You have been so instrumental in my life currently… I was in the throws of tarot buying addiction. In that dark tunnel, this channel was the light I needed. I am very grateful to you than you will ever know. I watch and rewatch all you videos because I need that… I need the authenticity. I don’t need answers… I need people like you, in whom I see myself and also genuinely feel like I am not alone in feeling these things. Thank you so so so much Stephanie! I love you ❤. Thank you for your genuine communication and support ❤
I'm a girl from the tangible world, precomputers. We would go out on our bikes all day and be home for dinner. No mobile phone leash, no cameras or apps listening to your conversations. Seems to me the balance between autonomy and community has gone badly wrong. I think about what you are talking about in this video all the time. How to live in this world as a kind but solid person. How we as humans desperately need community and friends. For me this is a big part of spirituality. By reading these books, I think we are looking for like minded people and to make a connection with ideas. So it makes sense that not every idea will fit everyone and shouldn't be sold that way. I really enjoy your musings, you're a real person on here. You aren't trying to sell us anything. I watch because I like you and think you are honestly genuine. P.S. Hello sweet boy!
My takeaway from The Four Agreements was to forgive myself (not my abusers) and whatever people do or say to or about me is "none of my business" because it is not about me, it is about them. People do not see us as we are, they see us as they are. But, I totally get it not all books resonate with all people. Regarding Women Who Run with the Wolves: this is a book aimed at women who have felt (and been) powerless and subjugated. I don't think it has mass appeal across generations but it does resonate with the Silent Generation (at the time it was first published), Baby Boomer and early Gen-x. Again, not all books are for everybody and I love it when people discern "this is not for me", and are okay with it!
I am a millennial and totally related to those themes in WWRwtW. The writing to me feel timeless, primordial even. I think you’re right about women who feel powerless/subjugated being its audience. It was my “bible” for a long time and I always return to find wisdom in it. But when I initially found it, was when I was in my 20s and needed it most. It profoundly helped me.
@@rachel2880 I found it in my late 20s after leaving my first husband. It was my "bible" for a long time as well. I owe it a debt of gratitude. It was life-changing and saving for me.
As someone who experienced trauma in a relationship, you helped me make sense why I've had "Sacred Contracts" from Caroline Myss for decades and just can't read more than a few pages. Same with "Wolves". I always thought it was me, that I wasn't "spiritually evolved" enough to understand. Their messages don't resonate with me, and never will, and that's okay. As always, thanks for your enlightening video ❤.
I agree 💯 with "Wolves" I had the same issue. I'm from Argentina, I have it in Spanish, I believe I've read one chapter and never was able to continue or to work with it in profoundness. I thought it was a me problem, because I I had a hard time connecting with the narration and I also tried with audiobook but I got distracted very easily. I'm glad I'm not the only one that has that huge book collecting dust 😂
Hello handsome boy! Thanks Rae, anothet great chat. ❤ I went through a phase of reading self help books for a few years... I find for me personally they just totally miss the mark. They never seem to vibe with my own life experiences and real worl druff. Like when you cant pack up and move your life to embracd tour soul journey... like what? Umm. No. I still need a job to pay bills, keep a roof... eat. The real me is here... yeah, I could be nicer to myself at times... but I'm not in a situation where I can give up real life to live my dream. So, I'm doing it my way. 😊 Well, trying. Quietly, like the Hermit I guess. ❤ And I agree. Some people do not deserve forgiveness. And Ive realised Im ok with that. I also hate the be the bigger person... why should anyone always feel that if they take the high ground it will make the other person look bad, or realise the errof of their ways... hell no. Sometimes I just wanted to give as good as I got... but for me and my mental health and knowing l'd be happier... I walked away.
Yh, like I really don't like the narrative of "light worker" or "star seed". The idea of soul contracts like, OK maybe that's true but we really don't know, so why am I bothering to believe it? It kinda carries the idea that our fate it sealed and that u juat have to "get over" it and "walk the path". I don't wanna do that, lol. It disempowers me so at the very least I know it's not my truth. Also, I'm happy with if u just using this youtube channel for your stream of consciousness, especially your minimalist journey. I love hearing what other people are pondering, especially spiritual related and adjacent topics.
I felt the same about Women Who Run With the Wolves, got through about a third of the book and then passed it on around four years ago - haven’t missed it 😄
This was great! I felt the same way about the 4 Agreements, only mine wasn't the forgiveness part, I don't even remember that, but I felt uneasy reading/listening to parts of the book and subsequent books in the series because it sounded to me like it was ok to let people take advantage of me, or for others to manipulate. It's been a very long time since I read it, so I can't give exact details, but something about it didn't feel right. I love the actual agreements, especially "Be impeccable with your word", and "Don't take things personally", but I don't recommend the books like I used to. I even went to a seminar put on by Don Miguel Ruiz' son! I think it's more a book of ideals, but it doesn't quite work if not everybody is living by it. I've heard good and bad about Women Who Run With the Wolves, but haven't read it myself. I have too many other books I purchased I need to read before finding more, lol! My mom had to move to assisted living and my siblings and I have been cleaning out her house, getting it ready to sell. Every single cabinet in her home was full of multiple of the same items, and it has been eye opening. It made me take a look at my home, and see I have the same tendencies, and do I want my children to have to deal with all of this mess when it's my turn? So I am with you on clearing things out that aren't serving me anymore. I need to watch your declutter video, I saw it, didn't have time to watch it, then forgot about it. Seems I have a trunk full of stuff going to charity every week lately. I pulled a couple of my more expensive decks out that I no longer want to see if I can get anything for them at Half Price Books, but I think I could get more out of them if I just donate them and write them off. I have a banker box of decks I will be donating. I enjoy your videos, it all doesn't need to be about tarot. I loved hearing the birds in the background of this....made me wonder if you're in California, lol! Peace & Love
I get what you are saying about music. I used to have a clock radio alarm clock; the one with the numbers that flip over. Every morning my alarm would go off and immediately my favorite radio station would be playing, usually with a song. Today every morning, I wake up with a song in my head that plays without me even consciously thinking about it. My brain got used to waking up to music and it still does this even into my mid 50's. Music has always been how I connect to myself, to my emotions and to experiences in my life.
As the gift giver of it… I’m glad you let go of Women Who Run With the Wolves, because it was burdening you! Also so much of what makes media or concepts click for us has to do with timing and our receptivity. Some of my favorite books now I know I would’ve hated had I read them at a different time in my life. It’s interesting! I’ve never read the Four Agreements but it does get quite a bit of hype! Not into the concepts from it you described either though for the same reasons.
I'm about to be 50, I'm a trauma survivor, and have had a long difficulty with the spiritual. What I have found incredible strength in has been: a FREE trauma group therapy group, (I've given up on one-on-one therapy), a free, chronic pain group, being in nature, and staying grounded in science. I watch videos about things like, "Is there a self? What is reality?" The depersonalization of reality has helped me. The study of the brain is endlessly fascinating. I watched a video wherein it was talking about how our entire existence and all experiences on earth take place in your head, and I can't stop thinking about it. They were saying that yes, you have tactile experiences, but it's your brain that tells you it's cold, hard, whatever. I'm simplifying it, but you get the gist. My pov is that there's so much inside of ourselves that we just don't know enough about, and outside of ourselves, we're dumb as bricks! Music is life!
This is the main reason why I had to leave Buddhism as a spiritual path (I'm still philosophically aligned with Buddhism) after years and years of formal study, training with nuns, etc. - the whole "you have terrible things happening to you because of something you did in a past life- you deserve whatever is happening and all you can do is try and do better so in the next round you might have a better shot at not suffering as much." That's not how it works. Yes, in small ways, in a GRANULAR way if you act like an as&hole it'll reverberate just in the way people and the world works (meaning in an actual, non-vibrational way... for instance, if you act like a jerk, people will steer clear of you, you will feel alienated and be unhappy. etc.), but some larger scheme of it all? No. Why does it always have to have some larger order? Horrible things happen to people who are just innocent bystanders. It makes no sense, and there's no higher order and meaning to it, and it's hard to grasp, but it's the nature of a reality that is simply chaotic and lived moment to moment.
Yikes, glad I never read those books. I know people would argue this but forgiveness sounds an awful lot like saying what was done to you is ok. The word guru is frightening. Ain’t nobody got time for that!
