Traits That Come From Growing Up With Alcoholic Parents

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@cupranl1024 2 года назад

I remember being scared to ask any teacher a question because i thought they would get angry at me or think i was stupid..

@shannonboyle2714 7 месяцев назад

OMG ME. granted some did make me feel stupid. BUT STILL. I’m still that way lol

@georgeniculescu8241 5 лет назад

I grew up with an alcoholic father and was always scared. I’m 22 now and all I have is anger inside me. I’ve ended up hitting him through arguments because I can’t control that pent up anger. This anger translates outside the house as I am quick to get angry over any situation. I feel like I’ve become a monster *EDIT* I’m surprised to see the attention and support this has gotten, I thank you all dearly and feel for you as you have resonated with these feelings. 2 years apart from this post my father did the unthinkable and quit drinking. It’s been a year since he’s touched alcohol. We have started to develop a relationship which I’m in awe of every time I think about it. I do want to tell all of you going through this that it’s only when I decided to forgive my father for everything he has done that I have been able to grow. I’ve went from a boy to a man. Please, look for inner growth amongst yourselves. They may never change, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t. Your life will become better once you let go of the resentment. All love

@IamHardtokill 4 года назад

I feel you man, I have the same issue. We'll strive to get better, one day at a time...

@MrBuffalo2 4 года назад

George there is help out there.. AlAnon is pretty much worldwide..check out a local meeting and just go..keep an open mind and I promise you'll get to feel different and better about a lot of things..god bless and good luck..

@MrBuffalo2 4 года назад

Can I suggest a group called ACA(Aldult Children of Alcoholics)? Sincerely I can assure you that you'll find identification and help with your inner turmoil..its run by and for, people of all age groups and social classes who have been raised by alcholic parent/s,carers and have found a way of understanding how&in what way they became damaged.. and by sharing their own particular experiences become enabled to find a freedom to live in the world&not be tossed around by it.. Theres also AlAnon for partners,family or anyone trying to cope with practising alcoholics in their lives at present.. Please have a look at these groups..you wont regret it.

@MrBuffalo2 4 года назад

DefaultUser; What a stupid comment.

@javarisjamarjavarisonlamar7517 4 года назад

Default User I wish I could double like this man

@skyking6989 3 года назад

My father was a terrible alcoholic and ruined my childhood and gave me serious mental issues. I had to suppress everything to survive. Took me until I was 34 to figure out my issues. I'm feeling much better. Please don't give up keep fighting and get help.

@user-hg1oj4op3z Год назад

Thanks. :) I’m gonna get through it some day.

@Michelle-Williams-Melbournite 4 дня назад

Be free I’m trying . Put yourself first please 🙏

@skyking6989 4 дня назад

@@Michelle-Williams-Melbournite I'm much much better now. Thank you

@skyking6989 4 дня назад

@@user-hg1oj4op3z I hope your healing

@stephaniee6508 4 года назад

I felt this cuz I don’t tend to be anger around my friends I actually want to please them and let them do what they want but when I’m at home I tend to be the angriest person and I get anger over the littlest things

@devils58reds59 3 года назад

Same here my father was a drinker until he passed away in 2018 but it wasn’t the drink that killed anyways you speak about being angry I do that a lot when I can’t do certain things my father was always putting me down as a kid and it’s affecting me as an adult I do try not to be so hard on my self but it’s really hard

@1stRedCommander 2 года назад

I still do this but I've been able to shut my anger off once in a while. By learning g about pain bodies. Like ever notice how you only really ever catch ur shirt on door knobs when ur super pissed. Almost like life is trying to trigger you more when ur losing control with anger

@georgeniculescu8241 2 года назад

Wanting to please those around us excessively is a cause of us looking for constant approval from a parent yet always disappointing them because of their own issues. Hope you find some healing and self peace 🙏🏼

@Rottingboards 5 месяцев назад

Yep, people pleaser, always smiling, store all my anger inside until it comes out at the strangest times.

@kayamber6669 2 года назад

I'm 29 and just an hour ago, I had to cut my mother off once and for all. She has been alcohol dependent for 30 plus years but got worse when I moved out at 18. She had a withdrawal seizure Christmas day 4 years ago and was doing very well in her sobriety. But she continued to be selfish and my family always focuses on keeping her happy. Disregarding everyone else's feelings and past trauma. She lost her dad 2 days ago, drank again and became nasty. I am no longer tolerating the abuse. I have my own children to consider and their mother deserves to be well. We need to think of us now. And the fact that anyone here searched for this video is an amazing first step. I'm proud of you all. Our feelings matter too. ❤️ keep strong guys.

@mile27realty3 10 месяцев назад

I love that you said you need to focus on being a good mother for your children. Amen for breaking generational curses.

@Omega-y7b 7 месяцев назад

I'm also suffering with my alcoholic father 😭 Things that you mentioned above all was same with my father too.. Now I hate him so much that I never want to live with him anymore I don't like to share this with my friends , i don't know why thats why I'm posting this here that no-one of you never get to know me . I'm from India Currently I'm a doctor I never want to live with my father after I got settled I Just want peace 💔 Feelings of having heavy alcoholic father that affects us at various levels 😢

@darelbalanzar8163 7 месяцев назад

I’m 24, my parents alcoholism has been going on since before I was born, my parents have a very violent/ abusive relationship aside of both of them being alcoholics , I’m definitely going to cut them off my life , it was a very tough choice but neither are willing to try to stop , I have to choose my self & move on & be happy

@stumptownvegangal2962 5 лет назад

You just spoke of my whole life. Wow

@n_spire8603 5 лет назад

That's exactly how I felt when someone told me about going to "ACA meetings" - Adult Children of Alcoholics. They started to read "the laundry list" from the ACA book out loud to me and I cried over how deeply it all resonated. There's a lot of reading, therapy and recovery to be had and that has been a painful but very extraordinary process for me, and I hope for you too. You may be able to look up ACA meetings around you, it's free and a good resource if you need some support.

@celiabigger7098 5 лет назад

@@n_spire8603 did the ACA meetings help because I'm going through rough times right now and I really need some support

@n_spire8603 5 лет назад

@@celiabigger7098 Yes it can help people. You can maybe try to look up meetings in your area, even AA might be an in to getting to ACA. Also, there's workbooks online for sale too, and lots of videos and resources to help with any self-work you can. You're already doing good by identifying you need support and it's good not to be quiet about it in these types of circles. Be careful who you let in on your vulnerable areas though, toxic people with sick needs of their own. Take good care.

@lass-inangeles7564 5 лет назад

@@n_spire8603 Thanks for the reminder! I need this.

@DrAimieApigian 5 лет назад

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@carolinafine8050 4 года назад

Why can’t I form friendships? I always feel like I’m unnecessary to any group. I strive to be the center of attention... and if I don’t get that (which I get is wrong)...,, I feel like I’m not needed. And I perceive that others don’t react as welcoming to me as they do to others.

@southafricangirl1698 3 года назад

You are trying too hard, become a good listener and try not to be the centre of attention

@vaishnaviyadav4334 8 месяцев назад

I have the exact same problem. I feel like i am not needed there

@Ilovesports977 3 года назад

You just told me what I've been feeling for the last 20 years and here I am at 23 still feeling those same feelings.

@chiiblossom 4 года назад

I knew my childhood had a massive negative effect on me, but wow

@amyjacquelineg.9541 5 лет назад

Thank you. You are spot on with your assessments. Anger is something that terrifies me & I have no idea how to express my own. Usually I break something. Not good.

@samanthacairns5754 5 лет назад

thankyou this how my son feels with his dad its so hard to watch him deal with this

@boonch9103 4 года назад

samantha cairns is he still your husband

@kermkerm5024 4 года назад

Amy Galvin I don’t like anger but when it comes to my dad I try to suppress but it feels like it’s gonna burst I know one day it’s gonna burst and it’s not going to be pretty

@pissiole5654 3 года назад

yep. i lost my job and almost went to prison because of an incident in which i couldnt manage my anger and fear of confrontation

@MegaLabellamafia 4 года назад

I must've been a weird kid... I grew up surrounded by alcoholic family members (seriously, mother, grandmother, uncle, aunt, cousins, great aunts and uncles) not day went by that every single one of them weren't drunk/angry/ridiculous... And I was the oldest child out of 7 (not including the cousins, because I got to tend to children ages newborn to 9) but I've developed the exact opposite of all of those traits. Outspoken, unafraid, forward, and I don't let anger build up. I've always been the "savior" to everyone until I reached adulthood, then I said my goodbyes and left. I don't have anything to do with any of them. They can save themselves.

@lucijapucko6490 4 года назад

I want to do that too, to say goodbye to everyone and leave with my sister. My dad is an alcoholic and every day is the same, I am just waiting for something to happen to him because of his bad health. I am slowly starting to not care anymore because when I do care, I tend to go crazy and I start yelling... In the end all of that is worthless because it is not going to change him. I am 18 and slowly going into adulthood and I can not wait to be independent. I am very glad that you solved your problem and I wish you all happiness and love later in your life. 😊

@helyce5303 4 года назад

Same

@catherha1 3 года назад

This resonates so much with me... I'm 42 and figuring it out finally. Had a dream... A man told me that when I cut off the dead branches that I will inherit the land... My family is definitely a huge part of that. I've taken care of children always been the family savior. It's a wrap dear ones 😏👌🏽🥁💛💜💝🥰

@elizabethadams3356 Месяц назад

What you were - was an incredibly strong child who did not deserve to have that load put on them. And what you are innately is someone fully deserving of love and fulfillment.

@klattalexis 5 лет назад

We like to keep the peace.

@DrAimieApigian 5 лет назад

It is true, and it can eat away at us. Luckily, there are ways to rise above it to be at peace with our own wants as well.

@boonch9103 4 года назад

Yes

@chelsey111 2 года назад

This is me. I struggle with a deep sadness and anger and I don't know how to find a healthy outlet. I have always been a people pleaser and I wish I could change that. Thank you for understanding and sharing this ❤️

@jennaferrell7525 2 года назад

Alanon ❤️

@burlington86 4 года назад

I grew up in a military family and we moved every year until high school. I was raised like a soldier - don’t show emotion and be disciplined in all all you do. I had severe anxiety since childhood. A psychologist once told me that growing up in that environment is identical to having alcoholic parents. I am a people pleaser and it has not served me well. I’m enjoying your videos immensely. Thank you

@billiegates853 Год назад

Thankyou so much for sharing this is it possible for one to have narcissistic tendencies? Btw this videohas led me to subscribe to your channel ❤

@ilikechocolate2575 4 года назад

i can now confirm that i turn my anger towards myself and end up hurting myself, just to keep others happy and never hurt anyone else. damn all those traits are so me, why do we all end up like this lmao?

@Red_1976 Год назад

Please don’t hurt yourself. Reach out for help. Lifeline, Black Dog Institute are just a few.

@izzayfalls2168 4 года назад

The Anger part is really getting to me rn🥺

@Sophie-sp1nm 4 года назад

This small video has shown me a lot about myself growing up most of my life with 2 alcoholic parents.

@Luke-pd7xj 3 года назад

So sorry to hear and I hope you’re able to heal. I consider myself lucky to have only had one alcoholic parent.

@nathanielcervantes9854 2 года назад

Honestly feels good to know I wasn't alone through it...now I am 23 much love guys

@MariseVlogs 3 года назад

Now at 30 years old I'm finally accepting and trying to find help being an adult children of alcoholic parents. I hope you can too. Common Traits 1. tend to be people pleasers (yes) 2. asking honest opinion about something, not the whole truth in order not to make the other person angry or hurt 3. anger will be a hard emotion for them to feel. hard to share and express (during my childhood yes but as an adult I've been having anger issues) 4. self sacrifice (I forget about my own feelings) 5. health problems, long term problem with the nervous system and immune system 6. loyal 7. anxious attachment

@jordanefox 5 лет назад

Could you please discuss the children of high functioning alcoholics, it would be greatly appreciated

@kenburke9920 Год назад

My father was an alcoholic. However, I do not have a problem expressing anger. Ironically, I inherited his penchant for anger.

@Cuttatv 9 месяцев назад

Same , doesn’t take much to tap into anger

@SCUMMY4205 4 года назад

Holy shit. I never realized how much it really affected my everyday lifestyle. Thanks for the insight, it really helped me understand myself.

@idkk9013 4 года назад

I’m 14, I’m growing up in a house with a drunk dad that is bipolar and everything you said is true and I can’t express what emotion I’m feeling right now. I have almost every health and mental problem you just listed. He also abuses prescription drugs and Is insanely religious (catholic) and I’m atheist so that Causes many fights.

@VMPBBLQLTGILTM 4 года назад

Do you have anyone you can talk to about your home life?

@idkk9013 4 года назад

L Maree nope

@VMPBBLQLTGILTM 4 года назад

@@idkk9013 I know its difficult, but you should try and open up to someone, like a teacher maybe? I've been in your situation, so I understand what you're going through. Good luck and stay strong x

@idkk9013 4 года назад

L Maree he tries to be better and like she says I know I’m a people pleaser and I feel like people need me and I feel like my dad needs me. Like she says I really cant feel anger most of the time and I’m weird in many ways I hate peoples attention and I cant just talk to someone and I know if I do it will not do anything

@VMPBBLQLTGILTM 4 года назад

@@idkk9013 I'm pleased he tries to get help, and it sounds like you're doing the best you can. But if you decide to tell someone, there are support groups out there, online and over the phone if you find that easier.

@jdizzle312 2 года назад

Growing up with an alcoholic father and now being a 39 year olds I can definitely relate. I still hate conflict to this day and still have anger problems. But I don’t bottle anything inside. Thankfully I try and maintain a healthy lifestyle and try to stay mentally positive and understanding. But I’m still seen as very mysterious as I have trouble opening up and always being distant. In certain social situations I still get anxious. Now that I’m a father I will never allow my children to go through what I had to experience. I can definitely tell I’m jaded.

@haleymarkham8952 4 года назад

I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis at 10 years old.. couldn’t even get into a push up position because my wrists were so swollen. Both of my parents were alcoholics....

@toniwilliams7193 3 года назад

I’m sorry you had to go through this. My mum was an alcoholic too. If you ever want to chat I’m here

@joemoment-o1275 3 года назад

No one believes me about my arthritis.

@Thatsbannanas-d8c Год назад

@@joemoment-o1275I believe you.

@RedRox224 5 лет назад

Thank you so much for speaking on this and sharing this. You’ve helped me realize a LOT in less than 7 minutes and I appreciate you 🙏🏻 I’m sick all the time and I’ve always said something is wrong with my immune system, but I couldn’t figure out why. I have a lot of anger built up inside, and usually when I do let it out, I go about it the wrong way/it’s very extreme when the situation is pretty minor in the eyes of others. I’m making sure I do as much research as I can on ACOA so I can heal and work through the issues my traumatic childhood has brought into my adult life. Again, thank you for doing what you do. You are wonderful.

@kermkerm5024 4 года назад

Alyssa Brianne what is wrong with your immune system I’m curious cause I am not an adult yet and I want to know what could happen to me

@AnonSecurityy 2 года назад

My parents own a tavern and I’ve always said they’ve bought their casket and they’ll die there. No matter how much I screamed, cried, or begged, I was mercilessly met by more alcohol and drug abuse. I don’t know who I am anymore. I don’t strive to do anything. I’m depressed, and all in all lack compassion for anything or anyone. I’m numb.

@Red_1976 Год назад

Please reach out for help. Your situation sounds awful, I’m sorry you have to go through this. You are worth more than they are showing you. Lifeline, Black Dog Institute can help. Please don’t suffer in silence.

@Luke-pd7xj 3 года назад

I just have an extremely hard time expressing my feelings and what I want from others. I tend to people please cause I have a difficult time dealing with conflict. I’ve basically become mute and expressing what I want is the biggest obstacle

@darinsmith2458 2 года назад

i have been going down the youtube rabbit hole lately with ACA stuff. i heard anger in this message. having 2 alcoholic parents and the environment that i grew up in anger was the only appropriate emotion. the saying "misery loves company" i changed to "misery demands company" and i would say that "angry people demand angry people"

@francogaudino2231 4 года назад

Wow I relate to this 100% , you described my life

@snsdilfany1731 4 года назад

Maybe that's why I develop hyperthyroidism and rashes.. too much anger building up and can't even express it and I'm just 15 that time now I'm 22 healing and helping myself

@sarahdemartin1183 2 года назад

My mother has been an alcoholic my whole life. Im 16 and I have so much anger and abandonment issues because of it. I’ve never hurt anybody but as soon as I see someone showing me any affection I leave before they can. She would go two weeks sober and be the best mother I could have ever asked for and then that same night she would start drinking till she was the worst person I’ve ever met. She would be so neglectful towards myself and my brother when we were little. So many ambulances had to be called for her when I was only 6 years old because myself and my brother would be locked out of the house after school for hours cause she was passed out and wouldn’t let us in, and when we finally got let in, she would fall over. Anyone who shows signs of not being consistent trigger me and I leave them with out explanation. I have had toxic romantic relationships just because I don’t know how to express my emotions whether they are positive or negative.

@Red_1976 Год назад

I’m sorry you had to go through this. Please reach out because it sou dd like you need help processing it all and healing. Lifeline or the Black Dog Institute are just one of many avenues you can contact.

@cemeterywind6082 4 года назад

I'm 28 years old and my alcoholic father STILL gets under my skin and drives me insane. Why does it still bother me?

@robinb7067 3 года назад

Because you're human. I'm 60 and my dad is DEAD and I can still have strong feelings about him.

@Maggs0906 9 месяцев назад

Man i felt this in my soul..so accurate, i just hope i can find a way to heal

@ingavich 2 года назад

This made me so sad, because it’s so true!

@ThePeachyCat 5 лет назад

When I was a kid my mum sometimes said to me that she hopes I don't get any problems when I am older because of my alcoholic dad. All the time I thought it is weird and this wouldnt be happening. Now I am 21years old and I understand now what my mum means. I think many things have to do with my dad what was happening in my head and how I acted. My dad drinks alcohol everyday now too and he is painkiller addicted but he is much better than in the time when I was 7 till 15 years old. Now he can control himself more and he is nicer to our family about this I am very glad. But In my schooltime I always were the pleasurer. I had a best friend and I did all for her that she didn't get angry or she didn"t wana break the friendship. For her I broke up the friendships with all my other friends and all this stupid stuff. I did so much weird things for her. And I never connected the dots

@boonch9103 4 года назад

Like if you’re never going to drink

@jacobmart0362 5 лет назад

I need help... my mom has been an alcoholic for the past 7/8 months and is slowly but surely starting to drink less however now, whenever any of my friends or close members of family pull out any kind of alcohol I feel really uncomfortable and rather upset.. is this a normal thing? If so, how can I deal with it better

@mysteryninja5851 5 лет назад

My dad is an alcoholic and he has 4 siblings and the drink in front of him all the time and it really annoys me. Be says it doesn't bother him out of embarrassment. But he gets physical signs of withdrawal.

@jenna_ebrown6204 5 лет назад

Try to explain that it makes you uncomfortable or just distract yourself with music, that’s what I do.

@thetruthhurts9327 5 лет назад

im the same, iv never liked drinking and my dad was an alcoholic, it sucks when everyone is drinking and trying to force it on you like its just a bit of harmless fun, i think subconciously we might feel scared its hereditory, chin up, at least you're awake to it :)

@boonch9103 4 года назад

How you can deal with it is tell your best friend make sure they don’t tell anyone else and tell your dad if you feel uncomfortable

@boonch9103 4 года назад

Jenna_eBrown that’s what I do I do electronics sports anything to escape

@jillypotterdeen 4 года назад

she really clocked me huh

@BrandyTexas214 2 года назад

My parents were alcoholics and I’m just now at 38 starting to figure out how messed up I actually am.

@birthcertificate7223 5 лет назад

Alcohol became easily available in my teenage years due to my present and absent parents. This opened the door for my careless and unaware involvement into poly drug use. I am stuck dependent on poppy extracts now in the form of a green fluid. I am also aware that this was the norm for them growing up just after WW2, i can only imagine the residual emotional energy from all that death/loss. People pleasing, i have heard that phrase so many times ! Thanks for your video

@ryanhocking8404 4 года назад

this hit hella hard, super close to home

@marniejane88 Месяц назад

My dad was an angry alcoholic, my mom would tell us to go in our rooms to be out of sight..he picked on my brother and was abusive to him and my mom. The verbal and emotional abuse I endured

@teenxger_1760 2 года назад

comments thank you so much 😂 I am now 20 and my mum hasn’t drank or been physically abusive for a good 5 years actually thank god but before that I was the only one trapped in a house with her during what should have been my childhood and because of that im left with so many questions that I will never have answers too but videos like this really help me grasp a further understanding of myself when I’m a bit lost and need it THANK YOU SO MUCH !!!

@SK-sy7zp 5 месяцев назад

I even realized to late that my dad was an alcoholic and I later realized that he has been an alcoholic since I was birthed. Now he is sick and should stop drinking but he won't. I witnessed him sober but also weakened at the hospital and I was so confused about his real him... My parents had shared custody so, it wasn't an everyday thing but thinking back to those times we saw him... he had so many chances and now he is angry about our bad connection.

@Lexdance19 Год назад

I was in the car when my dad was arrested for a DUI. I was 12 the first car crash I was in with my drunk dad. 13 when I realized how much his words and actions hurt so bad. His negligence lead to my mental health disorder, dissociation. Its bin so hard any time anyone is drinking I, dissociate. If I’m playing the game on my phone I was playing the day we crashed, I dissociate. Just like the day I was in the back of a police car having a panic attack after my dad’s arrest. the kind officer helped and hugged me till my mom was there. I just want to thank him even though I know he wouldn’t see this. I love my dad. But the more my parents fight the more scared I get. The more the words hurt. And the more I hurt myself as an way to ease the pain. I can’t take it anymore. One day if I grow up to be a mother I won’t let my kids suffer. I won’t make them drag there father in bed drunk from the yard. I won’t make their brother cover their ears from the fighting of their parents. Like my brother does for me. I will show them what it means to be loved, I promise. I am 13 years old, my name is Lexi and I’m a normal girl in 8th grade you wouldn’t notice from how I act but I’m hurting. So the next time you see someone struggling go eat lunch with them or play 4 square it’s means the world. I promise…

@kristi1678 Год назад

It took me a decade to finally let out my anger. Ever since I've let it out I've been consumed by it.

@mandimadoche3192 Год назад

I grew up with 2 alcoholic parents and I don't totally agree with the three traits. I can be a people pleaser at times, but I will tell you the truth (I grew up in the North not the South). I just ask people if they really want the truth before I tell it. I am good at reading people and usually know who can handle it and who cannot. Anger was the only emotion that I really felt. I have always had a very quick temper and my anger actually scares me sometimes. In relationships, I more likely to push someone away rather than be clingy; I don't let people get very close to me. Have chosen emotionally distant partners. The third point has been true for me. I started feeling the effects of my over active stress response at the age of 35 and have been trying to figure out how to feel better for the last 10+ years.

@DrAimieApigian Год назад

Thank you for sharing your story. There is a free downloadable roadmap for accelerating your healing journey in the description of the video that you may want to check.

@ronconstanzera9634 4 года назад

Damn....literally me. This is profound and my life might have changed.

@yogendrasingh-lu4rn 7 месяцев назад

In my case, at this stage of life, it is now a case of generalisation. I as a child tried to hang on to people and make them happy. But, now I have grown up into a straightforward, confident and assertive individual.

@sjcobra84 4 года назад

Lost count of all the times I've felt the urge to want to punch on with people when they're intoxicated. Even relatives.

@giorgiobrown9811 5 лет назад

I grew up with an alcoholic father and i am a people pleaser person. My girlfriend is an alcoholic and i find myself trying to please her and not make her upset(walking on eggshells). I am straight edge in my lifestyle so i dont partake in drugs or alcohol but i struggle to help my girlfriend kick her destructive behaviour. She walks all over me and i end up being the one saying sorry when she relapses. She lies to my face when i ask her if she has been drinking when she obviously is almost blacked out and emotionally violent toward me. I feel trapped and i want to make this work but it seems like it will surely happen again. Thanks for reading and i hope to get her the help she needs.

@lass-inangeles7564 5 лет назад

The fact you are with another alcoholic is because you are trying to recreate a parent and have them love you all over again. This is because you need curing yourself first. Find an Al Anon group and get some talk time in. Don't date for a while, and dump this toxic partner immediately! She will drain you.

@IamHardtokill 4 года назад

Great advice👆🏾. I hope you dumped her bro, the relationship will only provide you with continuous pain. Had the same situation 2 years back, dumping her was the best decision of my life. She doesn't care about you... & neither did my ex...

@southafricangirl1698 3 года назад

Yes, my first boyfriend was an alcoholic and my ex husband - trying to heal your parent in different relationships by becoming an enabler to their abusive behaviour, but they are not your responsibility, they need to grow up and take responsibility themselves, they will not change or get better until they admit it and go for help with AA or similar....walk away until she makes that decision.....make her grow up

@pibkaveronica7622 Год назад

Why you are still with her? Walk out

@ShelbyGrahamPhotos 3 года назад

0:25-0:50 - Pfffft, she doesn't know who I am. 1:20-rest of the video - Oh, holy shit.

@Deder111 3 месяца назад

I didn’t grow up in a alcoholic household, my parents where like dry drunks , dad with a temper , mom with depression, oldest brother with temper and golden child, I was always trying to keep the peace in toxic household , I married an alcoholic, always trying to be good enough . Spouse needs alot of attention , I believe he drinks to be social . I learned not to cover for him anymore because I was enabling him to stay stuck in addiction, did the 12 steps in Alanon was a great help in understanding not my fault. 3 -C’s I can’t Control it, I don’t Cause it , there is no Cure for it

@annaf6369 4 года назад

Wow! That’s me all my life.

@woodtool2882 8 месяцев назад

Yes, helpful. Both parents were alcoholic and my brothers and I all suffered, tremendously. I'm still trying to heal. My therapist says I'm ready, but I don't believe her. Probably never will.

@misskitty4296 5 лет назад

WOW! You hit the nail on the head!

@megatronsupreme4822 2 года назад

100% spot on

@leemartos5564 5 месяцев назад

I am literally crying watching this… it is so accurate, I am 33 😢

@ilikebeanies3499 3 года назад

I never get angry, not enough to hurt anyone or break anything. I keep it all in my mind, but I may appear angry and upset. Everytime I think of alchohol, or see someone with it I get uncomfortable and resentful. My Mom was an alcoholic, and she had to have a whole bottle of wine every night. I have no problem with drinking in moderation, but I hated when my Mom drank because she became more aggressive and more scary. Everytime I was around her it was like walking on eggshells. :,(

@DrAimieApigian 3 года назад

Thank you for sharing this! I hope you are signed up for my Biology of Trauma Summit - here is the registration link: traumasolutionseries.byhealthmeans.com/?idev_id=31259

@susiethomas6909 4 года назад

Wow. 100% spot on. Thank you. 💕😭

@brandomiranda6703 4 года назад

What about jumping from one relationship to another to fill the void of the father figure? My ex betrayed me a jumped to another relationship immediately and her father was an alcoholic.

@OICUR12 Год назад

I just went no contact on a friend who is an alcoholic narcissist which ads another level of insanity to the situation. He had to gain control of my child, turn her against me, and fool around with skanks while shes locked out crying knocking on the door wanting to know what they were doing. Then he'd buy her a toy and make her pinky swear not to tell me. Too much for such a little mind. Too much for an adult mind but i must protect her.

@tessamurphy987 3 года назад

Both of my parents are alcoholics and they are not human beings anymore due what they done to me, my twin brother and his girlfriend and to my family.😇 my mother is now dead due to alcoholism and now I have to deal with my father and what worse is that he will end up loosing me forever if he doesn’t stop drinking and gets the help that he needs.😇

@sandraallenlovelace5146 3 года назад

Also helpful to those of us who are adult children of alcoholics. Thanks. Dr. Aimie.

@jillmackenzie5978 4 года назад

OMG.....I am such a people pleaser.....therefore have had poor relationships

@termiitos Год назад

My mum was an alcoholic until I was 15 and my stepdad was also a violent alcoholic. Yet, when it comes to speaking my mind or choosing what to do/where to go, I can be quite straightforward and even selfish. What gives ? I always expressed my anger towards my parents for drinking. It didn't help, but I didn't keep it inside.

@squidboy7973 4 года назад

Wow. You really spoke my entire life. Damn.

@BruceThePugDog Месяц назад

For a kid, it was like being in a horror movie that ends when the monster goes to sleep and the sun comes out. But then it starts all over again.

@RecoveringFromChildhood Год назад

When my drunk dad sensed even a whiff of anger directed at him (he was always treating people badly) it would set him off into an explosive, violent rage

@TherealDsizzle 11 месяцев назад

Spot on she also has ADHD very high on the spectrum. She’s 35 and she can’t even handle a 5 second conversation regarding anything adult at All. She liked me came in really hard it felt like a drug coming out of a 10 year relationship with a woman who had NPD and did all she could to drive me to suicide. It was the best feeling in the world and I fell hard then I started to see the truama and I would be so nice and bring it up so softly and make sure to not go overboard with anything but the second I started caring she went into flight she avoids me now I’m always here instantly when she is ready it ducks it always on her time. When she leaves my house it may be the last time I ever see her it’s so frustrating

@UkrainianLiterature Год назад

I have a boyfriend whose parents are alcoholics, father is an co-alcoholic. Oh the opposite, he has a lot of anger and quick temper. His anger is somehow consistent and he tends to blame everyone around and never apologizes, even if he is wrong. On the opposite, he doesn’t ask me what I want - he tends to push me to do what he wants…so it is probably the opposite spectrum .

@sophieyoung3519 5 лет назад

I’m just going to vent, my mom’s been an alcoholic for the past 5 years and she’s just getting worse. Idek what to do because my stepdad has threatened divorce and I’m scared and sad about everything

@amyjacquelineg.9541 5 лет назад

Subscribe to Pewdiepie It’s a sad situation, there is nothing you can do to change others behavior, but you do have control over your own. Reach out and find tools to detach ( even with love) , there are Al-anon meetings available in most areas. You’ll find you’re far from being alone in your situation.

@boonch9103 4 года назад

Thanks for speaking my life

@annaf9821 Год назад

I’ve been expressing my anger a lot. I think it is because my alcoholic mom was ok with me expressing my feelings or she was numb because of the alcohol which made me prone to express my feelings even more because I wanted a reaction in her…

@catherha1 3 года назад

My body.... Chronic diseases.. fibromyalgia. No telling how long my body's been in fight or flight.

@amyrebeccaperez5240 Год назад

I love your new hairdo..it really looks fun!!!

@dnl5702 10 месяцев назад

Well done indeed. I makes a lot of sense

@marine_manga5800 10 месяцев назад

Oh, that touched my heart 3:50

@collin355 3 года назад

My soon to be ex wife is an alcoholic. It sucks..shes an absolute mess. It sucks most for our daughter but I explained to her about the effects of alcohol and why she should never ever drink when she gets older ..its Terrible. the worst environment

@nimanixo 9 месяцев назад

This is me to a teee 😢 this vid made me realise things about myself too

@w.urlitzer1869 6 месяцев назад

off topic: the chaos of the lines in the background is very unsettling.

@dirtydaniel5617 2 года назад

What if the opposite happens and yiu have a hard time controlling your anger??? I grew up without my mother most of my childhood and all I had was my father who had drinking and rage issues.

@sheiladyck4768 2 года назад

I am the only child of 2 alcoholic parents. They both died from alcoholism. I am now 61 and married 43 years to a husband who is now an alcoholic. Not sure how much more I can take. I am a non drinker. I have Rheumatoid Arthritis, depression, anxiety, Sjogrens, Crowns disease.

@lookmammesonyaotoob5392 2 года назад

Hello Sheila, I believe you know what to do.......leave to find a better circumstance for yourself.

@MoodSwingZX 2 года назад

My wife. But that was some special case. Me. My marriege is a nightmare. I am being accused ,projected, she tells me that nobody likes me, doesnt appologize. Manipulates me. Escalate conflict on purpouse. Everything I said or done is being used by my wife during quarel to hurt me even more. She is always the victim. My wife doesnt have a problem being angry at me. She has no problem in manipulating me into angre and rage. It is not truth what U say. My father drunk and my wifes fathe was a drunk and we are on oposite spectrum of actions. Also she is realy about her health and I am not.

@ellemc7257 3 года назад

Pls someone answer me My dad is a horrible man hes a raging alchemy,he emotionally abused for me years and manipulated me into not telling me anyone for years he’d always threaten to punch me and hed chase me around his flat and i would hide and hed say “where r u, im going to find you” hed drunk drive me and punch walls and basically just crazy and recently he got took into police custody (idk why) but he always gets in fights and stuff but they didnt arrest him, he got sectioned and is now in a phyc ward... but when his parents my gma and gdad went to his house to take his dogs (since he wasnt there) they found that the floor was covered in his own sick and poo and i went to his house on Christmas and i went in his kitchen and when i bent down by the door that leads to the landing it stank of human poo and also his place was trash there was pizza boxed everywhere and alcohol everywhere I just want to know...why was he pooing on the floor..how was there poo all over his floor.....u dont think my dogs ate it do u...? Bc my dogs licked my face.. Also child protection services called my mum and said me and my brother r never allowed to be alone with him bc hes a threat and vrry dangerous and we aren’t allowed to see him.

@kateriley2951 7 месяцев назад

This isn’t true. I was a very angry kid and very angry at my alcoholic mother. I would lash out a lot.

@nicoleshaw2062 5 лет назад

My mother is an alcaholic

@hourz 3 года назад

I just have alot of social anxiety and hopelessness

@shrubzx Год назад

it makes sense now

@passaggioalivello 5 лет назад

I can relate

@radtom4650 3 года назад

How to send a mother to rehab, how to help a child who living with alkohol addicted mother?

@kanemary56 3 года назад

Ok but recently having a spot of therapy , they don’t let you talk about your past so how do you heal if your not able to speak about it? I want to put that part out of my life … so I don’t have another heart attack. Anxiety, worry, anger , these have been my companions for 50 years and I got to tell ya between them and the negative thoughts I’m worn out ! I would like to know your recommendation or perhaps a previous video ?

@Bryan-rs5qp 7 месяцев назад

I never grew up, I stayed a li'll scared kid, my body grew older though.

@taylorarchibald1062 3 года назад

i have a question. i have lived with an extremely narcissistic and someone who would constantly gaslight me. i have severe issues with change and it affects me to the point where if something changes in my schedule then i will lash out on friends and others why does this happen? is it because of the trauma from my dad?

@DrAimieApigian 3 года назад

The real reason is that you have a dysregulated nervous system. This is what happens when events or relationships are overwhelming and a shock to the system at the time. This trauma gets stored in the nervous system causing "dysregulation." Keep learning! There is so much you can do to bring your nervous system into a place of health and security! Have you signed up for the upcoming Biology of Trauma summit to learn more about solutions? Here is the link: traumasolutionseries.byhealthmeans.com/?idev_id=31259

@taylorarchibald1062 3 года назад

@@DrAimieApigian thank you so much!

@BrandyTexas214 2 года назад

I do the exact same thing..

@bunn.4696 Год назад

I wish i had the funds to get help

@DrAimieApigian 3 года назад

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@DIZXSTER Год назад

I have been drinking alcohol since I was 10 years old, I'm 17 now and I got almost 6 months to turn 18. I hate my fxcking life, no one is to be blamed but my school, I was introduced to it in middle school and I'm proud to say that I work and get more money than I need; but I still see myself as asshole because I'm spending money on alcohol more than spending it on clothes and stuff mfs my age need... Idk how to fix this, I mean working out is the thing I mostly do after drinking, my body looks more advanced than it should be (Those were not my words). Anyways, if anyone would wanna help with advice, I'm glad to know from professionals.