This man right here... is multifaceted wow! Ethan i can't wait for the day you find your true mate. Under all your facades your a good soul and I knew that when I first started listening to you. Viewers please listen to what Ethan is saying.
As a straight guy I can’t relate to the gay part, but can relate to the feeling of not fitting in, self doubt, and over time learning to play a role in this movie called life. All take maturity to realise, understand and know what to do about, and when. Whilst in hindsight everyone says make a change as soon as possible, reality is you should make a change when you’re ready. I’ve been a late starter with most things, spent many years kicking myself for it but eventually understood and accepted that’s my pace and everyone else has theirs, and I’m ok with it. That self understanding, self awareness and self acceptance are probably the most valuable things I’ve learned in my life, and wish everyone else learned the same. Good video Ethan.
Nearly a year since my original post, and I'm back🙂. Watched Fair Haven about five times, AMAZING independent movie, made me cry like a big baby! I don't know what kind of music you are into, but listen to ; The Feeling -"Sewn" & "Same Old Stuff" both very touching songs, Dan who is the singer is also gay, there is definitely touches of that in both tracks while also making them universal for everyone. Like yourself, I'm not into the over the top gay "scene" I'm a bit more reserved but I would like to wish you happy Pride Month.☺ 🌈
I appreciated this heartfelt video. It's interesting how film can compel us to feel, share and take action. I recently watched "My octopus teacher" and now feel compelled to adopt a cat, after living alone for so long. It opened my heart and gave me a new access to feel what was already there.
Thanks Eathan for this honest video. I am very hetero father of three boys and one girl. I experience big shift in mindset of new generation. My children can not listen to any joke about gays, they demand to be respectful to all, and I am proud fot that. We are all brothers and sisters, and the ultimative answer to all problems is love, not hate.
I'm 42 and for the past 3 decades I have struggled with my sexuality amongst many other issues when it comes to Indentity. Thought I was lesbian in my early teens but I also liked some guys so then I thought i was bisexual, but something still wasn't quite right and it was only 7 years ago I found out about Asexuality and it was a bit of a light bulb moment for me! Though I'm not a virgin I may aswell be now! Over the years I have kept many of my feelings to myself out of fear/shame 🥺 and growing up with an abusive/ homophobic comments from my late mother didn't help😔. My mum died four years ago and it's only since then that I have started to talk a little about this part of my life, for decades I have attempted suicide cause of the ongoing confusion which is still with me to this day. In some ways I feel internally homophobic agaisnt myself plus society is geared towards heterosexuality for the continuation of the human race which falls on us ladies having babies, and we are shamed if we don't want that. (of which I am one) I have had issues with the biological functions of being a women(periods etc etc from 12) caused me allot of mental anguish and for some time I wished I was a boy; like my little brother, even though I liked being a girl in many other ways just not the the internal organs I was born with.
Thank you for sharing this. You are still very young and have many decades of happiness to look forward t. Do what you like and cut out people from your life who don't accept you. They are not worth your time and energy.
Love it . Everybody has its own problems, the thing that makes the difference is the way you deal with it, don’t ever be a victim, seek your owl evolution, don’t let undeveloped people pulls you back, everyone has its own timing to grow and learn. Be selfish, keep walking, make and build your own reality under your point of view. Trust and know that you are special, you were created here to have plenty of experiences, you make it worth it. Put on the light filter and laugh. See the contrast and bad experiences as a teacher showing how to never be, thought and act like that. Be better. Be brave.
I do believe that everyone has a place at the table. The die-hards will never change. However hopelessness can not be an option. Never let those who would wish your demise win. One solid truth - for all young & old alike - is that ultimately good does prevail over evil. LOVE is truly worth fighting for. Do not ever give up!
Totally lost I'm 50 and still feel bad about myself and I still trying to believe that God is the only thing who can give me the love i need problem is I'm still waiting
What a remarkable video and so sensitively presented. You have spoken with such honesty and compassion. How I wish I could meet you face to face to discuss this further. Thank you, Ethan!
I discovered myself from as early as 11-12... surrounded with negative views from every angle... from my family who's preachers, the community, the church, my job etc... I fought to try and change till about my mid 20s. from trying to will myself to change, pray it away, even went as far as having 3 girlfriends in an attempt to change after my last girlfriend and I went our separate ways I decided to stop fighting and acknowledge myself for what I am but I'd still keep this part of my hidden from the world... it's only In recent years I started letting people from the straight community know who I am but I had to "test them" over a certain time period to be sure they're safe and even more recent started putting LESS energy into caging and concealing my gestures and movements for the sake of "blending in" or "making them comfortable" and I'm not gonna lie, ALOT started questioning me trying to get a definitive answer and depending on the individual I may confirm with them in private or straight up be like "I have no idea what you're talking about" I'm currently 35 still with my family and I know it's not "ideal"... may not be ready to come out on the whole but you can say I'm getting there slowly but surely
I know it’s hard but you should come out and cut out people from your life who don’t accept you, even if they are your family. Choose your friends and family yourself and don’t go with what the society has created for you.
If it helps, I think most people are screwed up or have some sort of issue in some way, not detracting from what you're saying though... a brave video - still subbed and will watch your videos regardless... the dog and your speech gave it away for me :-)
So much depth in this statement. So important for people, youngsters especially, to be able to watch. I very much admire him coz of his achievements. 😊. Yet he’s very critical of the Gay world. I wonder if he looks at that in a too narrow perspective. The scene. Beyond that scene there is much more. Only problem there i see is the fact that 95% of Gays are not recognizable. So flirting on the street, supermarket anywhere public is impossible without recognition. Personally i also don’t know how couples met and meet. Bars ? Apps ? There hetero’s have it easier. I feel this goodlooking successful man could do better in private life.
I'm not in the closet with my parents, however at school i do my best to not show i'm a lesbian because i'm scared of their opinions, i wish i could just scream on the top of my lungs about my love for girls and how pretty they all are in their own way but people are so mean
If any of my family or friends came out, I would support them in any way I could. It’s a shame that religious beliefs, written centuries ago, make it so difficult/impossible for someone to live their life as openly gay. I am heterosexual and have friends that are gay. It isn’t difficult or different than any other friendship.
I look at the person's character. There is nothing to hate about you. Contrary, you have created your own unique style and quality. You have a genuine nature that is unique.
I am in the closet but I don’t hate myself , cas I admit I am who I am and the type of gay man I am I accept who I am , I am confuse on how to come out, cas I want to come out , I love feeling a dude mentality an physically, and the type of dude I love so much , a slender white dude , crazy about a blond . I love the conversation I have with a dude I’m attractive with I love guys an want my frist gay relationship to last forever.I went thru alot but I go on the truth , I know who I am an I take it from there .
Today I am ok with since last year I accept myself gay, Years watching gay p*** and after the process rejected in my head was wrong, Catholic Church, my family is kind homophobic my mom's family is more than my father's also my mom's side almost all of them are toxic in this situation, they're going to know one day, but I prefer be a far way from them for my mental health. But the issue now is my boyfriend (We're dating like almost 30 days) is too early but seems kind gonna work and both love each other, anyway.... for his family and friend He said no one know except for one of his nephew, and people he had hock up with, But I am afraid I am going into to his life I probably can't hold his hand in the street or something like that, also he can though have bad impact in his work, and he is 55 years old I don't how gonna work from him (i want to talk with him about this but like when make 3 months or more) I don't know if he is waiting I met him to he came out with everything with me around. Also, important stuff almost all my good friends or people I just know, I have said I am gay but have others I am not in my head "its not time". and thanks for the video
I suggest you keep that boyfriend and he you. Partners don’t come easily. Holding hands on the street is impossible. I live in ‘Gay Amsterdam’. Here homos are getting beaten up by muslim immigrant population’s kids. Gay life comes with limitations. Get married and then look over your shoulder. I am Catholic. Never had a problem with that. Vatican might not agree but Jesus is ok. Parents never important to me. Not accepting yet also not hostile towards me. Left home at 19. Very reserved contacts. Both are dead now (i’m 65). Just unvest in the possible love. Not people you don’t need. You’re both in your fifties. Fuck sake, enjoy 😉. In the end few will care about you. Good luck. 👍
If your friends don't accept you for who you really are, then they never really were your friends in the first place. "Never try to be liked by everyone!" (No One has ever achieved this) Just chill out, ensconce yourself and only accept the people who like you for who you really are.
*It doesnt matter to me if youre gay, bisexual, transgender, lesbian etc... we are all human. acceptance, love, understanding and respect is what we all need. I admire you so much! wish someday I could have the chance to meet you in person...* 😘😍🥰🥰🥰
Ethan, thank you for sharing your thoughts. As a gay man myself I know exactly what you have experienced. Growing up in the 70's and 80's was a very difficult and dangerous time to come out as gay. All the confusion, pain, fear, guilt, depression, anxiety, anger, disgust, hopelessness, loneliness, homophobia, and toxic religious teachings. Society and many friends and family were ignorant and even hostile towards homosexuality. This caused me to remain in the closet almost my entire life. I too became quite the actor hiding my true self and how broken I was inside. It took years of therapy to finally free myself and live the life I was born to be. I am now an advocate for anyone in the LGBTQ community who needs the love and support the deserve. Unfortunately we still live in a world with so much hate, fascism, racism and homophobia. 🏳️🌈💙
