For those saying he was only 11 and perhaps didn't know better. That might be valid, BUT what about the next 14 years? Jake had a decade and a half to reach out and say 'Sorry, I was mistaken' Why make contact after the mom died? Whs he disinherited now that stepdad, didn't have to be there for him to keep wifey happy? We might never know.
For those who complain both here and in Reddit. This story was waterdown a little more since Jake was a complete jerk to his down father even if was 11 and clear sign he was bought out by Mark and his mother. He didn't fight "hard" as the kid was blunt and brutal when he said he despise his father .... DESPITE IT WAS THE FATHER WHO GAVE HIM EVERYTHING, just because Mark bought him with fancier stuffs. Plus people might think but Jake contact when he was an adult, right after Sarah pass away, and didn't even wait to the corpse to be cold to insert himself into OP's life. Plus it was because right after that happen, Mark kicked him out.
I was wondering what happened to Mark. He kicked the kid out hence why he ran to OP. Oh well! Jake has to understand even if he was under the influence of his mom and Mark, the decision he made to go along with it has a lifetime impact. Now he has no one and all he can do is blame his mom which is no point cause he’s gone.
@@mileshamorrison9064 Exactly. Since the this is an AI reading stuffs, the story omit some details as well. I found this one in another channel but that one had the user and updates. The sister got flak also by OP and everyone where the "FAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAMIIIIIIIIIIILYYYYYY" excuse, despite Jake never attempt to contact OP for more than 13 YEARS. Not when he was 18 or 21 either since he would had freedom to visit OP or regain contact again. NOPE! just after his mother died and Mark kicked him out.
People always give guff about “Time heals all wounds” but what they don’t get is that just because a wound is healed it doesn’t mean it won’t leave behind permenant damage.
Your story is heart-wrenching but also filled with strength and resilience. You've been through so much, and it's inspiring how you rebuilt your life and found happiness again. Stay strong and cherish the love you have now.
I don’t blame OP. He couldn’t forgive. Though he was a child he still choose another family over his dad. Never once did he come back prior to his mother’s death to speak to his father. I hope OP and his family can still be together with happiest days ahead
I doubt he really understood his choice at 11. Jake is victim of divorced parents. The man could have at least had a conversation with him. By his own account Jake was upset. Just because Mark took over does not mean he was treated with love and respect. If they had more kids I would bet Jake became an invisible kid in his own home.
the boy made his choice and that choice destroyed his father and now he has the gall the come and ask him to be his dad again. after the pain and suffering OP went through. the boy made his choice and should bare the consequences of his decision.
Idk. I mean, I get it, but he was 11. He was just a kid swayed by opinions that weren't fully his. I'd want to keep a distance, start slow, but I don't think I could ever look at my child and say "you're not mine" for a choice that was made at such a young age.
Amen. That man is a huge ahole. I seriously doubtif an 11 year old really understood all that was happening. He thinks he was the victim but in reality Jake is the victim. That man is 💩
No. There is NO FORGIVENESS for this. No matter the age, there are many decisions that are permanent. Certain bells can never be un-rung, many lines once crossed change things forever and your age matters not.
He WAS 11. Now he is 25. As he became a man at 18, he never got in contact. He only reached out after his mom died. 7+ years after he turned 18. Maybe in another 14 years, but not today.
You are not the jerk here he made his choice yeah he may have been 11 the people who say he was just a kid he had it explained to him he had it explained to him so he put understand that he would never be allowed to see his father again his father is no longer his father doesn't matter if it's blood or not he had it explained to him even if he was 11 there are kids younger than that who have done serious crimes and have been prosecuted adult because they are literally murderers as children younger then 11 so you cannot say he was just 11 he's made his bed he can f****** sit in it he can't just expect to be able to come back into your life like nothing happened so you are not the a****** here
Kids at 11 don’t understand never again. Jake was used by the mother and talked into abandoning his dad. So then his dad abandoned him. I feel for OP and Jake they were both used.
He was 24 when he came knocking at his door he probably was a kid when he made that decision but he was a adult when he decided to continue to make it On top of that he didn't even try to apologize he should have started their first
I don't blame OP. All those years ago, he explained to Jake what the choice of removing his parental rights would be, he would not be his father anymore, no more visiting him, no more keeping in touch, nothing, At 11 I would know full well what it would mean, Jake even said its for the better that it be this way and that he be with his mom and Marc. Him as an 11yo would not understand the betrayal of what that decision would be but also you're telling me those years as a teen and young adult he never once tried to find his dad? Only after his mother passes, highly suspicious.
Mark probably kicked him to the curb or Jake realized the mistake he made all those years ago after his mom died. Kids can be bought and manipulated especially if it’s coming from one of their parents
If its the case of Mark kicking him out right after his mother passed then it doesn't really matter his reasons of reaching out now. If he only gained awareness of his mistakes after his mother passed, its still too many years too late in my opinion, lives have moved on, people have changed and he could be a disaster waiting to happen for OP's family. Reaching out now all those years later and only after his mother passed is very suspicious to me. And if there was trouble in paradise with his mother and Mark, he could've reached out to OP's sister many years ago but didn't.
Man you put it too bluntly. You showed the kid off as a confused kid. But i think the OG story was a bit more brutal. "You know i cant see you after this if you do this..." Son - "Yeah, so?" Something like this was said.
@@juanpabloobregoncastillo1451 it matters because you can't understand the pain of a child telling you they don't want anything to do with you anymore for ultimately no reason sure logically the mother probably manipulated him but just because logically thats what happened that doesn't mean the father has to be okay with what happened or even want a relationship with the kid anymore it's obvious why he's contacting them after 14 years and it's unlikely to be because they want to reconnect his step dad probably told him to pound sand
