Dating nowadays is BAD for women too, yes hookup is easy but finding true love through dating app is near impossible for women, and for trans-women its even worse.
I have an idea...you should start a trans dating website. You are a great business woman and a website business would give you the freedom to travel. Go for it!! x
The dating apps want people to keep using the dating apps by never finding meaningful relationships. And all of those choices mean that any person who starts to date you is still roaming through the app looking for someone better than you driving perpetual datescrolling.
the problem is that ..trans men ..want to be labeled as real men ..and trans women want to be labeled as real women ..so having a "trans " catagory will spark a huge out rage as well so its a damed if you do damed if you dont situation
Im a transwoman and that's it. Im not a biological woman and i prefer people who i talk with to know it. What she say is true and i think like her. Why do i need to explain to every guy my situation and being rejected because its not written in my bio. So that way if you search for a transwoman we gonna appear in a the trans category and not in the cis women. And if you dont like you can just skip. It's a waste of time for us to always have to explain.
Hi Lee. I know exactly what you are talking about. Rejection is my worst experience. You get just so far as friends but a relationship is just too much to ask of some people.
on the bumble website it says that “once you select ‘Man’ ‘Woman’ or ‘Nonbinary’. Once a gender is selected, you’ll see a prompt saying “Add more about your gender.” If you select Woman, then you’ll be able to choose from: Intersex woman Trans woman Transfeminine Woman & Nonbinary Cis woman Tell us if we’re missing something” And the same for selecting man or nonbinary. Could be that you didn’t notice the option?
@@leefrancis007 but isn’t the whole point of all the campaigning that ‘trans women are women’ to be included in the term woman? If there’s a trans women search, people will complain about ‘othering’, no search, people complain. It never ends 🤷♂️
I guess one problem with young man is the issue of not being able to have children with a trans woman. Remember that most people want to have a family.
Hey Lee I could not agree more with you!! It’s so difficult for us dolls on these apps and dating in general. PS: your my favourite trans RU-vidr forever and always ❤❤ sending love from your biggest fan from Canada 🏳️⚧️🇨🇦🥰
My grandmother is Canadian last name Taylor, the Taylor river in Quebec is my family so as an American born man with Canadian roots am I allowed in Canada I heard it can be difficult to travel in Canada 🇨🇦 at 14 I went to British Colombia that’s not the same though
@@Eddyvnhln5150 yes of course your allowed here. BC is different in a few ways yes, but it’s overall very similar to the rest of the country. Quebec is different tho obviously cus they speak French. But you could stay here for like a month or two without a visa probably but if you want to live or move here you could always get a dual citizenship.
I did the one and only way which works. I moved to an LGBTQ city, dove into meetings other LGBTQ people, met someone, got engaged. I literally moved to another city. That's what it took. Online only works through FB friends of friends, comment threads and likes.
Yeah, it's not going very well for me either as a trans dude, Lee. I've pretty much given up. Perhaps things will soon turn around, but I'm not banking on it!
As a trans person myself, my best advice is to stay off dating apps altogether and ignore them. Dating while trans and dating on apps are each very hard just on their own, but combine them and its basically expert difficulty mode. Even for straight cis people, dating apps suck - I never used them pre-transition, because of how poorly they are designed. Dating apps are not designed to facilitate realistic close human interaction, but rather are just swiping and scrolling on the profiles of random people you have never met face-to-face in your life and know absolutely nothing about except for what little info they disclose on their profile. Honestly, the best way to meet other people, cis or trans, either as friends or romantically is to log off the internet, develop a hobby or interest to distract yourself & keep yourself occupied, and attend support groups, meetups, clubs, or networking events to meet othr people with the same interests as you.
Rejection sucks!! Jobs, dating, school applications, auditions: rejections suuuucks, and I'm sorry you need to go through this. It is othering, yes, but I agree that there should be options on dating apps for people who specifically want to date trans people (or don't care if they're dating a trans person or not). Using Hinge, I was able to easily sort people out by alcohol consumption, drug use, political beliefs, and religion. It's kinda bizarre to me that dating apps don't allow users to sort people by tans-ness. It would save so much time. Best of luck finding someone to love you for your mind and body.
Yes that sounds deeply unfair, My gender is binary She/Her and I would get super upset being treated like I am entrapping people when I would not do that. It can be hurtful the otherway to for trans mascs.
I've had relationships form from grindr . Also from Craigslist when it had dating . Ñow though Grindr is more of a hookup site . I prefer to get dolled up and go out now it's way better to be able to be right there with a potential date .
I gave up on love all together. I don't have the time or energy for bs, and i know exactly what you mean where we can get sex easy but when it comes to actual dates and relationships, forget about it. Even as a trans lesbian, this is my experience where yes, i can sleep with different women but non will actually date me.
I’m sorry that you have to go through this Lee and I can concur that this is a problem on dating apps. I know several trans people and they all have the same experience. That being said, I wouldn’t mind dating a transgender woman, I gravitate more towards personality anyways. I’ve dated transgender women before and had nothing but nice genuine and good experiences with them. Although it never worked out due to lack of personality connection. But there are men out there who don’t see being trans as an issue. Obviously you’re deserving of love, just as much as anyone else. I do wish you all the best and hope you have a splendid week! Take care now.
I so hope you find happiness. I grew up on Long Island in New York. Christine Jorgensen had a house there. She was the 1st American fully transed in the 1950s she was a WW2 veteran. There was a movie made about her " the Christine Jorgensen story." I was fascinated about her. There is nothing wrong with you. You're not a freak or disgusting. They have a hang-up, not you. You are a sensitive, beautiful woman. Love and hugs 🫂.
Understandably you’re depressed about the situation. You’re young also. I can tell you now concentrate on living a happy single life and things will just happen. You cannot put your faith and future happiness in the hands of others.
Is not just online dating … in real life when a guy had approached to me on a pub if I disclosed to them that I’m a woman who had transition they freaked out and if they are polite they say bye others just walk away. The reality is we are in kinda limbo, special for transgender woman with vagina. Unfortunately this is the life that we have to live . I’m trying to focus on myself 😢 and kinda forget about being in a genuine relationship. Good luck for all of us in the this situation.
I feel what you say... Know it. Real. Hope ya work things out for the best. Meet real people who share interests besides sex, either physically or gender-oriented... Sure, these are hard to find, but you don't have to search cyberspace. Maybe just go places... hang out - wait for that right approach. Be super selective! Go get'em... Your own way. With you in control. I'm watching, & hoping for you, Lee.🍀🍀💕😌☮️
I'm very surprised. Dating is a well-known issue and probably one of the major issues for transgender people whatever their age. It's hard likely impossible to date cis people (gay, lesbian, or straight). This is why many trans women finish being with other trans people whether trans men or trans women. Regarding the category "trans woman", there are in addition two subcategories: "no op" or "op". Regarding dating applications, many of them don't have gender/sex subcategories and not only Bumble.
Would creating a meetup for trans women and interested men, then having mixers or events such as speed dating, or perhaps even non-dating events, work? Especially if you made them non-pressured and fun? It might take a while to take off, and you would have to spread it by word-of-mouth, but it would lead to in-person get-togethers, especially if your community is large enough. Just a thought.
Yes, it is a life in loneliness. Why would I otherwise write long replys to videos from somewhere born in Rhodesia if I had people all around me. I tried Bumble, it could not verify me. My photo of me did not look like photo of me.
As a trans man I've had my experience with being with men. On grindr especially most guys arent looking for dating or love. Mostly hookups, a secret 1 time thing then never talk to u again. Alot of them are already married, have girlfriends or kids & sometimes will lie to your face about it. I hope you eventually find your man
Dear Lee, I think you are absolutely right. Many "popular" T-girls on this platform speak about everything being perfect in order to gain more views, but you, unlike others, are not afraid to discuss the dark side of being a T-girl and the resulting life challenges. That is the reason I subscribed to your channel. I would like to thank you for being the real "You" and wish you all the best and success with your channel.
IMO (take it with a grain of salt) The 3rd category should be "everyone else" I would look in just to see what it was about. As for Hetro-men. Be careful! Most would F anything and treat you like shit. You deserve someone who will respect you and understand your journey. All the best! xxoo
Guuuuuurlllll same!! Omg like these men can't take 5 seconds to read my profile and think I'm pretty and when they find out it's my fault!? Bumble sucks I got it 2 weeks ago and probably done with it already.
Online dating reduces it's users to commodities. By using online dating services YOU become a commodity. The smartest transwomen I know refuse to be treated as commodities. They instead create a branded service featuring themselves just like you have done with this channel. Go one step further - take full ownership and control of both the creation and the distribution of your content. Put up your own branded website and meet men via your website and your website exclusively.
The problem is driving traffic to her website. And also - look at the comments here from men fetishizing her. That’s NOT what she wants, she wants a real relationship.
I'm sorry that it is so hard for you 💔 i'm only started considering dating as a transgender.. lucky me i have fallen for a mand in my social circle.. I have no clue yet if he are interested, know that i'm trans and all that 😅 but he is super sweet.. i'm interested to find out how open Danish men are to transwomen 🤔
Stupid question: Why don't YOU start a dating, not a hooking, site for transgender women. I think you are very convincing and articulate and are perfectly capable of starting this enterprize yourself. You don't need millions of followers or subscribers to find someone who could love you.
I really don't know the intricacies of trans women. . This is a genuine question..not meant to incite hate. In your experience is it easier for a guy to accept you are trans woman if you do not have the anatomical parts of a man? I know nothing about this situation so I am looking to be educated. I love your channel.
Omg. Let me tell you girl... guys just run away when I tell them im trans. Some just think its a fun one and done thing. Im so done with dating. Ill just satisfy myself. Screw all the haters and chasers. ⭐
Hey Lee, What about not telling the guys ? .. it’s on your profile, if they didn’t read it it’s not your fault.. this way you can go on dates and get to know them first, and after few dates (in a public place ..)you can discuss it . This way they get to know you first for few dates ..
Don't bother with dating Apps...the people attracted to it are just gonna be there putting out a false facade of themselves....they only want one thing. Better to find activities or interest you like, and hopefully find someone you like and who gets to know you first for your interest and then get attracted to you that way. My opinion. I've never dated. Every relationship I've been involved in have developed organically. Be transparent, be yourself. Do the things you like. The right person will find you. Take faith.
The really crappy thing, is that while yes, cis women will have more dating options, it's still not great for them either. And don't even get me started about cis men lol that can also be an isolating and lonely experience too
I’m a gay man, and whilst I don’t find trans women attractive, I don’t find transmen attractive either. For me a partner has to be a biological male and also not confused about his identity. I don’t think any real straight man would date a trans women, sorry. I asked my dad and brother and they were both horrified. Lmao you can’t police other people’s sexuality. Most people see biological sex as important and denying it will hinder not help you.
Hello Lee. I live in the UK. It's lovely to have come across your channel. Over here trans activists for the most part go out of their way not to mention to the general public that they are trans. These people say once you have undergone SRS you are a woman and should drop the word trans from your vocabulary. I refer to myself as a trans-female. I still have a male skeleton however, I have breasts from taking hormones and, have undergone SRS. I will NEVER be a woman, I know this. I am proud of being trans after everything I have been through. However many trans people say you are only trans while "In transition" pre-op. Post-op you are a woman and should tick the woman box on forms ect. I have the MX before my first name, not Miss. If I end up in the hospital unconscious the team will know that I am trans, was not born with a womb, have no chance of being pregnant also I have a male skeleton this info could save my life. Yes, dating is a nightmare.
Hello beautiful and sexy lady! I'm a man who is very attractive to trans women who are very positive in who they want to be in life. I think that trans people need to understand that they are not the same as women and men but they have their own gender. If others would understand that and stop trying to compare them selfs to other genders people would be acceptable for trans to have their own gender. But trans are pushing them selfs as the same as a women and man. Love your self and you will find someone who will love you for who you are! You are very beautiful and sexy and proper loving person. Steve
Its very easy for me to meet guys , i just get dolled up and go out . I do use grindr but its difficult. Occasionally a grindr guy will meet with me , 9 out of 10 times it turns out to be a nice date.
I'm a straight guy and I can say you look pretty damn good to me I'm not judgemental I'm open-minded I try to be respectful I have a dirty mind LOL but I always try to start with my respect
@@ALT-vz3jn yeah guess what your allowed opinion nothing creepy was said I just being straight forward nobody should hide there thoughts or opinions no matter how different
Sorry that you are going thur the emotional trauma and I'm on the same trans dating boat. However, life as a trans in the world is always a thorny path. Keep in mind, getting a driver license in California there are only three genders description: M/F/ Non-Binary. We just have to accept the crumbs society dealt us and become more resourceful in finding love.
I’m sorry for your difficulty, the challenge for you is to find someone who likes you for you first. The sex comes later. Our society hasn’t taught that for generations now. You’ll have to do some more work on your self-identity, strengthen and become totally comfortable with your image as it is now, without regret.
I honestly thought for me as a straight male it was hard finding love on dating websites but Trans Women on the Bumble app have it a lot worse. Very informative video Lee Francis. 👌
Hey Lee❤ I don't understand why you don't consider yourself as a woman. I've watched you for years. You could say something like. I'm a transgender. I've had all my surgeries. I am fully a woman. U could word it I hope you find a good guy. Also if you lived in the US. Think about it a lot more me
To me love dont Judge if your transgender woman or a regular woman love find it way into Our Lives we could have a Inimate Relation ship or a Strong Commitment Relation ship love can lead to Marriage and a Loving Family that is the kind of Relation ship i want i,m in Ohio
Hello Dear, Maybe you remember my name as someone that has been following you for an extended period of time. I watched you before the majority of procedures. Readily saw you as a girl at that time. Since everything that has physically been done since then . I can view you as a woman that is sterile. Are you given the option to claim that you are a sterile woman? I have watched the other people you mentioned and they all speak while wearing rose color glasses. At times I wish I was 40 years younger and lived on the same continent so we might actually meet. Find out what happens after that. I do feel for you Dear. Huggz and Prayers for you . Hope this doesn't come across as some creep with a fetish. If it does, it was not intended that way.
i wouyld like to talk to you one on one about all this as i am also going through the same thing as you are. i believe we can make a good connection through all this experience..
God bless you Lee. On behalf of all of the inconsiderate, a-hole men out there, please allow me to apologize. You don’t deserve that. You are beautiful and deserve love and happiness. I’m so sorry for the trouble you are having. Rick
girl, i watch some of your vids for entertintment but you bashing those youtubers, that are frankly so much better than you in any aspect and especially with talking and empowering our human rights as trans people, i really find it disgusting.
IV had 2 relationships with 2 biological women in my life the third I found or she found me on Facebook Messenger so there you go love I'm 65 in August we've been together about 15 MTHs I'm not really interested in kids at my age and she's had pregnancy issues but has a early 20s daughter IV met her mother and she likes me and just wants her daughter to be happy IV never had any issues with sex and domestic violence issues against women and never would
As you say it would not help much to make a new dating app.. but we could do it 🤔 they are not that hard to make, the hardest part is the backend in respect to search/selection engine that should be good to pair people
If someone is going to go as deep as asking your favourite colour then it's likely they have read your profile, so perhaps your backtracking to asking if they had read your profile feels contrary to the flow. But I think that transwomen who are single should just embrace being single - we don't need anyone, only Goddess जीख्रूङ्गेय् ईएय्खेयेय्शेय् [Most High Most Exalted]; and partner level is actually LOWER than self-love level. In partner relationships it's usually the man trying to enforce masculinity - when we should ALL be embracing femininity, regardless of gender at birth.
