it on women...WOW.
@samtheconqueror842Tell that to the women who get whistled at in the winter time with practically no skin showing or women who are modest that get followed home or assaulted. Modesty doesn’t prevent harassment, not being an asshole prevents harassment
She seems like a person that has somehow gone through childhood successfully, resulting with an individual that is aware of how the world works yet not traumatized by it. And she’s drop dead gorgeous.
MZUNGU is a Kenyan & Tanzanian SWAHILI name that means white person. It’s not a slur if anyone wondered. Girl your skin is like glowing chocolate 😍 beautiful
In isiXhosa we say umlungu for a white person, and mlungu in isiZulu, and mutshena in tshiVenda. Agreed not a slur, same level as saying "you are a white person"
Actually that's not correct. According to Wikipedia, Mzungu is the southern, central and eastern African term for a person of foreign descent. Literally translated it means “someone who roams around aimlessly” or “aimless wanderer” (from the Swahili and Ganda words). So it was referring to new pple into area that moved from place to place. Not pink pple!
This is a seriously important advice some tourists tend to forget. Do some research beforehand and be respectful to the culture of the country or place you are visiting. You are a guest so behave graciously as you would expect guests to behave in your home.
Respectful or aware? We have cat callers and rules above the knee in the US too. And we don’t follow precautions out of respect, we are careful around them because we know they are less than respectful of other people and dangerous. They don’t deserve respect, the deserve watchfulness and fear
Resepct and obedience are two different things. In society where you must obey something that strips human rights, yes even the small ones, away out of "respect" is not a culture. It's a system of control and oppression and often violence against women n children. E.g. unconsenting or socially coerced gen. mutilation.
I don't think a lot of American people really get this. Other countries are vastly different than we are. Most of those countries American claim they wish to visit, probably would not take kindly to a lot of what we do. Honestly, Americans often come across to me as overly sexual college kids who grew up with too much money. And that's coming from an American. I know this original comment wasn't an attack on Americans, but I just can't help the way we come across a lot of the time.
@@tzeitelmccormick8297 i really think this plays a part on where you live. maybe you also spend too much time online because the real world is not like this.
Good very good.lgtv deserve that imagine thinking u are an animal, imagine thinking men can get pregnant, imagine u don't know what women is and worst of all imagine a naked man in your children bathroom who pretends to be a woman
@@BlackGold_ZARbecause no government should have a say in who you love. That’s like interracial marriage being a crime or blindness being a crime. You can’t criminalize someone’s life just because it’s different than your own.
The systemic issues/cultures caused by patriarchy in countries other than your own are not for you to change. Sure advocate for the women and LGBT+ folk and anyone who needs help. But don’t take the microphone to speak in someone’s place that grew up in that culture.
Also don't go with your partner if you are a gay couple. Also don't go if your are trans and are completely post op and have all your documents changed plus passing well. You don't want to be killed
@@kyomugisharoset8266No dude, all queer people are being hunted down right now. ALL OF US. This "modesty" is just a facade for a rigid expectation of conformity, that can now be used to claim that anyone who doesn't follow it, is queer and can be executed. Don't let the reserved and calm nature of this "nice" lady(if she actively ignore genocide in her home, is she really a nice person?) fool you, Uganda has become one of the most opressive nations with that single law(it was already quite oppressive, but now that non-comfority is deadly, its a whole other level). I'll respect aspects of their culture and learn about it from an anthropological perspective, but I will never be able to genuinely respect the culture as a whole, nor will I ever respect the nation of Uganda, wo long as it stays an archaic nations, unwilling to change and bring their cultural differences into the modern era. This lady's entire channel is about whitewashing the damage that European imperialism did to the many African nations. "Oh look at the way we do things, its just different from you and how we've always done things" yeah, because your nation's development was set back a century and stunted for another century. You're not lesser for it, but you are undeniable behind, your nation literally an underdeveloped nation. Anyways, Uganda is trash and this lady is blind to its flaws and is whitewashing the effects that imperialism had on her country, as well as the active crimes against humanity, that her country is committing.
Yes. Well said. I travelled to the north of Africa and respected their clothing preferences. Please also respect ours when people from Africa come to Australia. Please do not presume we do not respect ourselves due to wearing less clothing than yourselves and do not say inappropriate things to the women here. I’ve experienced this from a guy I passed on the street who had just arrived from Africa. Everyone respect everyone else and we will all get along 😁
The only problem here being women covering up has always been the norm till 1800s. A modest woman was considered a classy woman. And, I have to admit, it feels like an intrinsic truth regardless of how much the West pushes thier fake "freedom of choice" agenda
This is why I look places up. If I'm not comfortable with the culture or it's dangerous to me I cross it off. If it's something I can deal with for a short amount of time I'll go. My views aren't going to magically change the people around me and I'm not trying to get bodied
Quite honestly I wish westerners would stop expecting other countries to be like them. If you’re going to a country that societal expectations are clear then follow them! You’re visiting their country and home. Respect their rules!
but we shouldn't have to abandon our culture to visit another one. just like people who come to our countries aren't forbidden (for the most part) to wear the clothes that are acceptable in their cultures even when they're different from ours, why should we be expected to leave our culture behind to appease others? I don't expect people to understand or not to stare, but I still wish to dress the way I would at home. because that's me, that's how I express myself and feel most comfortable.
A Kenyan-american I know was called muzungu in Tanzania. I’m arab and I was called mhindi everywhere 😂 didn’t take offense but was funny, responded back with mwarabu.
Did u note that she said Uganda not Africa? 🤦🏾♀️ u guys will never know the difference between a country and continent. She meant Uganda specifically.
@@LisaAngel-vk9dz the word comes from the swahili which means foreigner not white person. It has come to colloquially refer to white person as they are regarded as foreigners. Edit: I initially apologized but after my experiences and doing further research, i take it back. The literal definition is not white person and was in fact used to describe “restless” visitors. And as I stated has come to mean white peson. From Mahmood Mamdani, the Ugandan scholar of Indian descent who was the Director of Makerere University, and is a Professor at Columbia University in his article, ‘When Does a Settler Become a Native? Reflections of the Colonial Roots of Citizenship in Equatorial and South Africa’: “The word for the white settler in Kiswahili is mzungu. Mzungu, however, does not literally mean a white person. It simply means a restless person, a person who will not stay in one place, a person full of anxieties. It comes from the verb kuzunguka. Hawa wana zunguka kwa nini? Why are these people always so restless?” As shown above, the etymology doesn’t mean white, but by the 90s (when this article was written) meant white settler, and then according to posters below, changed again to just mean white people. In mine and others experiences on here it was used on non-white people. Despite initially independently apologizing to posters and trying to have civil discussions/ ask genuine questions from those below in the conversations, I instead have been accused of arguing, and called annoying, a know-it-all, and a liar among other things. When you result in name-calling I think that speaks volumes. Also, as a side note, when you decide to speak among yourselves about a third party it also shows your true character. You can just respond to me and my questions/comments directly including the name calling. Very mature. Seems not to be a platform where you can actually have a civil, productive conversation, especially when others’ experiences may differ. Wish everyone the best. ✌️
They may also be saying that because you speak English with an accent they consider a bit posh 😅 I've gotten a similar nickname when I travelled in my own country 😂
What people do in the bedroom is their business but when those people want to have a whole month dedicated to them, teach this in schools, have biological men in women only spaces, tell kids they can be opposite gender and perform life altering surgeries on these kids, there's a big problem. So well done to Uganda to stop this nonsense before they end up like America!!
I was part of a wedding in a small village in Uganda . As part of the grooms party , we came into the village dressed in traditional clothing carrying the gifts on our heads. The brides village went nuts seeing all the Muzungas doing real work ;) amazing experience
@fastboywhiteboardprobably people outside the western world tend to actually make mairrage last instead of being selfish and throwing there familys in the trash
@itsbubbles4021 dont stay if there is legitimate abuse you should leave, but it's not the majority of reasons in the Western world that people abandon their marriage
I'm so white, they are going to need a whole new word for me. Especially after I burn and turn into a tomato. Edit: apparently stupid dad jokes are still funny.
I was in Uganda about thirty years ago. Fantastic place. I loved walking through the market and hear the children whisper muzungu and racing to tell there friends. Some of the kids were terrified, 😂Poor kids, I didn't mean to scare them. Best tomatoes in the world from that market. I hope to get back, it's on the bucket list. Love your videos.
😂 Yeah, You get to see that it’s the same worldwide, the same way black people are gawked at in places like rural Finland or rural Austria or rural Poland where most people have never seen a black person in their whole lives, it’s the same thing for black people in many African countries who have never seen a white person before. They’ll stare and make comments. Sometimes it’s not racism, it’s ignorance + shock at the unfamiliar lol.
In Europe people are encouraged to be themselves. They are not encouraged to integrate. The government puts all the ethnic minorities in one place rather than ensuring they are well integrated in to the European way of life. That is the mistake of liberalism. It bad for society. There should be proper integrated
It makes you *look* modest and that's what she's talking about. Nobody cares about what you think in your head, if you have dirty thoughts or whatever but you have to look appropriate.
Um, being covered does make you modest. Why yall so butthurt over the fact that dressing modest? If you can't respect cultures with modesty, dont go there.
Modesty is not a matter of avoiding harassment. Those criminals will SA a woman even if she's fully clothed. It's similar to combing your hair so that it's set right when you go outside.
Me too. But the clothes thing makes me sure I won't go. I'm sure it's an amazing country besides that, but I wouldn't want to go somewhere where I'm 1000% sure I'll be blamed for anything a man decides to do to me because I was wearing a miniskirt or a crop top. Even her tone while saying that kind of hurt me, she sounded very condescending and it makes me sad that she's just accepted that it's her fault if someone catcalls her.
I came to Uganda in 2018 for a month. It was one of the best months of my life, I spent time in the rural area Iganga and also in Jinja. I had some amazing experiences, the people were so lovely and welcoming and I would definitely go back.
I've always been modest... I didn't even stop wearing opera gloves until about a decade ago...lol I used to REALLY cover up, though ngl, I am, as a woman, getting tired of us being blamed for the behavior of men. If they are adults, they should be able to control themselves and stop blaming us for their weaknesses, because it's also weak to blame another for your actions. We see men walking around with nothing on but shorts, and we can act like we have some sense, like we have some self control. No matter how handsome, gorgeous, attractive a man is, I'm not going to whistle at him, I'm not going to "Hey baby!", I'm not going to make him feel like an object, because I have class and self-control... We seriously need to stop excusing men for behavior they can definitely control. Societies all over the world make too many excuses for the terrible behavior some men do and then blame women for. Now, all that being said, I understand culture, but culture also has room to grow, all humans and cultures are capable.
100% this I would cover up either way and respect the culture in that way but it’s so obvuously about sexual harassment. It shouldn’t just be part of the culture. Like you said we all have room to grow especially culturally and grown men need to apparently be taught how to be grown men universally.
I agree with you so much on this one. Like, of course i am not gonna wear tanktop and shorts if i go there because its their country and i am only a guest but cultures aren't static. My own culture had really bad aspects to it in the past. People here would have been furious if you disrespected those aspects but nowadays, even we think those things were shit and we got rid of them.
It's honestly kinda sad that a lot of men don't know you can just practice resisting the temptation of random attractive women. I've had talks about this and some guys really think it's impossible like: 'if you have a healthy testosterone level you're going to be distracted by every woman you see' and in some cases catcalling is part of that I guess But at the end of the day these guys sabotage their own happiness with their sexual frustration I'm a guy myself btw, I just can't stand these men that have the impulse control of children
I lived in Uganda for awhile when I was 3 years old. Obviously don't remember much, but enough. Wish I could go back, I wonder what happened to Magda and her childeren. We met a small elephant baby named Peggy and a docile female crocodile that someone in the village befriended. I remember all the kids climbing and petting that crocodile like it was a lil puppy. We went on a boat through the Nile and the hippopotamus were going crazy fighting with themselves and making the boat rock. I also have a memory of the big lake, the smell of burned wood and the big trout and tilapia that people would catch for dinner. I'm not sure, but I think there was also a big water fall's where people would get in barrels and compete to see who could make it furthest...something like that. I was too young to remember things clearly, but it defenitly left an impression in me.
as a bi girl born and raised in Norway, i'm never going to feel welcomed in Uganda, where basically all my extended family lives. No matter how many times i visit, i feel more and more unsafe there. It's sad because i love my family, but they hate everything about me without even knowing it.
When you go to Uganda how is anyone gonna know that you’re bi?? Unless you’re advertising it… Literally no one cares that you’re “bi” so keep it to yourself when you visit Uganda. Problem solved. Respect their culture while you’re in their home. You’ll be alright..
I went to the city in shorts one time and everyoneee was looking at me. Then some woman shouted “ay muzungu you are naked” 😭😭 I ran to the shop and bought a long dress (it was sooo ugly). - I’m half Ugandan btw 😂
@@asanteshoo1525I think just a few words here n there maybe they were brought in by some Swahili people in the central our word from western Uganda is omujungu meaning a white person it's close to the Swahili one
@@WiseChangesI mostly hear the middle east being criticized for it so i think it might be that you hear it African nations being criticized for it more because that's where you are. People hear news that are more relevant to them Also I'm getting the vibes that the reason you're upset about ratio of criticism of abuse and discrimination of LGBT+ people in Africa and in the middle east is you wouldn't want it being criticized much at all. Culture and religion is not an excuse to deny basic human rights from people.
I was in Uganda and I can say, not all women are dressed modest. Specially young women. Old women and village women though dress up modestly in their traditional clothes, which is beautiful😊
@@minorkey5286precisely. That's part of the reason I avoid super hot countries - my body can't handle heat and overly closed garments :/ I'd rather live somewhere colder, although recently I've started to appreciate warmer weather.
@@minorkey5286no one cares. The point was respecting the norm of other cultures. People who want to be half-naked have plenty of places they can go and be the norm, just like people who want to be covered are the norm in her culture. Someone going to other countries, trying to stick with their own norms and then getting angry/offended when the people look at them sideways, is wildly entitled.
She’s absolutely right. When I studied abroad in Ghana, many travelers wore either dirty clothes like they were on safari or immodest clothes like they were on the beach. It was clearly inappropriate to wear during business hours or at school and it drew stares and negative attention. It’s important to try and respect the culture
I am from the US got me a very typical American accent and I think your accent is so beautiful your tone your calmness the softness of your words it’s all just so beautiful
Well, it's kind of like how germanic and latin langauges spread around europe and mixed a bit, so many words, and language ticks like the use of definite articles, are shared. That's most of western europe, from spain, italy, france, england, and germany, and even eastern parts like romania. Africa had similar population movements, specifically in this case with the Bantu. If you look at non-bantu languages there are stark differences.
Thank you so much for sharing. I was very curious about what the word “muzungu” and what it may actually mean. My Google search indicates it means, “wanderer”…which I’m guessing is another way to say “traveler.” Saying that to someone from somewhere else makes sense. Where I live in the United States, I’ve heard/said, “Hi, stranger…” when speaking to someone who looks/sounds like they may be from somewhere else (and might look like the need/want help). When I myself say that phrase, it’s just my kind version of a name placeholder…I might just as easily say, “Hi, sir/ma’am. How can I help you?” I only use “stranger” or something similar until I learn the person’s name. Then I use their name, or “friend” when speaking with them. Anyway, thanks for sharing. I just started following you on RU-vid so that hopefully I can learn more from you. I love how straightforwardly you explain. Someday I would like to visit your country.
@@lockedin6699What a disgusting analogy. Tell me, who goes to jail when an unlocked house is robbed? Who is the ONLY person who invaded the property of someone else and stole their belongings? Do you barge into people's homes if the door is unlocked, then argue with them that they were inviting you inside? And if you did, who would win the argument? Also, I am not a house. I am a PERSON. I live, I breathe, I think, I can say yes and no and I mean both of those words when I say them. You're an adult who thinks I am less than him because I wore a crop top and short shorts. Imagine telling your daughter that, or your sister, or your wife, or your friend. Imagine any of them comes up to you and says "I've been raped", and all you say back is "It's your fault too." And if this makes you feel anything different, think about why the only way you can feel empathy for someone is if their situation personally affects you. Disgusting.
@@lockedin6699Even when the homeowner had double security, should they still get blamed when they are robbed? If someone is robbed, the victim is never jailed are they...if they didn't secure properly. They might have a responsibility to be smart but they aren't committing the crime...
@@lockedin6699 wow this saddens me. If you ever had a daughter violated you may change your mind. For religious ppl, even Jesus said to "pluck out your own eyes". Self control means controlling oneSELF. This is a spiritual path for many, but especially men, n men choose not to take it, sadly, to women n children's detriment. Do you know that a women can be covered head to toe in hijab, niqab etc, n men have been found to oogle n lust after their ankles?!? "Their ankles are showing! This gives is an excuse!" This not about modesty, but the fact that some ppl feel they own other ppl. It is about lack of boundaries on the male's part. Humanity will be liberated the day they no longer choose blame, shame and critiscism-based psychologies that excuse this kind of lust. Love, divine love, is personal responsibility. How would you feel if someone came up and punched you in the face everywhere you go for having developed muscles? Men would not tolerate being r@ped by women, but especially not by other men, or even disrespected for that matter, for going outside their home n for such superfluous things. Women are not existing FOR you. We have a right to BE outside of what that means for men who have been programmed to believe they have inherent rights to a women. Everyone, especially children, BELONG to their SOUL, not to another person. Despite societal programmings. I hope for safety, dignity, n respect for you n your loved ones, NO MATTER what they wear or don't wear.
I would feel very weird being there. I have queer friends and visiting would feel like saying "im vacationing where your existence is illegal". I mean, the nature is stunning, but I don't know, some of the culture makes me uncomfortable.
@@AshaSelfsDemoFilms I'm not being hateful.. uganda hasn't banned gays but it has banned gay relationship. Nothings restricting them from going to Uganda. How can one figure out someone's gay unless that someone goes around telling people I'm gay or engage in gay actions?? People should stop overreacting!! And how sick of you to start cursing at me with engaging in a proper conversation if you have disagreements. Don't be weak!
Been to Uganda twice and my biracial son was called mzungu a lot. It also came as a shock to many ugandans we encountered that he is my biological child. Next question was is his father muzungu😅😂. I said no he's something else. We had a blast but my ex ruined the experience a bit.
@@TheBiggestMoronYouKnow well your people of moron descent are the ones who created racism. But y'all do have a complex that's not so Superior. Just because you burn in the sun doesn't mean you have to sit up here and take it out on all of us. If you don't want to be called Whyte throughout Africa y'all should have thought about that during colonial times.
I am white but I dress modest. I would absolutely love to visit there. But I want to come to your village and visit you. You seem so kind. And I love to learn. You could teach my daughter and I your ways. Cooking etc. I think that would be such a wonderful experience for us both. My daughter and I. She’s really young but I want her to travel the world. To experience other walks of life, so that she can make the most educated decisions going forward in her life. If that makes sense? She may want to leave this country one day to live. I want her to have knowledge and options. I love her so much.
@@edwigeguerin894 Me too and I've seen the opposite, That's why everybody should stay in their country and will have to choose who can and who cannot come, in the XXIth century.
@@syb1510 today's migration are for some, consequences of yesterday's invasions amongst other things. But if we could go back in time and reverse many things it would be amazing. Do I like some of the direspectful behaviour I see of some migrants in my country? No, but I recognise that we all do it if not worse, when going to their countries. Migration has good and bad. * But it's a hard process on both sides. *fish and chips brought by jewish to the uk made it a british popular dish. The Tropézienne a french dessert from the south of France was invented by a polish migrant, sauerkraut is chinese but travelled all the way to Germany and France, and so on. Ok, I mostly talk about food but wether we want migration to happen or not to happen at least at times great things to make my belly happy do happen😉
@@edwigeguerin894 All countries have been invaded on day, in France nobody ask refuge to Germany during the WW2 😅 I'll be quite hard, sorry about it: Regarding the migrants, an Afghan has r*aped a 12 years old girl under a bridge in my city. Fews months before africans r*aped a 40 years old woman in the same city. One of my relative has been r*ped by another sub-african man. Which is still free due to the justice of my country, he is known but police does nothing. That's why I'm asking to choose and deny the refugee status to any citizen from countries whose haven't the same morals like my country. I'm not according to you about "efforts from both side": when I come in your country I have to follow your rules/morals. I don't have to ask you to "adapt" to mine, I will have to learn and follow yours, the effort is on one side only. They must ask refuge in countries which the same morals as we'd have to do so, that's why I wroten the old sentence about Roma 🙂 No hate, just pragmatism: selection is the key for a good integration to the society. [ Bon appétit ]
Oh yeah coz all gay people have "gay" tattooed on their forehead, makes it easier for us to identify and✨execute✨ you Or do you find the need to scream that you're gay on every corner? Get over yourself. Act like a normal human being and no one will care about you. You dont shit on the floor in a posh restaurant and then blame the employees for kicking you out do you? Same here, behave yourself and have manners and you'll be just fine, buddy
My man, we're here for the goodness. What triggered you to make that comment? Why was this the thing that came to mind for you to say? I KNOW that you know there are other countries that do the same thing, and as we can see with America it's possible to slip backwards with progress....so I wouldn't act super high and mighty that where you live doesn't.
@@tulip811 I mean, do either of you care about that at all? Or is this just a thing to wave around as a point of "badness"? Seems like a bit of a bullshit point to make, otherwise.
My trans ass is gonna stay away. I've been contacted by Ugandan refugees through social media asking for help fleeing the country or tending their wounds from being attacked by the public or the police.
Same. I've got many Ugandan friends who want me to visit and I will never. I don't see te point of giving my tourist money to a government that hates and harms those like me anyway.
IF YOU ARE LGBT DO NOT COME TO UGANDA!!!! In 2023 in Uganda, a bill had passed making those who openly identify as LGBT illegal and found guilty of life imprisonment. But whenever I bring up this horrible truth people come into their defense saying it's "their culture". Like NO HONEY. Imprisoning someone FOR LIFE just for recognizing that their not straight isn't "culture". It's a human rights violation. Just for simply being LGBT and that's it, doesn't make it right for ANYONE to be in prison for life. That's not culture.
I wish I could go. I love Ugandan food and literature. But, I’m gay and don’t go where I’m not wanted. My partner is from there and wants to go back home when peoples’ hearts eventually warm to us. The pictures she has of there are truly breathtaking.
When I travel in America as a black woman, I research the state I am visiting because each state here has certain aspects of behaviours that are harmful to blacks. I've traveled in Europe ( England, Germany,Paris) and encountered biased behaviour not because I was behaving badly but because I am black. So, I have learned to study a place carefully before I travel. I am not offended but grateful for your information. I wish other people in other countries would be so up front about issues. I am modest in my wardrobe by my choice and I have been shocked by people on the streets. I mind my business and expect others to mind there's. For some reason in American cities people feel they can comment on others race religion wearing a mask, etc. And call that freedom. I call it bullying. I will look forward to visiting Uganda one day and acting like my momma raised me.This is my opinion. Thank you Joy.
You know,there are some countries in Europe that never had colonies and black people as slaves. So its strange to see black people and thats why people are staring.
In some places in america modesty is so confusing, you can be fully covered but still be called a whore because you simply went outside without your hair done a certain way or your ankles are showing too much or your bust is too big.
@@didi-bc1xsif staring was the only issue I don’t think she would care. She said she was treated in a biased way because of her skin color. I visited Eastern Europe apart of a tour group and I was the only POC in the group. At the hotel I was the only person stopped and asked what my room number was when I attended breakfast. In another hotel when I paid to have my clothes laundered, my clothes were returned to me wet and stained. I took photos and sent it to our tour leader and he spoke to them and told me to drop it at the front desk. I went and the receptionist asked what I wanted, when I told him, he proceeded to aggressively grab the bag from me. This was the Muslim side of Eastern Europe so maybe the fact that I was a woman played apart. Even so, this formed my opinions about those cities that attempted to alienate me from my group and won’t spend my tourist dollars there in future.
Traveling is so important to developing social awareness. Too many haven’t left the US, or if they did it wasn’t to very different cultures. Being the outsider is a good experience for our understanding of the world.
And if these Americans had traveled more, they would understand that this lady's advice applies to more places in the world than it doesn't. You may not agree with it, but the majority of the world lives that way. She's hardly suggesting a burka.
@@dmbr111No she is not. and tbh there are very few places where there is BURKA used.. aka AFGHANISTAN rural areas. For most part where there are majority christian/Muslim cultures they ask you to dress modestly ... (women jeans and shirt covering chest or a long summer dress or whatever. as long as your legs and your chest is covered you're good you dont even need to cover your hair... and for man to cover upper and down to knees... no shorts shorts or walking topless. now if you have traveled and have a tiny vision of world. you will know how to behave to understand a culture.. perhaps.. you are not going to Italy and visit SCAMBIA, or travel to Colombia and get to District 13... or perhaps go to Spain and go to PALMAS ... because it doesn't matter if you look like them ure probably getting robbed , stabbed, shoot or kidnapped.. as well when you go to african and arabian countries you wont go to the very rural areas where people had little acceptance for outsiders .. I hope you get my point and you become a tactic traveller and learn from cultures rather than becoming full of ignorance and wrathful
It's not just about modesty and you know that. It being socially acceptable to be violent or gross towards someone because of how they dress is not something to be proud of and complacency is an enabler. I'm tired of people pretending like the problems in their country is "just the culture" these type of things are beyond that. Infringing on someone's rights is infringing on someone's rights, period.
Agreed. I think there’s a diff between telling someone “here are some unfortunate reality checks about this culture if you want to be safe in your travels here” and actually trying to justify it as reasonable with some ~do as the Romans do~ hand-waving
It’s important to recognize that everything is not only about you, what you like, or how you wish to behave. The world is not obligated to shift to accommodate you as you are. To believe so is plain and simple, abject narcissism. When we go out into the world and engage with other cultures, it’s wholly unrealistic to expect them to embrace us as we are, especially if it’s counter to their culture. We invite much of the treatment we receive. Whether or not we believe that is justified doesn't change the reality of being a human being in a complex world. If you want to be treated with respect, conduct yourself respectfully ton the context of the time and place. If you are unwilling to do that, stay home, or be prepared to be offended and disappointed.
It's not narcissism it's just humans rights..and if basic human rights are so much of a chore for some countries and "cultures" then humanity is fucked up@@StopTheWorld65
I may not use this information, as I don't foresee a trip to Uganda specifically, but I genuinely appreciate what you are saying, and I thank you for saying it.
Nothing at all wrong with this information. If you visit someone’s home you respect their house. Same with different countries and cities, you are a visitor and should respect them.
I hope Americans in America would stop being offended by the word black, she explained it perfectly well for whites in Uganda. It’s just the colour one is, nobody is attacking you.
The word Black is okay in America for the most part and I will add being called black is a non-issue but most American Blacks don't like being called African American. For example there are Blacks who can trace their ancestry back a few generations and it doesn't lead back to Africa but here in what's called America. And another is Someone who is actually from Africa, born in American of African parentage, can actually trace their ancestry to Africa then being called African American is more suited for them. But generalizing all Black people as African descent is not okay even if the education system and its enforcer pushed that. But the point is being called Black isn't a issue for Black Americans. The vast majority anyway...people already have identify and gender issues but that's another topic
@@DoYouKnowGodI see what you mean. It’s just like calling all eastern asian people Chinese. I’m Vietnamese and would get that all the time. It gets upsetting after a while but I react based on context. If it was done through malice I will not indulge them. If I believe it was a misunderstanding I will try to inform them without degrading them. I don’t call them racist or cancel them because that isn’t treating them like my equal. If I make a mistake I don’t want to be branded for life as a hateful evil person. I don’t need a book to teach me how to be kind.
No one in America is offended by the word 'Black', that's in fact what they call themselves. 'Ni**er' or 'Negro' are offensive terms in the US. In Latin cultures (which I'm assuming you are from) 'negro', 'nero' or 'preto' is a derogative term. The colour black has negative associations in your cultures, so you think it's the same in the Anglo world, and it isn't. So you say things like 'de color' or 'di colore'.
@@Idcanymore510 oh boy, where do I begin… better nowhere. Thanks for the education, I think there’s no soul on this planet or the entire solar system for that matter, that hasn’t been informed of this and and number of other things that people of color choose to be offended by. I guess growing up and growing out of victimhood mentality is a process that takes longer for some and unfortunately isn’t specific to race or color.
I know there's alot of heat here already. I just leave this for you. Most of her followers are either whites who can afford to visit or East Africans. Most African Americans won't stumble across her content. They are too wealthy.
yknow I get what you’re saying and I agree but the complete glossing over of sexual harassment if we don’t dare to cover up is….. sad to me. I would dress modestly either way but I kinda hate that it’s just “part of the culture” for men to sexually abuse women. That, at least, in every culture should change.
@@JazmusiqueI would love my country to be respected as well, I live by the beach and it bothers me to see a woman coming into the sea fully dressed, bothers me even more in the swimming pool, is so unsanitary, their husbands are in bathing slips and staring at women shamelessly If we accept it, because we respect, that’s tourism, they must respect too, even more if they want tourism and some business
I would love my country to be respected as well, I live by the beach and it bothers me to see a woman coming into the sea fully dressed, bothers me even more in the swimming pool, is so unsanitary, their husbands are in bathing slips and staring at women shamelessly If we accept it, because we respect, that’s tourism, they must respect too, even more if they want tourism and some business
Being carefully to not get catcalled or whispered at is not respect. It’s being careful around a bad part of society. It’s not being respect if you do it out of fear and precaution. Some propel act is if Africa is the only place with those social unspoken rules
@@yucol5661 yes, other places with those rules are invaded by people from muslim countries, not allowing us, Europeans, to walk freely in our country, making us afraid of being raped or killed. Burning churches, burning our flags… By your rule of 3, nobody should wear a burka, because for us, Europeans, is offensive How would in those countries react if we would burn heir own flags in their face? Would be applauded? No! We would be killed! Here… we do nothing No! Racism is in the opposite way, against European culture, but society is being too hypocritical to admit it
No matter what you wear in Botswana, a man will cat call you if he wants. Trust me I dress modestly, I never wear anything short, neither too tight. Yet men can still catcall me.
It’s like that in the USA too. No matter what you’re wearing you’re going to get hit on or catcalled in some places just because you are a woman/have a pretty face.
Believe me, if you dress skimpily the amount of cat calling will increase exponentially. It's about minimization, not eradication. Advertise for the type of attention you want, and decent people will respect it.
@@valiancesteadfast9550minimalism my ass. Most cases or SA has nothing to do with clothing. Otherwise covered up women in islamic countries or CHILDREN wouldn’t be assaulted
Another is not to show your affections and intimacy in public. No kissing, hugging, in public. Most of us can swear our parents don't do such stuff cos we Never seen it. But all of a sudden, more brothers and sisters. 🤷🤷🤷
@@ljade6427Perhaps she clarified it so she could show that white women too appreciate and admire dark-skinned women, as black women have been targeted for that trait A LOT and for no reason. Let people express themselves freely, jesus christ
I like to use this metaphor: There will always be lawbreaker, bad people, rebels etc. and you'd lock your house instead of educating people that it's bad to steal. You don't have to lock your door, but it's unreasonable of you to expect the best scenario when you're living in the real world, especially since crimes happen mostly because an opportunity presents itself. A locked house might still have a chance of being burglarized (let's say 30%), but an unlocked house definitely has a higher chance (80%). Prevention or an effort for prevention do means something.
Anyone going to a foreign place, whether it's Uganda ,Cameoon, China, New Zealand,Turkey,USA, Canada, you should respect the culture and how things are done.
Went to Ugandq years ago, definitely modest clothing and especially a lot of kids outside the city hardly ever saw white people. So they were surprised. But I met beautiful. Friendly people there. It was a beautiful experience back then❤
Hi, Am from Nigeria, I have always loved you, your life style is always inspiring me in a positive way, especially the fact that you are in my dream line, "Africa culture and creativity, it makes me pay more attention to your content,. Am telling you i will love the day I will LINK UP with you❤❤❤.
"Whispering at you" I thought she meant gossip, not catcalling. That's literally verbal harassment. But I get it. I'm from the Philippines, and sometimes you just can't fight the damned dogs 😔 Genuinely, it is tiring.
The people whistling here men's that there's a problem with you. You need to cover up. They're embarrassed on your behalf coz you have lost your diginity
