Tiktok's Fear Of Aging 

Visit mistplay.com/nikki & use my code NIKKI50 inside the app to get 50 extra points at signup!

people on instagram when they discover that everyone looks different and everyones skin acts and ages differently 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬😭😭😭😭😭🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺

So annoying ppl say to wear sunscreen to avoid wrinkles how about we wear sunscreen to avoid skin cancer 💀

we’ve been taught “all women are beautiful,” but what they should say is “all women are deserving of respect.” but beauty = respectability

we need to stop worrying about aging and START worrying about freddy fazbear and foxy and chica and bonnie and golden freddy

Aging is always gonna be a privilege, not a lot of people get to age. It’s sad we have to hide it.

Women not supporting women will always make me sad. People age and people age differently and its ok

Literally how do people not realize they are just being mean as hell. Like, why do people need to be like ''They're pretty, but I'm 30 and I'm literally immortal'' Like stop being so insecure that you ignore that your being a big ol meany

I had to get off of TikTok. People are so hateful to kids for no reason and just hateful in general. It's really upsetting.

Worse than people equating age with ugliness is them equating aging and therefore "ugliness" with some kind of moral failure? Like as if you are a bad person because you have wrinkles. It's baffling.

Embracing the fear of aging is the ultimate rebellion against time's tyranny, where wisdom becomes our weapon (for some of us); and every wrinkle tells a story of resilience and growth.

that first girl, the 28 year old, is literally showing proof of happiness. shes lived happily in the sun and smiled a TON!! i WANT crows feet and smile lines, they show i lived happily!!! why would i want my face to be an empty notebook????

I went to tour a cosmo school yesterday & the admission director says to me “I never would’ve guessed you were 24! You’re aging so gracefully!” And I was baffled. What do people think 24 year olds look like??

I also agree with your take on “why is ugly the worst thing”. I have never found myself pretty, to the point where I didn’t want to live. I would beg people just to say it’s okay to be ugly, BECAUSE THAT WAS WHAT I NEEDED TO HEAR, but they would just say “BUT YOU ARE PRETTY!” And I would spiral worse.

instagram comments are really a WHOLE other level of bitterness, i have to constantly close that app when I get too upset at how people are out here being so negative

“you don’t wear enough sunscreen” is the new pick me thing to say i stg skincare pick mes

This anti aging stuff seems like looksmaxxing but instead of for insecure young men or teenage boys it’s for insecure millennial or gen z women😭

“a lot of us see other women through the eyes of a man first and then we see them through our own eyes” holy fuck dude. you just changed my life this is so true

I've had a lady tell me I looked younger for my age (I was 22-23 at the time) and that it was a good thing... I've never felt more offended in my life 😭I feel like women aren't allowed to just exist without intense societal scrutiny like we have to be a certain way or we're "undesirable" because god forbid if people don't find women attractive 🤮🤮🤮 I've accepted that I want to age and when I'm even older I want to LOOK like my age, wrinkles and all, with long grey hair down to my ass. Let me be an old hag in peace please 🙏

"people are like flowers, no flower looks the same as the other ,some are soft some are wrinkled some have thorns some have smooth stems, some are striped some have marks and freckles ,flowers are beautiful and different people like different flowers, every flower need different conditions to thrive." I'm not that good at writing shit so I hope that makes sense.

Theres something so insecure about having to be like "well I dont look like that" like you might as well just say "I'm prettyer than her right? Someone please tell me I'm prettyer than her"

i'm a 15 year old girl. i've got acne and acne scars and a few wrinkles. i've got no problem with this personally (i prefer to look more masculine and i think all that adds to that effect) but some people out there wanna treat me damn near inhuman because of how i look. it's weird and scary. why do you care what i look like? i'm happy, i'm healthy, let me live my life.

this is actually so scary. people are obsessed with looks, plastic surgeries, edited & photoshopped pics on instagram and at this point people are starting to forget what humans look like....

Ngl, we’re masters of the compliment with a side of unnecessary shade. “You look so good… for your age.” “She looks great… but I’m 15 years older than her and I don’t have any wrinkles.”

The surprising part isn’t the misogyny on the internet because that is a CONSTANT but the way it has evolved is soooo upsetting. It’s brain rot. Thanks for another amazing video Nikki knowing there’s funny sane people like you out there makes me less scared of everything

I’m 21 and I’ve had forehead wrinkles for years. Literally who gives a shit

i always found aging to be so beautiful and it's really upsetting because no one in my personal life really sees it . i love the aspect of just living long enough to experience life and have so many stories to tell and it's shown through your wrinkles . how mature and wise it makes you look . it's like scars but it's done naturally

Aging is so important to me because so many girls, women, afab people never got to age throughout history. From femicide, childbirth, to just dying young... So many people never got the chance to grow up, experience the wrinkles and sunspots and discoloration. I WANT to experience it.

The irony of getting a youth serum advertised to me on this video 💀

"spent too much time in the sun" like oh no maybe she likes to have fun or something 😂 crazy idea ik

being 19, I really feel like already dying, because so many teens make it feel like being over 18 is a death sentence. i dont mind aging, but I does feel like you are casted away from society as soon as you are not "useful" to older men. my wish is to be able to be myself until my last days, without having to worry if im "too old" or "too young". ive been told that im mature for my age, which is meh, but it doesn't make me happy (which it shouldn't but anyways). thank you for the last part of the video, where you showed your true self, i really relate to it. being "average" is what truly makes us human (you are very pretty and very funny!!)

I assume everyone is 28. It is a good age. Old enough to be responsible. Young enough to be irresponsible also. Then you hit 65 and are no longer 28.

Stress ages people prematurely. I’ve lived through the Y2K scare, 9/11, the Great Recession, regular trials and tribulations, and the pandemic. It’s surprising that people think we’re aging better than the next generation

body dysmorphia really is something else; i know i have it too and i look at you and say “how can you not see how absolutely beautiful you are?” like I haven’t had that same conversation with my friends before smh even if you’re aware there’s no escaping

Aging is a privilege. It is so heartbreaking that we view signs of aging to be "ugly" & "undesirable". Nikki is right about the problems with filters & the toxic beauty industry warping the concept of beauty & aging.

I turned 34 a month ago and I spend way way way too much time thinking about my "faded beauty" to the point that it genuinely depresses me. I wish I didn't have these thoughts in my head! Every time I look in the mirror I feel so sad and all I can think is "I've gotten so old and ugly." This type of thinking really rots women's brains. It's horrifying to me to see teenagers already feeling this way...

the green hair + orange eyeshadow combo is serving oompa loompa realness... were you involved with the glasgow wonka experience perchance

nikki doesn't realise how impactful and positive her videos are. i hope she never stops making these videos. i love you nikki :)

"The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time." - Mark Twain I think it all is just the fear of death behind this hate

I’m 40 and this obsession with everyone wanting to look 20 for the rest of their lives is a turnoff to me. It actually makes me want to embrace aging, I have no desire to be like these people, There’s a lot more things I’d rather enjoy than spending hours and hours a week and a lot of money to try to cling to my youth. I have friends who spend $500 every few months on Botox. No thanks I’ll use that 2k a year to go on vacation.

“Gertrude, thank you for the ten shillings” absolutely took me OUT queen 😭

Young people don’t realize that a lot of us in our 20s didn’t grow up in a world where wearing sunscreen on your face was drilled into our heads. Quite the opposite. In the early 2000s people wanted to be tan. Even when I was a teen in the later 2010s a lot of people still wanted to be tan. I grew up being told the sun is good for you and it’s good to get some sun on your skin. So these 13 year olds calling her a bad person for not wearing spf are just plain ignorant and loud.

I don’t know how any parent is ok that their 9 year old child wants to have a whole skin care routine…like…how could you not question as to WHY your child wants this and WHERE they are getting this idea from?? Why would you not tell your child “you do not need anti-aging skincare, you are beautiful the way you are”??? We literally see everything age around us, so why do we think that we shouldn’t also age?

TikTok gave me an eating disorder and made me use retinol at 19 years old. Almost a year off tiktok now, happily pregnant and embracing my changing body at 21 years old. Not bothered about anti ageing products either. Ageing is a privilege not all get to experience.

do people not realize that majority of kids are not even capable to have acne or any skin "flaws" (including acne scars, acne in general, wrinkles), because they (majority of them) have not gone through puberty....so companies and people promoting use of skincare and makeup to reduce the aging process is...interesting

Retinol already exists for some while, there are people who've used it and sunscreen for about 30 years and they look their age. Sure, they look like they take good care of their skin, but they look their age and that's not bad. I've literally never seen a 70 years old looking like a 40-50 years old, let alone still in their 20s. It's literally ridiculous!

Gen.z. isn't all aging quickly, but there is definitely a rise in steroid use, vaping, and extremely unhealthy diets and "micro-plastic surgery" with gen.z. like I do think people are taking this whole thing way too far, but I think there will definitely be a rapid aging in the body as well if we don't push back on these toxic trends that have become normalized. Like buccal fat removal and botox touch ups. I feel like people's faces might fall off at 50 years old tbh, like eventually people will start getting skinnier bones implanted or something.

I Genuinely feel bad for people who just want to use TikTok for entertainment and are exposed to this shit daily.

seeing people equate aging to being ugly reminds me of how a lot of people perceive weight as well. i was told as a kid “you’re not fat, you’re pretty” as if someone can’t be bigger and pretty as well. personally, i’m excited to age though because it will mean i managed to live a full life

that first woman especially was sooooo pretty. I am 22 and literally have the same amount of “wrinkles” as this 28 year old. She just has dark circles and crows feet? which are super normal and honestly not due to age? but all of this aside so many people are incapable of grasping that other people experience life differently and have different bodies???

it's terrifying how comfortable people are with just, harassing people over their appearance, the last thing I ever wanna do is hurt people's feelings wth 😭

People forget that the way they dress and hold themself can make them seem mature and with that older. It can literally be meant as a compliment

no bc this is actually crazy. IG/tiktok users NEED to go outside more, in a VERY literal sense💀sun screen is not the fountain of youth and PPL AGE THROUGH VARIOUS WAYS-- they need to stop obsessing over smooth skin (as well as every other made up insecurity) as if that's the entirety of our value... pls go outside and learn that ppl are not perfect, nor are we suppose to be 💀

I have a connective tissue disease that causes my skin to have excessive elasticity and smoothness, giving me a literal "baby face" at 22... But it also causes my limbs to constantly pop in and out of their sockets, muscles to tear off the bone at random times if I'm not excessively cautious, as well as organ and blood dysfunction 24/7. It scares the shit out of me that there's so many people who, despite how DEBILITATING the disease is, have casually mentioned in person that they "wish they had it" because of how it affects my skin. They'd be willing to live a life of literal constant agony, being in and out of different mobility aides, and monthly doctor's visits just for some shiny skin that doesn't even work properly???? It both breaks my heart and absolutely BAFFLES me that our society is still so rooted in appearance-based measurements of worthiness, I feel like I need to start workshopping asap how to teach my future kiddos to address this in a healthy way because it's incredibly sad to witness. For reference, I am not a woman, but I was raised as one for about 18 years of my life, so I'm very familiar with the wild expectations and standards set (BY MEN MIGHT I ADD) for folks who exist within the femme areas of gender expression.

Perfect timing. I'm turning 36 in March and have been feeling really down about my looks. I don't even go on tiktok or Instagram, just feelin ugly. This video smacked some sense into me

The way people are so terrified of aging is just exhausting and dismaying because they’re only amplifying it. We have grown adults attacking each other for visibly aging differently and preteens having meltdowns about needing anti-aging products for wrinkles they do not have and won’t have for years because they’re hearing all this garbage. If we’re expecting to live long, we’re not going to look like we’re in our 20’s forever.

This video really covered the whole wide range of gendered ageism. Thank you for speaking about your personal experience because that is so important as well. Also when you talked about how women see eachother and themselves first how a MAN would see them...LITERALLY SO TRUE even I have done it and it was weird because when i was younger (a teen) it wasnt as prevelant, maybe because ive always identified as nonbinary, but now even as an almost 23 year old i find myself unpacking A LOT of internalized misogyny and we all really need to keep ourselves and eachother accountable for that. Ageism is just another thing we have to keep in check. Lets keep doing the work, yall!

Growing up, my sister made me terrified of raising my eyebrows, telling me that I would get wrinkles even now. If I notice myself raising my eyebrows, I get mad at myself then get mad that I got mad.

The attractiveness of a person comes from the acceptance of who they are. To love yourself is sexy af

My take on this is that every generation has been scared of aging but you overcome it by aging itself; the problem is that online communities provide unavoidable echo chambers no matter your opinion and the problem gets amplified

The thing is even if someone does everything to not age, they can still age bc early or late aging is really connected to genetics in general. Some people get white hair when they are 25 or not even get white hairs when they are 55...

I WAS JUST COMING TO REWATCH THE SHREK BOOK VIDEO??? THIS IS MY LUCKY DAY 🗣️🗣️🗣️

I literally got an ad about hair dye to make you look younger 😭

Oh man...my body dysmorphia started young. My eating habits started being criticized by 8 and at 10 my grandmother put me on a Slimfast diet one summer. I was forced to run laps around our backyard or jump on the trampoline a certain amount of time. I had a keep a food diary and keep a count of the calories for everything else I ate in the day and I couldn't go over a certain number. Even when I got down to 100 pounds, I was still so affectionately called "thunder thighs" and as a 40 year old woman, I can't wear shorts or bathing suits in public.

For like 40 whole seconds I got to feel like completely normal 26 and not doing everything I can to min-max skin care. Thank you for taking the time to let that woman know she is beautiful.

It is a common misconception that a single product can reverse the aging process. However, aging is a natural process that cannot be stopped. That being said, one can still feel youthful at any age. I personally had to take a break from social media to avoid getting caught up in unrealistic beauty standards.

people are disgustingly superficial.

I'm currently a senior in high school and for one my classes doing a project on gendered ageism, just wanted to say I found this video really insightful and it sparked some new ideas for my work. I've noticed I usually learn something new from Nikki's videos especially this one and your Lolita/Age gaps one. You're super funny Nikki, Love ya!

This is so crazy to me, because I know this one girl who is 18 years old, and she was already talking abt fearing aging. And she was advertizing an anti aging product. She is barely even an adult doing all that. Why is this such a thing?

the whole “aging is bad don’t age” thing pisses me off so much. i have a lot of chronic illnesses and mental problems that shorten my lifespan largely. i’ll be lucky if i make it to 50/60 at all, i don’t care if i look “aged” by then as long as im alive

Its sad that we live in a society where we are torn between growing up too fast yet trying to keep pur bodies young forever

SHE'S BACK WITH THE BIGGY BANGERS WITH A BIGGY BAG OF JUICY CONTENT!!

Dude I love your content like this way that people have been terrified of aging is honestly just sad like wrinkles show that you’re getting older which isn’t a bad thing, if anything I find it beautiful because that means your body is showing that you are living. Not many people get to grow old, I almost committed soduku when I was 12 and I appreciate every day that I can that I am still alive. I enjoy knowing that I’m trying to make my life in to something I can look back on with smile (while not worrying about how my emotions may cause wrinkles 💀)

my (at the time) 13 year old friend was scared of SMILING because it would cause smile lines...

This idea of aging is wild; the other day I had to show a security person my ID because they thought I was 13... I'm 18...💀and then they said, "Wow, you look great for 18; good genetics." (They were dead serious.) Like, sir, when has 18 ever been a "bad" age? Also, it's clearly not a good thing to look 13 (when you're not). Like you are saying, I look like a prepubescent child, not a fully grown woman. And what scares me is that these days, people on TikTok would take a situation like this as a compliment.💀

a few years ago, someone said to me that scars and wrinkles are beautiful because it shows that a body is well lived in and experienced lots of things

okay the “you’re welcome” bit actually made me cackle

As a teen with anorexia who struggles with body image, this video reminded me try to ignore all of the noise and chaos of social media. I appreciate you sharing you're own struggles with body dysmorphia too. To anyone out there, it is difficult but we will get through it :)

It’s honestly really sad that all these women with jobs and families are bullying teenagers and college students online. I can’t even imagine how bad it will be for the children of these same people

This is so informative, especially to a guy who has recently realized my lil ceraVe products were not nearly as [relatively] expensive as i thought

I’ve been thinking about this a lot how people seem to view people as worthy only if they’re “pretty”. Like obviously that’s always existed but a lot more in the past years. It’s great to see someone else sharing these feelings 😭

I’m 23 and every time I find a grey/white hair (I have vitiligo so it’s hard to tell what’s what, and I’m clearly part of the problem cos why do I need to qualify this?), I hate how self conscious it makes me. Aging is a privilege. Having enough nutrition and comfort and money to survive is not accessible to so many people around the world. I should be happy to know I’m allowed to age.

As women why are we critiquing on other woman like this…

I deleted tik tok last month and I have genuinely felt an increased sense of confidence and lessened anxiety. I think it’s really hard to use the app and not addicted to it, or to not get swayed by the bombardement of trends.

Nikki thank you for this. It's sad to see so many people in fear of aging, and so quick to judge and criticize one another. Aging is a privilege. Everyone who is born gets to be young, but not everyone gets the chance to grow old

I was so disturbed when I saw those comments, I honestly couldn’t believe people actually think this way

the reasoning behind it is because the emphasis on beauty culture. When we were growing up we were essentially ALLOWED to be young look young act like kids etc, gen z and alpha really aren't given that space anymore. Like if you as a 15 year old dont look a certain way you're getting roasted, and its crazy. Like little girls saying "youre just angry I look better than you at 15 than you do at 27" babe..... Acting and looking 25 as a 15 year old is not a flex, you're setting yourself up to be a victim...

This actually made me think a bit why i sometimes feel attatched to looking younger and i realized its because at least for me its become less about beauty standards and more about how i dont feel like an adult, i dont feel responsible and independent. It feels like the older i look the less people will want to forgive me for all my goof ups. This all feels a bit weird to write out because I would like to be a fully functional adult, i just dont know how im going to get there.

Bro getting old is GOOD the other option is DYING; I’m not on any social media besides RU-vid (i don’t think it really counts as much but still) and this kinda stuff is the big reason, people really get so wrapped up in whatever else someone else is freaking out about. Imagine twenty years from now when you really start aging and then think how silly you are. Even if you “look older” you are LIVING, you are A PERSON, your appearance is not your value. Maybe I feel this way because I’ve always had freckles and got bullied for it, so I already have marks I didn’t choose all over my face and body. I just want people to ACTUALLY love themselves and not look in the mirror and say “I love my face because it’s YOUNG” or some other adjective, life is crazy and your appearance could always change, a medical emergency or everyday accident could even do it 🤷

14 y.o me: i want a pet tortoise 14 y.o now: i want retinol

Wait till they see my 29 yr old face with all its acne scars and the wrinkles from laughing too much

im almost 21 and ive had a bunch of people shocked when i told them my age, people think im way younger than i am. i dont see it as a compliment, i find it pretty disturbing, like what do they think a 20 year old looks like? do they think if become a decrepit old hag the second i hit 18? im not scared of aging, i look forward to it, im excited to be milfy when i get older. this is a great video and such a difficult topic, i appreciate you for making this

I feel the same way about my face. I just turned 25 yet the amount of wrinkles and acne on my face would say otherwise. Trying so many different things that just dont seem to stick for me for one reason or another. I still do things like using the restroom and washing my face with the lights off just so i dont have to have a panic attack over the warzone that is my face and upper body. I love your message Nikki! Everyone should feel better about themselves in general and you are very beautiful too! Thank you for your great videos!

Boomer moment, but: "Social media was mistake".

I cant believe that age is now a competition💀

hell yeah another nikki banger 🔥🔥🙏🙏🗣️🗣️

Wake up honey, 1:20am new Nikki video!

I use clay to wash my face, and calendula oil to moisturize 🤷‍♂️ ive been thinking about adding a light sunscreen. Its really not necessary to do all this stuff, and for people with sensitive skin, a lot of this stuff just ruins our skin more. RIP to all the kids with sensitive skin who are going to suffer till they learn they dont need all this stuff.

Social media where we dont have to be face to face to give or recieve opinion has made everyone very bold, comments like this would be less to none in real life, some hate comments encourage others too feel and right hate too, which was not their intial motive

The irony of me getting a skincare ad right after this video. I am so sick and tired of skincare. People left and right, saying you “need”! These products. I am 16 years old, and I can admit I have been a victim of the fear mongering. Especially since I struggle with acne all over my face and body, it ends up being what I think about right when I wake up. I am trying my very best to get out of that mindset. It’s draining. I feel for all the younger girls getting bashed for being all over Sephora/Ulta as well, people so mad about it. Where do you think they saw that same skincare and were told that they “need it”.? Exactly. They are being used and fear mongered as well.