My husband and I have been married for 22 years. I have doubted his salvation for years. He constantly makes bad decisions, suffers the consequences, but never learns from them. I try my best to live for the Lord and follow His will. My husband at times mocks me for obeying God instead of submitting to him. I tell him that I'd rather be in trouble with him instead of with God. If it wasn't for the Lord I probably would have lost my mind years ago. Please pray for me, brother. 🥺🥺🥺
Karin Clark it's tough dealing with that. I've had similar problems at times (mostly with not being trusted to lead) and with adult children. The Lord showed me to love them, be truthful and most of all to fight for them in the secret place. It is not perfectly handled but I have seen changes for the good. It was difficult because I would get angry with them and God showed me I was condemning them by pushing them farther away so I decided to love them even if they didn't follow but to surrender them to Jesus and let the Holy Spirit work. Of course God won't force them to change but our prayers do make a difference. Yes sometimes people will not change but only the Lord knows who that is. Hope this helps
Thank You Father God for Your Faithfulness, thank You For the Cross, thank You Father God for Your Son, Jesus, thank You Father God for Your grace and mercy, thank You Jesus, thank You Holy Spirit, we love You Jesus, we love You Holy Spirit, I give You all the Honor, Glory, Praises and worship in Jesus Name, please forgive me of my sin, please Dear Lord, please help us be caring and responsible according to Your Law, In Jesus Name, Dear Father God, I pray that You would pour our Your Holy Spirit, intervene in this circumstance, in Jesus Name, intercede dear Lord God, please come into the presence in Jesus Name, blessed Savior and Redeemer, I pray for a supernatural touch of Your Holy Spirit, in Jesus Name, I pray that You would bring peace in Sister Karin and her husband and restore their marriage according to Your will be done and not their will, but Your will be done in Jesus Name, fill their hearts with the fruits of the Spirit in Jesus name? Amene! I pray in Jesus Name for healing, Your wisdom, guidance and blessings for Sister Karin and her husband in Jesus Name, Amene Amen I pray dear Lord Jesus for a miracle in Karin and her husband’s marriage in Jesus Name, that no weapons formed against us shall proposer in Jesus Name, Amen, I pray for blessings for Your chosen people of Yisrael in Jesus Name, I pray for hope and joy be filled in their marriage and clarity in Jesus Name Amene Amene
Stop judging your husband and acting as if you’re better than him. You’re not. I’m sure he has a list of things you do to contradict your so called beliefs. The fact that you’re running to the internet to make your head look bad shows this. That’s with all due respect. It’s your ego that’s making you want to feel like your holier than thou
@Michael Erdel the only thing I'm hesitant to agree with in what you said is mentioning she should obey her husband. Scripture tells children to obey their parents and tells wives to submit to their husbands. And then talks later that all believers, I including husbands and wives should submit to one another in love. It never says that a wife should obey her husband. Of course, submitting on occasions may be choosing to go along with what he said instead of what she desires. But that is different than the connotation behind obedience in my opinion.
@Michael Erdel I don't have a problem with most of what you said. I agree it's a picture of Christ and the Church but not an exact reflection. I believe there is a reason the word 'obey' is not used in relation to husband and wife is all I'm saying. There is a practical difference to how the church should obey Christ and how a wife should submit to a husband. I'm not disagreeing with you.
You nailed it. Wives submit to your husband as unto the Lord. It’s very easy to submit if the husband loves the Lord. Because he will love his wife unconditionally.
Absolutely wrong! God says in 1 Peter 3 1-7 says That a woman should be in subjection to her husband even if he doesn't obey the word! That he may be won to Christ without the word, by the Godly conduct of his wife! Also by her Godly meek and quiet spirit, she can win her husband to Christ! Allen parr is in Error with some of the things he spoke!
I agree Andrew. I have been in an unequally yoked marriage for 10 years, I came to know the Lord after being married. I have still found submission to be an important part of serving God. And it has born fruit in my marriage as well. Yes it does take wisdom like his examples here with Esther and Abigail. Also in the new testament the man who lied about the land he sold and asked his wife to lie to, she should not have submitted to this request. There are times where we must put God above our husbands, but the majority of the time, even in an unequally yoked marriage it is our job to submit. That submission is a submission not just to our husbands but to the Lord himself. And He will use that to bless you.
I watched my mother submit to my father all through my childhood. She didn’t always agree with him but knew he honored God. She viewed her submission as true act of worship to God, as a child I was always impressed with her act of devotion by submission to her husband and thus honoring God . While many women of her generation are broken miserable and living a life not worth remembering. She has lived a long amazing adventurous life one who became the millionaire next door with many friends and extended family. She taught me the true worship is obedience to the Scriptures and she lead by example.
This is great and I'm glad your mother lived such a wonderful life. I would be careful not to suggest that submission always produces a reward in this life.
Not in this life, but it always produces a reward from the Father. Another verse speaks on this as Sarah submitted to Abraham we are to submit to our husbands, trusting God with our lives.
@@sarahs3988 Sarah obeyed Abraham's request becuase she loved him and was in fear of him being killed by a king. Abraham obeys Sarah in other parts of their story. Marriage isn't one sided.
When I was single, I knew I only wanted a man I could follow, and that ruled out a lot of guys I could have considered. I agree with your thoughts and biblical interpretation of this. God blessed me with a very godly husband. In our marriage, there has only been ONE instance where I deeply wanted something different than he did, and I KNEW God was calling me submit to his final decision (he had heard me out, but was acting according to what he believed God was leading us to do). It was so hard, but God really blessed when I submitted to how He was leading my husband. I was so thankful I had married the one HE had for me, not some spineless guy who would never have sought God's will.
i think both men and women actually submit but have different roles. My sister was dating a man of faith who had values and a strong character who loved and adored her. She wanted something different i suppose because she dumped him and married his cousin, no lie. a guy who had none of those characteristics, he had a drug problem and a horrible work ethic and appreciated nothing she did for him and he did even less on her behalf. They are no longer married, my sister took the two children that he never see's and moved back in with our parents. i'm perplexed when i hear this one question (WHERE ARE ALL THE GOOD MEN)? i myself am a follower of our Lord and savior Christ and if you want me to stop you'll have to kill me, i have values that i won't compromise, i love and support family, i work to make my community better and i make more money than most people do without getting out of bed and no i'm not just saying that but women are offended by me and i'm not sure of why that is because when i had no VALUES or CARES they loved me BUT I DIDN'T. hum, i just thought of that. a pastor told me that God will move certain women out of you're way but did he have to move all of them? lol. i didn't intend to be so wordy but hopefully someone can relate.
@@ernestsmothers8355 If you're going to be a man of faith in God, chances are there is a woman for you in a godly church. Surrender completely to God's will, and let Him lead you. You must be born again. The main thing is to live for the Lord, and in your spirit give the glory to God. It is what God does through you that matters. Anything we do outside of the Spirit's moving avails nothing for the kingdom of God. Husbands, love your wife. She has to be surrendered to God for it to work. So do you. I pray this helps.
Sounds Good dear, but you are wrong!!! God says in 1 peter 3:1-7 even if your husband does not obey the word, your husband without the word can be won to Christ by your Godly conduct! Also God says you wives should have a meek and quiet spirit towards that disobedient husband! Pick up your bibles and quit believing everything you hear online!
Godly conduct doesn't include blind submission. Did Abigail sin when she referred to her husband as foolish and disobeyed him? Marriage is a partnership not a dictatorship.
@@andrewgadson89hypothetically if my husband wants me to come drinking with him and I submit to that how would that be godly conduct ? Hmm? That's what we're saying. You obey God over the husband still. We are also good to submit to our local officials, but God's word rules over the government still. If the president tells us to stop going to church then we won't listen.
@@hereiam587 Godly conduct means what the Bible says it mean. Blind submission is another doctrine of demons! Wives need do what 1 Peter 3:1-7 tells them to do and thats final! Otherwise they are in rebellion to Gods word. Another thing is that different situations calls for different responses! Abigail and esther responded that way because they were put in a dier situation, where people lives were on the line! In the New Testament, God tells a woman of Christ how she is to respond to a ungodly husband. 1peter 3:1-7,Titus 3:2-5, ephesians 5:22-31. Read and apply! No Excuses!
1 Peter 3:1-2: Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct.
In the same way, you husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way [with great gentleness and tact, and with an intelligent regard for the marriage relationship], as with someone physically weaker, since she is a woman. Show her honor and respect as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered or ineffective. 1 Peter 3:7
@@nassakakibuuka2187 I agree with the King James Version better. Don’t allow your flesh to get you excited and go tick for tat. He said nothing wrong but gave you godly scriptures. I discern a bit of pride in your heart.
This is probably the worst teaching he has done. And he’s done some bad ones. He is contributing to the fire of marital problems in the church. He literally said it kids do not have Christian parents they don’t have to listen to them. This is such a disgusting twist and abuse of scripture. So he can simp to feminists ideology. Gotta keep those donations rolling in.
My thoughts: Women submit to their husbands, unless its sinful - otherwise, even if the man does not obey the Word, the woman can win the man by her Good Chaste conduct. Some tend to think if the man is not following the Lord, that the woman is under no more obligations to obey her husband in anything - yet that would be absolutely faulty for anyone to think, since that is clearly not what the Word of God teaches. On the point of Esther, just to be clear, Esther did not actually "disobey" her husband - she did not submit to his initial first premise, by consulting with him in wisdom, YET, she did not disobey him in any way, either - being, the man had the final say, she was able to bring about a different outcome; of which he was the authority over executing; through the consultation. In the case of Ananias, it should be addressed, that we need to stay from Ahab-ish tendencies as men as well - since, if it is true that he waited for his wife's consent, to go on with a lie, then it would be that they were both wicked and it's not like Sapphira was trying to plead him to the other direction.... she was in full agreement. When she came into the room, she COULD HAVE said "Oh no, we only gave 'such n such amount'", but she chose to lie as well, on her own accord, while her husband was absent and God used both that man and that woman, as an example; and rightly, the Fear of the Lord came upon all the Church and the Disciples. And with that being said, we need to be careful all around about Jezebel and Ahab tendencies, because this is too common, EVEN IN THE CHURCH - sadly. (Spineless, weak men, ruled by boisterous, manipulative and/or controlling women) We need to be careful not to further perpetuate what this culture already saturates itself in - women should not do evil if their husbands are leading them to - and husbands should not submit to the whims or a woman, in her emotions, etc, just to "save face" so to speak with her - it is bad. Women of God need to be submitted to the Word by submitting to their husbands, in everything that is not pertaining to sinfulness. Many woman are already not submitted, are teachers, etc, and they are calling themselves Christians, despite the Words of the Lord. Nevertheless, do not get me wrong, plenty of men are doing plenty of wrong, and need to be corrected rebuked, admonished - Remembering to avoid what the Word of God says about the gentiles "blaspheme the Name of God because of you" - we need to be "examples of the Believers" as Paul exhorts Timothy and to continue to be witnesses of what it is to be submitted to God all around. As far as the order, we should be in order - men Loving their wives and nourishing them as their own body (For who has hated his own flesh? as Paul rhetorically questions) - however, just as if a wife is not submissive, we practice patience and Love still, and do the necessary things according to the Word of God - and vice versa, if the man is not submitted to God, and not Loving as he should, again, through the wifes Good and Chaste conduct, she can win him over - i think of hot coals being poured upon ones head through doing good, when they were not doing good unto you - their conscience is touched with conviction.
I agree! These were much the same thoughts I had, especially regarding disobedient husbands and how we’re still to submit (unless commanded to do something sinful).
Important caveat to add! We must not see their misalignment with God in one area as an excuse for complete lack of submission. Thank you for sharing that!0
A lot of Christian women are already using this excuse not to submit. I have heard women say their Husbands are not submitting to God enough so they don't submit to them. These women usually end up divorced and becoming Pastors. I don't agree with Allen on this one. Using examples of women who disobey their Husbands to set precedence
You just saved me a lot of time writing up the exact same thought as I watched this video. Totally agree with you! A woman or man should not submit to a request to do evil or break the law but alignment with God's will is a more tricky area to navigate. This sort of stance or teaching, Bro Allen, has divided and broken many homes. Husband feels led to a particular church and wife says she's being led by God to a different church....e.t.c If it isn't outrightly biblically wrong or against the law, women and children should submit to the man's leadership or intercede like Esther for God to intervene ......rather than say "He has missed God so we won'tfollow him"
@Caribbeañ In The House there's nothing wrong with reading another version of the Bible aside from the King James version. Using that logic I could say? I only watch Allan parr videos and no one else. But I watch more than a few other pastors. wanna know why? For 1? Your getting God's message? But delivered in different and unique ways. Think of it another way? You go to your friends house for a sleep over .and your surprised because they eat dinner at a different then you, they eat different food then you. they go to bed at a different time. does it make them wrong? No. Same thing with most pastor's,they approach and thing's differently? But the message is the same
@Caribbeañ In The House That symbol you have as your avatar, isnt it a freemasonry? I know it is the eye of Satan in the middle of it but i am not sure about the rest.
If you want to combat misapplication of this passage, just read the scripture directly following it which lays out the expectation for husbands “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, because we are members of His body. For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church. Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband.” Ephesians 5:25-33 If a husband is supposed to love his wife in the same way Christ loved the church, such that he is expected to both metaphorically and potentially literally lay down his life and sacrifice everything for her, then the wives’ submission to the husband should also look similar to the church’s submission to Christ as well. Because that’s what the Bible explicitly states Usually, misapplication of the Bible seems to result from missing context. Just don’t let people go around quoting single verses to make a point without knowing what the point of the original was
Sorry to hear that sister… I’ll pray for his restoration and that the Lord be honored in your family… be encouraged the Lord knows everything going on with your situation.. stay strong
Some of things Allen parr has said is Error! A wife must submit and be in subjection to her husband, even if he is not obeying the word! 1 Peter 3 says that if any man obeys not the word,he without the word can be won (to Christ of course) by the Godly conduct of his wife. She should still submit to her UNGODLY husband and be that Godly light to him! Not by telling your husband what he needs to do, but by your prayers and actions! That's truly what 1 Peter 3 tells the wife to do for her UNGODLY HUSBAND! If he tells you to do evil things, then you obey God rather than him!
@@andrewgadson89 Amen. He is stating the obvious in order to gain points with women. I know he recently got married and i hope she is not influencing him with this progressive christianity.
@@andrewgadson89 No he is right to a degree. I see what you sayin though. As long as the Husband's leadership and authority is in alignment with The word OR The guidance and wisdom of G'd, she should submit to him. Doesn't mean he doesn't listen to hear and consider what his wife saids on any matter. But that he base his final decisions off of the direction that G'd has led him in. If he isn't, yes she should wield to his leadership, as long as it doesn't go against G'd's authority. Yet I see where Abram (Abraham) told Sari (Sarah) to lie and say she was his sister. Yet that obedience kept them both alive. But that was on Abraham, not Sarah. So I see what your saying to a degree. However, you have to take in account that he doesn't sway her in her faith as well. Especially, if we are doing what we are supposed to be doing by example and being the priest of the home, loving, nuturing, and teaching the family as Jesus did the church.
Thank you for this. I’ve always said that it is easy to submit to a man who loves, submits and serves Jesus because I trust Jesus more than anyone and if he is submitted him, I can trust him.
It is also easy for a husband to love a wife who submits. Proverbs 21:19 It is better to dwell in the wilderness than to be with a contentious and angry woman. God didn't make this life easy on us.
1 Peter 3: 1 "In the same way, you wives be submissive to your own husband's so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives." This is very clear. Unless my husband is asking me to sin (whether he is saved or not) I am to be in submission to him. My flesh is to flighty to depend on my evaluation of my husband being "in line" with God. One bad week and my feelings can sway that judgement of him. I know many wives who take this position and are constantly judging if their hubby is worthy of following. It creates misery and a critical spirit. It's simple... don't follow if he asks you to explicitly sin. Otherwise, we are to follow our hubbies!
Well put response. I came here to say something similar. Thanks for bringing up 1 Peter 3. I generally agree with most of Allen's teachings, but I would disagree on this one. The examples cited are non-prescriptive narrative verses vs. the epistles with clear explicit teaching submission on church conduct. All authority (good or bad) are ultimately allowed by God under His sovereign rule, and we must submit simply because we trust God.
Lastly, the entire tenor of the book of 1 Peter is one of submission to people who are difficult and worldly. Marriage is in the center of that book in chapter 3. It is a string that runs straight through the entire New Testament.
The wives should submit to the husband as the husband submits to the Lord. If the Man is telling the wife to do things thats against Gods word then Gods word overrides the husband. Thats the only time a wife should not submit. This is my understanding. God bless.
@@MNVikes Allen explained that if the husband is making his wife do things that are not in alignment with God then the wife shouldn’t submit. In the same way, if a parent asks their child to lie on their behalf, to steal from the shop etc, then the child shouldn’t do that because the parents are not submitting to Christ in that moment.
Great Examples to support this scripture. It’s our jobs as husbands to love our wives first and prioritize God it’s by setting the example of true surrender that our wives will be encouraged to do the same 🙏🙏🙏
This is a good video on a much needed topic. The lessons learned here are.... 1. A wife should submit to her husband in everything, providing that the 'everything' is in alignment with God's decree that her husband loves her like God loves the church. In other words, he is not exploitative and abusive in an ungodly way. 2 A wife's role is to be helper to her husband. But being a helper may result in her 'leading' her husband out of problems where he is not submitting to God. Helper does not always imply 'underling.' A professor can help a student improve their essay technique. But who is the underling here? Not the professor. A secretary can help her boss run his business, but that makes her the underline. Help does not always mean 'underling.' 3. The whole point of a Christian marriage is that God is at the very centre of it for both parties. When God is elbowed out of the way by a husband but he still expects to rule over his wife, his wife need not submit to him because he is not a Godly husband. After all she married a husband who submitted to God, not one who did not. Conclusion: that means that a man must be Godly at all time for a wife to be submissive to him. Because to be submissive to him is to be submissive to the God that her husband submits to as well. That means that she is fully protected from abusive husbands who exploit their wives and break the law by endangering them by physically abusing them or emotionally destroying them. It is worth noting that the Bible states that a wife must submit to her husband; it does not say that a husband can make his wife submit to him. The first implies willingness and obedience to God, the second implies obedience to a man who has no intention of obeying God.
Firstly, this is so refreshing to hear from a Christian man about this subject. So many men abuse this scripture to control women. Some aren’t even Christian! Secondly, this is very good for not just married Christians, but for single Christian women to learn. We, as single Christian women, need to carefully hear the voice of the Holy Spirit and get to know the men we are dating/courting before we decide to marry them. That way, we know for sure if they are submitted to God. Great video!
Ermagerrrhd! Muh husband want's me to fulfill my marriage vow! When a woman says her husband is "controlling", all I hear is that she's frequently denying him or being rebellious to him. Listen to the goddess (holy spirit) within you. /S You sound exactly like a Wiccan priestess. Why not just obey the Bible, and let your husband wash you with the word of God, instead of labeling that as abuse?
I think blindly submitting neglects the role of a wife as "helpmate" ...you are the closest person in your husband's life, so who better to speak insight into his life? Plus, submitting as a mutual act is also biblical; here's where I think submitting needs to be understood as selflessness, which is something we are all called to, as opposed to a situation of dominance. Also, husbands, remember to leave space for your wife to CHOOSE to submit, otherwise, it's not submission at all.
Mutual submission is not biblical. Ephesians 5:21 was setting up the biblical submission order from Ephesians 5:22- Ephesians 6. Wives submit to husbands, HUSBANDs Love your wives, Children submit to parents, slaves submit to masters. That what Ephesians 5:21 was talking about. Definitely wasn't saying Husbands submit to wives!
I view submission as selflessness, denying oneself first for God's sake, and then for the sake of others (Husbands being top of that list, if you are a wife). Mutual submission does not negate hierarchy; the best example of this is Christ submitting himself to death on the cross. He didn't stop being over us by doing so, He was both submitting to the Father, and denying himself for our sake. Husbands are told to love their wives as Christ loved the church, denying themselves for their wives in that they seek the best for their wives above their own desires. That said, they still retain their spot in the hierarchy, and indeed, sometimes they need to exercise that authority in order to put her best interests first. As mentioned in the video, we all need to be wholly submitted to the Lord first for any of this to work as God intended.
@@nadiabarrett5195 You're kinda on the right track, but stop saying "mutual submission". That's wrong, as if your "best example". Christ did not submit himself to "us". He submitted himself to God. He didn't deny himself for our sake. He denied himself because that's what God wanted. For "who's sake" is irrelevant. God said to do it. Period. The Bible says the husband should be willing to sacrifice himself for her. That means die for her, not "denying himself for her". In marriage, there is no "his" best interests and "her" best interests. There is only "our" best interests. My marriage became 100% better when I finally learned that and started believing my husband's decisions were best instead of believing he was trying to control me. Feminism is a Jezebel spirit.
This reminds me. because my parents are not believers, I used to sneak out of my house during middle school to go to prayer meetings. My parents were upset but God comes first
Amen. My pastor has explained this topic in our church. However, I've noticed many Christians do not explain this correctly and as a result we have so many unhealthy marriages in church (giving a bad example to the world). When we follow God's order, then, we can glorify God through our lives and give testimony to the world that God's way is the correct way to live. Unfortunately, the reality is that many nonchristian marriages seem to be a better marriage example than Christian marriages. As the church, we need to do better.
The reason marriages in the church are so messed up is because of Feminist rebellion, not because women are being too holy in submitting, like Sarah, and calling their husbands, "Lord". The divorce rate in the church is at a historical all time high, and yet many fools seem to think all we need is more Feminist Beta-males like this false teacher telling all women to play goddess and judge their husbands' actions according to what is right in their own eyes.
Nothing exposes a woman's fleshly nature like the command to obey her own husband! This is true whether one's husband is a godly believer or not! We must walk in the Spirit and trust in the Lord in our roles as wives. Submission to one's husband is a testimony to our husband, children, other believers, and the lost world. This command is being watered-down to mean something less than what it plainly says.
These days many men are finding reasons to excuse/accept/encourage open relationships. I think this is a great example of a time when a wife should NOT submit to him or join him in sexual immorality. Same goes for the joint use of pornography. Clearly, a Godly woman can't submit in instances in which disobedience to God's Word would be required by her husband.
I think you are exercising immorality by taking this view. The hierachy is clear inside marriage but so are the obligations for both parties. It would not do at all for a wife to submit to her ungodly husband when she knew he was sinning and/or disobeying the law of the land. That is what Rose West did in her marriage to Fred West. There are other examples where a weak and passive wife let her husband dominate and oppress her to her own detriment, to the detriment of the children and in abdication to the Lord's will. Think on this : if you believe that feminism is ungodly, don't support and encourage the very behaviours that gave rise to it in the first place. In other words, if you don't want a fat wife, don't feed her doughnuts and chocolate. Therefore, when a husband is clearly abdicating his responsibilities on an ongoing basis, or is mindful to adopt bad and ungodly habits that are illegal or harmful, a women's submission to God is not to obey her husband and to do what is right in the eyes of God. God is supposed to be represented by her husband, after all. Any women that stays in a marriage where her husband physically abuses her and harms the children emotionally and/or physically is not submitting to her husband, she is a co-conspirator in his illegal activities to disobey God and disobey the law of the land. She is without excuse, just as he is. Her first and only duty is to provide a place of safety for herself and her children - even ending the marriage if that is what it takes to do just that because he won't truly repent. It is your fleshly nature that needs examining if you expect a women to put up and shut up, irrespective of how you behave or act. In any godly marriage both partners are equal but with different roles. You would do well to remember that!
@@PotterSpurn1 As a wife, I am my husband’s helper. I have been blessed with a home and family; I am called to love and serve them. My tasks as a wife, mother, and homemaker are interesting and varied. As I go about these things, I need to ask myself some questions. Am I living contentedly on my husband’s income and conveying that to him (not constantly ‘window shopping’)? Am I using my time wisely (not excessive social media, entertainment, ‘me’ time)? Am I making the most of what we have (being frugal, creative, taking good care of what we have)? Am I being a good steward of our resources (shopping deals, avoiding debt)? Am I identifying and adjusting to his preferences (favorite recipes, social calendar, outside commitments)? Am I sticking to the budget that he has given me? Am I avoiding procrastination over a task that my husband has asked me to complete? Am I doing my tasks well and with a cheerful attitude? Am I doing what I can to conserve his time, energy, and resources? Am I being his friend and supporter? Am I showing him appreciation for what he does well? Am I accepting his final decisions on matters without complaint or argument? Do I strive to be modest and feminine in my dress and demeanor? Am I sacrificially providing for the nurture, protection, and care of our children during their formative years? There are areas here that I need to address. In 34 years of marriage, I cannot think of a time that my husband asked me to sin or to do something wrong. If he had, I hope that I would have said no. I have not been confronted with the physical abuse of myself or children (for which appropriate help should be sought). I wonder how many women would honestly say that it is things pertaining to the above with which they struggle with submission?
As a young man who's a little scared of the idea of the responsibility that would come with being the head of a household someday. This is an awesome message brother, thanks for sharing 🙏🙌 God bless you and yours brother.
Honestly, my interpretation of the scriptures is that a wife should submit to their husbands as they do with Christ, but their opinion should be valued equally as far as budgeting, parenting etc is concerned. It's just that the husband gets the final say in the matter. If you think about it, if the wife doesn't get a say in anything, then the relationship is abusive and controlling. You'd essentially have a glorified maid. God made both men and women equal but different at the same time. Which means there will be some areas a husband will exel in over his wife, and vice versa. So just listen to the future Ms, respect her, and love her to bits and you'll both be be just fine. I hope the both of you find the Girl you've been waiting for. Always remember to trust God and love him above all else.
@@dennisallende7214 yes, they do. That's why I said wives should submit to their husbands as they do with Christ. I was paraphrasing scripture when I said that, I don't remember the exact verse that talks about it in more detail.
I think this whole "head of household" thing is whack and places too much responsibility on one man. Go read what "head" is ---> its not what you think it is. Back when the Bible was written, "head" also mean 'source' so the 'source of the household' being provider. It didn't mean absolute decision maker and "BRAIN" of the family. Also they didn't think that your brains were in your head at the time, they thought it was all in the heart. So "source" is like the "source" of a river. This makes much more sense. So you should be working to help your wife flourish, etc and you MUTUALLY SUPPORT each other where and how you can with your gifts. You don't have a huge monsterous responsibility other than making sure you are both supporting each other. Doesn't that feel a bit better? I wouldn't expect someone to be "head/leader" in the way we think of it nowadays. I would just expect them to show up and try their best. Both pitching in and "leading" where they can in what they know. Its dumb to try to put our modern ideas on a passage that doesn't say that in Greek.
My wife and I watched a wonderful new documentary on Mothers Day called 'Eve in Exile'. We were moved by how well they covered this subject from all angles. I would highly recommend it to everyone to truly see how we got to where we are today, but more importantly how by the grace of God to get back to where we need to be.
This is excellent. The same goes for obeying government. Romans 13 is taken out of context of many churches as well. The US government is surely not submitted to the Lord.
Neither was the Roman government. The context of that passage was to be a good citizen (don’t be a rebel without a cause) and follow the law. If the government orders you to sin or an injustice is being done then and only then are we allowed to disobey.
Exactly, this passage is being used in this way right now with all of the "pandemic" stuff, churches are using that passage to say that we shouldn't go against these unethical mandates.
Hi again Stacey. Last time repent before the Lord or He will make a mockery out of you. He is far too glorious and vast in His riches to share them with the likes of you all! Now go and repent or He will cast you into utter darkness where the only sound you will be able to hear is the one of you weeping openly and declaring, "I wish I had of listened to Toniea. I just wish I had one last time to repent from my actions!"
The Esther example is wrong. She remained submissive to the King and made her request in wisdom whilst still aknolwedging the king's authority. She did not rebel against the king she was submissive.
It is easy to submit when you know who you married and that they are of the Lord and want what is best for both of you. I am married to a man who has never put his will or wishes above mine. We have always talked through every decision and were in agreement before we do anything. Before we met he had prayed about the marriage for six months. I had prayed for a good marriage but not for as long. I am happy God blessed me with a marriage were I do not have to struggle to submit to my spouse. Since I agree with him on most big issues we need to deal with it's just easy. We both come from the same "village" in Nigeria, speak the same language, and share the same values on God, religion, politics, raising children, managing money, and other issues. It is easier when both partners are coming from the same place I find.
There are exceptions to every rule, and they usually involve blatant sin. Exceptions, however, are just that, and unless something unholy is going on, wives should indeed submit to their husbands. Particularly in this unhallowed age where their instincts are to rebel at every turn, and instead be the quarrelsome woman that makes him want to live on the corner of his roof.
Exactly. I'm glad you spoke of order. Nowadays people bypass the very real fact that the man has to submit to our Father. There's order that should be followed.
It also says in Colossians 3: 18-25, ; whilst on the subject of Wives submit to your husbands, it also tells husbands, Love your wives and do Not be harsh with them. My Marriage is based on love And compromise, it works. We have been married for almost 50years now. I love The Lord with All my heart and will continue to do so ....
I appreciate the video and the intention behind it. Women should submit in everything like it says. If a husband leaf’s the family wrong then God will hold him responsible. Ester didn’t go behind her husband’s back. She simply made a request. Everyone needs to focus on doing their role as best as they can .Not doing yours because you don’t think the other is doing theirs will cause a breakdown. Marriage is a reflection of Christ and the Church. Imagine if Christ stopped doing His role of saving and mediating because we stopped submitting. Imagine if we stopped submitting because we don’t understand what God is doing and we believe it to be a bad idea. Im the Western part of the world, women can choose their husbands and should choose men who are led by God.
These days many men are finding reasons to excuse/accept/encourage open relationships. I think this is a great example of a time when a wife should not submit to him or join him in sexual immorality. Same goes for the joint use of pornography. Clearly, a Godly woman can't submit in instances in which disobedience to God's Word would be required by her husband.
I'm glad I saw this comment. I was surprised to see all positive comments and no one actually thought that this approach of not doing your part because someone else is not doing their part is such a stupid idea. Imagine if this video started with, do men need to submit to God? Sometimes yes & sometimes no
We have to use common sense also. If a husband leads a family astray and the wife goes along although it’s sin… she’ll be held accountable too. We have to do things that make sense. If a husband wants to have a threesome and the wife says no, is she the wrong one? I think not.
I think of it as being something like the pilot and co-pilot. Both are qualified, but the co-pilot chooses to take a subordinate role. Even if the main pilot decides something slightly different but still effective, the co-pilot complies. This prevents conflicting directions to the staff. If the main pilot was WAY OFF BASE, the co-pilot would speak up.
now read the verses in 1 Peter where Peter tells women to submit even when their husbands are "disobedient to the word". there are no excuses _for men or women_ to disobey God's commands.
I have a question. In all my years, when this subject came up, the emphasis, spotlight has always begun with verse 22. But the scripture before that, says to submit one to another first! THEN, wives submit to your own husband. Our lives were spared one day because I refused to follow/submit. I heard God, and followed what I heard in those seconds. He was in the midst of berating me for being a disobedient wife. There was no time to explain. When I finally told him what I heard that prevented us from having a deadly accident, he was shaking by that point. I think that previous verse (21) simply means to submit to the gift and love of God in each other. Having the purity of heart to act and believe that you each want the best for each other. I want the best for him. I want the best for him. But for the man, in some things he must lead. Bless you all.
Great question. Yes, I take verse 21 as being the concluding verse to the previous section about Christian living. I interpret verse 22 as being the beginning verse about specific relationships between a husband and a wife. So I don’t take verse 21 to refer to the husband and wife relationship.
Jesus's words have more power than those of Paul. Jesus never said wives should submit to their husbands. Jesus in Matthew 19:6 says . . ."let no one split apart what GOD has put together . . .". He also says in the same verse that, . ."the two are one . . .". What this means is that in marriage , the two become of one spirit. They are both of the spirit of God and both submit to God and to the same spirit. If one of them does not submit to God, then it's not a marriage because the one who does ,not submit to God, submits to the devil. Only slaves submit to masters! What if a husband is evil or a beast? There is no gender in the spirit of God, gender issues are of the flesh and the covenant of marriage is one and the same for both wife and husband, but if one is submitting to the other, then the covenant of marriage for the man and that of woman cannot be the same and therefore it cannot be a marriage. May God bless you both and your marriage! Bind your marriage to God and both of you to God and observe what happens as both of you submit to God!
@@thebeatagp So you think Christian marriage does not involve Christian living and therefore verse 21 does not apply? Of course it does. Verse 21 begins with God's edict that all Christians are to submit to each other to some degree. God goes on in verse 22 and further to describe how married couples are to submit to each other. The point that is often missed is that BOTH the husband and the wife are to submit to each other. In my opinion the husband really submits to the wife more than the wife to the husband. The bible says the husband is to submit by being very sacrificial and loving to his wife like Jesus sacrificed and loved the church. For instance if a married couple have two cars, one a brand new luxury car and the other a junker, the wife should be the one to drive the luxury car, no matter who might be making the payments on the luxury car. Aother example is if the two sit to watch tv and the husband wants to watch program A and the wife program B, he should sacrifice his desire for that of the wife and watch program B. That is how I treat my wife and sometimes she says to me "since you always give me what I want above what you want, I want us to do what you want in this instance." And I always reply with a smile saying," No. What you want is more important than what I want." My wife tells people all the time that she has absolutely no problem being submissive to me because I follow God and am very sacrificial for her. It is extremely rare for me to make a decision that my wife does not agree with. In fact in 8 years of marriage I do not believe I have ever made such a decision even though she is very submissive. The bible says our wives are our helpmeet which means us husbands should get their opinions on all issues before using our authority to make the final decisions. By doing this, my wife always agrees with any decision I make.
@@namakandosimenda4390 If what Paul said is indeed inspired by the Holy Spirit who is the Spirit of Jesus (Philippians 1:19; Galatians 4:6) then there is no difference whether a command is spoken directly by Jesus or through Paul by the Spirit (of Jesus). The Holy Spirit is not a Red Letters Holy Spirit but an Whole Bible Holy Spirit, leading the apostles into all truth after the ascension of Christ. "For he will not speak on his own authority, but will speak whatever he hears, and will tell you what is to come." (John 16:13). Do we now know better than Jesus himself?
This is false teaching sir/ma'am. God never left room for what this man is teaching the scripture is very clear. Wives submit yourselves into your husband's in everything AS UNTO THE LORD period end of story there's no room for what this guy's teaching zero because God said so
@@jerryholbrook13 Do you recall Abigail in the Old Testament? She was married to a fool, and acted prudently, wisely, honoring the Lord and protecting her household. God Bless. Praying you see the truth!🙏🏼
Allen you are right on point. I have always said yes we should submit to our husband but if he is going down the wrong path I’m not going to submit. It’s crazy how some pastors, used it out of context.
Yes a lot of pastors and men likes stop at “wives submit to your husbands” but always leave out how the husband is suppose to be first submitted to God!
Unless he is asking you to sin? Then your right , your first obligation is the LORD. But if your husband is addressing a issue you don’t agree with? Then you need to say your thoughts in a respectful manner, but ultimately you submit to headship.
Hey Stacey why are you teaching people to go against what the Bible teaches? The Bible does not say honor your husband unless he is taking you down the wrong path now does it? Lmk if I am reading the right Bible! This is an outrage that you all would condone this without a single solitary Scripture from her to back up any ofher claims because she is a satanist! Let her tell you what the Bible says about getting a tattoo of satan on the back of her neck that declares "Made by satan" in defiance to God, the only One who can save her from an eternity in Hades and she knows it this is why she stopped de-bunking me earlier. I am done with being bullied by you people and I come to tell you that God is in no way pleased with you! Just stop lying and tell the truth before it's too late to get His approval and you are all thrown into Hades for an eternity. God bless the one who just said, Look at her go she must be a child of God! I am and I stand on it until my dying day.
Why do people always overlook the verse: husband's and wife's submit UNTO ONE ANOTHER as in CHRIST. This isn't about what the husband or wife want. The whole duty of man is to fear God and keep God's commandments. When it comes to the secular and everyday things in marriage the husband and wife should discuss it and make the best decision based on the greatest good for the entire family, granted they have children. As far as the husband and wife desiring individual things, activities etc., there should be compromise. Love doesn't insist on its own way. Every one should get there way sometimes...if it isn't breaking God's commandments. No one married or single get their way all the time. If a married man and wombed man can't walk side by side and communicate and love and respect each other than they should not be together. We are individuals. It's crucial everyone use their own head/brain to think things through so they aren't deceived. After all the Bible says trust no man. In a marriage communication is important and every one has blind spots, so assuming men have the knowledge and best solutions to all the issues is foolishness.
Your words are crystal clear; even a simple minded should be able to understand. In Genesis 2:18 the Lord said: "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make him a helper SUITABLE for him." A suitable helper, one that will complement him. It's amazing how extremist some have become with the word, either too tight or too loose. When we know the word of God and are aligned with it, we should know what is our position. God bless you.🙌
My husband wanted me to abort our baby. I refused so he said "I'm leaving you." Today my son is 41 yrs old and is a pastor. He's very (very) intelligent and has a wife and 2 children. Look what I would of aborted. I've been told that I have sinned and MAYBE the Lord will forgive me because I did not submit to my husband. I believe abortion is a sin, killing a child of God, and I don't think God wants us to do that. My husband was using that issue to hide his sin of adultery. He left me for his girlfriend.
My husband's idea of "submission" is SEX!!!! He doesn't care anything else about me. Just as long as HE can satisfy himself, he doesn't care about me and my needs. A friend of ours and I tried to tell him that that is NOT what that verse means, but he doesn't care what we say. He just interprets the Bible to say what HE wants it to say. Thanks for explaining this in SIMPLE terms!!! When I ask my husband to explain things, he talks in riddles and makes things confusing so that I only take HIS word for it that HIS interpretation is the ONLY interpretation. THIS explains it better!!!
Thank you for making this video! It truly broke down the concept of “martial submission” and “godly order” within marriage. I’m going to use this video to counsel couples who are engaged and plan to get married. God bless you Man of God!
@@thebeatagp should women remain silent in church? Reading Corinthians says women should not speak in church yet no church obeys this could you do a video breaking it down
Love this, thank you for articulating this brother. This not only sets things straight for us in the Biblical Community but it also provides us with a way to answer those who might be appalled at the idea of submission. THANK YOU AGAIN FOR THIS.
Great insight on this controversial topic. The family needs to be organized under the authority of God, and ultimately we must all submit to His authority above everything else. Wonderful references to study here of wives in the Old Testament. Very important topic.
Those are darn good examples and I agree with you. My aunt listens to everything her husband tells her cause he throws that scripture at her and it has caused her to do more bad things like sinning than anything else. Her husband is baptized but he stopped going to church years ago, and has committed adultery several times, had her family evicted so he could have her mother's house. And she just keeps listening... I have a sad feeling she will never learn
Submission is a form of control. And your poor aunts fateful existance is exactly a product of these anti-equality teachings. I am truly sorry your aunt has felt she has had to go on like this as if she has no autonomy over her own life. This is exactly my problem with this concept. If submission has to occur at all it should be mutual and sure as hell a man should not be the controller of a womans life. Love and respect each other equality, no gender is higher or lower.
Another clear teaching, good job Allen! So very important. Been married nearly 40 yrs to the SAME MAN, yep all credit to the Lord and this teaching is a must to understand for both husband and wife.
@@CornBeefinthePassengerSeat Because the author quoted Scripture you assume he did not watch the video? No comment anyone makes is more edifying than Holy Scripture.
@@eurekahope5310 that’s true. However, just quoting scripture is not enough. Our goal should always be to get to the correct interpretation of that scripture rather than just simply quoting it. Does the scripture imply unequivocal obedience in every situation? I would say that is pretty dangerous.
I believe the husband has the final authority as long as what he is doing isn't a sin. This proposal to go behind your husband's back is too generalized. This could cause serious issues. I think it needs to be clear that if it is not a sin, follow the leader. My ex wife constantly did stuff behind my back claiming God told her and it destroyed our family and finances. Trying to fix things done behind your back is a job I will not sign up for again. So, maybe you should emphasize on Lotts wife too, Eve and even Sarah. This generalized notion you gave this time will be the first time I can not 100% agree. Your examples although good, I feel should not be used as a base line. I still appreciate your work and videos. Respectfully 🖤
@@نبتلالمعمداني I absolutely agree that this video is going to destroy many families and marriages. So many women will be sharing this video to their husbands to justify why they wouldn't submit.
Disappointing Allen that you completely ignored 1 Peter 3:1-2. An unsaved man cannot be in alignment with God's word, yet wives are told to be in subjection (submission, same Greek word, hupotasso) to their unsaved husbands anyway. Let's hear your take on that.
the samaritian can at times be seen as kind, and wiser than the professing saints. as we learned with the samaritian women. I had an unsaved spouse before, he did tell me to do things that were good, and things mistakes i had to allow him to make that i knew wouldnt hurt us too bad so he can learn and grow, & lead better. But a wife can submit to an unsaved man as long as what he is telling her is not harmful to the household and others nor disobedience to God. Good deeds and good decisions aren't only for believers, unbelievers can have this quality. thats why the bible says were not saved by works, cause anybody can do good and still go to hell , were saved through Chrst. their are unbelievers who follow Christian principles and have succesfful buisnesses and families, without realizing it, just because they dont realize they are following prudent and humiliy principles and precepts. and theres christians who dont follow and suffer and be defeated Christians. it can def. happen that way
This was very good. This is exactly the mindset me & my wife of almost 18 years live by. It's not a dictatorship. We should season out words, actions with grace & first & foremost love when dealing with this in a marriage. Thanks for making this.
Allen your going to have to do a Part 2. Many ppl on this thread think that it is against scripture to assume if a husband forefeits his godly position a wife cannot or should not submit. Thank you for your videos sir. 👍
Hey guys I’m struggling with lust, masturbation, and porn can you guys please pray that God would give me the strength to overcome whenever I feel these sexual desires? Thanks God Bless! 🙏❤️
Remove anything that can cause you to watch porn. Put restrictions on your phone and computer. Anytime the desire to do any of those things say out loud for satin to exit your mind and you rebuke his presents. Open your bible app and start reading. Satin will flee. God bless
I ask God to cover the origin of that spirit with His eternal spirit. I also ask God to cover and destroy the origin of that spirit with His eternal spirit. If the origin of a problem is not destroyed then the problem will keep coming back. The rest of my prayer goes out to you and your family. Whenever you feel the list or desire; cover and bind it to God, so that God can fight it for you!
1 Peter 3:1 says even if your husband isn’t a believer the wife should still submit to the husband. You are right though that if the husband asks you to do something against the Lord than you are to submit to God first. Before people twist the meaning of submission in Hebrew and Greek it means tame and obedient
This is a good topic to explore and understand. I’ve heard some very solid teachers talk about this and actually say even if it’s leading us into sin or deception we must submit to the husband and trust God to protect us. That never made sense to me. The whole thing needs to be in alignment to work.
No mam,if a husband is leading you into sin you must not submit. Example, wife go to the store and steal,your answer: No! Wife let's have a threescore! Your answer:No! But if your UNGODLY husband are telling you other things that aren't sinful, you must still obey him! If your ungodly husband says, I want this for dinner. Your answer:ok. If your UNGODLY husband can you iron his clothes, your answer:ok. 1 Peter 3:1-7 tells you how a wife is supposed to be in subjection to her husband even if he disobey the word. That without the word that husband can be won to Christ through the Godly conduct of his wife. Also God calls for Godly wife's to respond to that UNGODLY husband with a meek and quiet spirit! God have used Godly woman to win their UNGODLY husbands over! That's how God want you to respond to an UNGODLY husband!
He said "If the man is not submitted first and foremost to God then that woman is under no obligation to obey or to submit or surrender to that man" But in 1 Peter 3:1 it says... "Wives, in the same way, submit yourselves to your husbands, so that even if they refuse to believe the word, they will be won over without words by the behavior of their wives" And I do realize that that the point he was trying to drive home was that if the husband is going directly against God that the wife should step in, but when he said "that woman is under no obligation to obey or to submit or surrender to that man" referring to an unbeliever, he is wrong.
I agree with this teaching! The distortion and often perception of this principle is to make a husband an authoritarian, but in proper context it’s a beautiful teaching that enhances marriage. I’ve been married for 20 years. Before we were married, I heard my wife to be say, “I will submit to my husband one day.” For me it was special because when I proposed to her 3 years later, I knew she trusted me, which is valuable in marriage. You don’t volunteer to submit to someone you don’t trust. Furthermore, this teaching helped me realize that my marriage shouldn’t be about what I get from my wife but rather recognize I have a God given, responsibility to lead in my family and sacrificially love my wife as Christ loves the church. Which means I don’t make big decisions without learning how it will affect my wife because I love her. It is important to recognize Christ is perfect, I am not. So, there are times I get it wrong in my leadership and I am thankful for a gracious wife who helps keep me on God’s path.
This has nothing to do with what I think...the bible says the wife should submit. submission is about allowing a man to lead and if the wife needs to advise the husband she should do so and the man shows his leadership. Submitting is not Keeping quiet it is about following orders, Eve eating the forbidden tree should show you why it is important not to just do as you wish as a wife.
Bro Allen said - "THIS Is Why Wives Should NOT Submit to Their Husbands!" - Bible Said - " Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God" Eph 5:21 - emphasis on present continuous tense and BOTH. Bible also said "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord" - emphasis on "unto the LORD". Bro Allen your video is on point but from the header to the content, its somehow misleading especially to CHRISTIAN wives that are struggling with this issue. If CHRISTIAN husband and wife understand who is the true owner of the home (hint - its not the husband) and are following the teaching of the bible and leading of Holy Spirit, submission should not be an issue in Christian home -as "the two should actually be one" (unfortunately that is not the case) - You may need to do more content regarding this so that you do not inadvertently be an aide to the destruction of some homes - Put out content that helps to reconcile not pour gasoline on fire.
I have a feeling the title is because of the Nature of RU-vid. If you're a content creator of any genre, click bait titles get the most views. Is it better to have a video that doesn't get views and thus the algorithm decides not to show it to people? I should hope nobody is getting their theology from titles alone.
My husband and I are best friends, he don’t control me an I don’t control him, communication is key to a good 😌 marriage, I feel bad for those wives who are controlled by their husbands, Lord have mercy 😬
Best comment so far. In the ancient world, a wife was considered property and that generational tone made it into the Bible. You realize that we are no longer in ancient times. Isn't it true that in the ancient world, a wife was considered a man's property? That's why that verse made it in that particular letter. It was a product of its time. Today a wife isn't considered property. In that same letter it said slaves(bond servants) obey your earthly masters (it still says master so does a term change matters?) The Bible is a product of its time. When are we going to realize that we are currently out living its need. When you avoid certain verses because it doesn't sound good to the ears, you are out living its need. (Ephesians 6:5) Slaves, obey your earthly masters with deep respect and fear. Serve them sincerely as you would serve Christ. (Exodus 21:1-6) “These are the regulations you must present to Israel. “If you buy a (Hebrew slave), he may serve for no more than six years. Set him free in the seventh year, and he will owe you nothing for his freedom. If he was single when he became your slave, he shall leave single. But if he was married before he became a slave, then his wife must be freed with him. “If his master gave him a wife while he was a slave and they had sons or daughters, then (only) the man will be free in the seventh year, but (his wife and children) will still belong to his master. But the slave may declare, ‘I love my master, my wife, and my children. I don’t want to go free.’ If he does this, his master must present him before God. Then his master must take him to the door or doorpost and publicly pierce his ear with an awl. After that, the slave will serve his master for life. The apologist: but you are taking it out of context. (I gave verses 1 through 6) The apologist: that's the old testament. We are not longer under the law. (So you are telling me it was morally ok to own slaves for 6 six years but if the master give the slave a wife and they have kids, the slave would more than likely wanna stay for life. If that isn't acceptable today then it shouldn't have been acceptable then but it was. And that law was only for the Hebrew slaves. The bible is a product of its time. One day people will realize that we are currently out living its need. I love every last single one of y'all.
I scrolled through many of the comments and I didn't see this, so I'll say it. I was speaking with my fiancee the other night and we were talking about this very thing. Specifically, along the lines of "What does it mean to 'submit' ?" Submitting, I think, is too often thought of as cowering, giving in, allowing someone to lead/rule; however, if you think of submitting like you're submitting an application or submitting a paper for school, it takes on a whole different meaning! My fiancee and I love THIS idea of submitting because there's NO WAY it can be one-sided. Submitting in the form of GIVING YOURSELF TO... When we get married, we will submit to each other in EVERYTHING! The obvious things, of course, but thinking in terms of helping, we give of ourselves to aid, we give of ourselves to consult and advise, we give of ourselves...we submit ourselves! This way is like mind-blowing, to me! It puts an exciting and positive connotation to a word that usually gets a negative one.
You the man are the head of the house hold! Your wife should in all aspects submit to you and that’s it. The Bible is clear stop adding on scripture and face reality.
What a horrible and disgusting ideology. Absolutely horrific to hear this happening to modern house holds. Your wife is to submit to you in everything. You are the leader and make decisions. Repent!
Thank you for this. As a woman married to a "Nabal" like husband, I told the Lord I was unsure about submitting to him because he was not submitting to God. God told me "you submit to me and leave him to me." I am respectful to my husband, in God's eyes and really, I need Him to do this properly. Tough spot I'm in, but i so want to please the Lord, first and foremost.
The book of Ruth is the perfect example of following a husband who is not centered toward God is when Naomi followed Elimelech when he inexplicably left the land of God and their people to go to a land of unbelievers and ungodly people in Moab. Then later in the book an example of following a God centered man is when Ruth married Boaz a man who was God fearing and followed the Lord as he should and as we know through her faith and obedience she became the grandmother of David which we know is the lineage of our Lord Jesus Christ. Blessed be his name !
A lot more talking is done in the church about the women needing to submit to their husbands than they do to the husbands being required to love them as Christ loves the church. Too often the church just gives a pass to a man no matter how he treats his wife, but she better keep quiet and take it. The church needs to give equal teaching and accountability to the men. They are addressed first. There has to be a Biblical balance.
The “Church” needs to realize that there is a stark difference in regards to Authority over and responsibility for when it’s comes to the order of roles God has put forth. Women were designed as a help meet for men, not a subordinate or subject .
There is a big difference between submission (attitude of heart) and obedience - action - think you should make the distinction. Submission of attitude is always - ie respect for authority, but obedience is conditional - not always if to do so ungodly.
“So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, because we are members of His body. For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” Ephesians 5:28-31 It’s clear it says for this reason… what reason?!? They become one flesh not one over the other. This is why it says he who loves his own wife loves himself and no one ever hated his on flash. Scripture is clear married couples do not own their own bodies but our bodies are given to each other. I believe submission is natural in the sense that a woman naturally leans on their man to be a leader and naturally a man wants to lead I believe this is where this word submission in its definition comes from. But the word submission is in harmony with the understanding of the husband being submitted to Christ. This is not an indication that anyone is above anyone else on the contrary it shows equality and harmony.
Very disappointed with this video Mr Parr. Out of love I point yout to 1Peter3:1 "Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; Scripture could not have been more clear in its prescription to wives and submission. Wives are encouraged to submit to their husbands if they are in the word or not. Submission is not subject to direction. That mindset is self-seeking and self-serving. The Bible is clear that men should submit to Christ and that women should submit to both Christ and their husband. You cannot take descriptive examples out of the Bible and make them prescriptive unless that is what the texts is telling you. The word says in "everything" not some things. Let us be conscious as believers of what the word says and not fall into the trap of "rethinking scripture" as my brother Parr put it. Scripture is not down to interpretation and social shifts. It's eternal principles and truth. Let's not rethink the Scripture brother, I think you should rethink this video. Love your work nonetheless
I don’t normally leave comments on your video Allen Parr, but I have to say that your video was very well made. The teaching was biblical and It dealt with an issue that is actually relatable. In the Christian world you either deal with men that are domineering, or the opposite being men that have no spine. I appreciate your view of a biblical man being one that leads with strength and submission to God.
Very well said explained and I've known this myself for a long time but I'm glad to hear someone else say it though. Submission actually means to mutually respect and honor someone and their wishes, but if your being asked to do something evil or ungodly then you should say no or speak up against it.
In verse 18 before we reach the house-codes Paul has commanded the believers to be filled with the Spirit and in verse 21 he exhorts the believers to submit to one another. In verse 22 the Greek word submission is not even used in some manuscripts but the idea is continued from what Paul has previously had exhorted the believers in the prior verses. Also if we look at the Greek participle/verb of the word submission it denotes voluntary submission. All that to say I definitely agree with your argument.
Also I absolutely loved what you posted on Instagram regarding the livestream and the comments that were made in it. You said it beautifully and it's sad to see so much hate from people calling themselves Christians. May the Lord be gracious to us and fill us with his spirit to where we can love one another as we ought to.
@@thebeatagp Can you clarify? One instance you stated that she should sumbit if its within "a godly or scritpural principle" & in another instance you stated "If ts within Gods will". To me, the first one allows a husband to support his decisions through gods word while the second one allows a wife to say no to any and every decision with "well, i prayed and God told me that aint in his will". It seems like the second one removes the word from the conversation because now, she can simply overide it out of a "feeling", therefore feeling spiritually justified to fight (not physically) and argue with her husband for leadership of her own household. "I AM LEADING BECAUSE YOU ARE OUT OF GODS WILL - HE TOLD ME SO!".
Thank you! I've had trouble with this because my husband is a new age and doesn't trust the Bible or God's word. Good to know,bit gives me peace of mind
That is the best explanation of this verse that I’ve heard. Thank you Pastor Parr. It was straight to the point, and had the biblical scripture as examples to back it up.
Great message! Submit to God and to his holy word. "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight." Proverbs 3:5-6 ✝🙏🔥
I love your teaching and understanding about husbands and wives. God gave me that same revelation years ago, when I was in my previous marriage. Even though a man goes to church that doesn't mean he has a relationship with God. I learned the hard way, he was very abusive and unfaithful. I saw signs but didn't want to jump to conclusion. When I use to spend time with our children in God's word and in praying he never joined us as a family. First thing was the television, the children were ignored. I encourage anyone who is looking for a sincere relationship seek God first if you are not sure. God will give you signs but it's up to you to make the right decision. Always put God first, that's why there is soo many divorces. I was divorced for 20 years because I waited on God's decision for my life. Now I am married for 11years plus and now I am so happy waiting on God with my decision. God bless, I hope this is an encouragement to you.
Great video and well nuanced! However children are not asked to SUBMIT to their parents, but to OBEY which is different ! I can obey without being submit, but I cannot submit without obeying
Good video Allen and loved the content. With that said, the only thing that I disagree with is the implication that Surrender and Submission means the same thing. Surrender is what happens when you are overpowered or in a position where you are at the mercy of your enemy - non loving. Submission is all about love, respect and willingness to honor the chains of command instituted by God. An example in military is this, Surrender is only to the enemy until you are either rescued or are able to gain the upper hand; Submission is to your unit and is to be done no matter if your the strongest soldier or the weakest. All about honor. Again, thanks for all your videos and content.
“Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; while they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.” 1 Peter 3:1-2 KJV Let’s use all the scriptures on the subject. Obviously, obey God first, meaning don’t sin under the leadership of your husband. That said, the Bible specifically speaks about submitting to a husband who doesn’t obey God. I haven’t watched the video yet, but this scripture would be a pretty huge omission. An unsaved man literally can’t operate in submission to or alignment with God. That doesn’t mean he shouldn’t be submitted to at all. Your marriages likely weren’t arranged, so you chose who your leader would be when you chose a husband.
This was omitted in the video and undermines most of what Allen said about "alignment." The only thing that needed to be said and could have been a RU-vid short is that you are not to submit to a sinful command itself. But you are still to submit to a sinful husband.
@@TryHardCryHarder Yes I agree that a wife should not submit to a sinful command from her husband, but she is still to submit to him, "even if he does not obey the word, and they without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives when they observe your chaste conduct"
At first I didn't agree as I too don't take that verse literally, and understand submission from a wife is based on the intentions the husband has in his leadership. As the video progressed I realized we were in agreeance and found the video amazing. Oh! The editing is top notch as well! God Bless you!
Genesis 3:16 " Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and 𝐭𝐡𝐲 𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐢𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐡𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐛𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐲 𝐡𝐮𝐬𝐛𝐚𝐧𝐝, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐡𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐫𝐮𝐥𝐞 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐞". harken unto the words our LORD GOD. It is written clearly gospel that women should be subservient to her husband. Why Question and resist it. GOD intented it to be so, when man sinned. it is becuase he loves both man and woman that it is like this. IT is for humanities good. HE KNOWS EVERYTHING REMEBER THAT.
“Strap up, we about to take this fool out” I was listening to this while working and literally laughed out loud 😂I love hearing your summary of the story. Hysterical
