THIS Is Why Modern Women Are Single... | Courtney Ryan 

“If someone treating you right and respecting you is a turn off for you, you need therapy” so true

You know how at one point everyone was looking forward to graduating high school to get away from the drama. Well social media has brought everyone back to / kept us in high school

The friend zone clip was HIlarious

The lady that mentioned girls being mean, struck a chord with me. At the age of 49 I went to college for a career change. Along the way, I became a sort of Father Confessor to many of the students. One guy in particular I had a lot of classes with the first year. One day in the computer lab I was talking with him and his friend when a group of attractive young ladies came in and took a table nearby. Apparently one of the girls was my friends crush. The guy with my friend was encouraging him to go talk to the girl, I told him to NEVER talk to a girl he liked when her friends were around. He listened to the other guy, screwed up his nerve and walked over. He barely got a word out when the other 3 witches verbally disemboweled him and sent him slinking out of the lab with tears in his eyes, totally destroyed. Those worthless tramps just turned a great guy into a dude that will forever just get what he wants out of girls because he's never going to put himself in the position to get hurt like that again. I've thought about it many times and I truly hope those three girls spend very long, lonely, bitter lives reaping what they've sown. At least they'll never run out of cats to rescue.

Being an older gentleman, I feel so sorry for both men and women in the dating spheres. You would think that the internet could bring so many people together that would never have met but it seems to be nothing but a sewer pit of nastiness.

When I pulled up to my new girl friends house, and saw her in the front yard laying on the ground changing the oil in her car, I knew she was the one for me. I was right, since then we've built a perfect life together. We've built multiple homes, restored many classic cars, and put two 2 kids thru college. We're still together after 36yrs..It's been a fun life with her for sure. Find a women that's not afraid of getting a little dirty, and you can build a good life together both contributing to it.

The lady talking about most girls being mean nowadays is so true. Most of the meanest things I've ever received my whole life are from fellow women and it makes me sad.

Courtney you 're such a wise, mature and no nonsense girl with a solid moral compass, I really appreciate your content. Keep spreading content and don't worry about the haters, there always will be negative people whose only "hobby" is to tear other people down. Greetings from Belgium, Europe.

“If someone treating you right and respecting you is a turnoff for you, you need to go to therapy” LET EM KNOW COURTNEY 🔥🔥

"Check your friendzone!" "Friendzone!" "Yeah, friendzone!" LMFAOOOOOO and its true!

I put myself in the friend zone alot because I had no clue that girls and women liked me. I did it in my teens and carried it well into my adulthood. I shake my head often over so many missed opportunities I had when I finally figured out how to recognize when a woman likes me.

"Where are all the good men?" We got tired of being friend-zoned and eventually determined the cons outweighed the pros of being in the relationship so we removed ourselves from The Game.

As cliched as it sounds, it's still true: hurt people hurt people. So incredibly sad.

"Where are all the good men?... You're probably friends with them" ~ Courtney, the woman who actually understands us 3:00

Beauty doesn’t last forever but a mean personality does. Priceless.

“Buddha quote: "Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die."” 15:48

"So many people are just MEAN... and proud of it!". That is possibly the most accurate thing I've heard all day.

If you're not already a relationship/marriage counselor you definitely could be. Well done.

When a guy gets friendzoned: Giving the gal "the boyfriend experience" and not getting laid. When a gal gets friendzoned: Sleeping with the guy but not getting "the boyfriend experience." It's that simple.

It's like high school never left. It stays with people.

Modern women: "Where are all the good men?" In the friend zone where you left them.

Being single seems old until you see others being cheated on and you remember why you stay to yourself 🏌️‍♂️

You are so graceful. I grew up surrounded by older women with your type of aura and perspective on the world. They had so much respect from society. I aspired to become like them. But today this world is so broken, it cannot handle such grace. Society now disdains and calls good people fake.

"The alpha chads don't get the healthy girls." This is an amazing insight, and just earned you a subscriber 🙏🏾

At age 82 I will say that I was in the girls "friend zone" or I put the girls that liked me in my "friends zone" up until the age of 24 - 26. That was a blessing as it gave me time to mature both emotionally and financially. I can't say enough about the wonderful 52 years that my wile and I shared together up to the day of her death.

The “being mean” thing is interesting - now that I think about it. Too many people brag about being a savage, like that’s a good thing. Maybe it’s some kind of warped “empowerment”?

The friendzone is one of the worst feelings ever. Especially if you felt that spark once cause it can disappear quickly. Been there with this woman I knew for a long time but we didn't hangout until like 4 years ago. From the jump I felt a connection with her unlike anyone I've ever dated and we weren't even dating. I thought she was the one. I let her know how I feel and unfortunately she didn't feel the same. But now I'm just trying to let her be happy and I'm trying to move on and find a someone new but it's hard man....

"I can't be a lover with my friends because they know too much?" - Seriously? That just sounds like insecurities and immaturity. The inability to face a bit of initial awkwardness... You SHOULD know everything about your lover if you intend on having a truly intimate relationship... Friends make the best lovers. It's actually the other way around if you are good at developing deep meaningful bonds with others; like your friends. - All your relationships should come from your friend pool. Otherwise you are engaging in a game of sex first, get to know them later and hope you are compatible.

You can see in her eyes how genuinely disappointed she is in how toxic, callous, insecure, ignorant, nasty, and rude people are in the modern dating world. The fact that she agreed with Coach Corey Wayne says it all. Wise beyond her years and a great coach.

You'd be surprised who comes around out of the "friend" zone when your social status improves with time. Watch it in effect at your 20 25 and 30 year school reunions.

The "Childhood Friend" cliché is a cliché for a reason. It's true. One of my closest female friends (other than my wife) is someone who I grew up with and I had a pretty big crush on her ever since puberty. Since we knew each other pre puberty the chances of us going out was absolutely minimal. Today we are still amazing friends that love spending time together. What finally got me to get over her was when she got into a relationship. Seeing how happy her partner made her allowed me to be happy for her and so I was able to get over my crush which allowed me to, eventually, meet, date, and marry my wife. So any of the guys chasing after your childhood crush, you're better off helping them find happiness so you can find closure.

"If I have to make up a lie for me to be in love with you, I don't want you." Girl, you got it down.

I'm 44 and have been married for 26 years. We separated when I was 33, I left her because we were. "growing apart" but in reality we weren't communicating at all. Anyway I found that after dating other women most of them were looking for a man that had a good job and money because they didn't want to work or they were broke. They were very willing to get in bed with someone they didn't even know just to get a guy that would financially support them. My wife and I got back together after 3 months and I'm so thankful that we did.

why is there so much of an obsession over women winding up alone? Literally there are five men on my street who are over 50, have never been married, and they all live alone. Men "die alone" too, but nobody is pressuring them about how they should change to avoid it.

This shows how important it is to keep things in relationships private.

Don’t try to get out of the friendzone. It isn’t worth the effort and the chances for success are minimal. Just get out of the zone, period. Go elsewhere.

As a guy, I am scared to fall in love because I don't know if the girl I like would like me back. Besides, today's generation is influenced too much by social media and the world is so corrupt right now that it seems all hope is lost.

It breaks my heart that people would think to be mean to you Courtney. I seriously wish all guys who want to date good women would watch your videos. Your advice is so spot on and exactly how decent women actually think. Im not a dude but I just love watching these so i can be like YEP, MHMM. SO TRUE. You are really great at communicating it clearly too, so props to you.

The way someone treats you is only how they feel about themselves. The hate that people spew is simply their own insecurities. It's always about them. Until they grow up... there will always be people like this.

My wife is 14 years younger than me, when we met I was 54, 295 lbs, bald, just been made redundant and angry at pretty much everything. I didn't feel I stood a chance with her, so I just treated her as a potential friend. 3 months later we started dating, I have no idea what she saw in me, but with her help I shed 95 lbs, have lost my crazy eyes, and I live a calm, relaxed, amazing life. We share everything, shopping, housework, car cleaning, gardening. There are good people out there, but they're becoming harder to find. I'm so pleased I'm nearly 60, rather than 20.

Ya I was friend zoned COUNTLESS times in high school. Little more in college, but I soon learned that I was getting friend zoned and that it was affecting my mental health. Now, when I get friend zoned by a girl I'm interested in, I just take myself out of the friendship (nonverbally, not trying to be rude to her) to save a heartbreak I potentially created for myself. EDIT: I cannot make this up, within a week of posting this, I got friendzoned again. This girl was so excited to hang out, always said good morning and good night, then drops the friendzone on me.

The world is turned upside down, which makes me sad. Today's society only focuses on status/look whether men or women, when there is much more important. We need to be more authentic, more genuine. That's why Courtney's videos are special, it's the right way we all should be, direct, kind and knowing that life is the moment.

Saying "there are good women out there" is like saying "there is a path through the minefield, all you have to do is find it."

I think when it comes to people being mean, I think it has to do with people confusing meanness/arrogance with confidence. The lady was also spot on about watching too much "Bad Girls Club." I would add to that a lot of reality shows over the past decade or two along with social media has really given people a warped sense of how people should treat one another.

I laughed out loud when she said "I was in the friend zone ONCE." Once, lol, if only...

I'm a 22 F. There's tons of toxic people, male and female but the expectations are outrageous. I'm happily average looking but have a brain and some women cannot recognize that they do have qualities to encourage in themselves. Perfect doesn't exist, you and him know that, so why is that the expectation? Small bump in the road? Don't bail on him, work it out.

I'm never in the friendzone as soon as she says something equivalent to "I don't like you" I'm out

I’m seeing more and more females like you talk about these issues, I think it’s great 🎉 I’ve been in the friend zone, I played the long game but when it actually happened it only lasted a fraction of the time I thought it would so I’ve always acted impartial since, and ironically it got me more attention 🤷‍♂️

Oh please, women have it 100x easier finding a man than the reverse. It’s MEN who are more likely to be alone than women.

It makes me happy that the friend-zone issue came up in this video! This has happened to me quite a bit over the years. I feel like a lot of men that are not in that top 10 percentile are prone to this happening. If women are chasing top 10 percentile men in hopes of marriage, that's probably not going to work out because those men do not want marriage. If you date a player, you get played. Meanwhile, they are friend-zoning legitimately good men, who are actually looking for long term commitment. It's a vicious cycle, one that is not benefiting either gender IMO, I wish we could get out of it.

The friend zone is like purgatory. I like this lady's video's, but had to laugh when she said even she was in the friend zone. Once. Try being put in the friend zone literally dozens of times, like most men who aren't Chads or Tyrones.

Dude I’m binging these videos and Courtney is a freaking national treasure man. ❤❤❤❤❤

My wife and I have been married for 29 years. We were friends for a year before we started dating. This foundation of friendship has been very beneficial for our marriage. We knew each other on a real level before we complicated it with feelings of desire.

A beautiful woman that ISN’T single giving advice.. thank you 🙏

nicotine gum guy is actually onto something. he is subtly drugging his victims and doing a form of NLP where the drug exposure/addiction is overlapped with emotional/physical intimacy, causing to two to blend into each other as a force multiplier. im sure it works, for those willing to stoop that low. its sociopathic/psychopathic manipulation. and you can tell just by his vibe, something is seriously off with him. these people exist, and they arent that rare unfortunately.

i have lost count how many times ive been in the friend zone. its worse when that friend complains to you about their current bf and says they wish they were someone like you. like dude WTF????

"The best revenge is moving on" never heard anything better than this . I see these novels where girls and boys waste a whole lot time taking revenge on their toxic partner when they could hv moved on and had a better life that'll make their partner feel sorry about themselves.

Courtney showed up on my feed and I gave her a chance. I'm surprised so far--she seems real, like she was raised right, like she stands for something that lasts. Thanks for bringing value to the world, Courtney.

I love your content. This is why I'm teaching my daughter's to be self aware and I hold them accountable. I also teach them to be nice, have boundaries and always say please and thank you.

Courtney, you are a breath of fresh air, as a guy I gave up talking to anyone with this behavior and it saves a lot of energy. The right people will show up that match my vibration!

GUYS... Courtney just admitted something that you should take on seriously . Never let a girl get to know you too well. She will eventually see you as a brother/friend. *Always* be a mystery.

Courtney, loved your content. Speaking of revenge "The best revenge is not to be like your enemy." Marcus Aurelius

Nowadays men with money, status, and looks will either: A.) Run through as many women as physiologically possible. B.) Stay away from women all together. Win-win for men, loss-loss for women. Hope it was worth it.

Courtney, you are a treasure. I have watched videos from other women who coach men on how to date. I keep coming back to yours. You have emotional intelligence. You are kind, and you genuinely want to help. Your advice is spot on. No game playing, no BS, no useless flirting tips. So much of social interaction is based on common sense, decency, and maturity. As a Boomer, my parents instilled in me good values and good manners. I’m not sure millennials or Gen Z people were taught even basic politeness. Also, with Tik Tok and other social media, there is so much insanity being peddled online. You truly are a breath of fresh air! Oh, and in my experience, “friend zone” was simply a platonic relationship. Nothing wrong with that. Once sex becomes part of the equation, the potential for toxic behavior increases exponentially. Keep up your grown up dating advice ❤️

Courtney has the best relationship advice content on RU-vid! She's like the big sis I've always needed!

I agree about the sense of humor part. That’s one of the things I love about my husband. Whenever he makes me laugh it reminds me of why I feel in love with him.

To me, it seems as TikTok attracts the younger crowds more but can attract anyone of any age where they think they know it all but haven't learned about life

Modern dating women ironically want "friends first". Then complain that their guy friends just want to sleep with them. But are training men to seek friends to lead into a relationship. Then have a bunch of guy friends who are great partners but are just friends. And proves the point to her bf. That guy's friends aren't just friends. They are potential bfs.

Being friend zoned is actually very shattering. As a guy who likes a woman who sees me “like a brother” it’s a very irritating and persistent problem. I’ve had my friend ask me, “why do all the guys I talk to always seem like F-Boys” Well maybe that’s because you always go for the 6ft5 gym instructors, or only give your number to guys at bars…..

Even though I am married and have been with my wife for almost 12 years now, your videos help keep me grounded and give me those needed reminders I need to make sure I stay married and keep my lady interested. Also, I enjoy listening to you while I'm working. My bunny(in my channel picture) gets put to sleep by your calm voice. So thank you for that because it keeps him out of my hair when I'm working around the house 😉

She is so right. When I was attracted to badboys I was really messed up in my head. Now going through lots of therapy sessions I love it when a guy treats me properly and respects me. I've come so far that I've even rejected my ex (he was toxic).

I saw this narcissism issue coming many years ago. People posting their “fitness progress” for the world to see is NEVER for themselves. It is narcissistic behavior, whether you mask it with a health priority or not. Posting the food you got because it “looks pretty”…..no you wanted everyone to know where you went today. All of it is….troubling. I hate social media. This is my only platform I communicate with strangers. I read Reddit but that’s it. I deleted all social media during the 2016 election and I haven’t been happier.

“There’s more to life than what you look like on the outside and if you don’t have anything in here(*A good heart*) or here(*Brains*) what do you have? Beauty doesn’t last forever but if you have an ugly personality that does” “Be kind to each other, lift each other up” You made so many great points in this video. Thanks for all the great content & advice Courtney. Your videos have helped me so much not to mention the hundreds of thousands of other people as well. Really making a difference out here. Thank you!

Aww I love how sweet and intelligent you are. I agree with a lot of the advice you gave and it feels nice to finally find another person that thinks the way I do.

"Beauty is in the eye of the holder"- that's something we forget many times. I have seen couples that don't seem "balanced" in many peoples eyes, when it comes to looks, but they are still super happy together. Great content, love it!

I had a friendzone problem a while back, just out of high schoo,l it would happen all the time, but I figured out an easy fix. When I ask a woman out, and she says anything to the effect of "I just want to be friends" I always respond with something to the effect of "oh OK, well it was nice getting to know you" Which of course always listed something to the effect of "what do you mean it was nice" And then I politely explain that I was not speaking to her with friendship in mind, that I have romantic designs, and that I cannot simply turn those romantic intentions off, and that it would be unfair to her and unfair to me for us to be friends with such an imbalanced level of desire.This is almost always responded to with "I understand, when you get past those feelings you should really hit me up so we can be friends for real" I always tell them how flattered I am, and that, that would be nice, but still I reaffirm that I will likely never get in touch with them again, as by the time these feelings are gone, there really isn't anything worth while for me to reach out to her for anyway, I have tons of friends, and I really don't need to go out of my way looking for more. Then, no matter how you're feeling, you smile, you turn around, you walk away, and you never answer another text or call again. Just periodically keep up with her Facebook so that you can see when that inevitable "single mom boss Babe" cat lady post makes its 1st appearance. That's when you hit her up and see if she wants to be friends. And at that point stay friends no matter how hard she pushes just stay friends, And every time she says she wishes she could find a guy who would actually take her seriously, just be like 👍🏻 👌🏻 "damn, that's crazy...." Leave a good sized awkward pause then say something completely nonsecutor, Like did you see that game last night? It works especially well when there was no game and she knows that.

She's so positive and well meaning, I feel a lot better from this channel

All the good men ARE in the friendzone and at this point, it's probably a good thing given the era we're in where anything bad that happens/can happen can easily be blamed on men

It puzzles me how a grown adult with any kind of intellect is willing to take advice from a social media platform such as tik tok smh

Courtney keep it up, it is refreshing to hear your old school values.

Courtney is such a gem. Protect her at all costs

You are seriously the one true hope for the modern dating culture! I really think you have a powerful voice and will go so far not only among men, but women too! As someone who’s been stung by falling for someone who was tiktok level toxic, your content has truly helped me gain the self esteem and self worth to go out there and know what I want, even if it does look bleak out there!

"This is not about stopping Ragnarok, this is about causing Ragnarok." - Thor, the God of Thunder

when I try to find the right person, I always look for the person who has a reading habit and is able to take their own quiet time. chaos, drama, and conflict is always red flag which is so common in this modern society.

New title: this is why modern women will never get a diamond ring

Thanks Courtney, I’m a 67 year old “pushover” no more man that’s finally ending a 23 year marriage with the most toxic woman I have ever known. Even our 17 year old son doesn’t want to live with her. I’m having trouble with that because the women that influenced me in my youth didn’t behave in a way that made myself or anyone else dislike them. Just the opposite and no one could convince me otherwise. That’s probably why I supported the women’s rights movement and have always tried to empower women, even my X. I’m not sure how I fell into the trap but the woman I wound up with is most certainly not the same woman I married. I’m certainly not perfect but give me a break. The day I said “I do” was the end that I put up with way too long and the financial loss is devastating. She refused to work, became mean, demanding respect from us but didn’t believe she had to reciprocate. I don’t think the words reciprocate or accountability are in her dictionary. Anyway, again thanks. You’re a rare and very wise young woman so don’t let anyone’s negative “crap” affect you in any way shape or form. Emotional abuse is unacceptable but people with narcissistic behaviors don’t care how you feel and “get off” on your reaction. If you even comment about someone’s negative comment, you’re giving them what they need to survive, they’re “getting off” so don’t grant them the pleasure. They don’t know what true pleasure is. Please keep doing what you’re doing and keep making a positive impact on both women and men with Biblical principles.

"If you're playing a game, you should be willing to lose." -Dr. Black Philip.

Dang, you're good Courtney. This world needs more people like you. You have made a difference in my life.

I'm in my 50s and have spent a lot of the last 40 years being told how I'm a great guy but I'm not the right type. I'm shorter and heavier than average and have an OK face. I have always had a good job and made good money and treated everyone with respect. Want to know where this good guy has gone? He left the dating market years ago because I got tired of being rejected.

I think there are two sides to the friendzone conversation: One is definitely on the girl to check herself and understand why she is not attracted to good men that she has friendzoned. HOWEVER let's not forget that a big reason good men get friendzoned is because they don't make their intentions clear, or if they do and she friendzones them, they don't have the self-respect to distance themselves from the girl after they get rejected. You can't stick around after forever hoping she changes her mind. She won't respect you and you won't respect yourself. Treat yourself with respect and walk away

The three words that cannot be used to describe most modern western women: Lady Classy Virtuous

Courtney Ryan, I have become a fan of your channel. Although I’m already happily married, I listen to your videos and find my self agreeing to most of the lessons you preach. I wish this type of content was around when I was dating. I wasted a lot of time and money chasing the wrong Women. I learned all my lessons the hard way. Anyway, you are very beautiful and sound very kind and caring. Your boyfriend is sure to be a very happy man. Keep up the good work.

"A guy that is interested in you will be scared of you on the first date" Seriously, where in the the hell do women get these crazy ideas? As I have heard many times before, women should never listen to other women when it comes to dating advice.

Being nice gets you stepped on by society it’s extremely depressing.

To be completely honest and not from a negative standpoint. I'm done trying to find love because the end result is always the same and I'm finally realizing that it's not for me. I hope everyone else is successful in their journey to find peace love and happiness. Good luck out there beautiful people. You got this.

very refreshing watching your healthy views on these toxic tiktok/instagram new era videos , gives me hope there are many of you out there that really care for loving and caring relationships and interactions .... im 29 , fortunate to be attractive to most women but found my big share of toxic power games and attitudes , wish me luck on finding a quality relationship (: thanks for your videos

I'm just 2:45ish into this, just after the Friendzone video, and Courtney makes a comment about 'knowing her guy friends too much', which blows my mind. How can anyone separate lovers from friends? Why are they two separate categories, especially? If you know 'too much' about a person, it means they trust you completely and won't do anything to overtly hurt you, why can't you do the same? And what precludes that from being romantic and/or love? I'm over 40 and I STILL don't get this...

Meanness really doesn't pay, and it's aggravating when positivity is met with meanness.

I can sum this "being mean" thing up perfectly with a little story. I got into trouble in school after hooking up with a girl and had to take some time off. In the interim I hung out with a few guys I played football with in high school and they seemed shocked because I was "such a good guy in high school" to which I responded "and what did that get me?" The truth is that people don't take the nice guy seriously until they need someone to pay the bills.

I love you Courtney! Jeeez you make me wanna be a better person/woman! I’m taking in as much as I can.