Lacey , Please don't feel like it will just pass. Go to your doctor and get some help. You will feel so much better. Postpartum depression is awful. I suffered deeply from it. I waited and waited and waited some more to get help and I just kept feeling worse. My mom and fiance finally talked me into going to my doctor for some help and I'm so glad I did because I felt so much better after seeing my doctor. I felt like I could be a better mom and just overall felt better about life. Hope you feel back to your happy bubbly self soon ❤️
I was also going to say, don’t wait! I had postpartum for 2 years and thought they might try to take my baby or think I’m a terrible mom. Please! I regret not doing it sooner. I feel like I lost 2 years of being with my daughter. I wouldn’t wish that on anyone.
I feel for you and I'm very glad your Mum and fiance were so supportive. I think post natal depression is very isolating and the general thought is having a baby is wonderful and everything is well in the world when the reality can be very different. It's the hormones, adapting to always putting your babies needs above everything, lots of visitors, uncertainties and sleep deprivation going on. It's a lot of pressure and responsibility to work through, cope with and those are things that always happen but if a child is sick or there were complications it make it even harder. I'm sadly unable to have biological children so I became a teacher and foster Mum so I haven't experienced these things however due to my illnesses I have and continue to have sleep deprivation for many reasons. It's incredible how much little or broken sleep can have an impact on everything from mood, memory loss, dissociation to one's body starting to shut down. I think by sharing your experience here in the comments and hopefully with other Mum's you meet shows that postnatal depression is very real and it's something that can be talked about without the fear of being judged and I think you are a special person for sharing your private experience. I wish you and your loved ones well in everything you do. Xx
It is hard to see someone continue to struggle, and I am glad she has access to resources if she so chooses to seek the help she really and truly deserves. Getting help is vulnerable, and typically when people are most anti getting help, they need it the most.
@@CMKCMK-ox3kd very wise words. I'm sick (twelve years ago when I was 32 my lifelong specialists gave me two years at the most to live which was realistic considering my extensive health history) and I have lost both my parents in the 18 months. When it was medically unsafe for me to live alone I moved back in with my parents. I was blessed with the best parents for me and I'm proud to call them my friends. We were a great team together looking after each other. Sorry this is a very long way to say that I don't ever ask for help but I'm coming to the realisation that because of my health I will need to ask for help from my wonderful support team. I never felt that more when two men broke into my house about three weeks ago when I was at home. My neighbours were amazing and dropped everything to be with me as they know I'm vulnerable. I can imagine you would be a good neighbour like that. I really appreciated reading your comment because it reminded me of my parents so thank you.
Speaking from someone who is in the mental health field and has been in therapy for years myself, you don’t have to wait for rock bottom before getting help. You deserve help before rock bottom. Many therapist offer virtual therapy these days, so even if it’s can’t-get-out-of-bed day, you can still access support. Just a thought. You are brave for speaking on this topic publicly and I’m sure many women feel less alone after watching your video. Be well Lacey!
Post partum depression can be horrendous. I'm glad you recognize it for what it is. And are taking steps that you need to take. So happy you have a good support system in Eli and both sides of the family. Bexley is adorable.
I've been trying to figure out for ages who Bexley looks like more.... after seeing Bexley with your brother Cody (crazy middles vlog) she looks SO much like him! Lacey, your families genes are strong 💪🏻 xx
@@julieypei don't know if you watch crazy middles..... but in today's vlog he said he had to get himself a baby 👶 🤣 the pure look of absolute shock on Lacey's face 😱🤣🤣 was priceless. Then their mom pipes up with "got to get yourself a girlfriend first!" 🙄 I could see him being a fab dad 👌🏻
As someone who has struggled with depression for years, I thank God you recognized having PPD. THANK YOU FOR SHARING, maybe other new moms will see this and it will help them. ❤❤❤
Awww Lacey!! You just take care of you and that precious baby girl of yours!! I love that you are getting your sparkle back!! Eli, thanks for loving and taking care of our girl!! You guys are amazing!!!❤🇨🇦❤🇨🇦❤
Thank you for sharing. Therapy helps through the lows, but therapy also helps through the highs! It’s been so helpful for me to stay on track, for keeping me inspired (and sparking✨), and it’s there so when I hit those lows again and can’t get out of bed, I’m not starting from scratch. Highly reco for anyone in any phase of life
Oh Lacey I can completely relate. I have suffered with anxiety and depression for my entire adult life. After having a healthy baby at 44 I sank into severe postpartum and I felt so guilty. Here I had a perfectly healthy baby but still wasn’t happy. So I upped my meds after a week or so and it helped immensely. I’m so glad you recognized it and are working through it. Therapy also helped too. I definitely missed you guys. So happy you’re feeling better.
sending you love!! and self patience, self mercy and compassion. it's okay not to be okay, it's okay to take time to be yourself again. and it's okay to get help even when you feel more okay. You are doing great even on your worst of days.
Let’s talk about how sweet Eli is. Taking Bexley so Lacey can take some time for herself. Absolutely amazing. ❤️ glad you’re getting better Lacey but take some time for yourself and your family! Mental health is very important! I’ve struggled with my mental health since I was 12. I’m 16 and still struggle, currently don’t go to therapy but I’ve been to multiple therapist, and was admitted to the hospital in 2018 for su*cidal thoughts. So please take time for yourself. Don’t over work ❤️ Hope Eli is doing alright, he looked really upset when you started talking about your postpartum depression. 🥺 he’s a good one. We love him.
I’m old enough to be your grandmother. My advice: Create a flexible schedule to guide you through the day. It is a must to go outside and immerse yourself in nature. I know it’s hot where you live, but even if you can just touch your bare feet in the grass every day, you are connecting with nature which is so healing to the soul. Make rules for yourself about what time you want to get up and when you want to take care of things you need to do. I wish you well and remember, in this day and age, there is no need to suffer. Medication just might be the springboard to a faster recovery. ❤️
I'm due in 6 weeks and 2 days. It scares me I have a history of depression and anxiety, I have a lot of support and I just hope that even if I do end up with ppd that I will get through it. Thank you for sharing. I really hope your doing better or as good as possible some days will be harder then other but just allow yourself to have days sometimes where you let yourself feel your feelings. Im glad you have support! It doesn't make it better or easier just helps. You got this mama
Hey girl! I’m so sorry you’re going through that❤️ I had post partum depression/rage with my second baby and it was soooo hard. I saw a naturalpath to help deal with my hormones which was so awesome I had relief from the rage almost instantly after her remedy she gave me. But I would encourage you to go to a councelor or therapist. I found it helped me so much to just be heard and sometimes when you feel crazy for your feelings it’s good to just have another person there who isn’t family or friend to support you. I know I struggled a lot thinking my husband and family were just extra nice and understanding bc they were family not because I deserved it (sad I know.) but it just helped a lot between the 2! Around 19 months ppd and I’m doing really well don’t get down on yourself it’s such a hard thing to deal with and at times it feels so unfair but you will get through!❤️ so brave of you ti admit to as well I know it was so hard for me to I denied it for a few months❤️
Big hugs sweetheart your amazing for talking about what’s been going on. You have a lovely partner and loving family make sure you keep talking and asking for help when you need it. Xx
Glad your finally at the point you can talk about. This means your getting over it. Eli your amazing standing by her when she needed you most. So proud of both of you and how you handle things
I’m just like you! I am always the strong happy one. I had a 5 year old, 2 year old, and had just given birth to twins and postpartum hit me like a ton of bricks. I didn’t go to the dr either but after a few months it got a little better and I would say about a year later I was 100% better. The twins are 5 now and I haven’t had any issues since. I’ll keep you in my prayers.
Wow. I dealt with post partum with all 4 kids. But recently having a depressive spell and would also say I'm going through identity crisis too. Thanks for verbalizing that. I am going to therapy for the first time ever and it's really helping. Stay safe!
As a person who has struggled with depression since they were a small child i can fully relate to your struggles. When feeling that way its hard to want to get out of bed, get dressed, be clean, eat, anything really. Even when you want to do something so badly your body just..can't. I think that it's really brave and inspiring that you talked about this because it could help other people who are struggling. Whether its realizing they're struggling or that they aren't alone. I'm glad to see you have such a big support group and that you are starting to feel better! :)
Thank you for your honesty, I know how hard it can be living with anxiety and depression just to exist sometimes. Bexley is the cutest btw. Love to you and Eli from the U.K. xox
I can absolutely relate to what you're saying, Lacey. Sometime you need to be down and just alone to deal with your feelings and other times it's great to reach out. It sounds like you know when you might need to now, which is good. Having a supportive partner is key. I was not so lucky but I did find other new mom's to talk with and relate to which really made a difference. I had one scary time, after my 3rd baby was born that I can DM you about, if you think hearing someone else's story would help you at all. The best thing you're doing is talking about it and letting your loved ones know what you're feeling and going through. I know sometimes it feels like an eternity that you'll be in a slump but you won't. As people remind me, a bad day is only for 24 hours then it's a new day. Most often, they're right. Just getting a good night's rest, which can be tricky with a baby, helps give you a new perspective. Hang in there. You've got a great partner and family to carry you through & viewers that care about you, too. You're doing great so please be gentle with yourself , take care of you and allow yourself those times alone to take a shower or get your hair done while Eli or another trusted loved one takes care of Bexley. You've got this and I mean more so than most, including people a lot older than you with different life experiences. Be proud of who you are because we can tell that those who love you most, are very proud 💗💗💗
Great to see you back. Sorry for the washing machine fiasco. Glad that you had some help with that. Thank goodness you have a wonderful supporting partner who can help you through life changes. Wishing you many peaceful thoughts. Take Care of yourself and do what you need to do to be well. We will be here whenever you are wanting to come back but, don’t rush it..
Thank you for talking about this Lacey! I'm so thankful you and Eli have each other, it's amazing to see how supportive you both are and that you're always there to give love and support whenever the other one needs it ❤ I haven't had post partum depression, so I can't completely understand how you feel, but I've been struggling a lot with depression, anxiety and other things so I get the mental health struggle. And I get your point about therapy, but I just wanna put it out there that therapy doesn't have to be about learning to talk about how you feel. You could get a lot of other great help as well, so if you feel like you just don't know what to do, maybe you just feel down and sort of like everything is a little heavier than normal, maybe giving therapy a chance could be a good idea. I hope you continue to feel better and better! And please know that we all appreciate when you upload a video, but there's no pressure and I think everyone understands if you need to take a break to care for yourself!
Prayers mama! You’re a great mom and it’s okay to take a break and work on yourself and mental health. I’m so happy you have the best partner to help you through this!
Definitely not fun having the washing machine flood! Nice that you were able to go stay with your family while it was sorted, hopefully the ceiling fix is quick and easy too! Also it’s ok to not be ok, we and your family are here for you no matter what 💙🫶🏼
Sending so much love. I've dealt with clinical depression my whole life and I cannot put into words the difference having a supportive partner has. You literally put into words how I feel about my partner when saying that Eli was there and understood that sometimes you just can't understand. Please remember that you're loved. We can wait for another video, it is so much more important that you get the help you need when you need it and if that means having a break from posting or just missing one post, then that's fine. We would all rather have you here than have a video.
Thank you for sharing your story about ppd. I’ve been struggling for awhile with postpartum depression after having 2 kids back to back and honestly it’s something that not a lot of people talk about. I did therapy for the past 2 years and I finally decided to stop and started feeling myself again. Stay strong girl. It takes a lot to admit you are not feeling yourself.
I wanted to let you know that I think you are super strong and very brave. Thank you for being so open and vulnerable with us. As someone that has gone through this with all 4 of my kiddos know that you are not alone. Things will get better and it is amazing that you have the support system that you have.
I am proud of you for admitting that you are struggling, you have no idea how many post birth Moms are struggling with the same feelings, that are pushing a smile to put on a show. You are an amazing Mom, woman, and partner. Please know we all love you even if you post a video crying, you don't have to hide your real in order to make everyone happy. Please take care of you first, we love and will be here. You truly do have a sparkle, love you all! Happy belated birthday, Mother's day and Happy Father's day!
Awww Lacie I'm so sorry I went thru that with my 2 kids and it was so bad they had to put me on meds. Your doing a job and don't let anyone tear you down. Much love to your family ❤️ 💙 💜
Oh Lacey, sending you so much love. Definitely reach out for help as you will have both good days and bad days coming up. Thanks for being so honest about your struggles, I'm sure you will help lots of other moms in your situation x
Lacey, girl, your the best and it's okay as a new mom to sometimes not be okay. Thank you for talking about it. #bigfan #loveyourfamily 🧡 Sending love from California 💙
I'm currently dealing with Hyperemisis Graviderum and although it's not the same as post partum depression or baby blues I can totally identify with the mental struggle my whole pregnancy I have had the hardest time being excited about pregnancy it seemed every day had something worse for me to experience multiple ER visits, migraines, constant throwing up, loosing 11 pounds, aversion to food smells everything! I couldn't enjoy anything let alone think about any of my hobbies. Thankfully I'm turning a corner now that I'm in my 2nd trimester but having a baby is so hard and so take the time you need to get through this!! We love your videos but you and your family always come first! ❤️
I literally started tearing up when you said you lost your sparkle. I relate to that completely after going though and getting out of an extremely abusive relationship, thank you for sharing with us Lacey.
Good on you Lacey for shinning a light on this. We need everyone to understand that post partum depression is actually pretty common but still so hidden and mis understood. I too had it but did not recognise it until years later when the fog lifted. It was sad that it wasn't diagnosed and instead people just thought as I was an older mum (you get criticism for being young or old!) that I was not coping because I was too old. I hope that you continue to improve and enjoy your beautiful treasure Bexley. 💕
i didn’t have postpartum depression so i’m not sure how it feels but you are an amazing mom and i love watching your videos, you are beautiful! 💕💕 Always wishing the best for you guys!
I’m so glad that you are feeling better. And your opening up to what you really felt like. I’m also glad that Eli is always by your side and a great dad to Bexley! But just a quick question does Eli’s tattoos mean anything to him?
The finch app that Halie uses is awesome in keeping you tracking your thoughts and emotions and it only takes less than 2 minutes at a time… and it’s ok realistic feeling blues… no one can feel happy all the time
Love that you took the time you needed for yourself, your partner and for your baby!! Being a first time Momma and one that strictly pumps(nurses) is very hard! And that feeling of (this is me thinking back when I had it ) why am I not happy I created this beautiful life and now I don't have my sparkle when I have everything to have a sparkle for and I just can't find it was so heart breaking confusing for me!! I was able to come back to full shine by doing what you are doing! Taking the time I needed, talking to my family, friends, doctor and/or anyone else who knew the feeling even when we can't explain it and would be willing to sit with me while I cried for what seemed like no reason! Eli your such a great support person for Lacy!! I love how you are understanding and patient even when you don't know the feelings Lacy is having!! Great job you two!! You all are a really strong couple and family!!
You are such a wonderful person, I’m so sorry you have been struggling and thinking that “it’s not that bad”. It’s a chemical thing in the brain and not your fault. My friend had postpartum depression and felt very isolated until she got on medication for it and that helped. Sending all my love!
Lacey, Eli, (Bex]. It’s ok to share things. And it’s ok to not share things. What you choose to share and how you share really is on you. If people get upset, or angry, that’s on them. We are lucky if you show everyone bits and pieces. Only ever understand that you do you. You live your life for you. We will be here cheering you on either way.
Hi Lacey! Thank you for sharing. Being a new Mom is not easy. You know it wouldn’t hurt to just go to the doctor for a checkup and share your feelings. Know it is normal to feel this way and a doctor can help you get over this. Think of it this way…..What is the Optimal way you would like to feel? We are in the 21st century! Why struggle when help is simply a phone call and one appointment away? And oh….You won’t even need to leave a voicemail! ☺ Now RUN don’t walk…RUN and make that phone call!
Thanks for sharing with us! I think it would be a good idea to talk to your OBGYN. They can hopefully help. They can monitor and make sure you continue to get that sparkle back.
Hormones are truly such a crazy thing. I deal with PMDD(different then postpartum but still has to do with female hormones) which starts around that time of the month, and it is awful. I started getting very bad anxiety/depression around this time and started realizing it’s really only around that time. I’ve thought about reaching out to a doctor as well. Just remember if you feel as though you need help, please reach out to someone they are there to help you not judge you. Most of them deal with these type of things themselves. And I’m the same way about burying feelings, but it can make things worse sometimes. Your feelings are valid and matter, and we 100% understand if you need to take a break sometimes. Being a new mom is hard. But Lacey you are so strong, I believe in you you’re an amazing mommy and doing your best.💕
Happy mother's day, happy father's day and happy birthday! That being said Lacey, please know that you are absolutely NORMAL! I realized teen mom-hood, definitely seems to experience PPD pretty hard. I think a huge piece of it is knowing our "childhood" is over because now we have a child who is having a childhood. Along with some rough childhood experiences, we get kicked a little bit harder. I'm thankful you have Eli to be right next to you through. You are doing AMAZING.
Oh, Lacey, I am so sorry you are going through this. Thank you so much for talking about it but please dont hesitate to seek help if you need it. I am so glad you have Eli. So many women do not have an understanding partner.
Thank you for sharing your story❤ so many women go through this and it's good to have people talk about their experiences and to let them know they are not along. 19 years ago when I gave birth to my fist baby I had no idea what was happening to me I was crying all the time I thought I was a terrible mum so I went to the doctor to ask for help and they actually made me feel worse and ashamed 😪 Because back then it seemed to be a taboo subject and there attitude was just get on with it. Thank God it's not like that now. Thank you again and I wish you all the best and it's great you have the support from your family xx
Thank you for your transparency and sharing your experiences. So many women go through this and feel alone and think it’s all their fault. I’m also happy you waited to talk about it when you were ( for the most part) Ready to talk about it. You are so strong. I’ve been watching crazy middles for years now. You got this. 😊
I hope things get better for you soon. I was thinking, for upload ideas maybe you can do Q&A videos or some challenge videos. It might help to have those on the back burner just in case you can't film that week or you're not feeling up to filming that week.?.?.?. Idk, just a suggestion. I know life is hard, especially with a baby. I was just trying to think of some ideas for you to still be able to work/upload (when you are feeling up to it), and not get too stressed. I know I watch everything that you upload so it doesn't matter to me lol! Again, I hope you, Eli and Baby B are all doing well😁
Anyone experiencing this should talk to their OB doctor. Can you imagine how this could have been if you both worked outside the home and if you didn't have your families for support and help?
I felt this blog so much with the PPD. After I had my son 3 years ago I realised I PPD after about 3 months too. And I am only just getting a grip of how to manage my surges etc. It helps to have the right people around you. Much love to you and the family from mine. You are doing amazing. Xxx
Oh my goodness, I watched your parents channel a little bit ago and was thinking of you, wondering how you have been doing! Big hug to you my dear one. Yes, going through having a baby brings its challenges in many ways! Post partum is no joke! We will be here when your up for it. Looking forward to see ya soon! God bless and lots of love from a Grandma in Cali 🌺
I just watched the Father’s Day video, and Bexley looks so much like Cody! Bexley is so cute, and she’s gotten so big! Y’all are a great family, and all your videos are so fun!
it’s so hard to recognize that there’s a problem, just know you’re not alone mama, i also had severe ppd, even now with my babe being 9 months i have my hard days! Your sparkle is always there it was just dimmed for a minute!! you’re an amazing mama never forget it!
Lacey never be ashamed or embarrassed and never worry about vlogs! Post partem is a big thing and lots of women get it after childbirth. This may be a great platform for you to talk to other mothers about it especially younger Moms like yourself who may not have the help of their moms to say to go get help. Always go and talk to someone. It will make you feel better. I never had it but I do know a few friends that did and therapy really helped them. Thankfully you have a great man there to help you through. take care of yourself.
Lacy, I had postpartum with my first Girl almost 18 years ago. I would like to say it gets easier as they get older but that is just not true. Hang in there as it does get better. Your lucky you have Eli as my ex didn’t get it. I did go on to have another girl three years later and it was so much better that time around. So don’t worry just because you had it once doesn’t always mean you will have it again. Miss your posts and hope to watch more soon.
Post-partum depression is so hard to deal with. Hope you keep feeling better. I had it after each of my kids before it was really recognized and accepted. My kids are now in their 20’s.
God Bless you! Very hard to cope with that. So happy you have Eli, he is so chill & loves you so much. You got yourself a winner there. You will come out of this and be a much stronger woman. Sorry about the tsunami in your house, how devastating. Kisses to your face!
Lacy, I think you are in your way to healing . Praying things will get better. The struggle is real especially when you have a new baby . Hang in there and know prayers are being lifted up on you and your sweet family.
You are so very lucky to have such a supportive boyfriend by your side. Eli is such a great Dad and a wonderful partner! I’m sure by you talking about your struggles with PPD will help others with theirs. Good luck sweet girl! Much love and prayers to you and your beautiful little family!
Hi Lacey and Eli, I love your channel and I hope lacey that your starting to feel more of yourself and you feel better. I know postpartum depression is hard to go through, I got it after my son was born in 2019 and I'm still dealing with it as well as being pregnant with our third.
Postpartum depression is so common in many women, I can only imagine how hard it must be for you. My biggest fear when I become a mom is to have that specially cus I deal with depression since I was 12 yro, and cus I know how hard it is for me to deal with it and for everybody around me as well, as in your case for Eli and your daughter, unfortunately affects everybody. But I also think that is good for you to realize it and what you also said about that video you saw of you and the sparkle that you used to have before this, bcus now you just need to focus on that sparkle, cus you have it in you, you are that sparkle you know?! You just need to find it and light it up, it’s not easy and it might take some time still for you to being able to be real good again, but you definitely can do it, we all can! Some times we’ll have ups and downs but we need to focus on us and our mental health and everything’s gonna eventually get along! Also I love my therapist she’s the best. I have faith on you 💗 hope things get better for you guys, love!
Lacey I am happy to hear that you are doing much better. I had baby blues for only 5 days. If your symptoms continue, go to the doctors it means your hormones are off and medication will get it back to normal. Love the show. ❤️
Dear Lacey, your video just made me cry 😭 I’ve been watching you grow for a very long time, you were such a bubbly happy little woman so determined to get somewhere in life, you have a beautiful daughter and a wonderful partner. I don’t really understand what postpartum depression is and just hearing you talk about it makes me so sad for you, please don’t forget something, you are being so strong and brave for just admitting you have it, you made the decision to get help and I applaud you for that, sometimes women struggle with it for years afraid to get help. Mental health comes in many ways and forms and is an issue that we should all address it so please never feel bad talking about it on the internet, it helps women who experience the same things as you! I’m glad you are getting the help you need I just want you to be happy. ❤️❤️❤️
I’m glad u feel better yeah having a baby is no joke! Please don’t be afraid to get help tho. They can assist u in getting your sparkle back! We are here for u!!!
i think it's really healthy to share if you feel up to it so kudos for sharing your struggles with us and being real. Glad Eli is a great support for you and that you both have parents close by.
