@@Rubiish_Axel Yeah, I saw it too... I was like "wait didn't I like and replied to this comment already? Why isn't it here anymore?" then scrolled down a bit and realized it's been stolen lol
Funniest part might be that "aggressively supportive" isn't just an LGBTQ thing. Me and my brother are special needs, and my mom constantly talks and helps in Autism/Neurodivergent support groups, and befriends other moms who have special needs kids.
My mom doesn't really find other parents with neurodivergent children. We find the neurodivergent kids. I don't think that I ever had a neurotypical friend.
@@favoritechild7464 bruh are we the same person? I’m also autistic, enby, and pan! Except I don’t have aggressively supportive parents, so I wish I did. Aggressive autism supporters are a little different though. Makes me feel like that’s all people see when they look at me
@@favoritechild7464 Eh, I've got the other side of the parental spectrum- I can see how it would be super awkward and cringy, but at the same time it sounds kinda awesome, not having toxic parents that you're in the closet for because you're scared of being homeless. To be fair though, it seems like a "better by comparison" kind of thing. If I'd never experienced abusive parents then I'd probably think that overly supportive parents are THE WORST. Edit: I just realized it sounds like I'm saying "shut up, it's not that bad" but that's not my intent. Your feelings and experiences are valid, and annoyance is definitely an appropriate reaction to over-supportive parents. Sorry if my message came out wrong. I can delete it if it makes you feel better. 😅
When I came out as Bisexual to my parents my mom just said... "I've known that for a while, I was just waiting for you to figure it out. " I was shocked and was a bit upset she didn't say anything earlier when she realized, we talk about everything and anything so why not that? Lol!
When my aunt came out as lesbian to my grandma, Grandma said "honey we knew since you were two years old!" To put that in perspective, my aunt is now 80 and Grandma passed in 1996.
Nobody reply to The werewolf of Tibet. They are replying transphobic, aphobic, and homophobic replies to (according to another person) over 100 comments. They are purposefully trying to pick fights. Just ignore them and move on.
The “gay is ok” card is so adorable 🥺🥺 I honestly wish I got that kind of support 🤧 I’m a feminine trans guy and my dad & boyfriend are really my only support. Respects to all my fellow trans boys and femboys out there 🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈 out or not, y’all are amazing! As well the everyone else who’s lgbtq+
I think the most 'boss' thing a trans person did was when a trans woman saw she was shown as 'M' on her license. She took her shirt off in public and got arrested, to which she responded 'You think I'm a man, why am I being arrested?' I could have missed some details, but that's more or less the gist of it
@@HelloHamburger I don't think she got thrown in jail for it. But women or someone who has breasts are not show their breasts in public in some/most countries
The woman at 6:00 is a total rocking heroine. "wrong and strong" goes straight into my working vocabulary. Happy NY, all you heroes and heroines and heroic others. Stay well.
"Aggressively supportive" is so funny. Also those supportive sibling misspellings are so wholesome! Wow, I actually do have Pokémon plushies in my room that I got before I knew!
Back in 2021 during lgbtq pride month i came out as asexual I'm 30 years old but I might of been asexual much longer maybe during my teen years I never knew there was a community of people that i could identify with and relate to if I knew about asexuality when I was 16 or 17 I would of came out sooner but I know now asexuality exists I have a word that's fits me perfectly yay ♠💜😊
Hey!! Me too!! I'm 30 and finally affirmed that I'm ace over the last year or two as well. I'd never been in a relationship or even liked anyone in that way. I was fine with that because, I was like, it happens when it happens, I'm not gonna get into a relation-sh*t just because that's what expected. Plus I loooove romance stories (movies, novels, manwah, anime, all of it!!) so I wasn't sure about being ace even though I knew about it like 5-6 years ago. But last year, I was like, naah, I'm just ace. Maybe even aro.
I've been asexual since grammar school, back than no one knew it was even a thing. They told me, I needed to have sx to develop a sexuality. (does it work like this for anyone?)
my 13 year old just asked what gender to put on an application for a charter school next year. i said “What do you mean? Are m or f the only choices?” they said non binary was also an option. i said well since you’re non binary then check the non binary box. they were asking my permission i think. We love our children regardless of gender or sexuality or we all should anyway
Aaaaaaw that is so sweet 😭😭😭🌟 Your child is so, so lucky to have you as their parent :'D You’re amazing 🌟😭💫🌌 ( *You know, i think that that "permission" you gave them made them really happy, being officially recognised as the gender you are by someone you love can easily make you happy for the whole day, even the whole week, and knowing someone you care about supports you is helping you through any situations :')* ) And yes, i do agree, all parents should, and we really do need more parents like you (Sorry if what i say doesn't make much sense/seems weird, english is not my first language and i apology if there is any mistake in my comment/reply and if i seem intrusive and/or rude)
Why are you *telling* them which option to pick? I would think it would be much better to *ask* them which one they think fits them best, and to explain what the options mean if they're unsure. I'm not sure if I should be concerned about them possibly feeling pressured to identify as non-binary, or if it was just a missed opportunity to promote them thinking for themselves (one anecdote is not a lot to go off of). But the advice applies in either case.
Well, I'm totally #2. Was always an ally despite being in a religion/denomination where that wasn't okay. Then when I was in my 30s I was working in an affirming church where I could openly be an ally without fear of being fired, and a friend just randomly asked me one night "do you think you might be bi?" Without any hesitation at all I said "most definitely." Suddenly I was "allowed" to actually consider that I may not be straight, and lo and behold...
Oh god yeah some times it takes someone else to say it. You spend ages questioning or denying yourself then someone says "you gay?" and you're automatically just like "yeah"
this was sortof me too!! i was just talking with some friends a few years ago and M, a lesbian, was joking around about "the straight girl" refering to me and i was just like......Wait am i tho? that doesn't sound right????? Suprise! I am actually a lesbian!
Affirming churches are awesome! I'm actually in the process of compiling a bunch of verses to prove to my parents that lgbt people should be accepted so my little brother can come out to them. I've had this sort of discussion with them before, so I finally asked them: "What do you think is a greater sin? Making lgbt people feel unwelcome from church to the point of abandoning god entirely, or letting them get married?" And then they went quiet. It's not following the Bible, it's just bigotry. I actually recently found out that I'm ace, and that being ace used to be controversial in the Christianity in the same way being lgbt is now. Your lineage was everything, and the people who didn't get married, called eunuchs, were seen as destroying what God wanted for them. However, in the New Testament, we see that one of the first gentile Christians was a eunuch. He wasn't made to get married or even told that he was wrong, they just accepted him. And I think that's a pretty clear picture of how we're supposed to interact with lgbt people. Nobody is ever debated into salvation, and that's not our job. Think of one person who had a religious argument and then converted. It just doesn't happen. What we're supposed to do is love people, and make everyone feel welcome. If we look at the Bible, we see that God uses EVERYONE. A lot of the people who are admired and revered also did some pretty crappy and unethical things. And that's the point. So why are we discriminating against lgbt people, who have done nothing wrong by simply existing? It makes no sense to me. Congrats for being able to come out!
2:40 Aw, this one reminds me of my siblings. They are both under the age of 10 and I got to teach them a few things about the LGBTQ+ community before my homophobic uncle could and they are the cutest and most supportive little kids. I have a little list: -Every time we are driving to church, we pass by a neighborhood with a few pride flags in it and they start bouncing around and excitedly point it out to me -One of their dolls uses they/them pronouns and the younger one just kinda walked up to me and told me all about them. -My siblings like to loudly host gay marriages in the kitchen and I'm the lawyer that helps them out a few minutes later when the couple gets divorced. -The older one of the two likes to doodle and wanted to make a gender neutral character and forgot what nonbinary was and told me they called them a birl (pronounced broil).
The fact that Jamie could certainly pass as a cis man if he tried and he looks significantly more masculine then me makes me feel very happy cause I’m non-binary amab and it makes me feel like I can truly look how I feel someday
0:59 i actually had a teacher that wouldn’t allow us to eat bread because she was on a diet. she didn’t like the kids eating processed meat (bologna, ham, etc.) and i don’t think she even let us eat yogurt either. she deprived literal 7 year olds of food that literally everyone else ate BECAUSE SHE WAS ON A DIET!! i never liked her. thanks a lot mrs. angel
2:00 never have I wanted to hug someone as much as that lady. What a god damn sweet lady. I'm crying cuz that is so so so god damn sweet but also funny af xD
Sometimes, when a character's or historical figure's sexuality is discussed, I'll take a pause and say or type 'They're likely gay, OR bisexual in a same-sex relationship'. I've noticed 'forgetting' bisexuality is a little too easy at times.
My main friend group almost entirely consisted of lgbtq+ members for years before I came out as bi I had already had a lot of interest in it so it kinda helped knowing that the people I didn’t want to lose would accept me
I was raised in a rich white christian community. I never considered I could be anything other than cis straight until I realized my same gender friend had a crush on me. Then I realized OH SHIT I SHOULDA KNOWN I LIKE TIDDIES. Then I realized a year and a half later OH SHIT I SHOULDA KNOWN I DIDNT LIKE MY TIDDIES. I’m a proud bisexual non-binary person!!
I really like the lady who "supports LGBTQ and all the other alphabeths". Greetings to all the LGBTQA+ people who use writting system other than roman alphabet from me too o/
I started identifying as a Bisexual when I was 11, which made my parents believe I wanted to be LGBTQ because my friends are. I can’t bring myself to deny what my parents say, but all I know is that I like women and men and that’s it.
I feel like I have the most uneventful coming out and i’m glad. I was literally just walking down the stairs decided fuck it and said “i’m gay” to my parents as i passed them. I just kept walking
Jamie, thank you for making these videos. Watching them when you discuss sexuality helped me realize I am bi recently. The pokemon stuffed toys segment killed me
8:55 : *"congratulations everyone with the initial 'M'! You are now gay-"* Me, trans-masc gay and named Mortemer since early 2021: *suprised pikachu face*
A few years ago I found this amazing streamer who is trans and I loved talking with her. Fast forward like a year or so after and it turns out I'm non binary lol
Wishing you a speedy recovery. Sorry to hear you've been feeling sad as well, hope you feel better soon. I'm currently waiting for my test result as my bro and sis both tested positive.
Ugh i remember getting covid at the last few months of 2020 and it was fucking horrible, i only had the mild symtoms which was having a blocked nose, fever and cant taste anything, even tho i was literally the most introvert person ever at the time, so i cant imagine how horrible it must be for you especially when youre lonely and you might not have anyone there to help you out. I hope you get well soon 💖
Lmao I remember being like “cis ally” and then I discovered the label demigirl :) rather than being a cis sapphic girl (still am very much sapphic!! Mmmm women!)! But I started off watching RU-vidrs like you, Sam Collins, Samantha Lux, NoahFinnce, etc. (regularly, I watched you all a bit once in a while) for educational purposes, especially when I started becoming close friends with trans/non-binary people. ☺️ (my pronouns are she/they, please use them both)
"Mmm women" I felt that on a spiritual level lol. The way I discovered that I was pan was like "hmm I like men so I'm not gay. But woman tho... So maybe I'm bi? But also nonbinary ppl.." back then I didn't know what pansexuality was lol. Also great for you ^^ I'm happy that you've found labels that make you feel comfortable. Isnt that the best feeling ^^ Okay, that's all I had to say. have a great day 😁😁😁
@@phoenix370 Yessss, I am still questioning my sexuality, I go between bisexual and lesbian it seems lmao. I’ve been out as not straight for a little over 2 years now, though! It feels so liberating to not have to pretend anymore!! ☺️ (Btw, please read my other comment, just for clarification. It’s not specifically directed at you. I just can’t tell entirely what all you meant by “so maybe I’m bi? But also non-binary ppl…”.
@@nicegenderbro8814 Yesss, I’m sure they didn’t mean it that way. But just to clear things up for anyone, bisexual people can be attracted to non-binary people. Pansexual means being attracted to a person despite their gender identity, it’s not what matters.
My parents told me if I were gay I would be disowned. Jokes on you im bi and demisexual. My wife (at the time of marriage was still going as my husband) is trans. Idc what you look like beebs, as long as i can connect with you on a emotional level, idc what your genitals are 🥰
I love parents getting kids pride merch. I came out last October to my parents (supportive reaction!), and 2 days ago I got a late Christmas present that was a T-shirt that said I've got an ACE up my sleeve (It's me, I'm ace, and I'm in these sleeves) It was my first piece of pride merch
1:45 I love reading through comments either on old videos, reddit threads, etc saying they're an ally but enjoy the content, and then the "edit: turns out I'm _____ after all" Not that every ally is queer, but that it's awesome to see people fully realize who they are and be themselves
Finally realised I was ace this year and even though I'm still in the closet (or rather the deck), I am proud to be a member and ally of the LGBTQ+ community! 🏳🌈 Jamie please keep being adorable & happy new year! 🥺
I remember when my friends were explaining the lgbtq+ to me cuz a lived under a rock and I was like "oh thats cool," and about a week later I was like "guys I think I bi," "Yeah we know," "How did you know I didn't even?" "Well we thought you were lesbian but you're dating a guy so bi seemed like the right choice, that or pan," So yea my friends knew before I did
As an anthropologist I can say that even ancient, Rome, Greece, and Egypt had majorly bisexual or pansexual individuals. It was actually thought of as more odd to only be into one gender, especially if that gender was the opposite of one's own. There were also many transgender individuals, some of which were emperors and pharaohs. I only name those three places to start because they are some of the easiest to find information on. Even some Scandinavian and Celtic places would embrace it, same goes for native Americans. There were tribes that perceived those who were non-binary, gender fluid, or transgender as being above those who were not. They saw them as being either closer to the gods or as deities themself. Christianity didn't originally condemn those who are a part of the LBGTQ+ community, that came later. People would either change the meaning in differing religious text or it would be re-written to accommodate the more hateful and controlling beliefs. People have used religion to control others for a long time. There are many places that have it far worse than western civilisation. People get murdered for it in the west but it's at least illegal, even if not given proper justice. In places such as the middle east it's more acceptable and even thought as the right thing to do to anyone who is part of the LGBTQ+. Which is of course followed up with hypocrisy, akin to how they would want a woman killed who does porn. Yet men there do protests to legalise porn, although they would still think a woman deserves the death sentence if she does it. I realize the two are separate, I just wanted another way to show their hypocrisy. We should be aware of the hypocrisy in the west, for those from here. Either way I could get into this further but this is already a long message for RU-vid.
I started watching as a straight woman, then straight ace woman, then aroace woman, then aroace lesbian woman, then aroace bi woman, then ace bi woman, then ace demigirl lesbian, and finally grayromantic ace genderfluid lesbian. It’s been interesting.
I started as an omni ????, omni bigendeflux, omni fluidflux. But if we're talking abt my whole experience cis/het, cis/bi, bigender/bi, bigender/omni, ???/omni, bigenderflux/omni, fluidflux/omni
Omg the aggressively supportive Filipino mom 😂 as a Filipino i can tell you i wish my family was that supportive! She sounded just like my Lola tho 🤣 (grandma)
I'm one of these people. When I started watching this I was monoamorous, cis and hetero. Now I am polyamorous and questioning my gender and sexuality (I think I'm bisexual and demigirl/agender, still a little unsure). And I love your videos, it always makes me happy. ^^
Vent i guess I went to the mall with my parents and brother and it sucked. We went to the boys clothes section for my brother and I was jealous cause I saw so many things I wanted but just couldn't get. I'm transmasc (not out to anyone) and my parents can't even fathom getting me a plain t shirt if it's from the boys section. I needed some socks, so I grabbed some off a shelf. My mother said and I quote 'those socks are from the boys section we can't get those'. I literally died on the inside. How am I ever gonna come out to them. The nightmare doesn't end though. I wanted a hoodie, so we went to the hoodie section. I found a hoodie i relly liked, but again it was from the boys section. So i said nothing. My parents then picked that hoodie and said it would look good on my brother and that he should try it on. He did, and seeing him wear that killed me on the inside. If I was luckier, I could have looked like that. Like a boy. With a deep voice and facial hair. But instead I got everything I never wanted. A female puberty. My parents then picked out a hoodie for me, cause I asked to go there in the first place. They picked a fuzzy pink jacket and I immediately refused. They asked me if I wanted anything else, from the GIRLS section. I was freaking out internally, almost in tears. I can't do anything about it. Every single thing that makes me feel masculine is something I took from my brother. It sucks to know that no one will ever see me as I am, a regular average teenage boy. Oh well
1) Big hugs and support. 2) I don't understand why liking plain practical style is such a problem. Your story tears me up. 3) It gets better. You can be who you are. If I can quote Jammie, much love.
Hey, I’m so sorry. I’m cis so I don’t fully know how I can help, but just know people are here for you. You *will* be recognised as an average teenage boy, and a man soon enough (more masculine at least!). You will eventually become the identity you want to be. I’m sorry that your parents don’t understand but at the end of the day they can’t fully control you forever- one day you’ll move out and start to live fully as yourself. That day will come 🥰 do you earn any pocket money or have a job? If you do, could you perhaps quietly buy more masculine things by yourself? Much love.
i know exactly how you feel, and the jealousy too. it sucks. my mom found out i got clothes from the mens section one time and threw them away. she makes everything about gender and over-feminizes me. i’m sorry you have to experience such a similar situation. i hope it gets better for you
If you are masculine come out as a tomboy. They won't know unless you tell them. Tell them you don't enjoy wearing girl clothing and if they won't buy boy clothing for you that you will find a way to earn money and buy what you want to wear yourself. Hopefully once they realize that you are a tomboy they will cave in.
The thing was, before you even said you were using a new lense the first thing I thought was "Wow, Jamie looks much shaper and clearer than usual." So yeah, the new lense is better.
Whoever is reading this i send hugs and great vibes. Drink water, eat food, nap, take a break, take care of yourself gosh darn it. And if you don't I swear I will find you and keep you in a cottage and take care of you. 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜
1:31 This…is exactly what happened to me. I’ve supported the community my whole life. At some point in high school (I think) I realized I was asexual. And then a couple of months ago, I realized I was Bi. Or at least, that’s the term I feel comfortable with at the moment. So yeah…life works in mysterious ways👍
AYO JAMIE!!!! IM SO HAPPY RIGHT NOW!!!! My best friends brother (who, for context, is transphobic) is in a group chat with them and our friends and we have a section where we put our name and pronouns in case anyone's confused. My pronouns are he/ it/ xe/ bun, and I'm a fem presenting afab. HFJZNDJDJDJKDKD YOU KNOW WHAT HE SAID?!?!?!?! HE ASKED ME HOW TO USE THEM PROPERLY!!!!!! BFNSJDJJDJZJBS
@@schokoloko2092 Ok, so they're xe/ xyr and bun/ bunself. And u use them like this: They went to the park by themself = Bun went to the park by bunself = Xe went to the park by xyrself There name is Vix = Buns name is Vix = Xyr name is Vix = Lots of people are confused by the nounself pronouns, and why people use them, but honestly, I don't know why 😅. It just feels right I guess. I hope this helped!
One big reason I’m making an extra effort to be nice to my younger brother is so that when my parents tell him being gay isn’t ok he’ll listen to me instead and know it is
To all bi men who "don't exist" - I'm literally writing a book with no less than 3 bisexual men in it!! They all handle their sexualities in different ways and I will talk about the erasure and prejudice bi men face today. Personally I'm from another place in the LGBT+ community, but I do thorough research for my books and always represent marginalized LBGT+ people!
The second one is me lmao. I was a really strong ally for my whole life, and I got sooo excited whenever I saw rep in the media. Fast forward to years later, and lo and behold, I’m bi.
Hello, Jamie, and Happy New Year!💜 I really needed one of your videos today! I am one of those people who started to watch you because I considered myself an ally and ended up discovering at 33-years-old I'm actually part of the LGBTQ+ community. The last 2 years have been quite a ride for me: lost loved ones, struggled with major depression, toxic family dynamics and hellish job environments and unemployement, eventually found out I'm neurodivergent in a country where nd adults are practically left with no support, ASD in children is still hugely pathologized and stigmatized and finding a specialist who actually knows the topic and is willing to assess us is a calvary. Not to mention discovering being Queer while living in a country that still denies LGBTQ+ people basic equality and respect, coming from a bigoted small hamlet and an oppressing Catholic environment. I know the journey that awaits for me won't be an easy one but, after years of self-loathing and hurt, I've never felt more love, respect, compassion and acceptance for me and all the other human beings that are facing similar struggles. I know it will be worth it. And I'm so grateful to people like you for sharing your stories and giving to people like me the possibility to truly start to understand and value ourselves! Thank you from the bottom of my heart, I wish you all the happiness in this world!🤗🌈 PS. I forgot to mention I have a huge crush on a trans guy who barely knows I exist, I hope in a less pandemic future to get a chance to meet him in person and who knows?
hi jamie! although i’m still in the closet, i’m slowly beginning the process of transitioning and your content has really helped me feeling confident enough to do that! you also indirectly helped me figure out that i’m trans, so thank you for that :D you’re such a cool person and a real inspiration for so many people!
I used my film school degree 🎥 for the first time in a decade when I immediately noticed this video was sharper and had warmer colors than your previous videos (before you mentioned the lense) giving it a more intimate feel. Keep the new lens! And I used my new estrogen 🏳️⚧️ for the thousandth time today when I thought "yup, the sharper he is the hotter he looks." Not temperature-wise. Well, you're temperature anyway 😉
I feel number 2 so hard. I always knew I was bi, but I thought I was a cis ally forever until I started watching you and OT all the time and realized that I was enby. Ffs, I'd been using an egg as my logo for a decade! I chose it on purpose because I knew I felt incomplete and "unhatched" (as it were), but never knew it might have meaning in the LGBTQIA+ community. 😅
I love the new camera! It looks super clear. You picked a great wholesome topic to return to for the new year, thank you. I always look forward to your videos all week.
Happy New Year, Jamie! Just wanted to thank you for everything you do for this community, seriously, you are absolutely amazing!! I'm planning on coming out to my family this month, and I really want to say that this channel, this safe space, has helped me so much and thanks to all of you I'm now ready to finally be me, without having to hide myself from my own family. Hopefully, it'll all go well. They seem to be allies, or at least they try. Anyway, thank you! And to anyone that's reading this, you're amazing, you're valid. It's okay to feel bad sometimes, just don't let the negativity flood you. Take your time, you can do it :)
