I have gotten an overload from people just repeatedly "gently" bumping into me, or someone's backpack keeps touching me on a bus. I don't even like people walking directly behind I have to just stop and let them pass. It confuses the hell out of people but whatever. The struggle is real for us Aspies man
My reaction to overload is shutting down. Very often people may ask me, "where did you go?". Apparently they were calling my name and trying to get my attention and I was, well, not "there". Some times the music in grocery stores plus the myriad shelves and selections is un-bearable~~>throw in a crying child and I am out of there!!!!!!
I couldn't t understand what you were saying because of sensory overload of the music in background...you need to get rid of it so we can hear you better..i love what you have to say and sad that I couldn't this time..
From now on, when one of my senses are overloaded, I'll focus on one that isn't overstimulated and be appreciative of that. I've never thought of that, thanks!
Can you please do a video on talking fast overeplaining or a lot in a group of people when u are into the topic,only to find out when they make fun of u for being chatty and ur embarrassed because they chatted with u for a long time before saying anything. And they then make fun of you. I just had this happen and it pretty much is the only thing I can think about now. I tend to obsess when I mess up socially and it make me feel alienated .
one thing I've been training myself to do, with some successful outcomes is what I like to refer as a sort of meditation or sleep if I'm in a large crowd, or if I'm starting to get frustrated, I try to find something to focus on, anything from music to a simple breeze of wind, I'll close my eyes and just focus on that one thing, if successful I'll open my eyes with only my mind still functional in a way, pretty much my muscles get so relaxed it's like sleeping, pretty much escaping into my mind in a way. and when I'm able to snap out of it, it feels just like waking up from a nap
I get overloads sometimes throughout the day every so often. nothing too bad usually. but i'm much more prone to getting them in the morning if things aren't just right for me for my morning process. I need my quiet time until I feel ready to go down and make coffe, maybe brrakfast if im hungry, and to feed the cats. then I still need my silence while browsing the internet until I feel like myself and ready to take on the world. otherwise if that process is broken, any slight sounds become ear piercing to me. light is much more sensitive, anyone who talks to me becomes a frustration, my focus just feels so off balance, and I can end up feeling pretty dissociative. I then get upset if I end up showing negative attitude towards anyone for nothing they really did. and I start to become angry at myself and depressed. usually I just want to go back to bed asap to restart.
+ImZennSkye Yeah, that can happen. You need to focus on something creative while you are awake this will help with anger and use energy to hell you sleep.
Dude, I showed this to my wife to help her understand sensory overload. The video and the rapid cuts with the whistling music...she def understands, now.
Hi Dan. I was also diagnosed with ASD a couple of years ago (at 27). It's great to hear from someone in a similar situation. I have an aspie service dog who helps me with overloads and melt downs. Like you said, concentrating on the sense that's free (usually touch) often helps. I've also used sensory tools like a worry stone for this. Thanks again for sharing your videos.
Hi I'm female African American age 32,when I was 28 I got diagnosed with bipolar 1, anxiety and depression(and got on disability),then last dec. Went back to the psych. Ward for the 4th time(this time it was a major meltdown with hallucinating),I got an autism test done and they concluded that I have autism spectrum.and wow this video sums me up perfectly,it took me years to realize when I'm in public the sounds,confusion etc make me build up like a ticking bomb(that's why I don't drive since I was 28,massive fear and obsorbing all the energy makes me have a meltdown.everything you said on this video was spot on for me.
lol this morning in class the kids were being SO LOUD and some kept making obnoxious trigger sounds... i kept getting wafts of a smell i didn’t like so i was literally sitting there, covering my ears, and staring down at my desk. so i guess maybe that was focusing on visual stimuli?? i didn’t get completely overloaded, so maybe.
I tried ear plugs for the first time yesterday when we went to the store, which is very stressful for me especially the day after black Friday here in the US, and I have to say it helped a lot more than I thought it would. I was still stressed, but I didn't have a melt down.
It’s been a while since I had my last overload as I am quite lucky, however I have had them in the past at school and it’s been quite scary especially as everyone around me was making fun of me trying to block out my sense of sight by sticking my head in a gap in the wall. Great Video it is so relatable and can be used to show others what it’s like.
Im 46 and ive just had my initial diagnostic session.All the indication is that i will be level 1...or Aspergers.It feels like a massive struggle lifting and hopefully a new understanding.Your videos have been great.Keep up the good work mate.😎
I feel like a character in a fighting game where you have a health bar. Some days it starts out really long others not so much for whatever reason. Each bad input mixed together acts like a combo and after my bar gets too low I get the fight or flight...there usually isn't anything to fight though so I leave. For me the big one is sound. I can ignore most smells unless I have to eat but when combined with light and motion I totally lose my ability to cope. I really like listening to podcasts when I go out by myself.
I get overloads sometimes but also sometimes I can manage loud noises or like my school cafeteria if I’m eating or talking to my friends but also sometimes I have overloads and it’s a lot and I don’t have a meltdown I just kind of shut down and stop participating in school like I’m frozen....anyone else feel like this?
That's good advice, I've been told by a couple therapists to use mindfulness meditation which is similar, basically focusing on all your senses at once which may drown out one nasty thing going on. Unfortunately for me the worst of it happens at work, where it's a public indoor environment and I'm not given leeway to move around or use electronic devices or much of anything.
Now I realize why I play games like candy crush, on my phone and I love a lot of different types of video games. I realize now that is what I turn to when I am overwhelmed. My husband bought me a tablet just so I can play mobile games.
That's what i do! Especially when there's an overload of noise, i focus on visual stimuli, mainly comp or my cell screen. It especially works at my job, the noise factor is intense (I'm a dispatcher currently but will be leaving that job this month to try and start something on my own, etc) when the noise factor is harsh I'm thankful that i have a comp screen to focus on. I'm probably one of the most efficient newcomers there, and that's mainly because when the phone rings i answer it first ring to stop it from continuing, and when my radio gets busy with demands i try and handle them as swiftly and accurately as humanly possible so the transmission time ends sooner and i can have a couple minutes of silence. The job is okay monetarily, but it's brutal on a lot of levels. I'm so happy I'm leaving! (that got a but off topic...) Anyway, nice vid ^_^
How i describe a meltdown is like when an NT is given about 20 different things to do in 1 working day and is expected to just deal with it. Eventually they will blow a fuse. With someone on the spectrum it is 2, 3 maybe even 4 things that tip them over the edge. A shut down is when you just don't feel like doing anything, or seeing anyone, or even want to talk to anyone, it's like maybe when someone just wants some quiet me time. I guess that's probably the best way i can describe it...
This video is great. Your videos makes me learn more about myself. They also help me loads. Thank you Dan. When I’m overwhelmed in school, I always put my head on the table and read a book. It calms me down a lot. I’ve always loved reading, but only recently have I realized how much they calm me down. If I’m very anxious and absolutely need to be alone then I go calm down in the bathroom. When I’m out in public in like a party or restaurant and it’s not very acceptable or rude to read a book, I just take out my phone and play a game I like or read some manga or webtoons. I also listen to music whenever I can.
Last night at work my boss came over and told me about five things I needed to do. That was no problem and I started to do them. But a little while later she came over and told me several more things I needed to do. I started to get stressed out because I really like to focus on one thing at a time. Also, I know what needs to be done at work because I do the same things every day, so being interrupted and reminded is pretty annoying. I finally had to just stop, breathe, and just focus on getting everything done. Luckily, only one of the bosses does this and I don't have to work with her that often. Otherwise I would hate this job.
I always put on my big Headphones and listen to Music on my Smartphone, when I ride the Train, because the Noise of that the Train makes bothers me and here in Germany it is forbidden to smoke inside the Train! Thank God! Because I hate that ugly smell, when someone smokes a Cigarette or a Cigar, because the bad smell is not the only reason I hate it, it's also bothering me with Asthma attacks! I have Autism and I also need to wear Glasses, because of my astigmatism and I also have Asthma!
I get like that when I'm in a crowd ie, walking up stairs in highschool or college and I've blacked out and woken up at the bottom of the stairs before because I got so dizzy and just passed out
I mainly hate stores when there are bright lights. i feel like visual things bother me the most, so as long as the lights are dimmed or natural, and there aren't too many visual things going on, or bright clothing (like with crowds, the movement is far more horrible for me than any noise) then I'm perfectly fine.
@@TheAspieWorld I AM subscribed!!! As for what I do for relaxation, I look for your videos on RU-vid and another Aspie from Australia, Paul, Asperger's from the Inside!!! I appreciate you. Keep up the great work. I pray that one day my best friend will embrace the incredibly amazing person he truly is!!! 🥰🥰🥰
Smelling weird things. Those are truly nightmares, i just cant be myself surrounded by them. I get really really anxious, i just cant focus on anything else, cant even listen to my thoughts...
Sometimes it is a bit overwhelming for me to be in a pool, especially if it's a big gymnasium. All the echoes in the room seem so amplified, but the swimming can help me calm down, unless I need to jump out because it's too cold or I feel like I can't breathe, does asthma affect your ability to breathe while in the water? I mean when your lungs or diaphragm is beneath the water
This is a great video. I know my brother has this. If someone tries to yell at my brother or keep feeding him information, he gets really angry and starts to scream and cry. Again, great video. love ur channel! (I know this video is old but whatever lol)
If i smell something or loud noise or my eyes hurt i get super angry and i always wear my sunglasses so my eyes dont hurt even if its not that sunny and i can tell what type of car a car is fro about a kilomiter away because i have sutch good eyesight
sing to your self or change the subject (concentrate on something you wanted to create). i memorise stores so I can run in and out, that and go to small busnesses. I have self tinting glasses but broke them, high cloud cover with sun filtered through and blue lights are annoying
Ok so at my school i have teams an the team that is across the hall from me sounds like theres been a murder over there! I DONT EVEN KNOW HOW PEOPLE CAN EVEN PHYSICALLY POSIBLY BE THAT LOUD?!?!?!?!?? XD
How much information is enough to get to know someone? Kind of irrelevant in this presentation but i 've misjudged the topic, while learned stimulators as incoming informations.
If I go downtown, I take my dog with me and focus 90% on him and the street (looking for shards on the street, so he doese not step on them). This works great for about an hour, then I leave.
Their all going on at the same time how do you deal with that like everything at once and it hurts bc people trying to look in my eyes too much sun too much noise too much everything
I don't like places with artificial illumination (lamps) as well, it makes me very stressed, I prefer natural illumination (sunlight, moonlight, although so I still prefer darker places, like my heart), sometimes it evens make me depressed. Sounds like footsteps on the floor above, clapping, and oral sounds make me crazy. If I stay in a place with all these stimulus for too long I get completely overwhelmed by the end of the day
Thanks for covering autism, my brother has autism not bad just a bit worse than Aspergers do u have any suggestions he is almost three and he does not talk or communicate except for saying go I don't know what he's thinking so thanks for helping me understand him, do u have any tips for me to help him ?
I wish you could talk a little slower I’m finding myself to literally have to slow your RU-vid videos down intentionally so I can catch what you’re saying.
How do you expect for a partner or spouse to respond to such overloads? I’d love to hear your perspective on how to have a long-term relationship given these challenges.
