Transgender Bathroom Debate 

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I am a transgender ftm and I was forced to wear a skirt along with going to the wrong bathroom. I have depression and anxiety, I also dropped out. What this video says is true. I got bullied, verbally, physically abused in bathrooms. I even had teachers stand outside my stall, nagging me specifically to hurry up because they didn't want me there anyway. We had to sign in and out of restrooms, we had some classes who gave detention for bathroom use exceeding 10 minutes, and I have irregular periods so bowel movements and changing my pad was a huge pain. I would be crying in the stall because of my medical issues and still get detention for it. Please stop hating on transgender people. Anyone who reads this, we are people too... please have mercy on us. Thank you for anyone whk cared enough to hear me out. I'm just a dropout to society because of dumb policies in public and private school.

If we had single stall unisex, non- gendered bathrooms then I don't think anyone would have a problem. They would each be individual rooms suited for anyone and everyone.

"I'm an orphan but my parents taught me that my voice matters"

I love how the stupidity of transphobes are accurately described in the first few seconds of the video!

"Should women be able to use the WOMEN'S restroom?? " made me laugh

This reminds me of what commonly happened back when I was a kid. When I was a kid growing up I decided to let my hair grow out because at the time my favorite show was Inuyasha. Had nothing to do with gender identity. I just thought that long hair was cool. Now here’s the fun part. I was also short, thin, and preferred to wear form fitting clothing.(I still look like that today and I’m quite proud of that little fact) So quite often I would be mistaken for a young lady. At first it was funny but after a while it got really old. So I get more reactions using the men’s room, and I am biologically male. Today I am Gender Fluid and whenever I doll myself up I have to use the women’s room just to avoid confusion, and nobody bats an eye. Do you think that’s weird? A Biological Male who has to use the Women’s restroom because I look more female than male naturally? I don’t know about you guys but I think that’s both hilarious and a little fucked up.

Personality, I just wish there were single user unisex restrooms. I know it's a lot more efficient to just build lots of stalls and them all be in the same room, but still, I think everyone would be much more comfortable. I'm transmasculine and I am not out to my family, so I'm not super passing and I'm not comfortable going in the male restroom, but the female restroom gives me dysphoria. Also, I don't really present female, I'm not passing enough to be comfortable in the men's restroom but I'm passing enough to seem out of place in the female restroom Every time I go somewhere where their are single user unisex restrooms I am always so relieved, I feel like those should be more common. The world needs to work towards being less gendered, because not everyone is either male or female

I understand their concerns. However a pedophile will harm someone irregardless of what the law says. I say stricter punishments for sex offenders.

Here's a solution to everyone's problems. We should have a harassment hotline for if anyone gets harassed in the bathroom. Don't matter if it's a little girl or a trans person.

2:37 Can you imagine what THAT feels like? Not interacting with anyone because your feeling of not being yourself gets in the way of your self esteem and hope for your future?

I love how they said "predators *can* say they identify as a woman to get into the women's bathroom" and not "predators *have* said they identify as a woman to get into the women's bathroom" they subconsciously admitted to attacking a strawman lol

You see, my middle school had the PERFECT solution. Just don't let the students use the restroom. If someone's on their period? You have to call the office, on the intercom letting everyone know, to get someone to come down, just so someone can change their pad/tampon. All in All, my school had the best restroom policies.

As a trans ftm, I'm always so scared to use the bathroom at my school. Although I was given permission to use a locked bathroom, sometimes the staff don't know where the key is, so I always hate it when I have that time of the month and hope the key is there. If not, it's either I go in the female bathroom and feel major dysphoria, or I go in the male bathroom and sound like I'm opening a bag of chips.

I mean I'm a transgender man, so when I go to the bathroom, I use the males room, I've never had anybody say anything. I mean this one time a guy asked me to help look for his airpod case but that's different lol, anyway I'm very happy that everyone at my school accepts me as a guy!

I always try to use family restrooms when I'm in public because I have really bad social anxiety. I feel bad about it because I don't have children and I'm not trans

I’m a trans boy (14 and haven’t used anything like testosterone except for a binder) and Im currently on my period. I NEVER use the bathroom at school bc Im afraid going in the boys bathroom but uncomfortable in the girls bathroom. I ofc had to go into the bathroom to change my tampon (hate pads sm) and went into the girls bathroom. No one was out of the stalls and I went into a stall and did what I needed to do. I was so afraid to get out of the stall bc there was girls talking outside the stalls. I was almost having a panic attack bc I didn’t wanna be stared at or judged or the girls thinking I’m a cis boy going into the girls bathroom. I went out with my head down and washed my hands while not breathing and the girls were still talking with eachother but I didn’t look up ofc bc I didn’t want to see them staring at me. But ya that’s how it is for me on my periods at school.

If someone doesn't let you use the bathroom, just pee on them. Their fault for not letting you use a toilet. (I also advise you to NOT pee on people, but it's still an option)

The answer: Unisex Bathrooms (any gender bathroom)

Public bathrooms have changed a lot because of Covid. Many bathrooms are single and unisex. And the door locks. This is safer and more hygienic.

Don't most people have unisex bathrooms in their homes? I don't understand why anyone thinks _not letting someone else use a toilet in peace_ is something worth fighting for...

We all have bladders. We all have bowels. Whatever your identity or expression, there’s no denying that we all need to “go potty,” “relieve ourselves,” or simply “go to the bathroom.” We should not have to let transphobes deny us sweet relief! 🏳️‍🌈🚻🏳️‍🌈 #WeJustNeedtoPee

I don't understand why the "little girl is in danger from be followed into the bathroom by a man" is such an effective fear tactic but the "little girl is forced to use the mens bathroom alongside grown men" isn't taken seriously just because the second little girl is trans. In British secondary schools an 11 year old girl could potentially be forced to use the same bathroom as a 16 year old boy if that girl was trans. How is that not considered "dangerous" but a woman using the woman's public toilets is a threat! It makes no sense! On the re-vese no one would force a 16 year old boy to use the same school bathrooms as a 11 year old girl but the boy can be banned from the boys toilets if he is trans, which is just ridiculous!

As a trans man(ftm), I have been bullied and yelled at for using the female restroom and when I once used the male restroom I got verbally assaulted by a transphobic person, thankfully my school has put in gender neutral restrooms witch me and my freinds are ok with :)

I love how he just roast Peter by saying “so Peter, if you’re watching out there, maybe take a science class” I’m a professional voice and like it’s nothing. I live for this lol

I really wish there was also just a unisex bathroom, I’m a Demi girl but often prefer to be non binary (if that makes sense) and I feel uncomfortable going to a women’s or men’s washroom. No hate to this video! 💖

My friend is non-binary, and they always go to the nurses office to go to the bathroom. I wish schools would install a bathroom where anyone can go into no matter the gender.

This is why unisex bathrooms are a thing

As a young girl myself, now I understand why my mom goes into a public restroom stall with me 😅 Jokes aside, I think ALL genders should be treated equally, I may be cis-gendered, and quite young for my age to understand this, but that doesn't mean I don't actually understand.

I think everyone should have the right to use the WOMAN'S bathroom and MAN'S bathroom if they are a female or male. I also think there should be more unisex bathrooms, for everyone. TransWOMAN and transMAN are a woman or male.

There is a unisex restroom in my school and it causes absolutely zero issues. Students, both trans and cis, consider it to be very comfortable as it is located far away from the noisiest corridors and also happens to be the best maintained restroom in our school. Nothing wrong with it being unisex, besides some humorous situations - one day some girls entered it and asked aloud if it was the women's restroom, and some dude from a nearby stall answered "yes".

How about we just get rid of the gendered bathrooms?

Can I just say something that always annoys me? I’m non binary, and I use the staff bathroom at school, sometimes i get glances from time to time, that doesn’t bother me, but sometimes when some people see me enter the staff bathroom, they tell me to go to the girls bathroom, as my original birth certificate has an F for fabulous, I just feel like people who say that should put their feet in my shoes and notice how dysphoric that makes me feel. Thank you for reading.

I don't believe true transgender people pose any danger by using the restroom they identify with. But I also think that if someone is obviously transgender or cross-dressing for whatever reason and it is apparent from their voice and/or appearance, that it can cause understandable discomfort among those using the same shared restroom. It doesn't have to be an issue of danger or children's welfare, but still anyone who looks like one sex dressed as another is going to cause discomfort among others in that restroom. It is simply human nature and I don't think very hard to understand. Unfortunately in the current political climate often what is reasonable and understandable is considered taboo to discuss if not politically correct or sensitive.

Common sense, Peter? Then explain it in a way a 5 year old can understand, why are we separating anything based on gender?

I'm trans and my dad's a construction worker. Something that happening lately is that he's getting more and more projects of changing gendered bathrooms into gender-neutral seperate rooms down long corridors. No womens bathroom and no mens bathroom just a bathroom. It's nice to see it's starting to disappear.

Being a transwoman in Texas pre-hrt really is both scary and sucks. I have to use the men's restroom (to stay safe) but it freaks me out as well. I can't yet dress or appear feminine because of possible harm. Predators are understandably an issue but these hate groups have it all wrong. The most comfortable and safest I've felt in a public bathroom was a family bathroom and an "all gendered" bathroom which seems to be the only one I've ever seen. I hope more can be made and for people to be more accepting. Hiding and being scared and feeling like if I'm found out that I'm trans I'd be assaulted worse is scary. The fears those hate groups have for kids are the same I have for myself. What if a man notices my slightly feminine belt? Or realizes that I'm wearing women's clothes (despite them being somewhat non-binary). Summer especially is scaring me. I'm trying to find feminine clothes that wouldn't be too obvious or that I could lie myself out of to stay safe.

I'm a MTF girl and I used to freak out when I had to use the bathroom at the local pub. That was until a male friend said the simple thing, "Who cares? Just go in, if anyone says anything send them to me. It's a bathroom." That was enough to get me over my stupid fears. I've run out of shits to give my hypothetical fears of other humans opinions👍

Why not just open a like "gender neutral" bathroom that way people stop complaining about it on both sides

The thing is, the stuff that these people are worried about can happen regardless of bathroom rules. "If we let trans women use the women's bathroom, then any cis man could put on a dress and pretend to be trans! Then they could abuse it in order to attack or stalk women!" Okay... so let's say that we force people to use the bathroom according to their sex assigned at birth. What's stopping a cis man from just walking into the women's bathroom, and, if he's confronted, turning around and saying "I'm a trans man, it's the law for me to use this bathroom. I was assigned female at birth." This scenario makes it EVEN EASIER for these mysterious predatory cis men to enter women's spaces, no?? They don't even need to bother making themselves look feminine, plenty of trans men pass easily...

There’s an easy solution. Stop gendering bathrooms. My university has bathrooms with only one toilet and a sink. Problem solved. It also makes public restrooms a less awful experience. I think we can all agree that public bathrooms suck and widespread implementation of such a solution would be beneficial for everyone.

I think gendering the bathrooms is just dumb. We should promote the unisex bathrooms all around the world. I say this as a non binary person, of course, but I also think that it's just confusing having gender segregated bathrooms (have you ever been in the wrong bathroom by accident? it's embarassing how people watch you there, isnt it?). Anyway, it's still important to support normalization of trans people using their gender alligned bathroom, cause we probably won't have unisex bathrooms in a century or two, so we at least need educate on respect for binary trans people.

I am so f*ing happy that I live in a country that rarely has two big rooms with many toilets in them and instead have one toilet in every room so you don’t have to “choose a side”.

lets just take note the fact that unless bathrooms everywhere suddenly are forced to have security guards at the entrance demanding your sexuality, theres nothing stopping a man from entering a womans bathroom anyways regardless of if they say they're trans or not

I'm transgender and i still use the girls bathroom because I'm scared of all of my classmates thinking im a weirdo, or them finding out in trans, and I never came out to my parents yet because my dad is homophobic and i don't know about my mom, but when ever I watch your guys videos, i feel happy because i love your guys videos, also im going to buy your merch and then wear the shirt and drink from the mug in front of him.

I’m a trans man, I was lucky enough to have a school that was decent enough to let me use whatever bathroom I wanted. I did start using the mens bathroom this year, but since the school I went to had a lot of problematic people I used the one mens bathroom that no one ever uses. And I am glad I did, because unfortunately the thing I feared happened to another trans man. He got targeted and sa in the bathroom. It made me not go to the bathroom at school at all for a long time. My friends didn’t even want me in there at all. I wish people had the decency of minding their own business.

Saying "letting trans people use the restroom of the sex which they identify could make easier to someone abuse other people" or something like that is so dumb And can be refuted with so simple things Like "if I go outside, I can be attacked or something, so, no-one can go outside anymore" It's the same thing, So, if we don't limit on a thing because possibly abuses We don't limit on the other to

Ok, I have a lot to say. First off, there is a restaurant I sometimes go to that has a both gender bathroom. But it is only 1 stall. 2nd of all, I HATE how ppl leave tp all over the floor and at my school the janitors don't put down the seats. And when people don't wipe the seat? ...It makes me mad.

as a trans ftm i get bullied in the bathroom people tell me that I'm disgusting and should go back to the girl's bathroom and hear people talk outside my stall about how i used to be a girl and calling me all types of mean transphobic things when im right there!! I'm only 12 i already have really bad dysphoria and deal with bullying outside of the bathroom i don't need it while I'm trying to take a shit to, like leave me tf alone

As a trans woman myself, the fact that these are even still problems disgusts me. Its so simple, in and out. Why the hell do people have to make it so damn difficult, and get away with it even? Its annoying and exhausting to put up with these unnecessary witch hunting, hate speech, and general problem making.

Imagine millions being spent on adds warning about the danger of leaving children unattended with clergy...

20:53 got me laughing, thanks Matt

Use the bathroom, any bathroom, just wash your dang hands.

why do clothes have gender labels

I am a straight woman & I also did everything I could to avoid using the bathrooms at school & also refused to dress-down or shower after PE because I was not comfortable being naked in front of others (even just other girls). I don't believe this issue has anything to do with being LGBTQAI+++ ... it's just a matter of being uncomfortable during puberty - it's a rough time for everyone!!

I 'love' how these ad people think that whether the bathroom sign is male or female will stop predators from following a girl into a bathroom. News flash it won't because they don't care which bathroom you're in.

Idk bout these transphobes, but I'd much rather Blaire White than Buck Angel in the same restroom as me any day.

You should be allowed to use the bathroom anywhere. I say no more bathrooms.

Some of my school bathrooms dont even have sinks

"Should women be allowed to use the women's restroom?" Me: Are you dumb?

My best friend is ftm and two weeks ago he went to the men's public bathroom for the very first time. I'm so proud of him. I'm still struggling on that since I'm non-binary lmao

When I first came out in middle school they still had me using the the girls room. After I came out girls dumped glitter and perfume on me. I was chased out, called names and threatened with violence of I were to use the boys. In high-school things changed once my families was more on board with my mental health and they talked to the school and I used the nurses bathroom for everything including changing for gym. It was not ideal I was often uncomfortable having to go the school office everytime but it was definitely safer compared to the other option for me at my school

Honestly what do they think an offender won't go in anyway like "Oh I'm gonna go and assult women, oh wait it says biological women only shoot I better not break the rule" LIKE NO ISTG TRANS WOMEN ARE WOMEN TRANS MEN ARE MEN

me: **scrolling through youtube and see's this video** also me: **sighs** **goes straight to comments section**

I'm a cis female here in case I ever get into an argument about this You are valid don't let anyone tell you otherwise

At the end of my work shift, i exited the guys bathroom after changing and locked eyes with a coworker who doesnt exactly like me. I stared at her and stormed out before she could say anything. Shes a role higher than me and I was nervous she was going to not allow me to change in the bathroom 💀

Just found this channel. 2 mins in aaaaaaaaaaand subbed thx for breaking this stuff down! It’s nice to have someone put these problems into words and use actual logic and reasoning for once

I'm not in the grade at my school where I'd have to change my clothes in a locker room, but I'm genuinely scared of going to the bathroom in school. I've only ever done it once to fix my hair, but I'd never go there unless I was physically going to piss myself. my counselor says that I could go to the gender neutral bathroom in the nurse's office, but that's 4 super long hallways and 4 flights of stairs in total, just to be told "you can't come down here to use the bathroom, just use the normal ones." I'm a transmasc nonbinary person and I don't pass very well. A lot of the kids in my school aren't very keen on realizing that I'm not a girl, so I wouldn't be surprised if I got some weird comments if I went in there. I really wish my school didn't lie and say they had a gender neutral bathroom or I wouldn't have to think twice before I go take a shit

I'm a transman and I came out of the closet only recently. Like about half a year back. And I gotta say I'm actually scared to use the boys restroom at school cuz I'm scared they might find out because of my chest still being visible despite using a fitting binder. So I neither go to the girls- nor to the boys restroom throughout the whole day. We have literally one restroom (out of like 12 for each biological gender) where there's a sign divided in two, like one half is male and the other half is female. And I went there and a girl came in and I got scared for my life

My 2 trans male friends still have to use the girls bathroom. Idk if that's their choices or if the school forces them to go there but either way I feel so bad for them every time. I just hope it doesn't make them feel too dysphoric or anything.

Can anybody tell them that any man can enter any women's bathroom without claiming to be a woman by vertue of the sign saying "women's bathroom" not being a magic spell

Just make gender neutral bathrooms

17:50 that little chuckle he let out speak louder than anything else he said.

I mean, if you are a woman or a male it doesn’t matter there should just be a generalized bathroom of male and female, but be separated by ages >:v

Peter: Trans people aren't attractive... Me: OH- HO OH- *Rolls up sleeves* Hold me back-!! LET ME AT HIM!!!

At the university I graduated from, a way to solve this problem is that they changed half of the bathrooms on campus to being gender neutral.

I have a fear of public bathrooms. I’m non binary, though biologically female, though look more like a male. So, uhm, it’s always a little awkward and I always try to find a single stall or not go at all. Not only am I scared because of my gender, I have a phobia of the germs, and uhm, very self conscious about people hearing me pee. I’d go all day without going to the bathroom when I was in school, as they didn’t have a single stall Honestly single stall unisex bathrooms are the solution to this. Or just, Have all bathrooms just unisex? Like not even necessarily single stall What’s stopping them from putting urinals IN the stalls, if people would be uncomfortable with that? Why do restrooms even have to be gendered

thankfully my school has non-gendered bathrooms that are singular rooms without stalls, which I normally use, but a few years ago when I just accepted my identity I accidentally walked to the men’s bathroom in an airport and a man stopped me on his way out. I’m glad he did, I’d rather have been stopped at the front of the bathroom than have walked in, but it just felt horrible I knew that I definitely didn’t pass.

Thank you for making these videos. I really love learning about random topics at 2 am.

my school doesn’t let ppl use the restrooms inbetween classes yet the teachers won’t let us go to the restrooms when we ask

And the fact that those ads aren't able to use definitive language when talking about this subject. "They could, they may, etc" Like we know that these bathroom bills have passed in so many areas, youd think they could pull out some stastistics about a safety risk due to these bill's. But they cant. So they HAVE to use loose undifinitive language as a scare tactic. Its fear mongering, clear as the sky.

There is a level of naivety in this video and within the comment section that needs to be addressed. Sexual assaults in bathrooms, especially public ones, do happen. And yes trans individuals have been caught and convicted of such things. From personal experience my sister was sexually assaulted in a bathroom at a nightclub after her drink was spiked, the same thing happened to one of my friends a few years ago too. Neither of them feel safe in bathrooms with someone who has male anatomy, and have said having gender neutral toilets would make this 100x worse for them. Statistically males account for approximately 98% of sexual assaults, and the types of people who account for this are predatory in nature. Behaviourally, it has also been shown that these types of men look for the easiest access to victims, and from what I can see the idea of having gender neutral toilets gives them the perfect opportunity. Are all men predatory? Of course not but you cannot just ignore the fact that 98% of predators ARE men or male bodied. Historically predatory individuals have infiltrated any and all environments where they could access victims ie Catholic Church and other religions, schools, football clubs both at school and college level, gymnastics, swimming, pretty much every sport from grassroots to clubs, hospitals, charities etc etc. The list is endless. It has also been shown that a very high percentage of prison inmates and sex offenders, born male, have started identifying as female. Do I believe they are actually trans? Some, but very likely a very small number. But the change in the identification of this predatory element to co-opt trans identity is just another indicator of just how far these people are willing to go in order to get access to more women and children. That is why I am totally against gender neutral bathrooms and male bodied individuals in women's single sex spaces. The world is not as you wish it to be, and especially not the men who would exploit it.

It really all boils down to the question "Do you believe that women have the right to same sex only spaces? And if not, why not?"

3:28 This may come as a shock, but hear me out, men can enter women's bathrooms anyways. All you're doing is blocking people belonging in that bathroom from entering because they present in a more masculine way, there's no way to tell their gender other than asking them directly. There's literally nothing stopping someone from entering whatever bathroom they please, but trans people are blocked from using the restroom anyways. I know, it's mind blowing.

i stopped at 7 minutes when i realized he had no actual points, just discrediting and showing statistics. say what you want to say man.

im nonbinary but i usually look masculine. im lucky to be homeschooled and have supportive parents, but heres a really creepy experience i had once: i had to use the restroom at and airport and the gender neutral one was locked, so i used the womens bathroom since thats where im used to going. some lady was in there cleaning and she kept giving me weird looks (which isnt uncommon), so i just ignored it. but in the stalls, instead of a normal toilet paper holder, there was a hole in the stall with the toilet paper holders in it. and as i was going to the bathroom, the lady who was cleaning 'just so happened' to go in and change the toilet paper in the stall next to mine. i left.

I never understood the argument of s*ex offenders following people into bathrooms because they can already do that

I try not to use the bathroom because I'm non binary and school bathrooms only have two genders 😅😅

4:08 That's a very good pint. It just emphasizes this idea that FEMALES must be protected at ALL COSTS but if your a Male? Oh well. Now, while I am am aware that people do occasionally do things in bathroom besides USE the bathroom BUT unless you are SPECIFICALLY looking for it, how would you know?

I'm an afab genderfluid person and I am currently a HS senior. I default to using the girls restroom even on my masc days. I really wish schools had a third bathroom for us enby folk. Even if I live in a more progressive state the amount of times I still get deadnamed in school and at home just makes it feel so much worse at times.

I am a Non-binary who doesn't feel comfortable in the bathroom as assigned at birth. I'm in highschool, and using the public washroom is a huge pain. Allong with my teachers not feeling comfortable with me in there classrooms after telling them my preferred name (I haven't been able to change it in the system yet), they rarely allow me to use the restrooms, for a reason that is unclear to me and my family. I have very little friends, thanks to the teachers. I'm also one struggling from anxiety, and this issue is not helping one bit.

I personally don't think I pass enough to use the boys bathroom at school but I really wish I did, I hate using the girls bathroom

This vid made me argue, what about non binary, demi, genderfluid, genderflux, polygender, pangender, and bigender? Maybe we should make a bathroom for us...

1:00 i am unfortunately one of those people, it does not help with my frequent headaches, and also the fear of using public restrooms due to being non-binary does not help my anxiety at all, i really wish i didn't have deal with all this fear and anxiety just for being who i am (also i still look male despite starting taking estrogen a few months ago so the hate group videos really hurt)

I wish that gender neutral bathrooms had to be required in a building. That way there could be a place for non-binary people, trans people who don't quite pass yet, or anybody who is unsure of their gender or doesn't feel comfortable in the mens or womens bathrooms.

As a trans woman who has been told i am passable, young, almost mid back blonde wavy hair, slim build, b cup breasts etc. i feel absolutely petrified about using the bathroom. I have done it when it is quiet and no one around but am nervous of when i am with someone else. My sexual function and libido dont work anymore so that isnt an argument

my parents didnt want to let me cut my hair short... because ill look like a boy, and im acting like a boy too mutch already.... Im gonna get the haircut tomorrow annyway.... wish me luck.🥲🙃 What they dont know about me: im a closed trans (He/they) pansexual... Hiiiiii ✌🏳‍🌈🏳‍⚧

As a transmasc public bathrooms scare me so I avoid them🕺

If anything this just shows how poorly designed public restrooms are. Instead of two rooms with stalled off sections to do your business, just create one large grid of private bathroom chambers.

I remember at a Walmart I had to use the bathroom but I was with my dad so I had to use the girls restroom even though I passed as a boy kinda(masc nonbianry) and this women just kinda stared at me and I think I was making her uncomfortable.