I have seen these people that live in one bedroom apartment and work like hell. These people suffer from HWJ syndrome (Hum Wapas Jaingay syndrome). Let me tell you what happens They work like a dog, their kids hate them. The “friend” or cousin’s steal the “plot” or “bungla “. They come back after 2 years from Pakistan and start all over again at 60. It’s soooo common.
For the last question, do not be a stay-at-home wife. Why? Because once you are 40 and he gets interested in someone else, what skill set would you have then to survive in a competitive market? Ladies, always be financially independent no matter who you marry.
Yes I agree with you Junaid. I have been living in North America for last 30 years and worked liked a dog for last 25 years. Now I am slowing down. I no longer have same desire and energy that I had years before.
Junaid bhai there is another reason that some of the people abroad have to live restricted lives. Its the fact that we have 4 5 dependents back home. Plus honestly its very heartbreaking to see sometimes when those people take it as granted and never try to improve.
Very surprised at the response to first question. I moved to US as a teenager. We came from an upper middle class family in Pakistan. Despite that first 4-5 years were very tough for us financially. A lot of people I am sure are going through same struggles when they move abroad from Pakistan
Is the LGBTQ community annoying there?? I am deciding to travel abroad but I have heard that LGBTQ community is very annoying in the US!! Please guide me!!
@@wisaalkhan3512 tbh most people here just mind their own business and are not overly concerned with these matters. Media overhypes these issues. If your intention is just to travel and have a good time you should not have any problems. I think Americans are generally very friendly and respectful people.
With regards to question 1, it may not be unnecessary frugality. They may have responsibilities back home like sister’s marriage, brother’s education etc.
First question, they might be living in worse conditions in Pakistan than in Sweden. Also I agree to ganjiswag that naseeb and qismat are two different things because people will earn but will not spending it. For me it doesn’t matter as it’s someone’s personal choice rather than background.
Also, the point that he mentioned that Pakistan is not a welfare state is spot on. You can loose your life savings if god forbid some medical emergency occur.
Objection: I live in the USA. During my early days, I used to live with a roommate who was a food delivery driver. After a month, I found a good and disciplined job. While my weekly paycheck (after taxes) was $700+, my roommate used to make over $2,000 a week (before taxes). The difference between our earnings was significant. It is often assumed that immigrants from Pakistan, India, Bangladesh and Afghanistan are not qualified to get a job that pays over $100,000. However, by doing Uber or food delivery, they can easily make that amount. This the reason people choose Uber etc over a job, even qualified duds. Also, they have better vocations, spend quality time with friends and family. Note: only one percent Americans or people living in USA can make $100000+ annually.
I agree someone I know drives for work and drop kids to school who don't go to school by bus so he gets 350$ a day plus drive cab to so you can do math and some don't buy houses due to soud so they live cheap save up then buy house on cash even if it's a small 3 bedroom house with extra room in basement. Kuch loogon ka Dena delana bhee bohot hota hay like mom calls son and says beta shaista khala ke betay ke job chale gaye hay Kuch paisay de doo etc even In our local Masjid in Maryland said charity wahan dein Kahan rehte hain phir mainay Kaha ke Ami kehte hain moghay do mein Pakistan mein dey doon ge khala bhee mere Jo set hain kehte hain Kuch gareebon ke liye Nikal do bohot ghareeb hain yahan I agree with him about 1 bedroom that is wrong but sometimes your credit is low so you can't get better apartment so people have no choice for first few years. Sometimes they live in 2 or 3 bedroom apt because they don't have to do gardening like cut grass clean the lawn etc Someone I know has a 1 million 10 lakh$ house and the house itself needs 2500$ not including bills to run Like taxes 1800$ a month lawn work 700$ a month so even if you have a small house you still need to pay 80$ a month for grass cutting 250$ in taxes. So the best thing is buy a decent size house if you have a family off five and enjoy. Some work as Uber driver so they can show less income and get health insurance etc
It's important to move to a foreign country for your mental and physical health because let's face it those things are ignored and abused in Pakistan hilariously. Also factor in that the health sector is a scam and the news that is circulating around is at the food is doctored and tampered with so that people pay exorbitant amount of money for health care which is again going to cost you your life probably.
If you move to a foreign country make sure to assimilate in to that local culture and accept its norms completely. Take off your hijab, trim that beard and leave that regressive attitude in your country because if these norms were of any value then they wouldn't have created an environment for you to escape from.
Although I agree with your second point but for your first point on mental health do you even which countries have the highest rate of taking anti depressants?
In second case my analysis 1. Real reason is something else not sheets etc 2. She is taking it forgranted. 3.peak period of a women is usually a week after periods so hubby should try in that time and make her realise and gradually increase the frequency 4. Don’t offer her for 3-4 months and see if she will ask for it or not this way you will get to k ow the real reason wether it’s only sheets etc or there is some other reason.. if she didn’t ask for it at all it’s red flag that reason is something else (I am not talking about infadility here) , you can take her to a psychiatrist
You can write her a letter about your feelings and importance of sexual relationship for you and her, that you want to sort this issue… so that she get to know that severity of this issue before it goes out of hand from both sides… believe me this will work at least to make her realise…
What if the the husnand is not good in sex? It could be a possibility because of lack of sex education in pakistan. Men really don't have much awarness in pleasuring women. That is why marriages are in trouble in Pakistan. Sexual compatibility is also important for the successful marriage.
2nd question: It could be also that most likely the wife doesn’t want to say the real reason. Perhaps it could be due to lack of performance or satisfaction or something that turns her off.
Junaid bhai You are doing great Job. Moving abroad is very easy on Study visa. I am In Japan 🇯🇵 on Student visa. Here is a great need of Workforce and the easiest way to come to Japan is getting admission in Language school. I have made several videos of getting Japan visa too. Great Job 👏🏻
Why moving abroad? here's why 1. Better job opportunities: Many people move abroad to find better job opportunities and higher salaries. 2. Quality of life: Some people may move abroad to enjoy a better quality of life, including better healthcare, education, and living standards. 3. Political instability: Pakistan has faced political instability and security concerns in recent years, which may prompt some people to move abroad for safety reasons. 4. Education: Many students move abroad to pursue higher education and gain exposure to different cultures and ideas. 5. Family reasons: Some people may move abroad to join family members who have already settled there. 6. Adventure and exploration: Some people may move abroad for the adventure and experience of living in a new country and exploring new cultures.
If you move to a foreign country make sure to assimilate in to that local culture and accept its norms completely. Take off your hijab, trim that beard and leave that regressive attitude in your country because if these norms were of any value then they wouldn't have created an environment for you to escape from.
i think we pakistani have one.problem. we cannot live without interfering others life. no matter how one.person is living we have no right to.discuss.anyone personal.selections of living..but being pakistani its our national hobby
Sir i having a question you made a video on israel 4 years back in which you said to go for your own buisness we nowadays see most of pakistanis leaving there and working as freelancer under israeeli companies and not not trying to make one of there own can you make a podcast on this question
U never asked if the man who was frustrated for sex from his wife is like firing the same emotions in her wife or not... How is he looking recently, is he in shape or not? Even in marriage u also have to impress ur spouse everyday, be it physical, emotional or ambition, passion, can be anything... Here it's very easy to say that it's the issue of wife... But please check urself as well.
To second question guy if wife is that safai pasand bhai, koi rough bed sheet bicha lo bed par, koi towel use karlo. Itni rocket science tau nahi. Plus may be she is bored or something, try buying stuff from adult stores to bring back the spark.
1 st wale baat Aur banda bilkul Sahee hai even Dubai mai bhi Pakistani earning well and not even buy affordable clothes and smell really bad if even u say to these desi they really mind
For the hospital part... If it gives some respite.. The sehat sahulat card scheme of Imran Khan is doing wonders. And my father's dialysis is being done on it from 2 years without issue... We don't pay a thing except medicines and opd consultancy. One or more terms of Imran Khan, things will get better for the local people where the real problem for the elite is.
NRI here, Living in South C and i can tell you my apartment building and adjacent locations are so beautiful with two parks , a small stadium and a green walking way. You will find a lot of Indian families, Chinese, Brits and couple of Japs but there is just one Pakistani family in entire neighborhood, just one. Doesn't mean Pakistanis don't earn but its reality they don't care about Living standards and their lifestyle. And for those who justify this they don't even know it make a stereotype and you can easily sense that in grocery shops and other places. If you justify such living conditions and lifestyle then be ready to face the consequences (or should i say stereotypes) as a community.
india is a country of one and a half billion, pakistan 220 mil, according to the statistics, there should be no more than 0.5 pakistani families for every 4 indian families and this goes for other countries as well, again there are a myriad factors on why you don't see many pakistani families in south carolina
Narrated Abu Mas'ud Al-Ansari: The Prophet said, "When a Muslim spends something on his family intending to receive Allah's reward it is regarded as Sadaqa for him." Narrated Abu Huraira: Allah's Apostle said, "Allah said, 'O son of Adam! Spend, and I shall spend on you."
Oversea Pakistani origin will see a opportunity here, i have friends and family who are becoming successful in Pakistan because there love for the country is strong alhamduillah
Once ganji swag said that he didn't had enough money to buy an extra naan when he was in Dubai now he's lecturing people about spending money. Some people don't have generational wealth so respect their actions. If someone is saving money it doesn't mean he is kanjoos or anything else.
Objection to the first person who says he is in Sweden but i think he came to Sweden for just vacations. He has no idea about life, housing situation or situation to get PR in Sweden. What is this question even? Its not just Pakistanis who do food delivery but also indians etc and most of them are students. They pay you so little that you wont be a millionaire with it. Really questioning his sources because he has no idea what he is talking about. You can’t walk in and rent a home in Sweden no there are long waiting queues in the big cities. One can’t just go and buy a house because the bank wants to have 20% downpayment and not everyone has that cash stashed up under their beds. Plus many start working asap so that they can register jn time for a PR and getting a job is sometimes hard to because swedish people want reference which us desis don’t have mostly. I think this guys should come out of his dream world or go back to lala land where he came from instead of talking about things he doesn’t know about.
I agree someone I know drives for work and drop kids to school who don't go to school by bus so he gets 350$ a day plus drive cab to so you can do math and some don't buy houses due to soud so they live cheap save up then buy house on cash even if it's a small 3 bedroom house with extra room in basement. Kuch loogon ka Dena delana bhee bohot hota hay like mom calls son and says beta shaista khala ke betay ke job chale gaye hay Kuch paisay de doo etc even In our local Masjid in Maryland said charity wahan dein Kahan rehte hain phir mainay Kaha ke Ami kehte hain moghay do mein Pakistan mein dey doon ge khala bhee mere Jo set hain kehte hain Kuch gareebon ke liye Nikal do bohot ghareeb hain yahan I agree with him about 1 bedroom that is wrong but sometimes your credit is low so you can't get better apartment so people have no choice for first few years. Sometimes they live in 2 or 3 bedroom apt because they don't have to do gardening like cut grass clean the lawn etc Someone I know has a 1 million 10 lakh$ house and the house itself needs 2500$ not including bills to run Like taxes 1800$ a month lawn work 700$ a month so even if you have a small house you still need to pay 80$ a month for grass cutting 250$ in taxes. So the best thing is buy a decent size house if you have a family off five and enjoy. Some work as Uber driver so they can show less income and get health insurance etc
The third scenario : God! How I wish we could easily swap lives sometimes.. It's heartbreaking to see ppl live the life you desperately want for yourself and the same person being fed up with it! . I never understood God's wisdom regarding this particular issue!!
God is not holding you by the throat and dictating your life, go make what you want with it, instead of blaming your inaction and outcome of your choices on God's wisdom.
@@sh-ehmed you must be quite young to make such a broad statement.. As you grow in years you get to see how nothing really is in your control. You can only react to life and not steer it your way. It never is God that dictates how must one live their life but his subjects that end up being the trials in life and subsequent dictators. No man can exist as an island, we all need people around to live. You can't just break away from it all and hang your responsibilities at the door while you make your getaway for the life you always wanted. It's not how it works.
@@MK-pu4rd why even bother questioning God's wisdom then if you truly believe what you said? Why desire to swap your life with someone else? Did God's subjects put a knife to your throat and forced you to not have the life you so desire? Is it not yourself that's stopping you from achieving whatever you want? Either don't complain or go make the life you want to live. What's stopping you?
@@sh-ehmed that's exactly what God's subjects do. The knife is not always physical, most of the time it's proverbial. They can make it difficult for you to make your much wanted exit. You sound like you've never encountered such people, please accept my congratulations for being the few lucky ones. Also, why are you so angry and dismissive? What happened to you to make you so unsympathetic towards others?
@@MK-pu4rd if you are letting God's subjects hold power over you, then you are getting what you asked for. There's nothing anyone can do for you, you are the problem at that point. God says his Earth is vast but you deny that and excuse yourself by blaming God's subjects when you are free to break the cycle and tear down this so-called _proverbial_ knife. I am just tired of people blaming their condition on external factors and God's wisdom when they don't make any effort to get to a better place.
Same scenario i had face today like white corrola factor or something special hidden logos when i on my bike front of ayesha masjid dha towards korangi creek road that time signal was red but a prado driver hit me to take turn to oppsosite road and he was chilling right there I was about to stop that person but suddenly i thought about my wife and coming baby
the last question though i respect her needs but damn lady no that's not what everyone wants specially in such an environment today its something YOU need i get it, and its perfectly fine to take it slow but for the love of god don't ever give your self independence the day you realize how you are dependent the world will come crashing down, you can always change jobs switch to a country side live a softer life which is great so yeah just my two cents
2nd question: poor woman is finding changing sheets and quilt such a burdensome chore. How much she is overburdened ? You two have a toddler , are you helping her in doing these chores or taking care of the kid ?? She’s even finding taking shower cumbersome, which means she’s tired as hell. Be a good husband and help her out with household chores and in taking care of the kid
@@braveheart8318 his wife is for streets and these woman are worst than prostitutes . now days prostitutes are cheap than these stupid ass woman kill her
At 23 min -25 min... The guy who is not having any action from his wife Junaid bhai your answer is not okay. In English they say sweat her... He actually have to disengage with her. And take the whole intimacy thing out of the picture. You are asking him to facilitate her this is going to worsen the situation. In other words I will suggest a book no more Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover. In that book he literally talks about this kind of scenarios and solutions to it. I'm talking from experience. And I did whatever this guy is doing and what you are suggesting. It is only going to get worse with this. So if you're reading this comment bro. You need to disengage. You also have to back off from some of your responsibilities which she expect you to do. She's not facing any consequences of her actions. Therefore she will never change she don't feel the need to. When she says consequences of this. Only then she will change her mind and do something as facilitate you instead. Junaid bhai ... I just understood that this is not your domain lol
in bhai ke nazar ma problem sirf larkon ma hote han in ki wife ka inke thought process per bohot influence ha she was leftover and he has to pay that price
Had se zyada afsoosnak khabar, kya shia musalman nahi hotay aur akhri bat kya woh insan nahi thay???. Just to clarify I am sunni and condemn this barbaric act against any sect.
Ye Karachi k log Hy sunty sab ki Hy karty apni hy .. apna dekh baqi apna dekh lygy reh rahy Hy enjoy b kar rahy Hy ye awaam yaha ki Hy inko maloom hy kese rehna h khi me
15:20 why we have double standards agr iska jaga bill gates ya Elon musk hota snow fall main apni car saf karha hota to phir hamara reaction us par kya hona tha. Lots of respect for you but sometimes your point of view aren't justified.
Bhai kahna Kia chah rhe ho....juanid bhai is saying that some people do their chores just to save money cz they think that spending it on someone doing their job is useless....also bill gates and oss South Asian guy ki wealth Ka koi muqabla ho skta ha
Basic pre-colonial infrastructure whether it's schools, temples , hospitals were laid by them not only in Presidency capitals but even in Tier 2 and 3 cities.
Possibly controversial: Pakistan needs a "brain drain" rn. What are you going to do with the highly qualified engineer who gets to use nearly none of his expertise? Send him overseas so he can at least get rich and become an investor.
I would like to answer the person in the first email in detail, As I’m someone who’s living in Sweden for the very long time now. First you legally cannot live more than 3 persons in a 1 room apartment and they are very strict in that. You cannot register a certain amount of residents in a particular size of apartment. And even if you give your house to someone on rent illegally it’s also very risky here. For the second point you seems to stereotyped all desi which isn’t the case. I used to work as a restaurant manager and I know these delivery persons whom you are referring to are mostly from very interior background. They are mostly here from Greece and Italy via unofficial means and there motive here is just to get work permit. They can’t even speak or understand English let alone to learn Swedish and to do something else. You have to under stand where they are coming from For the third point it’s all depends on your company. People that I’ve been around all are associated with either IT companies, Finance or the banking sector. They are all reputable and earning as well as spending good Alhamdulilah Rest Junaid Akram have summarized this really well!
my question is why you need to move abroad ? its mean our country is a fail state and living standard is below line.... you can make $$ sitting at home if you are smart enough ,study IT and hooked with American companies you dnt need to sacrifice ur life for $.. i have friends doing this in pak and living lavish life. remember moving abroad must be ur last hope not priority. vote for KHAN and live ur dream coz that's the only hope u have in pak .. if not then move ur ass for ruff and tuff roller coaster .... I am here in USA like 35yrs and i will advice you to do ur best back home before you lose every thing you love... study hard and do good ....GOODLUCK
