Do lots of married couples have separate finances? Been married for almost 25 years and this is foreign to me. Beyond that I cant comprehend the idea of, "my money is my money and his money is our money" Thats a recipe for ruining a relationship.
@joelrodriguez9661 That is not a relationship. It is having a roommate not will to pay their share of the rent. I assume it they have children they are her responsibility, and if they separate, no child support? She has her own money!😁 You can't have it both ways!
You guys HAVE TO watch the Chris Rock stand up comedy video wherein he talks about the difference between men and women. It's epic because he nails it so hard dynamite couldn't take it apart. He tosses it down hard for an hour non stop, it's a must watch. So you know I'm a 59 yo "white man who "identifies" with other people. Like the man said the skin is for protection from the sun, it won't help protect you from women however. I was married....was married. Never again I said and I meant it. Been 20 years and some change and I haven't changed my mind. On the contrary, things are worse than ever. When I get a wedding invite or hear about someone I know getting hitched I send them a "get well soon card" with my sympathy and prayers 🙏 for a speedy recovery 😜
God bless you queen I hope I meet my soulmate like you are to your husband because as a young black man I’m already mentally tired but this gave me hope
That's because you're not a product of western feminism and social engineering. The black American woman is what you will become if you allow these efforts to take hold of people and culture. Be careful.
I've only went out with 2 black women in my life. One expected me to pay her cellphone bill on the first date. I got up and left. The other expected me to buy her stuff at the mall. I ditched her at the food court.
It's not a raise thing tho! Truth be told. There are many selfish & ignorant females out that! I'm a black woman. And has never used any1 for money. It's just wrong! That black woman isn't speaking for me.
I met a black woman in Monaco. Most expensive date I ever had, she could eat and drink like no-one else. She practically ordered everything on the menu because "I can't be sure if I like it or not". I felt like I had been robbed, reparations, I certainly paid my fair share that night.
I'm a white guy. I became acquainted with this black guy. Didn't get real friendly but close enough to have he and his family over the house for bbq's. He worked construction during the day. He took on a moonlighting job as a security guard so his wife could go back to school during the day. He worked 8-10 hours a day in construction; made dinner for he and his two kids; then worked into the early hours of the following morning as a security guard; get home and get a few hours sleep and get up and do it all over again for two years. After she graduated, she started getting promotions at her job and made more money than he did. Just like the woman in this video, the money he made was "our" money and the money she made was "her" money. He never asked me for my opinion regarding this arrangement so I never gave it.
She texted his friend to sleep with his friend. She is trash. Now, his friend is also trash. Everything this woman said and her attitude is all a red flag. She was a mistake from the beginning. His friend is most likely going to ditch her.
Soon as she appeared on screen and I saw those horse eyelashes I knew she was gonna be terrible. She reminds me of "New York" from MTV's "flavor of love". That shit was cringe before cringe was even a thing.
He did it to himself. His man card needs revoked - he shouldn't have given that trash the time of the day. Us men need to pass on women like that and let them be single the rest of their life. He had to know how she was but he was just thinking with his dick
Proverbs 12:4 describes two wives: “A wife of noble character is her husband's crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.” One brings good to her husband; one causes harm.
@@maxfarax7131 Yes, this is true for most people. Satan has been busy. Jesus said it all when He said, "Father forgive them for they know not what they do" Only, He was not talking about today's people the Gentile, He was speaking about the Jewish, or Hebrew of the era when He was alive and crucified. Murdered by the people He called brother, His own nation. Just think of all the people who have said, " If I were alive and there at the time of Christ being crucified, as He walked carrying his heavy cross, being beaten, I would stop it from happening,I would not allow Him to be treated that way" However, in that would have gone against what had already been prophesied, that would have prevented Him from doing as the Father God had designated for Him to do. Get the behind me Satan, God has plan, and Christ was it. Amen.
As a black woman, I really wish this wasn't the narrative or standard for black women. There are so many of us that are the complete opposite of what is described in this video. I can only speak for myself, but I'm out praying to find an man that is a man of faith, is not a thug, at nearly 40 or older, has his life and finances together, not sex crazed, respectful and willing to communicate effectively, travel and have a successful partnership. No drama. I've worked hard to have my own money. If ever the situation arose, I could handle things financially. So I don't need his money, it would just be an added bonus. We are not all money hungry, promiscuous, ghetto, hood rat chicks. Some of us were actually raised to be respectful, productive parts of society. Ijs.
My grandfather was a marines veteran and an ordained minister, my grandmother worked in health care and was a self taught seamstress. I make my own dresses for fun, practice violin, and pride myself in being a talented painter. If I'm not the type of black person you're used to seeing, something is wrong with black representation 💯
It's worse than just "she slept with his friend". It's actually "she slept with his friend FOR MONEY". We all know what word describes that sort of behavior.
Bro I remember my homies wife told me her friend broke up with her husband and she came to the party. I was talking to her for a bit then she hit me with that ‘hey you got a good job huh?’ 😂 ol girl was looking for some security
She had no business even getting g together with friend until she had her emotio s and priorities checked. She totally intended on doing what she did. Now she's lying on top of being g rachet. Run Dude! Run!
I cannot feel badly for him. Eyelashes ✅ Long, dirty, ridiculous nails ✅ His money is theirs, her money is hers ✅ He jumped into this with both feet. He chose it. He signed in for it.
Oh yh,if he already knows how her engine works,spent a week or 2,basically knows what she thinks about idk EVERYTHING, and yet u stayed???u wanna hang around a month and just think ur gonna smash it and not get any opinion either??RIGHT...if u gonna order the burger,U GOTTA TAKE THE FRIES ON THA SIDE TOO!!u can't expect the whole meal,without eating some shitty 🍟 sometimes 🙄🤣🤦♂️🤷♂️😂✌️🍻🤟
There’s some disdain with all people in all communities. The whatever podcast lists these very things for ww lol smh. A bunch of hurt people not growing ❤️🩹
That's the attitude of most black women. That's why 56% of black men have walked away from them(all the hard working non criminal black men). They're entitlement is off the charts.
I have natural long beautiful hair, no nails, no fake eyelashes, no fake butt,no fake thighs, im not loud,I still like long walks in the park, my church , im very respectful & I respect my husbands views ,I am submissive ,oh I do love fried chicken but I love to juice veggies & fruit. I love hiking & bike riding. Please stop putting us all in the same boat please ....thanks
Except for the submissive part, you got it right. I've been married for 41 years, and we're partners. We consult each other about things and respect each other. I give in to him and he gives in to me.
@@auroraborealis6009 being submissive is one of the component of being a good wife, a masculine man want a submissive feminine woman, submissive doesn't mean weak or less than, just like a men being a provider is what attract feminine women, you are asking him to have responsibilities without any authority, also if you are Christian its in the bible, that's why the men in your countries leave to find wives in other continents, its only happening in the west, that's telling.
@@sole008 That's where you're wrong. I'm a lapsed Catholic, but I remember my Sunday School teacher saying that God made Eve from one of Adam's ribs so she could walk beside him.
@@auroraborealis6009 even in Catholicism it's said that jesus is the head of the church the church is the head of men and men are the head of their families and each should follow their master, if you are not convinced give me the version of the bible you read and i will give you the verse. And anyway if a man is masculine enough his wife will naturally submit to him unless she doesn't look up to him or is more masculine than him. Which is your case I presume.
@dekoflores3637 I would agree more females today, absolutely. Note the distinction with my use of female instead of woman. These females often let you know from the get what they are about. They can't help themselves. Some men get sprung (been there, don't that) and let their senses down. These females begin to learn how horrible they are in their thirties and forties. When men don't want them anymore other than to smash. Then they get old, lonely, and bitter. Lol!! What a breakdown!! Sometimes, I impress myself..
So she cheated because she had to pay a month's worth of her own house bills! Just when you think these woman can't possibly go any lower. What an embarrassment
‘My husband asked if I could help with the finances this month so I cheated on him with his friend, can you believe how horrible he is?!? Am I right, ladies?!?’ 🤢
The culture of many women today is that "my money is my money and his money is my money." I just never understood. When you get married, it's no longer yours alone but "ours". I make double what my husband makes, but we have a joint account. Were a couple, and i trust him with everything. That is why i chose him as a husband; he's my partner for life.
The fact that she "laid down the law" to him BEFORE he married her and he still married her makes him the fool. She wasn't trying to hide who and what she is.
Apparently that woman refuses to grasp the concept of: Marriage is supposed to be an EQUAL PARTNERSHIP, not her sucking up all that cash leaving him without. She never loved her "husband", she only wanted to be with him for HIS money. Women like that are why I quit searching for love, let it happen on its own.
Also obviously such women are horrible with money. They are the type that will win the lottery and waste it all in a few years. They never realise that with their ways they make themselves eternally poor because a man by her side will never manage to become great since she will be sucking his recourses and ability to have capital and expand his life. Therefore the guy will end up poor and she will then leave him while without her the guy will have the money to invest and become successful. Then she sees the other woman that is married to a highly successful man and she gets jealous and wonders why she can't have that. She can't because she didn't stand by her man and tried to help him succeed like that woman did, she instead put blocks in his ability to succeed and sucked him try and stopped him from having the ability to invest and buy a house and make sure they have big pensions etc etc. Now she lives alone in a small horrible apartment paying rent and struggling to get by and still wasting most of her money on getting her nails done and putting big eyelashes without realising what she is doing.
In our home, we firmly believe that teamwork make the dream work. And when we need to vent, we vent to each other. Both of our money comes back into the household.
What?! 😂😂😂 I keep my nails long. I’m the major breadwinner in my home. I cook, clean, raise kids. Everything my husband has is because of me. Miss me with that. Lol
@@seasons365 and just like you felt the need to defend yourself here - where you were not called out, named, or thought of in kind of way, shape, or form... You indirectly proved the OP's point. absolutely NO ONE here knew how long your nails were... We didn't ask about how much money you have... But you felt the need to defend yourself... Now we know that you're also the type to bring up what you did for the family financially in an argument with your "husband"
There are things that shld be talked about before marriage Will we become parents/ how many kids/ Etc He knew how she felt about her $ before they marry
My wife and I have been married for almost 20 years now. And from day 1, regardless of who made more or less, both paychecks went in the pot, and the bills were paid. Then, after all the bills were paid and groceries were bought for the month the the rest was left in the bank. If either of us wants something we may want, we will discuss it first.
The man who got rid of the woman who left him can be so happy to get rid of her. As Steve Martin said in a film: "You can't live with them (women), and you can't live without them!" But it is better to live without a woman like her than to live with her! You can't be happy with that kind of woman. It doesn't matter if she is beautiful! Finally, you will hate her!
That is horrible. She cheated on her husband! And she has no remorse. A marriage is a partnership where both people pitch in and help each other and work together to make it through life.
I'm absolutely certain that long term marriages like this are going to be a thing of the past. There is a serious lack of morality today and too many low quality women for that to be sustainable.
35 years here and still going strong. Also wanted to share I have more money most of our marriage. My husband and I have always shared/combined our finances and pay bills together. I don’t have a separate bank account from our account together.
I'm a Black American woman and the last thing I care about is an emasculated Black man. I take care of me and don't and never have depended on a sorry Black man
@@forwarddiscipline At least all of the women that have been around first-hand on visits to Senegal, Kenya, and South Africa were a whole lot different than American women (different in a good way).
My wife is Black. From the Motherland of Africa! She is very Black and a wonderful human being and a wonderful woman. She is kind and polite. Her Kenyan culture is different from American culture.
@shannonconrad4988 I'm a white guy and spent two years living in South Africa. The differences in attitude is night and day different from American black culture. It was kind of a shock actually, but the other part of that is that even between the different tribes in South Africa the cultural norms are quite different one from another, to the point that I now don't like to hear global references to "African" culture, as they are so very different from region to region. But mostly the women were very conservative and very traditionally minded. Travel is an important method of education.
Your wife probably had a father who showed her how to recognize a good man. A good number of American Black women, did not have fathers in the house to teach them that, so they think that men are beneath them.
To answer the poster below: My wife and I, 2nd marriage for both of us, have separate finances. We kept them that way for convenience since it was all setup that way when we met. We share expenses and pay our bills together. She manages her own money as do I. WE never have ever utter any words like "your money is my money", ever. Just toxic greed demanding entitled bullshit. We are older folks now I am 67 my wife 65 soon so that is a factor as well. We don't do bling or flashy cars or any of that stupid expensive crap behaviors. 100% debt free with money in the accounts. If a woman says that even once? Run screaming from the building. Do not wait, do not delay. Run away as fast as you can.
I've dated a couple black women. Super beautiful women, but I found them argumentative, entitled, and wanting to be spoiled despite having bad attitudes. It didn't take long to see it was gonna be a bad path for me, so I got out quick each time.
Likewise just described the last black woman I was “talking” basically self sabotaged not even a month in 🤷🏽♂️ exactly why I don’t date black women unless they’re a specific type.
In Africa our women are hardworking, they go to the farms, markets, offices and take care of the children. This culture in America is alien to us. They are also the pillars of the churches and guardians of morality
@@GreatIntellect13 White people aren’t ‘others’ we are all part of the same oneness. Twists comment was tongue in cheek at the woman’s ridiculous behaviour. She was hardly condemning the whole of the black community!
She said he knew about that at the start of the relationship. Man if I heard that shit especially early in the relationship i'd be like 'get the fuck outta my house' lol
“Play stupid games, win stupid prizes”… anyone that would consider a relationship with a woman like this (Gay or straight), should be required to have a psychological assessment. The ‘lack of maturity’ speaks volumes as to how relationships work. I’ve been married 36 years & its WORK. Both working towards combined goals…. It can be the BEST or the WORST, depending on how you choose….. choose wisely.
I don't feel bad for that dude at all...as soon as he heard her speak he knew what type of women he was getting. How in the hell can you even stand to listen to her for more than 5 minutes.
@janedoe-hq9vn I know that's how it's spelled, but I didn't hear and "N" either. More like veh-eh. Like damn we just keep taking letters out of words now. No wonder younger people speak in modern day hieroglyphics (emoji)
That woman was acting more like a mistress! She lives with him for a wage ( in this case, the rent and bills paid ), and when the money stops, she goes.
Loving them how, definitely not in marriage. Last time I checked, 93 percent of black men married black women, so where are all these brothers who are being loved by white women.
This makes me so sad lol, I’m a 46 year old single mom of 2 young adult sons & have been single for a while & it’s hard dating bc men look at all women the same these days. I DO NOT want your money. Yes, if we are a couple for a while & live together there should be sharing but from BOTH sides. I just want to live with a roof over my head, food on the table, gas in the car, compassion, conversation, companionship, loyalty, trust & love. I know it sounds like a lot but it’s BASIC & I want to do it TOGETHER. What’s yours is MINE but what’s mine is also YOURS. Idk, maybe I’m old fashioned haha…I just enjoy people & want to take care of each other. We need to rise up as an American people & get through the hard sh*t. Be well all, peace and love ✌🏻🇺🇸♥️
In 1960, the Black American community had a single-parenthood rate of 20%. Now that rate is 75%. When the Civil Rights Act was signed the poverty rate was 17-18%. Now, after 59 years and 22-24 trillion dollars, the poverty rate is 13-14%. The problem is not society's reaction to our minority population, but the culture within the minority population itself.
Before i even watch this i will answer my perspective. It's not the skin color, it's the mouth. It's loud and never stops moving. While this is most women in general, black women tend to overdo it.
It's been said many times, many different ways...."The winter is coming sistas..." 1 out of 4 black women have been married in their lives and that number is dropping. 2nd marriages are far less likely to survive the first 5-10 years. Being frustrated with your husband's inability to to pay bills is one issue, but to torpedo your family due to inconvenience is pure selfishness. Soon enough, there will be even less black men to complain about in the dating pool. Good luck, sistas... you'll need it.
Since i stopped dating ABW and started dating African women, my reality on quality women has drastically changed. I thought low quality was high quality, and the standard was ABW until I started dating out. I can never date ABW it's low quality but I had to experience high quality to know the difference. know your worth and stop dealing with these low quality Keshias. The world is yours
It's 100% cultural, not color. Go find a good African woman from Kenya or Tanzania or any eastern African country. You will be the happiest man on earth.
After living in the Atlanta area and working with black people, working in predominantly black neighborhoods, I came to the same conclusion. Black people are not very nice to each other.
@@Me_yup_7not really. I live in the Netherlands. They're all polite to each other...even while driving 😂 Ever been to Ireland? Shit they all treat each other and you like FAMILY. Eveyrone is honey and love and darling haha they go out of their to help you.. don't matter where you're from or what you look like
“My money is my money, your money is our money.” Let’s be honest, she just said the quiet part out loud as a lot of women think like this. This that Sexy Red & Ice Spice Effect.
As a black woman, I would be ashamed to treat a man like that for money. I dated wealthy men but asked for nothing. Other blacks around me thought me a fool but I cared about them men I dated and have no broken bridges and can call any of them and have a good talk. They treated me good and I treated them good. I can buy my own stuff and never have had a weave since I do have hair growing on my head and I don't need fake nails, or my feet done. Who told women they needed these things. Who told you this stuff is important? They are so busy trying to get these things, they forget how to act and just be a lady. I feel for young men today who have to date this mess out here.
You are a very rare woman in today's times. My 2 white exwives where just like this woman. Red flags didn't show til after we were married. Good for you in having morals and a good upbringing.
She just told the world she cheated on her husband and with his friend at that.. I do think it’s a problem when men don’t feel they need to provide for their wife, but we have a role as well. She wanted him to be a man when she clearly wasn’t the wife she was supposed to be.
Good I would not advise you to either. Dated 2 black chicks and by far the worse experience of my life. My first gf was white and there was no problems either. Last black chick I talked to stood me up and wasted my time. They not worth it man
@@jaysouthmusic8230it’s not about the it being a black and white . it about the home she comes from . The economic status . Does she come from a two parent household. It’s who you choose . It’s not a color thing men go after these women with the eye sweeping lashes drag makeup Lace front wigs screaming she independent but want you to spend crazy amounts money on her hair and nails or a damn designer bag . They become jaded by the race of women . I’m a black woman . My fiancé had to remind to set a hair appointment. I know how to do my own hair and I don’t believe in paying a lot of money for that . Alot of this is culture but it’s good black women out there that don’t behave like what you came across . Her behind is in the house somewhere .
Latina here. Duh. But came to say, I was exposed to that ridiculous “His money is MY money and MY money is MY money” ideology by my young black colleagues in grade school. I KNEW it sounded ridiculous even then and never thought it had permeated until I saw myself thinking JUST LIKE the woman in the video. 😳 Glad I caught myself cause it really is RIDICULOUS.
I have been divorced since 2012. I have dated several women since my divorce. They were all narcissist. I have not been with a woman in 10 years. I have never been this happy in my entire life. They are just not worth my effort.
@arizonagirl6474 I know that all women are not that way. I am a decent man who always put other's needs before my own. They, including my ex-wife, just were not looking for someone like me. I do not need anyone else to make me happy. I am truly free. I do not have to answer to anyone but my dog. He is okay with whatever I choose to do.
For richer or POORER, in sickness, and in health. That includes mental health. Some people have no loyalty, honor, or integrity, just living from one purchase to the next, or one partner to the next, to make themselves feel better.
Facts I even heard that even white dudes don’t want them and those be the ones most black women be worshipping and swear up and down that they are better
Facts. I've always told folks (before I met my wife) that I don't GAF what a woman's skin color is, or what countries are in her bloodline, as long as she had a good personality/non-gold-digger/doesn't slam me for my interests/hobbies if she doesn't like them.
I was doing my field work. I was working my way though a large office area during lunch and overheard this woman on the phone, obviously talking to another woman. Marital discord was in the air, and I overheard this woman say, "Just remember when you see the lawyer. What yours is yours, and what's his is YOURS!". I'm a boomer. In my time I saw a lot of marriages start off all lovey-dovey. But, once the apartment morphed into a nice house; the rusting Nissan became a pair of good cars; the K-Mart kit furniture became real wood furniture, she (always she) decided that she didn't love him anymore and was going to take the better of the two cars, the house, the furniture, and sole custody of the children. I never married.
Been married 40 years...we both worked full time...we both do chores...we both took care of the children.... we have one bank account with both paychecks in it. We both have a say in what we spend money on. Entitlement is a symptom of the spirit of narcissism, and we know that spirit isn't of God.
Im going to say it. I was married to a black woman yrs ago, and it was hell. When we were dating it was good bt then when we gt married she changed. She punishment me for all of the guys in her past that treated her badly. It gt so bad that i almost committed suicide. I hated it. We divorced now and she since then apologized and is married again bt i stayed away from black women since then. And i hate it bc i came from a black woman. Bt i dated other women and they weren't as bad. Why is it that most black women are like this?
@detective___mcnulty mine ex wife did too and deleted my female friends that I've known for years. She even got mad at me for talking to another woman. That woman was my sister.
62 years old….been single last 4 years…Loving it..!!! No drama..peace and quiet. Come and go from my house as I please, no explanations….Travel…..ahhhhh Nirvana.
Were you married before? I would think you'd wana be single when younger, not older. Women tend to live longer, so I think it's in the man's best interest to have a wife later in life to take care of him.
I was at a family barbecue last weekend and a young man with two little kids both in their early 20s,her barely 21, She had no education no job and two kids by her 21st birthday. Still not married and her ego was so huge, She thought she was the prize. He works as a welder comes home babysits does the cooking and listens to her ratchet at him about not doing a good enough job with the kids. On her watch, the five-year-old fell out the goddamn bedroom window on his head. She’s got the nerve to ratchet at him? She was doing it in front of everybody and I looked at him and said” are you going to check that shit?” She didn’t like me too much. I dragged him aside and said, do you wanna be miserable for the rest of your life if you don’t, then you get her in line right now or you dump her ass and get the kids. I really hope he listens because I love his family and I don’t want to see a miserable for the next 20 years or more. Man up young men don’t take that shit.
Same here. We're a partnership. Can't tell you how many times one of us has gone to look at something, run into a salesman who was desperate to make a sale, and tried to "shame" one of us into buying something when we said, "I'm going to talk to my spouse about it," or "I want my spouse to see it first." They try, especially with my husband, to make it seem like we're whipped. I just tell them, "Well, we've been together 40 years, still in love, and if we do decide to purchase it; it won't be from you.'
