I am guessing every anxious person comes with the same package of : perfectionism, external validation and people pleasing :D Actually decided to not set big goals this year (cause most of 2024 is unpredictable for me at the moment) and I actually really like this idea of focusing on things I want to let go instead. Lovely video :)
And also thank you for not making a "how to make 2024 your best year yet" video, nothing against creators who did, but I find those so depressing cause it puts so much pressure on us when 2020 (and in my case over 35 years of life) proved that so many things are not actually in our control
Very true! Also sometimes with everything happening outside of our control just going through the year is an achievement in itself.. there is so much pressure these days from everywhere it’s good not to add it on ourselves - though hard sometimes! Anyways, hope 2024 goes easy on us and we get to have some beautiful, joyful times! 🎊❤️ happy New Year!
@@lostinadmiration Awake thou that sleepest, and arise from the dead, and Christ shall give thee light. (Ephesians 5:14) ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-PpylUDKrHek.html
Two weeks ago, I quit my job after 4 years. I was under a lot of stress for a long time, and decision was made when I realised I could keep doing that for 5-10 years more without a single change in my daily life. I am now more peaceful than I remember being. So, I'm with you for your brave step towards more fulfiled life and wishing you happiness ❤🤸 Always looking forward to the beautiful content that you make 🤗
With the risk of appearing dramatic, I just had to say thank you for creating your videos. This video brought me to tears! I just felt so much peace and inspiration from you. Not only is the quality of production top notch, but your authenticity is such a breath of fresh air. Thank you so so much!!
Wow thank you so much for saying this 🥹 this is honestly the best thing to hear! Took me a while to persuade myself to open up so much online - I tried a few times and I would just freeze, I guess I wasn’t ready! Wishing you the very best 😍
Girl! You have no idea how long I've been looking for this exact content!!! As an office worker, I needed the real perspective of another office worker. Almost all of other creators I've watched have always work as independent, so even they try to motivate and share advice on how to find balance, find yourself, have a healthy routine, etc., only someone that has actually worked at an office from 9 to 6, and dedicated years of life and energy knows how does it feel that kind of life, that even though is pretty comfortable, there are also lots of prices to pay and you can get lost. So, thank you for sharing your authentic experience! You definitely inspired me today!
Thank you for saying this! I actually feel like I tasted both the best and the worst of the corporate life, after about 7 years in customer support / sales / marketing jobs. I am surprised there are very few routines out there adjusted to such realities - even though I would say most people have 9-5 office jobs! Thanks for a nice comment :)
Thank you for making this. As someone who identifies with many of the challenges you spoke of, I appreciate the honesty and vulnerability you embody by sharing this part of you. Happy I discovered you're channel in 2023, and looking forward to your next creations in the coming year.
Thank you so much for kind words, it’s very encouraging to hear ❤️ I hope 2024 goes easy on us and we also give ourselves countless chances to be happy 😃
To me, number 4 was the most relatable and important. I definitely want to reclaim my attention and time. I've already reduced the time I spent on social media and I changed my approach to consuming content. If i don't find it educational or inormative, I tend to avoid it or click out.
That’s amazing - I think in the times where everyone wants your attention it’s super important to value your time! I am still figuring out the Netflix thing 😂
Best wishes from Poland. Somehow in some of your examples, you depicted me from a year or so ago. I let go of similar things, still am working on others, and let me tell you - giving yourself some grace and patience worked wonders for my mental health. Happy 2024! 😊
Thank you for the kind words and encouragement! I am so glad you got to the part where things get easier - I hope I can get there too one day! All the best for 2024 and lots of love from Olsztyn
I also discovered your channel few days ago and I find it very guilt relief. You seem to be a really nice person and I hope you will continue to share your path with us, trying new technics just to be happy. Happy new year 😊
Im still admiring the work and effort and planning you’re putting into every video. Just something to take as a role model! This video also gave me a lil smile and some courage for a better future especially now when going through a harder period in my life. Hope You took the most out of the Christmas time you’ve spend in Poland. Wszystkiego dobrego w nowym roku Daria! Życzę Ci dobicia wymarzonej liczby subskrybentów do jego zakończenia ;) Super kontent! 🫶🏼
Dziękuję Ci pięknie i bardzo doceniam wsparcie! Też mam nadzieję, że ten rok będzie dla nas bardziej łaskawy i my zawsze będziemy też sobie wybaczać błędy i potknięcia! Ściskam serdecznie!
I just discovered your channel a few days ago and I love your content. Your videos are so well done, and you seem like such a sweet soul. I look forward to seeing more videos from you this year. Happy new year! 🎉
Great Quality Content, your editing is gorgeous. Please say karol to reconsider to make videos like tutorial, breakdown, etc. I assure you that his channel gets more interactions and subscriber. I hope that he start making this type of video back, Love your work, Daria and Karol❤.
I have really been enjoying a cew of your videos, love the content, your perspective and energy. Then... you go and qoute Pink Folyd. That did it. I'm now subscribed. Keep coming!
I love your videos, Daria! ❤ Both the content and the quality. It's really a pleasure to watch them 🙂 And your voice is so calming. I can totally relate to the perfectionism aspect. It has also been holding me back from starting my channel for several years.
Thank you for saying this! I really appreciate it! And yeah, that perfectionism sometimes feels to me like a recurring cold - I feel like I cured it but then it’s bad when I am weak and tired.. but we got to push through it! And ignore the internal critic haha
I can resonate with so much of your story! I am the same age, was raised to be a high-performing student (I liked it at first, but then it became my whole identity), got mental health issues… Now I am hesitant to make a RU-vid video because I might feel like a fool, although I know I could benefit from the experience. Do you have advice how to start?
Thank you for sharing - glad to know I am not the only one and share the journey! I would just film, telling yourself it’s just for yourself or friends. Then one day, if it feels right just post without overthinking. It really is just for practice, you can always remove it. At first no one watches anyway :) good luck with it, keeping my fingers crossed for you
Would love to hear what you and your partner are planning to replace Netflix with after work? I also hate the mindless watching but find myself so drained after work
To be honest, last months got so busy we did not have time for anything between work, RU-vid and also packing and moving (our landlord decided to sell their flat so we had to move suddenly). But I am hoping a mix of watching Netflix when there is something nice to watch plus maybe book time or cooking together and eating without watching anything?
Bardzo sie ciesze, ze kliknelam w to wideo. Trzy miesiace temu odeszlam z pracy po 10 latach i zadawalam sobie to samo pytanie - co ja mam odpowiadac ludziom, ktorzy kiedy mnie widza pytaja od razu czy juz znalazlam prace... Nie spotykalam sie z tym w Polsce, ale tutaj w UK pierwsza reakcja to oburzenie, ze ktos moze sobie pozwolic na przerwe. Laczy nas bardzo duzo rzeczy oprocz Star Warsow wiec zasubskrybowalam i czekam na wiecej :-)
I loved this video and find it super relatable at the moment. I just posted my first youtube video after years of procrastination/perfectionism. I still cringe to watch it, but it's better done than forever in drafts. PS: I hope to get to your skilled level of editing one day. :)
Well done you!!! I am sure you will feel better with every single upload, and the best way to learn is in the process! ❤️🥰 I am rooting for you and wish you all the success you may wish for!
@@lostinadmiration thank you so much! Wishing you the same🙏And yes, I agree. "Worst case scenario" is that we learn in the process and better because of it. 🙂
I think we might be the same person. 😅 Thank you for putting all of this so eloquently. Keep up the great work here on RU-vid (only if it serves you, of course, and without the pressure to be perfect.)
Very true! Yet it’s so hard sometimes because we have so much pressure / influence in all shapes and forms, a lot of it subliminal. But it’s definitely worth the effort! Happy 2024
This was genuinely beautifully done. You explain things so that they feel achievable and not overwhelming like most others. The aesthetic and editing in this vid are also lovely. I am excited to enjoy more of your content:)
This was such a great video, clear and heartfelt, filled with good ideas for starting the new year. Thank you so much for this particular video. There were many things that you mentioned that I relate to, but the kindness you suggest giving to ourselves to figure out who we are and what we actually want to do in our own lives is helpful. Thank you, and Happy New Year.
Daria, jak bardzo jestem wdzięczna Ci dziś za ten film! Obejrzałam go rano i poczułam się jakbyś mówiła... o mnie. Wszystkie punkty, o których powiedziałaś mogłabym odhaczyć i odnieść do siebie. Moje życie w 2023 obróciło się o 180 stopni. Przeprowadzka, rzucenie korpo... nowa ja? Tylko kim ja właściwie jestem? To pytanie - co powiedzieć ludziom, gdy zapytają mnie co robię? Przecież ja nie robię nic. Nie mogę się zdefiniować tytułem w pracy czy nazwą firmy w której spędzam 8h dziennie. Spędzało mi to sen z powiek. Teraz już tak nie jest. Potrafię się opisać tak, jak ty w 7 minucie tego filmu. Nadal jestem zagubiona, nadal szukam, ale już się nie boję ;) Mam nadzieję, że Ty też czerpiesz przyjemność z tej przygody odkrywania siebie. Pozwoliłam sobie wpisać Twoją mantrę do swojego dziennika, który zaczęłam prowadzić pierwszy raz 2 dni temu ;)) I chętnie się dowiem jakie rozwiązania przyszły Ci do głowy w kontekście "Netflixa" i zmiany jego roli. Tutaj mam duży problem z wprowadzeniem zmian, chociaż próbuję od jakiegoś czasu. Pozdrawiam Cię gorąco i czekam na kolejne filmy!
Jak miło słyszeć! Zawsze dobrze wiedzieć, że nie jest się osamotnionym z takimi przeżyciami / zmaganiami. Co do Netlfixa, ostatnio samo się trochę rozwiązało bo nie miałam czasu. Ale szukam czegoś lepszego haha - jak znajdę to się podzielę. Życzę wszystkiego dobrego na 2024, wytrwałości, wyrozumienia dla siebie i spokoju!
Hi Daria, your vide is very interesting. I’m also dreaming about RU-vid channel, but don’t know what to start with🤷♀️, can’t find the niche. It’s very interesting to know your ways of learning yourself. Cause last year I’ve spent in looking for some hard skills in myself, finished a lot of courses and now I feel exhausted. And now I want to start to take care about myself So maybe it will be a theme of your next video
Honestly don’t worry about the niche and just start - to see how you like it, learn from doing! I started with travel vlogs because that was easiest but here I am doing mental health topics now! So just start, this is the best time!
Thank you for sharing your list. You shared so much of you and I think this is very brave. Your content is so relatable. Best wishes from Brazil! Thank you! Obrigada!
It's funny, I hadn't set resolutions in a long time, but this year I actually did (and feeling quite optimistic about them). I have set them to specific seasons instead of years (since I used to only remember them in January and December, a shorter timeframe may help) and I've already been going with some of these since December! I chose goals I actually wanted, chose goals that were difficult but possible (instead of too easy or impossible like I used to, and set leniency rules so I don't give up when life prevents me from doing the goal for some time, like "do ____ most days of the week, most weeks of the year"
I love your videos. I’m 31 as well, and in a sea of toxic AI generated advice, it’s refreshing to see your takes on productivity and resolutions. Keep it real.
As a fellow Pole with perfectionistic overthinking brain your no 1 is on my list too. Utilising my research and analytical skills I've found control is about safety and self worth. One tries to control when one doesn't feel safe in the world and when is conditioned to believe that any imperfection makes one terrible, lesser and unlovable. Psychotherapy and healing childhood trauma helped me a lot in this area. Furthermore, there is a component of usability, being analytical often proves helpful so it's easy to fall into a trap of believing that all overanalyzing is useful. Here I've recently started practicing mindfulness and checking with myself if what I'm doing is indeed useful or neurotic and obsessive. It also helps when my husband points out to me when I'm obsessing.
Yes, yes and yes! I am also lucky to have a husband who proves to be a good balance to my obsessive thinking and anxieties. I agree about the feelings of safety and usability - I always felt like I am just trying to protect myself. Also I had massive hyper independence (also stemming from childhood) so I never wanted to cause any trouble or be a burden to anyone which led me down the path of overworking and obsessing. Just realising all this is such a milestone, I believe we will get better and better - especially with some support from people around us ❤️ so here’s to a less obsessive, filled with self love and trust 2024!
Daria ❤ thank you for that video!!! As a woman who also grew up in Poland….I want you to know that you are brilliant, wonderfully cerative and wise person. The whole package of anxiety, overfunctioning, perfectionism, and need external validation, plus habit of apologizing…. It is due to how millions of girls in that country have been raised for ages 🥺 It is so polish ….it hurts. So many wonederful women formatted to be cary such burden. It is absolutely wonderful that you went to psychologist to work on that heritage and to get rid of those things!!! 👏👏 You don’t need them. Noone does. You deserve the better life. Keep working on it 🤗 Lots of love ❤ Joanna
Thank you Joanna for the encouragement ❤️😍 I know exactly what you mean - it still breaks my heart to hear some of the women very close to me who struggle to speak kindly of themselves or acknowledge their own worth openly. We definitely need a generational change! Wishing you all the best and sending a big hug! Thanks again!
I appreciate your effort of creating this video, especially at this time of the year :) Lately I am studying some stoic principles and practices and you talked about important topics that also stoicism shows. One example is not caring so much about external aspects of life we don't really have much control of. Another one, living in peace with nature and also very important, with peace with our righteousness (although not everyone will be pleased with us or the results may differ from our expectations). So yes, trying to be the best version of yourself, but also "keepin it real" ;) Something I really enjoyed and try not to forget: "Where a man can live, he can also live well" :)
That’s so well put - these things seem so common sense yet are so hard to grasp at the same time, or execute. I have to work on being more stoic! Wishing you the very best for 2024!
This resonated so much with me, particularly the segment on perfectionism as procrastination - I'm trying to overcome this right now in the small business that I've been planning for months but haven't actually launched yet (due to everything needing to be "perfect" first!). I'm so glad that I came across your channel last year & so glad you decided to launch your channel & overcame your concerns about doing so!
I am keeping my fingers crossed for you! Go for it, I am sure you are ready and the best way to learn is to start! Thank you for kind words and encouragement too!
Really great video! I love that the footage of visual examples of the things you talk about are always you, that gives a personal touch and makes it easy to imagine myself in your shoes for a moment. Even when there's something I don't relate to I learn so many little things because of how well you explain your thought process and solutions!
Gosh I am glad I found your channel a couple of weeks ago. I have consumed maybe three of your videos so far and came away from each of them feeling calm, inspired and rational. The energy you give out is so supportive and soothing, and what wonderful advice and wisdom. Thank you.
Pisze ten komentarz, ponieważ to kolejny bardzo dobry film na kanale, refleksyjny i pomocny, ale przy tym ciepły i pokrzepiający. Ja zdecydowanie potwierdzam, że to co nam przekazujesz jest naprawdę wartościowe i potrzebne, na żadnym się nie zawiodłem, dlatego czekam w niecierpliwości na następne materiały. Pozdrowienia z Krakowa!
Ogromnie mi miło to słyszeć - najbardziej motywujące słowa by dalej tworzyć ❤️ serdecznie dziękuję, wszystkiego najlepszego na Nowy Rok i pozdrawiam z Olsztyna!
The things you listed as struggles for you, are the same for me and it is comforting to know I'm not the only one. Many of your points I realized on my own, for some your video definitely helped! I'm going to save it and rewatch it through the year, so that i could be reminded of the things I need to let go. Thank you, wish you a happy and healthy 2024! 😊
Thank you so much, it’s comforting to know I am not a weird single case :) I honestly think realising all this is half success. It increased the chances that you catch yourself in the pattern faster and just say to yourself, oh I was supposed to not to that again. Thanks again and wishing you the very best for 2024! 🎊
Quite honestly the most realistic way to embrace the new year, great video! I’ve decided to start this year embracing both light and dark aspects (we all know which aspects need to be worked) in my life. After all, if the year were to be filled with all the ‘productive and positive’ resolutions, it would honestly be overwhelming and ultimately just not the way living should be. Happy new year to all and may we all embrace every layer that life gives to us!
Very true. We get so caught up in trying to be perfect it’s just exhausting! Accepting it’s a process with ebbs and flows would help a lot! Happy 2024 Nayib!
I just stumbled upon your channel and I really appreciate the amount of time and production value you put into your videos! I'm looking forward to see what you and your channel has in store for this year 🙂Great video as always!
Thank you! It is my partner’s mom’s place! We filmed a lot in rented flats and Airbnbs too. London is way too costly to have a place of our own for now!
I really appreciate your videos, Daria! They’ve helped give me a new perspective on life and take a more thoughtful approach towards everything. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with the world, keep up the great work and happy new year 🙏
This is the first of your videos I’ve seen. And I just want to wish you the very best on your journey. I love the idea of getting to know yourself. I’m 52 and I feel like I’m still getting to know myself at different stages and seasons of my life. This is a fantastic video. Thank you so much for sharing your honest thoughts and experiences. They really resonate. ♥️
I love your videos. I love your calm voice, the simplicity yet core truths in your points, and your humour is my kind of humour :) Keep going, you're doing great at the search we're all on to find ourselves. :)
Yay, makes me so happy to hear - thank you 😍❤️ I made a lot more jokes in real life hahah I hope to integrate more humor in the videos so that the topics are not too heavy! Laughing is the best medicine they say!
@lostinadmiration *wow the Spanish come strong this year 💪🏽Que bueno*. *Well done, and you are completely right about to cut off something that stops our progress* 👏🏼.
Thank you. I share most of the things you have said and I think I am also on a similar journey looking for some confidence to think that I am not alone.
Thank you for your comment! I think more people struggle than we think, it’s just that social media encourages us to idealize our lives and makes the conversation more superficial! I am glad to share this journey with so many people here! It also helps me feel less alone! Wishing you all the best in 2024
Just wanted to say that you have a wonderful way of expressing yourself. I am pretty sure this will inspire a lot of people who are going through struggles. Thank you for this wonderful video :)
The illusion of control through obsessively thinking about a situation or circumstance is called “rumination” Realizing that there was a term for it gave me relief already. I wasn’t crazy or alone.
Exactly! I also felt some relief from the comments of people saying they also struggle with a few of the same issues. Internet is filled with people having Instagram perfect lives but I find much more value in sharing the big and small fails, the mundane and the less glamorous part of our lives. Thanks for your comment!
