i knew a guy in university that tried pickup artist tactics. He became known as the can i get your number guy after a while. Lots of girls ended up avoiding him. its definitely not a good tactic
Honestly, about the girl who replied “yes” when he asked “is it because I’m ugly” I can guarantee you she only said that because she understood he was trying guilt trip her with the question. I’ve noticed a lot of times that it’s only the creeps who use that phrase to guilt trip after being rejected, so often so, that women will straight up say “yes” because they understand what they’re trying to do and are insulting them in retaliation for even trying it, and I don’t blame her, it’s a shitty move to begin with.
maybe he really is ugly. Is it really hard for people (like you, charlie and many others) to accept that women (and men) do reject people based on their looks? Charlie didn't say it outright, but him immediately trying to find some other reason behind why she called him ugly alluded to this belief. And you too are cooking up all kinds of other reasons instead of the simplest one.
Definitely true! Sadly some younger male viewers might not understand she ONLY said yes as an “escape strategy” to get out of the far too common aggressive arguments started by men who can’t accept no for an answer. His accusation of implying she was vain was designed to trap her by forcing her to stay and start defending herself. He basically turned her right to say no to him into a ‘moral flaw’ to guilt trip her over. So by not indulging him and just saying yes (ending both the conversation and any chance of him trying to make her walk back her rejection to disprove the accusation) she was able to get out of that uncomfortable situation quicker. It genuinely didn’t matter if he accused her rejection of being based on his looks, race, age, how he smelt, etc, a woman will just say yes in order to disengage and get the hell out of there.
@@Dipj01 Eh, If I'm not physically attracted to someone I just say that they aren't my type. Alternative theory, could also be that he got rejected because he walked up to a stranger and asked for their number, and then had the gall to ask if it's because he's ugly to garner sympathy? Who's to say, really 🤷
@@nic00001 op and charlie did (indirectly). Op's comment and even Charlie immediately trying to give reasons for why she called him ugly, gave that feeling. They didn't need to come up with explanations for such a simple thing. Sometimes, people are just ugly, and do get rejected for that without any deeper reason.
Yeah, I will say, probably the only thing I can compliment him on is that he's pretty good at handling rejection. He doesn't get mad or push the issue much, he just kind of accepts it and moves on. Which is good but he's also really dumb, so it leads to him asking five women in a group back-to-back if he can get their number while all the other women watch him get rejected first. So that part is awkward.
It's amazing how "i have a boyfriend" is still the strongest card you can play to stop creeps from harassing you. Like they respect the man they've never seen more than they respect the woman right in front of them 🤯
So by your logic he shouldn’t even have approached her? Regardless of how the woman rejected the man, he immediately turned around. Just because women use it so frequently because they are afraid to be honest and reject man normally it doesn’t mean what you are saying is true. Typical female, do what you know best (cook and clean) and let the men talk.
Doesn't stop the Evolved creep, which unfortunately does not take damage from the "I have a boyfriend" card. You may need to equip the "Pepper spray" item
I don’t go out anymore, but I used to literally wear a fake ring and it’s amazing how well it worked 😂 Guys would glance at it and stop without me having to say a word.
I totally agree about random passing-by compliments and their effect. This was almost ten years ago and I still remember because it was so sweet. I was just walking to the coffee shop from work and these two girls stopped me and said, “ excuse me, just want to tell you, you’re very beautiful.” And I said thank you, they said you’re welcome and that was it! We kept walking. And I still remember it! Lmao
Charlie still remembering that compliment those two guys gave him in college was so sweet, and also goes to show that you never know what simple compliment might make someone’s day, or their life!!!
Exactly, i remember nice things people said to me from when i was really little, it still makes me smile to this day. It is nice to hear others who also remember, because that means that someone probably remembers the good things you said, too!, although we may not know it.
mmm it depends There's people who don't like compliments of any kind at all so you may come as rude or scary to them, in that case it's safer to not say anything imo. I say this mostly because Im one of those people, I don't like compliments or talking to strangers, much less receiving compliments from a stranger haha no but really it gives me anxiety and sometimes panic attacks...
I had to call in sick once when I was an intern; when I came back two of my coworkers chimed in asking where I'd been and they missed seeing me. Beet red. My boss walked by and made a comment about it before physically dragging me by the arm back to the kitchen - this made me even redder. Compliments can be overwhelming but holy f do you remember them if you don't get them often. (granted that wasnt a direct compliment but it conveyed someone had a positive view of me and missed my presence, so it caught me off-guard and made me feel nice)
He actually holds the rejection world record in the straight% category, almost broke the rules there and went for a bi% in this footage but still an impressive run nonetheless
No Albert Ellis holds that record. He would make him self talk to women and was rejected hundreds of times. This helped him create REBT therapy. Because the internet and posting didn't exist, it's almost like it never happened, I guess.
Our society has truly reached the pinnacle of cringe (Edit is a restructuring of the grammar of the original comment bc people say the structure is messy)
They owe no explanation to this creep, and its probably for the best that he knows as little information about them as possible. He clearly refused to take no for an answer, there is no reason to be honest with him when a simple ‘no’ should have ended the conversation.
Oh my god that cashier saying we got this thanks is such a legend. I'm glad people like that exist to help people who are in uncomfortable situations, I'd want somebody to do that for me.
Honestly, I actually used to do that to girls that looked fine in my night club days. "Excuse me, just wanted to say you look fantastic" and then walk away. 99% of the time I could hear the "Aw thank you 🥰" behind me or see their face light up once they realised it wasn't a "routine". Felt like a nice thing to do once in a while 😅
As a woman, if I heard a guy asking for every womans number around me, i would not feel special and picked out and would definitely say no. It's a massive red flag, sign of a player. The one woman who says yes is gonna be desperate
@@Deathmare235 I think it would be like having two friends that you act differently around or that have different personalities getting into one group together
I think the girl in the gym did understand him because she went "O_O" when he said that wild shit. Sometimes going "sorry i don't understand" can be the best way to shut down unexpected flirting if youre uncomfortable (from my own experience at least)
what people don't understand is that he knows he's bad at picking up girls, he just does it to get more 'famous', more views etc. And clearly it worked. In order to get easy clout online is to make people upset so that they talk more about him/her. It's so stupid it has gotten this far but people will never realise or learn to not make stupid people famous.
@@pancake1751 On the contrary. Stupid people have always been famous. Ever since the dawn of mankind. However, these people obviously only got mockery and disrespect, deservedly so, by their audience. Having clout for being a clown isn't an achievement, and some people somehow think it is. People will laugh at them and go on with their lives, while the clown's fame will die out in a week.
"Artist" (as in pickup artist) is the perfect definition, cause when you're doing art you don't expect others to understand you. Even when that's the whole point lol. I once met a pretty famous dating coach and the way he talked about it was more like a science, cause it has to work and there are specific things to do like, *to not be a creep* (for example he talked about how comfort is very important, so you never approach during the night, in isolated or private places, you never put yourself in front of them so that they can keep walking if they want to, you dress decently so you don't look like a creep, you keep your distance and don't start off strong but with a simple compliment etc... which I thought to be very reasonable stuff)
Or you just want to be more likeable. People don’t naturally know how to effectively communicate. Good communication is learned. Unfortunately not everyone is as fortunate to get good opportunities to learn. Many people have social disorders that make it difficult to interact with others. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be better at talking to people.
@@1WEareBUFO1 100% agree with you, and then again, what can you do about it if not to try and learn from others? I was an introverted kid that grew up to be extremely shy, lived around aged people, rarely peers. Then quarantine hit when I was 16... Now, I know I didn't go out of my way to improve cause it was so scary, so now I'm left with the results, but should I just leave things as they are because I wasn't deal the best hand? Working on it is absolutely terrifying *by itself* , books, courses etc... are a huge help cause they give that baseline to work with. Sure it's artificial, but that's only until you make it yours and tweak it to your style and personality, and it's not like you don't use common sense to filter what you learn.
@@1WEareBUFO1100% agree with you, and that's exactly the point of it I believe. Taking myself as an example, I was an introverted kid that grew up to be extremely shy, spent most my time with old people (rarely with peers) and got into lockdown at 16. Even trying was just too difficult for me, so I never did. Social interaction *was* a sport to me, took me a good 3 years to get it straight, and informations (books, courses, videos etc...) helped a ton, because they gave me that baseline I lacked, and now I can get even more from them (since I understand them to a deeper extent). I don't think there's anything wrong in having deficits in life, the hand you're dealt is usually shitty anyway, might as well try to improve it.
@jazzabighits4473 No by itself should be a good enough answer. Women only lie about boyfriends because its the only reason that other weirdo men think is good enough.
Charlie youre the only creator i subscribe to i click all your videos. The fact youre witty snd intelligent without an editing team and gimmicks and without writing scripts reminds me of vintage RU-vid. Youre the man,yo.
Every time I think I've seen the peak of secondhand embarrassment, charlie finds a new summit. This video is like a masterclass in what NOT to do. The gym pickup line had me facepalming so hard I almost hit a new PR.
What Charlie said about complements is so spot on. As a woman I I feel like I need to be on guard if a man says something nice to me because it’s almost always followed by asking for a number or something. Not to mention the “complements” that borderline belong in porn. I try to complement people (especially women) as often as possible, it’s a little hard because I’m autistic and don’t want people to feel uncomfortable which is hard for me to “read”. It’s something I started to try better my social interaction skills. A simple “oh that’s a nice nail polish color” or “you have a lovely smile” and move on with your day. Normalize complements to other without wanting or expecting anything in return!
Something about how charlie remembered not only what he was doing but what he was wearing as well but just a single compliment he got years ago is very wholesome those passing compliments do go a long way
@thatrandomcrit5823 ive heard so many guys have this experience. that they dont neccessarily get often comments so the few or the one they got they cherished it and it just stuck in their memory. generally girls get more compliments often and it gets harder to remember them separately or specificly
@@helixxia9320Yeah, I know, that´s why I´m saying, it´s not wholesome that we can remember it, it´s sad that it´s so rare that we can count on one hand the ammount of compliments in years
@@Cyphonit’s a common pick up tactic. If he had paid for the shoes then suddenly he’s “owed” her number and that could get hostile very quick. And the fact that she had already paid for the shoes but he decided to stay there meant he needed to be pushed away from the situation.
@@sotch2271 uh oh, someone's cranky that women aren't caving to social pressure and are instead telling losers to get lost! Maybe you'll feel better after a lil nap, champ ☺️
On the other hand, Charlie took that cringe to your doorstep. Without his involvement you'd be spared the cringe you just endured. Charlie is the ominious man who both, gives and takes.
Not only did the girls see that he's asking every female in sight for their numbers, he's doing it so thoughtlessly that he almost accidentally asked a group of guys, *and* he's pointing a camera in their faces as he does so. I may not be very experienced with this sort of thing but I can't imagine that sort of behavior would instill them with faith in the quality of your character.
Exactly this. Asking someone for a number after a small talk while acting as a decent human being at the same time is totally fine. But this here is just cringe.
Honestly, regardless of my relationship status, if someone had a phone in my face while asking for my number, I'd probably give whatever excuse I thought that would make them go away the fastest. _"My husband will be here shortly- he's bringing our 8 rabid bulldogs, they're so cute"_ or _"Oh yeah, I'm actually a monk- I can't have impure thoughts or I'll be dragged straight into hell"_ or _"My girlfriend is 7-foot tall giantess, and I like getting stepped on too much to consider leaving, sorry"_ or how about _"Mother says I can't have relationships after the last one or it's back to the attic again"_ Like, piss off with your cameras in people's faces. People aren't your content gremlins. It's weirder to treat them that way than using those stupid pickup lines.
I gotta say, in regards to complimenting strangers - I try to do that whenever I see someone in the street who I think looks cool. Just a quick "hey, you're rocking that look." People really light up. Spread kindness, folks. :)
I also do this a lot! But it is funny catching people off guard with a genuine compliment sometimes, because you can really tell who isn’t used to it, and at first the person will almost look offended like “what’s wrong with my shoes man?!” And then realize I actually just told him “hey bro those shoes are dope!” Etc. And watching them go from WTF to 😊 is always cool
It's awesome to compliment people, I love seeing their faces light up. Old folks have really cute reactions usually lol. I have a harder time complimenting men my age because they always think I'm trying to flirt with them 😅
The theory about the more people you ask, the higher the likelihood of a yes, didn't specify to not let every subsequent woman witness you ask and get rejected by the previous. It basically turns it into the more you ask the lower the likelihood of a yes.
Honestly, shout out to that cashier, who looks at the friend you see him mouth 'do you know him', the camera slightly pans to her friend and you see the confused look and the cashier says hey man we're all good, you good? Very happy to see men stepping in and getting bad men away from people, it makes us all look better and reminds me people can still be good!
I don't wanna assume anyone's sexuality but he seemed kinda fruity and if he is, he not only has had to deal with creepy men just by being around them but also from dating them. Love the support regardless!
Because men are monsters. We are seen as a danger and exclusively so. Instead of kindness, retaliation is a frequent experience. I’ve understood it though. Truly. I’d have it no other way.
In what world would anyone reciprocate flirting when it starts with a camera shoved in their face? Even if there was a chance it would work normally, the camera immediately says "im not genuinely interested, this is for a stupid video, the internet will laugh at you if you give me the time of day"
Idk why but Charlie saying the creepy dude could’ve befriended the group of guys and formed a basketball team was adorable. Guys just going around making friends to form little sports teams would be fun to watch
Remember fellas, the best way to compliment anyone, is to do so without expectation and with something to genuinely compliment them for. You can even compliment looks without being sexual about about it.
Held a door for a lady at the gas station and she said thanks, you're really handsome. I looked around like who was she saying that to? Then I realized, oh hey she was talking to me. I responded: WHAT? oh... yeah you too. Lol am I smooth or what? I STILL GOT IT BABY
Another thing i want to talk about is that most of the women said "I have a boyfriend" as a response and i believe that not all of them didn't have a boyfriend. Not because they're ugly or something but we as women are programmed to say that to a guy who automatically gives us the creeps bc of "no." We can't just say no because no is something some men can't simply accept. Ive heard plenty of news from women rejecting men and they get assaulted or killed because of it. So instead of flat out rejecting, we are programmed to use a fake boyfriend bc some men respect men more than the simple consent of a woman.
I don't think it's respecting men so much as most guys don't want the hassle of dealing with the potential "her boyfriend may want to kick my ass just for asking her out" granted there are guys out there that are stupid enough to want to fight a girls boyfriend, I guess to "prove" they're better than the guy the girl is with. It's still pretty stupid all the same.
@metalteuffel2484 I think it's more of a "oh she's already taken" mentality. So yeah its more like, we think it's harder for men to accept we are not interested in them for whatever reason because that might hurt their feelings. And well, men are not very well known for dealing adequately with their emotions. So the best reason to give is "it's not you, I'm just already taken"
@@1Peasantit depends, not everyone will protect you if you get attacked. I've seen lots of car accidents where the people around didn't even bother calling an ambulance and just continued to walk away.
I believe that even without his phone on their faces he would have never get a phone number, why would anyone give their phone number to random strangers on the streets?! It makes no sense to believe that this is how you meet people.
@@Devi_Seona It does happen, if he goes out to the nightclub and truly tries without a camera, I bet he could get a couple girls numbers (drunk girls don't count, I mean ones in lines for clubs like in video)
I try to compliment people whenever I'm out, mostly on like, their outfits or accessories. I'm genuinely not hitting on anyone but sometimes people have a cool look or hairstyle and I want them to know that!
@@Zenith_Star69 Talk all the shit you want, I bet he gets laid more than everyone here in the comments. At least he's out there trying. Making fun of him is like making fun of fat people in the gym, even if they're hopeless and just at the start of their journey there's no need to make fun of them or their efforts.
Oh, we get it, Charlie. We always get it, even the weirdest pick up lines. But making them repeat it, or even explain it, thus sounding dumber, makes it so much better.
not gonna lie, I think those first two women were probably just non-native English speakers judging by their accents. So while it's true women just pretend to not get it, I like the think it was just a language barrier issue haha
No offense but this is just a**hole behaviour distinguished as playful then. Also not every girl is as dirty minded as you so I doubt you speak for all here.
Story time: When I was like 17 for prom. I stopped by a gas station before meeting up with friends at Red Lobster. I got out and went inside to pay for gas and an older black gentleman sitting inside "ooooooo weeeeeee, you lookin sharper than a tack my friend'. I thank him and carried on but that shit made my night lol. I'm 22 now and I don't think I'll ever forget that.
Oh yeah, giving random strangers genuine compliments without expecting something in return is very wholesome. It also makes the other person's day, and it makes me happy that I made them smile. I think everyone should do it once in awhile.
I do think that the key to a genuine compliment is the walk-away. You drop it, smile, and make your exit, that's it. You expected nothing in return and you made someone's day!
True. If you stay and wait for a response, it makes the whole thing awkward and makes it seem like the whole purpose of giving the compliment was because you were expecting something in return for it.
Just invest in your passions and find someone who shares those :) you enjoying yourself and life in general is the best thing you can do! Good luck and goof vibes coming your way
that was the most cringe moment of the entire video Imagine wanting to be an independent woman and strong but also wanting some random stranger to butt in because you're too scared to say no to somebody in a public place
@@RenixGames That's what makes it even worse. Somebody else being nosey thinking they're helping by White Knighting for somebody they don't even know and who might not even want that.
7:39 it's nice to know even guys like Charlie feel this way about random compliments. Guys get complimented so infrequently that it can completely throw you off guard, and be something you remember for YEARS just cause someone said something nice about you. I can count on one hand the amount of times I've been complimented by a stranger... And I remember each and every one, specifically.
@@0TheJigsawKiller0 haha hell no I certainly won't be like that! And while I have a bad memory and can't say specifically when, I know it's within the last week or so! I try to make a habit of doling out at least one compliment every time I leave the house - but I never force it. I simply tell myself to say what I'm thinking when it's something nice! And so the last compliment I remember giving to a guy was a dude with some nice, straight long hair at a gas station after I got off work. I remember, because he said thanks and, as he was passing me, he said "Oh hey, and you, too!" Since I have a ponytail just like him (but his hair was far nicer than mine) XD
@@0TheJigsawKiller0 Personally, I am very much an introvert. Like extremely so. If I even speak to a stranger, they should go buy themselves a lottery ticket. You would have to be the very embodiment of beauty itself to ever wrench a compliment out of me as a stranger. Even then, I'd likely be too nervous to say it out loud so I'd stick to thinking it.
@@BSPancake I consider myself an introvert, too! I wouldn't say it's as strong for me as it is in your description, but the way that helped me with my "make a compliment a day" thing was that I really like making people happy/smile/laugh so I just think of it how it'd affect me. If someone said the kinds of things I try to compliment, it'd make my day and I'd be thinking of it till I went to bed and probably into the next day! So I just wanna do that for other people :] Dunno if that'll help you or not, but maybe you'll resonate with it!
there's something every woman in my life does, even the most shy of the shy and it's giving compliments when you see another pretty woman. don't hold back, just say it. "hey, you're gorgeous! where'd you get your pants? do you work out?" literally just say it. i know guys and woman who give honest compliments and their friends blush EVERY TIME no matter how they're feeling. it's the best.
You'll likely never read this Charlie, but seeing you talk about your basketball group and friends overall at every opportunity has gotten me to start reaching out to people I lost contact with after isolating myself. (Edit: everyone here has been awesome, thanks folks!)
It's hard, but I'm proud of you too. I go through periods where I isolate myself for one reason or another as well; eating relatively healthy, getting sunlight, going out and about can help immensely to get your head out of that mindspace. (bonus points if you get some gym time in, helps keep your mood up, but its not a requirement)
