If you don't mind attention. If I was Kat I would have gotten more angry. Cue nervous laughter around everyone and when we get in private a punch to the gut followed by a cold shoulder.
I’ve learned that people aren’t as eloquent explaining their feelings. RomComs make it seem like people will one day admit how they feel but that’s so not the case!
@@davidz2808 I have, several in fact 😂😂 there's a saying which I completely agree with 'there's a fine line between love and hate' just as you can go from loving someone to hating them you can also go from hating someone to falling in love with them
I always prefered "A Walk to Remember" over "She's all That" and similar movies, particularly on the fact that in the first one the main male character loves the girl even though she wears goofy clothes and she is not accepted by his friends aka the cool kids in school. He even buys her one of these way too big ugly knitted sweaters because that is what she likes and he doesn't want to change how she is. In "She's all That" the main guy makes fun of the "ugly" girl and only finds her attractive after her makeover.
Oh, I hate the ugly duckling - make over concept. When I got glasses as teen, and I couldn't wear lenses, I immediately felt ugly and believed others saw me as such. Because that is what the media and these movies teaches you. It destroys your self worth and confidence, and once broken, it's not that easily fix.
Mine 1. Girl always get the guy who's engaged to someone else. 2. Girl or guy lies to each other and they end up being together. 3. Never hear from guy's fiance again 4 . Everyone is gorgeous 5. Fantasy element to some rom coms e.g time travel,robot,fish out of water. 6. Makeover scene 7. Guys showing off their abs. 8. Guy stares at girl for a fucking eternity until his like ah fuck it im gonna go in for a kiss. 9. A dance scene 10. Love Triangle sceneario.
Yep, I agree, especially about the "Disposable Fiancé" trope, in that they usually start off Nice, if bland, but then become controlling and possessive, even if they were perfectly pleasant beforehand, as a way to get the "Main Couple" together. 🙄
One thing I have noticed in alot books with romantic elements is that being a possessive asshole is apperently supposed to come off as being romantic. I hate this so much.
I wish that there could be more examples of a guy and a girl who are simply platonic besties, and nothing more. Sometimes, platonic friendships can be JUST as rewarding as romantic relationships. ♥️
People marrying soon after they meet. In real life, the vast majority of couples never marry. In the Western world in the 21st century, the vast majority of those who do so cohabit for months or years beforehand.
The problem is when it affects you in real life: Madame Bovary Syndrome is a behavioral disorder that came after the appearance of 19th century romantic novels. Since then, idealization of love has driven thousands of people (usually women) to constant frustration and disappointment. The search for “perfect love” always ends up crashing into the realistic perception of a relationship. Madame Bovary syndrome is a psychopathology first described in 1892 by the philosopher Jules de Gaultier. In his essay based on the book Madame Bovary, he talks about its main character, Emma. He says she’s the perfect stereotype of a person with what he calls “chronic affective dissatisfaction."
Rom coms are fine for most of people. However they can be very dangerous for these who failed to built an idea of what romantic relationships are from real life. E.g. children of divorce
Number 3 is what I’m guilty of. I usually fell for “bad boys” thinking it would be a romantic movie that I can change them. It lead to abusive, unhealthy and toxic relationships. I’ve grown from it since then.
Announcer: real couples tend to talk and actually do things. Me: I want to do nothing but just exist and watch some subbed anime with her under a blanket eating reese's cups together.
Ms Mojo: love at first sight doesn't really happen in real life My dad (in '92 or '93): *falls in love with my mom at first sight* Ms Mojo: generally love at first sight relationships dont work out My parents: *been married for 22 years*
Just because it worked out for your parents doesn’t mean it’ll work out for the rest of us. It’s cringe asf. The idea of falling in love with the perfect person. It destroys men. Especially.
@@ReksClips 1. I was partly making a joke while also trying to point out that it happens and it can last. It might be rare but not impossible. 2. my dad didn’t fall in love with the “perfect person” he fell in love with the *right* person. My mom is not perfect (although she is pretty close in her own way). 3. I never claimed it would work for everyone else. 4. If it makes you feel better my mom did not fall in love with him at first sight. 5. ~I direct your attention back to # 1~ 6. Have a sense of humor. 7. “It’s cringe af”…??? If you can’t believe in even the possibility of love at first sight or true love then you must be a very unpleasant person. 8. I hope one day you fall in love at first sight and you spend the rest of your life with them and your cynicism just washes away😁
In many romcoms, a male & female character who've known each other for years suddenly fall in love with each other. Even more ridiculous is when they realise that they've been in love with each other all along. That's ridiculous - you can't be in love with someone for years & be unaware of that!
Actually you can, if you or the other person in question are on the Autistic spectrum it's reasonably certain. Maybe not for years but weeks or months sure
the reason why the nice guy or nerd usually gets the girl in movies is because THAT IS WHO WROTE THE MOVIE. majority of hollywood writers were awkward socially inept geeks in school. thus these movies often act as wish fulfillment.
People tend to overlook the “comedy” aspect in romantic comedies. That’s because these situations are created to be laughed at and entertain than actually inspire real life relationship and social skills. If you ever wondered why there are comedy movies and romantic comedy movies but NO ROMANTIC MOVIES, now you know why.
As a woman who once idolized "the grand gesture" as a teen, I can 100% confirm that expectation comes from either a rom-com or someone in their life (parents, older siblings/cousins, etc) telling them to expect such things as proof of love.
Kinda missed the point of video. But get ROM com can eff us up. Sometimes I get really anxious about never finding someone who I find attractive and he finds me as well. 🤔
Watches Rom-Coms: Ahw so Cute I love a happy ending Me IRL: Christ where is all these bloody guys,in these rom coms in reality. I want a Matt Flamhaff,a Flynn Rider ....I could go on. All the guys I like never like me. ....(sobs) eatting chocolate.
"How many people do you know have undergone a complete makeover? " We hate these tropes but make idiots like Kylie Jenner a billionaire because she had a glow up with a good plastic surgeon.
Love at first sight doesn't exist the way we see in the movies no but I do think something similar exists. You can meet a person talk to them a little feel a spark of connection and go away wanting to get to know them more. So if you had that and the relationship worked out rather understandably on your wedding day you might well say it was love at first sight.
Yeh. Girls are all over the bad boys who treat them like crap. And than they are totally surprised that the bad boy beats the shit out of them. WOW never saw that coming. OMG * sarcasm *
Being commanding its okey Seriously guy in kissing booth because he good looks and he played captain whatsoever its ok for you?? No its not, its really stupid dumb and crazy
There's only one main scene in Miss Congeniality according to this channel. 🤣 I don't think Romeo and Juliet count for the rom com at first sight shenanigan... that was Shakespeare. Lol I also don't think Bridget Jones counts dor the nice guy thing because while Mark is a nice guy.. he didn't pursue Bridget acting like "mr nice guy".. he was a nice guy and Bridget and him grew to love each other over time. :)
Not gonna lie I spent my early 90's childhood expecting Leonardo Dicaprio to see me and immediately fall in love. Of course they're had to be appropriate music playing.
500 Days of Summer is good for this list because it is about some loser who has all the unrealistic expectations from rom coms and he gets punished for it. It seems like that movie is a warning not to get your romantic ideas from Rom Coms.
That relationships aren't about mutual love and respect or shared interests or any of that nonsense; but instead about changing or fixing your partner and molding them into what you think they should be.
Rom-coms and Disney movies in general had our perception of "love" really screwed up and askew. I've learned this the hard way many times. However ironically, my marriage with my wife feels like a fairy tail.
I know a guy in his 60s, and he’s constantly saying on FB how amazing his wife is, and how much she does for him, he apparently gushed about her decorating their front porch for Xmas. People mention how OTT it is. I think grand gestures are OK in moderation, otherwise it could become embarrassing?
One that annoys me is when one of the main characters cheats on a boyfriend/girlfriend or just flirts with the other lead and it's made OK by the boyfriend/girlfriend being a secret scumbag. In fact any situation where someone has to choose between two potential partners and the deciding factor is always that one of them is a completely terrible person. Like the audience has to know who the "right" choice is.
Yes, thank you. One of the things about 80s and 90s movies is they taught me and my friends that if we want a girl we just "don't give up." And big silly or assertive unwanted gestures are romantic. It's silver screen poison. But we were taught that this is what girls respond to. Movies, books, songs, almost all forms of art reward persistence and not taking no for an answer and somehow it's suppose to work out. When you're a little kid and have no experience at all, movies & TV were all we had to learn from. So... it wasn't helpful. And it warped our views on how to express interest in others. ALSO.... movie and TV taught females that men are supposed to do the initial pursuing and be INSTANTLY funny, charming, clever, attractive, witty, original, assertive, sensitive, strong, and confident. Does anyone remember how hard it was to approach a female before we all had cell phones? The expectations these movies placed in the heads of women who would be approached by men is crazy impossible to meet.
1- Be different and the most wanted guy in school will fall for u. 2- get in danger and the Golden boy will save you. 3- Dress differently and people won't have a thing to do other than stare at u. 4- love is all sunshine and butterflies. 5- Even when he treats you badly he still secretly loves you.
I agree with most of these cliches but most of all I got to go with # 9. I'm 24 and I've never kissed a girl or been on a date with one but I've always maintained platonic friendships with women. I grew up with 6 older girl cousins and an older sister and in most of my previous jobs most of my co-workers consisted of women. I'm most assuredly not gay and for most of my life I thought for sure I was asexual; I could be wrong. If a woman is interested in me, she has to make the call, I can't do anything. No matter how I end up, I will always be the platonic friend who offers advice or gives the shoulder to cry on. That's just me!!!
Asexual means having no sexual attraction towards anyone, so you must know whether or not that's true of you. Although most women say they want gender equality, most never make the first move. The chance of girls approaching you & seducing you is very remote. The less sexually experienced & skilled you are, the less attractive you'll be to women; most only want sexually experienced lovers. However, I don't know how you can fake being sexually experienced.
Ted Flanc, please don't listen to David Z. He doesn't understand that asexuality like ALL sexuality is a spectrum. Loads of women in this world have no problem making the first move. And many don't care if you have a ton of experience or not. In fact for a lot of women I know, it's easier to train a guy who isn't super experienced. And let's face it... we all end up training our male partners to some degree.
I understand well that asexuality isn't a spectrum. It means never being attracted to anyone - there aren't degrees of that. Where are these loads of women who'll make the first move on a man whom they don't know? The large majority of women have a strong preference for men who are highly experienced & skilled. Most will automatically reject those whom they know or suspect have little or no experience. Where are you claiming that women can be found who prefer inexperienced men?!
@@MR-hu3ht I simply meant that I think men don't always have to go first. Men can at times be over-confident with themselves and think that they know what they are doing when talking to women. But if a woman moves first, that shows the man that the woman is genuinely interested and actually wants to talk to him for real. That's all I meant!!!
Tbh I bet it's different when you're actually attracted to the person you kinda overlook and find interesting but if it's someone you're clearly avoiding hell ya that's creepy as hell
I have seen so many of my female friends falling for these things, I even tried to help one of them to get out of a terrible relationship but well....and some male friends that I have also have this feeling that they deserve something in return for being good with someone, especially a girl, of course, not everyone is like this but you know, maybe its just a cultural thing at this point, I don't know
To be fair, While You Were Sleeping hits on a lot of these tropes to make the same points of this video. In the end, Sandra Bullock didn't end up with the guy she was pining after at the beginning of the movie.
This is why women want Prince Charming who rich great job, they won’t look at the nice guy Plummer who just normal and would have treated them like a princess
My favorite movie is clueless and acila silver stone and Paul Rudd performance very great job explained things about character July 19 1995, movie culeless,
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Ok....well....if I didn’t love/like the guy I wouldn’t like the big grand gesture but if I did have a guy that I liked that did that I would really like it!
And the classic, when a perfectly explainable misunderstood happens, someone runs away without the other person having tim to explain that it wasn't what it seemed. Like X sees Y from afar with Z, X thinks Y is cheating or that Y likes Z and X never stood a chance.
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I think number one should be (though I agree with all of the list) that People NEED to Wind Up With Someone. I think that is SO incredibly toxic! Or the person who doesn't want a relationship is a convert by the end. A romcom I want to see is where a girl dumps her fiance because she realizes that she actually isn't ready for marriage, and commits to herself. Show me THAT, Hollywood!
All is so true and also let some people know sometimes the bad boys are just as boyfriends material or in my case husband material you really need to know who they really are and why they show that they are bad boys because you be surprise they are really the nice guys in the end if given a real chance
It's not a healthy behavior people! Watch movies is not wrong, we all enjoy fiction, expect that for your real life is the problem. Nerd quote below: Madame Bovary Syndrome... is a behavioral disorder that came after the appearance of 19th century romantic novels. Since then, idealization of love has driven thousands of people (usually women) to constant frustration and disappointment. The search for “perfect love” always ends up crashing into the realistic perception of a relationship. Madame Bovary syndrome is a psychopathology first described in 1892 by the philosopher Jules de Gaultier. In his essay based on the book Madame Bovary, he talks about its main character, Emma. He says she’s the perfect stereotype of a person with what he calls “chronic affective dissatisfaction.”
Makeup does wonders it can make Sandra bullock look eh when she is already naturally gorgeous. She never looks bad, but makeup can make her look just ok. I fell in love with someone at first sight. I fall more and more in love with him every day.
My best friend told me that she approved of my late husband when we started dating because she'd catch him watching me and smiling to himself frequently (obviously not in a creepy way). It's not the only reason but it was one, for sure. He's the only man I was ever with who she truly approved of and we've been besties since 3 years of age!
I call bull on the makeover entry. We've seen makeovers alot. Jerry o'Connell Chris pratt Clay Aiken Emma Watson The kid that played Neville in Harry Potter Sharon Osbourne Jaleel white ( Urkel) Renne zellweger ( before the plastic surgery) 7. Twilight isnt a rom com. Its an example of how NOT to make a movie 5. Nope. Girls go for douchebags. Not nice guys 3. Nope. They're set in there ways 1. In real life the women in Twilight, the notebook, and love actually would have filed a restraining order and put 911 on speed dial
Actually I've gone for the nice guy more than once. But he wasn't a "Nice Guy". The problem is the "Nice Guy" always thinks he's a nice guy, but isn't.
The guy in rom coms arent the man of every girls dreams. They are the best buddy of every girl's dreams. That is the guy in their friend zone they love so much and hope stays in their life forever but would never go any further than a high five of a one-armed bestie hug with them.
I see nothing wrong with the big gesture trope... especially if people have done it in real life. Its show casing the love someone feels for the other. I dont like being the center of attention but the grand proposals are so cute and wh are you to claim no one wants that in real life?
