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The first time I passed, this big scary looking man and his equally scary (but skinny) son were in the paper towel aisle. I was both intimidated and disappointed, because I was having a super dysphoric day and I knew there was no way in hell I would ever pass, especially in front of these guys. Anyone who saw me, a short, round-faced teenager with a binder that didn’t fit properly next to two huge, heavily tattooed, full-bearded, very masculine men would have never thought I was male. Two seconds after this thought process, the bigger guy accidentally bumped into me. “Sorry little man, didn’t see you there! Have a nice day bud!”
I once left my packer at my cishet friend's house. Her mom found it &, instead of being upset, chastised her for not cleaning her "strap-on" & tried to teach her about proper cleanliness with sex toys. She got through a whole rant about staying safe during sex "even if she was a lesbian" before my friend told her I was trans & that I'd left it at her house. Her mom still teases me about it lmao
Recently I came out to my friends as genderfluid and my friend was like "See ya girlies," and one of my other friends nudged her and went "see ya not girlie," and I died of happiness lmao
When i went to change my name with the bank, they asked if i wanted to change from miss to mr and i said yes but the system wouldnt let them change from a feminine gendered term to a masculine one so they picked something gender neutral and made a note on paper that it was meant to be Mr. And that's how i accidentally became a professor and had my bank letters addressed to Professor McCarthy for a while.
When I got my first packer I was still living at home and had to tell my mum about it in case she opened it or something when I wasn’t present. My mum is very supportive god bless her but then I got it and she was super excited asking me if I was wearing it and if I liked it and I just smiled and nodded but internally all I could think was “it’s a dICk mum and I’m 17 this is extremely awkward pls stop”
My mom would probably do the same to me if I get one XD,she already got about as excited as I did when I got my first binder.(I had to get a new one and she already seems so excited that its being shipped).
Me watching this video from my hospital bed bc I had top surgery yesterday: awkward trans stories? My nurses kept referring me to she/her as I was waking up from said surgery
Also, you would think that medical professionals who do surgeries on trans patients and treat them afterwards would at least be trained on what different terms mean, and to use someone’s correct pronouns and name- at the VERY bare minimum. Stuff like that makes me incredibly angry because there’s a huge lack of awareness when it comes to trans health topics, even among doctors themselves. 9 times out of 10, as a non-binary trans person who is chronically ill, I’m the one teaching my doctors about how they should be treating me. That’s unacceptable, plain and simple
It also makes it really hard to find doctors, because you usually never know who is both trans-friendly AND trans-competent. I think all doctors should be aware that binary and non-binary trans people exist, some of us are also disabled or chronically ill, and they need to know how basic things like how hormone therapy affects our bodies in various ways
Congratulations on the top surgery ! Also, why'd they call you she if you're obviously a guy ? Did they do it because your medical files say female ? Because once I was in the hospital and was misgendered, but the nurse eventually started saying he with the realization that I am a guy.
One time this really talkative uber driver asked my age, I said I was 18 (my actual age) out of reflex but obviously it was an instant regret kind of situation cause he started to ramble about how he didn't believe I was 18 and then I got scared he would suspect I'm not cis so I just invented and said I had a hormonal disease and that I never got through puberty, then he started making questions about how that affected my health and I just had to improvise, it was a very awkward drive
Victor Cortez Before I knew what Gender Dysphoria was, that’s what I called it when someone asked me to explain what or why I was trans after coming out at work. The guys I worked with were all super sorry for me and telling me that it must be SO hard, it should have made me feel Dysphoric but instead it felt kind of good that they felt pity for me.
lol before I knew what being trans actually was (besides the steriotypes I heard as a kid), I used to "lie" online and say I was a boy. I then used to say I have a hormone disorder. I think I said that a few times in public too haha. That was my go-to at like age 10-12
Victor Cortez i’m in high school and use this as a daily life savor lmao no one knows i’m trans jdjdjd (btw my birth name is non-gendered so not a problem)
Dude whenever I'm playing games online that's always my excuse. "Ah yeah.. I've got a hormonal disease, so I was homeschooled cause I got bullied at school for sounding like a girl".
I've done something like that! I've told my hairdresser that I have a testosterone deficiency and that's why I look so young and my voice hasn't dropped (I'm 21)
I'm genderfluid and the first (and only) time I used the men's bathroom wasn't really out of my own volition, and didn't really went well... But not really bad either, anyway I was too dead on my feet to really react. It was last year, in january, and I was finally done with my first semester finals (understand I had like maybe 8 hours of sleep during an entire week and I was only still standing due to a lot of coffee and a sugar high) and I had to wait 2 hours in the trainstation so I could go home. Obviously, all the coffee I drank made me want to pee, so at first I tried to wait to be on the train because there the toilets were free and gender neutral, but I still had like an hour to wait and at some point I couldn't anymore, so I went to the bathroom. In this trainstation you had to wait for the cleaning lady to tell you to go in so it didn't get crammed with people, but there wasn't anyone and she wasn't there, so I prepared the money (it's not free in touristic areas) and went inside to find her, she was cleaning the women's bathroom. I said hello and paid her and she looked at me (I was a boy then, and I was dressed like one, but I'm also really petite, kinda small and so f*cking shy that my voice goes soft and high when I speak with people I don't know, so I really didn't pass well at all...) and told me to use the men's bathroom with such a gentle voice I could have died, and that she had just cleaned it and that there was no one inside. Anyway I thank her, go next door and try not to die due to the elation rush on top of the caffeine overdose and the lack of sleep. That was the part that went well. Then, as I was still in a stall in the men's bathroom, I started hearing a man arguing with the cleaning lady but I didn't pay it too much attention because that much emotion had drained me and I was feeling comatose. I step outside the stall and go wash my hands and I hear that the man wants to use the bathroom without paying and is really disrespectful to this lady, then he started to say that he would pay, but not her (probably because she was an old black woman, while his words weren't outwardly racists (still sexists though) there was still that subtext in some of his formulations, you know, casual racism) but she wasn't having any of his bullshit. I was stepping outside the bathroom when he saw me and went red in the face with anger, yelling that I shouldn't be here, that it was the men's bathroom and that I was a girl, and he was like middle age and big and getting in my face still yelling, and maybe I would have reacted better than just flinching away if I wasn't so dead, but turns out I didn't have to, because the cleaning lady got in between and defended me, told him with a cold voice that I had been extremely polite and nice and sweet, before telling him that he either paid her, shut up and go to the bathroom or she would call the security, and he left because even though she was smaller than me and much older than him, she was huge and scary like a mamma bear inside. Then she patted me on the arm and went back to cleaning and just tutted when I tried to apologise, so I said thank you and goodbye and went back to sit on a bench to wait for my train. Best cleaning lady ever. Also she was doing a really good job because these were the public toilets the cleanest I had ever seen. She was amazing, I think I will always remember her!
Tuuli Taika Oml that’s so sweet! I’m genderfluid too but no one really cares to respect my name and pronouns, so it’s nice to know nice people like her exist. Wish you the best!
Oh my gosh, that is the sweetest story, I'm like, my face flushed like I was going to cry but not quite tears in the eyes, ya know? That's gah! Not gender related, but I've been screamed at like that a lot throughout my life, and the concept of someone defending you is so heartwarming, I'm melted omg.
TIP: If you’re scared to come out as [insert whatever sexuality you are] then make up a random friend and tell your parents that your “friend” recently came out and then see their reaction Example; “My friend (made up name) came out today! What do you think about that?” “(Insert reaction here)” **i find it helpful to use a made up name so IF your parents aren’t accepting, you won’t have to explain that you weren’t serious, and you won’t get potentially forced to drop a friend** !!Only come out when you’re ready :) no pressure!!
definitely not 100% foolproof bc some parents are okay with _other_ kids being lgbt as long as it's not their _own_ kid, but it'll help give you a general idea. :)
That kind of thing happened to me regularly into my forties, and I’m a cis female. It gets progressively less fun. “Ok, yes, I AM over 21 and so is my daughter here...”
11:28 I was in a airport (ftm here) and a person looked at my passport which has a picture of me before I cut my hair and my birthname which is really girly and stills called me sir. I'm so happy for people who understand (I was wearing thirty million Pride things though).
@@eddie2384 Yeah, I assume most people think I'm a lesbian when they see me, and I'm having a extra dysphoric day and I am in cheer (I am out to my school and everyone and I'm wearing the guy's uniform) and I can't use my binder because I already wear my binder too long just at school, so I got a sports bra and this thing to wear over it to use to somewhat bind but it looks horrible but maybe it's just because I'm having a bad day and this has nothing to do with what you said I'm sorry I'm rambling...
@@eddie2384 Most are, last year I had problems with transphobic students, but nobody says anything to me anymore, and those who are don't even talk to me so it's fine now.
my name has been lucas for like two and a half years, my mom decided to call me skywalker as a compromise. ive been on testosterone for a year and just got top surgery, so now she is trying to use the right pronouns, but she still calls me skywalker lmfao
I know this is late, but have you read the Star Wars fics by Fialleril? They are truly the most amazing fics, giving a history and culture the the enslaved people of Tatooine, and it may make you feel better about being called Skywalker. In the Tatooine myths Fialleril has created, "the Skywalker" who slaves name themselves for is Ekkreth, a non-binary trickster deity.
One time my aunt was over and came to see me in my room. From my door the first thing you see is a massive pan pride flag on my wall, and she just said “oh that’s a pretty flag, which one is it?” I told her and she basically said “cool” and that was how I came out to my aunt 😅🤷🏻♀️
I used to work as a cashier, and children would get confused about my gender all the time. I'm transmasculine, afab, and back then I had a buzzcut. I had customers' children several times calling me a boy (which kinda made me happy), and then their shocked parents would "correct" their children and apologize to me profusely; "Oh, I'm so sorry! You know, kids think that short hair automatically means you're a boy! (To the kid:) The cashier is a girl!" I still work at a grocery store but not at the cash register very much, so I haven't really had this happen anymore, luckily (also, I moved and the area I work at now doesn't have that much small children). EDIT: Oh, I also remembered something else! When I graduated, I wanted to wear a suit instead of a dress (I was in the closet back then, so it was a big thing). When my dad posted my graduation pics on Facebook, my dad's boss called him and said "Oh, congratulations on your *son's* graduation!". Then my dad proceeded to correct his boss and tell me afterwards how "ridiculous" it was for the boss to mess it up like that.
Oh, I want a suit, too! I told my mom to get one for elegant stuff because I don't like being femenine and all, and she told me it's too expensive to buy one for girls. I don't care if it's for girls or boys, I just don't want dresses and heels.
I was at Costco the other day, and for those don’t know, they’ve got loads of free samples to entice people to buy things. Furthermore, if you’re a young kid, you have to have an adult with you to ensure they don’t give any kids something they’re allergic to. I go up to get a sample (note: I’m nonbinary but I try to present more masculine and I just got my hair cut super short) and the lady asks “do you have an adult nearby?” To which my response is I’m 18... /I/ am an adult... and she gave me THE MOST SUSPICIOUS LOOK. Thankfully I was out shopping with my parents and my dad was nearby to say “yeah that’s my kid also they’re an adult” while also trying not to die laughing... 😅
Once I went to a party with friends, and at the start of the night a security person didn't let me use the boy's bathroom (I'm transmasculine). So at the end of the night I ended up trying to use the girl's and a security person told me I was in the wrong one. So I guess non binary win? But it was awful
I’m pre everything and 13, but I pass really well. This was literally three weeks ago. I was at camp and since we were doing a water based (sea based) camp- I live in NZ- we had to get changed a lot, in and out of togs and wetsuits. At the end of the day, I was changing back into normal clothes in a stall in the female changing rooms at the facility that was hosting our camp, and I came out of the stall with my bags, looking down and avoiding eye contact. All of a sudden this little girl (different school, probably 9ish) yells out “WHY IS THERE A BOY IN HERE” my flight or fight response made me bolt out of there. Later, some of the girls in my year who were also in the changing rooms comes up and starts apologising and saying they feel bad. I just awkwardly laughed and brushed it off because I don’t know them well enough to “come out” and explain it to them. (One of them, bless her soul, said “I’m so sorry,,, you don’t look anything like a boy I don’t know why they thought that” which kinda hurt but I knew they were trying to make any normal cis female feel better)But my friends who I am out to started dying of laughter when I told them the story, and it’s honestly kinda funny.
I had the exact same situation a girl (whom I had a crush on) told me my face shape was super feminine and she didn't understand how people could have thought I was a boy.
My school has a gender neutral bathroom that has one of those tampon/pad desposal boxes and i swear to god its probably the only time ill ever be thankful for a metal box.
Me: asked to be called Aidan, uses they/them and he/him pronouns, still looks fem af. (I’m non-binary btw) Professor: Okay, Jorden, you’re going to partner up with Aidan. Jorden: Who’s Aidan? *scans entire boys side of the room* Me: *slowly raises hand on the girl side of the room* Jorden: *CONFUSION*
That's why I'm glad that my teachers use my last name, I would love that they used my preferred name (Bon) but It would probably be difficult and could get some hate (transphobic classmates, so Imagine what would they say about non-binary identities)
Ugh yeah me too :(( always!! My name is Leo and my pronouns are he/they (i look super feminine). :'( Everyone always thinks I'll be a boy when they hear my name and then they get confused when they see me
Oof I had a similair situation. So my teacher who knows of my name change was calling out to people to tell something of ourselves. So it was my turn and she said "Alex" I saw my classmates looking confused and just cooly said "I changed my name." Most of my classmates do not know that I'm nonbinairy they just know that I changed my name.
Bon The Bunnycat yeah luckily so far people in my classes are pretty chill about it. I see their confusion but they never said or did anything transphobic. Also Bon is a great name. I wish you the best Bon.
Way back before I even knew what trans was, and I was wearing long skirts and had hair down to my hips almost, because we were going to church back then. My mom was getting taxes done, and the guy saw me and said "oh, is this your son?" Part of me felt a spark of happiness, but another part felt so confused how he would mix my, at the time, presenting gender. XD
when i was a kid, i had long hair and my clothes were pretty girly but my stance? it was soo wide. most people would have thought i was just a tomboy if not for the fact that i looked so damn awkward in my own skin that it was pretty obvious it wasnt that simple
my paternal grandmother often called me a boy in her last years alive. I was HUGELY closeted and self hating, and I would try to dress as "femininely" as possible with lace and delicate makeup. One day I was wearing curled pigtails (it felt awful. I like some fem things still though and accepted my love for makeup, but skirts and long hair feel baddd for me) and she just goes "ohhh who is that young boy over there? Is he the bellhop?" and I LOVED it. Didn't know why fully, and sure she wasn't totally with it, but it still has left a huge impact on me. small things often mean the world I guess
A year or so after i had come out as ftm my mum was trying to be supportive but my nana wasn't, so heres how the story goes: we're sitting in the sydney airport waiting for a flight back to nz when this guy strikes up conversation with my mum and her son, all is well until my nana comes back from somewhere and refers to me with the wrong pronouns and deadnames me and this guy is confused but yeah, when we had to board i gave the guy my passport and it obviously said F on it but he called me sir twice anyway, and so did the rest of the staff leading me on uwu
When I first heard of periods I presumed they happened to other people. Then I assumed it would only happen once, too. Then I realised it was going to happen every single month and it was going to happen to me too, and it felt like the world was ending and I didn't even get to protest because it was going to happen regardless of my protests.
@@heydiddlediddlegal9001 I have severe PMS (I literally get suicidal every month as well as migraines and joint pains) and extremely heavy bleeding so even if I was a cis woman, I wouldn't ever be okay with it.
I remember when I was a kid that I had to use the women's bathroom with my mom, because she wouldn't let me go to the men's bathroom alone. When I grew up, she finally let me go to the men's bathroom on my own, but I never wanted to go there in the first place :c Can't wait to "go back to the origins" :P
Another embarrassing thing that has happened a few times: my partner and I were assumed to be siblings, because I guess in their minds, two masculine-presenting people couldn’t possibly be in a relationship? That’s heteronormativity for ya
I just wanted to point out that my brother made district vocal jazz and made friends with a trans guy in his group who is pre everything. He asked me, his lesbian sister if I knew anything about trans people and how he could make his new trans friend more comfortable. I referred him to your channel and a few other people's as well! Keep up the good work!
i was going through airport security and they had to take me aside at the beginning for a randomized extra security thing and the person at the desk was referring to me as "he" (which is what I go by) and when he saw my boarding pass and passport with my incredibly feminine name he looked at me and was like "he? she? they?" and i was like omfg and just said "he" and it was super sweet
When I got my first binder, I had to ask my grandma to get it because my mom didn’t approve of hiding my chest, but for some reason my grandma thought it was a sexual thing? I guess she meant that she didn’t want me to wear a crop top, but it was still weird having to convince her that it wasn’t. Than I told her what a binder is, and than had to convince her I wasn’t a lesbian/trans. I like girls, but I’m not a lesbian because I’m a dude.
My story is: I was at my grandads funeral after party thing?? That’s not what that’s called anyway I was at that thing and my family was there and so was my distant family. I got up to use the bathroom (I’m ftm) and because I had my family there I had to use the females loos. I started walking in just as this woman needed the bathroom as well. She looked at my haircut (short hair), looked at my face, looked at my hair again, looked at my outfit (black suit) and then told me “sorry dear but the gents is over there” I just awkwardly said “ah yes sorry” and went back to my table and sat down
Oh, okay so something happened to me on Valentine's Day this year. We had a school rally, and I decided to sit at the back. A bunch of f-boys sat around me. The guy who sat next to me asked "Will you be my valentine?" He was clearly assuming I was a girl, so I said no. A few minutes later, he asked again, and I turned him down again. Then, just before the rally ended, I said, "Given that you're straight, you probably wouldn't have wanted me to say yes, because I'm a boy." He asked if I really meant that I was a boy, and I said yes. And then I walked out. His face was priceless.
im not out to anybody, but i am nonbinary and the amount of times people ask me my gender is amazing, ive been asked multiple times, even when im cosplaying someone who has long hair with a skirt, this one girl came up to me and just said "are u a boy" and honestly it makes me happy, i may not identify as male but it makes me happy
I'm nonbinary and had to get my hair cut the other day. First time walking into this shop and the lady who first saw me mistook me for a boy (which I don't mind cause I'm used to it) but then the lady who actually cut my hair very loudly announced that I am in fact a girl (hate my voice) and then proceeded to point it out and make the other lady apologize for mistaking me for a boy (would rather have that then the girl shit) and even ended the hair cut saying that now I look like a 'proper lady' and no one will mistake me as a boy now... She cut my hair short and I didn't see anything girl like in it (and still don't) but its still making me so self conscious that I'm now wearing a hat constantly until I have to get my hair cut again 😑
Crazy how ingrained that shit is 😞 it's not that I want people to dismiss the there are two genders oh, it's just that I don't feel the world needs to revolve around them. I'm sure your haircut looks fine! F*** them sexist b****** 👍
That’s awful! I’m so sorry 😔 Most people still don’t understand that gender is a spectrum, and trans people can be binary or non-binary. On especially rough days like that, I just remind myself that I know who I am, and that’s what matters. Other people’s perceptions of my gender do not determine its validity. Remember that!
If you don't correct people and just let them go on you'll eventually stop speaking up for yourself, you should be comfortable when talking about yourself to people who don't know you even if you aren't comfortable. I'm not saying be aggressive, perhaps interupting a person with "Sorry but I'm not a girl" even if it is rude to interupt it's much better than just gritting your teeth and baring it. I also know how hard it is to bring up the fact "I'm not a girl... no I'm not a boy" in casual conversation with strangers but one must give it a try and stand up for themselves at least once. I hope you have a much easier time expressing your identity to others in the future!
@@leonlovegood350 wouldn't be this much of a problem if there was a word for non binary in my language or even pronouns I could use, but there is not so I either have to say I'm a boy or say nothing at all
@@duck_off_7829 I feel so sorry for you, I sometimes forget that certain languages use gendered words and have no neutral alternative. You could possibly say that you don't mind whatever they call you even if you do, being chill about things that others consider not chill tend to throw others off. I'm probably not helping at all, I apologize, when your hair is ready to be cut again I recommend going to a barber! Or perhaps getting it done by a male hairdresser, hairdressers do tend to make short hairstyles more feminizing but those who are used to cutting hair on males such as barbers cut hair in a more masculine way, may your gold flow and your enemies bleed rivers.
When I was 22 I was at my cousin’s wedding reception and a lady I didn’t know tried to take my glass of wine and scolded the bartender for serving me until I told her my age.
When I moved out of my first house with roommates and landlord, I had a packer but I tore the whole room apart and moved everything when I moved. I have moved twice since then and still can't find it. The funny thing is, is I swear it was stolen by my roommate's kid who was non binary, hated me, and a general butt and a bit of a klepto 😂😂
I'm ftm and 16, last year I went on holiday with my parents and after I walked through the metal detector it beeped bc of my necklace which I forgot to take off. I was wearing a big hoodie and apart from my chest I pass as male, then the male guard told me to stand with my arms out and I didn't want to nor have enough time to say I was female, and as I wasn't binding as I'm not out, the male security guard proceeded to accidentally grope my chest. Not a good experience
That happened to my friend except she’s not trans she just a tomboy and her girlfriend is the same and the dude who was checking her reached her chest and his face went white
Whenever I've gone into girls' bathrooms in recent years I've always either gotten a very concerned and slightly scared stare or had someone go "excuse me, I think you're..." and then just stand there awkwardly until I leave. It's always a lovely time. I'd use a guys one but there's always the underlying fear that some transphobe or family member I'm not out to yet would see me and make a fuss fhfbfjbf
Whenever I would go to a clinic, hospital, or pharmacy they would get all confused when they look me up on their system. I had my name and gender marker changed 3 and a half years ago and got a new healthcare card afterwards, but it still showed my old info on their systems. They would question me about it every time, and each time I explained my situation and asked them to please update it on their system. Each time, however, I would later discover that they ignored me and didn't change it. FINALLY a few months ago I went to a different hospital and a lady changed it for me so it wouldn't keep being brought up everywhere that I show my health card. It was just really frustrating and awkward to have to explain that I'm trans to strangers, all while surrounded by people in crowded waiting areas with almost nothing to do but eavesdrop.
I love this sort of mentor-y big brother/little brother relationship you guys have. Everyone deserves to have a platonic relationship with someone who understands where they're coming from.
My awkward story was coming out. My mom and brother were visiting me at university for graduation, and my brother asked why my roomates were calling me my chosen name. I said "its cause I'm trans," meaning nb. (Everytime I explain nb to cis people I say it's a type of trans person.) I had already told my mom I was nb and explained it in that way so I thought she would know what I meant. She didn't lol. Like an hour after that she was saying good bye and everyone else was in the car, and she said "can I call you my son now?" And I just burst into tears. I kinda knew I was ftm for a while at that point, but was afraid of the change that coming out would bring. I had just been shoving it to the back of my brain for like a year. I was living in an apartment with all girls, and my bf was a straight guy. When she said that it all came out. So yeah, I came out to my family by accident, and it happened before I had even let myself acknowledge what/who I was.
I met this cis het white guy and was explaining what it meant to be non binary. Me: It means I'm not a man or a woman. Him: Wait, that's a thing?! Me: Yep. Him That's so cool! Me: (big laugh) I'm glad you think so. Edit: Thanks for all the likes :D
@@becca191 Because, generally speaking, cis, het, white men tend to have trouble understanding oppression and what it's like to be part of a minority and the interaction was very wholesome so I thought I'd put that part out there to suggest that we shouldn't judge people and assume how they're going to react. Thanks for your comment. :D
Becca Aaaa ah just a stereotype sorta thing. Like to some people cis whit Herero men are the last people you would expect to be cool with this or to say something like that.
I had a similar story where a while back when I first started transitioning I was talking to my dad about it and he was all like “your moms still not completely on board but personally I think its really cool!” I still tell people about that. It’s just so funny to me that my dad described my transitioning as “cool”
Not trans, but when I was 3 and just started preschool I went to the 'wrong' bathroom, because I didn't really understand that there was a difference, or that I was a girl! My nursery had been gender neutral and obviously when I was out with Mum/Dad they just took me into their gender appropriate bathroom to help me. I say this like I haven't done it since as an adult, which would be a lie. TBF I'm not very observant.
OMG This totally reminded me of the time I went to "the boy's" in infant's school, which I'd nearly forgotten about. Small me and adult me agree on gendered bathrooms making no sense.
Schools I’ve been in didn’t have gendered bathroom until around age 9 or 10, because the teachers need to go help the kids in the bathroom, male or female, anyways and kids don’t care at that age, so why bother
Im FtM. I went to a school volleyball game cause I could get out of class. My friend and I had just eaten some messy food so we went to the girls bathroom to wash our hands. This girl was walking out when we went in and muttered. "why's a boy going into the girls bathroom?" Before the door fully closed I heard her telling security. So we laughed and washed our hands. When I went to walk out the door this other girl waiting in line for the toilets asked. "why are you even in here?" I just told that I legally had to use this one. Her face was hilarious. Right after we left we saw security walk in and walk out very confused. It was really funny.
One time I was walking home and this was my 3rd day of packing ever...long story short my sock packer fell out of my trouser leg in front of most of the school
Once I went to a public bathroom, already very anxious. I sat down and I completely forgot I had my packer. It fell on the floor and bounced into the cubicle next door. The dude just threw it back under. Needless to say, I haven't been to a public bathroom since.
I'm not trans but when i was in yr 5 i went through a phase of short hair and wearing more boy-like clothes and was often mistaken for a boy when I'm actually a girl. One time I was just going to the bathroom during lunch and bunch of kids were playing tag and there were boys and girls running in and out of both bathrooms. I was on my way out of the bathroom and a teacher stopped me. And we had a very odd conversation. Teacher "what are you doing in there!?" Me "umm going to the bathroom?" T "you know shouldn't be in there" M "why?" T "thats the girls bathroom you should defiantly not be in there" M "but... im a girl" *she thought i was lying and didnt believe me* T "are you sure?" bitch what the fuck i know my gender yes im sure!!
When I went to the airport like a year ago two un-fun things happened: 1. The woman checking passports before security was super confused when she saw my passport. I don't totally remember what happened but I think she asked me some questions and I had to say my birth name. Before I said it I had this long pause trying to prepare myself so she asked me more questions to make sure I was the same person on my passport. 2. The airport had switched form metal detectors to body scanners. When I realized this I basically had a minor panic attack. Nothing happened fortunately, probably because I'm a minor. FYI to any trans people flying: I've heard TSA pre-check is a really good option.
@@HParadoxa Someone I know works at a college (not a teacher, they manage the custodians and make sure all the plants and stuff are in order) and once they told me a story of how one they and their workers literally had to clean up crap that was in the *urinal* . *THE URINAL*
Im a trans guy (my channel won't let me change my name--hi I'm Elijah 😂). But when I just came out, I was in the pharmacy with my partner and an elderly lady asked me if I was a 'big strong boy' and asked me to help her tie her bag for her. I obviously said yes, but She then noticed my partner and said 'oh sorry, is he your son, is it okay if he helps me?' 😂 My partner didn't hear her properly and just nodded and we literally cried with laughter when I told her what she said later. I wasn't sure whether to be happy that she gendered me correctly or be annoyed thst she thought my partner was old enough to be my MOTHER
My current "awkward trans thing" is feeling comfortable/confident enough using the men's restroom but still occasionally getting weird looks and then not being sure which restroom to use next time. One time I went to the restroom. Walked straight in the men's, no hesitation, but this old guy who saw me go in stared at me after I walked out when I had my back turned.
I genuinely thought Noah was like 16-17 years old. Sorry bud. Like Jaime said though eventually you will be happy you look much younger than your age. I’m almost 40 and still get carded for beer 🤷🏼♂️
i have this awful feeling that i may look 15 for a longggg time, then. I rather enjoy testing craft beers and scotch, so it's hugely infuriating finding a store that lets me buy things even with IDs, papers, etc. I'm almost 26. it's. not fun first world problem, yes, but I've had some dangerous run ins with people because of my "interesting status" and "looks". It's disgusting how many people will openly admit they like someone only because they look 15, just because those people think I won't do anything about it
I used to do karate when I was little and I remember having to change in the restrooms, so one day I was changing into my uniform and this woman came in and saw me and started like... Literally berating me (didn't help that classes were held at a church) and so I had to explain to her that I was a girl. I was fairly young, so I wasn't very obviously a girl, and to boot I had short hair. It was a bad experience but I can clearly remember the feeling of discomfort when I had to correct her, and it's probably one of my earliest memories of really feeling... Weird, about my gender.
Fun fact: when i went to America for the first time (I’m italian) at the airport this guy was profiling me and my family asking like names and height and such but I couldn’t understand shit cause he mumbled a lot. So im pretty sure at one point he asked me “male or female” cause I already looked very androgynous and somehow I understood “born”??? So I kept telling him my birthday. He gave up and I’m pretty sure he wrote off male. Nice
Mum told me everything when I was about 4. I've always known really. We're quite open with that sort of thing in my house so I used to tell all my mates at school whos parents were like urs... They were veryyyyy uncomfortable. 😂
When i first cut my hair short it wasn't "embarassing" at all, i was in boarding school and in the common room of my dorm these really alt artsy girls were cutting each others hair and i came in with my roomie/friend and asked them to cut my hair and it was a really nice night, it was in early december and then like a few weeks later i came home to my parents for christmas and they were all really...eh...but i'm still really happy about it.
Before starting testosterone, I started answering the phones at work as Oscar - people would regularly say 'did you know that's a boy's name?' My standard reply when asked was that Oscar was a family name and that I was named after my grandmother (not true). One bloke was like 'oh is she European then?' and I guess I was so baffled by this logic I just agreed, and they said (in a very understanding voice) 'Oh yeah, it's a very European thing.'
(FtM) Once we had a family dinner and a family member who I haven't seen in a while didn't recognize me bc I had short hair and said to my grandma whispering "who's the young boy?" Then my grandma told him who I was and he turned red of embarrassment (but I'm pretty sure that he thought I didn't hear him) That made me feel quite happy That was like 4-5 years ago and to this day I haven't come out yet (I'm turning 18 this year) moments like that one makes me feel exited for when I come out, but shit's scary
Hey Jamie just want to say I love your videos and rlly support what you do, your videos and Noahs have helped me through my dysphoria when im going through a rough time
No health class I’ve ever had has taught me anything about putting in tampons. I had to google it and I still haven’t worked up the guts to try again after my last attempt failed. I’ve never thought about the fact that none of my health teachers explained it and now I’m really pissed.
I find these confessions awesome. They lighten my mind and I have an honest to goodness laugh. My story: In short, I knew I was trans (FTM) when I was in my early teens. It took me a 4 page letter, that I mailed, and a dinner discussion with my parents to come out. I lived 20 minutes away from them. I came out to my parents when I was 33 years old. Thankfully, they were lovingly accepting, but had thought I was going to come out as a lesbian instead. To give you some perspective, the group of friends I hung out with in high school, all of them had come out as either gay or lesbian. Now, I'm in my late 40's, just started T and looking for a top surgeon. Your page and your friends in your videos really brighten my days. Thank you for posting!!
@Jay S lucky for me that I have not been bullied or teased (because I have been studying with the same group of people since 2, some since 6, so they have always known me as the short hair peep) But I'm so self cautious ugh
@@user-sp5ds4nq5e lmao I'm lucky to be born in Asia (but if I was from the Netherlands I bet I wouldn't be this short) where people are shorter, but still, I look like a primary 5 student (year 5)
I'm waaayyy open about being trans. Every time something comes up I'm like "oh yeah I'm trans". I'm very privileged to live in a country where I'm safe doing that. Have to say it mostly happens in places where there are people in function who have to be professional, so if they reacted badly I could file a complaint. :p
For the story of the rude woman in the bathroom at 6:54, it would be so tempting to hold up your menstrual supplies, like "these are the only bathrooms to have a place to dispose of the bloody remains. I'm in the right bathroom".
Before I came out to my parents, one of my teachers made a joke about parents not knowing middle childrens' names. I'm a middle child. I just turned to my friend and said, "literally"
I'm not even trans and that "You're in the wrong bathroom" happened to me, so yeah, just a thing shitty people do in general, just let people use the bathroom and mind your own business please 💖
Not a trans person, but a guy with long hair, so I would be washing my hands and get ‘I think you are in the wrong bathroom mate’ or just confused looks. especially when I have a mask on.
Jamie's mr. limpy story made me think of mine. I also got an xsmall to try packing (hated it) so I also just shoved it in a drawer and forgot about it. So one day I sent my brother to get something that happened to be in this drawer and he was like um what? so I explained (he already knew I'm trans) and he thought it was hilarious and because he's an immature 20-year-old boy he asked if he could keep it too weird his friends out. I'm not using it so I said sure. We live together and I'm pretty sure it's going to be our xmas tree topper this year because we're heathens.
Called a taxi to go to work this morning n the dispatch lady called me Ma'am n my heart melted. I was brushing my teeth while on hold so I had a front row view of my big giddy smile as jumped up n down in excitement. Was a good way to start the day.
