Believe me, as a woman, I am JUST AS stumulated be seeing an attractive man. This includes sex dreams, waking up orgasming, etc. All involuntary. Many of us are like this, like men.
As a man I do agree I’m easily turned on and can appreciates women’s beauty but that doesn’t mean that we men are allowed to use this desire we have as an excuse to treat woman as second class citizens .
This, in my opinion, is not something we men deal with "in this culture". This is something men deal with. This culture, that culture, the other culture. This is universal, in any, all cultures. For example, look at the Muslim world. Burqas and such, and men are STILL aroused.
that's because of the media, which wear no "burqas and such"!!!... See, if you put these "visuals" all around guys in some culture, you have already "charged" the feelings of those guys enough to be ready to "discharge" at whom ever woman the find around.
Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) advised Ali, his son in law, that: “O Ali, do not follow the first look [at a woman] with another. There is no blame on you for the first but you have no right to the second”
In the Bible too, it talks too about the second look....David with Bathsheba. And even Jesus addresses the same idea as well, that if you look lustfully at woman, you have already committed adultery in your heart.
Every man in the world needs to see this, the way she explained this topic with food and hunger was genius thanks!! Being consciously aware is a super power
I don’t think men and women are wired differently on this one, there is a study that men arent even visual and our brains are not that different, even if they are more visual that doesn’t mean we are blind and that doesn’t mean them checking women out is biological or wired in them, we all have that temptation in my opinion and people who get turned on that easily are idk.. it’s not rly common and normal for me?
Very interesting. Correlates with what the Prophet Muhammed (peace be upon him) said. The first look is recognition, the second look is intentional and you are only judged by your intention. I like how this channel did not shy away to talk about their theistic belief and conform to secular popular norms.
I'm sorry, but God did not give men a commandment (to avoid looking at other women), and then make it impossible for them to keep that commandment. We can take the example of a hungry person at a buffet that has a gut reaction to the food. I can take that example a step further. I am a vegan. I chose this because I love animals deeply. I have not tasted meat in years, and even though I once thought I liked it, the sight or smell of it now disgusts me. If I was ravenous and I walked into a room full of nothing but dead animals ("meat") I would absolutely NOT have a desire to partake. My mind and body no longer see it as "food". I would feel the same way if I saw a severed finger laying on the table. My body desires what my heart has taught it to desire (fresh plant food). If a man truly loves his wife, his mind and body will not respond to other women. It would not even be a temptation. I would NEVER expect my partner to accept that I secretly fight an urge to look at other people, nor will I EVER accept it from them. God did NOT design us that way. I would 1000% rather die alone than live like that.
I love what she said at the end, it's totally true. No man will make it through this if they don't have a supportive wife. I have had that condemning wife it only makes it worse.😔
Correct! Yet for a wife it is also important to have her man understand it can bug her. Understanding your man's biolgical 'crave' doesn't mean it still hurts somehow. I had this conversation with my man, on a rational level I can understand, yet emotionally it still hurts me that he feels drawn to other women. It hurts because to me he is the only one, and with this knowledge of me not being drawn to other men he feels secure! I need him to understand my insecurity and not diminish my emotional feelings. The other day, I was having a very nice conversation with a man, I kind of fell an emotional connection (purely plotonic) well this my man cannot understand as he is not wired this way. At that moment he understood how I feel when he is drawn to antoher woman... he felt insecure too, though I was 'only' having a nice chat... see. In fact we both need to be understanding, suportive and loving...
I don't think most women understand it as well as you think. They don't get the strength of the first involuntary impression, and think that there is more interest in the other woman than there is.
@@markaurelius61 well, we see it in animals. In the main, males of species are predatory as derived by evolution. There must be a means of procuration otherwise species would die out. If it was left to chance it would not result in an edged bet. Nature edges its bet in humans as it does in other species. Hence, men are the edged bet insofar as we "go forth and multiply" its not our brain that's wired different. Its a thing called Hormones.
SUCH BULLCRAP!!! Why would God predispose men to be more susceptible to sin by making them more "visual"? He wouldn't! This isn't an "eye" matter, it is a "heart" matter, it is a CHOICE. We live in a world where men are given the ok to ogle & women lose all sense of discretion & show their bodies because of the unlimited ATTENTION. MEN...stand up & be accountable for your actions, your eyes, your dignity. Women ARE NOT objects for your pleasure. WOMEN...STOP treating yourself like a piece of meat on sale at a starving cannibal's dinner party...PUT SOME CLOTHES ON!!!
Well, just because men are more visual does not mean he has sinned if he's staring at a beautiful woman / admiring her beauty. Nothing wrong with that. He just shouldn't LUST after her while doing it. The word says if we look to lust (with someone not our spouse) we have commited adultery. It's not a predisposition to be susceptible, as you say. It's simply how God biologically created men to be. Temptation is not sin. Sin is sin, therefore do not sin. And if you abide in the Holy Spirit then you have the self control needed to overcome ALL sin. -a woman
Yes, that is my point. God would NEVER predispose His children. He would not make one gender weaker to the act of sin.There is no biological difference in how God created male and female eyesight. Therefore, men have no more reason to ogle than women do. God shows no favor between us. He loves us equally. Saying men are "visual" is giving them an excuse. No one has an excuse. It seems as if she is giving men an excuse in her lecture, and that is why I say her lecture is, in my opinion, crap.
@@AAA-mb6qk Well you obviously haven't read the book. In no way does she give a PASS to men simply because they're visual. She even mentions those like you, in the book, who assume that's where she's going, after hearing this. Us women ARE wired different, physiologically than men, this is a fact. Additionally, you're speaking of LUST. What she's saying here is that men are PREDISPOSED (yes, they are) to gaze at the beauty of women. Can you not look at an attractive woman and NOT lust? Absolutely! You're assuming she speaking of lusting, and she's not. She surveyed hundereds of men on this and they came to a consensus: when they look, it's simply an observation / does not at all mean they lack desire for their wife /GF, or that they even desire who they're glancing at. It's simply an admiration. Us women don't go through this! Get the book. Furthermore, God even gave men more of the sex hormone = testosterone. He absolutely predispositions us in many ways. But you're calling that a bad thing. God made His creation and He made it good.
@@9290SC In what way do women not admire beauty and a handsome man? If you have eyes, you can see attractive people. The problem (sin) comes if, for example, a man admires a woman's beauty in a way he would NOT admire a man's attractiveness, or a cute kitten or puppy. We all see beauty. The SIN is if you are admiring a woman as "sexy" or "hot" or attractive in any way other than how you view an attractive flower or car, etc. God commanded men not to look at women that way. He did NOT give men a certain nature and then give a commandment that they can't keep.
wow this is incredibly helpful. What a smart woman! I will check out her book for sure. I had heard a few times that men are visual creatures, but had never in my life heard of a part of the man's brain activating upon seeing an attractive woman that is not activated in a woman's brain.
So, women have to cover up to prevent male ''suffering''? That's like saying stores that sell chocolate should have shades in their windows. It isn't up to women to circumscribe their lives to adapt to men. Men have to learn to control themselves.
If not true, where do you find value as a human being? It can't possibly be found in culture because, like fashion, societal views of human worth are constantly changing. Your thoughts?
