I'm 60 years old and my wife passed away last year after 30 years of marriage. It's the most difficult thing I have ever experienced. I get through by completing her goals, by watching over our now adult children and ensuring they have happy and successful families of their own. Fulfilling a loved ones legacy is a great solace.
That sucks and I truly feel for you. I'm your age and all my friends are gone, plane crashes, motorcycle crashes, strokes, heart attacks, every single one gone all at once too. Even my very closest bud. I deal with it the best I can, by being thankful for all the time I had. We had great times and I've come to understand how much more I had than so many others. It brings a sad smile. But it is a smile!
@@SlowRiderDucati yes that's what I do I try to honor my husbandevery day Sept is hard cuz my dad's death was in 2013 he would have been 105 tomorrow and my husband's death is on the 22 nd it will be 3 yrs since his passing praying for you 🙏
Indeed, that one was heartbreaking. Within a minute I was tearing up. I'm so glad he succeeded in finding true love though. It's becoming more and more rare these days.
People can’t find peace because they are looking for it which implies it’s missing. You can only seek what you have lost that’s why seeking love itself is not love at all. Love has more to do with letting go than holding on and most don’t realise that. If you can’t life without something you are depended on it , many won’t like to hear this but what most humans are is they are addicted to someone they are not in love since love is the only thing that can’t hurt in this life. It’s just not possible , anything that hurts can’t be love and anything that doesn’t let you be in peace is not love as well. I wish that he can let go of his wife so that he can be in peace out of love for himself since his wife never would want him to suffer.
@@ginosalihbegovic7137 well this man is grieving. Sadly, it cannot be rushed. Learning to let go is something we all ultimately have to learn how to do…it doesn’t make it easy though. My heart goes out to this sweet man along with others that have to endure painful times like these :(
I feel just like this guy. I was just 50 when my wife died (she was 58). There are so many older, lonely people out there in the world. We just want to have strong friendships and people in our life that we love, just like everyone else. Folks, please reach out to older people and give us a chance. We might surprise you!
Ultimately if we all feel that way about all other humans, think how awesome our world would be. Selfishness and greed brews contempt for others where as love provides true remedy and purpose ❤
I would also add, "Continuing to care for the person even if you're upset." I see so many people who would watch their spouse drive off a cliff and not bat an eye when they're angry. That's not love. Love is still getting up at 4 AM the morning after an argument and packing your husband's lunch for work because you know he gets low blood sugar and will likely skip breakfast and lunch if you don't. Or bringing your wife lunch home and handing it to her silently because you know she's not ready to talk yet.
I’m 35 and I have about $250k liquid in savings which I plan to put towards becoming a homeowner but based on the current high prices on real estate, do you suggest I hold from buying or do stocks for now?
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"Me included I guess"😢 Beautiful interview. I will be 70 next year. In 2002 I lost my dear husband of 21 years to cancer at 47 years of age. He was the man of my dreams, so I have never remarried. The year after he passed away my mom passed away. A year later my dad needed me to live with him, as he had become legally blind. We had 8 1/2 wonderful years together and then he passed away at 91 years of age. My heart was broken again. So I can very much relate to this man’s thoughts and feelings. Later in life, I also learned to trust my "gut feeling". It is a gift.
Totally can relate.... Lost my husband 3 days before Christmas 2019 and my Mom followed 4 months later. I see a lot of myself in him, seemed to have been raised very similar and it has taken many years to finally listen to my gut and stop worrying about disappointing others because if you don't learn to do that it's yourself you disappoint in the end.
You can tell he is a very compassionate and caring man. I have the same relationship with my wife and I am sure I will feel just has he does if she were to pass before me.
This man is one of the luckiest men to ever walk the earth. He clearly spent his life with a remarkable woman, and they clearly had a remarkable marriage. The “Golden Years” aren’t so golden when you lose your partner. Life becomes just putting one foot in front of the other and waiting to die. It truly is the most difficult space to navigate, and what works for one person rarely works for you. We each have to find our own way, so live your best life before it’s too late.
I am so thankful I have my husband. I know neither of us would live long without the other. My in-laws died 3 weeks apart. He couldn't live without her.
Been married for 46 years soon to be 47 and he just retired a week ago 😬 it in itself is going to be an adjustment but I can honestly tell you I could never imagine my life without him we are truly a team ❤️
I would love to see that guy in another years time. He's still reeling from loss right now. All of that pain is just under the surface. You can see that in every response. I'm sure his answers will be much more profound when he has time to process. You can tell that he is just a wonderful man. I hope that he gets out there and continues to live life to the fullest. He might have another 30 years to go. Lots of chapters yet to be written.
I'm so grateful you released this longer version of this dear man. I was so captivated by him in the small bits of the prior video. If it would ever be possible, I'd love to hear from him in the future. He may have adapted more from the shock of his recent losses and in this space of this adaptation, I'd like to know if his perspectives shifted. He is a treasure, wishing him endless healing and joy 💜
My husband and I celebrated our 55th wedding anniversary yesterday. I'm 72, and he is 77. It creates a mixed feeling. On one hand, it seems so profound that we have been blessed with this much life together. On the other hand, it feels like we were married "yesterday." We have passed through so many stages of life together. I know one day, much like many of the commenters here, that we will be making our last goodbyes. My heart goes out to all of you who have lost your beloved ones.
I know what you mean. My husband & I have been married 56 years. We’ve learned a lot in those years. We were very young (19 & 20) when we eloped. We talk about how lucky we are to have each other & we cherish every day.
Starting at an early age, I listened to older people . . . their reflections and their regrets. At age 30, my wife and I quit our jobs and traveled the world, economy style. We had great adventures and looked forward to more in the future. It was not to be . . . she died. I have no regrets. We took the time to play and have adventures. I had two uncles the same age. One was a multimillionaire and lived in Beverly Hills. One day the wealthy one asked his brother in law how many cruises he had been on. 110 was the response. The wealthy one said "think of the money you would have if you had saved it". The response was: "I think of my memories."
I love this advice, and the outlook you have. I was well on my way to a nice retirement when my ex cheated and I filed for divorce. Lost it all in the litigation and then some. Nothing else could have changed my perspective IMO, and now I view money/finances as something you should absolutely enjoy within your budget. I'm so sorry for your loss as well.
I knew early on in life about setting goals. My father always said, "If you fail to plan, you plan to fail." He was very driven and wanted his kids to be, too. He achieved many things and has trophies, certificates, and degrees. Would you like to know where all his trophies and whatnot have been since his passing? They're in a cold storage facility down the street in boxes. I'm paying a monthly rent fee to hold onto his achievements as I only have room in my small home for some of them. I achieved every single one and more of my goals. The problem was that those goals trumped relationships. Relationships suffer because they have to go on the back burner when you're driven to achieve your goofy career goals. Like this gentleman in the video said, balance is key. You have to live in the moment and only look so far ahead so you don't get stuck. Keep moving forward WITH those you LOVE. Make relationships priority #1! GOD is Love, and HE gives us relationships to sample what it's like to be loved by HIM. Jobs come and go. LOVE is forever.
Nice interview - good things to heed for a meaningful life. From a 65 yr old 40 years still married to my God-given girl. Grown successful children who have given me beautiful extended family and amazing grandchildren.
So grateful for his honest sharing and insights. Oh, can feel the pain he’s still feeling just under the surface. May we all know a love as profound as the one he had with his wife. I hope he’s able to find a new version of happiness again. ❤
I just moved to Mexico City Im 66 and I met this beautiful, intelligent, educated, wonderful 50 year old woman, and I'm going with my gut feeling on this. I'm not sure what she sees in me , but im going the extra mile this time.
For sure! My biggest regret is not spending enough time with my two side pieces, as much as I did my girlfriend. They were neglected and only used for threesomes, when I should have treated them better.
I want to be loved, but we cannot bend over and deprive ourselves of choices in life. That's a great encouragement I received from him. Thank you for saying it out loud.
Condolences to this lovely man. Your wife picked well. I just turned 70 a few weeks ago and in 2021 I lost so many friends and family. I feel your pain. One day at a time my friend.
First of all my sympathy to this lovely man . I am 61& a female version of gim, wete 2 peas in a pod. My parents were so very strict & l was rhe oldest. Always listening but rarely agreeing .It cost me alot. I had no goals except to be happy, travel & raise my son so life is at a crossroads & l am lost, worry constantly. For all those out there, praying the best is yet o come. Sprought, god bless & thank you for your channel.🙏🤗🙏
@@irenekotarac1346 I’m sorry you lost your loved one :( If it’s any consolation, so many of us have this lost feeling and are at a crossroads in our life. You are not alone in your feeling of aloneness :) I’ll be wishing you love, healing and happiness in this next chapter of your life
I really connect with this guy, very similar life and values. Although I am the future thinker at 67 and my husband is in the moment, at 70. Been together 35 years.
I have almost never listen to my gut feeling until the last 5 years. Now I'm happier and getting caught up on my long term goals (66y/o). It's better this way for me. I think It's important to know that people WILL come and go throughout your life.
Ahhh.. This man truly loved his his person/partner… I hope he knows how blessed he was to have 30 plus years with her.. Most never get any time with their person..❤️
I listened to this video and i cry because it touch my life and it is also the epitome of my life and am just 33 i don't want such to manifest you the opportunity i never take the risk i never take i simpertize with him just hope that god will give hime peace from with in
Beautiful....I'm 67....goal setting helps doesn't always have to be career....can be fitness oriented...serious hobby oriented which means the desire to be good at something using free time collectively not watching lots of tv...
I just want to hug that guy so hard. I'm about to be 61 and have had some hard losses, including my dad when I was 11. Now I'm getting into that time of life where friends and family are starting to get sick or have issues. Every day I take a moment to appreciate that at this moment, everyone is still here, still doing okay, I'm well, today is good. My best advice is to take care of your body. That is something you will never regret.
His comment on how family can affect our choices and decisions is important to note. Our parents have their own baggage, so to speak. If a parent is not self-aware, their ways,fears, and insecurities are projected towards their children.
I've been with my wife for 46 years and can't imagine a day without her. She's been by my side since I was 18 and she was 17. When we were married (after a long time dating), I wasn't just marrying the girl I was in love with, I was marrying my best friend. It's the advice I've always given to other people getting married, if they aren't marrying their best friend then they shouldn't be getting married. Life can be both wonderful and hard. It's easy to be married to someone when you're head over heels crazy in love, but it's that deep, meaningful friendship that carries you through those hard times. I have never unfaithful to her nor her with me. It may be easy to cheat on someone based on physical attraction when your relationship with your spouse was based on the same, but nearly impossible to cheat on your best friend.
🤩Your last sentence "easy to cheat when your relationship was based on physical attraction, but nearly impossible to cheat on your best friend" Wow! Brilliant! 🌞
Wowza, what wonderful insights this man has! So sorry for your recent losses❤ He’s soooo right about the gut instinct. I began following my gut and things started going right for me. I stopped following my gut and reverted back to my people pleasing self and limited happiness.
This gentleman is only 9 years my senior, but filled with an amazing wisdom! I too have made a decision to live more in the moment since I am burnt out with my overthinking the future. What a true gentleman ❤
Very wise insight he has shared. Losing a spouse you loved and shared your life with is one of life’s most difficult experiences to heal through, I see he is greatly hurting from his loss. I have been there too.
I hope destiny has a miracle for u my friend …. The lost of a loved one is indeed heartaches …. I also miss my parents a lot too …. But I believe in miracles and I hope u find her again to relive another many opportunities together Life is Strange… but … be strong enough to believe what u love ❤
I can totally understand the loss and how this man answers all those questions. My partner was instantly killed on the 5th of May 2021 by a city bus driver while she was crossing a pedestrian. I was in depression for ten months day and night, but at the end of it I just had to let her go. ''I understand your pain Sir.''
I’m six weeks out from 70….living alone with my dog and have all I need or want…the movie city slicker taught me the meaning of life…it’s one thing and it’s different for everybody…find and embrace your one thing and be happy…
I wish I had that man’s relationship with my wife of 35 years and separated for the last 10 years. It rarely works out as it did for this fortunate man he is very blessed to have had such a wonderful relationship
A great quote I heard is, the people you want in your life are those who talk positively about you, behind your back- and sometimes harshly/negatively (tough love- keeping things real) to your face. Love that one. This is a good man. Great interview.
Giving your late wife a wonderful marriage and being a supportive husband is an amazing achievement. There should be few regrets here. Congratulations, you did not spend most of your time chasing meaningless idols. This world needs more of you and those five people in your life have been watching and learning. Thank you.
Beautiful sentiments, great honesty, integrity and dignity in the sharing. I can relate to a whole lot of stuff - parts of his upbringing and adult life seemed uncannily like mine. My good wishes to the gentleman and to the team who put this together.
I’m turning 70 in October and I’ll repeat what my son told me sadly the other day, ‘my family is getting so much smaller’. I’ve reconnected with old friends that were like family and making new friends that are wonderful people. It’s important to keep making relationships that matter.
I'm 70 as well, and this guy is describing my life and path as if he lived mine, though I've not lost my current wife, for whom I am so very grateful to for actually teaching love. But like him, I stayed too long in an unhealthy relationship because I never lived in the present enough to see what I was doing. God bless him through his pain and loss. I pray he finds happiness and peace soon.
My wife and I were married when I was 41 and she was 38. We have been married26 years. I wish I had married her 20 years earlier. What a wonderful person she is.
The comment section is wonderful for a change. So many of you experienced a truly remarkable life.The word is blessed. Even if cut short by loss. 34 yrs in & nothing. We won’t miss each other one bit. He chose wrong, he can feel, I cannot. Here we stand.
Deep! Hardest thing to Do in Life is to learn how to live without someone you Love so deeply! Especially Two leaving you so close together! God Bless this Kind, Sweet Man, May God Comfort his broken ❤️! 😢✌🏼🙏🏼
I know what it feels like to be with your great match... I do not want to know what it feels like to loose that. We are a strong team. It is never too late to find a good match again...my partner found me when I was 52, never too old! I wish this man happiness.🥰
