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You know this must off taken lots of guts to speak up and in away when he talked about the panic attack I feel for him it’s hard I get it I really do you should be proud that you are now sober
Right on Stephen. Right on. You will likely never ever know this but i wish for you that you will know of the many lives your story will inspire, has moved and no doubt save. Watching and listening to your story and feeling a since of how vulnerable you must have been feeling And fear of telling your personal experiences has to be the very priceless words of truth that resonates with one who sees themselves ad you where
"When I was sober, color came back." That... Hit home. Hard. I've never used drugs, but I have been severy mentally ill and I have been addicted to the endorphine high from self-abusive behavior. *COUGH-cutting-COUGH-and a lot of other stuff-COUGH * I dont remember much, but I do remember everything being dark and sad and gray. But I do remember one day relaizing, that there was sun outside. That the grass was green. That color had come back. Weirdest of all instead of saddness I was feeling ANGRY. Just furious that this?? Was my life??? And I'd had enough. It was the day i did a lot of things. A lot of things that led me now being healthy and out of that cycle of self-abuse, or as out as you can be with permanent mental illness. Long road it was, but I never forget that day of noticing that color and feeling had come back.
I know how it feels. Cutting is an addiction, the endorphins are a high. The color came back to me when I quit cutting. Since being with my boyfriend of almost two years, I've relapsed three times. The last time was the worst. It was something his brother had said to me. I was a victim of sexual abuse from the age of 8 until I was 14, life was hell for so long. I began cutting from the age of 9, tried to kill myself at 10, 11, and 12. Met a guy I thought was good for me at 14. That guy was good for me for a year, he was two and a half years older than me, and he wanted more than I could give. By the time he and I had been together for two, I would relapse regularly and I didn't care, I didn't care who I was hurting as long as I could get relief. That guy and I broke up after being together for 2 years. Now the guy I'm with helps me so much. He doesn't get mad at me when I relapse like my ex did. He takes away sharp objects for several days and will ask me how I feel. If I feel like I'm going to relapse and cut I tell him and he'll put away anything I could use to hurt myself and he checks me for cuts. The difference is that he doesn't make me feel worse about it, he knows that I already feel bad about it and knows that there's nothing he could tell me that could make me feel worse than I already do, not that he'd do or say anything that would make me feel worse. He loves me even when I can't love myself.
Every time I feel like drinking and using, I come to your channel. Y'all have what I dream of having...a family of my own. Seeing how happy you are....It's one of the things that give me the strength to keep myself sober. So thank you for talking about it and for making me feel that I'm doing exactly what I'm supposed to, that I'm not alone or a freak. Thank you so very much. Hugs and sober kisses from Brazil ❤
So glad you're still here, Steven! You should be so proud of what you've done in sharing your journey with those who need to hear it. And just look how you've been rewarded! You have Laura and now Alfie. This big beautiful life was waiting for you all this time, you just needed to find it. Thank you for sharing your story today. And of course Happy Sober Birthday 💙
I just stumbled on this video on my 1st day sober and I can't express how much this has helped me today! It was just what I needed to hear.....looking forward to a bright future
Aw, im so happy to hear this story. My husband has struggled with addiction since he was a teenager. Sometimes it gets hard to sympathise when he relapses, since i have never struggled with addiction. Its nice to be reminded of how hard addicts fight, how hard they work and try to stay sober. Im so happy youre 6 years 😄❤ my husband is 8 months.
I relate to him. My drugs of choice were Xanax and ambien. I, thankfully, can’t stomach alcohol. My mother died at 57 from her alcoholism. Thank you for sharing this. Going to finish watching now. ♥️
I have to really watch myself because I recognize I have an addictive trait. It’s way too easy for me to become addictive to most anything. Congratulations to you for being sober and having the courage to talk about it.
Happy your sober well happy you both are. Addictions are very hard, I’m going on 5 and a half years sober and my hubby is 4 years sober. It was a hard road but we are doing better then ever. One day I’ll hopefully tell my story and help others to see that if people like me and you can do then they can do. You have to want to do it for yourself, I tried and tried because my family wanted it but it never worked. But when I lost my step dad and my mom a year after him I fell hard but I picked myself up and got help and tried really hard because I wanted it so bad. And I’m so happy I got sober when I did and happy I found my hubby when I did we saved ourselves and each other. Happy 6 years Steven and thanks for sharing your journey. 💜🖤💜🖤
I am so proud of you. Had tears in my eyes listening to your story. My mother is a alcaholic and to this day still denies she is. The hardest part is admitting to yourself you have a problem. I tried as a child for so long to try and "fix" my mother not knowing what I know now as a grown up She' has to admit it to herself that she is a addict for her to be willing to accept help. It's heartbreaking. I am so so proud of you. O im a mess right now with tears 🤣 so happy for you, Laura and your beautiful family ❤️
It feels good knowing I'm not alone in this battle for my life. I'm gonna be four years sober from cocaine this November myself. Thanks for sharing your story, Stephen.
Congratulations 🎊🎉🎂 that is an amazing story. I myself am an alcoholic and have been sober now for 7 years 3 months and 2 weeks. When I started I was suicidal and trapped in a toxic and abusive relationship and now I am Marrying a Cartoonist who I met because I was his fan. It's not easy I got Robbed a month ago I buried a friend who was murdered a few weeks ago and I just got my Fiancee out of the hospital, but it is worth trying it is worth hoping for better. Thank you for this I needed it very much.
This was very very brave and to the people who didn’t like the video, how could you not like this. It was the most raw and real thing I’ve ever heard. Keep up the good work Stephen! God bless you and the family..... or good vibes if that’s your thing.
You are so incredibly brave, never give up fighting even on your dark days not for your son or Laura but for yourself. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to be loved. You deserve to live.
You too are so amazing. I’m so glad that you found each other. I have never had an addiction to drugs or alcohol but my husband was an alcoholic. He decided when our son was born he stopped drinking. He did exceptional for about 20 years. Then he started to drink occasionally, which broke my heart because I had lost someone close to me to addiction. My mother sister Rosie, drank herself to death by the age of 44. She came to stay with us the summer before she died. My mother told her she couldn’t bring her alcohol but she did & she hid it all over the house.. she even hid it in the toilet tank. She would get drunk while mama was at work and she would fall in the floor. My mother had waxed floors & they were very slick. She would beg me to get her up before mama came home but me being 6, I couldn’t. She would just spin in circles on the slick floor & under the bed. No matter how hard I tried I couldn’t help her. They put her in rehab where she died during DT’s. She had just turned 44. She was a precious soul. So I never touched alcohol because of her. I had a hard time at first being around my husband when he drank because he reminded me of her. Not long after he started back drinking some he died of a massive heart attack, he was only 53. My life since then has been nothing but a nightmare. I lost everything including myself. I ended up having to move back to my hometown because I had no where else to go. He is buried 4 1/2 hours (one way) & I can’t even go visit him because my health has gotten bad. I wanted to move him but they said it would be around $10,000+ . We had no savings & I struggle just to keep the utilities on. I can no longer work & only draw a small amount & then we lost the house we were in to a storm on October 26. We had no insurance, because it was in my mother’s name & even though it was paid the cancelled it when she died suddenly. So here I am struggling to try to start again. I am so far down I don’t think I will ever see light again. I am struggling so hard with depression. I feel totally worthless and useless. There is no day that goes by that I don’t cry. I don’t have anyone to talk to but my son but I don’t want to bring him down, because I know he is struggling too. He watched his father die on a lonely roadside in another state. They had been on fishing trip when my husband died. It’s all I can do to keep going. I’m sorry I shouldn’t have burdened you with this. I guess I just wanted someone to care.
I'm so sorry to hear this. What you and your son had been through is tragic. I'm so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you need to heal in some ares of your life. It's difficult living with people who have alcoholism as a disease and incredibly hard to support someone who's sick. Please see if you could join an Al Anon family group for family who have seen their loved ones fall victim to alcoholism. A lot of times, children who have alcoholic parents or have seen other family members struggle with alcohol may choose alcoholic partners in the future. They often times have a lot of pain of their own as their family member cannot function to provide emotionally for their children. Please see if there are any support groups for family in your area as you will need a strong support network through the tragic things that happened to you.
I arm so proud of you guys!! I'm 413 days sober. I originally had 2 years but relapsed. I'm in the middle of reading Laura's book and it's phenomenal. Y'all are AMAZING
Amazing testimony! I related so much to you talking about isolating yourself in one place, as long as you had your alcohol & drugs! That was so totally me for years! Thank God I'll have 10 months sober in 3 days!! Thank you for sharing!
I listened more intently to this video than any other on RU-vid in all the years watching it. Thank you for sharing. Congratulations on finding a happiness that I hope lasts for you with all my heart.
Thank you for sharing. I have over 10 years sober 1 day at a time. I hope anyone who see this and feels helpless know that they can have a life better than they could have ever imagined. It happened for me.
This made me cry and I pray that my children won't have this horrible disease. It's not a choice and I'm grateful that awareness is being spread. So much love to you laura and steph
God bless you. I’m sorry you struggled I have schizophrenia and I’ve had panic attacks too. They are horrible. I am proud of yaul for being sober. Such an accomplishment. Much love to you three
You are. The only person who has even remotely come close to give me a grain of insight into my father's alcoholism. He passed away from it years ago. Thank you, you are a beautiful person.
I SWARE I LOVE these two human's SOOO MUCH!! I can relate to BOTH of them!! U BOTH are SOO BRAVE to bare ALL to the World!! It's soo HARD these day's to SPEAK on this DEADLY MAJOR ISSUE otherwise known as ADDICTION!! The video Laura did for her cuz that passed frm this evil disease, I WATCHED an CRIED rite with her!! She was soo RAW an soo REAL!! Stephen is a AMAZING SOUL jus like Laura!! They really ARE MENT to BE 💖💖 Thank U BOTH for speaking on ur own addictions an how it is VERY NORMAL to RELAPSE!! Only a small amount will go thru it all an NEVER AGAIN EVER RELAPSE!! That is a very sad FACT but it's a FACT!! THANK U LAURA and STEPHEN!! U TWO ARE AMAZING BEAUTIFUL HUMAN'S AND I ADMIRE THE BOTH OF U SOO VERY MUCH!!! SO MUCH LOVE AND RESPECT frm Florida!!! 💖💖🌴🌴💖💖
Congratulations on 6 years. You both are truly inspiring. And you make me laugh all the time. I don’t struggle with addiction, but my father does. And it is so hard watching him fade every single day. He doesn’t want help, but he want everyone to fix all of his medical problems. And now he is entering the worst stages of dementia. Thank you so much for keeping a smile on my face everyday. Love you both so much. 😘❤️
Thanks for sharing! We just put our 20 year old in rehab for 45 days. He has been there for almost 2 weeks. Praying he comes out a better person and can use the tools he is given to become sober and happy with positive goals.
Congratulations Stephen. I hit 5 years on the 8th of august. I will never take fir granted just laying in bed in the morning and being able to snuggle with my 4 year old daughter and her daddy. Not having to rush out the door from being sick. It is truly amazing.
I believe that Stephen telling his story is going to resonate with a lot of people. I truly appreciate him and Laura being so open and honest about their addictions. They show you that there IS a good life after sobriety. More power to them. Bless them both.
This story reminds me so much of my dads story. He was an alcoholic and used drugs and unfortunately we lost him July of this year to his addiction. He was only 52 and I wish every day I could've helped him more and miss him so much . It's a sad and lonely life. I'm so glad you are sober and living your life the best you can now!!! Congratulations to 6 years, it's an amazing gift every single day!
Both of you are a source of strength and inspiration. I have personally never fought the addiction demons, but I have a dear friend who has. I am beyond proud of how far she has come. I am proud of both of you as well. Thank you both for being so open and real with your battles, providing hope, inspiration and strength to those who are fighting their own battles.
Sept the 6th will be 1 year sober for me. It's been a very tough road but support from friends and family have helped. Something that still gets me and I cannot shake it is how much stress and how much I was a burden to them while I drank will still be with me for a very very long time. If you are struggling with sobriety, keep going forward. You are enough, you are loved and you are appreciated. Forwards ever, backwards never.
Thanks for sharing your story..... I'm personally struggling with alcohol at the moment but I really do want to get myself better and get back living life without being Intoxicated. Your story really is an inspiration Happy 6 years of sobriety🎉
Thank you Steven for talking about this!!! I'm a recovering addict also coming off the pills, heroin, and even crack!!! I've been on methadone for over 3 years I have had 2 heart attacks in 2 years so they recommended I not come off of the methadone because of my heart!!! But it's a struggle every day to stay clean!!! I did everything under the sun to get high everything!!! But having the love and respect of my adult children keeps me clean!!! I can't bear there disappointment!!! I love you guys!!!
WOW!!! What an amazing story!!! Good for you! I thought I was seeing a movie! What a journey! Soo proud of you for being sober, for having the courage to tell your story, and for giving hope to others who are struggling right now. Proud of Laura too for being by your side and supporting you all the way. And finally but not least God bless your parents for helping you and doing what needed to be done for your healing. YOU ARE BOTH AMAZING PEOPLE. Enjoy your wonderful LIFE AND FAMILY. XXX👨👩👧👧
OUTSTANDING TESTIMONY! Congratulations on your 6th anniversary and thank you for giving people hope who are struggling with addictions, that recovery is possible! God Bless you, Laura and Alfie♥️
Thank you for sharing! I always forget not everyone we talk to is in the program 🤦🏻♀️ I can totally relate to sooo much of ur story. My sober birthday is 10-28-10 thank u so much to u and Laura for sharing ur experience strength and hope with me and the world. 🥰
They really are my mom is a social worker and she used to work at a psych ward (now she works for people who are partially being cared for) and some stories she told were awful Some bad ones are when she had to see kids being tied down for various reasons (she worked at an adult psych ward put the kids one didn't really have those bed and straps so children were brought in too, she had to take a 2 year break just too like be grounded) My friend was in a kids psychiatric hospital (for a stupid reason nothing was wrong with her) and she told me about this boy who was brought in by police he was like ten and they held him down and carried him into a room with handcuffs while he was screaming and crying and trying to get away There's this movie called system crasher and it's about this kid with an Aggression problem and we both my mom and I cried a lot but it was worse for my mom because it really hit close to home because the movie was so realistic
No one gets well in those places i think, well how can they? The ones I've seen are bad, dirty walls urine soaked carpet. Ppl not being cared for properly or over medicated so cant even go to the toilet. No one can get well in a place like that. Ill never forget the smell of one in particular.
Stephen thank you for sharing your story I am so proud of you and Laura for getting help, you and Laura are wonderful parents, and I love you and thank you for the laughs 🤣 y'all are hilarious and we need people like you In our lives with all that is going on to help us smile ❤😊 I will keep yall in my prayers, God bless you, Laura and little Alfie ❤🙏🤗
I applaud you for sharing your story cause not a whole lot of people would share their life. My cousin just started rehab for alcohol and we have been with him every step of the way. I can tell you from someone watching your love one struggle, it's hard, but sometimes you have to let them hit rock bottom before they want to change. Congratulations on your 6th year Sobriety birthday.
I am seriously so glad I came across you guys. Getting sober meant I had to cut ties with all my "friends" and then covid hit so sometimes I feel REALLY alone, but listening to your stories i dont feel so alone now.
I have no idea what it would be like to be addicted other than hearing your story, but I will say your strong and very brave to tell your story. Congratulations on your six years sober. Be well.
Hi Stephen, your story really hit home with me. My husband is an alcoholic and really hasn’t had a year of sobriety in his life. Since COVID, he hasn’t been to a meeting and is starting to slip into his old ways by drinking a lot more. He won’t do zoom meetings and hasn’t. I would love if you could post your IG stories here so he can watch them. I think they might help him, because I can’t and it’s effecting our relationship because I’m becoming more bitter towards him.
I'm sitting here, sick with COVID and my husband's fell off the wagon, yet again. Thank you for sharing your story and thank you Laura for encouraging this. I've been grappling with what to do all night. This gives me a different perspective. One that I don't have on my own. Thank you both for that and CONGRATULATIONS on your sober b-day's, both of you and your babies. 🎉💝🎉💝🎉💝🎉💝
My family is full of alcoholics and drug addicts. Most of them are recovering addicts now, my uncle is has been drinking everyday since he was 16 years old, he is 54 years old and hes in the hospital because his liver is growing out of control and he had fluid around his heart and lungs. He was told years ago that he has sorosis of the liver and never stopped drinking then. I'm hoping it's not too late for him to get sober, you should be proud of yourself! You did it! You got out of that toxic life. I am 7 years sober from opioids! I cant even imagine of going back to that life
Thankyou so much for sharing your story. This is so close to my heart, I've been through the same thing with my husband. He is now 4 1/2 years completely sober. Thankyou for your honesty. Xx
I'm also in recovery! Thanks for sharing about your struggles. I honestly had no idea you both dealt with addiction and I've been watching your comedy bits for a year now. I'm gonna have to check out Laura's book now. Blessings to you both!
Thank you for sharing your story I have 4 years sober from opiates and as a addict every day is a struggle still to this day but I thank God every day I wake up sober I take suboxone and it has helped me tremendously I have had to cut ppl out of my life even my sister because my sobriety is more important to me than anything else it's ppl places and things ive realized that statement is so true
Thank you for sharing this. I really appreciate when you guys make these videos. There’s someone out there who watched this video and it saves their life. Thank you. ❤️❤️❤️
I come from a line of alcoholism and drug abuse. I’m grateful that I’ve never had to sober up, but I’ve watched those around me. People don’t understand the different wiring. I guess they really don’t need to all they have to do is show you love and compassion which is far more important in these scenarios. You guys make my day. Thank you for sharing your happiness
Thank you for sharing your story. My Ex lost his life almost a year ago to alcoholism. I wasn't with him the last few years of his life, but sharing your story lets others know there is hope.
You know what Steven you have shown such strength and determination, your story bought tears to my eyes to hear everything you have been through. I’d like to say a massive congratulations ( if that’s the right word ) you’ve done so well. I wish you a world of happiness with Laura and your beautiful babies xx
Congratulations on your sobriety! I was addicted to opioids like oxycontin and oxycodone for about a decade. I did lose everything even my kid but I got her back full time after 2 years sober . I've been sober 4 years now and my worst day sober is better than my best day using. I did it to numb out past trauma and anxieties. I'm so glad I did it and me and my bf done it together and we were the only support one another had atm. When we were done we were done and that's what I tell people when they ask how to recover that they have to want it or it will not work. Anyways so proud of both of you ! I love hearing success stories.
That was very brave of u to tell your story. I'm sure someone out here is going through what u made it through. Your story will save someone's life thank you. Everybody got a life story an i'm sure they don't want no one to no fearing judgement.
Thank you, Stephan! For 20 minutes I focused and listened to your story. Told so well, so beautifully! I’m sober but still have a huge hole. I’ve not done the 12 steps and I know that’s where I’ve gone wrong. Congratulations, to you, to Laura, to you as a family. You’re one lucky little boy, Alfie 💪🙏❤️
Hearing other peoples stories really help me stay clean..so thank you for sharing! It is a vicious cycle when you use pain pills, after years it gets to expensive and then you turn to heroin cause it's cheaper and you dont get sick...I had thought about quitting so many times because looking in the mirror it wasnt me..I had lost all my personality beside anger! I finally figured out there are medical detox programs finally got a bed, had 2 slip ups, ended up back in detox and a rehab program after and have been clean 5 years.
Thank you Steven , I just love when people are so honest. There is something so beautiful about that. So happy you have grown and are in a really great place with yourself. Wish you many more years of greatness. Thanks Steven xx
I really really think you two are just lovely. I sat here watching this smiling, you are both so honest and it really feels like you care. But then I felt all the guilt. Because all I was thinking was ‘I need to take some more codeine tonight, just to take the edge off’ but it’s ok I’m in control....I’ve just finished the most of a bottle of a wine and I sat watching this video smiling for you whilst literally thinking as soon as this finishes I’ll have some codeine. But I’m not an addict. That’s not me 😔
It is so brave to share your story Steven! I come from a family that have triggers and I almost fell into that hole. This will help so many people. Thank you and happy 6th year!!!! Congratulations. And Thank you Laura for sharing this! Yall are amazing
Thank you so much for sharing your story. It’s incredibly powerful. I know addiction all too well, unfortunately. I’ve been clean for years now, and videos like this are healthy reminders that I never want to go back to the hell I lived in those years. You are amazing. Thank you 🙏🏻💕
I feel beyond blessed you have been introduced to you both through social media 💯 I am a young single mother with an infant and 8 months of sobriety thank you for all your positivity and laughs! You bring hope to me and others Ive told about your stories. Thank you for being apart of my recovery and letting us be apart of yours
Thats awesome! congrats!! i can really relate to a big part of your story! I also developed panic attacks while sober. Its horrific, very scary! Thought i was having a heart attack, thought i was going to die! I now have almost 2 years sober! My life gets better everyday! ive been in and out of prison/jail several times, lost everything several times over. countless rehabs, but until i truly had enough and was truly ready nothing was going to get me sober!
Wow...how incredibly brave if you to put this out on a platform that can reach so many people that may also need help...hope your story reaches them!!! Extremely happy for you that you filled the hole in your soul ☺️
I’m so thankful that both you and Laura still exist in this world, and now your sweet son exists as well. Greater things are still to come for you all.
I'm 9 years sober off of crack cocaine and about 6 years sober off of opiates. I doctor shopped, lied, stole, you name it. I am on Methadone and some people don't think that's "clean" but it keeps me from doing all of those horrible things. Congrats on 6 years! Keep up the good work!
I’m so glad you’re still with us. Fighting a life long illness really blows. However the bigger picture is way worth the fight. I have lost the love of my life to his addiction. It took him on my birthday a couple of years back. Don’t ever take Laura for granted. I highly suggest she doesn’t take you for granted either. She came back to you after a relapse. She knew when to get out to keep herself alive as well. None of what you have now would have happened without everything in your past. I’ll gladly give the lot of you a view, like, follow, and comment to keep your good content coming and to allow your blessings to continue for your family. There are so many different ways to recover and live that life beyond that you described. The steps didn’t work for me, but a good program and support did. I’m on my 8th year! #WeDoRecover
Thank you, thank you, thank you, Steven for sharing. I have 20 years of sobriety and you will never know how much I needed to hear this. Complacency...
Thank you for sharing your powerful story! It’s incredibly brave. I’m so glad you choose sobriety and work so hard every day to maintain it. You are so funny and seem to be a great daddy! It’s hard to imagine you probably wouldn’t be living right now if you hadn’t of overcome your addictions.
