Asalaamulaikum Coach Fatimah! I agree with this lecture because I have experienced it and seen it through both forms of relationships, whether it was monogamous or polygamous. It’s true that toxicity plays in both gender roles male or female. Sometimes the person don’t know they’re being toxic and then you have the person knows that they’re doing to play the victim just to try and prove a point and shut their spouse out, because they know deep down it’s not right, but I’m just gonna keep doing for more attention. That’s when a spouse or spouses have to sit down and evaluate is this healthy or not. It took me years too wake in my past relationship that this person what they truly say they are and I had to make a decision for myself and my children. My answer was to simply leave and break all ties with this person because that person was effecting me physically and spiritually.
