Real fam, you picked the topic and we’re weighing in! We open up about the times where it might be okay to accept drinks from someone else when you’re in a relationship… for one of us. #GirlChat #Dating #Relationships
Jeannie’s mentality has changed since being with jeezy , her old marriage she would’ve said that it’s a “ compliment “ if a woman bought freddy a drink or vice versa
Loni be looking so gorgeous this season! She has been so beautiful and gorgeous but this season? Her makeup and her hair and her outfits are just beautiful and ✨chef’s kiss✨. Love this season for her!
Something I’ve noticed in the past few years since Jeannie has been with Jezzy. She’s soooo much more protective of him and their relationship🥰 I love it! She seems so in love. With her past marriage, she was always like I like girls to notice my man and talk to him, etc. 😂😭not with Jezzy! Leave him alone girls!
That's because her only investment in Freddy was the marriage license itself. With Jay Jenkins, her entire being - soul, mind, heart (and uterus 🤣) - is invested. She loves him and more importantly she IS Loved BY him, which is something she clearly didn't have before. So I understand her growth. It's born out of finally feeling *SAFE.* I'm happy for her! 🥰🤗🤱🏽🍼🙏🏽
Wait how is a man in a relationship buying another woman a drink is the same as a man buying a woman a drink who’s in a relationship? This doesn’t make sense and isn’t a thing 😂
I would never accept .You have to show some respect to your partner. When you accept the drink you give them hope that you’re either single or not serious about the relationship your in. And if a guy clearly sees that you have a ring in and he still sending you a drink..that a huge 🚩 🚩🚩 *Vice verse for women sending drinks to a guy*
I wouldn’t accept a drink and I wouldn’t like it if my significant other accepted one or sent one. It’s disrespectful. Your acceptance or sending of a drink might send the wrong message. It’s a no for me and him.
My boyfriend and I were at a karaoke bar in Houston where we ran into his ex. She bought him a drink, but she asked me first if she could buy us both a round (we were in the ladies room). I told her it was cool and she had them sent over to our table. When I told him where it came from, he frowned all up but accepted it because I wanted it. He sipped mine to make sure it was okay, then gave it to me while leaving his untouched. I be cool, but he don't play like that. Lol
My question Is why did you accept.🤔 You could have easily said, thank you,but we good!🤗 She was clearly digging at him.🤨 It was your opportunity to protect him, just as he should do the same. It's not about you being cool with it. It's about "respect US" we don't need anybody paying for OUR drinks, especially ex's!🤨Just saying 🤗
@@Li-Anderson Because I wanted to! If I didn't want to, I simply wouldn't have accepted it! That's it and that is all! It was a good drink and I enjoyed every last swallow. Sho did! It's been two years and haven't seen her since. But what was I gonna do? Cry? Fight? Not interested in breaking my gorgeous nails, my hair is real so if she catch me by the hair she got me, and I'm ugly when I cry so I'm sho nuff not doing any of these things! If I got to act a fool and feel some type of way every time some chick is interested, we don't need to be together. If he for the streets, I'll find out and move on. I turn plenty of heads and I'm a catch so I'll be just fine, but I don't have time to be growing a mustache and playing Magnum PI, getting all emotional over the slightest thing. Who? Nah baby not ya girl. We good over here! 😜😂
Loni looks gorgeous! I love this outfit and that color is popping on her. I agree with both Jeannie and Loni. If you are in a relationship why are you going out buying another woman a drink?
This is actually kind of funny we’re having this discussion because on Real Housewives of Potomac… last week’s episode the ladies AND their husbands are on a trip and they were at dinner at a nice restaurant chilling , having drinks , eating good , having fun… and a group of four white men told a waitress to give the group a round of drinks on them… and y’all THEIR WIVES WERE ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE RESTAURANT 😭😭! Wendy was lighthearted and gracious to tell the waitress to get the men’s wives some drinks ! When I tell you I died cuz I didn’t know even sum married men could be that bold 😂 it’s all in good fun as long as no ulterior motives are involved
I'm sure the guys knew they would most likely be on TV with their actions, so they were gamed to do it. Without cameras there, I'm not so sure they would've done it.
Personally, I don't feel comfortable with any monetary transaction that I didn't consent to. Buying someone a drink makes that person feel obligated to feel grateful and or accept it even if they don't want to. If you like someone, don't buy them a drink as an ice breaker, Just go over and chat them up and feel the vibe.
It’s wrong either way if you’re in a relationship. Accepting or sending a drink leads to unnecessary conversations. Respect the relationship you’re in or be single and gladly accept/send🤷🏾♀️
I've been out in a group where some ladies were married, and some(including myself) were single and a man sent over a bottle or paid for our entire meal, nothing more nothing less.
One time when I was 8months pregnant me and my boyfriend were at this club for his cousins engagement party & I went to up to the bar to get water & a guy kept shoving a drink at me to the point I took it and walked back to my bf and told him what happened and then he got the water for me . And he got mad & accused me of flirting and getting drinks . I felt super uncomfortable & it felt really disrespectful to be accused of something like that when I’m walking around with his kid in my stomach. It’s all about perception and different situations. Just because someone accepts something doesn’t mean they wanted to or anything had to happen or will happen.
Yes, Lonnie does look great! I have a Shaq story as well… About 6 yrs ago, I was eating with my fam @ Waffle House one night in ATL & in walks Shaq. He covered everyone’s bill (too bad it wasn’t a 5 star ⭐️ restaurant, but hey it was the kind gesture that counts!) He stayed after he paid talked & took pics!! Cool 😎 ass guy!!
A free drink is a free drink… my partner and I will enjoy that drink… thank you. Now, you buying a woman a drink… no. She can give you that drink but you doll can’t give her a drink.
Lol, that's how I see it!!! I had a guy offer to buy me a drink, and when I told him I had a boyfriend... AND POINTED MY BF OUT in the crowd, the guy offered to buy both of us, and everyone in my group a drink. He immediately lost any "game" and became a gentleman about it, and my bf still got upset with me for accepting and broke up with me later that night for it 🙄 (only to change his mind the next morning). To me, there was nothing shady about it, I pointed him out point blank and told the guy I was taken. And the guy ended up buying all of us drinks (4 of us), not just me. I accepted bc like you said, that was 1 less drink my group had to buy that night. It was a gracious thing to do, why not just accept the compliment & well manners?
You know Jeannie truly in love with her man when she answers the question like that . If you look at older videos like season 1-4 and how she answer questions about her ex husband . you can truly see the difference.
I feel if a women accepts a drink from a guy, and she is in a relationship wouldn't her spouse be like the guy she is willing to accept the drink from! I don't understand getting upset at your spouse for buying a drink for another women when essentially you are the women who accepting drinks from other guys 🤷🏾♀️ I would think show equal respect, don't offer and don't accept!
Story time.. My man AND I were out.. and a chick sent HIM a drink..so l got up and told HER.. " Clearly you don't see him alone and sending 'A' drink is uncouth and you're too well dressed for that. "I'm having a Strawberry Daiquiri, btw.. Thanks!" The Daiquiri was deLISH!!
I don't think anything is wrong with accepting a drink even if you're in a relationship... I agree with what Adrienne said the comparable example is a woman buying him a drink and I wouldn't mind as long as that's where it ended.
Do whatever works for your marriage lmao my husband & I go out with friends all the time & our goal is to see how many ppl we can play with before coming back together at the end of the night 😭
One time I was with my gal pals and we were at a roof top bar some guys started talking to us you know the usual y’all look nice what brings you out? My friend was like oh it’s my girls birthday. They said hey let us buy y’all some drinks. So we ALL went to the bar with the gentlemen. It was 3 of us we watched the bar tender make our drinks and the bartender gave us our drinks. WE ALL got a free drink not just me. We all chatted for a brief period of time the men wished me a happy birthday and that was that. But as a married woman I’ve never accepted a drink from a guy other than those types of situation. It’s always been a birthday or the guy is hitting on my single friend and she says you gotta but us ALL a drink lol.
It’s just a drink 😭😭😭. I’d say hey I’m taken but thank you so much for the drink. Doesn’t have to be anymore or less. Why is everyone so insecure out here
I don’t think it’s insecurity so much as it is boundaries and respect. If me and my husband are together and one of us is bought a drink we’d accept it and share. If we’re not together then it would be out of line to accept anything cuz ur alone (or with friends) and can look very much single, possibly opening up a way for conversation or giving the buyer the wrong message. And under no circumstances should anyone in a marriage be buying someone else a drink 😭😭 that part didn’t even make sense lmao
This was my question 😂😂😂 & I said the same thing Adrienne said!! It’s not the same comparison. One is receiving and one is giving!! Two different intentions. My husband and I don’t do this btw, I wouldn’t accept a drink from a guy out of respect for my husband & my husband wouldn’t buy a girl a drink [i wish he would 😡 ]!! We were just having a whole ass discussion about this cuz we seen a video on tik tok about this! My name is Gabriela btw not Gabriel or Ayala 😂
Damn y’all - I was one of those people that thought the show was doomed without Tam & as much as I miss her and want her to come back (idc idc idc!) this episode proved tht these ladies can hold this show down with the 3 of them and still keep me engaged and laughing smiling . I really love them & yes I miss my boo Garcelle ♥️
Funny me and my guy had a similar conversation. The difference is someone sending me something that I can’t do anything about but reject it. If my man take the initiative to send a woman a drink it’s on him and he’s out of line. However, If a woman sends him a drink it’s okay because he has no control over that and I wouldn’t care if he drunk it while telling her he’s taken. Have fun and TRUST each other.
If I was apart of a large and the person wanted to pay for everyone's drink then I would accept because the person may not even be interested in me but in someone else in the group ....now if the person want to just buy me a drink I would respectfully decline
I would not feel any type of way if my man accepted a drink from a woman, and I hope he’d feel the same vice versa. Free drinks! We’re going home together might as well save some money while we’re out
If you are in a committed relationship then no, on both sides. Besides you don't know what is truly in that drink. If someone is paying for the group, then I'm fine with that, but if that chic steps to my man, then I'm going to need him to tell the lady that he is attached and if she would like a reimbursement he is ready to give her the reimbursement.
She know rappers have a rep and so many groupies will throw themselves on her man lol she scurred she knows now the man is cheating if he getting too comfy with the opposite sex and especially when the chick is closer to the male and not the female. Her ex husband Freddy was cheating on Jeannie at least 4 years before they broke up 🤔🤔🤭🤭he been knew that broad that he is currently with right now she was actually the groupie and come around she would be hella close and cool with Freddy but not Jeannie by any means so suspect status
If my man wants to drink, then he buys. I ain't letting a guy/gal buy drinks to my man. I wouldn't be mad at 'em - how would they know? But, my man does and I hope he respects me.
There are so many layers missing in this conversation... 😂😂 but staying onto the topic, regardless of the situation or status, there is indeed a double standard, and that's unfair
I agree with Jeanie. A woman shouldn’t accept the drink if she is in a relationship. I do know some men that honestly don’t mind it if it’s someone who’s old or ugly. If he’s fine the. Yeah your mans gunna have an issue. But no a man shouldn’t be buying drinks if he’s in a relationship
Glad they called out the RIDICULOUS comparison. Compare the wife receiving to the husband receiving. But we all know why he used that comparison. They always trying to be slick.
I'm on Jeannie energy!!!!🤣🤣🤣 It's not okay on either end. I'd expect him to be mad if some man buys me a drink while he's there. I wouldn't expect him to make a scene but it's normal to be bothered. I would be mad at first too if a woman sent him a drink, but then I'd ask for a sip to see if it's actually good or not cause if it's tasty and free, thank you kind thirsty stranger! But like... I'm on Jeannie energy. Lol. Come on Mama Jenkins!!!👏🏾🤣🤣
I’m buying a drink for my man and he buying a drink for me. Ain’t nobody buying any drinks for no stranger. If a girl buys a drink for my man she better be buying me one too. & vice versa 💯😂
Women scream "same treatment" it's the same. Sometimes men send complimentary drinks, women do the same we only hear of men power play. As long as nothing shady is happening.
There is only one scenario where this is acceptable. My ex Adam would buy each of my friends drinks. And likewise I surprised him and his boys by buying them a round.
I think this conversation shows your age you guys lmaoooo . I’m 23 and guys buy drinks a lot just to buy them . I don’t ever talk to or see them again i give my order they compliment me they go away if they don’t , i go away 💀 and my boyfriend def doesn’t care . One time i guy sent us both drinks bcus he thought i was pretty but obvi i was with my man lol . I think it’s just something guys do at bars and clubs . They pay 🤷🏾♀️
Eeooowww Jeannie PROtecTIVVV over her man and I'm here for it ! Loni .. keeping tabs if Shaq out in them streets for a free meal lmao girll I feel it too 😂😂
I haven't had that happen but I don't think I'd be mad if a woman sent my husband a drink. I'd be surprised but I'd just think of it as a free drink (drinks add up😏). I would probably ask if he knew her. I'll be trying to get one too. When I was younger, I would accept drinks all the time when I was out with my friends but I would let them know I was in a relationship.
