As a cis woman I’m HORRIFIED every time I hear how non-private men’s restroom situations are. Like whyyyyyy would there be a door that’s not a door? Or worse, stalls with NO DOORS for doing a poo (or otherwise) with everyone watching? Strongest argument ever for gender neutral restrooms!
Like for real this has to factor in to why men are so ANGRY if the world just decided that they shouldn’t be allowed to just poop when they need to and have a bit of privacy when they do it
@@sarahfreakinlynn It's the same reason why some cities have put metal dividers on park benches, or metal spikes on the surfaces of underpasses, to prevent people from sleeping on them. Not to mention the massive expenditure on policing to patrol and kick homeless people out of public areas.
So the bathroom thing is for a couple of reasons 1. To prevent homeless people from sleeping in the bathroom because it's one of the few temperature regulated places they have access to 2. To prevent people from doing drugs in the bathrooms I think it's called hostile architecture. This is the same reason why our benches has unnecessary dividers and there are poles and stuff preventing people from sleeping in public areas It's really messed up because instead of investing money to fix these issues, they just keep it out of the sight of the public
thats literally the most bullshit ass crap. “yeah lets prevent homeless people from finding relative shelter and warmth and security” ?????? fuck that????
In Europe we have toilets in some places (usually train stations) that have special lights that make it hard to see veins to prevent people from doing drugs that include needles.
Also consider that it saves the government money in the long term to simply house the homeless, and that there are 5 times as many unoccupied homes and apartments across the US than there are homeless people. The reason this isn't done is that most of those properties are owned by the big banks, who can't turn a profit if they simply give out the homes.
Button 1: spend money helping vulnerable people without secure housing Button 2: spend money transforming the city (etc) to screw over vulnerable people Governments: **while slamming button 2 repeatedly** We just don't have money in the budget to help people :/
My son is trans, and the one person I thought we would have trouble with was my 85 year old, Catholic, Scottish grandma. Cut to her immediately using the correct name and pronouns for my son, and even correcting her son (my uncle) when he purposefully used the wrong name. It means so much to my son that his Nana loves and respects him. I love her so much!
@@dragonofdestiny8321 Um... Scottish people are stereotyped to be feisty, so I assumed it was because she'd be loud about it, if she was, thankfully she's using her Scottish feist (??) to be a fab ally. Though I could have interpreted it wrong 😊
@@PrincessFidelma well I’m Scottish, I’m feisty I guess, but of course, I support anyone lgbtq+ and am questioning myself (I’m leaning on asexual, omniromantic)
@@PrincessFidelma "Um... Scottish people are stereotyped to be feisty" just a stereotype, we're not really. Most Scots are pretty laid back and don't really care much about this sort of thing. The previous leader of the Scottish *conservative* party was/is a butch lesbian who is raising a child that was conceived through IVF with another woman, and nobody really made a big deal about it.
6:40 idk bro but when I came out to my grandma as non binary a few days ago she looked me dead in the eyes and said "oh sweetie I don't do numbers either" I explained it to her after she said that and she accepts me but like that's the best response by far that I've gotten when I've come out to people
Was feeling slightly dysphoric today but the community on Reddit made me feel better and now Jaime gave me the icing on the trans cake, thanks Jamie :)
As an enby lesbian there was an odd couple months where only trans women would talk to me on dating apps. Eventually one of them explained it was because I had they/them in my profile so I "probably wouldn't panic the way cis people do". Still terrifies me to think what these women have to deal with meeting up with people. Be safe out there ❤
Hey, I mean no disrespect in this, I just have a question, how can one be a lesbian but also enby? I'm seriously wanting to understand, not demine your identity. I'm a trans guy myself, and I've always wondered about the gay aspect of enbies. I think my sibling is also a lesbian enby, but I don't entirely understand the gay part, because to me, wouldn't that just demine the enby aspect of oneself? I'm really sorry if I've worded it wrong. I truly don't mean to be mean or anything, I just want to understand.
@@Unknown-ov2kz can only speak from my own experience but womanhood and being attracted to men are very wrapped up in each other. Realizing I didn't like men forced me to examine other aspects of womanhood and realize very little of it appealed to me. You'll hear a lot of lesbian enbies say "my gender is lesbian". It's unfortunate that most of our attraction labels are binary based but for those of us only attracted to one gender/look, the existing terms remain the most straightforward way to describe our experience. Many self identify as lesbian, gay, or straight without feeling it undercuts their gender. Hope that helps, and good luck to your sibling
@@Unknown-ov2kz I'll come at it from a POV you might understand (on the basis that you're a trans man). I'm enby, but my experiences aline a lot with a transman's. I want to go on T, I want to get surgery, I want to change my name & hopefully even the gender marker on my birth certificate. By all means, I want to transition into a man. & I also love other men, which would make me, from an outside point of view, a gay man (for this scenario, lets ignore that I'm bi). But, I'm not a man. I don't feel like a man, I don't feel like a woman, I feel like neither. But I want to become a man, outwardly, because my idea of being nonbinary is being masculine. So I tell people I'm a man, & I love men, because to everyone else, I basically am a transman. Being nonbinary isn't just about what you feel inside. To us, how we present our gender is also very intrinsic to that gender. A nonbinary lesbain may present as a woman, but they don't feel like a woman. I present as a man, but I'm not a man, but that masculine part of me still dictates a lot of how I view the world & how I interact with it
@@Unknown-ov2kz a lesbian is any one who isn’t a man who loves people who aren’t men. It could mean a woman who loves women, but it could also mean an enby who loves women, or a woman who loves women and enbys. There’s a few different ways to be lesbian. I hope this helps!
I recently came out to my grandmama. By recently I mean yesterday at 3 in the morning. We both woke up and sat together. She asked me what I got for Christmas at home. I quietly told her about my binder. She asked what it was and after I explained it she said "that sounds painful. Why would you want that". After a good few seconds of pure fear I told her that I'm trans and on the days when the dysphoria isn't bad then I wear a dress. I didnt know how to explain gender fluid to her so I just said that. "Hmm we do need more boys in the family". I cried. I'm still not gonna tell papa but it's nice being out to grandmama. After we woke up again she gave me a butterfly necklace. "I know you dont like girly things but you've always been my little butterfly". And I always will be. I just wanted to share this cause I wasnt expecting it. I knew she'd be ok with it with how she reacted to me having a girlfriend, but I didnt know itd go so well. I hope y'alls family are as accepting of yall♡
Love the symbolism of the butterfly too: the winged form is the imago, the ultimate expression of its being, the final stage of its development after a metamorphosis so complete that it was completely dissolved, even its brain...yet its memories are somehow preserved so that when it emerges as a completely different body, it's still the same being it always was.
@@alienenby Not always true, I for one have terrible fashion sense! I blame my mum though, because she doesn't have any fashion sense either (her words, not mine) and I kinda just copy her when it comes to clothes...
American trans guy here: The gaps in the stalls are horrifying. I've low-key mastered the art of slow, quiet pees to make it seem like I'm pooping while I await my bottom surgery consultation.
My 13yo recently came out as transmasc, and we took our first family vacation over the holidays since he started his social transition. In solidarity, I decided to only use the restroom at places where at least one all-gender restroom was available, even if I personally was using a gendered facility. It's shocking how many places only offer gendered restrooms, and how many of the places that do have a gender-inclusive restroom only have a single "family" restroom. I waited outside one such "family" restroom with my son for ten minutes while a poor beleaguered mom barked orders at her toddler and -- I presume based on my own experiences when my boys were both young -- changed her infant's diaper and then juggled the baby while trying to have a wee, change a tampon, and make sure that the toddler washed their hands and FOR HEAVEN'S SAKE STOP CLIMBING THAT. It's not that mom's fault we had to wait so long -- she was clearly doing the best she could. But it's frustrating that my son just needed to pee, and had to share one of three single-occupancy gender-inclusive options *at an amusement park with a capacity of 38,000 people* with, not just other trans & nb folks, but also with every parent trying to juggle multiple small children -- the park's main demographic. I ordered him a PStyle as soon as we got home. I have a FUD myself, that I bought to use while camping, and I love it so much that I sometimes use it at home or in public restrooms just for expediency. I honestly think that anyone who squats to pee should have one. I offered to get my son one several years ago (before he came out) but he declined; this time I just ordered one, and he can use it or not, but at least he'll have the option. I don't see him being confidant about using the men's room by himself any time soon, but I can imagine him taking a PStyle into a stall while his dad or brother use the urinal, and that by itself feels like it could be really empowering.
@@anavitoriafarion2621 i mean he did an episode of The Sci Guys on it as a guest, it’s good, i’d recommend it. not quite a simultaneous cup of tea but still, cool lol
"People don't go online to say that their attractions are inclusive of trans people, do they?" Well, let me say, as a straight cis woman: I can be just as attracted to a trans guy as to a cis guy. It's not like I usually crush on someone because their chromosomes are just so hot or whatever... :D
@@britannia6080 A lot of trans people prefer surgery because it helps them become more comfortable in their own skin. It's not just trans men, but trans women as well, along with everyone in between.
@@britannia6080 please, if you're here, in the RU-vid channel of a trans man, just to be transphobic, go chew on some stones or whatever idiots like to do ;)
3:22 I'd like to add to these instructions some extra tips for you trans guys a) _Never shave against the grain!_ You always, always shave in the direction of hair-growth. Yes, even under your chin. You will get ingrown hairs otherwise, resulting in pimples. With the Grain. b) This is also why blades are better than electric razors. Electric moves its blades in pretty much every direction. Some guys never end up with ingrown hairs from this. For other guys, electric razors will always give them ingrown hairs. c) _Stretch your skin._ Tight Skin == Close Shave. Tight Skin Prevents Cuts. Pull up at your hairline. Pull back on your ear. Lather up only part of your face at a time so you can pull it tight. d) *Only pull your razor PERPENDICULAR TO THE BLADES!* Which means in the direction of the handle. Think about it. If the blades move parallel to their edge, they will slice your skin. Well guess what? Any direction you move the razor in is actually a combination of parallel-to-the-edge and perpendicular-to-the-edge … _except_ moving purely perpendicular. e) If you nick yourself (1) you sometimes won't feel it; (2) you'll usually bleed more than it hurts, because cuts on the face and head tend to bleed profusely. A way to deal with cuts (besides the usual piece of tissue or toilet paper) is a Styptic Pencil, which is actually a stick of alum. You wet it and rub it on the cut. It causes the capillaries to constrict and stop the bleeding. Cuts don't happen as often as you think. During the first 5 years of using a blade, I think I cut myself twice. Since then, I've cut myself once every 7-10 years? And in all cases, it was because I was _rushing,_ being _careless,_ or hadn't changed the blade recently. f) Disposable razors should be used only once. Razors with changeable heads should be changed every 1-2 weeks, depending on how thick/dense your facial hair is. Mine is still light enough (even though I'm over 50) that I can get away with 3 weeks, but that's pushing it. And yeah, you're also gonna get lazy as you get older and not change the blade as frequently as you should. But if your can't remember when you last replaced the blade, it's _Definitely_ time for a new one. g) If you're using an actual razor (which I recommend), consider getting one of those suction-cup mirrors and shave in the shower. You're already starting with a clean, warmed-up face, rinsing off the blade between strokes is trivial, and it actually takes less time. - From your older cis gay uncle. 😊
You can shave against the grain to get the spots that are tough to shave as long as you go over the area again in the direction of the grain. There are a couple of spots that I can't get a decent shave without going against the grain but the finishing strokes (as I call them) have kept me from having ingrown hairs. Also after the cold rinse (to close the pores again), witch hazel is nice!
Wait is shaving against the grain specifically bad for trans-men? Because, while an enby, i still have a beard (for amab reasons) and without shaving against the grain i don't get it off completely. My dad taught me that i have to shave in all directions if i want to get it all off, allthough i _am_ supposed to start by going with the grain.
@@joda7697 No, it's specifically bad for _ALL_ men. (And anyone else with facial hair.) But cis men learn this from their dads, or clue in pretty quickly from the pimples from the ingrown hairs. And _gay_ cis men (like myself) learn this from each other. I don't know about the "finish with the grain" strategy. It may work for you … But the best way to get a closet shave isn't shaving against the grain, it's: 1. A sharp razor blade. 2. Pulling your skin tight. 3. Rinsing off the razor between strokes. I actually prefer to shave in the shower, right after I've finished washing. The warm environment keeps the pores open, and I can easily rinse the razor off with the shower head. I've had a mirror stuck to a wall in the shower for decades. (You really want a shower mirror if you shave in the shower.)
@@John_Weiss Well i do obviously pull my skin tight, otherwise it wouldn't really work at all. But i'm honestly too scared to use a razor blade directly, i find that with shaving cream and the mentioned strategy of starting with the grain, an electrical razor works well.
I’m a trans parent and I’m very transparent about my LOVE FOR MY TRANS CHILD She’s the most beautiful human bean and I’m lucky cos I made 2 fabulous beans 🥰
Seeing that wholesome grandma really hit me. Yesterday I had to deal with my very bigoted grandparents and couldn't do anything about it because I didn't want to cause any conflict on Christmas. I know for a fact that I could never come out to them and that they would never support me. Seeing that grandma be so supportive and loving made me yearn for a grandparent like that.
Excuse me for saying this but your grandparents don't deserve you; and you deserve grandparents who are proud of the journey you're on and the person you are. As someone who is probably quite old enough to be your grandfather, I see you, and I'm proud of you.
@@Binidj thank you so much. That means a lot to me. I've struggled with my self-worth a lot, especially after dealing with that yesterday, and so hearing that means a lot to me. It genuinely made me tear up just seeing someone, a complete stranger, validate me and say that I don't deserve this and that you're proud of me. I legitimately can't remember the last time someone told me that they were proud of me.
All my grandparents are dead and there was only 1 that would be okay with me being gender fluid and etc but he died before I ever realize, but they will die eventually,
I'm not old enough to be your grandparent, but I see you, and accept you. I hope you can live your best life openly in the near future, with all the love you deserve. With love from, a random cis Canadian. Oh, and have a happy new year!
As someone else who is old enough to be a grandma (and who cares, even if I'm not) I see you. I SEE YOU! I'm proud of you. You're amazing! Sending hugs
If it helps y’all when you’re opening pads/tampons in the men’s bathroom, I’ve heard stories online, and most cis dudes think it’s chips. Why would someone bring a bag of chips into a bathroom stall? The possible answers to this question often concern them, and they may even whisper a curt “good luck” as they pass by.
This is bizarre but hilarious! 🤣 Though I do wonder if the "good luck" ones might actually be those who've twigged to what's really going on and they just want to be supportive without saying "Hey, so I figured out that's the sound of a sanitary product for menstruation, and I wish to extend you good fortune in completing the necessary ritual with minimal mess or dysphoria whilst trying to be discreet in this inhospitable setting, bro."
@@VeganAtheistWeirdo lol I think it might be them thinking this poor bloke is trying to take a dump and it's gonna be a while for him. He even brought chips. It's strange to be sure. Lol
That story about the grandma made me super emotional I recently lost my grandma before i was ready to tell her i'm trans, but my mom apparently told her a while before she passed away because my mom was struggling to accept it and needed someone to talk to (not the best i know, but that's all resolved now) And my grandma was super supportive of it all.
I lost my Memaw before I could come out to her, and my other grandma was mentally not there to understand if I told her, I lost both of them without being able to tell them, I was even a pallbearer for my Memaws' funeral, I wish everyday I could go back in time and tell them
Yeah, American public bathrooms always have those gaps. Usually the door covers more, but there's a huge gap at the bottom and some gaps on the side. The gap on the bottom was created to be able to get to someone in case of an emergency (IE they're having a seisure, or are unconsious, etc), but that also has its own problems, and the gaps on the sides are nightmares... I had a bad experience when I was younger, a good decade before I came out, from the lack of privacy and even now I hate having to use the public bathrooms
Gaps on the side I think are just cutting costs so they don't have to worry about a shoddy installation leaving the doorway too small, and then the ultra-tiny doors like Jamie mentions (which I thankfully have never encountered myself) are probably just a paranoid anti-theft thing
also, some stalls in America are literally the equivalent of a leaf over the genitals in movies. the stalls at my job are literally the size of my torso. I'm 5'5 and I can see over the stalls if I stand
The gaps at the bottom make it very difficult to keep a toddler (or older child too young to wait alone but not sold on the filthiness of public toilet floors) in the stall with you while you do your business if they are interested in leaving
Hi Jamie, I am a transgender mtf! My SUPER supportive cousin got me makeup and she helped me put some on and I tried makeup styles and it was incredible. It helped me so much and this video is the icing on the cake. Thank you!
so proud of you sis! I personally am a transmasc agender person so I can’t really relate, but I understand what its like to feel happy with yourself in one way or another and I am so happy you get to feel the same! much love
Bathrooms here in the USA have almost no privacy… Makes it really hard, especially if you live in the Midwest or the south and people are a fairly anti-trans… Happy note though, I just swapped everything over today is because I’m changing my name and all that fun stuff, and I couldn’t remember what your RU-vid name was. So I googled wholesome trans guy, and you were the first one that popped up 💜
Yes that's why I believe people should not be f****** in them we do not understand public bathroom privacy therefore people who want to have fluid swapping time should do that and other areas that are legally private like bathrooms of apartments or hotels. No matter what your sexual preference is don't f*** anyone in a motel, they do not respect you.
The bathroom situation in the US depends a lot on the venue. The cracks around the door are pretty consistent due to cheaply-made everything, but the door generally provides a lot more privacy than that; the reason that major public parks get barely-private doors is that they want to discourage the use of drugs in the stalls there. Here in Seattle there's a huge problem with people ODing on heroin in random bathrooms, for example, so you get those teeny-tiny doors in places like libraries and bus terminals. I don't think that the erosion of privacy is the correct solution to this, of course. Just that it's the (really crappy) solution that a lot of places have decided on.
@@tortis6342 yeah, I absolutely agree. It doesn’t really solve anything. Safe injection sites combined with better social services would do a lot more to help, but NIMBYs always get in the way.
@@tortis6342 "Not In My Back Yard." Someone who is theoretically in favor of things that help others but don't want to have it near their own home. For example, someone who claims to support homeless people but gets angry at the idea that there might be a homeless shelter within walking distance of somewhere they might see them.
So some guy in a tf2 server was being hella transphobic and I said in chat "imagine being cis" and the INSANT response of "shut the f*** up hellofend" made me feel both incredibly happy and made me laugh
I am scared to tell my parents I might be trans so I haven’t bought a binder until today (won’t arrive for two weeks but I’m excited) and so as a replacement I wore three or four sports bras on top of each other and the first time I wore it I straight up forgot I was a afab. I was walking and went “if I were a girl I’d wouldn’t want that feature” then realised it was my reflection in a window
Grr. I think one of my least favorite part of being trans is that I am a pretty girl, but not a pretty nonbinary trash heap. Like, I've got that hourglass body ever Disney princess wanted as a child. My face would be pretty if I got rid of my acne and wore some make up. But I don't want to be a pretty _girl_ I want to be a pretty amorphous blob!!!
@@Schnort I totally get that. I also have that hourglass shape and a lot of people like looking at me for those features. Instead I want a body that confuses people and makes them wonder what I was assigned at birth. I felt like that since I was a teen and now I’m 28 and it’s still the same.
transmasc hourglasser here i get all of you, i when i tried to date people i get quite upset at the fact they find my body extremely feminine :( yet i want to look pretty just not girly pretty!
the first time i put on a binder i cried out of joy and then frustration of the situation; the first time i put a shirt on over my head post top surgery i smiled so big and i still forget i dont need to bind every now and again
Positive trans stuff helps me so much. Out to a few family as enby but don't think they understand its under the trans umbrella so have to be careful what trans stuff I follow. Being bi and aromantic is enough for them to wrap their heads around so far but we're slowly getting there.
I’m out to my whole family as enby too, and they still seem to get confuzzled when I refer to myself as trans. I’ve been stubborn and managed to get my whole immediate family to accept and understand me to a point, but there’s still a lot they don’t get and that still hurts.
Agreed. I very much need this, right now, as I overheard my parents having a anti-trans convo, in another room. I'm stealth, atm, and them buying into anti-trans propaganda on TV about made me wanna cry.
okay i’m officially going online to say that i as a cis person would 10/10 date a trans person and my partner as a cis person thought i was trans (lmfao) and was 10/10 okay with dating me and just waiting for me to come out (pls 😭😭😭😭)
I'm an enby type person, who has had gender identity struggles *and* a deep love of oversized hoodies for as long as I can remember. Never really connected the 2 until now, and had a good hard laugh. Thanks, Jamie!
@Winter Wyvern idaho is literally discount potato land. Ireland is the true potatoland. If you try to go to Ireland on a really budget flight, you'll end up in idaho.
Since u said people dont say it on the internet I feel I need to say myself (and everyone I know) are definitely attracted to trans people of the gender/s they're attracted to! Trust me theres lots of us who are ready and willing to love you guys
When Jamie said that, I immediately thought of r/ActualLesbians. Obviously with that subreddit, they're only talking about trans WLWs but it's definitely a trans inclusive space and people are very open/enthusiastic about liking trans women whenever the topic comes up
If I am ever in a position where I would sign up for a dating app, I now feel inspired to include something like this. I can only imagine how hard dating is for trans people; you never know who is safe.
My grandma also had the best reaction of my family. She refers to me as her grandson, wanted to fight her ex husband, my grandpa for recommending conversion therapy, acts like people were talking to her when I get dead named (I was originally named after her), and always corrects my dad when he misgenders me. My grandma is crazy but I love her so much for being so accepting of me and being proud of having a trans grandson
I did support trans folks before, but this year having experienced the worst dysphoria I've had since I was a kid, I hope even more that everyone is able to become their best selves exactly the way they see themselves. Clothing, hair, body, whatever you need I wish all the right ones for you!! No one should be afraid of crying when they look in the mirror. And anyone who disagrees can go suck a rock.
I am a transguy, but I love dresses and feminine clothing as well as masculine and androgynous clothing. At this point, I stopped trying to pass as masc because it's a lot of stress and dysphoria, so I rather dress up how I want to dress up because fuck gender roles >:D I still get dysphoria often, but as long as I care for myself, I'm golden!
I am not trans, but during a disney on Ice intermission I snuck into the men's bathroom because the women's was stupid full. I had on a hoodie and I walked in, used the bathroom, and walked out with only getting one stare. I made it back in time to see Repunzels opening performance lol. Hoodies save lives.
Funny story - my friend is cishet and she's dating my trans-pan friend. When we first told her about superstraights, she gave us this blank look and asked if she asked, "Does that make me a lightly straight? Bendy straight?" We all burst out laughing cause the way she said it was so genuinely confused XD
Yeah if you get just the right kind of binder it makes you never want to take it off ever. One of my first binders was super comfy and I’ve accidentally fallen asleep in it a few times
I was messaging a guy on Tinder recently and I was unsure if he'd read my bio, but his said "straight guy". I felt I should clarify that I'm trans, just in case he was one of those who are really weird about trans people. His response was that it didn't bother him. Really made me feel there was some humanity in some of this apps.
I'm at a very frustrating point right now, in my journey. Boobs too big for binders to hide it all, family misgendering me over the holidays (incl my brothers who i have been out to the longest), my hormone level testing got postponed till April and i had to reschedule my last therapy session because I was sick. ..I'm kinda super frustrated right now. Thank you for lighting my mood about with this video. ❤️
I'm a cis gay guy and a few weeks ago I decided to cut my hair short because of life stuff that happened. I was trying to experiment with my feminine side (nail polish is badass tbh, I love it. Makeup, dresses and such no much (although high heels feel empowering untill they start hurting). Well, for a few days after cutting my hair to a length of like two fingers I couldn't stand my reflection, it gave me literal nausea to look to the mirror. I ended up shaving my head to like half a centimeter length with a machine we had laying around at 4am because the thought of the long hair being missing was weird, I couldn't touch it, it didn't brush against my shoulders, it was weird. I'm quite happy with the hair all gone rn, the middle length was the issue. But I don't know if that acted like dysphoria, but if it is similar to it, the sensation is horrible. I could only compare it to my anxiety and paranoia cranked up to eleven, and being on me. Strange feelings of parts of your body being differently shaped, sized, on different locations, with other textures... It makes you doubt about the reality of yourself. It's horrible. I feel like I can empathize even more with people who have dysphoria now...
The crack in the bathroom thing is literally just because it's cheaper. Everything in the US is made as cheaply as possible. And the small door thing is to prevent people from doing drugs or having sex in the bathrooms. But at that point you're more punishing everyone else than stopping that.
My dad kind of taught me to shave after I came out, he shaved in front of me and was like, "and that's how you do it, good luck" and then I had to go figure out what he did.
It happens with me also. My fathers do reparing of stuff in front of me and expact me to learn by watching. But in actual I figure out things after he complete the work.
I remember always watching my dad shaving when I was a kid and even wanting to shave. It just felt right and correct for me. Now, having come out as Non-binary Trans-Masculine, makes a lot more sense. Thanks to the dads out there that may have unwittingly taught their afabs how to shave ^_^.
Jammi said that people don't express their inclusive attraction so here I am : if you are trans I love you. I'm bi too so trans man or trans woman it doesn't matter I LOVE ALL OF YOU ❤❤❤ Have a nice day
@@asliceofjackie91 as an ace person I find that confusing. You cannot tell at a glance that a person is trans unless you are looking for it. So if you are saying "trans or not, you can't really find every single human being on earth attractive", I get it. But unpromptedly not attracted *specifically* to trans people? I can't wrap my head around that. Is this a thing you recognize after the fact? ("oh met this and this and this and this person, and I wasn't into them, and then I found out they were trans and I guess that's the common factor"). Again, ace here, so obviously I don't get sexual attraction in the first place, but you know, intellectually I can't deconstruct it in a way that makes sense to me...
@@asliceofjackie91 If you are saying that you don't have to be attracted to everyone because you're bi you are right but for me, the minute you say that you are not attracted to someone just because they are trans it is transphobic. And in the comment I made, I was not claiming to talk on behalf of all bi people, it was just my opinion.
@@danielhilderbrand7393 yeah but i don’t call myself transgender. cause it’s not like i change my gender every time i feel different. i just call myself genderfluid not a girl or a boy or trans? idk if that makes sense sorry
I just got my first real gender affirming haircut today after 3 1/2 years of being out :( and this vidoe is just the cherry on top of today, thank you so much jamie
I was just forced to come out as trans to my family and it didn’t go too well at all im glad theres people who makes content like this to make things a little better
As a Trans lady who has been shaving for more years then I would like to admit let me drop some knowledge on you boys and your new face fur. 1) shaving cream is not for everyone its a skin type thing, some folks do better with a high fat soap lather like goat milk soap, if you have oily skin and I know T can do that to you this may help, all you need is a brush and that last a life time (i use my grandfather's who I share my dead name with but you can get them for like 10 buck for a cheep one) and those cans are really bad for the environment. 2) hot water is key! i do mine in the shower and that really helps soften thing up but I know my face very well and do alot more then my face (Tladies got me), It started cause when I was in my teens I could not looking the mirror most mornings but now i just do it because gets a better shave. 3) If you can (like if you skin is not too sensitive or the growth to long) shave up you can get a better shave as it lift the hair off the skin before cutting rather then laying it flat on your skin and just like putting make up on, pulling on your face over time it can make your cheeks droop ect. 4) get a trimmer, keep those lines tight and straight keep a stash off the coloured part of your lip it will look much neater, and kissing much better.
It's actually really validating to hear you say shaving cream isn't for everyone! Trans guy here, transitioned medically very young, and my parents thought I was insane when I told them the "sensitive skin" shaving cream that my dad uses actually irritates my skin. I think I'm possibly even allergic to it, because my skin gets swollen anywhere it touches. I just shave with nothing now, or well, just water. As long as I'm gentle and make sure to change the razor blade regularly enough, it goes completely fine for me, I nick myself WAY less than I do using shaving cream and my skin isn't irritated after, no more razor burn or swelling. I don't know why I'm like this, but I kinda thought it was my "female skin" and felt really bad about it Do you have any more detailed tips for trimming? My facial hair is kinda curly( and patchy) so I don't know what to do with the thicker parts around my chin and the back of my jaw, I can't really figure out how to do it except to just shave under my jaw to the skin (and the upper lip thing)
@@vaughnhaney7020 yeah when I started shaving I would use the shaving cream for sensitive skin and it caused irritation then I saw something about using hair conditioner instead. I used to use it on my face before I started transitioning and it works really well, plus I have a mole near my lip that I would always nick when I used shaving cream because I couldn’t see it.
@@vaughnhaney7020 This, this is way I took the time to post that, you have to know how it works for YOUR FACE, its not your "female skin" I shave way more sensitive areas them my face but the face still takes the most care. Its because face hair is like you say curly and courser then any other part of the body (yes trans ladies know the answer to the age out man woman debate of what harder leg or face lol). Try a shaving soap or the kind of cream that comes in a squeezy tube you can find that in most places now. If you are patchy avoid keeping hair on the mouth area (thats big boy stuff) every young man tries and fails at some point its kind of a right of passage lol, but in the consequence free time of youth. I know the urge to ant to use hair to man up the face been there hun (I was trying to fake it but im sure you have your own experces with that kind of thing). Try side burns they can be like the hair version of me using highlighter to "fix" my face shape. let them come mid ear and toy with the shape to make a stronger jaw line. I found them being about 1.5 times as wide at the bottom then the top is a good start.
@@onnayoung7699 Aaa thank you so much for the advice! Personally I just find the face difficult because if I make a mistake everyone will notice it haha Oh, and I said "female skin" like that cos that's how my mom refers to anything she deems either good or un-masculine about me (ex. If I do something nice that's "the female part of my brain") so it's just the way I know how to word things I guess. I know I'm all male heh ^-^'
when my partner came out to me as a trans man, i played a little prank on him, we had an inside joke since we met, that I would never be straight (even tho, I am bi) so when he told me he was a man I was like “are you telling me that IM….. STRAIGHT?!?” he laughed at me and then I told him that he had my full support, and that I would like to be there when he cut his hair, and then I got really sad because he wanted to dye his hair black but I really loved his green highlighter hair 😔😔
Hoodies, the heroes for dysphoria, dysmorphia (me), the chronically cold, the chronically ill, SA survivors and the incredibly introverted - how did such a magical piece of clothing get invented?
I just wanted to let you know that your content helped me realized that I'm a trans man. I basically am just in the process of coming out, but I've been on the fence for years and it's support from people like you and the community that surrounds your channel that helped me accept who I am. Thank you so much for doing what you do.
@@slimetank394 Thank you so much. It's been a long journey getting to this conclusion but I think I'm really ready to take the next step and start living as the person I want to be.
@Cian MacGana Can you believe it, guys? Christmas! Just a week away! Christmas is in a week! Woohoo! I am so happy about this information! Christmas! Just a week away! Oh, wow! Can you believe it? Christmas, just in a week! It got here so fast! Christmas! Just a week!Can you believe it, guys? Christmas! Just a week away! Christmas is in a week! Woohoo! I am so happy about this information! Christmas! Just a week away! Oh, wow! Can you believe it? Christmas, just in a week! It got here so fast! Christmas! Just a week!Can you believe it, guys? Christmas! Just a week away! Christmas is in a week! Woohoo! I am so happy about this information! Christmas! Just a week away! Oh, wow! Can you believe it? Christmas, just in a week! It got here so fast! Christmas! Just a week!
I just got an undercut and thanks to Christmas I have a bunch of new clothes that I feel so masculine in, I finally get to go out tomorrow (it's to a doctor's appointment and the store but still) and I am so thoroughly happy for people to finally see me as who I am.
I'm a trans man and I just came out to my grandparents about a year ago and they were also so supportive. They immediately started calling me the right name and they called me every single day when I was recovering from my top surgery. I love them so much! 💖
recently had another gender crisis, i changed my name and pronouns but still felt dysphoric. this is the channel that helped me with the dysphoria while i figured things out, thanks jamie!
Hi! I wanted to let you know that your videos helped me through quarantine and my depression. When I first started watching you I thought I was cis, maybe pansexual, but I recently discovered I am a trans man (possible Demi boy) and am bisexual. You helped me to realize this and feel comfortable with it. I remember one time near the end of a video you said: some people just don’t realize that they are trans and all they need is a little push; or something like that but that’s when I realized that maybe that applies to me. Anyways I just wanted to thank you. You are an amazing person and I love your channel.
These made me tear up because I don’t have the support that a lot of these people have. I can’t even get a haircut until I’m 18 and I can’t wear my binder that my friend gave me - so It makes me feel happy to see other trans folks get the love they ought to get 🏳️⚧️✨💕
I'm sorry you are going through that. I personally don't have access to a binder and my aunt doesn't believe I am trans so I am just staying a female for awhile.
@@meltaylor7984 Sorry to hear that. But just so you know, if you truly know who you are and you’re willing to go through a difficult process to get the life you want, it will be worth the wait. It’s most definitely going to be hard to get by, but it’ll work out in the end - Stay safe my man and keep your head up✨✨
Wait. As a kid I was always pretty feminine and thought I wanted to be a girl, but I just assumed I was being a dumb kid looking back, but lately I've also wanted to portray myself as pretty feminine and I kind of wish I could wear skirts and things without being constantly judged and now I'm wondering if I'm just a bit feminine or if I'm trans... oh yeah maybe saying I'm a guy is useful.
if u want advice i think experimenting is the best way to figure gender stuff out. yeah self reflection helps but you can only think about something for so long before you reach a wall. like asking a friend to try using different pronouns helped me a lot more than thinking about my gender till the sun rose every night. ALSO it’s ok if you aren’t trans you aren’t a horrible person or whatever for using a label and then not using a label, try not to feel pressured to stay with something even if u think it’s not accurate anymore
I am a transmasculine individual who's figuring stuff out recently, and so far, I collected these tips: - do things that make you happy: if dressing cute/feminine, wearing makeup, etc makes you happy, do it. Experiment, as the pal up here said, and if it feels kind of good, and you like how you look, go for it - make sure you're in a safe space to experiment, or with people you can be safe with: nothing worse than experiencing abuse or having violent people around, so be careful, your safety shouldn't be taken too lightly - hear other people' stories and experiences, search for terms, definitions and labels and their meanings: I got a bunch of knowledge on many gender identities, which kinda helped me navigate mine, but sometimes the individual experience with a certain gender/label explains so much more than definitions I hope any of this helped, if you have any more questions feel free to ask me, or if you have insta and prefer to message me, my username is @fra.dmm_24
Oh my I needed a funny video like this. I had a HORRIBLE Christmas. Hope everyone else's was far better. If not, just don't repeat the things that made it bad and next year will be better. Me? Going it alone because it's better than being in bad company.
As a person with a service dog who can't fit in regular stalls, I can relate hard to being stuck waiting for someone to finish pooping in the only toilet I can use. It sucks, especially if you really got to go.
Just to say, as a cis man, I would assume a person waiting for a stall needed to poo, I wouldn't notice the sound of pee (which can vary depending on the presence or absence of a foreskin and how it's shaped), and if I heard rustling, I'd probably either assume that it was (a) someone with a colostomy who needed privacy, or (b) someone doing something nefarious, like something drug related who might get angry at an interruption. While I can't speak for everyone of course, you can probably divide people into (a) enlightened and won't want to make you feel uncomfortable (b) curious as to what's happening, but reasonably open minded, and (c) unenlightened, but fearful that people might think that they're gay because they think gay men have nothing better to do than look at other guys' penises in the bathroom, so they won't say anything.
This made me want to share the time I was using the Ladies and suddenly a man using the Gents (the cubicle wall is attached to the Gents) started singing opera! At the time it was a bizarre and beautiful moment, your comment added something more 😊
Yeah, there are so many other things someone overhearing the sound of a tampon or pad opening will think. From "what weirdo eats chips in a public bathroom" to "Oh they must be attending to some kind of medical condition." They could be injecting themselves with legal or illegal drugs in the stall (I don't know if people who give themselves insulin injections actually feel like they need to do it in the bathroom, but it's something one might assume). Also most people are self absorbed in their day to day life and are very unlikely to give a much thought to you as you are.
Being nonbinary, I still get self-conscious around my S/O, but we've been together over 7 years, so obv he loves and accepts me, but every time my gender fluctuates, I get worried he won't see me how I want to be seen. But that's a personal issue to me, not him
after three years of waiting and wondering if i would ever get a date scheduled, my top surgery is in less than a month!!! I am both terrified since i've never had a big surgery and so ecstatic that i'll finally be able to move and dress and exist without the crippling dysphoria i have right now. thank you for always releasing videos that make me smile and also teach me many new things, it's lovely have a place on the internet full of other supportive and empathetic trans people who understand all the highs and lows of this experience! sending hugs to all who are feeling dysphoric and having a hard time this holiday season, i love you and you are amazing ♥️
Just a reminder Trans fems, you look pretty and I hope you have a good day Trans mascs, you look handsome and I hope you have a good day Nonbinary people, you look positively perplexing and I hope you have a good day Allys, I cannot tell you how much the little things mean, thank you and a hope you have a good day (If this made you day please let me know, it means a lot)
I started asking myself if I’m cis or not because of this channel and two weeks ago I went to the male section first time and it was amazing, Ty so much!
literally just had a harry potter ad before this video.... whoever said: this person looks at trans videos... let's give him harry potter add.... was wrong!
Twas feeling both Trans related & Otherkin Dysphoria today. Someone was arguing about my It/Its pronouns and that "If you think you're an animal than you need help other than accepting yourself". This video is helping me feel better. Thank you.
@@teathesilkwing7616 Otherkin is when you socially &/or spiritually identify as something non-human. It's more than just liking certain non-human creatures. Take one ( I have multiple) of my kintypes for example (Kintypes are what kind of Otherkin entity you are). Vampirekin, I have phantom fangs (phantom limbs are limbs that aren't there but can still be felt), I feel sick in sunlight, and sometimes I get unbearably thirsty and have to self harm so I can drink my blood to quench my thirst. Some Otherkins have memories of their kintypes. I do have memories from other kintypes I have. Being Otherkin is a very spiritual thing for me and can be for others like me. Otherkin dysphoria is when I know that physically I am human but I have the mind/spirit of something non-human. I know I'm not a Vampire but my spirit feels like it is. It causes me pain to be called human and that I don't have fangs among other things. My apologies if this is confusing. I hope it does make sense though.
@@teathesilkwing7616 This is why when the person said "If you think you're an animal than you need help other than accepting yourself" because I'm not an animal but saying that I'm a human hurts. I can't and won't deny that physically I am human but my spirit feels different.
I never understood why my first child always wore hoodies, even in the summer. Then he came out as trans. My poor baby - I wish he'd been able to come out sooner (he was 11.5yo) so we could have tackled that issue earlier! We still have issues when swimming is involved, but hopefully I'll be able to afford top surgery for him sooner rather than later so he doesn't have to worry anymore. I'm his mama and I just want to fix everything for him, so it's incredibly difficult when all I can offer is a shoulder or an ear 😢
Jamie, thank you, I really needed that after working all through Christmas. Your energy always makes my day. On dysphoria: I am cis but I experience it too, never having accepted my abdominal area. Your reaction to that particular Tik Tok was spot on.
Someone get this man a cookie cat / Cookie Puss because I do believe they deserve it!! Thank you for being the representative that I show my male coworkers that trans men are a type of men
