best advise i've ever been given (by multiple male friends) is this: "If a guy/man want to see you, he will make it happen." This is absolutely true.. I'm not saying he has to chase you, but I am saying that he will make an effort to see you or talk to you if he's really interested in dating you. Ps Big fan of your channel Elliot.. keep'em coming
Generally, guys are not texter. One thing I learned about my boyfriend (regarding texting) is if he doesn't text me or forgot to reply to my texts, it doesn't mean he doesn't love me. Don't measure your man's love through the length of his messages. Guys often see that getting mad over an unreplied messages as a sign of insecurity. Just play it cool. If a guy really likes and loves you and you know it, there's nothing to worry about. Relationship is all about trust. Just saying :))
It's bs. It's not that they are not texters. They are just selfish and lazy. Relationships are BASED ON COMMUNICATION! IT IS NOT INSECURITY, IT IS A BASIC NEED, HE MUST REPLY THAT IS HOW IT WORKS, BASIC DECENCY!! Sorry. I don't agree, I am sorry but you have a bad bf.
@@nofybn7794 age plays a BIG factor in the texting department.... If he doesn't reply it doesn't mean he doesn't care about you. Men who are on the purpose are NOT dealing with their phones all day... Life is so different today!!
I fucking love you dude.. Hands down the best male dating coach out there due to your raw, brutally honest advices and us women need that shit! So thank u for existing!!!
I was married for 3 years and during that time Tinder became very popular...now that I'm single again, I won't touch that shit. I meet men in real life only. You just gotta get yourself out there in real life to meet real men IMO.
I agree. I have been on Bumble lately (came thing as tinder) and man, men suck. They dive right into love bombing, wanting to see you, mentioning sex in the first conversation. I am old school traditional, online dating is just not for me.
if you make a video without your car I will feel something is weird about ur video ! I get used to this car it is a part of you now lol thx for the beautiful advices :)
Can you make some videos on how to "fix" some reactions and approaches, such as messaging? I have friends that would be in panic mode because they either said something or done something they would not normally do, reason for acting before thinking is just nerves or out of touch with the dating scene..Again, another educational tutorial. 🤗
Dating and Relationships is too much fucking work and stress. too much to do and not do damn! do this do that! don't text! don't call! text but not too much.
+heartless bliss lol i see what you mean but from my eyes its actually really really easy. People just develop bad habits and do what they think is okay such as texting all day everyday and wonder why the guy pulls away. Dating is real simple: do you, work on you, put yourself first, and everything else will fall in place. No one ever does those things though. I can't tell you how many times I had clients tell me that they are afraid of saying XYZ or ABC because the guys going to pull the way if they do. So they're basically lowering their standards to keep a guy around which just lowers their value and everything I said above. Just work on yourself and let go of the outcome
does this apply to when you pretty much already have the guy? meaning if its been a few months and you two have already been through the flirting, dates etc lol? when I ask him how he feels about texting everyday, he says he doesn't mind he likes it. we've discussed our goals/intentions with each other, met his parents etc.
Great video, I like the idea of you critiquing clients dating/relationship problems. It would be really cool if you elaborated more on what exactly was said within the conversation to give us a better idea/example and then critique how you would do it differently. Just my .2 cents ;) take care.
Of course! as long as the client is aware/okay with you sharing the information then I feel like it would be super beneficial to your viewers as well. Making up examples is another good idea since some of us gals might not know whats too much/too little. Examples examples examples followed by how you would do it differently :)
I completely disagree with your comment about being out at a bar or social function. All women are beautiful in their own way. Not every man out in the world is looking for the same type as the guy beside him. I don't see dating as a competition. I know who I am and I know my value. If some guy talks to me out in public that I want to talk to then great, we'll have a conversation. If not I could care less. I'm not an insecure women by any means and I really don't appreciate you acting like all women are needy!!!! I've gone out with many different types of men since my divorce and they're all so needy and insecure. Independent women are secure in who they are and men love it but they always seem to take things to far and become needy and clingy! I have actually stopped dating for a season because men are to much drama for me!!!
I don't know about these other ladies but I'm so glad that you make these videos because I can see a dude bull**** a mile aways now and thanks for that!!
Good Afternoon Eliott. I really enjoy your videos and you're hilarious! I just need to know what to do and how to go about a situation with a guy I'm crazy about. We've had our up and downs, but we've always been there for each other and he says that I'm his light at the end of the tunnel. I just need to know how to go about cutting out some bad habits, like over texting and such. I haven't spoken to him in going on 4 days and I'm scared to send him anything. He's in the process of moving also and I want to send him a song since we always did that with each other, but I'm scared of being pushy. November will make a year. I'm going out with other guys and living my life, but I want him in my life because I just don't feel anything for these guys, but I know to enjoy life until he puts a label on us. I just need advice on what to do without looking desperate, clingy, or needy. I want to send him the song " Wish You Were Here" because we live in different states, but once again fear takes over. Help!
I think especially if it is online dating and you want to get to know that person in real life it‘s totally fine. I‘ve heard often that a first meeting with an online person shouldn’t even be considered as a date since you don’t know yet if you actually want to date that person. It is just a real life check if the attraction is there offline, too. I think it shows off confidence when you don’t want to waist your time with texting going nowhere.
just found your channel and i've been really enjoying your videos! not only do you give great advice, but you also have a nice personality which makes it pleasant to watch :) keep up the great work x
I have a male friend who I text almost every day, but I don't think he's interested in me anymore as much as when we first met. When we first met, he used to act more interested and say a lot. He also used to initiate the conversations sometimes. Now, he doesn't act as interested in a lot of things I say and he usually types one word replies or short replies. I usually initiate the conversations. I've told him about this and he said he will change, but he hasn't.
I do agree with you a little about texting. A real man will pick up the phone and call. If a man asks you out via text I wouldn't respond because you want a real man. You don't want a man that can't carry on a conversation over the phone so he always texts. Have a standard and don't deviate from that standard!
Have you a video on how to win a guy over through texting online and his texts show that he is very bored or is getting very bored and he no longer flirts with you....?
Yes, I have this disease. LOL constant texter. Usually people don't want to talk to me on the phone so it's the only option I have just to make conversation. I really miss when people weren't afraid of talking on the phone so those were the good old days! I just can't express myself in Just 2 words LOL
What if you meet on a dating app, have a few initial messages back and forth, he asks to hangout and I ask if we can speak briefly on the phone first... but he says he's not a big phone person. Really? I mean shouldn't he at least give me a quick call if that's what I asked for? Just for my comfort level?
+Elliot Scott Dating Thank you. Well actually, he said he's not looking for "serious." I don't blame him. Who would say they're looking for serious straight off the bat. At this age, I can see we were both in long term relationships before, so I said I was fine hanging out. It's the truth. All good... But I'd still like to hear his voice first just to make sure he's real, as you can tell a lot from even a quick call. Think ur right with these dating apps. "Most" are looking for hookups, and I'm not even sure what I want... But at least something more than just a hookup. Don't even want to label it. But men do have to know they need to take an extra step for the lady in "some" way. Trying to be open minded and just have fun with it, but I think you do have to have "some" standards.
How do you apply this to someone you met online that lives in a different country? He wants to fly out, but we've been texting for 6 weeks to get to know each other....is this also bad???
I swear these videos come out at the most convenient time. I'm kind of in a similar situation as the girl he mentioned. The problem is the guy I'm talking to/texting said he would like to "hang out sometime, just not sure when..." He's mentioned he was studying and he works during the week. He asked if I was free one day but he forgot it was a holiday (Christmas Eve lol) but then he never followed up with an actual date thereafter. I must admit that I'm not the best flirt when it comes to texting but I'm learning! haha. I know I'm probably fooling myself for waiting around for this guy but I at least want to meet him. :-/
Thank you so much for your useful videos. I really enjoy them. Thank you. I would like to know what about when you start texting someone with long distance and you don't have the chance to have date for some months?
How about a long distant one (I mean really long like 2 different countries) and the first date is a month ahead??? 😂😂 I’ve never watched any videos about this kinda situation cause everyone always assumes 2 people live in the same city and can meet up whenever
I remember he said you can reach out again after 3 ,4 days when he started not replying . And also you can just make a date like : say let's meet in what day you want . K ? So if he wanted or interested to meet , he will say okay . Or he will reply you a day he is available . If still no reply . You could wait another three days . If he never then reply back . Probably not the right guy :p he has lots information in book and other videos .
if he's texting you thats a good thing. Talk to him a bit then say you gotta go but you're looking forward to seeing him. I am just speaking if you're the only one reaching out.
@@FM-zg5hz No they are not! Believe me these men aren't getting anything. They even get angry saying " are you women all fake, no one ever replies" and " you need to lower your standards, no Prince is coming".
I kind of agree, because I've heard the same things. But from my own observation, the main reason of why you see the same guys on every dating app (or year after year) is, because these guys are usually trash, jam packed with issues and have nothing to offer to a woman.
Most guys told me it is very difficult to even get a girl to answer the first text on a dating app, so maybe it is not as you say that the competitions is so big....
I actually am a lazy texter. I barely flirt/build any sexual tension/attraction. I just get off goofy because if someone doesn't like my goofy side as a friend, they won't tolerate me in a relationship and I don't want them 😂
You’re videos are pretty informative regarding relationships and I appreciate them greatly however, this video took 12 minutes to basically say, keep it short sweet and set up a date, don’t text for too long… I was waiting for more lol
So question. I asked s guy to coffee yesterday, and he and I had a great time. He took me home, and texted me when he got home safely. After he did, I messaged him back, thanking him for the great afternoon we had, and for taking me home. He did not respond....should I be worried? what should I do?
what if you went out on a date... texted last that we both had a good time.. (he was last to text) but he hasn't texted again to follow up or suggest the next date..
Also, how do I know if I want to date the person? Usually I tend to just first get to know people on a platonic level. We talk about interests, hobbies, lifestyles and just "hang out" via texts. I need time to build trust in someone (and potentially thinking of dating a person) so all my new contacts are only meant for seeing if we are compatible on a casual level. I actually knew someone and it took me 6 years to actually get butterflies in my stomach but they faded away after we realized that dating wasn't meant for us. So some women (like me) are pretty slow on a dating game 😂
Hey! I have a question and would really appreciate your help: So I met this guy at work recently and we got along pretty good. I don't see him on a daily basis, though, it's more like twice a week for a project. We actually sat down together afterwards and ended up having a pretty deep conversation and he told me how much fun it was to talk about it with me. But now I'm on holiday for 4 weeks so we can't see each other. We started texting, he initiated the conversation. Now we've been texting back and forth for a week and it has been a lot. We found a lot of common interests. There have been messages that might have stopped the conversation but we (equally) still kept it going with new topics or random things like what he just made for dinner. He seems to enjoy texting and told me how amazing it is to have somebody who cares about all the things in his head. So my question is whether I should really stop it. Thanks man, you're doing a great work :D
Guy started off with normal conversation and then moved it to sexual more flirty text. Now he's only sexting. Says he still wants to meet me but hasn't bothered to set a date. Texts to hang out last minute late at night 🙄 or says "we'll figure it out"
The problem with texting my crush is he's not always on his phone and I don't want to text something he doesn't see lol. He does respond and apologize for getting back late (it's usually something like my text got lost or he was going through crazy shit throughout the week), but we mostly talk in person. Honestly, it's easier talking face to face with him. Not just because he can't ignore me (not that he's ignoring my texts lol. I know he genuinely doesn't get them because one time I texted him that I got this email and the next day, he asked if I got it lol), but it's just easier, I don't know what it is. Either he's a chill guy or I'm less shy as I grow older, but with past crushes, I would act like they didn't exist. With him, I felt more awkward of I DIDN'T say anything.
im kinda screwed, im literally on the other side of the world and i reallyliked this guy i met online, we talk from time to time but theres no way i can see him personally... Unless i move to London which is impossible right now.. :(
Hi Eliot I just have one Q if you can answer what's the possible reason and why. just met a guy through online and we dated three months.now.he text me only everymorning just say hi and hello hows doing bla bla..thats all for the day..he does not initiate to have long conversations. is it strong signs that he is not into me.Might be he talking someone else too??? pls.looking forward to your Answer thnk u marie
Marie Galang sounds like he likes you (he's texting every morning right?)....maybe your 're a good option ( and his other energy his going else where) so he's using the minimal possible investment tactic to kinda keep you kinda strung. He pops up via text to make sure you're still there. You'll learn more about his true intentions if you STOP replying or slow down replying vs. continuing to answer. Ghost on his ass...avoid being in a "waiting trance" and see if he will chase. If not, straighten your tiara princess and move the fuck on eventually more communication is necesarry if he wants to move forward in any kinda way.
what do you do if you accidently reject him via text? I told him we were coming home early from vaca. and he made a joke about me wanting him so bad...yadayada...and my response was just kinda oops on autopilot saying "u wish!" lmao I didnt mean it that way but Im sure it hurt his feelings a little... he hasnt texted since. :(
I've been talking to this guy for about a month now and I see him during the week because we go to the gym at similar times. During the weekends we'll text here n there but he never asks me out yet he's interested in going overseas with me next summer, I'm very confused in what way he likes me.
I have my male friend that is friends with me ; for 10 years. I've kept his cell phone number is it possible that I'm being to forward, clingy & needy. even I'd asked if whose cell phone number I have.
