Tshuav Dai Tuag Vim Txoj Kev Heev. 6/3/2024 

The parents still haven’t learn the lesson. Be grateful your child is alive, thriving, and happy. Embrace the love and accept the relationship your child has.

Your daughter is destroyed mentally, emotionally, etc. But y'all should be glad she is still alive because if it was the weaker mind person, you guys won't see her again. Some people will die for love, or depression will lead to suicide! She is full of resentment, and the least you guys can do is support her before she cuts y'all off her life forever. You og are so old fashion, smh. Y'all supposed to adapt as life goes. Be very open minded, that's what a great leader is.

I’m not like the older GENERATION! I’m just going to be honest. The truth is y’all OG’s need to stop interfering with your kids relationship. I get it that you’re trying to protect them but you need to let them make mistakes themselves. I’m sure these OG’s who don’t want their kids talking to others who don’t have a big NAME in the community made MISTAKES in their lives. You can’t stop LOVE. LOVE is powerful!

All I have to say is that we need to accept our kids for whatever they want. You live your life and let your kids live their own life.

Wow u did this to your own kid. Honestly just love her now, be a better parent. Just be glad your daughter is alive.

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼I applaud the daughter! Good for you!! I love what you did and are doing! Be happy! Be alive! Be YOU!!!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

Cia lawv xaiv tus lawv nyiam lawv thiaj li xav hlub os mog 😭😭

You need to change yourself to fit reality. You are still thinking like "75". It's your fault for your daughter mistake. Your daughter is right that you have too high of an ego for yourself as your clan's leader, but you can't even lead your own family. Accept reality, or you'll have stoke and heart attack by yourself.

Thaub laus thiab pog laus aw hmong tus thawj coj ces quav dev rau peb tiam tshiab xwb o thawj coj yog thawj noj quav hmong o pog laus aw

Txawm yog neb ua niam ua txiv zoo li neb es neb tus me ntxhais thiaj li mus yuav poj niam lawm ntag.

Do you know the reason why your kids not listening to you . because you not spend time with them you focus on other more than your kids than don’t expect them better than that

As parents, we need to understand that we raise our kids to be independent and decent citizen. Their relationship choices and or their partner choices shouldn't be our decision to make. Hmong OG cannot swallow their pride. Ua tiag thaum menyuam tsis hlub tsi txhob tu siab thiab foom menyuam vim yus tsis txawj ua niam ua txiv.

As parents, we should love our kids unconditionally regardless of what they become or choose to be their partners in life.

Neb ib niam txiv ces niam qhuav ntxim xwb txoj kev saib tsis taus neeg txom nyem os

Thank you for sharing your story. This will help a lot of parents be a little more flexible with their kids.

You rather have her die than to lose face??? Wow!!!! Nes mas hlub nes tus ntxhaid tiag tiag li os yom? Yog li ces kam ntsis qlaas hluav mus dais tuag los mas nes nas. I understand May’s answers to the mom in the beginning. Its a nicer way of saying “just accept it and move on” …. Lol

What a sad story, especially for your daughter. Best of luck to her. Your job as parents is to love your kids unconditionally. I hope you guys come around and truly accept your daughter and her spouse.

Pab tu siab kawg os😢😢😢😢

Humiliation is a gift. Do not pride nor judge yourself or your children. Do not let peers define how you live or who you are. They don’t pay your bills, love you, or love your children.

Keep doing that and you’ll loose your child forever. And then other story from you, the parents, will be coming out. GL

Yus rov nrhiav kev nyuaj siab rau yus ces li no

I’d always choose my children over my pride & reputation and standing up for them against people that look down on them.

All u can do is support ur children's happiness & dreams. The more u restrict them, the more they will hate u. Ur discrimination of her boyfriend's family is wrong. Leprosy was rampant back in the old day, but modern medicine has rid the disease.

Txaus neb siab kawg mi ntxhais ua pauj kev chim siab xwb , Yuav txiv neej neb tsis kheev yuav poj niam kiag tsis muaj neeg txwv tau ! Mi ntxhais ua yog lawd

When you try to control your kids...

Tab Tom haum neb kawg yom pog laus thiab laus aw neb ces tuag mus lau yog nej tsis tso tseg nej kev phem ntawm ko o tab Tom haum ua tsaug Cia nws ua Kom neb tuag mus los mas

I have four boys......I support their happiness NoT Mines......they all graduated with masters....I'm blessed

Neb 2 niam txiv tsab ntse dhau lawm nes kav tsij mus ua tus coj xwb txhob tu siab rau leej twg mas lo

Yog lawm! Hmoob ruam, the world is changing and evolving every which way. Accept the changes and the differences that is everywhere.

Don’t worry to much. Just worry about your health. It’s not only your child. There’s a lot of kids these days like that. Just accept them as they are

txhob tu2 siab yeej tim neb thiab yeej tim neb tus ntxhais thiab txhob khuv xim neb tus ntxhais lawm neb tus ntxhais los yeej yog neeg guy

Nwg has yog lawm. Meb laam ua thawj coj xwb meb tsis paub coj le meb tug ntxhais has lawm.

Tus me viv ncaus aw nyob lub teb chaws no ces kuv pom tias peb cov me nyuam zoo li koj tus kom ces peb muaj yuav luag txhua xeem li lawm tsis txhob nyuaj siab txog lawm take care neb ib niam txiv xwb os.

Neb hai yog tshaj plaw lawm os mog

Good for you guys! Coj quav dev.

Neb Tsi Yog thawj coj os neb Yog cov Ua lawv hai tia ruam tsab ntse pluag tsab muaj ce Yog neb ntag ma tau Ua yam twg ce khoo kom tuag nti zoo li ruam tua tsov ce Yog neb os Lwm tu hai ce Tsi ri siab ce zaum no yu ghia yu ma txo hwj chim ceev kawg yom

Poj niam thiab poj niam sib yuav txiv neej thiab txiv neej sib yuav yeej tsis txhaum tsis ua cas nawb tab si ntawm kuv yus kheej yog kuv cov me nyuam ua li ntawv kuv yeej txai tos tsis tau thiab yus yug es yus hlub tshaj tab si mus ua li ntawv yus yog niam txiv yus yeej txhai tsis tau

Yog neb tsi zoo siab no ces neb 2 niam txiv tuag zoo dua lawm os vim yog Tim neb lawm ne

Be happy that your daughter is still alive!!!

Karma to the parents! ❤️🥰

OMG....funny and nrog neb tu thiab os. Tab sis tus uas tu siab tshaj plaws ces ntshe yog neb tus me ntxhais lawm. A lesson to learn.

Txawm ua li ca lo yeej tseem yog yus me nyuam txai yam lawv xaiv kom lawv hlub yus xwb lo ma

Cov ntxhais hmoob kws kawm ntawv siab cov coob yuav lwm haiv neeg vim (1) Cov txiv neej hmoob kws kawm ntawv siab li nws muaj tsawg ces pojniam li pojniam tsis kam yuav tus ruam los pluag tshaj pojniam (2) College muaj lwm haiv neeg coob heev, hluas loj siab thiab zoo nraug heev (3) Txiv neej hmoob nyiam cov ntxhais mos ab, ntxhais mos ab los nyiam cov thaub laus kws muaj nyiaj... ua niam yau los kam hlo li.

Leej twg los yeej xav kom me nyuam lub neej zoo tab sis peb yuav ua tsis tau li peb nyiam, peb tsuas qhuab qhia thiab pab kom me nyuam lub neej zoo xwb; txoj kev mus ua neej zoo muaj ntau txoj rau yus xaiv, tsis txhob xaiv ua neeg siab phem xwb. Neb tus ntxhais txawm yuav ib tus poj niam thiab los yog tus nws xaiv, nws nyiam thiab twb tsis yog tias nws lub siab phem. Cia nws mus raws li nws nyiam es kav tsij sib2 hlub neb thiaj yuav tsis plam neb tus ntxhais os

Dang, "Tuag Mus!" is such a selfish demand from these parents. I can tell they are very "nkhaus nkhaus" from this story. Their daughter became the "man" she lost and could never have. 😢

Cas nej cov laus no nej tsuas xam pom nej zoo xwb o yuav tsis xav rau tej me nyuam lio neb cov laus kom ma tsis paub hais lawm o❤❤

Tus me viv ncaus, txhob tu siab os mog. Ua ib leej niam ib leej txiv los yeej tsis yooj yim li. Yus tsuas yug tau lub cev xwb yug tsis tau lub siab. Yus menyuam yus yug ces yeej mob yus siab. Xav tiv thaiv npaum li cas los tam sim no, lawv tiav lawv niam lawv txiv ces yus yeej cheem tsis tau lawv lawm ces ua ib siab mog. Yog yus lees tau ces yeej meem lees nkawd yus thiaj li ib nyuag kaj siab os mog.

Thawj tug hlub ces tuag taus nawb tabsi txhob tu siab tsawg tus thiaj hlub txog hnub kg feem coob ces tsuas hlub thaum tshiab xwb os tus dim lo txhob tusiab heev2 thiab os

Txog thaum kawg - ob niag niam txiv tsuas tseem care txog nkawv lub nyuag koob npe. After all, these parents only care about their reputation and image, but they claim they did because they love and care about their children.

Ab tim neb ua niam ua txiv a thaum tham txiv neej neb txwv ne neb ntseeg tug ub tug no hais ce tsam no thiaj tau vauv poj niam ntag neb heev dhau lawm os

You didn’t let her marry the one she loved. Now you have to live with the consequences.

yall mess your self up. yall broke them up but still attend the ex bf's wedding and ceremony. now she no straight. pab tsis tau.

Vim neb mloog neb tus muam los sis niam ntxawm cov lus thaum hauv paus.

That’s no one’s fault but yours. It’s the new age nowadays, you have to accept the new days. Although I don’t have any children yet but I used to be a person who date only females. So I can relate to your daughter. And my parents was the same way, and now I am with my man but he’s not Hmong. Sadly, they don’t accept him but it’s for my own happiness. So it is what it is. My parents are regretting just like this story.

She was born to love her kind just a matter of time even when she was young and dated a man. There is nothing you can do. I strongly believe that even you let her marry her boyfriend at 16, she would divorce him and look for her kind later in life.

koj tus ntxhais hais yog lawm. nws ua txhua yam uas koj xav tau. tam sim no, nws xaiv leej twg nws hlub. cia nws zoo siab. koj xav kom koj zoo siab? los yog, koj tus ntxhais yuav zoo siab? Is she living for you or living for herself? Be proud of her. Love her.

Us as mothers should stand up for our daughters when our husbands are strict and still think like it’s 1975. I always tell my husband “when push comes to shove” I (the Mom) will give in because I love my daughters.

Nyob zoo os kuv xav xa kuv lub neej tu siab rau kj hais neej neeg os niam ntsuab teev aw

Neb txhawb thiab zoo siab kom lwm tus los yuav neb tus txhais tus hluas nraug neb phem kawg li

Sister, embrace your daughter. Love her as she is. Do not turn your back on her. She needs you to love her and support her

😊😊🤗👍

You only care about your fame, you don’t care about anything else.

I applaud your daughter for being strong. As for you guys, u got what u deserve. Maybe people can judge u guys the way u judge others. Karmas a B!!

Txhob tus siab o vim yg yus xav2 kom tej me nyuam tau neej zoo e thiaj pheej hais tas npauv o

Kuv xav tau ib tug txiv neej ib yam thiab pua muaj tu lo pom kuv e kam tham nrog kuv os hmoob😢😢

Txais tos xwb os Ntawm peb no twb muaj ob tus ntxhais sib yuav thiab niam thiab txiv txais tos zoo xwb lawv kuj muab tus ntxhais hloov npe txiv neej rau xwb

Txhob tus siab tsis yog tim neb o tim lub ntuj tiam no yeej yuav zoo li no mus o nawb

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Nev nev nev....twb tias kom txhob xaiv xaiv thiaj tsis tau paiv...Nyaj hnub no mus neb yuav txawj coj dua qub lawm..😊

Neb yeej yuam kev lawm tiag. Yeej yog li lawv cov txawj ntse cem2 neb lawm nawb. Txhob coj lub siab qub2 puag thaum ub lawm ma. Neb t as u txais tos lawm xwb nawb. Thov Vajtswv pab, muaj ib hnub nws yuav tig rov los.koj yuav tsum cia siab rau qhov no koj lub kua muag thiaj tu os.

Kuv to taub hais tias niam thiab txiv yeej muaj txojcai ua tus lajkab, ua daim paib stop los tiv thaiv peb tej menyuam, but do it wisely. Ua tus thawj coj yuav tsum ua tus thawj coj paub tab, siab loj, txhob siab ti, siab ntev txhob coj nruj2, txhob ntxub ntxaug (discrimination). Ib qho mas neb twb ntshai2 luag tsev neeg muaj mob, tsis tsim nyog neb yuav mus koom lawv rooj tshoob...lawm. nyob tebchaws no yuav tau siab loj rau yus tus kheej, siab loj rau lwm tus yus thiaj tsis tuag vim muaj kev nyuaj siab ntau yam thiab txoj cai nyias ntsais li nplooj nqeeb tiag. Hnub no koj yog tus thawj coj tagkis koj tsis yog lawm, hnub no koj muaj ib ntsais muag yuav txom nyem, hnub no neb sib hlub tagkis yuav sib ntxub. Koj tsis txhaum plaub los tej neeg koj hlub yuav txhaum koj yuav poob ntsej muag nrog. Siab loj thiaj tsis tuag xwb.

It's ok she happy

Another lesson learned…Hmong parents.

Zaj no hais yog tshaj lawm

Kav tsij txais tos qhov tseeb tswm sim nawb, xaj maim tshiab lawm xyoog raws lub ntiaj teb.

Me nyuam g hlub niam thb txiv

Hmong tus coj ces coj dev dev twb tsis yuav ob nyiag niam txiv laus kav tsij mus tuag o neb na tuag kom neb menyuaj thiaj tsis nyuaj siab nawb.

Tej zaum koj yeej xav Kom koj tus ntxhais rov yuav poj niam ne es koj thiaj li txwv tsis pub yuav txiv neej.

Cas... ruam tas los ruam tsis paub kawg li os. Txoj kev ywjpheej no tsis yog tim leejtwg os. Yog tus neeg txoj kev xaiv xwb. Nws txawm yuav kiag txiv los... Nyob2 dhuav thiab ras los, yuav tig nyiam poj niam txiv neej tsis nyiam leejtwg hlo nyiam txhua nhro los yeej yuav tig. Koj kiag nws kiag yeej pab tsis tau os. Ntiaj teb hloov yuav tau xyaum hloov lub paj hlwb.

CAs neb ob niam txiv kos lam nyob teb chaws meka xwb tseem tsis vam meej li na hahaha 😂

Neb phem dlau lawm txhob ua thawj coj lawm

Wow! Your daughter taught you n your husband a good life lesson! She has a good point, you refused her boyfriend then n now you refuse her partner. Wth

Peb ua neej nyob ces yeej paub li paub li es thiaj li paub lig lawm xwb os 😢

Tseem muaj ntsej muag mus koom lawv thiab twb txwv2 lawv ne.

Niam ntsuab teev aw, tsis yog txhua txhua leej ua niam ua txiv es xav xav kom tej menyuam tau lub neej zoo os. Kuv niam kiag tseem yog tus xav pom yus lub neej txomnyem nws thiaj zoo siab hos vim nws foom qhov phem rau yus xwb xwb li.

Neb yog ib niam txiv uas saib neb muaj nqi nkaus xwb,thiab tseem yog hlwb 1975 rov Tom qab tsis pom kev vam meej

ความรู้สึกและความรักของลูก พ่อแม่ก็มีสิทธิ์ที่เป็นห่วงแต่ชีวิตเป็นของโลกให้เขาเลือกเองเค้าจะไม่เสียใจเท่าพ่อแม่อยู่ห่างห่างมองดูเขาห่างห่างดีกว่า

Kids nowadays you think koj yuav ua kom koj yeej lawm no, you die you.😅😅😅😅😅 They don’t care, you die, you be lucky if they faus you.

Zoo zoo

I feel your pain raug leej twg leej twg thiaj li paub tias tu siab npaum li cas yog ntxov paub tias yug tau los yuav zoo li ntawv ces txhob yug nws los zoo dua

Neb ces yeej yog cov laus uas xav tsis tau lawm xwb os niam no ces me nyuam yeej zoo li no tas lawm os

Neb mas lub paj hlwb ruam dhau lawm. Tseem mloog tej niag lus ruam thaum ub thaum i. Yog Tim neb xwb.

To the mother in this story: I cried with you during the story. As a mother, we all want the best for our children. We love them so much that we feel like making choices for their lives is love. We forget that they are individuals and want to make their own choices, just like us. We love them, we shelter them, we protect them to the point of choosing what’s best for us, thinking it’s best for them. We forget that it’s their happiness that we want, not our happiness. Sometimes we have to let them fall and learn from their mistakes. It is always wise to give them guidance and share our thoughts and experiences with them, but letting them choose their own path is the best way to show them that they are individuals. I feel for you… but don’t hurt yourself any longer. Don’t drown yourself. The best way to heal is to forgive her, and forgive yourself. Thank you for sharing your story with us. Good luck to you. ❤

Ntxhais aw txhob ua li koj os 😢

Confused kids... invest in wine stocks because There is going to be alot of old single ladies with no kids but a bunch of cats and pets in 30 years drinking wine...

That’s what y’all get for not letter her marry that dude hahahahahaha😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Kuv tus txiv lo phem ib yam li neb thb kuv ob tug tub thj tsi muaj neej li thb os phem dhau lm ces lawv ntshai yuav tsam g haum niag laus siab

Don't be sad. They're just not meant to be together.

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😢😢😢😭😭😭pab koj Tus me ntshais tu siab mus tag tiam neej no os mog😢 vem Tsi Tus neeg yug hlub es ua ib siab mus yuav ib Tus poj niam Le yug los ua yug khub os 😢xim neej no kuv mas ntsub cov niag niam tsiv ua phem2 Le neb ib niam tsiv no xwb os