this movie forever altered my brain chemistry. the Perks of Being a Wallflower

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@stevechbosky 10 месяцев назад

As the author of the book and the director of the movie, I can’t tell you how happy I am to have stumbled across your video. It was fantastic. Funny. Charming. Thank you for watching my movie and commenting on it. Thanks to everyone who commented here. You made my night.

@christinah5859 9 месяцев назад

If this is legit, this is crazy!!

@amaad5002 9 месяцев назад

Hello sir, i just watched the film and even though not even half an hour has past since i can feel myself changing i don’t know why, but im sure its for the better. Thank you sir

@NicoleRafiee 9 месяцев назад

This is so so kind, thank you Steve for making this book and movie. So many of my friends and I’s favorite piece of media ever.♥️

@juliareste 9 месяцев назад

thank you for writing the book, it got so many people through high school

@caraharte 9 месяцев назад

Your book is my favorite book ever!!! I read it first when i was 12 and I've re-read it every year since. I just gave it to one of my friends because she has never read it but I hope she enjoys it as much as I do 😊😊

@KyleRoy Год назад

The panic attack scene is an incredibly effective piece of filmmaking. What’s even more impressive is the movie was written/directed by the author of the book.

@LaurenLaass Год назад

I think that’s why the movie turned out so well and why I love both.

@Itzezyyyy Год назад

Exactly I was so happy he got to direct the movie for his own book even tho I hadn’t read the book I’m afraid it’ll ruin my love for this movie so I watch it over and over again instead haha

@melindadarastean9225 Год назад

@@Itzezyyyy trust me, it will make you love it more

@Itzezyyyy Год назад

@@melindadarastean9225 idk, it seems to have mixed reviews on goodread and they say they hate the way he writes Charlie’s POV. At least he didn’t make him talk that way in the movie

@melindadarastean9225 Год назад

@@Itzezyyyy hmm i can see that, you have to be in the right mindset for it. personally i didn't notice anything off about that...i say at least try it, you never know! i always take goodreads reviews with a pinch of salt.

@_bestcharacter_3654 Год назад

The book has a quote that changed my point of view on mental illness and people with mental illness. [spoilers ahead] when charlie sister got slapped by her boyfriend she made charlie promise to not tell their parents, but in the book he did it anyway and charlie’s parents went and talked to the boyfriend. After that Charlie asks his father what will happen to the boyfriend and why did he do that (with the expectation that he had a trauma to explain why he did that) so the father says to Charlie “Not everybody has a sob story, and even if they had its not an excuse”

@crab2195 Год назад

what a shame. they really should’ve left that in there. it’s so easy to excuse abusive behavior under the guise of trauma but in reality we all have trauma and a lot of us choose not to inflict that onto other people. i never heard this quote so thank you!

@jamietate2854 Год назад

Charlie didn't tell his parents. He told his English teacher who then told his parents

@d1gitalsonder Год назад

@@crab2195i agree! i’d definitely recommend the book. the movie was great, but left a lot of context and details out that the book contained. def tw for sa & abuse in the book, one of my favorite reads but hard to digest at times.

@Mewl22 10 месяцев назад

god I wish I had a support system like charlie, I feel so alone, my parents caused me so much of my pain, and when I try and talk about it they just get even more distant. and I don't have any friends because I just got out of a long cycle of pushing away all healthy relationships because I was so scared of having to confront all the pain. i don't know if that makes sense, but I hate it, I know I could have healthy friendships, I just wish I could reach out more. I just want a friend who gets me

@WepcapStinkhorn 2 месяца назад

And the next scene when Charlie's sister say she hates him... That broke my heart

@hannahpomykal4604 Год назад

I was always so confused about the scene where Sam kisses Charlie as well until now. It seemed off and difficult to watch considering their difference in ages, the fact that she had a boyfriend, and the fact that there was no romantic intention behind it. However, now I understand that, as she said, the first person who kissed her also harmed her. So, by giving the kiss to Charlie, she did her best to ensure that he never had to feel the way she did during her first kiss. That the first person who kissed him loved him. She was trying to redeem her own story while also giving him what she would have wanted for herself.

@succulentworm9351 Год назад

oh my god this just made me scream and throw up

@ames-inthe-grass Год назад

oh my-

@edwinam1362 Год назад

Yes I had this exact same process. Used to think it was so fanfictiony and showy… and it hit me years later.

@notimportant1006 Год назад

@@succulentworm9351 no bc same.

@jesuschrist2144 Год назад

The age difference is gross, but another layer to what you said is also that she doesn’t know that he was also molested, so in reality she still couldn’t protect him

@katiemaier2782 Год назад

I'll never forget going to see this. It was the first PG13 movie I saw in theaters and when Charlie takes the LSD someone's dad screamed "OH SHIT!" 💀

@bekahswanson Год назад

Omg I love that!! haha

@djabelinc6069 Год назад

imagining the "OH SHIT" over and over because that's the funniest shit i've heard in a while

@kiki-shape Год назад

LMFAOOO

@jamiec2844 Год назад

when did he take lsd wtf

@sitandwatchmeburn Год назад

@@jamiec2844 23:14

@edwinam1362 Год назад

The part about it being unrealistic how he goes out to things alone and how courageous that is, I would argue that’s why the movie/book begins where it does. Right when he decides to step out into the world. In regular coming of age stories about shy people, they just get hounded by a crazy group and are taken in. Charlie had to step out from the wall and say “I’m here… notice me”.

@hollyisverycool Год назад

also not forgetting he doesn't want anyone to think he's "getting bad" again

@ndalisian4386 Год назад

Love this comment

@belle8732 9 месяцев назад

one of my favorite things about this story. i think it's actually so realistic especially compared to those comic of age movies where a shy person is just adopted, because it really doesn't happen like that often. the fact that he had to put himself out there and find friends on his own really resonated with me as a shy person in school. i stopped hanging onto this fantasy of people becoming friends with me FOR me

@terranceorwhatever60 9 месяцев назад

I think his anxiety causes him to be out there because hes scared people will judge him for NOT being there instead of him being scraed to go out at all. He thinks people in the future will talk about he was so off putting because he was hardly out there and how he missed out on so much. He has anxiety of how people will think of him in the future instead of in the present

@yeliah311 Год назад

there's a part in the book that's like "even if somebody else has it much worse, that doesn’t really change the fact that you have what you have” when i read that my guilt ridden imposter syndrome dummy brain was like :00000 and it's still a quote i remind myself of to this day

@ClairDeLume 6 месяцев назад

"i don't want my parents knowing im getting bad again." every time charlie says that line it just strikes something within me. those were my exact thoughts growing up

@tiffanyhowell8444 Год назад

like so many others in the comments, i didn’t *fully* understand this movie when i first watched it at 13/14. it took me until about the 2nd or 3rd watch to even catch on to the abuse that Charlie received from Helen. now as an adult, i seriously appreciate how they were able to include something so traumatic, (plus his best friends suicide) without actually showing anything graphic. you almost miss it if you’re not paying close attention. it really focuses on the aftermath of the trauma and Charlie’s mental health as a result of these events. this movie feels very… human? it feels real and thats what makes it so impactful.

@linas2969 Год назад

I'm surprised as to how many people say that they missed this until years later.

@maryblacktea Год назад

exactly!! i love that they were able to address serious problems without showing triggering scenes (like in 13 reasons why for example)

@lucyohno Год назад

i’ve just watched this and i’m 13 i didn’t get the aunt helen thung till i asked my friend about it but jesus i feel like i’ve aged 5 years

@carmen8958 11 месяцев назад

that’s one of the reasons i’m so happy with this movie, so many shows now show those kind of things and in some cases it doesn’t even affect the story it’s just shock value which is DISGUSTING. the people who made this movie handled the topic w genuine care and it is way more effective than anything else they could’ve shown. i would honestly probably hate the movie if they actually showed sam or charlie’s abuse.

@meet-me-at-blue-diner 10 месяцев назад

@@lucyohnosame omg. The only reason I caught on to what happened was because a week after seeing the movie, I watched a commentary video on yt and they mentioned it, but before that I was completely bewildered.

@romeobustillo2402 Год назад

Ugh this movie, I would do anything to rewatch this movie for the first time again. Nothing beats how I felt after watching this movie the first time🤧

@yespls4184 Год назад

Same here. I read the book prior to seeing the movie (in 11th grade) so I wasn't sure if I'd like the film, but it really moved me and I've probably seen it 20 times at this point. I never dealt with childhood abuse, but I have dealt with severe depression and anxiety like many people (and am on a SSRI..) so really related to Charlie..

@elijah.lennon Год назад

Facts, I remember the exact moment I watched it!!!!! Life changing

@Itzezyyyy Год назад

@@yespls4184 I’m the opposite, even tho the author directed it I’m afraid to read the book lol wish I could’ve back in high school but I chose to watch this over again instead

@notimportant1006 Год назад

Fr. This movie literally shaped me as a person. Like I physically screamed and threw up after watching it. The things I would do to have prevented myself from watching it though so I could have read the book first...still showstopping. Cried like 10 times in a row😵‍💫

@boo8bie4eva Год назад

There's a philosopher (can't remeber which one) who had a theory that the moment u realize ur happy is the exact moment u start to lose happiness bc once ur conscious of a feeling and start taking active efforts to keep it you've set up a mental paradigm for urself that this good feeling can go away and u start looking for signs that it is going away which takes u out of the moment and thus the good feeling.

@briareyberg5145 Год назад

OMG YOU ARE SO RIGHT. THIS HAPPENED TO ME. I was in a bad place... but then I finally felt TRUE happiness until now. And Its weird because I feel bad and good at the same time.

@sketchygalobau1124 Год назад

Alan watts definitely had this theory

@isimkaba Год назад

yikes, this is how i feel rn tho

@mrmosbyslefttit Год назад

Wow, tragically beautiful yet sad

@Mari-kc9ek Год назад

This is Lecan’s theory of desire. It essentially states we don’t truly desire what we think we do, we desire desire itself. You probably heard Slavoj Žižek speaking of pecan though, as he speaks of desire on terms of happiness.

@RaeTechnicolorsquirrels 8 месяцев назад

i think Charlie going to all the events alone is because if he didnt, his family would worry that he was staying home all the time and was "getting bad again" like he was doing it all for them.

@RaeTechnicolorsquirrels 8 месяцев назад

also i really love your sweater

@AmandaSbarros Год назад

I have ADHD and autism so making friends was always extremely impossible for me. I remember my cousin gave me this book when I was starting grade 9th, the same as Charlie. I never felt so understood like I did the first time I read the book, I felt not alone. This will be forever my favorite book/movie because it was the first time I ever felt okay.

@allibell6795 Год назад

Omg same ! I find it easy to make friends but I can never keep them. I related alot with Charlie also I suffer from PTSD

@ClairDeLume 6 месяцев назад

oh my god, yes. charlie was such a comfort character for me, and still is really.

@bunnywavyxx9524 Год назад

the first time I watched this movie I actually never understood it actually, it was only when I noted that Charlie always had mental issues (including from aunt helen's abuse) that I finally began to understand it.

@missreckless8571 Год назад

The fact that I went through weeks in which the only thing that I would do on a day was watching this movie 3 times and my therapist still did not think that something was wrong really showcases my talent for finding the ✨worst possible✨ therapists/doctors in my area

@cerrismatic Год назад

If I remember correctly from the books, Charlie was a year behind in school, and his birthday was around this time period, making him closer to 16. But it has been a long time since I read it, so I could be wrong. (No, I just looked it up, he was 15 and then turned 16, so not as big of an age gap between Sam and Charlie).

@pash8523 2 месяца назад

But that age gap is a regular high school age gap tbh 😊

@kookykiddo Год назад

truly set the stage for my terrible childhood, this movie

@clougellii 10 месяцев назад

i always found it so gut-wrenching watching charlie take so much stuff one after another. "it'll be our little secret" is said twice in this movie, once from patrick, and once from charlie's aunt. i find it so interesting how willing charlie was to let patrick kiss him whenever he wanted because he "needed it." or how charlie was afraid to say no to mary elizabeth when she wanted to go further. sooo many little details and signs that all point back to his trauma.

@scottspencer2649 Год назад

I feel that his anxiety can actually be the reason that he shows up solo to everything. I relate to Charlie, among others, so strongly, and I feel his anxiety matches his solo attendance.

@brionnachantel5416 8 месяцев назад

I’m sorry if this sounds weird but you talking about how you always ruin happy moments for yourself cos you can’t help but think “this is gonna be over and I’ll never be happy in this way again” made me feel so seen. Like it genuinely eased my anxiety cause I always thought I was alone in that. It’s like I can never let myself be happy because in those moments I’m actively mourning the memory. & I convince myself I’m the only person that has ever felt the things I feel all the time & that alone makes it so much worse. So even if you don’t see this I just want to say I sincerely appreciate it.

@sofiaboo6739 Год назад

14:40 tbh i've always related to charlie a lot and i'm VERY anxious, but i was kinda like that too. i would show up to parties where i barely knew anyone just to end up sitting on a corner all night because i really wanted to believe that i was capable of being like all the other kids and i though if i went to these events maybe i would bring myself to talking to new people since i was already there but i never did.

@sofiaboo6739 Год назад

cause at the same time as charlie is really anxious and traumatized he's also very hopeful and idealistic in a way, which leads him to put himself out there without REALLY putting himself out there

@steveneardley7541 4 дня назад

I'm autistic and pretty clueless socially. Someone in the in-crowd liked me in high school, so I would be invited to their parties. Once I got overwhelmed by the emotional confusion and spent most of the party under a table, waiting for it to be over. I really didn't care whether it was weird. I knew I couldn't be in that phony social scene--that I needed to get out.

@kate6618 Год назад

I remember in the second last year of highschool my english teacher was telling everyone in the class to go get this one book from the back of the classroom if they felt like reading something fun (it was some thriller I think) and after class I went to go get it and my english teacher who knew that I was quite a shy introverted person told me not to get that book and instead she gave me a copy of The Perks of Being a Wallflower and told me to read that instead. It was like she somehow knew that out of everyone in that class I needed to read that book, probably not a good thing that she saw that in me but it is still my favourite book.

@beaurehm Год назад

this is my favorite book of all time and the movie is just as mentally damaging as well as comforting and i cry every time i watch it. i relate to charlie in so many ways (more than i’d like) and i love the 90s and the music in the film is perfect and as cliché and stereotypical the high school experience is depicted in this but i love that because it’s actually accurate and that’s just how coming of age movies are. this movie/book has become my whole life and i’m currently reading it for the fourth time. stephen chbosky is a genius. this video from nicole felt like a message from the universe or something aaaaaaaa sorry i just love it so much

@azzasiddiqui7190 Год назад

this movie definitely developed me into another person and altered the trajectory of my life in a new way

@iamchristianbalesgirlfriend Год назад

This movie was also my awakening to being a teenager and its 'angst'. For some reason as a child, no one ever played music around me so I didn't ever listen to music until I watched this movie at the age of 12. Come on Eileen was the first ever song I remember listening to on my own and I was obsessed. Also, Charlie in the gold underwear was definitely a scene I remembered playing over and over again.

@lupakajsalisa3652 3 месяца назад

You didn't hear any music as a child? I mean I assume that at least in kindergarten there were songs about washing your hands and stuff but, what did you do once you had access to choose what music to listen to? Did you get a spotify account? I got my spotify account as a christmas present when I was 12, coincidentally. But I'd used youtube to watch 'Toxic' by Britney Spears over and over again before that

@KanadaJin Год назад

First book that had a really big impact on me as a teen. Could really relate.

@haleyhodges2665 Год назад

i used to literally say to myself all the time ~ we accept the love we think we deserve. This eventually become a belief and honestly helped me out of a lot of shitty friendships, abusive relationships & eventually leaving my family home and never looked back. I recently watched this again a few months ago & couldn't watch t all the way through (the ending is very traumatising for me) but i will always love this film and what is represented in my life. a bit ~dramatic~ but without film & music i would still be alive, these types of things gave me an escape of the horrors and traumas of my old everyday

@SaraSara-di3hs Год назад

While I agree that "people accept the love they think they deserve," there's another, more tragic reality that's often glossed over. We are slaves to intense emotions, be they negative or positive. People who are usually strongwilled and proud will crumble the moment the man/woman they love is involved, even if they're AWARE that they're being mistreated, exploited, degraded, abused, etc. Which is the scariest part imo. Being that clear minded yet not being able to let go.

@itsbrandonbitch Год назад

i’m upset they deleted the scenes of candace’s pregnancy/abortion. i felt like it added a lot to her character and her relationship with charlie.

@PokeJoltz Год назад

Going from being Charlie to being Sam and now most recently Charlie's sister with my own sibling.. it's so fucking rough and this movie hurts in such raw ways but I remember at the time it came out I was 12 and had just started therapy. I was so scared to ever "get bad again" like Charlie but honestly I have so many times since then. I don't want to say anything gets easier or be cliché and toxic with "it gets better!" but you can get through things. Even if it feels impossible. You can do difficult things. You are strong even when you feel weak. You are worthy of love and deserving of happiness no matter how you feel or what your thoughts might tell you. There are people who love and care for you, so many you probably don't even know yet. That being said your feelings are valid, You are valid.

@oblivion_2852 Год назад

"We accept the love we think we deserve". Hey stranger, I don't know you but if you've been abused by your ponytail Derek, please know you deserve so much more.

@GwenisImmune Год назад

the "we accept the love we think we deserve" and "you can't just sit there and put everybody's lives ahead of yours and think that counts as love" line didn't initially make sense to me when I first watched the movie and read the book ages and ages ago but they really clicked for me as I matured - as I was constantly allowing terrible people into my life and accepting their disrespect out of fear of losing them but also just throwing away my own boundaries and giving away entire parts of myself to them willingly because at that point I thought that was me showing somebody true love.

@Leah-fz9du Год назад

This video and your tumblr video coming out as if you've crawled inside my brain. This movie was ABSOLUTELY 100% of my personality from age 14-15. The summer before freshman year of high school I would listen to heroes every single day. Thank you for making this video.

@mennaandtheuke Год назад

In 2013 I cut out ‘one day our pictures will become old photographs’ all the letters individually, put them on my wall then printed out all my photos and put them underneath. And now I’m mentally ill

@soapywil Год назад

I remember feeling physically ill, having nightmares, and not being able to sleep after watching this movie with my mom. But I also think I loved it after watching it???

@lupakajsalisa3652 3 месяца назад

I think you and I are very alike. This one, and 'Silver linings playbook'. Do you also have songs that you absolutely love and relate to but you cannot let yourself listen to them most of the time because it will give you that weird lingering feeling? That's how I felt both watching this movie, and later reading this book.

@sammienovak5819 Год назад

I just watched this movie for the first time yesterday which is a crazy coincidence. As a freshman in college, I was able to find small things in most characters that I related too. Whenever I would ask friends or family if I should watch it, they always said it was too sad and to just pick another movie. I agree that it is a sad movie but it talks about so many important things that it needs to be watched. I have been in a depression funk recently and I think this movie helped me realize it. I can be sad and that is okay, and (this is gonna be cringey) but I am not alone. Others feel the same as me and through this movie, there is a community.

@98schild Год назад

the fact that you did this video on my birthday, the day I got my first tattoo directly related to The Perks of Being A Wallflower is so amazing. it’s my favorite movie ever and it really had a deep strong impact on me as a person because it was the first time I saw myself on screen and in a book

@jamesmarlowe2060 Год назад

Well... I never saw this movie. I also never went to highschool. I'm also a blue collar construction worker man. Actually, I don't know why I even watch your videos. BUT. Your videos are excellent. 👍

@sillymon5855 Год назад

u missed out

@sydney9011 10 месяцев назад

I was, admittedly, late to the Perks of Being a Wallflower party, I had been told that I'd appreciate it all my life. I finally watched it this year when I got B0vid and was locked up in my room. I remember thinking to myself "oh god, my 13-year-old self would've loved this so unabashedly." and it got me thinking of how being young lets you enjoy things more without fear. Watching it at the ripe age of 24 puts things into perspective, I've been all of these characters in some way or another. Especially Charlie's sister, especially Sam, I've just BEEN THERE. I found that the movie gave me a heavy serving of second-hand embarrassment, it was hard to stomach, but the movie truly encapsulated the 14-year-old experience, just the horror of being young and TRYING.

@edwinam1362 Год назад

When you mentioned how the movie is more than Charlie, it made me think that you would really enjoy the book. The point really is that Charlie is always watching and noticing. Even family members who he doesn’t see he tells you stuff about and what they went through. All in all the movie and book are about one young boys experience with noticing pain. Everywhere.

@sophiaa9134 Год назад

i've seen this movie so many times (its one of my favs) but watching your vid on perks and talking about trauma/ptsd has just made me literally have a full on break down realizing that i might have ptsd bc of experiencing something similar to charlie as a kid. like i never really understood why i felt like this was a comfort movie or why i loved charlie's character so much but now i'm really realizing it's bc i never felt like i could claim or speak about (or even think about) what happened to me or the trauma i've been dealing with subconsciously and consciously since i was a kid, so ig being able to see what charlie goes through and the love he's surrounded by it just... whew. i think i've got some healing to do lol.

@lupakajsalisa3652 3 месяца назад

Nicole's thoughts about the movie caught me off-guard, too, despite being aware that when I watched the movie as a tween, and later read the book as a teen, I was filled with this strong pain and dazed feeling. I may think I'm aware of all the big events in my life that lead me to experience (what must be) ptsd, but I've realised before things/periods of time that I've forgotten that I definitely should have remembered. I didn't experience what you did, and I hope I'm not making anything worse by telling my own experience. All I know is I hope that you're able to be in a safe place, with understanding people, when you start feeling those buried feelings, so that you don't have to be scared anymore.

@purplecat733 Год назад

The scene that he kisses Emma Watson‘s character instead of his girlfriend, my dad fell out of the theater chair laughing. I thought he was going to hold me out of the theater because the context of this movie for some reason this movie help me process a lot of parallel things that were going on in my life and I sobbed for about two hours. I just couldn’t stop crying. I can’t bring myself to rewatch it. Yeah I am fond of this movie. I also know there’s parts of it that emotionally break me.

@NeptuneMartian 2 месяца назад

In the book, Charlie is writing to a friend in my mind and I imagine he’s showing up to events with that friend in mind.

@courageouslycourt Год назад

I had the pleasure of reading this book for a high school assignment then watching the film. This movie always hits for me 😭

@Angie753 10 месяцев назад

It’s also so important that it portrays a male victim/ female perpetrator: while showing it still affects the male victim the same way as a female victim

@catiebeans Год назад

As someone who has tried a plethora of SSRIs, SNRIs, and antipsychotics, I recently started TMS therapy. I highly recommend it to anyone who has treatment resistant depression and is sick of all of the side effects meds come with. I’m not fully done with my treatment, so I am not sure what the final results are going to be, but I noticed I have started to audibly laugh at little things. I am not expecting for this to be a “cure all”, but it’s a start.

@whalium889 Год назад

It didn’t work for me 😢

@catiebeans Год назад

@@whalium889 I’m sorry to hear. I hope you are able to find something that works well for yourself and relieves your symptoms. Living with treatment resistant depression is one of the most difficult challenges, so the fact that you have and are trying to get better is an amazing feat! I know I’m just a stranger on the internet, but I am so very proud of you. I have less than two weeks left and if I don’t start showing more progress, then I am going to be starting IV ketamine treatments. Do you have any experience with this? If not, have you found anything that has helped?

@whalium889 Год назад

@@catiebeans I tried ketamine too :’( 😢😢😢 I think I thought tms worked because I was in group therapy during that time so group therapy helped temporarily

@alainnahhorton4952 Год назад

man oh man. i got the notification for this video and realized that i’ve never gotten around to watching this movie, so i bit the bullet and watched it before watching this. it……. was so good. and so gutting. and so relatable as a mentally ill, queer young woman 😭 i really wish you would’ve touched on the part where charlie blacked out in the cafeteria!! i feel like it was such a turning moment for him. tysm for making this video!! much love 🫂

@jomariesings Год назад

I WAS LITERALLY JUST TALKING ANOUT THIS MOVIE AND YOU JUST UPLOADED THIS SECONDS AGO CRAZY

@yayour 3 месяца назад

i remember watching this at 8 and not really understanding it at all, my abuela who was watching it with me had to tell me what charlie's aunt meant by "this will be our little secret" and suddenly everything clicked. im 20 now and im obsessed with the emotions that are felt during this movie and how viscerally the movie is able to portray a ptsd breakdown. not everything in those moments may make sense to onlookers but on the inside everything you feel is cascading on you all at once and snagging onto you completely

@angelicamariacaicedobeltra7322 Год назад

this movie is soo soo gut wrenching for me that I feel there should be like a trigger warning for it that doesn't even say its name, like the mere mention of it just sends me into full on spiral

@e-linamarie 10 дней назад

this is one of the movies that i watched before i could process it and now i’m a little scared of how bad it’ll fuck me up if i watch it with how much i’ve processed since then, sooo thank you for talking through it all so i can re-experience it safely✨

@cam4760 Год назад

i literally just watched this movie (not for the first time) yesterday. you’re reading my mind

@camillej3383 Год назад

WAS JUST ABOUT TO COMMENT THIS

@cam4760 Год назад

it’s such a good movie 😫

@briareyberg5145 Год назад

I LITERLY COMMENTED THIS. I WATCHED IT LAST NIGHT. only because I realized it's on hulu now. Lol

@empress9554 Год назад

OCD part hit hard, the flashbacks and PTSD hit hard, I watched this movie last night because I was trying to distract myself from my OCD and I’ve seen the movie 3 times before, but I blocked out the ending and I didn’t remember it… the end triggered a panic attack when I was supposed to be at work and come home to talk about my OCD with my boyfriend… bad timing. I should not have watched this movie at this time.

@empress9554 Год назад

✨trauma dumping✨

@empress9554 Год назад

Anyway liked and subscribed

@Mewl22 10 месяцев назад

the quote "theres so much pain, and I don't know how to not notice it" Dude, bawling, I still cry so much from this movie especially that line. I know things have gotten better for me, and they've been better in the past, but it feels hopeless right now, I know it won't always be, I just want the pain to go away, for just one day, for one night. to just feel okay.

@avilla7 Год назад

i love this god damn movie. i watched it for the first time at 13 years old at a friends birthday party. all my friends were mentally healthy ig cause i was the only one sobbing at the end and they looked so concerned lmao. absolute phenomenal memory

@maryblasingame4083 9 месяцев назад

Charlie being an anxious outcast but still showing up to things alone is so me actually. ITS REALISTIC!!!!!!!!

@nilessilly 5 месяцев назад

bit unrelated but nicole feels like the older sister i never had 😭🙏💞‼️

@allysonsirois2664 Месяц назад

this might legit be the first time ever i comment on someone's video but stumbling upon this, listening to you being so honest & vulnerable, and reading the comments just made me feel so much less alone, thanks.

@kiraxmh Год назад

idk if this is reflective of trauma response as a whole, but i know that when i left my abusive home and went to college for the first time, i went EVERYWHERE alone for a long time. i didn’t have to worry about doing anything on anybody else’s time, it was freeing despite the social anxiety that ensued lol

@Lildeadthing420 Год назад

30:17 is painfully relevant and i didn't expect such a serious moment of self reflection for myself while watching this. thank you so much nicole

@halfasummersnight8922 Год назад

I just rewatched this movie this morning after not seeing since I was like 13!! Also the “where is Micheal tonight?” sound did make it on to tiktok and ppl are using to trauma dump… so you are spot on

@alexisrapoza5103 Год назад

the way I genuinely almost got a tattoo of "We accept the love me we think we deserve" and currently on my first week of SSRIs and this video showed up in my recommended section. It is also 3:30 in the morning for context lol...the RU-vid algorithm works harder than the US military

@codycat6 8 месяцев назад

i only found your channel last month, but as someone with a complex mental health history i really relate to the things you talk about and it's given me a lot of hope that things can get better for me. this video (and ur channel in general) is really helping me process finding out i have ocd

@dayinmay Год назад

this movie changed my middle school years in a way i don't wanna talk about 😭

@gina1419 Год назад

I’ll never forget my first time seeing this. My mom took me to the city and it was a gloomy California day. We saw it at a big theater. My 15 year old self walked out a different person that day. I then received that movie for Christmas and watched it many more times. I haven’t been able to get myself to watch it again since being in early high school. Maybe now that I’m 25 I will try and sit down and watch it again and reflect.

@izzycamoc1289 Год назад

i don't remember much from the first time i watched this movie except for the fact that it was beautifully written and it was sensitive but also jarring (the assaults and ect) but watching your video-commentary on it reminded me of how much i was impacted by this movie and how much even at that time i "got it", i got what charlie was feeling, but i feel like if i were to watch it today i would be unable to finish it because *trauma*. just the snippets from this movie made me want to cry, i think i sobbed watching it for the first time. and you are right, every person that watched this movie would be able to relate to a character, i myself have been charlie's sister, his dad (lol), sam, but especially him and it really is a visceral experience, to watch a movie and relate to it so much

@tateinarush Год назад

this video meant a lot, thank you so much for making it! It made my cold day in Kazakhstan a hole lot warmer 🥰

@sarahann74 5 месяцев назад

people love and fear this movie for the same reason: because of how it makes them feel. every single time a scene from the movie was shown in this video I instantly got full body chills and felt the strong need to sob weather it's a beautiful or painful scene, the same lump in my throat was still there. This film and the book are probably the only things that ever made me feel emotions so intensely from deep within my soul. The first time I saw this movie I knew that I had to show it to my dad, needing to share the absolute agony that this movie gave me with someone who I connected with so deeply knowing that he would just get it. This story is the epitome of genius storytelling and will always have such a special place in my heart because it spoke to my soul.

@MrPantsMonkey Год назад

NICOLE! pls forever make these movie commentaries they are my favorite things u were made for this

@ttcgr Год назад

when i read the book i fell in love, and it makes me so happy that the mobile is just as good. it's helped me in how i relate to my friends and to myself, and everytime a different character stands out to me. this time it was charlie's sister, i've been in the situation of being called by someone in a mental breakdown, it's so terrifying watching someone you love go through it, sometimes even more so than my experiences of being the one going through it

@Itzezyyyy Год назад

Omg I’m so happy to see this in my recommendations I’ve been wanting to watch this all day bc you’re fucking awesome and literally perks of being a wallflower never gets old and I can’t believe it’s been a decade already😭such a good movie with such a good cast and I’m happy the author actually got to direct it himself. Such a sad movie but it’s iconic and beautiful 🫶🏽

@Itzezyyyy Год назад

“Touch my friends again and I’ll blind you” HOT literally the movie that made me fall in love with Logan Lerman, not Percy Jackson lol I wish I could’ve watched this in theaters as well but I instead watched Noah, the other movie with him and Emma except they play siblings lol still just as good tho

@belieberofkidrauhl1 Год назад

I loved the movie and the book even more. I read the book around 3 times now and it is so interesting how as I got older the book meant something different for me. I read the book when I was close to graduating high school and it was so lovely how the book changed for me, I understood better what was going on and it became more special to me. Such an amazing story.

@pepperpoot8563 5 месяцев назад

i will always love the perks of being a wallflower! no idea what it was doing in the kid's section of the library, but i loaned it and it just shaaattered me. i think it was the first book i ever bought with my own money, and by the time i got around to read it again, i realised the copy i bought was a misprint 😶 it was too late to return it at that point so i just have my broken copy of perks of being a wallflower and you know what, it makes complete sense lol

@gabiitana6049 Год назад

not me never realizing this movie was set in the 90s 😮

@graced1446 7 месяцев назад

8:35 is the ultimate OCD experience 😭 i live my life perpetually grieving the fun i'm actively preventing myself from enjoying

@Ally.G. Год назад

dude im crying just from watching your video. reliving the thoughts i had when watching the movie and reading the book and just the beauty of it all. also you are incredibly well spoken and it just makes this video top tier.

@lexiel920 Год назад

perks (the book) is currently next to me on its second renewal from my local library because i thought about giving it back and felt physically ill

@AppsandArt Год назад

I remember losing it after reading this book in middle school, then watching the movie, proceeding to rewatch/reread both every year, and on my 18th bday get a tattoo that reads ‘ Love Always,’ (the comma is important!) in typewriter font on my forearm. I even wore a star necklace like Sam through high school and most of college every day. Looking at either evokes so much emotion and makes me think about how hard it can get but also how beautiful being human is :)

@coffeegirl18 2 месяца назад

Your hair looks really pretty today. This is literally one of my top five favourite films. It's gritty but it's got the teen movie feeling and also involves dealing with a lot of trauma and PTSD in very real way.

@coffeegirl18 2 месяца назад

I have medical related PTSD and I started talking about it more like people didn't believe I was ill and I had to wait for a diagnoses at 23 meanwhile I was gaslit by tons of doctors. My mom has more severe PTSD from a messed up childhood and it's really sad. Re: Ezra Miller was hot...I was so pissed that he's a completely shit person. He's a decent actor I will give him that.

@sleepyratgirl99 Год назад

aaa this is my favourite movie & book!!! it left such a huge impression on me when i was younger, im sososososo glad u made a vid about it !!! thank u :)

@frankiedoe4437 Год назад

this is interesting bc i must've been really young or something when i watched it bc i definitely didn't understand any of that except go "oh what!?" when sam says about her past. this has made me appreciate it in a different light, thank you Nicole!

@ryle2814 Год назад

I just watched this movie for the first time and I couldn't stop thinking about this video EVERYTHING YOU SAID WAS RIGHT I WASN'T READY I SOBBED

@aya-je7ei Год назад

i just finished watching it, and holy shit i've never cried more. the panic attack scene was relatable and the way it was portrayed was so well done. charlie is so relatable and literally no other movie can come even close to comparison to this one.

@Anna-kj2bd Год назад

I ALSO had the hugest crush on Ezra Miller, and this whole review-ish video was so relatable, glad to have found your channel!

@bee8975 Год назад

forever thankful for my english teacher showing us this movie first year of highschool

@peytonjames Год назад

thank you for reminding me of this movie. after an insanely triggering night for me i can go watch it. its an insanely comforting movie for me. love u madame nasty 🫶🏼

@angelaharrouk9396 Год назад

your hair looks gorgeous!

@NicoleRafiee Год назад

thank you so much!!

@LucyLouuuuu 9 месяцев назад

as someone who went through something extremely similar to charlie as a kid (although at 9 and not his seeming 5), even just watching the scene in this video when he gets the flashbacks on new years brings tears to my eyes. I've been in therapy for almost 2 years now and was diagnosed with ptsd about 8 months ago, and working through that shit isn't fun -- but since starting that healing progress I'm at least able to say His name and tell my closest friend what happened

@LucyLouuuuu 9 месяцев назад

update: im full on crying by the end of this video just bc of watching these scenes again

@LucyLouuuuu 9 месяцев назад

ANOTHER UPDATE: for books similar-ish you should read "The Blue Mirror," "Identical (this book by ellen hopkins fucked me up so tw:as)," and "It's Kind of a Funny Story"

@coffeeandmusk Год назад

I first read the book at the beginning of year 9. I’d just moved to a new school in a completely new area and I knew nobody. I was too socially anxious to go to the playground at break times because people would realise i was all alone and idk, talk to me? Lol. So i instead went to the library and sat in a random corner where a neon yellow book with a minimalist cover caught my eye. The Perks of Being a Wallflower. I was too shy to ask if I could withdraw the book from the school library so I read a bit then put it back. And every day during break and lunch I would go back, find that neon yellow book and read a letter from my now good friend, Charlie. And as I slowly made friends and spent less time in the library, me and Charlie went through the motions together. I related SO much to him as I also struggled with my mental health and idk. It’s just a book i’ll never forget. And the movie is absolutely beautiful. And I want to cry just thinking about it. I never watched the movie until YEARS later, but its one of the only book adaptations that I can say actually does the book justice and stays true to the whole feel. Oh good old 2013, you were so painful but so invigorating. Thank you to this book for making that first week of being a true Wallflower manageable… or even life changing, idk.

@bread-design Год назад

i remember watching this for the first time when it came out (i was 12 or 13) and i understood some of it but not everything. though the more times i watched it, the more i could relate to all of these characters and it's really difficult for me to watch it now. it brings back experiences i've had and the people around me have had and it hurts so much because the movie portrays life and mental illness so well. it probably is one of my favorite movies of all time even if i have to watch it sparingly.

@jorienstoel602 11 месяцев назад

The scene with the homecoming dance when they start playing come on Eileen and Charlie starts to slowly walk away from the wall and into the group is probably my favorite scene in all of cinema history. I have never felt so seen before. Like you mention how Charlie goes to all of these social events by himself and that was sooo me in high school. I've had social anxiety and used to not be able to hold up a conversation to safe my life but if there was an event I would try my absolute best to be there to at least be present. That specific scene where he steps in, captures that feeling of stepping out of your comfortzone so well and I love it so much. I would watch the whole movie just for that scene so I can feel seen and validated and I will never shut up about it. 10/10 filmmaking.

@Madiitetr Год назад

I watched this movie for the first time after my own memories came back and it jus has a special place in my heart. Out of everything I’ve seen this movie has the closest depiction of what it’s like for that sort of stuff to resurface. Great movie

@konnieb9319 3 месяца назад

This is and still is my favorite movie since I’m as a child. It raised me and I do not care at all!

@rickellenelson8996 Год назад

This book/movie impacted me so much that I got 'sing me to sleep' tattooed on my neck 🤦

@Vicious2998 8 месяцев назад

I loved this movie as a kid, but now watching this video I don’t think I even comprehended what it was truly about

@haleybarton4821 Год назад

This movie was formative for me. There’s so many things that bring me back to it. It was the first movie where I felt human while watching it

@marthajennings710 8 месяцев назад

Like you, this has been one of my favorite movies since I was a kid. I've seen it dozens of times and I still realize something new about the film and about myself every time I watch it. You perfectly put into words why this movie is so important and why it portrays all sorts of trauma and mental health issues in such a realistic way.

@jasminecurry5732 Год назад

I read the book in high school, loved it so much. I was so excited when the movie came out and was lost in it. I related so much to the book in high school and the movie made me feel so much, just like the book 🧡