honestly i can’t really get behind the ‘top/giver’ thing in committed sapphic relationships!! like don’t you wanna give and be given at the same time, esp if it’s someone you love? or maybe i’m too sentimental lol. i just can’t imagine my gf making love to me and her not experiencing the absolute magic of orgasming outside of masturbation.
I totally get that. But some people enjoy sex without orgasming or like to orgasm at another time than when they are "giving." Different strokes for different folks and all that.
I agree with you, my default mood is actually more like a receiver but it feels selfish to be pleasured all the time. If the other person is okay with "receiving" then I'd do anything to make them feel the same pleasure
When I run to the bathroom I'm peeing to prevent a uti, kidney infection or yeast infection. No one should feel or made to feel pressured or guilty for running to the bathroom after sex. Guilt tripping someone's need to maintain their health isn't it
@@alexlesbean8739 it's always reccomended to urinate asap before and after sex. Even just holding your urine without doing anything sexual can cause UTIs. I have a kidney disease and even just taking a bath when I'm already clean and without scented products or bath bombs I'll still get a uti and/or a kidney infection. It's unfortunate
There's a whole rest of the sentence "[...] and goes off to make dinner or something". Sis wasn't saying what you're objecting to at all. Chill out, pee, and come back.
Breath Work is so important for cunnilingus . When people say that their tongue is too tired , that•s because they are asphyxiated! . Making sure i•m always breathing deeply even when my face is buried increased my longevity significantly . ^_^
@@ramdi5070 The Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy has an article titled "Sex and Sexuality" where you can find some useful information about why consent is flawed as criteria for guiding our sexual behavior. You can read it on the Internet.
As someone from the BDSM community, I can honestly tell you that communication and consent are really important for both vanilla (Non-BDSM) or BDSM oriented relationships. It sadly does get overlooked by many. Even safewords can be a great addition to vanilla relationships as it allows for quick communication if something is wrong without having to explain directly. Another thing that I also think is a good thing to really help improve the sex is to talk about it. Maybe the next day or a couple of hours after you had sex and the hormones have died down a bit and then just have a good chat about what you and your partner liked, disliked and so forth, it can really improve things.
I'm not in a relationship rn and I don't know if I will be anytime soon, but I definitely want to make sure that if I do end up with someone, they actually have a good time and I don't just sit there uselessly lmao
Not to brag, but I've always been a good giver to all the (2) partners I've had. However I don't feel like a good receiver. I feel so vulnerable and scared that I end up not enjoying anything. Idk why but I feel like I have to meet certain expectations when I'm at the receiving end, like moan loud and act all hot and stuff lol
I feel like finding something to focus on, like touching their hair, feeling their back on ur fingers, helps relax a bit. How their lips feel, when you focus on all all the sensations on ur body, you can enjoy yourself more. And that’s all you’re meant to do, let your body/voice react and it won’t be performative, it’ll be genuine
Couldn’t have said it better myself. Though for me it is less of a feeling of being scared/vulnerable, the expectation of me enjoying their performance makes me anxious and takes me out of it. I’d rather just top where everything is much more simple for me
Sex is about losing control. Some people are quiet, others are noisy. Some things you dont even know you like or dislike until any given moment. Communication...
@@KearaGraves Great advice, the breathing advice was very helpful especially to help with managing the discomfort of penetration. Didn't use it on Valentines day in the end because I underestimated just how cold a night in a tent in winter would be 🤣 very romantic but not sexy
Ya’ll I need advice. So, I recently started dating this girl and this is basically a best friend to lovers situation. I’m very much bi and have had girlfriends in the past. But her, this is her first gay awakening and she doesn’t know anything about wlw relationships.(we’re in Japan, super heteronormative) We’ve already talked a little bit about the relationship and the deed, but I can tell she’s definitely not comfortable being a top. I don’t mind topping her. She’s the first person I’ve ever even considered switching the roles.. HOwEVeR, not only have I been a bottom all my life, I was a pillow princess. So I don’t have a single iota of how to top. I really don’t want to mess up and give her a scary experience. How do I make her comfortable and relaxed when she’s already anxious about the whole thing? Anything is helpful..
It’s going to vary with everybody, so think about how she approaches anxiety-inducing situations and how she makes herself feel safe. But my main recommendation is to talk her through it. Don’t just “do things” and leave her guessing where you’re headed and what you expect of her. Narrate what you’re doing and explain why. Clue her in to what you’re looking for or hoping to achieve and invite her to guide you. If she’s comfortable, have her show you how she likes to touch herself, and learn from her.
@@michaelcarey1495 Hi. I really appreciate your input. I was low key mentally panicking when I wrote that, but I’ve calmed down a bit now, and I’ll try to talk to her and understand more of her perspective. Thank you so much!
I'm so sorry that you had to have a personal experience of your mom walking in 😭😂 something similar happened to a person that Just Sharon had reacted to in her video: that someone had accidentally answered their mom's video call in the middle of it... 🤣
Thank you for the reminder to come back after I need to pee. 😅 I’m terrible at remembering to cuddle and enjoy the after time together. I’ll be keeping this in mind tonight with my partner. ☺️
"This is for the TOP, the giver." - Well, how did _I_ get here then? As an Ace, this video was quite overwhelming and unrelatable 😂 However a quite interesting change of perspective. Gotta say I'm quite impressed how transparent ppl in the comment section are. Keep rocking on 🥴
@@redskull4949 what no that’s definitely not what a woman should do, we can do whatever we want, sad to know you are still living in the past, maybe you are even against the right to vote for women, maybe you were even fine with sl@very, but you can’t tell women in this world to do what YOU want and not what THEY want. please, someone educate this person.
@@redskull4949 the most sexist piece of crap I’ve ever seen. Women can do whatever they want. I don’t like children and don’t want children. I don’t wanna be with a man. MIND YOUR FREAKING BUSINESS AND STOP BEING A DICTATOR FOR FRICKS SAKE
Does a woman have to be a lesbian to enjoy a lesbian relationship? I have never been in one, but I have known so many women who I have through about being with. Intelligent, articulate, funny and hard-working women. So much more interesting and worthwhile. I think there is a phobia of being lesbian, not that there is anything wrong with it.
There’s nothing wrong with trying the same sex! You might actually really enjoy so much you might want to stay with it! Yes I tried with many people who are the same sex .. it’s pretty sexy.! I’m married now.! Do I miss it? Yes! If with my own family like cousins!
Since you have a blindfold on you can use your other senses smell, taste, and touch. Whip cream, strawberries maybe some honey or chocolate. Light that inner candle, deep breaths.. thanks for all the time and energy you put in your channel❤️🌈
Thank you creator after watching a few of your videos , I think I will be able to write Female smut . I am a demi girl and bi romantic , so I want lesbian relationships to be written properly and not messed up , hope to write it on wattpad soon .
I’m a lesbian but currently I don’t even have a girlfriend yet. But um I’m kinda like trying to get one or two. But I would love to celebrate Valentine’s Day but with my 2 girlfriends. But having 2 girlfriends is my goal for myself.
I like your channel because you treat sexual topics without malice and in a natural way. I would say that your reflections are fine in any case whether heterosexual, lesbian or gay, personally I don't set myself limits, I don't ask what they like and what not, I try to understand it, I don't tell my partner what I like and what not, I could disappoint him . As a pansexual, I have only five limitations; I don't like tattoos, I don't like piercings, I don't like very fat people and I don't like hairy people, I don't like women with breasts bigger than a glass of champagne, I like bondage
Honestly, these “tips” are mostly empty statements, and kind of all over the place. It shouldn’t be a ‘maybe’ to discuss boundaries and past experiences prior to sex with a partner for the first time. Asking what they like and don’t like is important, and you should both know this beforehand. Also, if aftercare is something you need done a certain way, tell your partner. And ask your partner about what they like during aftercare. I was also surprised to find that the checking in with your partner even after consent is initially given process was described as if it’s only important for those who have a past SA experience. You should be checking in even if you know your partner doesn’t have an SA experience. Consent can be withdrawn at any time, and your partner might not like something you’re doing and have trouble expressing that. Again, you should discuss these things prior to sex and ask how you would like to check in with each other during the process. Some people are more verbal than others during sex. Also, STI testing and protection weren’t really discussed here either. As for edging, don’t just do that to someone without having discussed it before. Don’t assume someone wants to be edged or frankly, don’t assume anything about how they want you to treat them. Overall, I worry about young sapphics stumbling upon this video.
Long time follower and I agree. Keara has done much better content. I feel like this video was half-assed, like it was only a pretext for the sponsored portion.
hey just wanted to say to be careful with putting the right lesbian flag in your thumbnail as i believe it is the lipstick one rather than the sunset one :)
sort of? if there’s any penetration whether that’s like fingers or strap or whatever then yes the receiver should pee after for uti prevention but otherwise ur good
Hey I was just wondering if someone was non binary and liked people who aren't men, isn't that lesbian? People got mad at me for saying someone who is a non man who loves a non man is a lesbian...
Hope you are getting therapy and maybe there is some kind of intimate activity that isnt triggering for you. Im so sorry. A person that SA another is not a human
Um... I have a question. I think I'm ace but I'm not sure. Like I dont want anyone to tuch me sexually but I really want to do it to someone but like I don't want them to tuch me. What does that mean?
There are many types of labels, but I suggest that instead of focusing on "fitting a label", you can experience freely (however I understand if you feel safe by using a label) so, answering your question: Some asexuals aren't uncomfortable with the idea of touching their partners ^^ Every experience is different but is valid! Just communicate with them and tell them what you want, I hope I helped
My girlfriend watched this video😭😭😭she’s gonna f**k my a$$ with no mercy😩she’s too addicted to me and won’t let me rest 🤯😭she talked about having a baby with her yesterday and i’m so scared
Why do you discriminate against lesbians with penises? You left them out completely. You didn't mention them at all. That is not inclusive. You as a trans person should know better. Do it differently and better next time.
They don’t discriminate them at all, I would even say they respect literally erery different soul on this earth! There’s so many topics Keara could talk about but they chose to talk about what they’re experienced in, that’s what it it is 😉 - Take care! 🥰
Video: Tips for WLW spicy time, aimed at ‘The Giver’ Me, a cishet guy who prefers giving over receiving, watching this to learn sapphic wisdom on how to make my future partner feel like an absolute goddess: 📝✍️✍️✍️✍️✍️🫡 On a more serious note, this was a great video and had a bunch of good points! I especially liked the emphasis you placed on the consent part. Many people go along with things before they are ready for it for fear of upsetting their partner, and that’s very saddening to think about. The biggest tip I’ve learned when it comes to consent is that if it isn’t an enthusiastic yes, it’s likely actually a no. You and your partner should WANT to have fun together, otherwise you shouldn’t be having this intimate experience at that time. I never want to force my partner to do something she/they are uncomfortable with. Your pleasure doesn’t outrank their comfort/safety. I’ll keep these things in mind next time I’m in a relationship and we get to the level of commitment necessary for me to be comfortable with getting intimate. I’ve recently realised I’m most likely demisexual, because I just don’t feel it with casual, FWB or fresh relationships or situationships and can happily go without sex if I’m lacking that connection. I can’t bring myself to open up to anyone on such a personal level if I don’t plan on staying with them. At one point I even considered whether I might be ace (for context, I had my first crush at SIXTEEN years old. Not even exaggerating, I thought there was something wrong with me haha), but I’ve proven that incorrect with time. I think feeling this way/being demi lends itself well to being the ‘Giver’ type, because it requires a lot of care for the person and their enjoyment to even reach the stage where it happens. You also tend to not care that much about your own gratification, but making your partner feel good is very important (to me, at least).
