Hey I'm really sorry there weren't any new videos last week. I ran into a LOT of technical issues. I felt like I worked all week but didn't get much released haha. Trying to renovate my process. Hope you all are well!
Funny how I was just thinking about some stupid scenarios where I was unable to climb out of my own insecurities and dark thoughts. Thanks for a quick reality check on where I am, thanks friend! Edit: Wow to say I forgot this comment would be an understatement. Thankfully I've moved on from what ever was holding me down in the pass. I still feel gloomy new and then, but taking time to reflect and feel emotions have taken me far since I am now in my 2nd year of college. I was never good on expressing my feelings but to sum it up, I am thankful for all your kind and supportive words, thank you.
I have a couple of people I can rely on, that I know will not lie to me to make me feel better, to 'reality check' my thought process when it starts to get a bit dark. Is this real, or is this just my Depression Brain being a massive asshole again. They aren't the type to always tell me every negative thought is just my depression, but actually listen to my concern and tell me if it's based in reality and logic. 'I'm useless and no one loves me'
Sometimes I try to talk to my own brain or thoughts like I'm my own best friend. It's really easy to be hard on yourself, but it's important to be gentle. If my friend wouldn't be that hard on me, neither should I.
Thank you for sharing so much Passion and Joy!!! You are all beautiful people and you make the world brighter everyday!! Continue to hold onto hope for a better life and you will be the best you can be!
Its important not to ignore stress sadness or depression. Many small warning signs show up before it gets really bad. Dear friends pls pay attention to yourself. we forget this too often and burn up ourselves for others
This man changed my life. It wad really hard for me to keep waking up every single day with no one who would listen to me talk or would just say im over reacting. But once i started listening to him and getting into working out it has been a little bit easy for me to get through every day so thank you hampton you have changed my cluttered 15 year old brain to a motivated one . Im currently not working out due to an injury but the doctors said that i could do some light workouts in a week. Also could you make a video on how to deal with an aggressive stray dog this injury was due to that. - a person who admires you
"The days where I focused on giving to other people are the days I felt the best" That felt so unreal and kinda amazed that also kinda calm me at the same time or something just by reading that.
Coming back from the worst place in my life heres what i did that really changed everything - exercise - reaching out to a therapist - slowly quitting alcohol - having a creative outlet - getting into spirituality and changing my mindset - meditation - making sure i stayed social and reached out to friends - and getting plants for some reason they really add a lively energy to your indoor environment
Very sensible and insightful. I'm in my 20s and still working through a deep internalized shame that I don't even where exactly it came from. Accountability has been an empowering tool for me too, though I find that it takes time and constant awareness to not slip back into my "shamepression"
You are an absolutely beautiful human being and I am so glad that I stumbled across your channel I think you are probably one of the few people I could say who inspires me so thank you
I always got hung up over this one girl, it wasn't necessarily depression but it destroyed me when I saw her hanging out with this one guy, you have to keep in mind that this girl is amazing and different to most others. But recently I had a breakthrough and I realized she isn't my property and I can't force her to like me so if I grow up being single for the rest of my life then so be it. I'm enjoying life more and friends are super important.
I am a young 72 and fairly healthy and active. After watching and enjoying many of your "Coffee with Hampton" and your fitness videos, I now see you as a very intelligent, caring, and common sense person. You are becoming quite discerning about this crazy world we live in. You speak calmly and intelligently. I think you stand out from the crowd! I also like your calm, natural settings and your editing. Your talks motivate me to keep going. Please keep up the good work, Hampton!🙏😉😊
My story’s pretty short. I was depressed from struggling in university. I contemplated for a month before I decided to drop out. I feel liberated and I’m never looking back.
How did you found the strength to leave the university? Like to left behind all the fear and the feelings like... I made it too far or its too late to do another thing or what else can I do if not this career?
Thanks for this my friend. It helps that people like you share and was able to be vulnerable with your experiences. Makes me feel like I'm not alone. I'm not sure if I'm depressed but I felt like I've lost interest on most of the routine that used to give me joy. And now I don't know what to do anymore. I'm just afraid to go hungry and that's the only thing that keeps me working even if I don't want to 😅
Hitting the nail on the head, brother. My journey started with actually learning what the symptoms of depression are, because I didn’t have symptoms that are typically associated with depression. Therapy and meds have helped but like you’ve said: personal accountability, forgiveness and boundaries are HUGE.
Your way of dealing with things is exactly like mine, that was exactly what i did when i had depression. You are awesome dude... Ild like to meet you... You are pure, and u emanate peace... Im sure this will help a lot who needs to hear it Thanks ^^
Generally - let go, slow down, acknowledge others, notice how you feel, speak openly about how you feel, acknowledge how others feel. Be happy in result
Just watching your video lightens up my mood while feeling a little depressed during the end of my corona quarantine. Really helpful. Despite you're younger, I want to be a bit more like you. Like focus on giving and taking good care of yourself...
I have a lot of trauma (CPTSD specifically) and late diagnosed autistic and adhd. When I started treating my trauma my quality of life and depression really improved. Now I'm working on accommodations and treating my nurodivergancy. Its early but just acknowledging it has helped me tremendously in self compassion and I can rebound quicker. Also have fibromyalga and when I got on meds for that, it significantly helped with my daily functioning. I think depression and anxiety are often times symptoms rather than the disease. And figuring out the source and treating that rather than treating the symptoms can help significantly. Sometimes it is just depression but if treatment and lifestyle changes and all the other things you try for depression don't work, there often is a deeper issue that isn't getting addressed.
What helps me get through times of high emotions is breathing exercises and relaxing exercises. I have had a lot of bad life experiences and too much put on me as a child. My mom past away suddenly in my early 20s. I found her and it traumatised me. It changed me. Whats even more sad I find is that my life changed so much and I still grief that my time with my family is gone and it will never come back. But then I get angry too at how everything went down. It's been years and I am in a better place.
8:30 "After you have identified the person to blame, you can decide if you want to forgive them" ... "putting aside if they deserve it or not", "learning to forgive helped me so much in my mental health". For me the core is all here, including when I myself am the person to blame. Forgiveness is the most difficult and the most rewarding part of my whole mental health journey, which i've been working on for years now. Thank you so much for this video and for being such a positive part of it. Much love.
On the point of forgiveness, I think some people forget that even in forgiving someone, it doesn't mean they have to continue to hold a place in your life.
Thank you Hampton for such a video. Love your words of wisdom. Even though I do not consider myself clinically depressed anymore, I think these tips will help me stay on track. I had a lot of issues going on the last few years of uni from sexual trauma, inner conflict due to having terminally ill father who was also abusive, etc. I felt worthless. On top of that I had so much stress from uni, and being exec on two non-profits and being president of two clubs. This led to a panic attack one time with suicidal thoughts which led my friends from a non-profit to call the ER. The next time I tried to talk to them when I was really down and suicidal. No one cares which made me feel worse. Luckily someone turned up and I was sent to the ER before I did anything. I tried therapy before which had some positive effects, but a conflict of interest led me to lose my free therapist. Finally, I got a free therapist at the ER. I had to go on antidepressants and go to therapy. The meds made me numb so even though I was not sad, I felt no emotions. I was always sleepy and low energy. I came of the pills and was better, but I think some changes I made on my own helped more. I found a new career that I was passionate about. I decided to stand up for myself and not care what others say. I also eventually reconciled with my father. I still have moments that are hard, but I am stronger now. It was a long and hard journey, but what I learned is that what other people say or want from you are not worth your life. I also learned to say no just like Hampton! 😊
I've had situational depression from emotional traumas of significant types. 3 times now. Healthy people will usually come out of it with awareness and a little time. Good diet and helpful exercise is very helpful!
Hampton I really love what you said about not letting depression to become a part of your identity. Never really thought that being apart from acknowledgement. Thanks for sharing this video.
Time, friends, but most importantly animals. They just keep on giving their gifts, whether it's their undying loyalty, calmness, love or beauty. And after some time of feeling terrible again it just became a routine I could laugh at. When you feel like the depression keeps creeping back to you and you think it will never end, remember the moments of improvement also never end. Until someday you will just feel comfortable. And I wouldn't call that depressed
Hampton, I love how humble you are! GREAT sharing! I have to add, your generation is the generation that is going to SAVE THE WORLD!!!!!!!!! I am 53 & I have seen more growth & wisdom from your generation, than those before! Keep the videos coming!
I love how he's actually saying that this video is not meant to work for anyone and it is all his experiences. I think he meant that we should take lessons from his experiences and not just copy everything he did to make it easier for us
I have depression because during my younger years I used my phone a lot and my myopia degree increased a lot so when I grew older I felt like I had a huge constraint but I learn to acknowledge it and learn from mistakes and grow
I left my PhD. It was for someone else not for me. I spent a month in a MH institute which really helped. It got me sleeping and eating at the right time. Stopped drinking alcohol. Maintain exercise and switched to a keto diet. Reached out to friends and family more which is hard to maintain as I'm quite introverted. Do Wim Hof breathing and just take each day as they come. No big plans just trying to enjoy day to day life a little more.
I had depression back in 2017 and overcame it in 2019. Having depression is like being in a black hole with almost no exits. Thankfully, I found one exit and what helped me is to just keep moving (at that time I was doing my masters, so I go to university as much as I can, show up, and work). Cause imagine if you just stagnate, you'll find yourself in the middle of this black hole. Now, don't get me wrong. Up until now (3 years after my depression), I still get episodes of it. But what's different is that I have a radar now which means I can sense when depression starts to kick in and I combat it as soon as I feel it. How? By pushing through, by moving. because if I don't do this as soon as I can, I know I'll just find myself in the middle of the black hole and perhaps this time I might not be able to find the exit. My advice is to keep moving forward, even when there's tons of pushbacks/setbacks. Keep pushing forth! God bless! If I can do it, you can do it too!
Im 16 yeqrs old and this is my situation. Thanks to this lockdown my mother, stepdad and 2 sisters are stuck far away and I haven't seem them in over 10 months and this has contributed a great deal to my depression and I feel it has affected my grades alot compared to what they used to be. I live with my uncle and aunt whom I don't talk to much because I'm a quiet person and I don't talk to my father very much because he is very selfish yet I keep forgiving him and ontop of that I have 2 friends that treat me like crap and I keep coming back and can't help it because I feel so alone. And over the last 2 years I have even gained some unhealthy weight.
So I wouldn't say that I've "overcome" my depression. Rather, I've learned to manage it. For me, depression has been a long-term illness with a relapsing and remitting pattern. The most important tools in my management of my mental health have been medication, therapy, self-advocacy, and social connection. When my depression was at its worst, I was unable to do any of the things that help me feel better, and by things, I mean tasks like taking a shower, getting dressed, eating, brushing my teeth, etc. This is where medication was quite literally life saving. Taking an SNRI medication and going to therapy regularly form the foundation of my treatment plan. The meds allow me to actually function and participate in my community and recovery, and therapy helped me process through a whole lot of trauma and develop coping skills. However, the absolute, most important thing, has been learning how to effectively self-advocate. This is a vital skill for anyone, but it is especially important for people who live with a mental health condition. Your support network needs to know how you are feeling and what you need. The best way to learn this skill is to practice it. Write down what you need and the questions you have before appointments, and practice saying those things out loud. Or find a method that works for you. It was also really important for me to find a community that was accepting and supportive of who I am as a person. Just knowing that I could talk to someone if I wanted to, was hugely comforting. It took time and repeated efforts to connect with others, but it was well worth it. Final note: If you're in a depressive episode right now, I can promise you that time will bring you something different. It may not be tons "better," but it will be different. And sometimes different is enough.
I’m almost 20 years old now and here’s my story, for those who might be interested. Keep in mind that I still struggle with this daily. So, to begin, my childhood was filled with negligence. Both of my parents got addicted to drugs very early in my life, before I was even able to walk. I was born prematurely, not sure by how much: however, my mom always told me about how the doctors told her that there was the likelihood that I would grow up to be mentally disabled. Nowadays i wonder if I’m on the autism spectrum and I find some things that would make sense if I did have some form of autism. That isn’t relevant to everything but I figured I would include it. I grew up in a broken home where my parents would argue, have violent fights, and my dad would just leave without saying anything for months or more at a time then come back. This happened many times throughout my childhood. I would be taken to local crack houses, etc. and my dad even sold drugs and attracted a bad crowd to our home. I grew up without any guidance, realistically. I essentially raised myself by playing video games all day, every day. From being like 3 years old (allegedly) until about a year ago when I turned 18 and I lost my mom. I got very lucky that video games were such a great form of escapism and mentoring for me. I learned all that I did about what’s right and wrong came from video games, honestly. But as I grew up, my mother got hurt at work because a faulty staircase collapsed under her (around age 5 or 6 maybe). Her health started to decline rapidly for the next several years of my life. Essentially what happened, is that my dad (who was a truck driver) was gone most of the day so as a young kid I had to help take care of my mother. Until I turned 16 and her health got significantly worse. She had totally lost the ability to absorb nutrients and to walk. So she had been sent to a nursing home. My parents were unhappy together and my dad left while she was in the nursing home. I was left all alone at 16 with no license or job. No way to fend for myself. So I was thrown out to the wolves. I didn’t want to leave my home but as food started running low I eventually contacted my grandpa and lived with him. After about a year or so my mom was able to leave the nursing home so she came to stay with my grandpa and I. We couldn’t go back home because the house was falling apart due to not being taken care of (it’s a trailer). Eventually we scraped together enough money to fix the house up to be livable. Not even two months later my mom got Covid. I went to check on her one night. She insisted that I wore gloves and a plastic face visor so I wouldn’t get sick as well. I come in there, medically clad. And say the word “mom” to try and wake her up because I thought she was sleeping. So I came into the room to nudge her awake to see if she wanted any food or anything at all. I knew as soon as I got closer what had happened. Her skin was cold and her eyes were wide open and bloodshot. She wasn’t breathing. I tried to put on her oxygen mask to make sure she would get some sort of oxygen. But it didn’t help. I started screaming and crying, I was all by myself. It was just my mother and I. It always has been, no one cared about us. I called 911 and told them everything they needed to know. I screamed and cried, like I never had before until the policeman showed up. He was a nice man, he immediately came over to give me a big hug and to comfort me, disregarding the fact that he too could get sick. I never got his name but that man stuck with me. After my mothers death I got uprooted from home yet again and had to stay with my grandpa. But the rest of my family hated that I was staying there because I wouldn’t keep the room clean. I had no energy to do anything. Then my grandpa had a heart attack and my family blamed me for it. That was the last straw, I gathered my things in my car and took my key and went back to my home by myself. Went back to work after a hiatus since my mom passed. And decided to pay my own bills and take care of myself. I’ve become a wage slave with no way out, I can’t even muster the courage to go to college or anything like that, I don’t believe I can do it. This is where I’m at now, almost 20 years old. Finally got a job that wasn’t fast food. I think about ending things almost every day. I don’t know what to do anymore. This was my story, thank you for reading if you did. There’s a lot more to all of this, but it would be far too long
I'm Really sorry to hear that .yeah being a wage slave is a bummer but u still have time to shine don't end it. Just change ur mindset or make friends don't stay alone if u do probably loneliness is gonna take over you . Life's really sad if u think about it cause everyone has to die someday . I lost my sister when I was 12 yrs old she was 2 yrs older than me that incident left me crying it happened so fast I didn't even knew what to think of and now I have some kind of disfunction disorder .I dont know, sometimes I feel really alone sometimes I feel really scared of something but if u think about it it's not gonna be like that forever someday it has to change it just has to . I'm currently 15 yrs old and I wish u the best♥️
Dylan, I pray to God for your life to get better. Please turn to Jesus to help you. Read the Bible and pray to him. Seek to do right in everything that you do, and don’t ever give up. Much love!!!
I've been dealing with depression cause I ended my 3 years relationship, things went from bad to worse, one night I went out with my cousin we drank and when I got home I was really drunk, that night the girl entered the bedroom she wanted to talk to me and I didn't, at the end she insulted me in the worse way possible, next day I decided to return home, 2 days passed and was my birthday she didn't say happy birthday or said sorry, it's almost 3 months since then Xmas is coming and the feeling of depression is stronger than ever. I feel like a kid waiting for a gift, wishing her to text me I'm sorry for all I said. Simple as that.
I forgiven my previous gf and she used it to hurt me at any chance she got. Some people are evil narcissists you can forgive them but if they are like that they will use your compassion to hurt you over and over again Dont take that shit Your channel helps me a lot thank you
My sisters a nutbag. She's hurt my family and caused depression in me since I was a teen because she always abandoned me. For years I had internalized it as, I'm someone who is worthless. Because even my big sister, the person who should be closest to me, would ignore me. As I've become an adult I've started reflecting on her own behavior and selfish tendancies. I remember she often dropped her friends because they were too poor or didn't match her personified self. I've learned to accept her. I dont love her. God no. And I dont ever want to see her again. But her life shouldnt keep mine from moving forward. I want her to get help. But until she does, I just have to accept that I have a sister. But not one that I want to accept as family. And I think thats okay.
I spent years trying to forgive my abusive ex boyfriend, i did all the practices i could to find compassion for him, but after a while i realized it was futile and just allowed myself to feel full anger towards him. And that ,surprisingly,helped. I still haven`t forgiven him, but i dont spend my time being focused on the past. I just live my life happily and calmly, knowing that IF i ever see him, i will happily punch him in the face . :P
I've had a depression for a good 7 years now (I'm 21), and some days its not too bad. I've kind of learnt to deal with it so I can get through my day, but it always comes back at odd times and completely shuts me down. I've been to therapy, taken anti-depressants, and while they DID help, it was only short lived. I'm currently trying to push myself back into a healthy lifestyle of regular activity and healthy eating, as I used to do that and I felt a bit better than I currently do. The lack of motivation makes it hard, but I believe that I can get there. I know not really anybody will see this, but it feels nice to be able to share this with a community who I feel cares about this kind of stuff. Thankyou Hampton and everybody here
I used to be depressed and I could get panic attacks. For about 20 years. 6 weeks on a carnivore diet solved that. It made me feel so much better. I consider myself cured. And I´ve read that so many others are saying the same thing. If you haven´t tried it give it a shot.
That’s a long time, sorry to hear that. I had very strong depression for years and magic mushrooms saved my life and after a couple doses I’m stressed free (: Maybe they could help you out
Well I saw it and a few others too and in my Opinion it matters even when only a few People took their time for you. I hope you get trough your Depression and just wish you the best luck.
I liked the part where you specified that depression was never a part of your identity. It is SO easy to just say "i'm depressed, this is who I am now" and just keep sinking in it. Fighting this thought is very important, YOU are not meant to be unhappy, YOU are not meant to feel like this. Never hesitate to ask for help, some people may not understand what you're going through but you'll end up finding. YOU'RE GOING TO BE OKAY :)
I think another important distinction to make is the difference between "I have depression" and "I am depressed". Everyone gets depressed sometimes, and everyone can make it out. Identifying with depression can also be thinking that it is an unchangeable part of your brain chemistry, which in 99.999% of cases, is just not true at all.
Lotta shit I've been through, I saw my first girlfriend get ripped open by a truck and die on the spot, born and raised into a divorced, drug/heroin and alcohol addicted households with no jobs and anger issues as the youngest son, my older brother being severely disabled and requiring constant attention, proper medication or else he would extremely spazz out and simply guessing what he wants as he couldn't talk, just make noises. Later on I had to share my room with my cousin for a long time, where he would get a lot of special attention from his dad and my mom who would tream him as my equal, which is fair in that situation. I somehow pulled through to university, given I kinda HAD to study something according to my uneducated parents that couldn't even help me or actively done physical harm to me on bad grades, some days even bad handwriting when my mother would sit behind my back and watch me write huge essays over and over again, as every mistake or unreadable word resulted in firm smack on the back of my head and needing to restart the entire essay over. But working in Germany and Studying kinda sucks when you live in a government funded household as you have to give up money for whoever lives with you that is being funded, in cases where you happen to make enough income, sometimes they would cut the payment completely, so you are basically stuck with below minimum wage work and thus I couldn't finish my studies as an Audio Engineer (which was a pointless endeveaor to begin with I've learned recently). Traveled across and got my own 1 Room Apartment with some Government Study loans (that I still have to repay) and my Dad gets liver cancer. So ofc I go to see this asshat one more time, who wouldn't? So my car crashed during that time and repair wasn't in for my financial situation so I couldn't return on time. During my forced stay until I could gather the money to get myself a way home with all my stuff I had to witness my father pass away too and suddenly a handicapped accessible apartment, my older brother and a funeral was all for me to take care of too. By the time I could get one thing done, bringing my brother into a foster care, I got notice that I wouldn't attend the university, thus the government suspected me of being fraudulent with the loans, cutting access to my home (which still booked rent for month afterwards) and my studies entirely for good, charging me with a huge upfront payment or possibly even jailtime. So I had to take care of that as well in the only way I knew how in that situation, becoming criminal. I can't give any details but lucky for me, the police was clueless and nobody was harmed physically although the insane stress put an immense burden on me for years now. As of now I'm sitting on a fat list of mental health issues. It took me 7 serious attempts at suicide, including getting a gun illegally trying to shoot myself but getting ripped off with blank ammonition, hanging myself but the wood ceiling support breaking and downing an entire packet of sleeping pills that apparently weren't including the right substances to kill me anyways, to realize, I have something to do in this world, which is why it doesn't want me to stop existing. Not some new era messias yaddah,yaddah talk but actually a reason. I have yet to find it out but in my pursue of this reason I could find glimpses of general happiness and furfillment, so what I want to do is find a way (quite possibly through a creative media outlet, be it Art, Music or even Video Games, I have a lot of experiences in all of these) to grant others who may be in similar or even worse situations compared to me and help them in any way I can to start regrowing that hope and search for plus take the steps necessary to gain control again over their lives. I think nobody is gonna read this wall of text, but honestly, whoever, did anyways, thank you from the bottom of my heart. May you not look who you once were or even are today but look towards who you can become and work at it one step at a time! Stay safe!
You are bound to become successful in life. With a will power so strong you overcame this much, you can overcome anything. You should be proud of how far you’ve come. Never stop improving. All the love. All the power.
I came for the “push-up tutorial” and got hooked on this video on overcoming depression. Thank you for sharing your story and sage advice, Brother Hampton! Your vlogs are clear and unpretentious. Keep doing what you do.
One thing that I don’t see enough people talking about is the value of commitment. The ability to commit to literally anything I found to be one of the most useful changes in my life. Whether it is keeping a promise, finishing a book or sticking to a workout routine. And the more you commit to certain things the easier it gets to commit to other things. I‘m saying this because it has helped me tremendously to convince myself that I‘m actually capable of persevering difficulties. I know that it is especially hard when you’re depressed to get anything done but even getting out of bed is a good start. It might be hard but it gets easier. Mental fitness, just like physical fitness, is a skill that can be learned and needs practice.
Remember this bro, The Hobbies, motivational words, positive thinking and just being grateful stuff doesn't help bro, the emptiness in your heart will never be filled with all of those thing because there's only who can fill your heart, give you peace, love, joy and be satisfied with your life is by accepting Jesus Christ in your heart and surrendering your life to him read your bible to know more about him and for sure, he will fill that emptiness in you heart. back when I didn't know Jesus I had an anxiety, depression and I always overthink, I tried the meditation and motivation stuff and new age stuff but it didn't work, meditation just gives me more depression and anxiety and it opened the doors to demons in my life where I always had a nightmare.
@@obladioblada8614 quite the contrary, I think the hobbies, positive quotes, books, inspirational shows, surrounding yourself with good people etc. ALL HELPS as they all encourages you in every way possible. Scientific research has shown that being exposed to something long enough will have an impact on one’s psyche. It is okay to want to spread your faith, but please do not dismiss anything scientific to those who truly will benefit from them. It is a blasphemy in itself to help others decide what is good for them in the namesake of your faith.
Thank you for sharing this. I find it helpful to write down my daily accomplishments. Writing them down is a way of recognizing and appreciating the littlest of things, and some days getting out of bed is a huge accomplishment. Lets Celebrate our daily accomplishments. ~🧡~ ~Love and peace to everyone ~
The Latest Kate has helped me with their random affirmations. My favorite so far is 'This is not the most difficult thin you have done. You made it through that, you can make it through this, too.' paraphrased, of course.
You might be surprise to learn how the kind of person who Hampton is, is taught and exemplified in the life of Jesus Christ. God refers Himself as I AM *cough* hint *cough*. Jesus Christ is the Son of God who was crucified for proclaiming just that, an equal to the great I AM. Though blameless, Jesus died for the sins of the world so that we may repent of our own ways and be reconciled back to God, our Father. It's not surprising how you say the industry "need" more people like Hampton. The Bible, i.e Scriptures, essentially said the same thing almost two thousand years ago, in Romans 8:19. I encourage you to pick up a Bible and see for yourself the inspiration for the type of person who Hampton is, and start in the book of Matthew. Or go to a church if you're hungry enough. Do both. Or simply ask questions here.
If you're going through depression, I hope you get better. You're an amazingly strong person to be able to go through depression. It's completely fine if you wanna cry. If anyone makes fun of you for crying, cut them off. Stay safe and happy, my friend :D
@@MrCmon113 i got childhood traumas because of my "dad" and i can't cry and im going through even more depression because i can't speak to my girlfriend how i really feel because of her parents.
First i had to get rid of alcool to start getting over my depression. I found out that even while drinking very little, alcool poisoned my thoughts more and more. I feel much better when i don't drink at all. Second of all, besides of talking to a professional, starting working out really helped getting my stresslevel down and feeling way better. I like eating, and i cannot live without pizza for example. Even if i don't try to get under a certain % of body fat i can feel that, when i try to lose a few kg and i eat "cleaner" for a certain time, again i feel better. Even if i can't directly see a changing on my body. So for me, a clean diet and working out really helps. But you don't need to force it. If you want a rest indiet or workout, just pause for a bit. But try not to lose control over it.
About alcohol: I noticed the same thing. When going through a rough time, I found that my anxiety was out of control the days after I drank, even if it was just a couple beers with friends. You don't have to be a drunk to be negatively affected by alcohol.
@@agarqueen9126 yes it is. But being aware of it and don't touching it at all are two very different thinks. And the biggest problem of all: alcool is everywhere. And if you decide not to drink, most people look at you as if you would have a high infectious desease.
I’ve had clinical depression since I was 12, here’s what helped, in the order I did them: - Coming to terms with the diagnosis itself - Telling my friends and family (that I trusted) - Going vegetarian and eating healthy. - Therapy! It took a few tries to find a therapist I clicked with, it really helps with the negative thought processes and such. - Moving from a toxic environment to a better one. - Minimalism, coming from a family of hoarders, this was important to me. - Spoon theory - Adopting a pet ( there were other people to help me take care of them) - Psychiatric medicine. This one scared me and my family at first, but was necessary. Don’t be afraid of it, it may very well help you out a lot. - Taking a gap year for my mental health. No work, no school, literally just focusing on my self and relationships.
What worked for me: - Exercise: starting super slow - Self Compassion Meditation: this was an important one - an environment that did not give tips but was just there and listened - time - a plant based diet/anti inflammatory diet: for me this seems to be important. My theory is that my depression is fueled or even triggered by subliminal inflammation - reducing online time to a minimum
@@hayley1594 forgiveness comes from within yourself, not others. What makes someone "unforgivable" is your inability to forgive the said individual. As hard as it may be, the decision is yours to make!
@@ruru_nii4800 also very true it's not all a grudge that stops forgives but the self that is unwilling to knowing this some still cant even I well not yet
@@hayley1594 for what it's worth, what helps me to find forgiveness for others is to ask myself; is this stopping me from achieving my goals/happiness? If it's not getting in your way to achieve that what you want, it will save you a lot of weight. Why? To forgive means to let go of your problems involving another individual. This said problem will only be pulling you back if you don't let go.
Hampton, you are adorable. Inside and out. I appreciate how you communicate. Your wisdom is beyond your years. I also so appreciate your positive attitude even when dealing with uncomfortable issues. 🙏🏻💗
@@minecraftstation6422 I didnt deal with depression myself but I think it would be logic that the thing is probably outside.. Idk but for me it makes sense. I personally love riding bikes🚀🤷♂️
I feel like the "No" part is the most important. Introspection helped me a ton but no is a really big part both for yourself and the others. Saying no to others on some things like "wanna go out?" when you're not feeling it instead of "I'm sick" will be liberating, helped me say no to myself aswell...no to sodas, no to junk food, no to compuslive buyings, no to stupid/crazy/useless stuff and more.
I am really depressed today and decided to watch Hampton to comfort me. I don’t even exercise, I just love his personality and he feels comforting like a friend and then I found this video. Love from Ireland 💖💖💖
@@georgemelissinos9128 thank you fam! I hope you are doing wonderful on this blessed day. The throne has more than one seat, and I gladly vacate my spot for you 👑
@@Splashus_Klay I hope all your days are blessed king and I'd gladly abdicate my throne if it meant someone such as yourself could rightfully sit on it
My depression was a result of lack of love from closed ones... i was told by those around me that strength is everything... and so self love is all that i have.. always expected to achieve extraordinary in almost all aspect of life whether it be academics or work life...all to make my closed ones proud... honestly RU-vid is the vent that allow me to express creativity and letting off steam from life’s burnout... The depression is still there and keeping it at bay is a responsibility... Hope you guys make it through as well ❤️
Remember this bro, The self love, motivational words, positive thinking and just being grateful stuff doesn't help bro, the emptiness in your heart will never be filled with all of those thing because there's only who can fill your heart, give you peace, love, joy and be satisfied with your life is by accepting Jesus Christ in your heart and surrendering your life to him read your bible to know more about him and for sure, he will fill that emptiness in you heart. back when I didn't know Jesus I had an anxiety, depression and I always overthink, I tried the meditation and motivation stuff and new age stuff but it didn't work, meditation just gives me more depression and anxiety and it opened the doors to demons in my life where I always had a nightmare.
I like how you put that. After what I've experienced depression will likely be a lifelong thing for me but that doesn't mean I'll always be miserable. I can keep it at bay.
I've been dealing with hopelessness for the past 3 years. After graduating from college, I was completely lost. At the same time my family was going through very tough times. So instead of finding my way out of the situation, I turned into a couch potato. I spent my days playing video games, browsing NSFW content on internet. So much time wasted. But since last few weeks, I've started to take small steps. I quit video games and p*rn, and enrolled for new classes. I'm waking up early and going for a walk. I'm also keeping a journal to manage my thoughts. I know the road ahead of me is tough one, but I'm going to show up every day and do my absolute best.
Remember this bro, The motivational words, positive thinking and just being grateful stuff doesn't help bro, the emptiness in your heart will never be filled with all of those thing because there's only who can fill your heart, give you peace, love, joy and be satisfied with your life is by accepting Jesus Christ in your heart and surrendering your life to him read your bible to know more about him and for sure, he will fill that emptiness in you heart. back when I didn't know Jesus I had an anxiety, depression and I always overthink, I tried the meditation and motivation stuff and new age stuff but it didn't work, meditation just gives me more depression and anxiety and it opened the doors to demons in my life where I always had a nightmare.
Man, you are so wise. This whole video you described the things I've started to come to realize within the last few months at the age of 23. This gives me so much hope for 2023 in a few days. Personally I've dealt with depression since I was 9 and I honestly don't think I can take even one more year of how I've been living since that time. Thank you.
Hampton, thank you for remaking this video, your efforts are greatly appreciated! My journey out of depression started with a single piece of fruit. I wasn't eating well, I was sleeping all the time, and I never left my house. This was all last summer, which is not normal for me to be depressed when it's nice outside. After months and months AND MONTHS of not feeling well or feeling myself, I was SO tired of feeling that way. So I made the decision that I want to feel better, and just coming to that decision was incredibly difficult. I started small. I literally started with one piece of fruit. While eating it, I acknowledged that I was doing something kind for myself. I held onto that feeling and let it fill my being as much as I could. I decided I wanted to at least TRY doing one kind thing for myself each day, even if it was only eating one piece of fruit. That was a couple months ago, I'm still on this journey. I'm not making fast progress, but I am making progress. I'm starting to feel like ME again. And now whenever I have a REALLY bad day, I am more kind to myself because of what I've been through. Small steps are the key for me. Drink a glass of water, sit in a sunny spot on the floor and feel the sun's warmth, or eat a piece of fruit. You go this, and I'm so glad you're here. ❤️
Thank you for this video! I have chronic depression as well as I am chronically suicidal and currently in a severe phase (do not worry though, I am taken care of). For me, a lot changed when I realized that my parents, especially my mother, are narcissists. I had been taught that I was not good enough from early childhood. My upbringing based on having to serve other people's needs and disregarding my own. This went as far as not even noticing my own needs anymore (which bites me in the b*tt today). I definitely support your message of trying not to become too self-absorbed. But also, reflect on what you've been doing so far. If you have been emotionally exploited by others, allow yourself to focus on yourself. Practise to say no. Learn to sit in your emotions and give them space to tell you what you need. I've been living my whole life just to please other people. This includes my career (which I internally hate) and my leisure activities (which never brought me actual joy, just looked cool from the outside or were approved by my parents). Eventually, there came a point where my needs and the outside motivated path clashed so much, I burned out and almost killed myself. I felt like I can never be happy. I felt like I'd always have to be a slave to others. Now, I am on a very exhausting path of learning to feel my own needs. Learning how joy actually feels. And collecting the courage to set boundaries and to change my life in a way that meets my needs. Probably, I will even start from scratch with my career, which is super scary at age 27 and having to quit the PhD program I am currently in. (Yeah, having a PhD is very important for my parents. Doesn't matter how much I suffer. *facepalm*) But if it means I can be happy, everything's worth a try. So if some of this resonates with anyone reading this, maybe read into narcissism and see, whether a parent oder other significasnt person in your life might have such a negative effect on you. (I can also recommend the book "Will I ever be good enough? - Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers" by Karyl McBride - although this is very specific. But there are also resources for sons or narcissistic families in general.) If anyone read this far I wish you a wonderful day and if you are currently suffering from any illness, mental of physical, I wish you a safe healing journey and all the best for the rest of your hopefully wonderful life! Lots of love from Germany 💕
Once I got completely away from my narc mom everything got better. My dad and both siblings are also toxic--drugs, personality disorders, alcohol, cruelty, so I had to leave the whole mess.
You ever try DBT therapy? Very good to develop effective skills including radical acceptance and emotional regulation and distress tolerance. If not look at it to fine tune, never get complacent
I think my parents and/or the people around me weren't narcissistic. But were somewhat neglectful or wanting me to be what they weren't or bullying, in some cases. Anyway, the issues were not the same, but they affected me well into adulthood. I slowly learned how to break away from those people and issues. It started with observing others whose behaviors worked a lot better than what I learned in my family. And also trying to learn from my own mistakes and to better myself.
I don’t know if it was actually depression that I was dealing with, I had major burn out and didn’t feel like doing anything. Believe it or not, Hampton helped me get out of that. I started watching all of his videos and started looking at life and everything in a different way. So thank you Hampton, thank you for pulling me out of my state of burn out. I would argue that u saved my life
I'm not really good at expressing my thoughts through text, and I don't like typing long paragraphs, but thank you soo much for this video Hampton. A lot of people struggle with this especially around their teenage years, and a lot of the time it's brushed aside as "teen angst" but it should be taken far more seriously. I do believe now there is a greater focus on treating mental health, but not enough people are willing to admit that they have an issue, so I'm really glad that you mentioned this. If you feel like you might be depressed, have anxiety, or any other problems with your mental health, please don't hesitate to talk to someone, whether it be a therapist, family, or even members of the community. I personally have never really felt comfortable talking to my other friends and family about my problems, but this community has provided an outlet where I feel myself and a lot of others can express themselves more easily. Thank you Hampton and everyone else for making such a strong and kind community for us to be a part of. I strongly agree with the idea that a lot of our problems stem from ourselves. I used to be an incredibly angry person, I never understood why, but I would lash out and hurt others constantly. Eventually I realized that all my anger towards others was actually anger i had towards myself (typical answer IK); however, rather than working on why I was so angry with myself, I doubled down on that hate. I became a nicer person on the surface, but inside I was significantly worse. I've managed to work on loving myself more, and I want to say that you have helped me a lot in that process. And to anyone else struggling with this, you may have heard it before, but truthfully seeing that other people struggle or feel the same way that you do helps a lot. Anyways, I gotta go to work. Thank you again for this video Hampton, and I love all of you my friends ❤.
Man, i know it's not always easy, but talk to your family about it! You don't have to prepare a script to do it! It's not something that you have to do flawlessly, or to some dear friend to you, someone in your circle that you REALLY trust, someone that you know will listen to you as you talk, you will feel uncomfortable, but it's okay!
Bro just yesterday. My brother made me realize that. I would always play the victim. When someone was rude to me. But I would never express why I am truly mad at the. And this would alway build up. Remember all the bad and rude things they did to me. But now I understand they are not always mad at me. But mad at that moment. So I just I have to discuss that I don't like me treated that way. And they will tell me their side of the story. But now I understand the no reason to run from the problem. When you can just discuss the problem you have with the person. And he you can fix that problem. I understand that you being angry is didn't than. But as the little brother in the family. I could understand that intense angry for no reason.
We always hear things like “be positive”, “be happy”, and these sometimes, can be the worst things to say to someone who is depressed. To those who find themselves in the dark, just remember that “being positive” is another way of saying “turn your face towards the sun”. Positivity is not a state of mind, but rather, an attitude or set of actions taken to help you feel better and alive. You can still be disappointed/sad/grumpy whilst trying to be positive. Emotions are only a fraction of an reaction, not a permanent state of things. Being conscious of thoughts, words and actions helps tremendously though it can be hard at first but gets much better with practice. Keep going!!! PS we care so much about instant chain of successes and how others see us that culminated to what it is; it is time we start to focus on ourselves, physically and mentally:)
"Be positive" or "be happy" are phrases completely without substance. Almost like saying "fly" or "walk through that brick wall". Give a person the tools or environment to do those things or stop telling people to do the impossible. Not being happy is a physical state of the brain, and the brain needs to be re-wired over time to even be able to be happy.
I had depression when I was 27 for a couple of years... Thankfully, my partner told me eventually "I think you may be depressed. You're showing most of the signs and you need help. It's not your fault but you need to get therapy or it's going to ruin our relationship." That was a huge eye-opener, going to therapy showed me that my depression stemmed from fear; fear of who I may become, fear of not measuring up, fear of my life not going where I wanted to, etc. Understanding that I cannot live my life through the lens of projecting into the future, searching examples of what will happen if X, Y, or Z, based on how people that have made those decisions have ended up. Because they are in their own journey and there are millions of little decisions that are different. Because, while it is impossible to be 100% different, what differentiates us is enough to divert our journeys massively. And more importantly, be intentional with your motivation (finding it and keeping it in focus), and you will find your own way
saying that "depression is not a part of your identity" is actually very strong. as a healthcare professional, we are taught to refer to patients as patients, not as their ailments. for example, we tell a patient that they have diabetes, not that theyre a diabetic. their ailment is not their identity. "i have depression" rather than "i am depressed"
Pointing out other's flaws rooting from your own insecurities is probably the most accurate thing I've ever heard. Most people when they insult someone else about their appearance are projecting. Why would they fixate on a certain thing if not?
The thing that causes / aggravates depression for me is difficulty setting and achieving goals due to many overwhelming challenges and colossal failures in the past and addiction to binge-watching RU-vid, shows and movies in the present. Also, not having any friends and social support system.
For me what got me over my depression was just not giving a fuck about any problems I had. If I did something that were my fault or caused problems? Don’t think too much about it, I would apologize yeah but I would just get over it quickly, I never dwelled in anything, I just let things go, be patient and being reasonable. Every time I thought about something negative I would shake my head hard and say nah, and distract my self with something and fill my head with something else. I’d just think highly of my self, but that wasn’t enough to get me out of bed and be unproductive. I got a dog afterwards who was born with some health issues, this man is a fucking pain in the ass, making me get up and do things, walk around more, being out of my house more and getting up to make him food, him taking shits on my carpets and peeing everywhere and on my bed smh, but despite all that he got me out of my depression. I love him all the way as if he were my son, he’s currently sleeping on my bed with me and on me, I wouldn’t trade him for anything, not even for a guaranteed life full of wealth and fame. I’d rather be paralyzed than ever abandoning him or anything else really. He is still a pain in the butt, but thanks to him I am now in road to success, as when I was depressed before, I wasn’t getting good grades, and I was messing around getting in trouble, and now I’m just a straight A-B student who knows what college he wants to go to and who wants to be a video game designer(Coding/scripting, map building, animations, morphs, etc). What also probably helped was all those shonen anime characters always saying “don’t give up” and it got stuck in my head and I think about it every time someone doubts themselves or me. 💀
Man, if I was raised around, or grew up with, or had friends like this dude…whatever… Pretty sure life would have went differently. Growing up, that is. This has to be the most awesome dude on RU-vid. His quick 4 min vids with poignant suggestions, successful workouts and stretches. I got into a DARK depression around, 34. Same time I lost a job I gave 12 years to, so sure, that was probably a main catalyst to it. But so many other unresolved issues. Should be (with a healthy mind) be able to lose a job: and YES that shit is going to hurt, sometimes it can hurt BAD…but eventually get back up, fight again. But no; I let the chains of depression and dark thoughts (and I do believe in a God so, yeah I believe in an oppressor; to each their own) grip me so bad; it’s taken me years. I’m lucky and blessed enough to have a wife that fought by my side, always remembering who I truly am. And my daughter…I was able to be with her, help teach and raise her in very young years…so I’m a believer in things happen for a reason, absolutely. Not “ALL” things, some things are just consequences, other things just…happen. The free will of mankind, and whatever the world throws you sometimes. This topic is very strong. Depression is rampant especially with recent times. Be mindful of who you’re around. Be aware of what you’re putting into your mind, your body. Stay close to family…if that family isn’t toxic. If so (and that is hard for those who can’t be around family) try to find one. Not preaching at all; just things that helped me which, kinda seem common sense don’t they? Take care of yourselves everyone. That’s the only way we can help take care of each other.
