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The conversations you have with each other are so genuine. It shows that you love each other’s minds as much as each other’s souls. Your son is extremely lucky to have parents that are so open and honest with each other. It’s great you can be funny and serious and still have a strong relationship to take on whatever you have thrown at you ❤️
Alfie and baby are going to be okay Laura. You and Stephen are amazing parents and nurture has just as much to do with our children as nature does. I love your little family, you guys are going to be just fine. I suffer from addiction, anxiety, depression, adhd, and a couple auto immune disorders.. I worry all the time about my kids, but all we can do is our best job as parents to help our children grow up happy and to take care of their health. Hugs from Michigan ♡ I am much like Stephen, I cannot be alone with my thoughts or my anxiety and depression will consume me.
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@@strawberryme08 I wrote you a long message but deleted it bc I didn't want to leave my email posted for too long. I am aware of my iron deficiency, I am having infusions 2x/week and surgery, hysterectomy, on the 13th. I am also lacking adequate levels of Potassium and Magnesium. So a mineral deficiency or imbalance seems plausible for sure.
Bless you two for your openness regarding your life. I cannot express how grateful I am that you are bringing awareness of mental and ADD issues. Growing up in the 60's & 70's no one even had a clue what it was or even discussed such matters. Please keep on this mission to educate others.
I keep having to pause this video because it’s getting too real for me. It’s like I am having a conversation with my husband. Let me also add: Your babies have an advantage. They will know they have a biological history with depression and ADD and addiction. They will have clean parents that will be their best role models and cheerleaders.
Watching this is like looking in my brain, I'm sitting here nodding to everything you are speaking about, I just want to chip in when your talking to try and clarify my own mind, if that makes sence. But thank you for recording your bad moments as sad as it sounds, the issues you are speaking about are issues that need to be spoken about and identified less as a taboo subject. Thank you so much xxxxxxx
People who don’t have ADHD can also get depression and suffer with addiction. As I parent I totally understand how you feel but you just have to be there for your kids, regardless.
Laura, depression and anxiety and ADHD and addiction all run in my family. I have depression and anxiety and there are days when my depression and anxiety are overwhelming. My parents gave me these exercises ever since I could walk that may help. They encouraged me to ask questions, no matter how stupid and random. They encouraged me to be able to laugh at myself when things go wrong. It's helped me a lot. For my depression, they had me name everything great about myself and life. They'd sit me in front of the mirror and tell me to point things out about myself and they'd tell me great things about those features. Like my eyes, they told me that "They are ocean blue that one can get captivated in. Big eyes are so observant in the world around them. Your eyes are beautiful and useful." There are days that the depression and anxiety get to me, but I've learned to do these exercises on my own, sometimes it's even fishing for compliments, it sounds wrong but it helps. I hope this helps.
I’m sorry that you have to struggle with that, I know depression, anxiety and addiction all too well and wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. However, I just have to say that your parents’ approach sounds absolutely beautiful! 🙏🏻💕 I will take note of that for when I have kids, because depression runs in my family as well and I’m expecting they will have it. I hope with all my heart that they won’t, but realistically, with my family history it’s probably going to happen at some point. And I want to be prepared to the very best of my ability to help them through it with love and kindness. Your comment made my heart smile. Thank you for sharing.
Hi Laura, thank you so much for these videos! I've had very bad anxiety, burn outs, low self esteem, sensitivity for emotions and senses, difficulties to focus... Therapy only made it worse, until I saw your brain scan videos. I've always felt I relate to you and felt like we have similar personalities. I didn't know what ADD/ADHD really is before I saw your videos. I did a couple of ADHD tests and I scored very high. A month later, I now have ADHD diagnosis in my pocket. I've started medicine and I feel so much better already. Finally I understand myself and I can work on things. I will never feel bad, lazy, stupid or slow again. All thanks to you, Laura. ❤️ And I do think that actually ADHD/ADD is a super power! It's not a bad thing, it makes you creative, empathetic, spontanious, enthusiastic... Yes there's some downsides, too, but don't we all have our problems? I'm actually so grateful for my parents for giving me this uniqueness. Because of my oddities and the way I think of things, I got in the film and tv school and graduated as a screenwriter. There's lots of good things coming with this too, don't worry. ❤️
Oh honey. My dear sweet girl, we as mothers start worrying from day 1. It never stops. The thing is, you are aware of what is happening, your kids will be just fine mama. And please know you have inspired so many people Laura. SO MANY. And your laugh is just as contagious, you a shine about you. It is not a easy road but remember you are not traveling alone.
People who are adhd tend to seek each other out! My hubby and I both have adhd and it's amazing honestly. He has been reading up on it to help himself. You would be surprised how many people don't have adhd spouses and they have so much trouble with them. I love that my husband and I understand each other and make allowances for each other! Having depression, adhd and anxiety isn't a death sentence. Look for ways to help yourself manage it. It's not a death sentence. I promise it. I have generalized anxiety disorder, adhd, borderline personality disorder and bipolar disorder. It's ok Laura. The beauty is that you are both aware of what you have and are willing to do whatever you can to help yourselves and to help your children.
Laura you are such a thoughtful,affectionate and wonderful human and MOM.I am sending lots of love to you,Alfie,Stephen and baby❤Keep inspiring others.It's not just your funny side we love we love you even when you are feeling angry,extremely vulnerable and sad.
Hi Laura and Stephen , your both doing an amazing job of parenting Alfie, don’t let depression win, it’s so hard and I’ve been dealing with depression and bulimia for over 20 yrs, I’m now 42. Luckily I’m in a time of my life where I’m ok. We’ve had our struggles as a family and my husband had a major stroke 3 yrs ago which has impacted our lives dramatically, but we stick together and try and look at the brighter things in life rather than dwelling on the issues of money problems, and general day to day life things. Stay strong you two and hope your 2nd trimester is better for you and congratulations!!. Alfie is gonna be a great big brother... just don’t call the baby blahhhh 😂😂😂😂 lots of love from Debbie in the uk xxx
Girl-you need to focus on now and focus on at all the positive things in your life.You both are beautiful souls and great parents.Try not to sabotage yourself💝
its a very real and common worry to be this distraught for the things youll pass along to your children. my mother was so upset when i was diagnosed with cancer because she had a similar cancer. You both are wonderful and real parents. Alfie will be just as wonderful and real.
My daughter is adhd and has a wonderful life. We did make the choice to put her on medication. We tried diet and supplements first. As she got older she has actually expressed how she loves being on the medication. She's a great artist.
Some people do better on meds, and others dont. The trick is finding what works best for you. I'm glad she was able to find that out though, ,any people still struggle with it.
You two are lights in the darkness. Depression, et all, affects so many of us. You, Steven ( or Stephen), Alfie and the incoming will be okay....you are creative, loving and caring. And you have the prayers and thoughts of thousands, including me. Thank you for sharing your struggles... just know you are not alone.
You just gotta stick with it. You two make amazing parents and that's the biggest thing a kid with mental health issues can ask for. I have a form of schizophrenia and, to be honest, I most likely won't have kids because I'd feel so guilty passing that on since it nearly ruined my life. I can't imagine seeing a kid of my own going through that pain and struggle. You're not alone in worrying over that, but your issues are most definitely manageable and Alfie has a great chance of becoming an incredible adult someday with a firm handle on life. Keep giving him the love and attention he deserves. That way, if there are any issues, you can catch them early and minimize the effects. You have an amazing community rooting for you to succeed in life. So you're never alone in this and we all believe in you!
I wish I knew of a brain doctor that could do the same for me. I was worried that my children would have addiction, depression, and above all anxiety. It runs rapid in my family, and their Fathers as well. Hopefully things turn out well, and they have seen people with addiction, and they’ve also seen me save addicts as well. I’m very honest about it with them, and they see how badly drugs effect people. It’s just something you need to ensure your kids that you’ve done, and how dangerous and horrible it is. With the depression, try not to worry. Almost everyone has depression. Having both depression and anxiety is a nightmare... but you’ll know more things to help them by going through this yourself. You’ll do fine. You’re both great parents. Truth is, none of us know what the hell we are doing!!! We just wing it, and make the best. Lol love watching y’all
I need to fly over there and see that dr. I have serve anxiety and depression plus I’m a recovering addict and can’t remember $hit. My quack dr is constantly changing my meds it’s beyond annoying and frustration to where I cry constantly. Mad love and support sent from Pennsylvania 💕💕💙💙💙 one blue heart for your dog
I mean you definitely hit the nail on the head. Your children will absolutely be in a place for a pre- disposition for substance addiction and mental health issues. The awesome thing is that you know and realize what your parts as parents is here. You're in a place to be the best advocates for your children because you've got the first hand experiences to be able to share and inform your decisions. Heck, you've even written a book about it that your children can one day puruse if they really want to see the side effects of addiction. You're both taking steps to learn more about your brain chemistry and about your own mental health issues, which is not only going to help you help yourself; it's also going to help you help them. You're strong. You're smart. You've got this.
I love that you guys talk about this in videos. It helps me & im sure a lot of other people. ❤️ you all will be fine. Things will work out. Be positive.
Your videos have helped me so much. They are very insightful and real and other times just really funny. Sometimes I just need a good laugh. I appreciate both of you.
You guys are super amazing parents and the very fact that ure so concerned about all the issues possibly affecting ure kids when they are older is something we all do I think! Sending love and hugs from Scotland ❤️ xx
Your little family is going to be just fine! Now I'm not a doctor at all but I think you'll know how and when to tell your babies about these things! It's a worry and a concern but Alfie and your little bean has great parents to give them some love and talk about these important things! Proactive parents who are knowledgeable and loving can make all the worries a bit smaller. You both got this!! Love you, Laura, Stephen,. Alfie, and Little bean to come!
Don't let the power of deception get to you. You guys are amazing parents and honestly, your parenting style inspires me to be a good father one day. SO stop the BS and just live life.
Laura, you are soooo sweet to be thinking about your kids mental health. You are already a step ahead of sooo many parents. I have no doubt that my parents love me but they have no clue how to deal with mental health issues so I’ve had to deal with all that on my own and feel like a failure a lot. Your kids are so lucky to have someone who’s been there and understand the problems, and I know that you will do whatever you can to help them be the best they can be.
Alfie and baby are so lucky to have you both as parents. These things may end up being passed on to them, but you will be able to help them through these tough times, and hopefully with your history and now knowledge of drugs and alcohol addictions you will be able to help them steer away from them. Even if they do end up with problems in the future, all you can do is your best for them and that is everything! X
One positive is IF your son of future children have it then what an amazing set of examples they have in thier life! You will be the best advocates for them and be the best ladder to help support them in thier journey. Much love
Baby is happy to be here and happy to have both mommy and daddy's genes. It will be ok. I'm glad I have my adhd depression and anxiety because I can empathize with others and it has helped me be incredibly creative.
You guy's are gonna get this all figured out by the time he's 10. You will grow as you learn how to deal with everything. You're gonna be great mom and dad. Never Never Never Give Up! Youre beautiful and strong smart. You got this.
As a mother of three children two of which have some severe medical and behavioral issues I completely understand your fear and concern for Alfie and your future children it is so scary not to know what your child is going to grow up into and what struggles they might have but all I’m gonna say as a special-needs mom is that you love them the same and that you learn how to handle the hard times and cherish the good times even more as a mom I never thought that my middle child would have two brain surgeries before she was five But every single day I look at my children and I’m so grateful for who they are and everything that comes with them and even though I wish I could take some of the things that they have going on away I know that that is what makes my children special
All is well. You guys are great parents and Alfie will be fine. Hey, fighters are also contagious and you guys model that, and coz of that, Alfie will be a conqueror too. Love conquers all!
Everything will be ok. I promise you. You guys over came so much. You are the parents I wanna be. Open and honest with each other. You guys are amazing. I understand the depression part. I should be on medication for my depression but I don't take it because I have been addicted to pills since I was 13. So I find ways to help the depression. So your not alone in this world with depression and addiction.
Sweet momma 😢 I'm so sorry. I'm a loss mom and I'd rather struggle helping my baby then not having my baby at all. I appreciate everything you say, truly....
My son has also ADHD and also autism but he is managing it very well and is now 30 and has his own family . I also have a friend who is always depressed but she is the most sweetest person I know .
As a mother of three children two of which have some severe medical and behavioral issues I completely understand your fear and concern for Alfie and your future children it is so scary not to know what your child is going to grow up into and what struggles they might have but all I’m gonna say as a special-needs mom is that you love them the same and that you learn how to handle the hard times and cherish the good times even more as a mom I never thought that my middle child would have two brain surgeries before she was five But every single day I look at my children and I’m so grateful for who they are and everything that comes with them and even though I wish I could take some of the things that they have going on away
When my children where in kindergarten the taught my kids about just say no to drugs except you two. When you are told to take something from your dr or parents you are going to need to listen. I was impressed with the tribe helping to raise your child
You.are.amazing. Your family is amazing. I’m a respiratory therapist with a 3 year old and the overtime is making me sad bc I feel like I’m missing out on time with my quickly growing son. Aren’t sons AMAZING?! ❤️❤️
When I was little my mom always made me feel like I could always come to her if I had a problem! I always felt safe to come to her. I found that is what saved me and it looks like you and Steven are so open and honest and such amazing parents! He will be okay!
Literally cried so hard over that conversation. I have dealt with ADHD my whole life. From 5 when I was diagnosed till the day I die. I also have manic and bipolar. I am happier than I've ever been in my life. I learned to acknowledge the moments when they make themselves known. Take a moment to breathe. Think about what I'm feeling. Close my eyes, imagine a scenery, spell stuff out, count until I calm down. It's cliché but it truly helps. Natural herbs don't help except omega 3 and CBD oil for the manic and attacks. I haven't been suicidal in over 6 years and never plan to be again. It's a lot of mind over matter and self control. It's so hard. It'll always be there. It just depends on how you deal with it.
I believe your kids will concur any depression or add they may or may not have because you guys are such great parents. With your love and encouragement and constant smiles, anything is possible for your family. Love you guys. You got this 😉
Depression runs down boat sides of my family and I have it too, but I seem to manage it quite well and have since I was young, my other half also has it, so I know my little girl will possibly have it when she's older. And most of the people through history who have depression have been some kind of artist. I'm from North West England and you are totally right, we seem to do everything with our brain but I struggle to do that, I've also trusted my gut and heart and just use my brain for maths, with I do a lot without realising. I love watching all your vids cause you always make me laugh, and say things how they are. 🙂
I love how y’all are talking about this mental health. I think it’s so important. When you were talking about Stephen always listening to something it reminded me of the dr telling you to continue educating your mind. Also I think it’s so interesting the differences in both of your depression/addiction/etc. please keep these videos coming.
You both are amazing parents you will raise Alife and his sibling amazing. You will be able to explain why stuff you did in past you don’t want to them to do. You will be able to help them so much.. you will be fine.
Everyone has something to deal with. The key is to get past denial; learn about it; put the solutions into action. You are the best parents and if your children do develop the conditions you have, then who better to help them work through them. Your babies are ahead of the game because you both leading by example and you are taking the stigma out of having these disorders and getting help.
I love this candid conversation! I am literally in tears! I have suffered from depression since I was a teenager, diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, and generalized anxiety disorder. My husband is currently battling depression. It feels comforting to know that other couples are having some of the same emotional struggles. Stephen, I listen to podcasts, books, and movies when I drive as well, I don’t necessarily want to be alone with my thoughts either, sometimes they carry me to places I don’t necessarily want to be. Thank you both for being so open and candid!
Laura, honey, you guys will be ok. Dealing with ADD and depression is not an easy task but you will get thru it. It will be a long and trying road but chances are if you and Steven turned out well, your kids will too. I have depression brought on by grief as well as ADD and I manage. I have been dealing with my ADD without medication for nearly 9 years and I was on it for 14 or 15 years! You both are wonderful parents and the kids will turn out beautifully.
Girl, I have horrible depression and anxiety and I feel horrible that BOTH my kids have it too. But, the good news is, much like you, I’m a bad ass mom. And just like me, they will learn to count the gifts that come with depression. And for the record, all parents should talk to their kids about drugs around 10. You guys are doing awesome
Life is good here in Northeast Michigan, Laura. I am so glad Steeeeevuuuuun is getting the brain scan, and that the pregnancy is going well so far. I totally get the concern and worry over Alfie and the little Ewok you are going to have on Alfie's birthday next year, in regards to depression, and addiction, etc... Especially since there are others in the family who have previously or currently deal with these things. I have depression too, and I have addicts / former addicts in my family as well. I would be freaking out over it too. Thing is though, Laura, Alfie and baby Ewok have something that not everyone else has, regarding depression and addiction. They have not one but TEO parents who have been through it and came out the other side better people. They have TWO parents who will be able to get through to them and keep them from making the same mistakes. I have all the faith in the world that Alfie and Ewok (sorry for nicknaming your new baby Ewok. I am such a Star Wars fangirl and I'm just so damn excited for you!!!!) are going to be happy, healthy, successful, amazing human beings. They have the most wonderful set of parents EVER!!!!! You got this, momma. I promise.
You all have to do is give Alfie and your new baby love and support guide him. And do the best you can do, you made your mistakes and you have learn from it transmit that experience educate them. You don't have to be a perfect person or parents you just have to be there for them and trust the love you give them
Don't worry about Alfie. He has 2 fantastic parents that understands. I have depression. I take meds. My 10 year old has ADHD and he is brilliant. Straight As. He was diagnosed young and we got treatment young so its under control. Its the kid with the parents that "don't believe in ADHD" that you have to worry about. You guys are fantastic.
It's also great to teach alfie that it's good to talk about anything when hes older so if(god forbid) he does get depression, he feels comfortable to talk about it.
I'm nearly 30 I've very bad depression anxiety and social anxiety since I was very young I also have a disability it's tough but you get through it day by day sending you love from Ireland ♥️☘️
Always throws a curveball but we will get through this you will get through this you guys are very integrated and love your son and you just want what's best for him in his mental state in his well being he'll be fine you guys are doing research on each other in your life you guys will get through this it's OK to be scared we all are but we know Louis get through this.
Sweetie I found out my 3 year old has autism spectrum disorder a few months ago. Dont beat yourself up. Hes a happy little guy that will be a happy adult you guys are doing just fine
watched this during a soft moment, love you guys you're such awesome parents and clearly so good together. Those kiddo's are gonna be alright momma, you guys are doing awesome. Also I immediately downloaded that book to listen to because that stuff about gut feelings makes so much freaking sense.
Being alone with your thoughts is imperative. But constantly never dealing with anything in your brain only makes it worse as you get older. Do you keep a journal? Your brain needs you deal with stuff, even if it's tough. Even when the thoughts are dark and sad, it's ok because you have the ability to not act on your feelings.
I have depression anxiety and Spina Bifida/Hydrocephalus. Memory. reading comprehension and math issues (due to disability)problems as well. My husband had albinism and legal blindness from an accident. I worry about that everyday. I’m fine during the day but late afternoon/evening depression creeps in. Prayers to you all. My husband gave me the idea to start my own business of making molds of objects that museums want made. Museums are my passion.
I understand depression. I have been diagnosed with depression, anxiety, OCD, PTSD, and borderline personality disorder. I'm in recovery. 9 months and 24 days sober!!! But I do have a lot of depression with suicidal thoughts. I live in sober living and the rules in the house wont allow me to take my meds. Makes everything more difficult. Praying for u both.
