Someone told me they're told to spell it wrong on purpose so that people are more likely to post a picture of their cup on social media, going 'haha look what Starbucks wrote on my coffee' etc, so it's like free advertising by getting the brand out there more
@@mizaistomnanas5174 your name is COMET that's so awesome im Skye (I've been feeling like it's too feminine lately and since I'm genderfluid feminine isn't always good so I might take off the E at the end someone else told me to try that)
I’m not trans, but the Starbucks add almost made me cry. I literally paused the video to say “Hi, James. Nice to meet you.” Just to myself in an empty room. I just wanted to make him feel validated!
My younger cousin came out as non binary to me not so long ago, and I caught myself slipping their name into sentences that didn't really needed it just because I wanted them to know that I encourage and respect them and that they are safe with me.
True story that happened to me last weekend: So my best friend from elementary school has a trans brother who works at Starbucks and has basically known me my whole life. Flash forward some years (now) and I'm in that Starbucks and I see him. When he asks for my name I tell him my chosen name (Max) rather than my birth name (Ava) and he smiles at me. I knew he recognized me right away so I was scared he'd call me out but he didn't. Instead he gave me my drink and said "Have a good day sir" as I left. I looked next to my name on my cup and it said "I'm so proud of you". Shit like this warms my heart 💛
Ava Fraser Your comment made my chin start to wobble !!! So let’s hope in the future you have more positive interactions with people , like this . God bless 🙏
As a cis girl it made me feel happy and almost proud in a sense as slowly proper representation is making its way into the media and making a meaningful impact on those that view it and ,since Starbucks is a relatively well known brand/chain cafe, I hope it encourages other companies to follow in their footsteps.
4:31 I'm a Cisgender woman, but the whole choosing a name aspect of this video really resonated with me. I used to get severely bullied about my birth name and who I was as a kid because it was a very complicated German name. While I love my hertiage and respect my parents on giving me that name, After an amount of time I started strongly unassociating with that name and identity. I decided I needed something new to fit who I am as an adult. Going through that whole transition of switching legal names was really tough. People would ask me why I would go to the effort, why it triggered me, that it's just a name, all these remarks and questions and all I could ever say in return was; you never really know how much power a name has over an identity until you actually experience it. While I'm not trans and I don't get that that side of the identity part, I do know how stressful it can be having your birth name called out in various situations and just feeling really anxious and uncomfortable about it but not be able to explain why. Now that my name has been finalised I can tell you I don't regret it one bit and it feels incredibly liberating having a name that I chose for myself that really captured me as a person. Just thought I'd share my anecdote for those who might be in a similar situation
I'm genderfluid and while my birth name didn't feel actively wrong, I've switched to a less firmly feminine one recently. And I didn't realize until after the switch just how much stress I had been under because of people mispronouncing my name and nickname. When I was using the old name, I thought I was fine; it was actually somewhat cool that I could tell when a new teacher was about to read my name off the roll sheet by the expression on their face or the way they trailed off after the first syllable. But the everyday mispronunciations, to the point where for a few years in elementary school even I struggled to consistently use the correct pronunciation because I'd heard the wrong one so many times it drove the correct one out of my brain... That was a weight I'd carried so long I didn't even remember it was there anymore, and now that I don't have to carry it, I have more energy to deal with other problems.
I’m a cis woman and I really hate my first name as well. I wasn’t bullied for it but nobody ever spells it right (it’s different than my username here lol) and I really just don’t identify with it very well. Sometimes I don’t even realize someone is talking to me when they call out my name unless they pair my last name with it too. I’m not an adult yet but I’m really nervous to tell people to use a name I feel more comfortable with so I just use it on sites like twitter and Tik Tok where nobody irl knows me lol maybe I’ll be comfortable enough to change it like you did too that gives me a bit of hope that people may actually use it if I ask them
Why do you care about the drink being called out? Vanilla is fucking delicious! If another man told me I was girly for liking it I wouldn’t care. I like the flavour of vanilla, that’s all there is to it man. People judging you for that just don’t have good taste. Standing up for yourself is Manly! Have a good day/night!
@@totallynotsatan976 I think their point was that they didn't get to try out the name the way intended. Because they didn't call it out and instead called out the drink lol And yes I also love vanilla, although my usual choice from a starbucks would be green tea frappe :D
The Starbucks add is so wholesome, especially for me as a trans guy who has been nervous in using my chosen name in the real world Edit: thank you guys for all the support!
Charlie Rajnus *OWNING THE LIBS* I see? Here we are, being wholesome and friendly doing nothing to you and you still want to go out and cause hate and get attention. Fuck you it worked lmao
As a genderfluid person i’d love to change my name to Alex because it’s just so neutral and i always make people call me Alex edit: i now go by ollie, as alex was a placeholder name until i found something i truely connected with and love :0) 🖤
@@gender-fluidARMY first to be safe ask your friends if they support the lgbtq+ community and if they have ANY problems with it and if they say no you’re good and should be able to start normalizing your self expression... if they say no ask what they have a problem with and go on from there but be safe with it. if it’s with family i guess you could so the same and ask if they support the lgbtq+ community if they say no don’t bother it gets bad... i have a dad who’s a little bitch about it to be honest though everyone else in my family (2sisters are actually part of the lgbtq+ and my mom who supports us 100% and got me a trans and genderfluid flag) so yeah be safe and don’t let them drag you but don’t do anything that could end up in your own harm please :3
As a cis woman, both of these had me in tears. I'm so glad society is becoming more supportive. We still have a long way to go, but I'm so glad trans kids may see things like these ads and feel less isolated. It makes me so happy to think the future may be so much more aware, inclusive, and ACCEPTING. Im also so glad companies are being more public about their support. It's such a beautiful move towards a better future for everyone.
I’m a gay cis female, and even though I’m not trans, that was the most adorable and inspiring ad I’ve ever seen. I dunno, it just means so much to me that people are accepted as they’re transitioning, and changing their name. ahhhh i love this so much edit: I’m an enby now whoops :)
@@nyctoby Child, I hope you are staying inside and staying hydrated. Take care of the pets. Remember that mom loves you. ♡ (Finally, my time as a mom has begun :D)
@@kathybramley5609 Yeah, allergies yellow and red dye can sometimes cause hyperactivity. Luckily it's a pretty short-lived reaction, like most allergies. I knew a guy who was allergic to yellow dye and as a teen he snuck yellow monster drink into his house (his mom wouldn't let him have it obviously) and downed a bunch of them and was so hyper he could barely function. His mom was not happy. I probably have a red dye 40 allergy (as well as diagnosed ADHD), so I'm a mess if I eat too much dyed food. I once drank a bunch of cranberry ginger ale and ended up cleaning half my room.
@@rockercaterrorencountered4924 cleaning half your room... Compared to my dye reactions, that actually sounds fun ;). But yeah, dye allergies can be miserable. I feel you.
Brooo when he said "James", that hit me👏 in the👏 fucking 👏 feels👏 _sniff_ *AND* when the barista called out his name.... I couldn't do anything but to cry like yasssss
@@StealthyGamerGirl2020 Let me thank you for your friend for trying to understand him and be a friend of his. Cuz you know, many people are bullied, and I'm grateful to see that your frd has a good frd.
My chosen name is James and I’m fairly early in my transition and literally just hearing you say that james is a good name made me smile Edit: Well 2 years later and I’m officially 3 months on T, the whole transition thing has been going pretty good for me :) Also, thank you kind people for the lovely responses to my comment, they made me smile as well
One of my friends is a closeted trans guy and seeing the joy in his eyes when the Starbucks barista says his chosen name makes me so happy. That ad made me super emotional.
@@devlin4795 It just makes me so happy to see his father teaching him to shave, especially since he didn't grow up knowing how to shave his face. I got emotional watching it too. You can tell how happy he is.
That first one is sooo accurate to the trans experience. They did it flawlessly. It must have been actually written by a trans person. *applauds* It's incredible how well they just portrayed my whole life in like 2 minutes.
I am a cis person, and this ad nearly made me cry it was so beautiful, I just love it when people are happy about seemingly small things, bc it just shows how much even small things can mean and how they can make an entire day a good day, even if it just was 2 secons
"I'm feeling the trans angst" big mood.I've never seen the Gilette one before and it's so sweet.The supportive father son bonding and how the clear message is trans men are men without needing to unsubtly say it.But they had the Gillette slogan over the face of a smiling trans men and it just made me so happy and make the a weird noise out loud.
It would also be nice if they'd stop charging women more for razors that are girly. It's the same product just made prettier, same materials, why are women charged more? Just another way to squeeze more money out of their customers.
I feel conflicted because that would be very sweet, but gillette is literally solely responsible for the fact that women have to shave their legs in the first place.
Shawn Wales “women’s” razors are actually typically a bit different, the blades tend to be at a gentler angle, they tend to be more ergonomic for shaving legs vs your face, and the handles tend to be made for a better grip. There’s definitely still a pink tax added, and they shouldn’t be as expensive as they are, but they do take a little bit more expense to make. Tbh I think they should just advertise them as generic razors and legs/bits razors. No need to gender them.
@@JacquelineUnderwood I honestly have never felt a difference between a 'men's razor' and a 'women's razor' except for the men's staying sharp for longer, using less plastic and coming in cooler colours. Oh, and the price tag.
The smile that James gave at the end of the Starbucks advert made me sob. That was too beautiful and heart-wrenching. Also, Gillette's simple "best shave a man can get" across his face.... I literally clutched my chest and said "awww". These were so great to see. :,))
I’m not used to saying ‘Gray’ as my name in stores. And I went into Lush the other day and she asked for my name and I said ‘Gray’ and the lady said it was a perfect name for my personality, although we only talked a few times while I was at the store. It was an amazing experience
This is exactly what I needed to see right now, my sister is extremely Transphobic, and her relentless hate about the LGBTQ+ community really weighs me down heavily as someone who is Panromantic and Asexual. But to hear all this positivity about the Trans community, reminds me not to believe what she says and to trust that I know who I am. Thank you.
"I now know how to shave properly and that I picked a good name." 🤣🤣 This killed me. I'm a cis girl and the Starbucks ad made me cry. I just felt this guy's pain when he was constantly called by the wrong name, and I was very happy to see him finally hear the right name. As for the Gillette ad... I liked it when the caption "The best a man can get" appeared, and that they didn't feel the need to say anything about transness of the guy in the ad. It was very precious.
Cis lady here and I too got super emotional with the first ad! I could feel his internal struggles and emotions. The Gillette commercial has been one of my favorites since I've seen it last year. Made me tear up the first time I saw it! Makes me so happy to see more inclusive ads. 💙💜
Me too! Girliest girl that was ever born female, and you know what? I have a weirdly spelled name apparently so no one especially Starbucks ever gets it right. I felt for James. James is an amazing name, my grandpa is James. And the Gillette add. They do a lot of teaching your son to shave but my mom taught me how to shave my legs and pits and I would love to see the reverse.
I'm not trans and that ad just... **mwah** **chef's kiss** I almost cryed when the starbucks employee said James I just... felt the good feels. Like, it SO important and amazing when you hear the name you want to be and the name you are
For the Starbucks advert, I was initially confused by your reaction - I thought, okay, we're gonna see a m2f transition.... I heard "Trevor" untill the name badge showed "Gemma". Not sure if it's just not hearing properly, or seeing someone presenting as male my brain assumed it must be a typically male name.... Anyone else have the same experience? But I think James suits him way better than Trevor anyway. And his smile at the end was incredible. The Gillette advert also made me laugh, because even as a cis girl, I had the (apparently uncommon) experience of my dad teaching me how to shave at 13 (legs - because I started using his razor - my mum doesn't shave) and it is a lovely bonding experience.
Oml I'm closeted to my brother and he walked in and heard you talking about trans people and then he said Hey, bro, can you pass a knife? And didnt even need to be told 💙 he has taken it the best, my parents think I'm a disgrace ☹ oh well, this made me feel better
that's so sweet of your brother!! i hope you're not in danger with your parents and please don't forget that what they think about you isn't what counts because you're still you and that's amazing!!
I’m so so sorry your parents aren’t accepting you for who you are. It hurts my heart. Just know that their thoughts and feelings have nothing to do with you, it’s about them and how they were raised and conditioned in life. I hope they will come around one day. Until then, I’m sending you huge mom hugs and lots of love and support. ❤️
I'm so sorry about your parents. I hope they come around soon and realize that you deserve to be your true, authentic you. I'm rooting for you. Your brother sounds super rad! I'm glad you'll have some acceptance around home!
i changed my name like a week ago, and one of the first times i met someone and said my name is Damon, they said it was a cool name. that felt amazing. and i got to say "thanks i picked it myself" was really fun to say.
"I'm not just transitioning everyone around me is as well" Gahh that was beautiful because its so true that when you are trans the journey to your true self does mean that everyone who loves you has to learn and grow with you!
Hey Jamie it was this video where after a year of struggling with my emotions , I realized I was mtf transgender , Im still not sure how to come out to My family though , love ya
Take it easy and don't rush yourself. This process is a marathon and you shouldn't start it with a sprint, take care of yourself and do what you feel comfortable with without feeling forced or obliged to do anything:3 Good luck on your journey!:D
People at my job intentionally, call me by my "dead name" even though it is a diverse place. These same people still called me. The wrong pronouns as well. Intentionally. There are times where, I just take a step back and I just give them a certain look. And they know what that look is. Some of them will correct themselves. Others have ignorant and act like what they said. Doesn't bother me. So these commercials Got to me. I understand. That the company needs my "birth name" To write out my checks, unfortunately. Because I haven't. Gotten around to changing my name yet. But the fact Still Remains that I haven't been going by my "birth name" In well over 15 years.
You deserve to be respected in your workplace. No one should even know your dead name unless they write your checks, and even then it should never be said to your face. I’m so sorry. I hope you can find a job that accepts and respects you
I'm so sorry people at the place you work behave so poorly. Hope your workplace manages to sort that out for you, or that you end up at a better workplace!
@@briannad9409 I would point out that, depending on where the OP lives/works, they might not be able to file for discrimination. The amount of workplaces and countries that still don't have anti discrimination policy in place to protect trans and gender-diverse people is truly disgusting. Regardless of law though, I totally agree that no one deserves to have to deal with discrimination based on their gender.
Oh My God the Starbucks add is so sweeeeeet PS: I did the SAME thing and now I have an empty (and clean) Starbucks's cup on my bookshelf with my name 🤗
@@jenniferhollingsworth1275 my dad is from a very religious country where people like us aren't "normal" and he's having a hard time with accepting everyone because he grew up different. It's sad but what can you do. Also you, too!
i just want to give starbucks the congratulations it deserves because im sure this hits home to a lot of trans people. i got really emotional the first time i watched this because i think every trans person has experienced that feeling. It was a job well done
the starbucks ad came on when i was with my parents (im a closeted genderfluid) and i squealed slightly and had to try really hard to play it off like that didnt fill me with joy
Wow that first ad have me all the feels too! As a straight cis-female, I love seeing ads like this and watching your videos to educate myself and to get a glimpse into the realities of people's worlds that I would never be able to experience otherwise. Thank you for what you do and for being SO open and honest, Jammi!
Elizabeth Haywood recently I had a call with my friends and in the description my cis straight friend put “a call for my girls and guy” I stared at it for a couple of minutes as I composed myself before I joined the call. Fucking magical mate
Fun fact of the day: In the movie Melanie Martinez made,one of the cast members is trans! Zión Moreno who plays Fleur is trans. Mrs.Harper is portrayed as a trans woman but near the middle gets fired for being trans. And im pretty sure Fleur's parents are both girls! So everyone go watch the movie!
I filled out my name change paperwork today!!! When James' name was called out in the first ad, I literally felt a weight pull off my heart. I'm so happy that he got that!!! My parents aren't accepting, but my older sister helped me figure out how to shave, even though I'm pre-T. It honestly felt amazing, just getting rid of that tiny bit of peach fuzz! And I'm much less stressed about that part of transitioning now that I know I'll be ready for when my facial hair starts coming in. Although I doubt I'll be able to grow a beard, my dad takes like a week for stubble and no one else in my family can grow a beard either.
My cis-girl-best-friend cried at the Starbucks one when I showed her, I’m a 15yr old trans guy and I saw this on tv for the first time sat next to my, at the time closeted to our severely trans/bi/homophobic parents, pansexual sister , trying it to cry too loudly because she would have cried too if she’d looked at me :) thankyou for having this platform x
BRO the starbucks ad literally made me cry , i first tried out new names for myself online and having people calling me something other than my birth name was so validating ! i absolutely did the coffee shop thing before i was out as well , hearing the name aloud was even better :)
I see the first one all the time, and I adore it! I can’t say I know what being trans is like, but my heart goes out to every single one of you who does. I truly hope every single one of you gets to a point where you can be proud of yourselves and happy in your own skin. All the best 💕
me: mum lets go to starbucksss my mum: why? me: i need to buy some biscuitssss my mum: no. me: its for charityyy my mum: i refuse to support that. so uhh, guess who is going to starbucks with friends on friday-
Cis woman here and I’m CRYING!!!! These ads are so moving. The first one isn’t just about a name, it’s an important step in figuring out who you are as a person and I think that’s something everyone can relate to. Side note: I have a transgendered staff member at work (ftm). I’ve always done my best to be supportive of LGBT+, but was unsure about how to be supportive of my coworker and his journey in general. Your videos are both entertaining and informative, and is something he and I have come to bond over. So thank you and keep making videos!
I had to fight really hard to get my name changed. Seeing James in the Starbucks ad struggling with it brought tears to my eyes as I remembered those frustrating and painful feelings during that whole process. I love Starbucks so it's a win for me!
4:27 I am Cis, and I get shivers every time I watch this Starbucks ad, I love it. (Hate big capitalist chains, but the ad is amazing). On the other hand, the first time I watched it was on a trans activist's FB wall, who was saying how they really didn't' appreciate it (like, "we deserve way more than to have our name recognized, that's the bare minimum of common decency and is not something trans people should be grateful for. It should just be common sense"). Which is a position I totally respect as well. So I see both sides, I guess.
Starbucks is legit the best place to be in as a transsexual. I literally go there almost everyday before uni just to hear Leo, which is a name I rarely hear out of the online world.
The second one was so emotional. Not only because it's a Trans Ad. Its because I know that ill never have a moment like this. Seeing him with his proud vater watching him shaving his beard for the first time made me cry so bad. I miss my dad.
I have been watching your videos since Quarantine and I have learned so much, even though I am not trans, but it has allowed me to have more understanding of our community and I can further help others. Thank you for being you
The first one hit right in the feels, oof! I love how they kept the J as a first letter for the name cuz I did the same:3 Also I had goosebumps when I saw the second one omfg... I fear that my dad would never do that
As soon as I heard James’ name and saw him smile, I immediately started crying. I can’t wait for the day when I’m known in public as Robynn. Everyone who’s also transitioning, keep at it! You’re doing a great job!
I am thrilled to welcome you to the club! Though I will warn you right now you’re going to spend a lot of time spelling it for people but it’s worth it. (Robin is my birth name.) Stay well and safe Robynn!
I just got my legal name changed, and the first time I tried my name out was at a Starbucks. I cannot believe we have come so far, these were so wholesome and I love them.
I’m cis and I got goosebumps during the Starbucks ad and teared up at the end of it. I can’t imagine how raw it would feel for trans people, especially those who aren’t out to anyone yet.
