I wouldnt get mad though, Id take it as a compliment. Imagine fighting dysphoria all day because of the smallest details and then there comes this random person that cant comprehend that youre trans because you pass so well. It would make me feel great tbh.
I once was very good friends with a transguy and sometimes i would use the wrong pronouns, because my old memories would whisper "trans", but i was so used to calling him "he/him" and seeing him as a male person, the "trans"-whisper made use the other pronouns.
The only "regret" I have about my top surgery is that I didn't immediately turn to my mam after waking up and say 'Well, really glad I got that off my chest.'
Just this morning my parents well meaning friends were like 'oh you look so manly!' and my dad, without missing a beat, said 'yeah, he's a man...?' and my heart exploded.
When my brother came out as trans, my dad was nervous to tell my 80-something grandma so I did instead. She was a whole lot less surprised than I thought she'd be and after a few questions said "so you're the only girl in the family now!" I was pretty shocked and very happy that it only took her a few minutes to wrap her head around the idea. Ever since then, any time I speak with her she asks me how "the new boy" is lol.
My grandma turned 95 this year and moved in with my family. She is trying so hard to call me my name and use the right pronouns. She doesn't quite understand, but she loves me and my whole family so she does what she can. She was one of the people going to feminist rallys and never, as far as I know, descriminated against anyone except those who almost hurt her children. In the time she grew up, the hight of racism, sexism, and the great depressionand, she still grew up to be so accepting and kind. I am so lucky to have her she has shaped my life in so many ways.
You don't have to understand someone to accept them, you just need to love and trust them. My learning process started when I stopped using Grumpling's dead name and pronouns.
I love that Christian mum because my family still refuses to accept me as a guy and I've been on T for 6 months.. so hearing her tiktoks help me get through "what's the point?" Moments
The point is your identity and gender are important! You are amazing just how you are and now you're a part of a worldwide family of other LGBT+ people. I'll be your trans brother! Live life authentically and always be the best version of you. I love you! 🥰💕
I remember coming out as a lesbian to my grandmother before her dementia got really bad and she said to me "I wouldn't want you to be with a man and be unhappy. As long as you are happy I am happy" and I think this is such a beautiful mindset. Just unconditional love. I hope that more and more families react this way as our society progresses further.
When I was visiting my family in England, my grandpa and great aunt got into an argument about gay people. My aunt believes in conversion therapy, and my grandpa was insisting that sexuality is an inherent thing according to science, and that people are born that way and can't be changed. He's almost 90.
i'm a trans guy with unsupportive parents and you can't imagine how happy that made me and if i heard that from my own parents i would cry happy tears for an hour
Before I started medical transition I was in a college course and I ended up “coming out” because we were talking about trans stuff on this very conservative texas campus and people were like “why do you care?” So I dove on in and the guy who I’d been sharing a table with that semester turned to me after everything was done and went “I thought you were the other way” (mtf instead of ftm) and he followed up with a bro shoulder punch. That was the last we talked about it but that guy sticks with me in my head every day. Plus he never snitched that I spent almost every class playing WoW
I was near tears, I'm non binary with supportive parents, but it brought goosebumps all over me. I know so many who really need this sort of affirmation who don't get it from those who should provide it most.
I litterly cried because of the Christian Mother. She's just so, supportive. Really, that woman made my day without even knowing it. Thanks Jamie for sharing all this positivity!
My friend has their first appointment with a gender therapist (gender doctor? specialist? idk a person who helps with gender and medical stuff) next week and I'm so so happy for them.
My younger brother is gay, and two years ago, my 90 (now 92) year-old grandfather asked me if I thought my brother would like to hear from him that he accepted him and loved him no matter what. He wanted to make sure my brother knew that, but he didn’t want to say the wrong thing. So wholesome!
Before I came out as trans to my family I was eating lunch with my great grandma who is in her late 90s turned to me and asked “Do you have a gf?” And I almost spit my food everywhere because I wasn’t out as Pan yet either and I said no and then she just calmly said “Oh well I don’t see you having a boyfriend so I asked about a girlfriend” and I thought it was amazing and it’s one of my favorite stories to share today
Me too. It's so sad that all christians don't think like she does. What breaks my heart is that whilst believing that they are acting with love, those christians who are so deeply homophobic and transphobic don't understand how much destruction they are actually causing... this mum is amazing and I hope she inspires others to have a positive change of heart 💜
I brought 4 sons up almost only own, and when it came time for 'the talk' I told all my boys that I didn't care if the decided that they liked men or women, I would love them just the same. Three of them just said "ok", but #3 son said "but I want to marry a girl. Turns out #3 son is gay. 😄😄. And yes I still love him the same as the others.
Mama Jill is truly the most wholesome person. Like, she's amazing. So supportive of everyone. Her son came out as trans the other day and her reaction was like "we're going to get you a haircut" and I wish all parents were like that.
The Christian mum one I'm genderfluid and that actually brought me to tears 💖♡💜🖤💙 Edit 10mins later: kept re-watching it and it still makes me tear up a bit
I've been following @mamajillwallace since the beginning and she is just like what she seems. Absolutely loving and accepting and just a lovely person.
Oh my gosh I’m genderfluid and it made me cry too. I came out to my parents but they didn’t really understand and they don’t talk about it so it definitely made me emotional
My dad has the same problem, being mistaken for a woman over the phone because of his voice. He does that thing Jamie was talking about where he answers the phone with the deepest "hello" he can manage 😂. I wonder if trans men feel any better knowing that some cis men have the same problem.
HA that's what we call cis-phor-i-a it's so funny when cis people get misgendered they're like WHAAAAAT and when i get misgendered i'm just like -_- ok.
I'm a cis woman, have long hair, dresses in pretty typical 'casual women's clothing'. This guy at McDonalds one morning said 'Hi Sir' to me so idk anymore🤷♀️
The Christian mom one got me crying. My mom is not convinced that I'm trans and she still actively refers to me as her daughter. Hearing those things said, directed towards me/people like me just broke me down.
The christian mother video has me in tears. I've wanted to hear those words from my mother since I was 17. I'm now 30 and having to live my life without any family members. I just needed to hear those words.
I’m so sorry, it must hurt to bad to have to cut family members off simply because they can’t accept you for you...incase you needed to hear this, YOU. ARE. VALID! I love and support you for who you are and I’m extremely proud of you, you’re such a strong person.
same except i still live with my parents who misgender me every day and seriously I HAVE JUST ABOUT HAD IT. I'VE LIVED WITH YOU ALL FOR 20 YEARS AND ALL I EVER WANTED WAS YOU TO CALL ME SON OR BROTHER AND MADE IT VERY CLEAR AND YOU HAVE NEVER DONE THAT
Listen to me, You are beautiful and/or handsome and no one can change that. You are amazing and talented and wonderful. I'm so sorry you had to end up with family members like that. You are out there and proud about who you identify as and that is amazing, okay? Don't focus on all the bad people, focus on the people that love you. Have a good night/day/afternoon/morning.
The video where she said "son" made me cry...my parents said there's no way I could be trans and that I'm only trans to fit in with friends. That made my day...
I'm not ashamed to admit I cried at that part as well, I'm still wiping tears off my face actually :') That was just so wholesome and sweet!! I can only imagine how many trans boys really needed to hear that, bless that woman
My bf's dad, *sees I got gendered correctly* : "Oh my god I'm so happy for you. You really don't look like a chick anymore." Me, *has facial hair and hasn't been misgendered for many months* : Thank you...?
The woman who said if you were ftm close your eyes, that one was my favorite. I'm trying to socially transition and I'm 15, but my parents don't accept me and my mother said she never wanted a son, so that was so meaningful to me and it nearly brought me to tears. I love people who go out of their own way to make others feel better, even if they don't know if anyone will receive it on the other end. That was beautiful.
Living with dysphoria, a TERF mother, and a transphobic father just kinda stinks. I'm glad that a lot of parents out there do accept their children for who they are, and do let them be who they want to be.
Hey, words of affirmation here, but you are valid! Biological family is a starting point if it works out, but family consists of people who care about you. If your biological family don't care about you, then you've gotta find your own family. If you haven't found those people yet, I believe in you that you can and will find friends and people who you will consider family down the road. Whether or not that's in a year, two years, or even 10 years, if you want happiness, you'll find it!
Best friend just had top surgery 2 weeks ago. He keeps sending me pics and I love every one of them. He's so happy and proud. I am just as happy and proud. I watched my bestie turn into the handsome idiot I know today and I couldn't feel more privileged to watch him on his journey.
even though this is a year later i want you to please tell your friend that i said congratulations!! one day i hope to be able to do the same! God bless
The grandma was the cutest thing. My heart just melts seeing supportive grandparents. Her offering food is like the most precious thing, my grandma does that too. (No I’m not trans, I just want people to support each other and live happily. I know it’s too much too ask)
Regarding older generations: I once watched a german documentation about trans* people and one story was about a young man/boy who had came out aus ftm trans and his mother explained how she was on the phone with her father trying to explain the whole situation and after she was done explaining her father didn't say anything for minutes, the mother was scared that he wouldn't support his grandson and therefore asked if him if he wanted to say anything. After another minute of silence he just said: 'Well that's alright with me, I wish the best for him! And tell him "welcome to the man's world" from me!'. I think this is a really cute and funny response :D
Hey spuds! My name's Rhyder and I honestly want to thank Jamie for just doing what he's doing. I'm still currently in the closet, but his videos always make me feel so comfortable and happy. So, thank you Jamie.
I reacted to the Christian mom one on my tik tok and I was literally crying, as a trans man who doesn't have a supportive mom that meant the world to me
bad not-compliments I got: “You run well, for a girl”. (my track and field teacher) “You look good on overalls, for a girl.” And “you know how to use tools surprisingly well”(My neighbor when I was helping install some cupboards) “Wow I didn’t think girls could code” (another student at coding afternoon club in school) “You are surprisingly girly for a gay person” (to many people who think I’m basically a man) Edit: Turns out I’m actually Bi.
8:07 That's my mom! She's 64 and she doesn't always say things the right way but she's learning and 100% supportive of trans ppl. (And other LGBTQ+ peeps.) 😌
I like the “stay confused” part at 2:05. I think everyone deserves rights and transgender TikTok are so educational especially for my trans brother who’s 9 and is literally the only other gay person in my family like 🏳️🌈. Also I’m so confused about my sexuality and that stay confused is literally what I say to myself and all the homophobic people in my school! Stay safe, stay loved, stay you, don’t change for anyone! 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
I was casually watching some trans/lgbtq cute videos on your channel, and I came across this one. I’m a trans boy and my parents are unaccepting, but specially my mom. She’s said many mean things to me, including how she’s ashamed of me. I was disowned because of the name I chose for my registration and etc. And I started crying the moment that Christian mom started saying those amazing things. I love my parents, but I cannot stress how much I wish I’d hear that from them...thank you for this. I feel accepted and loved.
Omg when the Christian mother started saying “I’m so proud of you son” I legit started crying. Like my own family isn’t supportive and just hearing that made me just start bawling 😂😂
everytime I see that Christian mom, I cry everytime she speaks. she makes me feel more valid than my own parents. I love her and just the energy she radiates💕💕
My Southern Christian mom is just like that other Southern Christian mom. My mom tells me everyday how much she loves me. She is the main reason I didn't commit suicide during my incredibly difficult transition. She is amazing and I'm so lucky to have her in my life. I only wish other trans people had moms like her. Then nobody would ever feel unloved, unsupported, or worried about coming out.
I’m proud of your mother! I’m not sure my mother would like it, but my dad said just to be myself and used LGBTQ+ terms such as “Have you got a boyfriend or girlfriend?” so I think he’d be fine with the idea + he’s the only Male in my house so...
My southern mother was one of many reasons I tried to kill myself, unfortunately When she found out I’m trans, she bought be a bunch of bras that actually draw attention to my chest, and very girly clothes I identify as a man
7:05 both my parents died before I came out, so I never got to hear my real name or correct pronouns or anything resembling support (only one of them would probably have been supportive anyway), so I literally have that tic tok saved. It's the closest thing I'll get.
I'm so sorry to hear this, just know you are loved and validated by people from around the world and whatever you are doing it is most definitely amazing. Have a good day, i hope everything gets better because you deserve it!
One of my favorite moments was being so confused when my trans co worker (FTM) was being bad mouthed by a customer while he wasn't present and my manager, me, and my other coworker all collectively just told him that he was mistaken and we didn't "have a girl dressed as a guy" who worked with us we had "a man". I also constantly hype him when we work together. I fucking love my trans coworker. He's my hero
I reeeeally needed this today, one of Swedens most known feminist have just shared EXTREMLY transphobic stuff and many people are critical of it and showing their support of the trans community but way to many agree with what she is saying and as an enby/pangender person in the closet i felt horrible seeing all the extrem transphobia. So this was very needed ❤
Just curious, what does enby mean? Sadly the world still has a long way to go when it comes to acceptance and love. I hope someday soon you can feel comfortable enough to come out of the closet and live the life that makes you happiest and just be able to be yourself
The Christian mom made me cry. I came out as non-binary to my parents because as soon as I realised I wasn't cis my dysphoria it was crushing, but I didn't figure myself out properly before I came out. I came out again like, six months ago and they don't accept me as trans (in fact they completely ignored me when I came out, still calling me she and my old non-binary name (so half marks, i can't really complain too much), or they if they're in a good mood/forgot the name that I much prefer), or as their son, and they say they're supportive but they do a lot of things and call me a lot of stuff that make my dysphoria go /\/\/\ so hearing someone say that made me burst out crying, especially someone I already respected. I love her so much.
I came out to my entire class a few weeks ago, they’ve all been working to keep my safe and not out me, while also using my pronouns and name outside of class!! A friend helped to get me a binder too, and it’s going to arrive in a few weeks! I’m planning on coming out to my family once I get it!! I’m so excited!! I just hope they don’t make fun of my name choice (Virgil). Wish me luck guys! :) EDIT: well, it’s been five months and I came out to my family. They didn’t really like my name so we all decided on Rune, which means Mystery, and honestly I’m a lot happier with it! I recently got my first two binders too :))
As a Latin teacher, I fully approve of Virgil! You probably know this, if not: This Roman poet's most important work starts with the words "Arma VIRUMque cano", "I sing of weapons and THE MAN"! So great choice.
fun fact that mothers account is full of her being supportive if lgbt, one of her videos actually recently went viral because she was saying how her son came out as trans so she took him to get a haircut and new clothes!! she has quite a few children, one of her daughters is bi and she teaches her younger ones to be supportive 💕💕
I loved this video!! I’m not trans but it was so wholesome to see the accepting family members, especially the grandma in the end. Hope you make more videos like this, and that you’re doing well Jamie!!
5:47 I closed my eyes and listened to it, and as a trans guys who isn't out to my transphobic parents and is pre everything, I almost cried. Thank you to whoever made that tiktok ❤️❤️❤️
Mama Jill is amazing! I nearly cried in front of my not accepting family. I’m genderfluid and I’m a male currently, so that TikTok hit me like a ton of bricks.
I like to watch Jamie’s videos when I’m sad, or just generally upset about something. It takes my mind off of things, and makes my heart feel better. For one thing, the yellow is really calming. It makes me feel good because I think of yellow as a good and a happy colour, especially soft yellows like his chair in the background. I also love to watch LGBTQ+ because it makes me feel better about me planning to come out to my parents and others (who are all *very* Christian.) I like his positive reviews and it just makes me happy. So, thank you, you beautiful, beautiful, person. 💖💛💙 Edit: I started crying at 5:45 because that’s what I wanted to hear. It was so impactful, even if I didn’t know her.
Im legit crying over the Christian mom being so so supportive and giving positive messages to transguys. Im not trans but imagining all the kids and everyone that needs to hear that kind of message that will discover that tik tok has me crying happy tears
I've been having a really bad week, but this video made me feel a lot better. Especially the Christian mom bit. Literally sat on my bed bawling my eyes out.
3:38 Last year I had a phone appointment with the access and equity services people at my school cuz I was just starting to medically transition and I was seeing a lot of doctors/specialists for various reasons so I wanted to make sure I could keep up with school. At the end of the appointment, the person asked me "is there another name you want to use, aside from Anna?" I had been doing voice training for a few months and I guess my voice passed well enough that she thought I was a trans guy instead. It was funny and very validating!
I just wanna say that I'm trying to find new friends bc the only one I had was shit-talking LGBT people everytime she could while knowing damn well that I'm bi ._.
oh, if she does that knowing youre bi, then she wasnt your friend to beging with. i really hope you get to find irl friends who love and support you, but in the meantime jamie's community is a pretty good place to start 💖💖
Yo, trans woman here. I don't know if you're looking for online or offline friends, and I'm a bit shy at first, but I'm always available for friendship. Even if I do make for an awkward friend.
well get out from under the bed and come chill! but seriously, i know those feels, sucks so much, and im looking for friends too I know we will both find what we seek :)
Hey i know it can get kinda stuffy under the bed, you should come get some fresh air from time to time! (Also love your profile pic, so cute!) Sorry about your friend, i understand how much it sucks for others to not be able to see what a great community it is! If you need a friend, even if it is just to chat up from time to time in video comments, im always up for meeting new people and would love to take up that role if you want :D Have a good day whatever it is you are doing, because you are doing great :)
my parents who continue to use feminine language to refer to me: you're such a pretty girl me: :/ my best friend who knows i'm non-binary and like masculine compliments: wow you're looking really masc today me: *legit over filled with joy and will not stop hugging them*
Awww, thanks for making this video! I came out to my (religious) family and friends a few years ago and it is still hard at times... But then I look at all the sweet people who show me so much love. Somehow, that makes it all worth it :)
I haven't spoken to my mom in a while now and never really accepted me even all the way back to my childhood so that mom had me sobbing. Thanks for including it 💙
