Time Out -- Taking Time for You After Narcissistic Abuse 

Meredith, I found you researching stockholm syndrome. After this last time I left my abuser (a month ago), I have watched a video of yours everyday whenever i'm feeling the cravings to break no contact. I think you are an amazing life coach and I feel like you are speaking directly to me. These videos are narrating my life right now and its nice to have someone explain it from an outward point of view because Im able to see new dynamics and can find closure and solutions. You are amazing, you keep me motivated. Thank you for sharing your wonderful gift with us

It's really hard to find healthy adult friends. 😕

I'm on a break. 7 months and counting. I feel peaceful and happy. I'm afraid to start dating because I don't want to get involved with a narc ever again. I also realized that the person I considered my best friend was also a narc. She was mean spirited and critical. Then when i brought up how she was making me feel she played the victim and blamed me. I cut that friendship about 3 years ago. I was very lonely for a while but now I'm used to it. From this point moving forward I only want healthy relationships.

Thank you! I have lived with N's ALL my life...I am now 70 years and left the second marriage three years ago! I am very slowly spending time with people in small social settings. I am at peace and this article and others makes me know that what I need is exactly what I am doing..filling my life with restful quiet things that makes ME happy and peaceful. Alone is good!

Has anyone ever realized that you never wanted to date that person to begin with and even said no a couple times, but they or some friend talked you into it? Then you felt sorry for the guy and went out and got hooked by some reason, like getting away from your narcissistic parents or by having sex (nothing else was there beyond companionship)? Now I do not trust myself to even begin a relationship, even with guys I really want to.

How can I like this a million times?!

Bravo :) A word from an older viewer....don't worry about taking six months out; the older you get, the faster time passes, believe me! That's why most old folks are so chilled out - they wake up in the morning, have a cup of coffee and a sandwich, do a crossword puzzle and it's dark again and time for bed :) don't wish it away though!

My NARC husband wanted ME to have sexual relations with three (3) men so he could watch 👁. WTF?! I quietly left him on New Years day by moving out in 2017 and not returning. I'm getting a dog 🐶.

WOW you are so amazing and genuine. Thank you SO much I was very depressed and watching your videos motivated me to get on my feet and out of the bed. Please don't stop making more videos. You have no idea how much you are helping broken victims :(

Nothing helped me more than your videos (I think I watched them all, over and over) and the Quick Start Guide to Recovery you wrote. I left my narc 5 months ago after more than a year of a toxic and abusive relationship. As I was investigating on the Internet trying to understand what in the world happened to me, I sadly realized she was a narcissist, 100%. I went through hell in the first weeks of my healing process, but now I am feeling much better. I am learning to be alone and enjoy it. The tips on this video (to be present, and the questions to ask to myself) are extremely useful, as usual. Last week I had the chance to recommend your channel to a person who was in a terrible relationship with a narc . She went no contact after watching your videos. So in some way, I could pay it forward what I learned from you. You are so professional and caring at the same time Meredith. I will be always grateful to you .

Im a codependant borderline and ive been with narcissist after narcissist. i recently cut off 4 narcissists in my life and now i feel painfully bored and empty. on the other hand im having more of an opportunity to explore who i am outside of their definition of me. and that feels really nice despite how sad this is. thanks for your videos this has been helpful

You are just a wonderful person with your help to others in this difficult issues. I have struggled my hole life with a narc mother. No empathy, no remorse, no compassion and always it is only wrong with me whatever I do in life. Nothing I do (or did) is good enough. I thougt a mother should Love me and my sisters, but now I know the fact. She loves to see her children suffers and loves to see us sad when we failure. My wife have helped me extremely much, otherwise I shouldn't be here any more. Several nervous breakdowns was a habbit in my life. Now I feel much better. Listening to you and other persons adwises helps a lot. My life were in pieces. Now I am more "me" again. I am a highsensitive person and a creative artist by the way. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for this words. You are such a wonderful human beeing and also a very cute young woman. Definately a new hero for me! I feel safe when I see you and hear your voice💖🙋‍♂️☀️NAMASTE!!!

I need 20 years to be ready until I date again. I'm taking care of me.

Meredith, your commentary is invaluable. I found your Inner Integration site and "healing from narcissistic abuse" program last fall. Understanding this dynamic allowed me to take steps to leave my abusive marriage last month. I am able to dispassionately observe the different tactics being tried by my husband to keep me in his sphere. I now realize that I have always been drawn to people who create "manufactured intensity." I am pursuing the healthy activities that I wasn't able to pursue while married to my controlling partner, and loving it!

I am grateful for your videos..everything you say is so helpful right now. I just got out of an abusive relationship with a narcissist and I feel drained emotionally and mentally... my family and your videos help me very much to get up every day and try to recover after the abuse. You are an amazing person and same goes for the person reading this comment. You can do it ! Don't give up

Thank you. To share: 2 years ago I decided to take time off from relationships after an emotionally abusive experience. Didn't realize he was a narc at the time. Recently with all the posts about narcissism I followed my gut to listen and found that friends, my roommate, bosses, coworkers and all around me were narcs. I thought by staying away from a man I was safe. Wrong! It's been a life experience full of narcs. I'm relearning to experience healthy relationships very slowly and dating is out of the question. Thank God I know how to heal now. This video helped add the piece of the chemical high that I hadn't seen yet. I'm grateful!

Wow this is exactly where I am at. Broke up 8 months ago and have spent the eight months crying. blaming, meditating, doing new things, being up and down but staying away from relationships. Now I am actually finding weeks where I am happy. I have so much energy and think to myself - you are amazing, you actually had the strength to walk away! I agree ... you have to detox....and have faith that all you went through was to teach you to be happy. I now am looking forward to the time when I meet a healthy man and fall in love all over again. Falling in love is wonderful...even without the narcissistic drama. Thanks so much for your wisdom and kind words. XXXXXXX

Hey, thank you! That's exactly what I need & go through right now. I was "involved" in a narcissitic relationship for Almost 6 years, and every time I walked away and went no contact and even started dating and new relationsships, he tried to crash it by giving me the illusion that he had made a mistake and we would get back together and start a family and so on, when I finally saw what he was doing, I blocked everything but he even made a fake profile and stalked my instagram. So sick. I tried to move on but all my new realtionships failed. They also became boring and Not as passionate After a Time and i Misses him Even though i knew it was so wrong! Now i'm single single and want to take a year to myself to heal and overcome this. Thanks so much for your effort and your amazing videos, i feel less alone with what i expirienced & feel a lot better now.

I am really enjoying these clips and it is encouraging to see that someone who has been through some tough life lessons use those lessons to help others. Restores my faith in humanity a bit. I think that it is really important to take time out for yourself after surviving a toxic and abusive relationship, and possibly the older you are or the longer you were in the relationships, 6 months is an AT LEAST. This is because of the patterns that you may not even realise that you have or that you keep repeating, and the longer you spend just with yourself, learning or re-learning how to articulate/identify your own needs, the less chance you will give another potential abuser. I wish I had known this stuff years ago, but better late than never.

It's so comforting that your videos are there for me! I can keep playing them and it's like I have a good friend with me! Thank you for your authentic caring.

I get moments of clarity and peace in between my feelings of panic. I do believe I am actually making progress and I am proud of that! I just focus on the things you are talking about and write about everything in my journal.

i have had NO PROBLEM not dating, in fact the 3 dates i did go on, saw red flags and just no energy to put into anyone else but me and my son. my ex, however, had to start dating immediately. i'm sure he can't face being alone and needed that, but i knew even before i left him that i'd want to be alone for a long while :) good advice!

Right on Meredith ! I need to fill my time with more productive things to do. I now realize that my subconscious keeps me stuck and ruminating about the past. I'm 1 year and a half no contact and although I have done a tremendous amount of work ,it's time to step up my recovery and get out of this cycle once and for all . Thank you

Feeling so blessed for having found you. Been for almost 3 years in a toxic relationship with a narcissist has drained everything out of me, and just now, watching your videos, I understood I'm not the problem. It is hard when you see the other person as a victim of the world, and want to be there for them, but they destroy you inside, turn your lights off, and make you miserable. Thanks for your time.

I think you're wonderful. I am so grateful to your channel. My narc ex fiancée did a BRUTAL discard on me last month. Nearly killed me.

When I think back, all the stupid things I endured which I could write a book of was all to distract a person who could not stand herself so bad that any of the off the charts behavior causing much anguish was all to fill her brain with anything but her own thoughts. What I have learned so well is giving perpetual benefit of doubt, complying with disordered behavior that sub conciously was familiar & showing someone you loved them through actions & expecting some reprocity was all on me. Tolerance that was once through the roof is now measured. Real freedom occurs when you can make that discernment before you fall in love.

These videos are just what I needed. Now I feel that it's not just my imagination that these things happened.. Thankyou!

Thank you so much!. your analogies and videos are by far the best. After 2 weeks of dating my narcissistic ex I tried to break up with him, he then put on a "that is devastating" show so as an empath I decided to not listen to my intuition and stayed trying to make him and I work for a year, it was never stable of course and ALL about him, he even made me suicidal. I should have walked away when my instincts told me to, I knew there was something very fake about how perfect he was making everything feel. He is a soul destroyer. My self steam is just starting to recover now, after I decided to go no contact.

Thank you for this Meredith, you are an earth angel for all you’ve done to help others. I can’t imagine ever being ready to date again, it took me 10 years to realize my husband is a covert narcissist. Truly grateful for your channel. Blessings !

I love all your videos, but this one is especially helpful! It describes my experience so well, and it's also very validating, because since breaking up from a relationship with a narcissist almost a year ago, I haven't been dating at all, and I've just been trying to take care of myself, regain my self esteem and learn self-love. It's not always that easy, and this is very encouraging to know I'm on the right path! thank you SO MUCH!

My Narc mother's mantra was "Pretty is, is Pretty does." Wrong... At 57, I have used the past year in healing myself from a gaslighting/Narc father who left the family when I was 12, to start over with a brand new wife & family, and a Narc mother who did her best to break me. Both are now deceased, 3 years apart. With the absence of their control and judgement, I have been able to breathe again, and to find my authentic self. It takes time. But every day is getting better. I am trusting myself now, have established boundaries, and more importantly, know how to spot an unhealthy relationship before getting affected. Grateful survivor. Love your videos. Thanks for the info.

Do you have an idea how much you are helping me? I watch your videos every day over and over. They are my guidance through my journey with my abuser. What is the best way to connect with you?

Your authenticity beams through the screen! I'm grateful for people like you.

Hey Meredith! I can't stop watching your videos and taking in all the information. I just recently ended a relationship with someone that's definitely on the cluster B spectrum and I'm starting to understand everything because of you. THANK YOU for that. I just wanted to point out this one thing.. I heard you say a few times that manipulative people would keep texting or calling, or show up unannounced; I guess that might be true for many, but my ex was the total opposite. I'm not sure where on the spectrum he would fall, and maybe that's an important factor when it comes to behaviors like this. Just wanted to say that he was very good at giving space, as he wanted way too much space and freedom for himself as well. He knew he was doing things that were not okay but was completely sure of my loyalty and love for him, so he would not insist..if anything, he would create distance and get upset if I wondered too much. Showing up and being there for me was where he failed (apart from the typical manipulation tactics), but didn't mind giving me space. I just thought I'd mention this for people out there who are wondering about this, just as I'm wondering about so many things as well. If they don't insist, maybe that just happens to be something that doesn't affect them; or it's also part of one of their techniques.

I'm taking time for myself. I've been planning solo trips and spoiling myself as well as getting back to exercising in efforts to build myself back up. I don't know that that I'll ever want to be involved with someone again at this point though. In regards to friends, I dint think I have true close friends. I have acquaintances, but no one I feel close to to get emotional support.

these videos are helping get my mind off what hes doing/did to me and Im going to put my energy in hitting my goals that he has road blocked. I want to buy my own home w cash. Work. Work on what I brought to the dysfunction so I can meet a man that sees I am on the rt track

Thank you very much Meredith. You are awesome! So helpful to me! And I am practising my English with you too! I feel like you are my friend! THANK YOU AGAIN!

You're very wise. I like how you indirectly touched on Soul Ties. They are very real. I unfortunately fell in love with a cluster B. Two years later i am still healing from the trauma of the aftermath. I honestly feel those people are evil. True evil...

Thank you so much for this amazing word. It's so crazy how you can see the big difference in interactions between healthy and non healthy relationships

Thank you so much....as a victim of narc we really get relief after listening your explanations...

I took 3 years and then end up meeting a similar person. A complete User but this time around - I walked away with grace and so happy to be able to recognise that it’s unhealthy. And Super proud of the human I became :) I can’t thank Meredith enough. We can’t be calling everyone a narcissist based on a bunch of people we have meet. World is big and gorgeous and good news we are not in a cage :)🤘🏻🌸🙏🏻🔆🌈

Thank you for this confirmation today, Meredith! I haven't been dating and having sex for over a year and that feels so amazlngly good, healthy and empowering. I just want to spend time with myself and I got to love silence. My friend circle is nearly down to zero as they were part of my OLD vibrations. I am so blessed and wiser every single day. Thank God. Thank God for you.

No words to express how much your words are helping... Thank you, thank you so much.

Hi Meredith, besides the fact that you are one heck of an amazing woman, I can’t thank you enough for recommending Jackson McKenzie’s book. It’s really lifting a cloud off my head.

I feel like I had some time to prepare myself prior to leaving since I had been prepping and fixing a house for several months under cover. I did go through some mourning and confusion in the first few months. I started jogging, going out with friends, took a cake decorating class. I did date however, but part of that was a freedom thing, but I was mentally clear that I was having a good time not getting into a relationship. Even when I did find myself dating someone who later became my husband, I was still a hot mess and he knew it. My ex could still trigger me in the most simple ways and I was still trying to figure out how to navigate this new world of single parenthood and having to still talk to him even though what I really needed was no contact, but couldn't. It was a strange place considering my ex had very little to do with his kids, suddenly he wanted a bizaar level of communication, which I learned through time was nothing more than a way to continue to abuse me. My now husband was very supportive and empathetic to what was happening. He helped me see that my ex was at the minimum a border line but more of a narc than anything. As the fog lifted I began to see the manipulation and abuse for what it was and that he no longer held power of me and could deal with him in that context.

Wow by far this Is the best video I've seen regarding this subject, and I have seen a lot of them... you totally described my current situation, and I'm starting my path for healing all my wounds... thank you so much

The very last thing you said about empowering questions really hit home for me because I'm feeling so lonely. You feel like a sign from God! ❤

Wow .. the whole thrill seeking thing - yup.

This video is so validating! It is like having had a heart to heart talk with a real mother or big sister who tells you the score and sets you up for belief in amazing things, all the while hoping for your ultimate success. I thank goodness for these videos and for the internet to transport the emotional things I desperately need to me, the things I have been waiting all my life to hear.

Hi Meredith, I’m enjoying watching your vintage videos including this one. You put so much wisdom out there! You speak in such a relatable way. I feel like you are talking just to me, and you’re saying just what I need to hear. Thank you so much, Meredith. You’re the best.

Thanks Meredith for all you do.

No more "benefit of the doubt" for me. After 23 years of a toxic marriage and I don't want to connect with another NARC. I am focused on ME and I'm not ashamed of it. I'm getting a dog!

you are an awesome person, and your videos have and are changing my life in so many ways. it gives me strength to stop contact with toxic people, and to not feel guilty about it!!! thank you, thank you, thank you😙

thank you so much for your help. Tai chi for dealing with the aggressive narcissist really works. it helped this morning when I was in a hositle situation this morning. this is a child visitation situation . using your methods Iwas able to successfully able to diffuse the situation and help my daughter cope in a positive manner as well. Thank you.

Superb Video, spot on advice. 'At least 6 months...' to get to know oneself again (or even for the first time, learning about yourself), is probably only the beginning of a period of a form of self isolation; otherwise there is a chance that the opportunity that you have been given by the Narcissist (yes it is a real opportunity if you are still alive to tell the tale), will be wasted, and history may repeat itself for you.....Get ALL toxic people out of your life, and return to, or find, your authentic self....You will know the 'Toxic's', they try to drain your energy, you will feel it in an emotionally negative way. Remember, it's not you, these 'Toxic's' are unconscious people, whether they will move toward consciousness or not is not your business, look after yourself and be kind to yourself....Create personal boundaries without fear or favour to family, friends, work colleagues, but use your rediscovered self and reasserted behaviour in unison without any intent to harm others, just say 'NO' whenever you feel any form of toxic behaviour to you...It does not need to be the exact word NO, it may be an inner NO, but you express it in a way that is assertive... I.E. "Excuse me Sir/Madam, this is the queue behind me to order your coffee..." "No, sorry I cannot help you with your work, I am busy with my own important deadlines"... "I do not to agree with what you have just said, it is not based on any sense of reality to me, and I will leave it with you. Thank you"..."Your such an amazing and intelligent person, I am sure if you consider the issue a little you will figure it out for yourself..." NO can be one of the most liberating words in life....x

I was twice divorced and had just ended a serious relationship with an older man who was very manipulative. I didn't trust my own judgment, so I decided to take a full year off dating. It ended up being 13 months, and it was a really healthy choice for me. I felt much less wobbly emotionally. In the interim, I found a good counselor and took an anti-depressant for a few months.

Thank you for this compassionate and direct video! From my own experience, I thought I was wise enough and intuitive enough to not get sucked in. But even though it had been over 2 years since I was out of a n. marriage, a different type of n. did the total love bombing thing, and I was hooked. Bottom line in my thinking, we are probably not as ready as we would like to believe. I am totally with you! Be a friend. Period. Then, if that is healthy, consider going deeper. It is interesting also how I am seeing n. tendencies in family and friends, and am learning how to adjust my contact with them. Thank you, Meredith. You are doing a real service to us who have experienced this type of trauma. I am finally learning my responsibility in all this.

I did force myself to take a 6 month break. I had to tell myself that I really didn't have to make any decisions at all but only to observe. In that observation I just allowed everything to come in and it was completely life-changing. It was not easy but it was the turning point for all good things that can now come into my life.

WOW. Thank you so much for this video. This is exactly what I've been going through and it's been about six months. I've met some guys that have seemed like alright dating prospects but then my intuition is says NO! So I've gotten off any dating apps and the only guys that I speak to, I've begun friendships with them

oh i maybe have already taken that break after i broke up my university department :D thanks good advice ive shared!

Thanks for your videos. You are my friend that can keep talking to me even though it hasn't sunk in yet

I did exactly what you said not to do. I jumped back in not quickly but without doubt g good self care and healing and now I have another narc in my life. I am so thankful for your videos because I am becoming clear in thought and vision now and while I'm working on getting a job and getting him out of my house I'm working on doing good self care and responding not reacting to his mess and truly trying to learn from my experiences and not become my experiences

I love this video! It explains a lot about why do we go back to those relationships and it’s good to know that it’s not love what takes us back, but the chemical reactions that you talk about in this video and that state of constant high! Still it’s definitely not easy to move on, but what I realized is that eventually it will happen gradually once you realized that you’re stuck in an unhealthy place with unhealthy feeling and the moment you tell your self: I deserve better than this, I’m worthy of a good life, things will start to change! But it has to come from within, and it will when you realized that you’ve learned your lesson! Thank you Meredith, you’ve been my shero for so long now, of course I had some ups and downs since, but every time it feels easier to get back on track when you keep educating yourself and you look for the light instead of surrendering to the darkness.

Just what I needed to hear! Thank you Meredith !👏

Meredith, I’ve listened to over a hundred videos on Narcissism the last two years. Many have helped greatly and two years ago, it was your videos that started me on my healing journey. I sent your videos to a friend over a year ago, she paid for a one-one with you and it helped her greatly. Unfortunately, I ended up in another narcissistic pattern with a long-term male friend. I didn’t know of his “other side” and I was only 6 months out from the Covert psychopath Narc. This friend, he does have an ability to show and feel empathy (or mirror it anyway) and is Close friends with ALL of my friend group. Thus, the toxicity with him nearly took me down. Through therapy, church, and so many books and videos, it is always your videos, sharing, and teaching that help me the most. Because you too, have an obvious true sense of empathy, even for the narcs, I trust what you share and it speaks to my deepest core. To put the oxygen mask on myself, to heal, to practice self-love and boundaries. I cannot thank you enough. I too, am sending you, a big hug ❤️

YOU MAKE SO MUCH SENSE. I am so thankful that I came across your channel, this makes so much sense. Thank you! Everything makes sense now.

Thanks so much for your amazing advice I was lived with Narcissistic partner for 13 years I was treated the same what you are saying I tried so hard to walk away so many times but he never lets me go now he dated the woman he was know three years ago he said just friends, he was so kind but he was lying too much that I never met in my in my whole life.

I've been "clean" haha for almost 8 months now after 5 and a half years with a narcissist! I look back at my old self from a year ago and I am really proud of how far I've come. Healing isn't linear and I'm still working on some stuff, some days are better than others, I still deal with unhealthy behaviors that I've been unlearning slowly and every single thing that comes out of your mouth is full of truth, Meredith! There isn't a single day where I take my freedom for granted, it's so refreshing and amazing to have this overwhelming sense of knowing that I can do whatever I want, dress how I like, buy anything I feel like buying, speak my mind without worrying about what that guy had to say or fear of being judged. Last I heard, he is still wallowing in toxic behaviors, going back to his exes, not doing his healing work and it used to bother me, but I know I've reached yet another level by realizing it now even brings me peace to have an extra confirmation that I made the right choice for myself and my wellbeing. When you start putting yourself first, your world changes, it's incredible. This year that's coming to an end was the most eye-opening one and it's like letting go of what was rotten and taking a huge chunk of my life has freed up space to welcome new people that feel like pieces of this puzzle I'm re-building, who add up to my life quality and feel like a warm hug from the inside. Thank you for your beautiful videos, they've helped me so much. Sending love to everyone who reads this and needs it. I'm proud of your struggle, we're here to be happy, as cliché as that might sound, remember to be kind to yourself always, and have courage to go after what you want to achieve. :) 🌷

Finally divorcing alcoholic/narc husband after 23 years, seeing attorney Monday. I don't know how I would recover if I didn't have you & other people like you helping us. I have ptsd & have been in a mental hospital 3 times. I've moved into the guest bedroom, got off all meds and am slowly recovering. I think it will take years for me recover so thank you for your videos!!

Wow you are right on with what's going on with me. I had someone tell me some things you said but I looked at them like they were crazy. I'm unhealthy and I was that person that keep messaging a friend last night when they told me they had to do something.

Great insights. Thank you for your caring guidance. You are helping through this tricky time of my life. Shiva Jiva

All i can think to say is, thank you. Youve inspired me to change my whole life, i never thought i would be where i am today. Thank you!

What useful and tons of free information you have in this video!!!! I think, you've just changed my life. The most difficult thing I could ever do, is stop dating. So, I am going to try the 6 months off! From today! Wish me luck! You are so awesome ☺💎

Only a few short months and this man really did some damage to my emotional wellness

Love that you give actual examples of healing and not just talk of healing. A lot of the things resonate with me so much. It has been 4 months after leaving the 13 year relationship with the narc. I went to a dating site but a little tiny voice inside says, I am Ok single.

I love you, Meredith! I am excited for this year off to heal myself~~your book is on the way, I have signed up on your website and I am ready to get back to baseline! Thank you *so* much for your love and light!

This is amazingly appropriate and useful. l have taking 6 months out to repair and self care and this video is so helpful.

wow i thank God for your videos!! so so grateful i came upon these

This was so resonating thank you so much. Going through some depersonalization and cptsd from narc abuse from all around..mainly my ex but also broke veil of my narc dad & step dad... and every other man ive been with is a narc or sociopath... So yeah definitely trying to ground myself and feel like myself again... I'm trying to get out of these patterns

I'm starting my break from dating and been cleaning out the narc friends out of my life too now... The idea of flying solo is scary but on the backside I know I will be a better person for it and embracing it instead of running from it

Very informative. Thankyou. It's taking me a lot longer than 6 months!

YOU GET IT!! FANTASTIC!! BEST INFORMATION IVE SEEN YET ON NARCISSISTS AND THE FEELINGS OF THE ABUSED. THANK YOU!

Wow!! This video is simply amazing for so many reasons!! Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom!! Much love to you!!

Great video, you’re so positive and upbeat. Thanks for the validation and excellent insight you’re helping me build me for the first time in my life xx

I am in the stage of "how can I trust someone else again?" Lost 4yrs before I understood he was a narc. He always blamed it to ADHD, but now that I have done lots of research and had the time to compare I can def say he is a Narc. 😒 saludos from PR🇵🇷

Thank you. You are saving my life.

your courage being able to talk about your shame is an inspiration. congratulations on being who you are today. keep looking after yourself. x 😁

very insightful and good advice, hard to do, but worth it.

I think this is a necessity after narcissistic abuse . I know i've found my own time out invaluable. It's been almost two years now no contact and i still don't feel ready for dating yet . I think if there's children involved it pays to take the time to really get right with yourself for yourself but for them also .

I was love bombed by a beautiful woman and I was convinced that she was the most amazing person I would spend the rest of my life with, I was rushed into a marriage, and within two months she completely changed and became one of the most conniving manipulating mind-twisting abusive narcissist I've ever experienced in my life. Absolutely frightening and disturbing

You are absolutely right about everything you explained in this video. What do you do if you are still married to a Covert Narcissist. It's amazing how my spouse knows when to stop her nonsense, especially when I'm fed up with the abuse. She actually feels she doesn't do anything negative and it's all me. Thanks for the suggestions here. I'm long timer in a relationship with a person who is smooth and able to wear a very effective mask when around others, then she switches when she is at home. I've stayed in a hopeless nightmare so long that I don't know how to successfully exit. She will become kind and loving after she has pushed a situation too far. Guess what? I fall for it every time; always hoping that maybe today this will be it....she understand finally and we will have a happy marriage. Well to my own chagrin I find out that I've been duped again. Why is it so hard to leave such a toxic person? (I'm in mourning now because I see the cycles for what they are now. I realize I have to let somethings, because she is incapable of seeing her true nature that includes the negative "Ms Hyde." She wants everyone to see her as just a happy "Dr. Jekyll" like person. I get the other side frequently.) I've been in depression for a while now. Recovering, but this time I feel different. Something changed within me after my episode with my wife and her manipulative, vampiric emotional assault. I actually almost left, then she changed tactics again. By the way I have become more assertive now and am definitely looking and seeking to be healthy now. Took me 30 years to wake up and realize the ugly truth about my relationship. Your videos are useful and helpful. My wife has shown an attempt to change, however I'm full of doubt these days about her sincerity. Get this now, she's becoming religious. How does one handle such an approach?

you are so gifted. Thank you for this. You have strong Pleadian Energy..love and light.

Your videos popped up in my suggestions, I don't really know why but I'm really happy they did. This opened my eyes on my ex boyfriend whom I considered coming back to... But all the issues we had, all the traits you stated for a narcissistic personality are the traits he has and the things he did... I'm really shook now. I can't believe I haven't realised this before, but I'm happy I know now. Thank you, you are awesome!

this really resonated with what I am going through right now. really appreciate your wisdom and thoughts. thank you.

Your aura is beautiful, I can't help seeing it, it's very strong. You are a highly evolved being

Meridith, thank you. Your kindness, compassion and courage to share your knowlegde is truly a gift. I feel like you are reading my mind and I feel so understood. I have been to a few different therapies and methods to try to heal and honestly your videos have helped me on my healing journey so much and from the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU! Sending you light and love.

Omgosh..such a revelation of understanding healthy vs toxic relationships! Thank you for this clarity :)

Thank you Meredith x. My partner is going through the exactly what you are describing in your video...it's so uncanny. I was telling him almost the same things yesterday. I've been following Inner Integration for a wee while now so I knew what to say to him. His ex is a Narc I'm not sure if she has tendencies, however she's a really dangerous woman. He lived with her for 30 years until he got out, well before I met him. She gave him a hard time, She beat me up, had me charged and arrested and after that stalked me for seven months. She has made my life a living hell. I'm epileptic and the stress of all of this has made it worse so my Neurologist had to put the strength of my tablets up. I feel tired all time and all I want to do is sleep. She's ruined my life. I still have court to go to in a couple of weeks. This is a complete nightmare and what I've told you is only the tip of the iceberg.

Thank you Meredith!! You're so lovely, inside and out!

thank you so much for this video, i gave me a piece of mind tonight. you're channel is so valuable!! thank you