This is How Emotions Ruin Our Logic 

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'they will use their logic to overcome their emotions. They will set their emotions aside, they will suppress their emotions and they'll approach things in a very cold and logical manner ' And grownups will call that 'maturity'. I feel bitter and cheated out of opportunity to learn appropriate skills to have a wider range of functional modes than just 'cold and logical' or 'snivelling puddle of snot' I feel ashamed that their approval meant so much to me that I forsaken myself.

I've started getting in touch with my feelings only about 3 years ago. And i'm 27. Retrospectively, it feels kinda late... And I'd been failing to organize my time 'logically' because I was unaware of how events or ideas made me *feel,* and how thise feelings would affect my behaviour. And then I just blamed myself for 'not doing well enough'. I was taking my feelings out of the logic. Out of the equation. That cannot work.

Anger is the most destructive emotion towards logic in my experience. it just completely subverts it which is why I never make decisions when I'm pissed off and I try to get away from the situation and try to make decisions when I'm more cool-headed but this took years to learn because of the relationship between ADHD and emotional dysregulation

Emotions are only ruining your logic if you dont understand the information they hold for you.

Yep that was me as a kid. I spent like 90% of the last 21 years of my life biting the bullet on not growing and cultivating my emotions, trying to brute force everything with logic. I grew up in an environment where intelligence and logic was praised but emotions were an alien thing. So I’ve been working on growing my own emotions for the past 1-2 years, and it’s been pretty helpful. Personal decisions don’t stun-lock me as bad as they used to, and when they do I know why. I’m able to do art and poetry again because I now have emotions that motivate the art. There’s still a lot of work I’ve gotta do but this is a good start.

Me: feels emotions as a kid Parents: wtf... just use your brain lmao Me: turns into whatever the fuck I am rn

Sometimes this feels like the only way. To have key daily milestones in a calendar/to-do list and to “logically” try to march through them despite feeling terrible, in hopes that consistency in those carefully planned key activities (that include exercise, self care) will bring an eventual change in mood/mindset.

I personally feel that in order to live your best life, you have to be able to balance logic and emotion in a way that works. Essentially, learn when you need to use logic, when you can use emotion, and when you should use a good combination of both

Don’t assume the intentions of another person without a firm grasp on your own emotional state in the moment.

Reject emotions, embrace stoicism.

I’ve never heard it described that way, but that’s definitely what I did. Thanks for the insight.

It's kinda funny that I considered myself logical when I was little and I was but, then I let myself go, and listen to my emotions more and because I didn't know how to manage them healthily, those emotions started to overcome my logic. It felt like my logical muscles were atrophying while my emotions were getting stronger as if they had a vengeance.

Exactly. I’ve been learning to actually feel my emotions for the past year instead of just shutting it all down to protect myself

I know shorts can only contain so much info, but I feel like this could have used just one or two more lines about how pushing emotions aside doesn’t actually stop them from hijacking logic. I think that would tie the message together more clearly for people who are new to this.

The worst thing is - this is also what most people expect from us. To be rational and reasonable instead of reactive and impulsive.

But actually, every emotion has a thought behind it, so emotion is really logical itself but you just have to find it.

I'm a very logical individual who's also very emotional, but I tend to suppress my emotions in order to navigate life through the light of reason. More often than not though, my emotions manage to take control of my brain, impeding my judgment, and I end up hating myself for not keeping my stoic composure.

Logical folks channeling their demons towards lifting ungodly amounts of weights: "My goals are beyond your understanding."

Anger is still an emotion.

This is exactly what happened to me. I spent too much time suppressing and bottling up my emotions to make sure that I always looked at things from a logical perspective. But I am an emotional person by nature, so thankfully, I managed to realize my error while I am still young and have learned to embrace my emotions more

When I was young I struggled with emotional dysregulation as I was constantly in meltdowns and angry and going deep into depression very early, grieving a lot inside. I didn't learn to process my emotions as well, just how to neglect, overreact or suppress - as my parents each in their way we're doing. Now in therapy I finally start to feel things, talking about it, letting it in and letting go of them. Through meditation and mindfulness. And now my brain comes to rest and I can finally make decisions from an intellectual and emotional regulated space. Less impulsive and still no stoic self-neglecting shit.

It's true, I've been called smart my entire life, and this is what happened to me growing up.

Only recently have I understood that feelings will not go anywhere unless I feel and process them. I always thought my feelings will go away if I ignore them long enough. Even if I solved the problems with logic. I realized the feelings of problems will *not go away* even if the problems are over. Why did no one ever tell me that before, I never knew.

guess i lost the game, no emotion, just logic, dumb as a bread

being logical only made my depression much worse. now i try to balance logic and emotion and let them work off eachother. its been working out very well so far. i think its an important skill everyone should learn

I am a quite smart person but overwhelmingly emotional at the same time. My intellect tells me to do one thing and sentiment tells me to do another. Diagnosed ADHD, hate mornings and can't sleep during nights. Overthink all the time but mostly goes with logic even when my emotions are too overpowering. It's so confusing whether I did the right thing or not and 100% of the time I just end up hating myself. 😅

In a student 19 years old.. always tend to have logical approach..but when you encounter someone your suitcase of emotions just blasts open..and then things get fucked up

Just one of the numerous reasons why as a kid I felt like an alien among other children

Without emotions, logic is meaningless Yet people can't see that for some reason and focus so hard on "conquering" emotions when one should live with them and understand them, not suppress them These "logical" people are so often short sighted

So, how do emotions ruin our logic? “They just do”

Some posts call you out. And then there are the posts that call you out by your full name, middle name included.

a recipe for burnout. logic can solve your problems but emotions they never go away.

The culture also stimulates to suppress emotion with logic.

So accurate it’s scaring me

Daaaaamn, well you got me again.

I needed this…

This is a beautiful way to describe wise mind from DBT 🙌🏽

sheldon, is that you?

I’d say this is the prefrontal cortex overriding the amygdala or vice versa. They don’t usually like sharing the drivers seat 😅

Remember! During a disagreement, you cannot overcome how someone feels with a logical explanation! You must use questions to understand an emotional persons point of view. Seek to understand before being understood! And to those who are too logical, be aware of the assumptions you make! Only by asking quality questions can you gain a better understanding.

At the same time Logic ruins our Emotions

I tend to feel the emotions at the same time as figuring the logical thing to do. The problem arises only when I choose to react when the emotions are high. If I wait for 10-15 minutes and then approach the situation, then I can consciously decide whether I let my emotion lead or my logic. The buffer period before response is the key, in my opinion. I guess everybody is different. Basically, I seem get annoyed/angry easily but it goes away just as quickly.

once I realized I lean too much to logical I tried learning about emotion but I feel like it had made me manipulative person.

"They'll act in a cold and logical way, surpressing their emotions" Man really called me out there telling me why I crush hard on nerds; because they treat me coldly without respecting my emotions and I love it torturing me

I am happy that I know what my emotions are. Most of the time. But at the same time, they're not a part of my life. I haven't made an emotional decision... I dunno how long I can't remember doing so. I really never speak about how I feel. And i guess that's bad. But I think it's also a kind of protection for myself, the same way I use humour to guard against other people pointing out my mistakes before I can fix it myself. I think other people knowing how I feel will negatively impact me. Which is probably why my online friendships are way stronger and longer lasting than my irl ones. These people don't pose a real threat to me so I can actually open up to them. I could never do that with someone I meet in reality.

I think I use both ..and used both as a child

My guy describing intp to a t xD

But some things I don't understand: 1. How to "train/develop" our emotional intelligence? 2. Where and when to use logic or emotional? And can both of them be used at the same time?

Yea this happens without you realizing it so often, for the longest time I rationalized not going to the gym because I wasn’t doing the perfect routine, so there was no point in going because it was a “waste of time” but thinking logically going is better than not going, no matter how uninformed you are.

I’m super emotional and let it get in the way of my logical thinking, and my brother is so logical he lacks emotional intelligence. It’s like we were born with an uneven share of the 2. He took all the logic and I took all the emotional cells. So annoying

I am a 37 yrs old male who had been logical, rational and empathetic for most of my life, but that didn't help me with my relationships at all. Emotional awareness and expressions are more important to have successful relationships.

No human likes their ego hurt. When someone can't win by being better, they try to win thru delusion, emotion, or by cheat. One of the hardest issues for humans is humility, even when their emotions are hurt. Some people are such sore losers that can't admit defeat. And by refusing defeat, don't see error in one's ways or the need to train harder so we can win fairly eventually (if we even have that potential because humans aren't equal).

You know I came into this video thinking here we go, another video where people praise cold hard logic and ignore that emotion is a very valid thing to feel. Glad to be proved wrong

What happens if you realize you have to be nice to yourself because that’s logic but still feel a sense of detachment. Like I’m aware but I have no idea what to do next. Nothing really changes

Kinda see this in my siblins where one is pretty emotional and dumb and one is cold maybe a bit depressed and smart

So basically smart kids are Vulcans.

Logic isn't the opposite of emotion. It helps you feel better than how you would feel illogically. Only idiots think they're so smart they can hurt others and don't feel bad about it.

This dude is a Vulcan

that's a good point drk but i feel like there is way more to this. for example people who are smart not only use this technique but other types of people do this as well, for example people with ocd.

Depression makes me tired and get behind on stuff. Logic be like meth will give you energy motivation and free time cutting useless sleeping out. So liberating

So how do we balance this? Geniuenly asking

Describes me perfectly

So many refuse this much common sense.

There's nothing wrong with being in touch with your emotions, but you can't allow them to control your thought process. It's perfectly fine to have feelings of things like anger or sadness, or whatever, but you should never let them dictate all your actions and behaviors for hours on end, or even longer. Even if someone deliberately does something intentionally just to trigger an emotional reaction, you don't have to react, as that will encourage them if not others as well to nudge you into "meltdown mode" just for their amusement. Because once they know what it takes to set you off, they have a cheap laugh at your expense, and your day is ruined. Then expect more of the same the next day, and most likely every day after that. The only ways to end that cycle are to remove yourself from the situations where that may happen to the best of your ability, learn how to improve your coping skills to better handle yourself in those situations, and to realize that there are some people that get off on turning you into their own personal circus side show. And if you submit to their instigation time and time again, you'll acquire a reputation that others want to test for themselves. And THAT is something only YOU can bring an end to.

Ancient Indian philosophy ❤

Why you gotta call me out like that?

Also, how can I "unsupress" the emotions? I feel like this is making me left behind in life

Is this a bad thing?? This has definitely been me my whole life. I dont view anything as that deep. I dont cry when family members die, death is a part of life. Everything is random and we’re insignificant in the grand scheme of things

so the inverse would be if we're emotionally distressed then we would struggle to perform logically, such as on a test?

I need a suggestion by this youtube short you are telling us that it is okay to suppress our emotions?

welp as a person who had a tough childhood (basically isolated cuz i look weird and sound weird) i had to logic my way out of suicide lol Sooo Now im just mostly logic depressed cuz emotions fuk me over

Dont you see even while talking he said like "it seems sensible". Yes sensible. That's again logic. If you give importance to feelings than logic, well i am not saying it. You go on forward and experience it yourself.

For real

Logic is also driven by emotions . U have to be emotional where needs. And logical where need. Emotions are must We not robots .😂

Been saying this since I was an infant. Emotion/passion opposite is logic. Super emotional and passionate but now I'm braindead lol

This describes Spock from Star Trek. This sounds smart but it's not healthy and this isn't how human beings work and function.

So... Is that a good thing?

ISTJs assemble

So basically like Spock's race

...Women in a nutshell? (first half)

Something something 24hr news channels something something

Yeeeeeeep

There's definitely harm in making decisions when you're CONSUMED by emotions but there is nothing INNATELY LOGICAL about desiring a 'fulfilling happy life' or fantastically 'meaningful/prestigious' career or wanting 'recognition for your hard work' or wanting a 'supportive loving partner' ALL those are just desires / wants/emotions that presume any of your desires matter LOL yet who said that was AXIOMATIC ? Yes ofc you can find countless ways to justify why you want those things & why it's 'important' to you & you should definitely USE LOGIC to ATTAIN those things lol but in order to justify those desires for your life you are just borrowing a Rational & Logical Framework to fit your agenda ....... The very notion that you or any one person is important is absurd & ILLOGICAL there are countless new humans being born to replace the current workforce of over 7 BILLION + humans with constant innovation, superior energy levels/younger, more advanced technology etc. what makes you think you are so 'important' out of all of them? Statically speaking you're probably destined for an old people's home in future. Even if you got chronically ill or had no progeny or had a bitter life it would NOT impact the world in any statistically SIGNIFICANT way & definitely wouldn't impact the existence of the earth or galaxy in any way either because NONE of that depends on you or your value as a person, so why should you or your feelings/ wants/ desires MATTER at all ??? The world does NOT revolve AROUND YOU 😂, the sun is arguably more important than you in that respect. The FACT is you only BELIEVE you personally matter and you give/FABRICATE IMPORTANCE to your PERSONAL DESIRES/wants/feelings of wanting 'Peace' or 'Accomplishment' or believing you have a good level of 'Intelligence/Humour' since it's your pov, your NARROW/BIASED vision of the world. Yet you have NO REAL IMPACT on the existence of earth itself, nor the rotation around the sun or ANY of the LAWS OF PHYSICS etc. none of that depends on you lol, you & I are completely unnecessary & irrelevant to that so just FACE the FACTS already, the universe as will go on perfectly without you or your problems, you're not going to change that. If that offends you so be it lol without emotions/desires/feelings you might as well be a robot working for the government 24/7 with no holidays then you're at least being productive & not just taking up resources worrying about what you THINK you 'DESERVE' in life LOL 😆

He’s talking about me and I don’t like it

The best thing about being a man is being able to control your emotions. You can just turn on your anger or gratitude whenever you want. Try it.

Women make sence now.