What a strange coincidence that I've been feeling nothing but loneliness lately and this video shows up. Hampton, you are a blessing in my RU-vid feed.
People always say how kind and positive Hampton is, but I don’t see many about how well spoken he is. I feel like his words make me feel like I’m not alone when I feel lonely. Thank you Hampton
Loneliness does not come from having no people around you, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to you. - Carl Jung And additionally I think it's also having no one validating you as a person, not feeling recognised and loved.
Dear Hampton I know you don’t know me or probably will never ever read this, but this is TOTALLY the video I needed for a long time now, and I just wanted to say, thank you.
Like a lot of RU-vidrs he usually reads the comments an hour or two after posting. I'm certain he will see your comment and appreciate the sentiment even if he doesn't comment back.
@@Codergirl115 People like you give me hope that there’s still some decency and love out there and I’m really thankful for your kind words. This is my day one of improving myself , I will return to se how are you doing as well from one year on now (October 13 2021). See ya on the other side!
@@DiegoSilva-dk4io don't worry bro we are with you, for the past few months I've been suffering from loneliness but I have a wonderful family and a great friend that helped me get better hope you'll do great and find people you can connect with and so do I, best of luck for the future
Not being around the right people is part of it, but it’s also feeling the loneliness that comes from being separated from yourself, where you feel like you could say, “I’m not myself today” but maybe you desist because the expected contemptuous response might be, “then who the f are you? Get away from me, ye freak!” So you feel even more lonely because you think there isn’t anyone who understands you, who knows what it’s like to feel like 100 percent yourself one day, and the next day like 30 percent of yourself.
Loneliness is like hunger. Even if you're eating, you might not have the right nutrients in your food to be healthy. It may not be fair to expect any one relationship to feel ALL the parts of your soul. But if you recognize the value in many different people/relationships, you will probably find ways to be fed enough for all your needs. You won't feel unloved or bereft.
For whatever it's worth... I'm secretly rooting for all my lonely brethren and sistren in the comments. You are loved, talented, and anyone would be lucky to have you as a friend. You have a LOT to offer. Don't give up! Every 'failed' friendship or relationship is gradually narrowing down the pool of people who will truly change your life for the better. You got this! You have an army of people here to support you.
I feel lonely long before covid, but it got worst during the pandemic and the worst part is that I prefer to be alone. With all of this, I created a social phobia. The more lonely I feel, more away I am from people.
I can empathise, I've always been pretty solitary but this last year or so has been much more solitary than usual. And even now it's hard to break that because the habit of being alone is so engrained, and things are still not really "back to normal" where I am.
I can understand it happened to most of us. What helped me was to look at the bright side of things. I became more health conscious, be grateful for little things, started looking for good hobbies. Cooking was the first one and today it is such a stress buster for me. There's nothing wrong in saying that you prefer to be alone sometimes because that's where you learn more about yourself and try to self reflect instead of having someone else's judgment or validation. If you don't love the person when you're alone then it might be more difficult when you're with someone.
For a lot of my life I've considered myself an introverted person who prefers to be alone. But because of that assumption I never tried breaking out of my shell, and when I did I felt so ALIVE talking with people. Not for everyone, but always make sure. Always try new things and do what you like more, do what you don't like less - but at least try it out.
Me too! I think of myself as the loneliest loner. And like you said, its a spiral. The more I stay alone, whether by choice or coincidence, the harder it is to be around other people. But as I write this, Hampton is saying it only takes one good friend. So, I’ll pray for that one person to come to me, and that I will not somehow drive them away when they finally come.
Couldn't have picked better timing my friend, still reeling from a long term relationship that ended, this definitely helps me on those nights that are harder than most, thank you Hampton.
I recently went through my mom's old pictures and was struck by how long she kept a core group of friends who stayed in the neighborhood and they all got together on a regular basis even through middle age. I actually envy that. Also, I just realized I'm overdue to invite some friends over for a night of crafting. 🙂
Something really helpful for me was the book ‘How to win friends and influence people’ by Dale Carnegie. The title may sound extreme, but it really made me aware about how to talk to people. It also helped me to understand other people. A big step for self growth and being social for sure! Good luck all and feel free to message :)
From calisthenics to life philosopher back and forth. A very well rounded dude and pleasant to listen to. Loneliness isn't about the number of people you've around you but the inability to be comfortable with the most important person in your life, namely yourself.
Congratulations on your wedding. I hope it was everything you both wished for and more. I seem to have been guided to your page at the exact right moment. I have felt truly lonely lately as I was diagnosed with a medical condition that causede to give up my career. Your words helped me so much and I truly thank you. I could honestly listen to you all day, and I like everyone else, look forward to many morning coffees together.
My dream is also to get married to the woman of my dreams at my future wedding. I would love to get married in Japan. I love the Japanese culture since I was a boy.
When I feel lonely I remind myself that my friend has just married his lovely fiancé so I need to back off a bit and hopefully one day there comes a new coffee episode :) Thank you so much, dear friend, I really struggle with loneliness so much these days... I need to try building my little community, can't live like this =_=
I think something important to add to the sometimes it's our fault part is sometimes, you might be too unwilling to open up about yourself. Maybe due to trust problems, or you're just too closed off in general. I couldn't trust anyone enough to open up to for a long time and it made me seriously lonely. Thanks for the video, Hampton!
Loneliness is an excess of love inside you and no one to give it to. Some people feel more deeply than others and that intensity can be what is pushing them away
This has came at the best time really, I just have been giving my whole life, and everyone I’ve ever helped has just left me. And although this may seem like an exaggeration, it’s not. I’m just so lonely all the time, and have no idea how to stop it.
Idk if this helps lately these years I've been alone too, what I've done to forget that feeling I've been teaching myself martial arts, learning a new language and started a tiny business. Idk it helps sometimes or write your thoughts on a journal I used to do that to drop some weight off my thoughts sound stupid but it helped. I hope this tip will help you
@@ripvanwinkle1537 thank you, I’ve have been doing this, and it helps. But I think the constant giving of favors and helping with nothing in return has been kinda keeping me down :/
Who could think modern neoliberal capitalistic city design is made to sell you suburban houses and cars and are explicitly anti human.... Also, in the 30s and 50s there was ALOT of lobbying by the car companies to put car propaganda in k-12 public schools. Also, stroads and suburbia suck. These are all systemic issues that inhibit our daily interpersonal mental health. Good vid tho
I feel lonely because my father lowkey hates me and makes a disgusted face whenever he sees me. I am not a bad child, I just didnt want to study medicine and pursue which a career which he wanted. He always wanted me to be a doctor but I dont have the passion for it. I will be studying Engg because he will never allow me to study Psycology or Economics This career choice is killing me inside.
Study what you want even if you have to work and pay for it yourself. Your father doesn't have to live your life, you do. If you don't do what you have an interest in then you'll be miserable.
@@pamelahornick8108 I cant work because I dont have any employable skills. Also, I am from Asian country and society will f you up if you dare to live against your parents wishes. I will be doing Engg and try to get passionate about it (I tried to build interest for medicine but I just couldnt) Unless I get a job in Europe or America, I dont think I will be able to marry as well as my country doesnt recongnise same-sex narriage. Another reason why I am not getting into a relationship now. My parents dont know about my sexual oreientation, coming out to them is a nightmare. Regarding not being a bad child, I have never smoked, got drunk or did drugs, never had sleepovers, attended late night partys, stepped outside the house without their permission. I only talk back when they go to extreme lengths to humilate me. I was beaten up for slamming the door hard once. Even though I am an adult now my phones are checked. I am not complaining but treating me as some sort of evil child and blaming me for everything that goes wrong is making me lose my confidence. If only medicine was my passion, things would have been right but I cant do nothing but study a course he is willing to pay for, other than that and find a job outside Asia.
@@bread2951 Yes, I'd find a job outside Asia and leave all that parental nightmare behind. No one has the right to abuse anyone(including their child) no matter what country you live in. There is always work you can do just to earn money and finish your education- wait tables, cashier, scrub toilets, etc. You just have to get away from your family first. No one(including your parents) has the right to force you to pursue the education for a career you don't want. I hope things get better for you and you can get to a country where you can be yourself, get the education you want, & love who you want. Maybe you can try to become a citizen in one of the countries where education is free.
Nah, but I also think that while it is frustrating when a conversation partner doesn't match your energy, you don't really owe them your full attention. It kinda just makes me feel underappreciated while they have no idea what's going on, so it's not super worthwhile to do so?
It's ok my friend. One day, I'm sure you'll find someone that matches your energy and you'll become the best of friends. Never lose your energy, the day when someone reciprocates will be super special, never stop.
I’ve been feeling lonely, for a very long time. It’s hard to find anyone who even wants to talk to me. I’m 16 and I’m on my third high school and I’m a Junior, it’s just hard. Ive been working out and just doing good in school and you know, I’m happy I think, I work out everyday and I play video games, I just it’s sad to wake up with no texts or end school with nothing or going to bed with nothing. I don’t have anyone lol. But I’m glad my mom and step dad are here for me and that’s all I need I think. I don’t know.
Parents are definitely helpful but I'm in the same kind of space in life and I think that you and I both kinda need more. Parents are like a foundation we can return to, but we need friends to build relationships with, you know?
You're ok my friend, you'll be ok. I'm 19, very much the same issue, had it back then, kinda have it now. I too am lucky to have good parents and a few good friends. You will find someone, I don't know when but you will. Till then, keep working out and playing good games and studying. Good luck and I wish you the best my friend.
You'll find a good friend it took me years to find a legit friend. But now he got a girlfriend u know what that means so yeah right now we're on the same boat. But the guy I'm talking about he is good guy I just wished he visit once in a while
@@jostrr man, we got it, I’m just waiting for college… well after I graduate I’m going into the military to make me better as a person and to find more friends hopefully lol.
I'm in kind of the in-between place. As you said that it might be that people get s weird vibe off me and actively don't want to be with me. It's not that. I regularly go to a camp run by the church and work there. And the people there are my friend group. People do enjoy my company. But they don't enjoy it enough where they would want to meet me outside the camp. Im unable to get over the "I'd like to meet you elsewhere too" barrier. Allthough I do have fairly weak social skills so I might read the situation wrong. But I do believe I have enough social skills to read atleast this right. It's kind of weird being in this in-between place.
This will likely sound weird, but I spend a lot of time alone, but I am significantly less lonely than I used to be. Partially because I found some friends, and people I enjoy spending time with. But by far the biggest thing that ameliorates loneliness is a concept few people understand: you are a form of company with yourself. When you are alone, for better or worse, you are spending time with yourself. That is a form of company. You are only physically alone; mentally you are plural. When I don't like spending time with myself, and I don't enjoy my own company, that is when I feel most lonely, and isolated. Often this springs up from negative self-talk, or malingering on my failures, deficiencies and what I lack. Once I learned how to enjoy my own company, and find peace with who I am and what I enjoy doing, not only did I come to enjoy solitude more, but I also found people who also enjoyed my company. Not many, and not often, but enough to feel a little less alone. Start by learning to enjoy your own company, then the rest will naturally follow.
“We are all working on ourselves. We’re all on some path of self-improvement, in some way. So it’s okay. You’re definitely not alone.” Your words always give me a different perspective on things, thank you so much for the time you put into helping other people such as myself :)
Congrats on ur marriage!!! Best wishes and many blessings on your future together! Thanks also for this video! I just today had a breakdown partly from loneliness and this video was truly heaven sent! Thank you for sharing your content it’s making a huge impact on my life and the world! God bless you and thank you!
I've always been alone and enjoyed it. But lately I've been feeling very isolated. It makes me worried because I've been neglecting building relationships for years and almost feel like that ship has sailed. Thanks for making this video. It has helped put things into perspective.
I actually dealt with so much loneliness before and I can actually say that, I don't feel that lonely anymore cause I start working out and actually start journaling and just being gratefull to everything even with small little thing and the thing is that you will actually get lonely every now and then and it's alright, it's a natural emotions you juat need to let it all out and cry that's just it. you gotta accept that you are irrational being and that of you being that lonely is actually not true
One thing that made me feel real lonely is that even though I had a couple good friends, I felt like they had more friends and closer friends than me. That thought was always the worst.
This is the video that I needed since I feel so distance from my friend group and I had to cut off two of my closest friends since they got into a relationship and basically forgot about me. Thank you so much Hampton and I aspire to be you. And I hope everyone can overcome their problems alongside with me
Coming from a Christian perspective, I remember a time when I felt lonely. I was around a lot of great peers and friends, yet I was convinced that no one truly cared about me and I felt I had nothing unique or special with anyone - I was feeling pretty cynical about friendship in general :/ but I went home and went to a random vending machine, bought a chocolate bar and to my surprise 2 came out. I started crying! I thought ‘who’s going to eat this other one?’ I felt in that moment God coming to my side to remind me that He is always with me, my closest companion and that being close to Him was most important. And that from closeness with him I would be able to unconditionally love and give to other people and that deep friendships would return to me. To this day I really feel blessed in my friendships :)
Hey guys I just gotta vent so here we go. So I'm in 9th grade at am advanced school and I don't feel like I belong there and I feel like I'm not as smart and just absolutely hate going to school now. 2 of my teachers just pile homework on me. So I've got bad stress from that. And a couple days ago I found out the girl I liked actually likes my best friend. Before that I found out that the girl I had liked was in a bad emotional state and had been crying for hours. This just got to me and I broke down because it is awful that someone that young has got that kinda stuff goin on in they're head. I am very supportive of by friend because he likes her too but it just sucks. If anyone has advice pls comment it below here because I just need it 😔.
I watch your videos to practice my English. Love your calm voice and beautiful messages. I've learned a lot throughout Coffee with Hampton series. Thank you so much and have a nice day too 😇
The first time I saw your video I subscribed immediately. Your flow and vibe, everything about you is just so comfortable with me. This is the first time I left my comment on your channel. Thank you for making these videos and making me feel being understood. Thank you for telling me that it may be my fault or not that it's hard for me to have deep connection with people. But most important is that we don't have to be so hard on ourselves and it there's something we know we could do better, then we could always make self-improvement.
It's maybe good thing this is not about self-love. And about that everyone feels lonely sometimes. Because I just realised I am not weird. You think about friendship and loneliness a lot like me. I want to text someone through out the day, about simple things, about my accomplishments, about theirs. I kinda want from them the same, which I know I can't force them to do. And it's okey. There probably somewhere is another person, that will think about friendship the same way. Having somebody to talk to when you need it is something beautiful. I wish everyone to find that somebody:) Thanks for reading my rant
My adult children think that my loneliness is my fault because I don’t make the efforts to be around people. Going out and about often times require $. So that’s one excuse. My other “ excuse” is …. Well, I don’t know why I’m not more social. *sigh*
Dear Hampton, I've been watching your videos quite a while and I'd like to personally thank you for somehow knowing my problem and helping me with em. I've been terrified for several years with being a loner (with grad school and all that) and I really wanted to give everything up altogether. I guess it's fight or flight kicking in. Making effort back then, and even now to make acquaintances seems futile. But these videos about fitness (I'm still obese tho') and personal care, I can't thank you enough for...everything.
When I moved away for university in 2019, I moved to a city where I was completely alone. I knew no one, had a couple of friends in cities a few hours away, but in the actual city I moved to I was completely alone. So when I met my class for the first time, I saw a girl who had bright neon green hair, and it's a very trademark colour of a specific brand. And I recognised it because I had used that colour myself in the past! So I started talking to her, and we bonded about having funky colours in our hair (mine was electric blue at the time). It turns out she did have friends in the city, lived with them, even, but they were incredibly toxic to her. Yelling at her for little things, belittling her, all the textbook manipulation tactics. She was so beat down, depressed, and felt so hopeless about everything. I was a lonely kid living alone for the first time, but I had already gone through manipulation and toxic friendships before, and I recognised what was happening to her. We became each others lifelines - I helped her leave those old friends, helped her gain new friends, helped her gain stability with her own place (and even lent out my couch when she needed it), and she helped me feel less alone as a fresh-faced 21 year old living alone for the first time in a city bigger than anything I'd ever lived in, coming from a small countryside village. Then came lockdowns, and we stayed together - we were each others social circle, kept hanging out, going for walks in order to not make each other sick, just in case - and we're still best friends to this day. She graduated this year and is going for her masters, I'm still working on graduating due to my disability absolutely wrecking my grades at one point, but we stuck together. We chose each other because we could grow together, and today, three years later, we're both much more stable, grown people with ambitions and hope for the future. Dealing with loneliness is tough, but once you find the people who will love you just as much as you love them, you'll never be truly alone again.
Hi, my name is Janean. I’m 23 with rare seizures. I’ve been dealing with this since I was 17. I only have my mom and brother. Everything has gone down hill since my seizures, yet I’m supposed to be the protector since my father passed… I’ll get into more detail about my life if you message me.
I recently got a new job in call center(first job) and in breaks and lunchtimes, all my teammates always picks their phones up and use them like they never used them before.. as I watch people and how they hang out in site wondering what if I socialize with them you know, I find it sad, people just in the phone when they can, while I reject the use of my mobile in work trying to socialize, but I guess this is it now.. still I am optimistic, I hope I find someone that likes to make friends and have a good time without a phone, and I will do my best in my job. :)
i'm really hoping that some people finds this video, listen to it, and consider that it might be true. If doubtful, just think about giving it a try. Change you perspective, if you are not satisfied with your current perspective.
I actually feel very comfortable with receiving no messages for hours and hours. Now I have time to work out, study, read a lot of books and watch movies and series
Have to disagree with making friends online, usually people who spend time in making friends online are not the ones you are looking for, they are either teenagers who are exploring the internet or some who are just bored and are not looking for a long term friendship, the worst case are some creeps who are looking for a new obsession.. you'll be disappointed believe me.. so even when there is a common interest it's better to really find these people in real life through connections or courses for example You're free to give online friends a chance but don't get so attached cause they don't. It's hard but the older we get the more difficult it is because people are so busy for anything Good luck
People say that I never talk... well try to engage in something I like, I will talk for hours if you don't stop me. I am trying my best to find someone to talk to about the things I like, sadly around me there is no one like that but I will continue trying.
I had I friend who I was really close with and I unintentionally drug into my sad life like I thought we were having meaningful conversation but she got really upset after talking to me and didn’t tell me for a long time now it’s like my best friend hates me and I’m not sure what to feel mostly guilty but is it my fault? Is it my fault if she never told me?
Wow, my loneliness has been peaking day by day to insane levels these past few months, seen one friend a week ago and 3 weeks ago, that's about it and the more I'm at home the worse it gets...I gotta go out for a walk tomorrow. Thanks for the upload!
when I was a child at school I used to stand with groups of people to not look out of place but was too afraid to converse so would seem awkward and the group would gravitate away from me.This would lead to me becoming depressed throughout my school years. I also have ODD so when I was younger I would release my anger in the toilets by punching the walls. I think I was looked on as the weird, introverted kid at school and have never been able to shake it even as an adult. I work as an artist/animator so have never found friends from work because I work from home. I have tried to connect with people over social media including other artists who do similar work but have mostly been aired or have had short conversations which have led to nothing. I feel very isolated and lonely but I will start implementing some of the things from this video. I started watching you when I started getting into shape in 2018 but my favourite videos are your coffee with Hampton videos.
There is a big difference between being alone and feeling lonely. What a a lot of people need to learn is to be happy around themselves. This will by the law of attraction pull people to you that want to be happy as well and most people want to. I have the fortune to have a group of friends that i know for nearly 20 years now and I am only 29. Still i had times when i felt lonely even with them and the deep connection we had. It was until I learnt to be truly content with who I am and what I was doing and how i perceived myself as being who I wanted to be and going where I wanted to go that i felt blessed. Being alone was never the issue. I am pretty outgoing and know maybe too many people. As you said you can only hang out with so many friends, but you should never forget that you have to hang out with yourself all the time. To be a good friend learn to be a good friend to yourself first, everything else comes afterwards and being alone wont feel like being lonely. I enjoy me time as much as I enjoy being around my friends. Somedays I chill for myself somedays I want to hang out and its my free choice. I think that makes a big difference. People are very sensitive to neediness, I guess. I hope this helps someone one day :)
You're always so sincere and thorough in your explanations and opinions, I love the openness you have here about the positive and the negative sides of the problem. Coffee with Hampton is definitely a huge help for a lot of people and I'm glad you're going to keep it up, as well as your workout videos. It's just such a blessing for me to have found your channel, you're so positive and you always make me smile. You made my day with this video.
A great point brought up is that those you think are happy, may not be as happy or "put together" as they seem. We are all struggling to find our way in this world. My advice to my younger self would be to not worry about what others think. Don't stop yourself from being immature and goofy just because you're afraid to look dumb. Those who become comfortable looking silly will find much more joy in their lives. And those who put you down for being yourself are usually insecure and upset, looking for any reason to put others down for a little ego boost. I found myself gaining more friends when I realized that I am not the center of everything. When you realize everyone is more concerned about how they look rather than your dance moves, you can dance like nobody is watching. And even if your dance moves are bad, your confidence will draw people in. Life is short, enjoy the hell outta it!!
Amazing perspective and eloquently spoken! Everyone here is benefiting from this modern world because it brought us the chance to hear all your insights through the internet when otherwise we never would have gotten the chance. Thanks for all your content.❤️😃
That point at the end about a friend hating you, but there being others. I don't think that helps. I've been in that situation where a friend never wants to talk to you again. I could make new friends, but is it even worth it, it hurt so much to lose the friend I had, but new friends aren't going to make me feel that good. And I might lose them to. We value stuff we have a lot more than stuff we could have. It's been 10 years since I lost the friend I had, and even now I want them back more than I want any sort of new friend/things. I can't do anything to make them like me because the fear that I feel regarding my relationship with them, effects me negatively in the way I interact with them. I just had to give up and accept that they hate me, and hope someday they need me more than they hate me, as unlikely as that may be. There is no way a new friend could be as valuable to me, as getting back the friend I lost. My ideal person even if they're absurdly rich, would still not be as good as just, not having lost the friend I had.
I'm in a similar situation, and while I miss the friend I had, I remember that I was living my life just fine before I got to meet them, and if they're out of my life now, there's nothing I can do to bring them back so I need to find myself a life I can be happy with again, just as I was happy before meeting them. Detaching from them is really hard, but it's necessary if I'm ever going to continue to enjoy a meaningful life and not be hampered down by depression and self-pity. I did learn things about myself from losing the friendship though, and the things I've learned can help guide me as I find new people to spend time with and feel connected to. Think about what you may have learned, and use it as a starting point to finding the friends that do care about you. Best of luck! I hope you're well.
I'm having one of the worst days in years and this video just popped up in my feed. Hampton, I wanna thank you from the bottom of my heart! This is the real emotional constructive video I needed at the moment. 💞
I always feel lonely Mainly because i barely have any irl friends Its been getting away a bit because ive been making friends with some of my brothers friends but i dont talk to them much I realised a few days ago that i dont like crowded spaces when im alone when i went to a party and my friend was staying with her other friends and i was just sitting there. The only people i talk to irl are her and another friend from school I have a few online friends but i still feel very lonely This is pointless because no one is gonna even see it but whatever.
Maybe try becomind a good friend of an online person I had a really good friend and i never even saw her or knew anything about her but we helped each other we found each other in a game and i will never see her but i consider her a good friend
Thanks for speaking on this Hampton, I'm personally married, have plenty of coworkers, a few friends, and see hundreds of people a day working in a vaccination clinic, yet I'm so lonely in the last year or two. I don't connect strongly with friends and that's definitely the problem. It's also true that I find myself being choosy about friends, and I think others being choosy has meant our connections have become tenuous and faded. At least knowing these things means taking some control!
I'm new to this community. I love your heart and lovely spirit. I look forward to watching more. Loneliness has been a big thing for me because of trauma and recently making a lot of tough decisions. Trauma tends to create isolation. I'm doing well and am grateful for the awareness of what's going on inside of me. And when I am able, I truly enjoy reaching out to serve someone else. So, here's to healing journeys! 🙏🤗
I feel lonely because my girlfriend stopped talking to me because she couldn’t find a good headspace, it’s been 3 weeks now all I can think is it’s my fault
Weird thing but I was just really lonely around a couple months back but now with the new school year and no online I might not see friends often but I've used my time to focus on other things like bbq club ,golf,school , junior getting ready for college, weight loss (although past 2 weeks I've been eating a bit unhealthy but very rarely ). Also my headphones died so I can watch the video sadly... yet .
I wish I had at least one friend. I’ve been married for sixteen years. My wife has many friends and goes out several nights a week. I went out with a coworker once in sixteen years and my wife went ballistic. She gets very angry if I try to make a friend. She barely talks to me but won’t let me talk to anyone else. I am very lonely.
Im feeling as not-lonely as i truly can as of a week now. I got a girlfriend and she helps fill the void that i'd been feeling. We make eachother happy.
It is very nice to see you having someone who helps you. Congrats! But if I can give you an advice, as someone who just got into a breakup (literally yesterday), go easy and go carefully. Sometimes we had the misunderstanding that the happiness it is on the other person and this causes emotional dependency in harder situations... In other hands, float, chill, be happy, it is a good moment, but remain knowing where is you and where isn't it.
@@Daniel90956 agreed. I have always filled my loneliness with boyfriends, but life had me fucked up when we broke up. I know you might be happy now and feel okay, but this is the best time to actually target the problem and try to fix it for future settings. Now you will have the strength and support to do so.
really enjoyed this video, even though i already managed to overcome my loneliness, don't have the largest friend group but they're very close to me and I can easily have a rewarding chat with a total stranger. i think it wasn't so much loneliness as it was shyness, i had (and still have to a degree) confidence/esteem issues, and always thought no one would care all that much about me, even if i did muster the courage to talk with them. but i was incredibly wrong, everyone tells me i'm one of the nicest and funniest people they've met, don't really believe it but i'll take it lol. unfortunately this kinda opened up another problem for me, on the opposite end of the spectrum. now that i'm more comfortable socially i end up creating connections with people i end up regretting afterwards, be it they display some toxic traits or just simply not worth the amount of time they demand from me. i know i should not give these people my time, but most of the friends i do make are people i see often such as in school or work, and are hard to avoid. i also sympathise and have felt the pain of being ignored when just wanting a friend, so it is extremely difficult for me to push them away. any advice for this would be appreciated
Thank you for making a video on this Hampton. I think one problem currently is pretty much everyone is lonely and depressed, so it is hard to even be the one to reach out. Everyone always looks down, like they got somewhere better to be, like they have their own lives they’re rushing to get back to. Why would anyone even reach out when everyone just looks like they can’t be bothered?
They get home to connect with internet friends. Because these are the only people you can say whatever tf you want and they won't judge you. Everybody harbour deep and dark secrets and desires and it's great you don't need to put on a mask like in the real world. Of course I'm talking only on anonymous forums like Reddit or 4ch. Everyone seems to lie on social media like instagram or Facebook because people can see your face and you are actually responsible for what you say.
