HELP. Elliot! I wigged out and pushed him away when he was trying because I thought he/we needed space to create an even better connection but I think I came off like I didn't want to hear from him/bond with him anymore - or like breaking up with him-, and now he's quiet and GONE for good, I think.... I am so sad :( What do I do? Nothing? Did I push him too hard away? I just wanted him to step up.
Men are strange, they chase you, and then they shut-down. I flip the script, and do the same thing, and then they show-up like nothing happened. At this point, I've moved on to my other options.
No, if he is 100% sure about you, he won't ghost, men ghost just because they have a lot of options and you are not the 1 one. Of course texting all day is shit. I hate texting overall. I like real conversations.
Men are strange. It seems all they want is someone to run them down and make them feel desirable...which, I think, is the dynamic Elliot is referring to when he says "Low-ego male".
Lisa Lightrider a real man won't play these games. If a guy wants you, he'll let you know and put in time energy and money into getting you to be his. Trust and believe all these other jokers are just looking to boost their deflated egos and waste your time. We're better than this, ladies. Wake up.
It is really sad that we can’t just be ourselves and have to play these games in order to get a guy to commit. What happened to the days when two people genuinely liked each other and form a committed relationship and get married?!! Like damn this is a study course “how to get a man” “how to show you have value to a man” “how to get a man to commit “....how frustrating. Too many rules ...idk what to think anymore. 🤦🏽♂️
Welcome to what men have been going trough for ever. Sooooooo many fucking rules, instead of "i like you" "i like you too" its "here is a fucking sign" *blinks at a guy* its bull.
Ladies, this is why you seem to attract guys that you don't like more! You're unintentionally making them yearn for you because you give him space. But you give him space because you don't like him. Lol ironic, huh?
the appropriate response as a female to a withdrawing man to withdraw yourself from him. If it’s meant to be he’ll come back. If it’s not he won’t. Why worry about it? 💁🏼♀️
So, I found one of your videos and I think this like my tenth one, lol. Needless to say I subscribed. I love how candid and real you are. No fluff, just real talk!
Why is everything such a game? This has happened to me three times... A guy was really into me and finally when I got into him more too they just disappear and start acting cold. Then I feel like shit since they just stop talking to me and move on and THEN they contact me again :DD Such bullshit
Lilja Grönrus How long did it take for the person to contact you again? Some people are really strange and think they'll wait to see if any better people come along, which is stupid of them since later they realize you were a quality person.
I love your advice Elliot I actually went through this. I was chasing this guy because I liked him so much and he knew it but then one day I decided I didn't want to be THAT kind of girl and so I pulled away and even ignored him for a while and now he's the one chasing me. We might not like playing games but that's life and how most men are wired - they don't value a woman who doesn't allow them to chase. If you want to kill attraction immediately then continue to chase him if not then take Elliot's advice.
This is so good I've been dating this man for about two months now and he started to pull away but I just let him when he called I didn't answer when he texts I didn't answer and now he's calling me all the time I'm still would like to get to know him even more but he has to continue to pursue me to let me know that he's really into me and then we can move to the next level I thank you so much for your wisdom I'm learning so much
Ugggh...sometimes so much scarcity is made that I decide to just stay scarce. Too many games and if you have to do this and that to make this man act like a basic human being, well, 'f#$k 'em, ' right? All this value and chips can get on somebody's nerves. Men do this s#$t too, like you say. It's this kind of stuff that makes a person just forget about a man at all because it's too much trouble and just catch up on my favorite shows, write and do whatever else doesn't involve this stupid-needs-some-space-guy.
If a guy backs away dont chase - replace. Attention seekimg like little kids. Pathetic. Live your life and be happy amd successful. Live laugh and love yourself
What's really interesting is that most of us can ''see'' and tell what's happening to others love life. It's obvious in most cases,but we cannot do it for our own lol That's why i'm carefully listening to others,not necessarily following their advice though...
You can only give so much space for a period of time. If you don't chase they keep coming back,then he keeps going back to his space wtf. That shit is exhausting. Wishy washy crap. Time to move on.
I'm inexperienced with guys and don't know all the "games" or how things work. I feel as if guys are robots and emotionless. They rarely talk about their feelings and I realize it has to do with a lot of insecurity on myself and needing them to reaffirm their interests in me as a person not just a face and body. Big thing is I have daddy issues.. thanks so much for doing what you do!
Love the vid, thanks! But how do I know that he's pulling away because he wants his freedom or because he's no longer interested in me (he's just not that into me anymore)? :(
OK. So i am doing exactly like you say. No texting him. waiting for him to make the move. Not gonna do anything. Just wait. 1st time i do this. Hope it works.
Good piece of advice, don't wait around for him. Continue your own life and maybe start dating other guys. I'm going through the same thing right now. One thing i will not do is wait around. I keep busy, as well as continue my life. IJS :)
Literally needed this advice today! So happy I've watched this. I was going crazy because he pulled away but understand now that we text too much. Will leave him alone and see what happens! Still talking to other guys to keep my options open too. Thank you Elliot! :)
@@FM-zg5hz It was about 2 months before we made it ‘official’. He knew I had other options but I was pretty much set on him from the first meeting (didn’t tell him this though!) Didn’t want to only focus on him until I was sure he was the one for me.
I chased guys before and always got hurt in the end. My boyfriend of 4 years now.. Before we dated I finally knew how to play the game, I realized where I went wrong with guys before him. He always wanted to hang out with me but I wasn't always available bc I already had plans or I just didn't want to hang out. But now we're inseperable and been in love ever since. I think i reeled him in right lol
First of all, I love all your videos....so true and your no bull shit, no sugar coat delivery is what us females need to hear. Took me way too long to adopt these philosophies but when I did, life turned around big time. Also, thank you for the message that space is so important to give to men and to not take it as a bad thing. When I learned how beneficial it is to give a man space and time to work out things in his head, he always came back to me even better than before and I didn't have to do anything but honor that inherent male need. It's like magic. The best advice I learned related to this video is that, cliche though it sounds, "Absence really does make the heart grow fonder" and "familiarity breeds contempt." Thanks for emphasizing that. Love your videos. Can't wait for more!!! Anne
@@Akchick_907 Thank you. I sometimes think that way. But I know what I brought to the table...respect, caring and love. He will see it. He has financial and family issues to work through. Thank you, again.🙂 I know he will be back.
🌟 MORNING STAR⭐️ No dear a woman shouldn’t have to give a man space after he pulls away he needs help he’s a lost creature he doesn’t know how to love he needs JESUS to help him before he wastes a woman time. So many men are cursed because they treat Good women like this 🤦🏻♀️
I was rollllliiinn dude! Yeah man! Fuck that! And for those people who have a problem with cussing, get de bug outta your ass, and get the message. LOL!
I've only pulled away from women that I wasn't feeling. It's difficult to tell a woman such a thing because we (gentlemen) don't want to see ourselves hurting a woman. However, I've NEVER strung a woman along. I'm just not that cruel.
@@LotusSellers-r5z I was dating a young lady who just wasn't for me. And she really didn't like me that much either, but she assimilated to me. I could never love her honestly, so I let her go while she was fertile. She found a guy, got married and had a child. Her time was not wasted on me.
I have the need to feel super close and constantly connected on a deep level with my partner. But he's expressed that I'm too full on so I've chosen to lean back and let him initiate texts and calls. But1 my desire to stay connected isn't met and 2. I feel a little resentful that he gets to have me when he wants but I can't reach out when I want. Sounds like an unfair situation. Any insight?
when he pull away i gave him space i don't search him then he come back and i start talking and texting and again the same, i don't know What to think or he is playing or like to manipulate am confuse...
I’m from other culture and from other side of the world .i saw almost all your video and I study every thing you say ..honestly you are great coach and you give perfect advice about men .what I realize in the end that men are men every where in east or west .the same mind and the same reaction and the same thinking
Elliot! love your videos!! love your energy and personality. You vids have helped me so much. I think I watched pretty much every one. keep them coming. You subees r increasing daily!!
I'm dying why do ur videos always make so much sense esp w the evolution. This boy is obsessed w me but every time we even have a deep convo or intimate moment he freaks out. He disappears. Or says he doesn't want a gf or relationship. I never even pursued him. He obsessed w me. But I've been letting him go- and then he will come back randomly really sweetly. It sucks tho. I wish things could be straight up
how long is acceptable for guys to pull away then? ive left him alone, but how long till I move on? our last interactions were positive and fun I thought.
This idea reminds me how other children bullying me and laughing at me for my speech problems and disability but they don’t know that I’m very artistic.
subscribed!haha I love your videos & the natural way you talk about dating and shit is so funny! I've seen other coaches here in RU-vid and gotta say you are the best by far! peace!
Embrace the space... Had the most awful crush on someone in high school...He never showed much interest in me then, so I just proceeded with my college plans n did my thing...Didn’t see him for 5 years. Heard news on him, silently wished him well...went on with my life...boom. Run into him out of the blue...hey! I know you...now married for 30 yrs. Knew in my 16yo gut knew he was a good guy. But I let life run it’s natural course.
Thank u so much for all of your videos. I can speak on behalf of all women how appreciative we are for the truth behind the male perspective. It is oh so helpful & the way u deliver each message is always clear and you're just so amazing :)
I just started the video and before I even watch it I had to Paul's after the first 20 seconds. I've been meaning to tell you this.......I love the way that you cuss. It just makes you seem more GENUINE. Haaaa OK let me go see what you've got to say in this video. Keep up the great work
In Greece we learn from very young NEVER to chase a man. A wise old man said to me once. "If you want a particular man, kick him away" He meant it metaphorically of course. Then again, Greek men are not so commitment phobic...very different. Also, having men just for sex is a lot more acceptable and thought of as healthy whilst looking for a man for a commitment...
I have been watching a ton of your videos today and you were by FAR the funniest and most charming in this one. IMO... and boy did I screw up my relationship 😂 anyone else here in 2019?
You know.. about your "assessinng and sitting on rock" analogy... women like to do that also. I think it means being a mindful human being. You are very profound and straightforward, I like it! Thank you :)
what im trying to understand is why he made me chase him and then asked for space when i was taking it slow anyway?? please help can someone reply i know this is old i need advice he was playing games with me and testing me and then did this
Thank you for all your videos. You've helped me understand a lot about men and you always make me feel happier and remind myself of being valuable. Thank you!! Keep doing what you're doing.
I have a story! Believe it or not, but I have a guy who I met 2.5 months ago and throughout all This time, we have missed only 3 days max not Talking to each other. We talk to each other every single day! From morning to late night hours. And he is 2.5 Hours ahead of me. We make breaks during the day, he has some work m I have some stuff to do, but This is how we Are And If it would be any other way.. I think it would damage our relationship! And the fact, we both have someone we can to every day, say good morning And Good night actually makes us appreciate each other more :) But Yes , clinginess is bad!!! Great videos ! You ARE AWESOME . All the best to You. I'll keep watching ;)
I had a FWB that I fell for. I told him of my feelings, and things went downhill. He maintains he wanted to be "friends", but after an argument, he told me to "take care" and blocked me on facebook. What are my options if I want to get him back? Im the one that ended it because I wanted more of a relationship...
Long time listener, first time commenter. I love all your videos and advice. The very last part of this video, I’ll have to somewhat disagree with you. It’s your opinion. There is nothing wrong with the guy texting the woman after that first date, and or try to lock down another date with her. What I totally agree with, is there shouldn’t be too much texting in between dates. Have to pace and just have that chill attitude with a guy. Kills the mystery and desire too, with too much texting.
HELP. I wigged out and pushed him away when he was trying because I thought he/we needed space to create an even better connection but I think I came off like I didn't want to hear from him/bond with him anymore - or like breaking up with him-, and now he's quiet and GONE for good, I think.... I am so sad :( I just wanted him to step up.
ROLF. Guess what i just bought online last week for my moms secretaries daughter? YES. a TICKLE ME ELMO. I just died right now hahaha, i was a 100 something dollars. HAHAHAHAHA. The fact that u just mentioned that is HILLARIOUS. Great video as always.
hahah, my mom killed me with her "did u buy that elmo yet?! I WANT THE SAME ONE UR SISTER HAD for her son!" i was like MOM THYE DONT make those anymore, and they're like 100 dollars, and she's like I DONT CARE BUY IT. I'm like oh jeez. Yes they're a hot commodity, and yes being SCARCE in general def brings great value lol. OK gnite!
I’ve Never been too available, or clingy he was always the one who was chasing...at the first problem we had, he asked a break...it’s been 2 months, i told him this was a good idea...even if i was 😱 i didn’t show him...and let him leave, i know he Will Come back but i don’t know if i still want him...i don’t trust him any more...
