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I have been married for 6 years and have only seen him in person twice and that was when we both had to shit and the same time and he opened the door on me. Never been happier to have our own hobbies and space ❤️ neither of us have ever looked at our kids. I only know he still lives with me because he does the dishes and I’ll sweep to let him know I still live there.
no see this is the problem with our world right now, it’s visually obvious you two are entirely infatuated with each other. you have kids woman! have some respect, leave them now. i’m certain you two will destroy the patriarchy. hope that helps edward
Drew, if you actually cared for your wife, you would divorce her, turn gay and find yourself a husband to engage more in her interest in men! Trust me, I know what I'm talking about, I've never been in a relationship.
A lot of these people hating are prob angsty teens who truly haven’t been in relationships. It’s sad. I remember being a salty teen but not like that. Damn.
This is also exactly what Twitter is like. original tweet simple as "I like oranges and bananas" Replies be like "Why do you hate grapes" "What did lemons ever do to you?"
It's fucking crazy to me that Drew is always making these videos when Amanda clearly wants him to just stop talking to his computer and come play stawdew with her
Honestly Drew, your marriage must be a nightmare. I've been with my husband for 500 years and the way we live is pretty much the only way to have a successful marriage. It works for everyone because every relationship is the same. My advice to you is to do the exact opposite of what you are currently doing. Hope this helps!
i also find it interesting that every single one of these "takes" antagonised the woman in the relationship, no matter who was "more in the wrong" according to the video.
People always put themselves in the shoes of the person Thats their gender no matter Whats actually going on so when a relationship has problems people Will automatically antagonize the opposite gender since its harder to put yourself on their shoes
You're absolutely right! I wondered if anyone else had realized this. The world has become increasingly open with its misogyny in recent years. For a while women were making good progress with feminism, and now between INCELs and Alpha Bros banding together and gaining confidence and constantly screaming on the internet, views towards women are becoming increasingly hostile. It's gotten to the point of influencing government to take us back 50 years. And unfortunately, it's not just the men who are saying negative things about women. Even the women commenting who kind of made it sound like they were against the man, we're really bashing the girl for not being smart enough to recognize his red flags or not being strong enough to leave or whatever. And the men who were being criticized were the ones who seemed too feminine. Because what's truly awful is being too much like a woman. Because again, 'we hate women' is the overall theme. There is a very scary trend towards blaming women for everything and criticizing women no matter what they do!
People advocating for these codependent relationship dynamics are in for a shock when they experience their first break up and realize their identity was 100% baked into their relationship. It’s important to be your own person 😬
WRONG. It's healthy and NORMAL to be completely dependant on your partner. This is how it SHOULD be according to nature and evolution. You have NO IDEA what your talking about.
I genuinely love people who say being a househusband for a woman is gay. Not because I agree with them, but because we've gone from "Fella's, is holding hands with another dude gay?" to "Fella's, are wearing jeans gay?" to the glorious "Fella's, is having a relationship with a woman gay?"
they really took it full circle, "we all know that the most straight thing is being in a relationship with your homies, because then you're not submissive to a woman!!"
I absolutely disagree with that oversimplification. It's like when I have discussion about something and some rando came in and just reply, "oh you both wasting time doing useless debate" Like, you need to be a really mentally challenged person to thinks that anytime there are discussion with two different opinions have convo is always assumed it's "all debate or everything its debate".
@@banifaradha7774 thats not my point at all. A lot of discussion online isn't just a regular conversation, its usually gets pretty heated or unnecessarily intense when the topic at hand is some dance moves or something. I'm also referring to the way most people comment on a video that doesn't at all call for the reaction being made. The way people think everything has to be about them or they must express anger over something that isn't harming anyone.
14:23 I once saw a tweet that was like, "You're a grown man and you still use an umbrella?!" One of the replies was, "What, getting older makes me waterproof??"
Man, Drew talked about the balance of chores being fair because he does the grocery shopping, and NOW he’s using Factor AND Hello Fresh so that he “never has to step foot in a grocery store again”? What a gross, obvious play to make Amanda take on all the responsibility in this relationship, we should all get upset about this.
My husband and I have the perfect relationship. He stays at home looking after the kids while I roam around the countryside looking for quests to complete. I haven't seen him in 2 years
my husband and I have the same relationship dynamic. I think he enjoys time away from me; I’ve been spending all my time at this tropical island as of late
Careful, you might return one day to find your husband died of a Mysterious Illness(TM) and your kids set off on a quest to find you and somehow ended up fulfilling a prophecy that marks them as the Chosen Heirs to the Great Throne and now they have to stop the Apocalypse
One time I saw Amanda and her husband eat square food. She didn't say it, but I could tell from her eyes that she had been crying and was only eating squares because it was the only way to get her husband to spend time with her. Watching Captain Planet loudly on repeat in the living room just wasn't working like it used to. This is my fanfiction. Tags: Lemon, OOC, Crossover with Inuyasha, rated G
What hurts me about this is, people can't even spread hate properly. They can't argue, they can't make a point, they can't form a sentence, and they can't accept when they are wrong.
I ABSOLUTELY disagree. She is a WOMAN and should be cooking everyday because he will be fixing the toilet in 2-3 business years. He's the toxic one and is treating one of our veterans in such a HORRIBLE manner! Don't even get me started on his defence of genocide
To quote Bo Burnham: "Um… Is it… is it necessary? Is it necessary that every single person on this planet um, expresses every single opinion that they have on every single thing that occurs all at the same time? Is that… is that necessary? Um… Or to ask in a slightly different way, um, can… can anyone shut the fuck up?"
I understand what your saying. But tell me what do you think of pasta and genocide. Do they go together. I am not asking for commentary. I am seeking philosophical insight. 😂😂
@@justsomeguy4955 why do you care? It doesn't affect you personally, just let people do what they want. It's not up to you what other people do in their personal life
@@justsomeguy4955 no, I don't agree or disagree with anything, actually. I just don't give a shit what people do. I'll care if and when it concerns me personally. Do what you want, I couldn't care less. I let important things bother me
@@Justsomegamergamingandstuff Did I say fetus? I said killing babies. I didn't say anything about abortion. Take a freaking joke and stop assuming everything is about politics
We've been married for 28 yrs. He used to go hang out with his friends & pursue hobbies in another room of our home. Then about 10 yrs ago, I chained him up in our home & forced him to spend time with me. I can say, I've never been happier. And he makes me laugh all the time with his funny jokes, 'Let me go!', 'These chains are too tight!', 'You're insane!'. I love our life ❤❤❤ The internet is right...spending every minute together makes a healthy marriage.
I’m worried for all the kids growing up on TikTok. Constantly seeing extreme hate comments is either gonna make them cruel or extremely anxious. I can’t imagine being 14 and navigating this mess
I’m 23 and the TikTok negativity even gets to me. As someone with (not under the new TikTok definition) intrusive thoughts, it’s been HORRIBLE for my self image and self esteem to constantly see people criticizing others on minor issues (if they’re even issues at all). I feel so bad for teenagers who are still developing and are seeing this constant flood of negativity.
@@LuvFearlessly its worse now honestly lmfao back then ppl used to just call others gay and fat, nowadays ppl will send a whole essay detailing why exactly they think youre gay and fat and also toxic and less than dirt
exactly. i'm 17 y/o and i feel like i've noticed this very strange "woke-ification" of bullying among people my age (both online and irl) in recent years. there's this assumption that bullying must have gotten better since it's becoming far less acceptable to body shame people and such...but bullying is still alive and well, it's just like probably worse now?? at least it used to be simple. you might get called ugly or weird or annoying or fat or something like that... but now it's like, if someone thinks you're weird or ugly or annoying or fat they're going to instead say that you "have off vibes" or "exude problematic energy" or "are giving off internalized misogyny vibes" or "seem like a bad person" etc. etc. and just make a bunch of very strange and presumptuous value judgements about you so they can publicly be an asshole while avoiding any criticism they may get for doing so.
The "In what universe is this better than living alone" comment about the stay-at-home husband is so fucking telling. These men view a partner as someone who's supposed to do things for you so your comfort of living is higher. If they don't or GOD FORBID you do something for THEM, it's not worth it - living alone is better. Holy shit.
I made my sim max out handiness and get the goddamn trait for the amount of times they broke the toilet and shower. had to make sure those bitches never broke down again.
Parallel play is a real thing, it's just existing near each other while doing your own separate things. It's a great way to hang out and spend time with a person.
the thing about angry comments is literally so true. i replied to a comment on a tiktok about people making r*pe 'jokes' and i get people defending people who say in response to the question "if time froze for an hour at your school wyd" something disgusting that heavily implies r*pe. its so fucked up
I get absolutely HUNG UP about it. Like in an anthropological way I can't stop thinking about it, I'm like "who are these people? What do their lives look like? How did their thoughts and feelings come to agree with the most insane takes ever come to man? They need to be interviewed... for science!"
the first thought i had was thank god only 5 ppl agreed, ive seen so many vicious comments and every single one of them were way more stupid than this one and it has like hundreds of thousands likes🥲
5 people is still okay. ionce saw someone being accused of grooming cuz he dated a 17 y/o while he was 18 and that comment literally had thousands of likes ;_;
DREW I AM SO GLAD YOU TALKED ABOUT THIS!! I am part of a princess program that dedicates itself to bringing joy to kids that have cancer(its called the PrincessFoundation) and literally whenever we post on tiktok the amount of hate is so confusing? Some people are like "you dont even look like Belle!" or "that child looks so ugly" to LITERAL CANCER PATIENTS who are CHILDREN. It blows my mind. Tiktok is just an ammalgomation of hate.
literally tiktok is so fucking cruel it's unbelievable. i feel really bad for the people who get posted on tiktok without their consent only to have their looks attacked mercilessly. it's such a cesspool
I remember some girl posting about her experience being SAed on TikTok and all the comments were calling her ugly and saying she must be lying because no one would want to SA her. It's terrible. I hope the people posting these sorts of comments are young teenagers who will eventually grow out of it, because the thoughts of adults sitting behind the screen doing this is vile.
On the side of people trying to tell you how to parent, not posting about your kid online will not save you. You can be hanging with your kid at a park and you will have random ass people come up to you and try to tell you how to parent. I can't tell you how many times I had someone go out of their way to give me, a stranger to them, parenting "advice". AND I'M NOT EVEN A PARENT! My sibling and I are 10 years apart, so I often took them out to play when they were young.
just to preface, i'm not in a relationship, so i may not know what i'm even talking about.... but like what if they both hate the same chore the same amount? does it boil down to "who's the bigger person"? xD
@@TheMindofagenius1 I mean that's kinda the point of the video! Solutions range between anything that ends up working best for them both, whether that's like- "I do a chore we both hate and you do another chore we both hate", or the one who hates it less does the chore, or they randomize it, or they have somebody that they both agree does less overall to do it, or hire somebody, or find some way to eliminate the chore entirely- solutions would range based on what you *can* do for the chore and what sustainably works for you both. ... assuming they find a solution that works lmao, it could also end up becoming an eternal point of contention, but the point is kinda minimizing the amount of time of contention or the minimizing the contention itself.
@@bardofvoid174 see, that's what I think would "ideally" happen, but the more I live on this earth and between "humans", the more I see shit that just SHOULDN'T "ideally" be happening, so I try to not place any kind of expectations or theories anymore, especially when it comes to relationships in particular =P
I love the moment when he assumes that people commenting on how to have a healthy relationship on TikTok have actually been in a relationship before, very kind of him honestly
@@jotunn30 I thought the same, but sometimes people are projecting just the idea of what a perfect relationship for them would be, not whay they really have been through
If you're sad when you see happy relationships, you're just lonely and being reminded of that makes you sad. That's normal. Just don't lash out at people and pretend they're doing something wrong.
@@leobe2104agreed as long as it’s not showing me women who have the “perfect body” cuz man that shit gets me and send me to my own little rabbit hole and then I start to starve myself once again 😫
I recently saw a cute, lighthearted tiktok by a single mom, basically joking about how she thought she would have no dating prospects since she's 31 with 3 kids, but ever since she started posting her life on social media, she gets a bunch of DM's and comments from guys in their 20s who are super into her, calling her a MILF, etc. To be clear, this woman was not bragging or acting arrogant, she was just making a funny observation about something in her life that she found ironic. I thought this was completely harmless, but apparently not, because the comment section was FLOODED with men viciously trying to tear her down, saying that single mothers are low-value women, damaged goods, etc., and insisting that any younger man who shows an interest in her was just trying to "hit it and quit it," not have a real relationship. Bruh I was shocked. She was just minding her own business, lip-syncing to a silly song, and making content about her life that other single moms might find relatable. But NOPE, the manly man man brigade had to show up and make it clear how much they hate women. Fucking disgusting behavior, honestly.
I always go to the comment section and laugh at people who are either clearly bots or are 14yos whose concept of a relationship comes from the curated content on RU-vid or TikTok.
I gotta say that's not the internet's fault, people have always wanted to give you unsolicited advice about your relationship and kids even if they've never been in a relationship or had kids or are too old to remember how many mistakes they made. The internet is just giving people more opportunity to do it and the likes they get encourages it
I hope you have millions of teenagers who watch your videos, because you are a net positive for impressionable people on the Internet (as well as a few other commentary video makers like Chad Chad, or Jarvis Johnson)
I hope he DOESNT have millions of viewers because he's CLEARLY in an unhealthy relationship with Amanda. They need to get divorced cos he's abusive to one of our veterans. Don't even get me started on his defence of genocide
Normalize just enjoying someone's presence tbh. All my closest relationships (platonic ones too) include hanging out doing completely seperate things but like together.
Drew: Amanda does more cleaning and dishes, but that's because I cook and do grocery shopping! Also Drew: Thanks to Factor and Hello Fresh, I never have to cook or go grocery shopping!
I've really notice in the last few years instagram comments have become really unhinged. Not only are people generally insufferable but there's so many trolls, bots, ragebaiting..it's kinda crazy
@@GippyHappy what do you mean thats top tier comedy im tempted to write to the head of any psycology department at my college to cement it as the perfect example of projection and insecurities. the layers. the drama. the completely made up narrative clearly reflecting their own experience. its pure art
Big props to Drew for acknowledging the fact that "men's chores" have to be done like once every six months at soonest, but when women don't want to cook and do the dishes every single day for their entire lives, they're lazy and entitled. Fucking insane line of thought.
You'll never convince me Tik Tok isn't the worst social media platform. It is quite possibly the single best place to go get misinformed on a topic of your choosing, someone who read the first paragraph of a Wikipedia article will be happy to educate you
exactly! people who are cronically online seem to see the bad side of everything. There's always something to be mad about, and its not like "hm i disagree" it always scalates to something like human rights lol
I cannot express how happy I am to see SOMEONE make a video on how angry the world/internet has become. being online sometimes makes me feel ill for how much hate and toxicity is out there. everyone is so angry and it’s exhausting:(
The last time I went on Facebook (it's been years now) I had some sort of panic attack/break down (?) because it was like horrible thing after horrible thing and then there was this post about a missing 15 year old and all the comments were just people bitching about how the missing kid had a tattoo and what kind of parents let their child get a tattoo. I couldn't believe that was the problem and not the fact that this kid was missing! Anyway I haven't logged on since.
One time i really just cried out of frustration because the comments wouldn't get the video at all. It's incredibly sad, just makes me want to log off.
I used to have insta and a very very regular presence there, and then i logged off. Deleted my account. I was going insane. It felt really empty at first but then i realised just how much i can achieve with the time i now didn't spend scrolling through mind numbing reels that i forget within a second. I started reading so many more books and watching RU-vid because even this community is better than insta and one can only watch so much of it. Best decision I ever made
I gave up social media, except for RU-vid obviously lol, about 4 months ago. Not only has my depression and anxiety gotten way better, I have a more optimistic view of life. It took a week to get used to not looking at my phone all the time, but now I have *remind myself* to look at my phone! 😊 I will never give up my RU-vid, or my Pinterest - but getting off of Facebook, Instagram, Reddit and even Bored Panda has been awesome. I'm more social in real life and I like people again 😂 highly recommend!
I feel like people who nitpick, micromanage, criticize and psychoanalyze everything about your relationship are the ones who have never been in a relationship LOL
Not necessarily. I imagine projection about their own feelings about their own relationship and all its imperfections or their individual insecurities and unfulfilled desires within the relationship could probably factor in, too, lol.
People online have gotten waaaay too comfortable making wildly negative assumptions about relationships they’ve only seen a 15 second snippet of on TikTok
What's crazy is that even in a long-distance relationship, my man and I will face time and do different things. He'll play games on his phone, and I'll be reading. It's still quality time.
The amount of people who get super pissy because you as an individual has decided to not have children is absolutely insane, and they're always so vile about it.
I find it weird how defensive people get over that. I have a step kid and I won't recommend it for everyone since it can be a lot of work and hoping you didn't accidentally scar them for life
@@stardusst my parents have pretty directly stated that to me and it seeded some pretty hardcore resentment in me. Kind of seems like a fast track to making that not happen, but parents take their kids' love for granted when all they did to "earn" it was the bare minimum required of them by law
It’s true and just as insane for the opposite too. I’ve seen commenters absolutely RIP into people who announce they are pregnant or trying for kids etc. The dichotomy is crazy. People need to chill and worry about their own lives instead of criticizing others lives. In all honesty, it just seems like a LOT of insane projecting is going on everywhere over everything. What a world.
My wife and I have the perfect relationship. She stays home coming up with uncreasingly elaborate tasks to keep busy the swarm of suitors awaiting news of my demise, while I tie myself and my men to the undersides of sheep to evade the cyclops I've blinded.
i will find a IG reel of literally any animal doing anything, like a puppy is being booped or something and the first comment is *always" someone screaming ABUSE
Man if I ever became a therapist I'd ask every patient to bring me their social media comment history. So much of this screams projection that I wouldn't even have to ask them any questions.
One common denominator in almost ALL of these videos and comments is that the hate is primarily directed towards the women in the relationship no matter what the situation is.
Yeah sometime in the last 5 years or so, the internet has basically become the HQ for men/boys who hate themselves and project it onto women. Between that, the neurological, social, and societal damage of social media (including yt), and the fact that search engines barely even work anymore; mainly just work as a promotional platform for the highest bidder and generic pop blog websites… Between all that.. the internet is mostly just a useless sh*thole now.
And that they push the responsibility to make him comfortable instead of a single comment saying that he should've stopped gaming to watch a movie with her (this is not my view, if he wants to game, game away) yet they were all saying she shouldn't hate on him for her suggesting (which I don't even think the video was about) they spend more time doing stuff together they never think that she's the one that needs the comfort or additional love but push for the husband to be the victim (there are no victims)
i posted a tiktok of my mother like 2 years ago and someone literally said “that’s not your mom” ALL BECAUSE SHES POC AND IM WHITE PASSING. i’ll never not be flabbergasted by some of the people on the internet. like what do you mean that’s not my mom😭 yes she is!😊
people are hilarious 😭 like what do you mean “that’s not your mom” as if you didn’t live with her for years, probably popped out of her, etc. like yeah, the stranger knows way better than you about your own family
I kept finding funny or witty instagram posts by women, and go to the comment section to see if others think it was also really funny and yeah, it’s a bloodbath in there every time. 90% of the comments are men going „This is the problem with all Women!“.
It genuinely feels like being part of some mass hysteria. I’ve admittedly caught myself a few times caring wayyy too much about someone’s opinion or lifestyle on the internet, and I think it’s just because social media has been training us for outrage. I pretty much deleted Tiktok once I realized what it was doing to me, and all my other social media I use pretty sparingly. but I LOVE the internet, it’s just too bad that it literally drives me crazy.
Nearly all people are normal. Crazy just dominates online conversations, because it makes regular people so exasperated they stop replying. That makes it seem as though the tiny, tiny little fraction of really loud cases are the only ones out there. They're not. Also, make no mistake: this sort of thing gets heavily co-opted by fringe interest groups and authoritarian governments to stoke unrest. As trite as it may sound at this point; social media is one of the greatest threats to societal cohesion now. It's an entirely new issue in human history that we have to overcome.
luckily i uninstalled tiktok immediately after it showed fake badge notifs. everyone i see who uses it for more than cute animal vids seems to be going insane bc of it
Same here! Going on the internet used to be fun but now, it's an amphitheatre of people projecting their opinions left and right. And the saddest part is, I catch myself looking at comments to feed off of that negativity too often. I have since deleted Tiktok and took measures to limit my social media usage.
These are the rules of the internet: Every reddit AITA post must receive comments seriously telling OP to sue the other party, and every tiktok relationship post must receive comments seriously telling the poster to divorce their partner.
I saw an aita post where people in the comments were telling op to literally cut his mother off over her *almost* spreading unkind gossip. just a total disconnect from what relationships are like irl while acting like they know everyone's relationship and motivations from one post
I feel like it’s gotten even worse as of late. Every time I see a cute post with a couple, the comments are filled with jokes about people wanting to kill themselves??? It’s fucking insane and I can only imagine how shitty the poster feels seeing all of that :(
I think one of the meanest yet most brutally honest and eye opening insults I’ve ever heard that just sums up these entitled people’s behavior is “When you die, they are going to bury your laptop”
the whole “well he doesn’t like doing the dishes either” is such a weird point because like,,, maybe he does? like my boyfriend loves cleaning cause it calms him, but i can’t stand doing it, so obviously he’s gonna be the one doing the cleaning it’s just such a weird thing to assume lmao
😂 this is what I was thinking! My husband **hates** cooking, and I love it, so it doesn't feel like a "trade" to us, but people make wild assumptions about me "having to cook all the time" and asking us "how do you balance it out?". Chill, guys. We're happily married just doing our thing omg.
Your takes are always on point. The Internet is full of unhinged people who thrive on argument. I used to debate people on RU-vid after they showed up to argue about the most unnecessary things and I had to stop and switch accounts. I would say innocent things and have weirdos come out of nowhere to project whatever they had going on. It's wild.
If you can't fathom having alone time while being married you are for sure the type of person to constantly complain about being married but refuse to get a divorce
@@Tiernan422 yeah I think a lot of people kind of skipped over the whole ‘learning how to enjoy your own company’ thing and that’s really bad. I know a lot of adults who are so scared of being on their own they move from one bad relationship to the next, it literally ruins their lives. People who try to hand wave that away or act like because they lucked out and found someone good that it doesn’t apply to them are foolish. They may end up suffering when their partner dies or leaves them. You never know what can happen, it’s important to like ourselves enough we can be on our own and be ok. Maybe we’d prefer a partner but we’re not miserable and lost without one.
This was actually so refreshing and relieving to listen to, the internet lately has been so tiring, and I’m glad Drew gave his take on the whole angry comment section phenomena that’s become so normal
I was going to do my undergrad thesis on this phenomenon and intentional misinterpretation to spark a negative dialogue, but wasn’t able to find research specific enough to coherently write about it. It’s such a weird mindset, and one I’ve actively had to correct myself on sometimes due to the volatile environment social media has.
i think tiktok as a whole have ruined comment sections. toxicity is almost encouraged in comment sections there, n when reels became bigger, that same toxicity followed
“It’s better to find eternal meaning through your children than temporary happiness thru a game. But you do you.” LOL the saltiness and jealousy just exuding from this phrase is insane. Like ok bro, you had kids and I didn’t, can we let ppl be happy? Go enjoy your eternal meaning with your children lmfaoo. One of the comments at 12:56.
My wife and I don't even have any kids and we often do our own separate stuff in the evening. We've been together 10 years our relationship is stronger than ever. Most people need their own personal time.
I'm autistic and parallel play (both doing things we love next to each other) is very meaningful. It's frustrating when people assume we're ignoring each other or our relationship is not healthy just because it differs from theirs
Neither me or my partner are Autistic but we have adopted Parallel play as one of our ways of spending time together- it works really well. We get to feel like we are together but can both do our own things
Just out of curiosity, why was is important to know you are autistic? Couldn’t parallel play be enjoyable in a non-autistic relationship? Curious what the difference is.
saw a girl crying bc she was going to miss a taylor swift concert bc she needed surgery and how she was tired of her illness taking things away from her. people were laughing at her in the comments and asking why she would even think ab going to a taylor swift concert over her surgery.. even though she wasn’t choosing it. she explained why she was sad yet no one had any sort of empathy or want to understand why
Imagine you’ve wanted to go to a concert for years, maybe even since you were a kid, and you have to miss it because you need surgery and people make fun of you for feeling disappointed. Jesus.
When you have a surgery so you can’t do something that you’ve been wishing for, AND THEN PEOPLE LAUGH AT YOU? Poor girl, I hope she recovers fast from the surgery and she gets to go to her dream concert soon…
I felt that "you're not in the relationship", because my friends started to talk in tiktok comment language that I dont care about my friends but rather take the time to listen to my gf. Its ridiculous. Great video 👍🏼
reminds me of people's reactions when I mention that my partner and I have separate bedrooms. I shouldn't have to defend what works for our relationship but I constantly feel like I have to. Same as when I have to defend our choice to be childless. People cannot wrap their head around the fact that just because you can't imagine yourself doing something doesn't mean it isn't valid.
Sometimes I need to sleep in a separate bed from my boyfriend, it can get uncomfortable sometimes and cramped. It’s totally normal, even if it’s every night.
yep I saw videos about this too where people argued against that idea and figured you might as well get divorced if you don’t want to sweat and snore in the same bed every night as your partner.
Ik! I told my mom recently that I didn't want to have kids or get married and she was so angry. Even all through hs and college, I never dated and people thought it was weird and began speculating and spreading rumours. Why can't I just be single. I'm happy being alone I'm sorry you aren't 🤷
I'm so glad someone finally touched on the "everyone with a Greek/Roman statue pfp has the shittest takes of all time" trope. Also count on them getting needlessly aggressive and overusing the word "degenerate" without a shred of self-awareness or personal reflection to be found.
i swear Instagram was purposely recommending so many reels that induced the most anger, distaste and hatred i had to uninstall the app and just not participate in this bs
If you look at Bim bim in the background it's OBVIOUS that she's being underfed, neglected, spit at, screamed at, and they probably call her bad names too. ABSOLUTELY SICKENING.
I am one hundred percent certain that the reason he doesn't blink is to secretly try to tell us how unhappy he is in his relationship. I didn't even need to watch that part of the video to know that he should leave everything he has and get out of that toxic relationship (unlike mine). People like him who just accept the abuse and don't do anything about it make me scik
Loved the rant about the state of modern social media apps in the end. Algorithms are designed to make you pissed, because getting you pissed increases engagement. There is a way to not be exposed to this anymore btw - use apps without algorithmic sorting, like apps were in the old days. I recently moved to Mastodon from Twitter and boy, am I a lot happier than before. Just ... posts by my friends or people I actually follow, sorted by time. I love it. I hope we’ll have similar replacements for Instagram and Tiktok and stuff at some point. This algorithmic shit is not the way and it’s actively damaging humanity if you ask me.
your points about how having space in a relationship is important really stuck with me. for the past few years a partner and one “friend” i had were manipulative, guilt tripping me into ditching my closest friends and family to prioritize them, at some points even threatening me that they would hurt themselves or worse if i didn’t. when i first watched this video my mental health was at an all time low, and now that i’m here again, i’m glad to say it’s been a lot better and i cut off every red flag in my life. it’s weird for a random viewer to open up like this but i guess i just wanted to say thank you.
I wished you would’ve talked about the lady who said she likes to drink coffee with her husband in the morning… Everyone was in an uproar. People were talking about their chronic illness and how she shouldn’t post cause THEY are sick, that the lady is lazy and doesn’t have a job, etc.
I fucking remember that. The fact that all she made was a video that was appreciative of the fact that she can spend time with her spouse and so many people took it as a personal attack.
omg and that one video of the girl talking about something nice her mum did for her and how much she loved her mum and this other girl stitched her video talking about how her mum was abusive and could never relate. the comments were full of ppl saying things like 'i love talking about my traumatic childhood to people who have a good relationship with their parents to make them uncomfortable' like wtf
I’m sorry what? This needs to be studied. Like why in the world would be people freak out about a couple drinking coffee together. We need some kind of international study to understand this phenomenon cause I feel like there a ton to unpack.
@@carmie3908 I have no idea how people can be so publicly awful. they're literally just admitting to people all over the world that they're a piece of shit. I see it so often in tiktok comments
@@quandaredevil its so insane. someone shows an ounce of happiness and people call them priviledged and out of touch because “if IM not happy you shouldnt be” 🙄
Random ass question but is the cat in your pfp internet famous? I got a website pulled up in another tab and it's icon is the same cat picture just edited a bit.
@@karkatvantass3730 That's my Maggie, a fave rescue cat of mine. Maggie passed away about 7 years ago now. She wasn't famous (as far as I know), but tuxedo cats are fairly popular.
SO TRUE the comment could be sumn like " i love sunflowers" and the latest reply could be from a thread that says " and thats why racism still exists " or sumn sh
I know right. Those kinds of people who keep score like each chore/errand they do is a point on the scoreboard are wild. It has to be impossible to have a healthy relationship when you are treating your partner like an opposing team in a sporting event.
@@dinosaur___7209 id say the obsession w 50/50 actually helps perpetrate that. women being pressured to split all bills etc 50/50 w their man when also doing more emotional n domestic labour , ie the things that aren’t considered “work”. that’s the issue w the whole 50/50 model, things aren’t weighted fairly n even those who claim to be truly 50/50 rarely are.
@@Anna-zt3jc this makes a lot of sense. I heard a podcast that spoke about the emotional labour women carried for all their physical labour. The woman in the podcast said she let her husband do every single housechores without asking for help so he understands the burden, and it worked, because her husband listened and cared for her and go make things right. I'd say that having problems is normal, so the best thing you can do is choose a partner who DOES the work on meeting you all the way!
Exactly!! I hate it. I hope this trend dies off soon. Relationships are NOT cold transactions, especially when it’s between a masculine man and a feminine woman who love each other and are in a natural union. The 50/50 is thoroughly exhausting snd depleting for the woman, because us women already have SO MUCH MORE responsibilities than men that they have zero clue about and will never need to do, so adding the stress of bill on that means that the woman is with a roommate, not a a real husband or man.
look drew, so what if i am shitting grenades. My bowels are like a gun barrel coated with a thick layer of gunpowder. Upon pinching off the pin is pulled and the gunpowder ignights. Blowing the eardrums off everyone within a 3 room radius. The Toilet is now clogged. I am cleaning my own turd off the shower curtain. My shit was indeed, a grenade.
