Titus 2 Woman Series|Submission 

It might be very controversial and others may not see this as "okay" but a way I've learned to be submissive is asking for my husbands opinion on almost everything and asking "permission" to buy things or make larger decisions without him there. It's helped me be accountable and helped me learn to let him take the reigns. He appreciates it.

Alana, I have really enjoyed this series so much! I was raised in a single parent, liberal home. I've not been part of a Godly example of what this looks like so I have had to be led by the Spirit or make mistakes just trying to learn how to be a Godly wife and mother. I completely agree with all that you have shared. It has challenged me in a way of executing certain scriptures as a foundation in our marriage. Whatever I have done partially, I am working on doing them fully. It takes help from the Lord for sure. I believe a marriage where the husband loves the wife and the wife respects the husband is a beautiful thing. I am going to be listening to these videos again and soaking in the Word to get it deep in my heart. Thank you!💕

I have been married for 37 years to a lovely, godly woman. I understood from the beginning that the authority which God gave me as head of the household was not mine to do with as I pleased - any more than a naval officer placed in command of a ship can treat that ship as his personal property. Properly understood, the husband's authority comes with a fearful burden of responsibility. I remember before I married how godly friends - young men approaching marriage - spoke with real fear of the responsibility before God which they would undertake in marrying, I believe that I have never invoked that authority except for my wife's good. My wife is a workaholic who would stay up too late, get up too early, and run herself to death if I permitted it. I have more to say, but I must close. Another time.

Bless you for so openly discussing a topic that is often avoided, misinterpreted and brushed under the rug. Thank you for being a Godly example for women. It has been a blessing to me to watch your videos

I agree with most of what you say! I would like to add, that even the unreasonable husband who abuses his power as the dictator, (as in being harsh or unsympathetic) should be submitted to. (Not abusive to the children however. In such cases I think help from more sober wise men should be appealed to.) As risky as that sounds, I have absolute trust in God that He would have told us ladies if there was a place to draw the line, but He didn't. He said to servants to submit themselves even to the surly master, because of the authority He has given them. It is God's call, not ours to determine when the one in authority has gone too far. I trust that God will deal with any man who takes things too far. I speak with conviction because I grew up under an authoritarian father who has been widely criticized for his uncompromising rulership and controlling nature. To be honest, I am thankful for the benefits I had growing up like that, and choose not to hold any grudges. The things I missed out on or the ways which he controlled my life may seem shocking to some, but in the grand scheme of things, we should not be so concerned with social standing or worldy success. We have a much higher calling and no situation on earth can hold in bondage the inner freedom we have been given through Christ Jesus. Our ministry is one of an inner working that manifests itself with peace and contentment in any situation.

God bless u! Thank u for this ❤️ it's so sad how this is misunderstood and misconstrued in this day and age. It is STILL God's design and still very much so applicable!

I love my husband so much,but you just reminded me of that so much more lol.. he is so wise and he does explain things to me too lol... Thanks to God for his order... May God bless you Alana and thanks for this series...

Love love love this

I have loved this series! I also have a video request for the future. I would love to see a video on a biblical take on infertility and fertility treatments. It's a issue many couples are faced with today and I haven't really seen anyone do a video on the subject from a biblical perspective. I also think a bible study series on the Song of Solomon would be great!

Love it, thanks Alana. Your my treadmill encouragent while at the gym 😃 haha

This was fabulous! Thank you!

Have you read Adorned by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth?

So true! Thanks for this video!!

Thank you for this! This was such a good series! You perfectly explained submission and also made me laugh, as usual 😂 Honestly I LOVE submission; it is hard sometimes and our flesh is awful, but submission is protection from the Lord! He knew what He was doing when He came up with it, obviously 😜 I also agree with the exceptions you mentioned, although when you say you don't have to submit "if it could cause ANY harm" to you or your children, I just thought I'd mention that there are some women who will take that too far. I know YOU didn't mean it that way, but I know wives who do. I knew a wife who forced her husband to move out (not divorce, but temporarily moved him out) because she didn't like his attitude and anger, and thought it emotionally harmful to their children. I say that was an awful and controlling move and does not mirror any amount of grace... I mean, who says what constitutes harm, you know? I DEFINITELY agree when we're talking about physical harm (as in, husband being physically abusive). But what about other harm? Like husband allowing the kids to take physical risks that the wife disagrees with? I know you are totally sensible and wise on this, but I know lots of women who will say they don't have to submit if they decide something isn't safe... and that's a pretty large category and slippery slope. Sorry to ramble, just thinking out loud! 😂

💖thank you Ms Alana..

Enjoyed this series!! ❤️ ~ Crystal

I love these kinds of videos please please carry on with this theme you are called to guide us in Marriage I believe your very good at it xxx

Blessings

Great video! God Bless

Had you heard of The Resolution of Men or The Resolution of Women?

My husband don’t want to hear my thoughts. If he asks a question he only wants a yes or no answer not any kind of explanation or discussion about the question or the answer. ???

Alana... once coming across your channel Iv been trying to take more notice of things happening in my marriage. Which, after a very emotional and hurtful month, i have a couple questions for you. What are the limits to submission? im stuck in a place where im feeling unheard and unloved. If i may give one example... my maternity leave ends in 5 months. I want to become a licenced day care(and just take on 2 kids) so i can stay at home with our daughter, financially support our family, have flexible hours, and do something i love and have always wanted to do. My husband expressed dislike right away and expressed that he would rather me find any other job part time even if it was working in a factory (a job that I would never ever want to do). I had a hard time feeling like this was okay. Would he really want me to blindly do something i really didnt want to do?! So now im left questioning.... what am i called to give? I love him and support his passions. But to feel immediately not heard or feel like im fighting rather than discussing things extremely pains me. That being said... here are a couple other questions. How do you decifer when to submit? What is fair and not fair? Where is the line for leadership? Can he even have the final say on what you eat to the clothes you wear? Or is the leadership just concerning faith? Is there a way to keep "cool" when your starting to feel angry... what is a respectful way to tell your husband he has hurt your feelings? Should submission feel like your giving up a big peice of yourself? How do you decifer if hes stepped over that line? Resentment... how do you get over this once it's built itself up? Example... i try my hardest to keep the house in order... even following a cleaning schedule. But things to hubby are still not good enough some days. Im left feeling im not good enough... and thus have built up some resentment and feel anger when cleaning gets brought up in discussion. Sorry for the long comment! Im praying you have some time to answer!

What if your husband has a drinking problem and he tells you to go get him more alcohol? Are you supposed to submit? Because I wouldn't want to help him get more drunk. I don't think Jesus would buy more alcohol

Submission is very tough for independent career first woman. Especially if she is a Boss at work kind of tough to respect a man that makes the same money as her. She finds it hard to submit to a man being in charge is in her. So as a husband you just give in rather than have issues in the home.