A Transphobe Reviewed My Book 

You…are probably right.

If they actually read it they're straight up lying. I've read the book.

They did seem to focus a lot on parts that had a picture nearby...

@@majestic_defalt 😭

@@majestic_defalt wait hold on.. their dumb logic? only reading near pictures? sounds like the brain of a 5 year old to me

Some people still believe the gays are pedos. Sad sad world we live in. You think if they went back to the "I got a tumor that turned me into a girl/boy" that they'd buy it again?

It’s not even 70’s it goes back to around the 50’s, and it’s WAY older depending on what marginalized group it’s been applied to

I'm beginning to think they don't even know what a pedophile is. How can I be a pedophile when it's an instant turn off to find out someone is more than 10 years younger than I am? "You're still a pedophile!". I'm almost 40. How is not being attracted to people under 30 a pedophile?

Did you know that back in the 40s leather jackets used to be a way gay people (specifically men) flagged each other. 🏳️‍🌈The more you know🏳️‍🌈

@@one-onessadhalf3393 and it goes further still. Its literal actual nazi propaganda. There was the crime of "sexual deviance" that included pedos, zoophiles, sex offenders(excluding the countless times that the nazis did it ofc), and it ALSO just so happened to include gay men and amab transppl, like transwomen. This lead to them all being treated like shit

OH NO I MUST NOT EXIST BYE I'LL BE BACK IN 5 YEARS WHEN I'M 18

“Mr. Stark, I don’t feel so good.”

Bye! I’ll be back in 7 years!

Bruh.

@anoxbar4428 HOW DARE YOU MURDER MY HEART BY REMINDING ME OF THAT 😭/j accurate lol

My grandma keeps saying that she “isn’t transphobic” even tho she’s said some gross stuff about trans people and even Michelle Obama (she thinks they’re trans…). And continues to say that Obama should have said she was trans (even tho she’s not) despite her also saying that this sort of thing “isn’t anyone’s business” and “shouldn’t be rubbed in our faces”, it’s incredibly hypocritical… then my grandma would say again “I’m not transphobic, *but*-“

They have some very thick skulls

​@@OszkarFulopThey probably brag at how smooth their brains are.

@@Elias-ws7scAh, the masculinization of black women. We love to see it/s

Ok I'm stealing "My sibling of the sea" because that sounds very poetic

Same but with a different name and darker hair and a kid.

​@@EmoBearRightssame but with everything you just mentioned and bisexual

Nice to see allies, ally gang unite :p

Miss, Karen, you are a legend!

@@SQUID0NKEY Why thank you. I actually considered starting a RU-vid channel called ‘Karen Rants’, but make it about social justice, equality, etc. But I decided I didn’t want to deal with the negativity.

This could just as easily be flipped to “we don’t believe there is such a thing as a Christian (or any other abstract aspect of identity) child”. Like fine, you can believe or not believe what you want but those beliefs don’t give you the right to restrict and remove the rights of other people with differing beliefs.

This reminds me a lot of the argument "autistic adults don't exist" - it's like some people think brain chemistry and structure magically changes on your 18th birthday!

@@hannahk1306yeah everyone knows that your brain gets rebuilt the second you turn 18 /j

It should *also* be noted that a *lot* of people make major decisions about their future education well under the age of 18.

Strangely, you do have to be 30 to rent a convertible. I always thought that was pretty ageist.

@@electronics-girl Is that actually a law? Sounds more like a company policy which is probably related to insurance costs.

@@SakuraNyan In the UK you can join the Army at 16, but people are trying to get even blockers banned until people are 18.

@@kaspianepps7946 No, it's not a law. It's just a policy that rental car companies have.

It’s definitely deliberate

This isn't an uncommon tactic from reactionary bigots. The exact same happened with Mama Dr Jones deliberately having her title omissed when puritist school officials were denouncing her sex ed.

I noticed that too!

Oh that's so shady. I forgot Jamie had a doctorate. At least mention it, geez.

​@@DeezNutzOnYoChinnyChinOh, they're handing degrees out like candy? Did they hand one to you? Is that how you know?

😮 oh no I just got the news too! I’ll also get my 38 yr old trans man self outta here too!

55yo straight cis woman here. Stumbled on Jamie when researching trans stuff to better understand my niece. Stayed because I love his wholesome vibe.

giggled at this

Me: 13 year old trans guy, figured out I was trans, looked around for trans youtubers, found jamie, did a silent cheer of awesomeness, have been watching his channel for multiple years. I watch his videos, and as a young trans person, I can tell that his videos are not aimed towards only young trans people.

50 year old cis man here checking in!

no now you have gone to far. think about how much it must pain the reviewer to have such slurs as "transphobe" thrown at them ='(((((((((((((

Funny how those things work, right?

what??? no way!!!!!!

@@keeprollin9911Oh my god this person is bullying them :( I can’t believe they realized that the review was transphobic 😭

Some transphobes unironically be like: "Won't somebody please think of the poor transphobes that can't even be open transphobes without being called transphobic".

I guess gender to them means not just gender but like affirming gender. If you deny it it's like not gender. Or something

I would say avoid becoming as obsessed with gender as Graham Linehan, because it really isn't turning out well for him.

maybe the author of the article should follow their own advise and stop being obsessed by gender 🤷‍♀

The fact that the conservatives I know are the ones that seem to be obsessed with gender never ceases to amaze me

Are you not all there in the head?

Benign tumors got me💀💀

And cis women get breast reductions all the time…

As a cis woman who is scared of cancer, this is what I don't get. These people complain about binders and argue that they are unhealthy but then they also complain when a person gets a mastectomy. Why? It stops them from using the binder and reduces risk of breast cancer. If they are so pro-health, shouldn't they be happy for the person who has the surgery?

"How could they chop off healthy tissue???" I don't think they know but...the splitting of healthy cells into...more healthy cells....is how we grow. Also cancer starts from cells spliting to fast. Also do they cut their hair? Because hair cells are healthy cells.

@@starflowers1751 I'd just like to clarify that hair is a material and not made of cells, hair is made of keratin and is formed by follicles, which are multicellular structures in your skin (and the outer layer of your skin and your nails are also made of keratin and not living cells) and cancer is specifically caused by damage to DNA in specific areas which causes the part that regulates cell division to malfunction, which is what causes cells to split too fast

This is like when I told my parents my best friend was non binary and my dad said "I don't believe in that" and I was like.. okay.. but it's still happening. 😂 And my parents wonder why my bestie hasn't been to visit them in years 🤦🏻‍♀️ ffs, I'm not subjecting them to deliberate misgendering and deadnaming so my parents can act like they can "fix them" somehow. Ugggh. Every time my parents bring them up in conversation with me, they forcefully deadname and misgender them to me. I correct them and carry on. "I don't believe in it!!!!" 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

@user-dz9eg4bx8q Some of what you say is true but a lot of what you say, you need to back up with sources. Especially when you say 99% will grow out of it, what study are you citing?

@user-dz9eg4bx8q Hey, adult from europe here. Interestingly, repeating things over and over again does not make them through and progress can only be hindered, not stopped. The entire scientific consensus and even most big health institutions disagree with the "opinion" that you stated here. You can believe that stating otherwise equates to political activism, maybe even believe that it will have any impact but it won't. It only reaffirms the cruelty within you because everything we do and everything we entertain and reproduce, shapes us further. The only "winning" you may achieve is that you will sadly become the person you never wanted to become as a child.

There is no such thing as "gender identity disorder." Gender role is mostly a social construct. Gender identity seems to be innate. You are deeply confused.@user-dz9eg4bx8q

@user-dz9eg4bx8q blah, blah, blah. I asked for a source and the only sources you give me, you delete. But I will check out Susan Bradly at University of Toronto and get back to you.

The sad thing is, if you go step by step they will usually agree with you - until they have to bend over backwards so far it creates a wormhole in time to reconnect to “don’t make cis kids transition” and claim ALL childhood transition, now even social nonmedical transition, is transing cis kids because of the %age of people who ultimately choose not to go on blockers/HRT. It doesn’t matter how high that %age is, or what order of magnitude of trans kids would be forced to go through the equivalent, even a single detransitioner is too many for them. And we’re ultimately disposable in the course of saving the 1-3% (range depending on definition). It’s “not their problem” if we struggle to make it to adulthood or have a more difficult transition due to waiting, even though a single detransitioner apparently requires their moral crusade. (And let’s not even go into how the majority of detransitioners are STILL supportive of the trans community, still trans allies, or even end up being even more active in the trans and intersex communities than ever due to now having a mix of both FtM and MtF experiences!)

It’s easy when you think that you want your child to be a happy, well adjusted, capable adult. Part of that is knowing that you are loved unconditionally. The rest just follows.

​@@chrisbfreelancePlease. Elaborate. What logic is completely twisted? How?

@@chrisbfreelance I agree. I can’t fathom why anyone would do anything but support their child in whatever gender that child chooses.

thing is they do believe trans people are telling cis kids that they must be trans, it's why you can't reason with transphobes because they just put words in our mouths and then argue against those instead of what we're actually saying. Technically their arguments can be seen as logical, it's just that it's logical against a thing that does not happen.

Exactly, and if that trans woman is a rapist, it's not because she's trans

all rapists are bad what are you talking about

@@djebuscool Where did they say rapists aren't bad, they're saying if a trans woman is, it doesn't represent the trans community, jus like a rapist man doesn't define all men

Yeah considering most r ists are cis men then I think we can safely say that none of these people are reps for their gender id. As great people come in all sorts so do the opposite of great.

@@SmolEli not to sound pretentious but I am a he.

It's different

​@@missdaydreamsshow?

​@@missdaydreamss yes, please explain how it's different. In both cases, they are given to children for the purpose of delaying puberty. In both cases, if the child stops taking puberty blockers, biological puberty proceeds. Please explain how it's different.

@missdaydreamss Lmao you didn’t even try or bother to explain your bull$hit point 💀

bro is too scared to reply back you might as well delete your comment before you make an even bigger fool of yourself @@missdaydreamss

👋 (waves) in agender solidarity from a boomer from Finland

You're agender? Which one? Sorry, I needed to make a pun.

@@1th_to_comment.there secretly is a gender agenda, but it’s an agender agenda not a gendered gender agenda. gender

​@@ronjaj.addams-ramstedt1023Kiitos from Oregon!

@@1th_to_comment.I- 😭

As if straight cisgender people (and the patriarchy) aren't obsessed with gender

Seriously, the ones most obsessed with gender are almost always transphobes. They *never* shut up about it, even bringing it up when it's not at all relevant. They bring up gender and gender related topics way more than any trans person I've interacted with

Love it

Lmao

Wholesome ally dad

i would say WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU as i am an aromantic

It’s actually insane because being trans he’d have less privileged than any cis man (or cis people in general). Of course by now he passes very well. Many trans people don’t pass well and wouldn’t transition just for privilege. That’s not possible for many and that’s not the reason ever. Such a silly argument.

Also the Islamophobia like, implying that just because Shaaba’s family is Muslim (and conservative) that just explains the queer phobia, instead of just leaving it as “conservative” which basically on any political spectrum implies certain closed minded thinking patterns. Also like, it’s always TERFS that trod into racism, Classism, and etc when they try to be transphobic. The Venn diagram of closed minded bigots like the “all lives matter” crowd and the TERFs is just a circle.

Especially because he's not straight.

I know! It was literally "Did Jamie only transition to a man so that his grilfriend could date/marry him without her parents calling her a lesbian?" 😦 I'm suddenly hearing the Meatloaf song in my head "I would do any-thing for luuurve... but I won't dooo thaaaaaat...!"

Yep, that was definitely the biggest "holy shit wtf?" moment of the video for me. Just like Jamie, I didn't realize what they were insinuating at first, and the idea that anyone would be that offensively brazen absolutely shocked me.

According to those particular haters, I _double_ unexist.

​@@M_M_ODonnellDo they cancel each other out like a double negative, then?

​@@M_M_ODonnellare you transparent? I had too

Wow... my girlfriend is trans, has adhd and autism. Is she triple nonexistent?😂

@@SQUID0NKEY Honestly she's an ethereal, otherworldy being at this point 😅

do you feel that the mainstream detrans representatives reflect your experiences? (obviously ignoring the part where they decide that they need to stop the trans propaganda etc etc). sorry if that's too personal of a question

BASED!!! Please everyone help explain that detransitioning people is a small minority, and that there are no real permenant costs of transitioning without surgery!

this reminds me of back when i commented on a friends (his last name was gray) youtube video that his name should be _first name_ gay. when he got angry upset another friend (who was in on the joke) and me told him how he should be proud that he got his first hater yada yada yada. that gray guy was a massive homophobe and i thought i was a lesbian back then (im actually a trans guy) and it was just so much fun to see how angry he got. my other friend and me were rolling on the floor laughing. looking back maybe it wasnt fair tho esp for gay ppl bc i still used gay as an insult of some sort. =/

@@keeprollin9911 I'm gay and I too have made a homophobe angry by calling him gay. It's just funny. What was not funny was that he ended up saying the f slur. I think the difference between a homophobe calling someone gay and someone calling a homophobe gay is kind of the intend in it. The homophobe says it because they think that it is a bad thing, but in the other situation it's just not the case. You obviously just did it to make fun of homophobia. I wouldn't say it's unfair to gay people to do that.

Don’t ignore them, make a Video about it were you make fun of them and at the same time make money

@@Roger-IDFIf your gonna get haters may as well capitalize off them.

​@@Roger-IDF*B E E G BRAIN* moment. Love it

More people regret getting leg-surgery than people who regret transitioning- and yet, WE STILL PERFORM LEG SURGERY.

More people regret having children than regret medically transitioning, yet we don't ban childbirth. Knee replacement surgery, nose jobs, and many more procedures (including many performed on children) all have much higher regret rates than transitioning, yet we don't hear loads of people pushing for bans on those things. For those who want evidence, a published review of 27 studies, representing just under 8,000 transgender individuals, found a pooled regret rate of 1% (Bustos, Bustos, Manrique, 2021). They also found what the OP shared here re: reasons for detransitioning being overwhelmingly due to social pressures or lack of resources, and the vast majority of detransitioners only doing so temporarily. Anyone who knows anything about major medical procedures knows there is always a regret rate, and 1% is *incredibly* low. Transphobes don't have a single leg to stand on here.

Genuinely curious, what is leg surgery? I know more people regret any form of plastic surgery (breast, rhinoplasty, etc) than regret transitioning. But I haven't heard of "leg surgery"

​@@OdinsSageLeg lengthening maybe?

@@kaelin_cheriseya see, the difference is, uh… it’s that trans is… uhhh. Because legs… yes

Everyone else must be wrong! I am right in every way! These hundreds of reviews that disagree with me are proof that I'm right!

@@joshuanorman2 couldn’t be anything else, just the “liberals” trying to silence the truth, no need to self reflect

@@chrisbfreelance then where is the criticism from your so called "silent majority"

@@chrisbfreelanceyou know what’s funny? I dunno where you are, but in the US 23 elections, the reps lost a lot of ground. You wanna know where the majority is? They don’t care. They’re here for economics and what we’re going to do about different conflicts we’re in. They don’t care for the anti trans nonsense being peddled by republicans. Why? Because it doesn’t matter to them. To them being trans is an “okay…? It doesn’t really effect me, so just do what you feel like you need to. Your body your choice.” At the end of the day, you’re the only one here continually yelling about things you don’t understand. Let me ask you a different question, is it worth it? Is all this time being a dick to other people worth it? Of all the things you could do, you do this. Day in, day out. To what end? What do you hope to accomplish? Are you so bland of a person that you need to get a rise out of people for entertainment or do you think being an ass will change reality? You can keep commenting all you want, I won’t stop you, but that’s good time wasted. Here, if you want something good to do, go to your pc, open steam, and play Outer Wilds and it’s DLC. don’t look up anything more than the store page description, it’s best to go in blind, but it is a profound experience, and one everyone deserves to have

Transphobia: not adhering to a social construct. Why are you a bigot?

@@chrisbfreelance Having internet access doesn't make you immune from spouting transphobic BS on RU-vid

⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠@@chrisbfreelanceBut it does mean that he is far more educated and informed on the subject than most other people. Also, deliberately misgendering a trans person, especially a trans person who has clearly completed their transition, just makes you look like an idiot and an asshole.

Absolutely! He even did his dissertation in this topic! He literally was proven to be reliable to talk about the thing! It's so wilde to me how transphobes have to put down educated people like Jamie to feel comfortable with their dumb uneducated opinion😂

@@chrisbfreelance _He_ did _his_ dissertation on the topic of being trans. If _his_ research wasn't reliable or accurate, _he_ would not have _his_ master's degree or _his_ PhD

@@chrisbfreelance How does that even matter to the topic at hand?

but when you take hormones you are literally changing yr biological sex

imagine thinking that because someone wants to take a train from boston to new york that they're denying boston's existence. like no, it's because i don't want to be there (no hate to people from boston. tis just a metaphor)

I think the main thing they're disputing is a Trans Man stating they're a Man. They are not the same. You can Identify as a Man. But to state you are a Man has requisites that can't yet be met by a Trans Man.

​​​@@spankyjeffro5320 Why would you hold a complete stranger to that level of expectation?? I have served several trans people in my profession, and I could only tell that one of them was trans by appearance. The others I only knew about because they were open and said so, or because their information in the system wouldn't allow us to use their preferred name. It would be so unbelievably rude of me to call my customer "Joanna" when he clearly wants to be called "John" and CLEARLY has been taking testosterone. No identifying feminine traits whatsoever. I had to update his profile several times to reflect who he CLEARLY IS. He is a man named John. He is lean, grows facial hair, has a deep voice, and socializes himself as masculine in the way he wears his hair and clothes. I would have to be a crazy person to insist that "no, he's a woman". Like, if I could show you a picture of this person, you'd see how idiotic you'd have to be to push this issue. ESPECIALLY if you didn't even know he was trans, because it is absolutely NOT obvious. NONE of my coworkers even knew until I told them about the recurring issue with his personal information. NOT EVEN MY BOSS.

A trans man is a type of man tho. Sometimes, what makes someone biologically a man or a woman can be a little more complicated than transphobes want it to be. There are a number of biological variations on the standard XX female or XY male that occur in a tiny percentage of the population, and a considerable body of peer reviewed research has piled up over the past quarter century showing that transsexuality is indeed one of them.@@spankyjeffro5320

Right? Like I've met pro-LGB transphobes, but i have never in my life met, seen, heard of, or otherwise glimpsed a pro trans homophobe.

​@@spooniejusticewarrior Actually, for a while in Christianity It was seen as better to be trans rather than gay As it "specifically states" gay people in the bible (it doesn't) but doesn't state trans people in the bible Just a little interesting tidbit of information

Tbf I have heard of that kind of thing happening in places like Iran (cause gender affirming procedures are allowed but being gay is punishable by death there) but yes, not in western countries.

And also, I transitioned m2f and am attracted to girls, so I instead ran towards homophobia I guess 😂

@@gingy3778 right? These people pretend like gay, bisexual, and asexual trans people don't exist.

Sorry you can't unsend the email classic liberal snow flake L!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

For real! They act like using she her pronouns and dressing different and more is some "permenant mistake", even puberty blockers can be reverted, the only thing that is actually permenant is surgery, which is something that is nearly impossible for trans kids to access. There is no harm in letting somebody, trans male or female cross dress and go by different pronouns. It is SO easy to detransition if all youve done is cross dress, wear a binder if your a trans male, go by different pronouns, try to speak in a more feminine or masculine voice, maybe use puberty blockers, etc. the only real point of no return is surgery which is something that trans kids cant even access.🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️ My only real problem with this post is the phrasing "cis people" being a bit of an overgeneralization. I am hetero and cis myself but i try to be a good ally to the LGBTQIA+ community.

I’m happy you were able to find yourself and be open about it, I am sure it had taken a lot of guts to come out! I hope you live a long and happy life in your own (gender euphoric) way.

Yep, like do they have any idea how messed up you feel when you're having **dreams** about getting breast cancer because it's the only way you know of to get rid of your chest while you're being sexualized as a child and told you're wrong for finding it uncomfortable?

congratulations! it really does shine through when you're finally able to be comfortable in your body and identity. i'm glad you were able to find yourself and openly express it 💕

i also had an out of control ED that i almost died from. completely went away when i went on T.

You do Realize that nobody cares that your non binary we just dont want you people force feading it into our children!!!

also nuts that they chose someone with a phd to come after. like Jamie of all people knows what he's talking about, didn't he write his dissertation on this?

The answer is to cry and get over it lol

​@@pissapocalypse?

Absolutely!

People who are genuinely bigoted love to “claim” people as agreeing with them at all costs. Like, “oh she’s a *bigot* too“. We really just have to proceed with caution and normal kindness. A mistake is not forever.

Potential problematic views aside, this is a valid expression of how many trans people feel. I came out at 45 and three years later I actually feel a lot like a 19 year old. That rush of self-exploration and internal drama is so typical of teenage people that it's hard to _not_ make the comparison. I wouldn't say I missed out on it as a young person, rather that I got v2.0 in my middle age.

What did she say about enbies?

@@CorwinFound*writes note* punt gender identity problems to middle age to avoid mid-life crisis

@@Salikino Just found what she said: "I hope all of the people (enbies) who fought to have trans identities no longer considered a medical condition that requires dysphoria are happy because you've won," the post Schafer commented on and liked begins. "The red states are beginning to agree with you. HRT and gender affirming surgery are no longer deemed medically necessary for adults in Florida and it's not going to stop there." "Y'all just couldn't stand to let binary trans people be the voice of this community," it continues. "You had to dismantle all of the guidelines around being trans to fit your narrative so you could feel valid and then you demonized trans people who challenged your ideals and called them truscum/transmedicalists." "What you don't understand is that binary trans women and men don't have the luxury of playing around with what it means to be trans the same way that you do," it says. "You challenge gender ideologies from the safety of a cis body that requires no medical treatment. We have to play the game and live by the guidelines that cis people have created for us because that is how we survive." "You're not helping. You're not dismantling the gender binary. You're not expanding the minds of cis people," it concludes. "You are making them hate us." Too bad conservatives don't have the capabilities of an open mind, they weren't even open minded to binary trans people anyway, red states are constantly complaining about something, first it was gay people, then 5g(?), next it was covid and now they haven't got covid mandates, it became abortion and now its trans people. Tbf they hate women and children too, yet they won't talk about them as much and hide their hatred under "protect women and children" when really all they're doing is the opposite.

So real. I identified as girlflux for a week before realising that _that_ (as my third incorrect label) was also wrong. It took another year to realise I was a trans guy. People are wrong about themselves all the time; it takes experience to know who you are.

Me at 18: I am a straight man. Manly and straight! At 25: ok I'm definitely bi, but still a man. At 30: I'm cis, but barely, it's ok though because gender is a spectrum! At 32: holy shit I'm trans. At 35: out and socially absolutely a woman now!

Thank you

Thanks!

Thank you ^^

Thanks you are too ❤

❤

Late in life transitioned guy here. Came out and started HRT three years ago at age 45. The sad reality, especially for us older folk, is that the trauma and struggles of literal decades never goes away. Hell, I'd even say that it often never "heals." But I've noticed in the last year a slow, almost unnoticed, but really transformative change. A feeling of finally moving on. I'd hoped in transitioning that the depression I'd lived with most of my life would magically melt away. It didn't. It got better but coming out, HRT, top surgery didn't "cure" me. After a year or so I kind of just accepted that depression and the negativity I'd acquired from decades living as a woman would always be there. Imagine my surprise when after almost three years I suddenly noticed that I was... content. I wasn't depressed. I started paying attention and realized that over the previous months I'd begun eating more healthfully, working out, got some decades overdue dental work, started getting politically active, and actually gained some friends. When the F--K did that happen?!? I'm not saying this will happen to you. I hope it does. But I think what happened for me was just a product of time. Decades of harm don't just go away overnight. It takes time to settle into your new self and for those changes you've made to seep into your subconscious. A hopefully fitting metaphor. A teen will hit a growth spurt and suddenly they become clumsy and awkward physically. But within a few years their brain catches up to what's happened to their body. And they become comfortable in their adult body. So you are in a growth spurt physically, mentally and emotionally. There will be bumps and bruises as you get accustomed to the changes, but I hope that comfort will happen for you. Congratulations on your transition and I wish you all the best!

I’m sorry your parents weren’t supportive. As a supportive mom, I can’t imagine not supporting my son. I actually didn’t know anything about trans people until my son came out to me. He helped me learn about trans people and gave me books to read about trans people. He also told me about different great TouTuber’s. We found a great great gender clinic and we’re able to change his name and sex on his birth certificate, his social security card, his drivers license, his car insurance, his medical insurance, etc. We were able to save up so he could get top surgery, so he didn’t have to wear a binder anymore. I make sure I support him and other trans people. I make sure I go to my state legislature and fight against anti trans bills. I just want you to know that there are people out there fighting for you, even if your family isn’t supportive.

@@kimcarter129 That is so great. Older queer people (especially if they come out later in life) experience what is really close to generational trauma. It's amazing to see so many of the next generation come out into support and love in a way that was extraordinarily rare for us older folks. Not that your son will never experience difficulties but he'll be able to face them with an internal foundation of strength and support that you've helped provide him. Good job and thanks for contributing to these comments.

I'm enjoying the hell outta comments from older queer people like me. I'm 41 and didn't grow up with any LGBTQ info. Didn't discover who I was till my late twenties. I haven't done any transitioning yet, but I want to. It just feels "weird" doing it at an older age. But it does feel less confining accepting myself as enby after all these decades.

May you live your best life from now on.

I’m so sorry you went through that! That is just awful. And it shows so clearly how, often, the people in the most danger in a restroom are the marginalized LGBTQ+ identifying people. Transphobes and homophobes refuse to acknowledge others’ real, lived experiences in favor of holding onto their own “morality.”

Regardless of the parent's gender, that's definitely a dad joke, so "Dad" might be appropriate anyway.

beautiful, this is the truth

When my sis came out as lesbian I accidently did the casual "yeah, I know, don't tell [male parent]". She was very confused, we have a mother/daughter type relationship now.

​@@terrifiedofhumans1129that sounds wholesome ❤

If a trans person comes out to their sister, is the correct terminology "Hi trans, I'm sis" or "Hi trans, I'm cis"?

"14 is too young for an abortion but old enough to give birth" Thats something I never understood, why force a child too give birth? They're way too young for that.

Yeah, because bringing another person into the world would NOT completely change your life forever... /s

I don’t want to throw America under the bus in that way, but that is a genuine and “good faith” argument being made when it comes to children getting pregnant. Great point.

@@neon17.08 because they blame the child for having sex

​@@ScarletTiger109 never mind that in the vast majority of cases where a child that young got pregnant, it's due to r*pe/inc3st... but "she shoulda kept her legs shut", ammirite? 🤬

Funnily enough, the "Trans Boom" is similar to what happened with *left-handedness.* When that got destigmatized there was a "boom" of left-handed people, which eventually levelled out. *Same thing's happening here with transness*

i've never heard an argument for trans rights more valid than this one. really. if you can start thinking about what you're going to do for the rest of your life, then you can think about your own identity and self-expression. it's not that f*cking hard (pardon the curse- i'm extremely passionate about this, as i am a minor that has been exploring what i want to do with my life and also exploring my identity. and my parents are making the latter quite difficult...)

1. Just realised I'm fucked career wise. 2. My friend, who is a trans man, was told by his mother that he couldn't possible know that until he is 40.

@user-vw1yz3cb3l *Nobody* is telling them that they were "born into the wrong body"

​@user-vw1yz3cb3lWith all that is happening in the world, do you think we WANT to make cisgender kids into transgender kids? No. We want to make transgender kids into transgender adults.

It's almost like their agenda is to bash on others rather than actually care about their wellbeing

And that's exactly _why_ they're against puberty blockers. They _want_ people not to pass, so they have clear targets for discrimination.

They also clutch pearls when they get confronted for calling a cis woman trans due to hormone issues (PCOS) and grow unwanted "Male pattern" hair growth.

Look, you've gotta stop expecting logical argument from any of these people. It's all about how they feel.

That's part of why they oppose puberty blockers. They don't want trans women to pass. They want them to develop enough male sex characteristics so they could clock them, harass them, and harm them.

RU-vid doesn't care if you report them. We can stand up to bullies as a result.

Counterpoint: interact with them so Jamie gets more money

Agreed

I'm very happy for you that it helped! The book will help get people like Jamie's voice out to more people.

Goodjob!! Happy to hear your mom is supportive now!

People can indeed change, if they just *try.*

Yes! So glad there is much more awareness and vocabulary nowadays. I knew I was different from about age 6. But that was 1976, so 🤷 glad we have progressed a lot. ❤

I keep getting transphobic ads from Prager-U and other channels, it’s pissing me off. And all I can do is sigh and try not to look at it.

@@DemiSuatonsame it’s always before Jamie’s Videos of something too

@@VedaTurner-yk9ljyoutube seriously needs to work on that. is there like, absolutely no quality control with what ads are played before what videos?

@@DG_Totioh there is - they control for the quality of money, and PragerU pays big bucks to run ads with whatever tags they choose. So they choose tags used by actual trans, race, disability, etc activists instead of their own terminology. And Google takes a fat cheque to the bank.

​@@DemiSuatonI report then block them even though I still SEE THEM!

That was a part of it, sure, but the reviewer was also being pretty damn transphobic, such as saying there aren't any trans kids or pushing for even more limitation and hoops to jump through for transgender people's medical treatment.

Transphobes are just mean and their opinions on trans matters don't have merit, but people not liking your jokes is _personal._

Loool

@@artistdudebro The sad is that the reviewer technically never said there aren't any trans kinds. He was just quoting an "expert", which in his head absolves him from all responsibility.

As a parent, I am so sick of “parents’ rights” groups trying to deny my right to support my son. The main thing parents are up against is ignorance and fear mongering.

Yeah, I'd put his PhD in this area up against whatever the other "professionals" have.

They show their bias!

@@asympti2185 At least one of them is a self-described Freudian psychologist, which is sort of like meeting a physicist who says they don't waste their time with anyone who came after Newton.

How did you send the trans flag hearts? Are they emojis, I can't find them? 🥔🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈

@@lab_is_not_listening I believe it's because they're a chanel member

@@lab_is_not_listeningyeah how do you do that?

@@KateWick1997no?

🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵

@@trevorchester4439 What's this? Coming from someone who calls people just wanting to exist a bigot?

@@trevorchester4439 How do they in any way fit the definition?

Good luck!

@@trevorchester4439Still waiting for a proper answer.

Good Luck!

That was one of the dumbest manufactured outrage moments... kids won't have the cultural context so to them it will be nothing more than a stuffed bear that comes with a dress.

I think the funniest part about that “drama” is the fact that kids have no idea who RuPaul even is. And since the build a bear bears are all gender neutral by default, the average kid would have no idea that bear was meant to represent a drag queen. All they’d see is a bear in a sparkly dress.

Build a bear has an adult section?

@@samboi123they do! I didn’t know that either 😂

yeah, it's called The Bear Cave@@samboi123

No gender No sexual orentation No romantic orentation *All the matters is **Lego**!*

You're my token cis het friend now

Agreed!!@@Finnley-supports-translives

Thank you@@SmolEli

@@irmalair9861 Not actually token though, I just like you and *lego*

"No, no that's different! You can't hate all white men just because one abused/r*ped/harassed/drugged/was rude to you!"

Yeah, most comments were on the pictures..... haha

Transphobes can’t read

Testosterone is what influences men to make them more aggressive. Trans women receive hormone treatments to reduce the testosterone in their bodies. It is neither genes nor development.

Your friend is a terrible ally.

I love the idea that we "fought long and hard" for...sex-segregated bathrooms? Those were just the default, weren't they? 😆

Your friend is lying about being a trans ally, or maybe he's just uneducated. If you have *any* questions, I can help answer what I know

​@@erraticonteuseactually Prior to world war 1, public restrooms were reserved for men, as men were the ones with the jobs and outdoor lives When WWI started and women were needed to work in order to keep society functional, that's when they started using the public restrooms, all fine and dandy until the war ended and the men came back, expecting their jobs and positions back The women, some of which wishes to keep their newfound freedoms did have to fight to keep them And after a while gender-specific restroom became a mainstay due to the men wanting the old lives back This is also what happened with gender-specific sports as well

Hey I'm 30, I didn't come out really until after college. I feel like I had been searching for the word "nonbinary" my entire life and it was younger trans friends of mine that showed me the light

Same here. The Internet didn't exist when I was growing up, much less accessible info on LGBTQ anything. I didn't discover the terms agender and non-binary till my late twenties when I'd finally had enough of not knowing what I was feeling for so long.

Yep. I hated puberty with a passion, literally called it torture (and got mocked for it by adults who told me I should feel privileged to have a body men would love 🤮🤬), and didn't think anything of it when people 'mistook' me for a boy. I didn't really feel like a boy, but never took into account that I didn't feel like a girl at all. Only two options right? So instead I was pushed hardcore into "embracing your feminity and being proud to be a girl" which literally only made me feel worse and worse and worse.

I could have written this exact same comment. I found both Jamie and OT by looking for trans memes.

⁠@@waffles3629”privileged to have a body men would love” What an absolutely disgusting thing to say to someone, especially to a child. Wtf

You might think that you’ve done nothing. But to someone else, you are everything

@@freddiefishton That actually made me smile. I needed that. Thanks.

@@shadowldrago no worries, only sending help to those who want/need it. And deserve!

@@freddiefishton Much appreciated.

​@@shadowldrago Everyone is at a different stage. For some, simply getting out of bed and being productive for their own self is an accomplishment that deserves recognition.

Bullshit

No they are not. Going into the ladies bathroom as a man or vice versa is not human right. Getting children neutered is not. And so on.

@@Straightastheycome 😂 misinformation right there trans women are women they look like women and they go to the bathroom to have a waz that's it.

Hey did someone hear something? I coulda sworn there was a reply above mine but I can’t seem to find it? Anyways, trans rights!! 🏳️‍⚧️

@@Straightastheycomeforcing men to go into the ladies room is actually a thing that transphobes like yourself do. Also, no one is neutering kids. Trans rights are human rights! 🏳️‍⚧️

That's so gross 🤢🤮(the last bit)

As someone with chest dysphoria, the term ‘healthy breasts’ makes me throw up in my mouth every time I hear it. Also hilarious how they never mention cis women having reductions or augmentations, I wonder why.

​​@@DancinglemonAs a cis woman who got a chest reduction (though wish I was flatter still), sadly I got a ton of comments grieving my poor healthy tiddies too 🫠 So while I guess it's less offensive for them because it's not immediately obvious unless they've known you before, they do still view it as mutilation :x Augmentation less so because they like big boobs I guess? 🥲

It’s honestly such a gross way of talking about women’s bodies. My mom got breast reduction surgery, partially to help with back pain but primarily for cosmetic reasons and didn’t think much of it. But now, she talks about trans men getting the EXACT SAME SURGERY SHE HAD as if it’s mutilation. I’m sitting there thinking “girlie you got your tiddies chopped off just because you didn’t like them, why can’t trans men do the same?” She’s also of the opinion that trans men need to be checked for mental illnesses before being allowed to get top surgery. Something she didn’t have to do btw. She literally just walked into the clinic, got a consultation, pre-op instructions, and once she was cleared medically, she got the surgery, simple as that. But trans men need years of counseling and a slew of mental health exams before doing the same thing? It literally just doesn’t make sense.

⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠@@gracen8010 ludicrous. please tell me you’ve called her out.

I’m a autistic Miku fan

I had an adult at my school tell me that I’m confused, and she uses the fact that I’m young to defend herself. It’s annoying and encourages extremely toxic and harmful behavior.

@demiSuaton terrible! Some adults need to remember that being older doesn't make you smarter than anyone younger. You also cannot tell someone how that person feels like??? I'm so sorry you have to deal with that. It's not right

​​​@demiSuaton The insistence that kids are clueless to their own identity and emotions is harming children. Plain and simple. I had similar to me when I experienced interpersonal conflict growing up. It's so frustrating, hurtful and thoroughly invalidating to go through.

Yeah, i think they dont remember how they thought when they were kids, or how much it doesn't hurt to be open minded. I dont understand why would it hurt anyone at all to be aware hey! Trans people exist and are very valid!

The intent of zeroing in on children is to bypass a parents' reasoning, and get them to panic. If I was persuaded that something might hurt my child, no matter how innocuous, I would hustle to eliminate that "threat". This review is written to do exactly that, and I'm glad that Jamie tackled it head-on.

That first paragraph made me recoil in second hand pain.

christ, that poor kid/person :( if they’re still alive, i hope they’re okay and maybe got some help or knowledge or something…

A kid in my class was always deeply unhappy throughout school to the point of attempted suicide at the age of 12! Luckily she survived and as an adult came out as trans and seems to be so much happier now. I sometimes think that if she'd had the resources that trans kids have now she would have been so much happier and done so much better at school as a result.

Congratulations on the top surgery HOORAY

Ahh! You're getting your chesticles chopped off!! Testosterone is a need these days, I can't wait to be old enough to get my chesticles chopped off one day and start T!!

You'll get there!@@SmolEli

Thank you :)@@aftonstan5494

@@LiteraryStoner Thank you, time is going quick!!

oh how i were you were right

I mean, not the most comparable thing in the world. One is for the purpose of reproduction and the other is about expressing themselves. On the topic of “preventing” people from having kids, contraception and SexED is important to discuss as measures to help “prevent” pregnancy so technically it is being campaigned. To be fair to your argument, it is traditionally right leaning people who campaign against trans people as well as such education. Still, my point remains that there are people campaigning against having children, reproduction is essential to life and children are a big responsibility that some are not prepared for.

My northerner ass thought for a second that you were saying it wouldn't be a good time because it's winter lmfao.

True!1!!1!11

there are no trans people you all are plastic bricks ofc

Shhh.. Don’t tell them our secret

@@ashla3712 I'm sorry Ashla, but I can no longer leaf it unsaid! I must split!

Hhhfdsfgh 😂😂😂

Very based comment, you're amazing ❤️

We in the business call them "allies" Keep bein' cool

Narrow-minded fluff is great

Children are a group with some of the fewest rights on the planet. So many people, including parents, do not see children as full humans with agency and inner worlds. I've worked as an educator for over a decade and have seen it time and time again. Children as merely extensions of themselves or as incomplete individuals.

​@@MadamoizillionTHANKYOU BOTH❤❤

Well done, thank you for joining the trans side

@@thatcatthatalwayseatsyourchees as if we were in star wars lol with the dark side and the trans side side. and the members of the trans side get a certificat saying "thank you for your service to the rebellion"

@@thatcatthatalwayseatsyourchees😁 no sides lol. Just normal human dignity

I just believe that we should all try to see each others side, its not my right to trll others how to live their life. The way Jamie approaches his view is awesome, he is not mean or rude. He uses snarts and speeking from his i own experience. Its not confrontational. Thats what i was saying.

@@keeprollin9911where’s my Service to The Rebellion certificate :( I’ve been at this over half my life now!

There is literally no reason for people to get so damn worked up about constantly telling trans people that transitioning is this "big bad thing" that they'll "regret forever". If their transitioning procedure isn't medically safe for whatever reason, the doctor will tell them. If they're really young, then not only will their doctor tell them any risks, but the parents will also be part of the discussion in case the trans person isn't old enough or of right mental state to consent to that kind of thing. There is absolutely no reason for any random third-party to influence it outside of not wanting trans kids (i.e. transphobia).

I mean, obviously. It's pretty common knowledge at this point

The most devious thing about him is that you can't even see the trenchcoat!

Speaking of song and dances, does anyone know about The Stupendium? They’re an amazing Non-Binary/Gender-Fluid nerdcore artist (yes that’s a real thing, look it up) who does music on video games. It’s also a coincidence that they make a lot of songs about capitalism. Yeah it’s unrelated but I still highly recommend them even if your not into the games

"trans kids don't exist!" *fades into nonexistance*

⁠@@freddiefishton “We work, to earn the right to work, to earn the right to work, to earn the right to work, to earn the right to work, to earn the right to give, ourselves the right to buy, ourselves the right to live, to earn the right to die”

@@Dr_Mortis_SCP “should have read the fine print, my friend. Should have read the fine print. Should have read the fine print, my friend. Should have read the fine print.”

@@freddiefishton Definitely wasn’t expecting to see another Stupes fan in this comment section, but I’m happy to see it

The irony lol

That makes me unbelievably happy. God I hope the generations after me have it easier than I do.

@@joebloe4734 we’re doing our best, I feel lucky to work there. I’m so sorry school was tough for you in that sense. School should be a safe space. 💖

wait... wait.... are you saying Hentai... a cartoon based around various types of people f***ing.... Isn't for kids?! How can you say such things? Little Jimmy saw his first Hentai at 2 and won't watch anything else! ok I can't keep that up. I legit don't understand people that think if it has anything cartoonish in or on it it's obviously just for kids and kids should be allowed to watch all of it with no concerns or issues... Then again, I also don't get people that hear their kid say "mum/dad/guardian... I don't feel comfortable presenting as x gender can I maybe try using a different pronoun/wear different clothing please?" and immediately go into panic stations and start hypermasculating/feminating their child rather than just letting them know that whatever they are, as long as they're not hurting anyone else they're supported and valid (and no.."son" wearing a dress to school is not hurting anyone else even if someone else's feelings/pride is hurt by it.. unless said dress belongs to someone else at school without that person's permission... then maybe let them buy their own dress.)

@@rebeccabriggs9452 I general just don't get people. But that might be the autism 😂. The diagnosis of which was oddly harder for my mother to accept than me being enby for some reason? But seeing as I'm turning 35 tomorrow, neither thing is something she or my father has control over. Lol But yeah, the things I rented from blockbuster as a kid because they were "cartoons" so my folks assumed they were meant for kids.... Probably explains a bit about how I turned out 🤣. Big ol nerdy goth weirdo that I am. Then again, not really seeing the downside tbh... On a more serious note, too many people make wrong assumptions, jump to fear mongering, and for some weird reason stick their noses into business that does not concern them. I really wish more ppl would just focus on being kind and polite. And open to learning and willing to admit to ignorance. The world would be a much better place.

@@DarkBangle I'm glad you're able to be yourself now at the very least! Stay true to yourself, for you are the person who knows you the best! and on the serious note? Yes. Yes to all of that. My main rule of thumb is.. if it's not harming anyone else (and someone living their lives as whatever gender or non gender they choose is not harming anyone else, sorry but it's not), then more power to you. You be you. Let everyone else be everyone else and we'll all get on just fine.

Get a bag

the audiobook is coming out soon! and maybe one day there will be an ebook edition

@@KateWick1997silence mr kate

​@@KateWick1997not very nice

@@KateWick1997 Jamie isn’t a man, But Dylan Mulvaney isn’t a woman? You can’t have your bake a cake, then wonder why you’re missing eggs

​@@KateWick1997cope

@@KateWick1997 "Not a dude" You're right. He's not a dude, he's a bro.

⁠@@KateWick1997You’re the one spreading nonsense. Also, Jamie is a man

​@KateWick1997 he is just telling his story lmao

@@KateWick1997 Who are you talking to or about? Are you ok? 😂

@@KateWick1997be silent mister kate

@@KateWick1997 is the woman in the room with us

The entirety of adult swim:

Invincible would like to know their location

The vast majority of anime

hentai: 😶

*happy tree friends enters the chat*

How the fuck can anyone look at Jamie and think "Ah yes, she/her". Insanity.

@@CrayCrayslab it's easy for hateful people.

“Ah yes. I, a random person on an isolated corner of the internet who lives far, far away from [insert name of trans person] and has never experienced any aspect of a trans person’s life, understand what’s going on here. They *must* have been forced by some horrible other person to be trans! No one would *ever* be trans on their own!” 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️/s

@@abigailr.9601 right? I was never forced by anyone to be trans. If anything the majority of my family tried to force me not to be. I didn't even know what trans was until 15 years after I realized I was different from everybody else. Learning what trans is didn't make me trans. It gave language to what I've been feeling my whole life.