Two Husbands Have Gun "Accidents" 10 Years Apart | Barbara Stager Case Analysis 

He did not record a cassette tape predicting she would shoot him. He worried about some strange facets and actions of his wife; rightfully so.

In the recording, Russ said he thought: she was forging checks to cover up her financial problems, she had killed her first husband, she was cheating on him, and that she had given him sleeping pills on multiple occasions.

That is terrifying. Why didn't he get out I wonder.

How do people stay with someone they think will kill them in there sleep.?😮

​ He wanted to go out with a bang?!

That's says it's a pretty legit fear, esp back then without our current devices.

Guys usually fiercely protect that area when they sleep. My ex slept in a fetal position with his hands held down in the groin area. Not because of anything I ever did…he always slept with one or both hands on that body part. Even if he was stretched out on his back …one arm would be over his head and the other arm or hand would be holding onto it. My point is, it’s natural instinct for a man to protect his jewels and she’s full of crap with that explanation.

That's why bros don't usually share a bed. It's the number one concern

​@@coloradohikertrash9958cupping the wrong man's junk? Some people pay good money for that 😂

​@@laurenurban3942what but don't they cuddle up with u, they aren't protecting it then

It was on forensic files

@amadeagottlieb ~Thank you so very much for your kind words🙏 I'm very sorry for your loss as well. I'm 33yrs old & I we with him from the time we were in 6th grade, until the day he passed away on top of my in a recliner. It was far beyond traumatic. I'm trying SO SO HARD, but it's been hard to get traction in my life bc then a few years ago, I was robbed at gunpoint & shot in the chest. It was one traumatic event after the next. My hubby & I had our 1st child when I was only 17. Fast forward to 33yrs old & I've got 8kiddos. I do believe in God & in heaven. Your & my beliefs align when it comes to that❤️ Please take care of yourself & stay safe. Sending you all the love, hugs & healing vibes in the world🙏❤️

I just went over to Fouseytube to see what's up,,based upon your comment. The NPD is strong in this one

Bipolar disorder needs occasional hospitalization which she never had. Personality disorder is a given.

😂

What about a mother-in-law or two?

Lol. Heaven waits for your next husband my dear. I laughed and laughed and thought, damn, what if she's a serial killer? Nah!

Sounds like it’s easy to get husbands too! You must also be the “machine” in bed type.

clumsy

So . . . You’re saying you’re single. ❤️

Donna mentioned Dr Grande in her video and I went searching.

Google did it

@@mnmmnm8321 The one good thing Google ever did.

I really like his Channel as well in spite of what a few haters say about him on Reddit.

​@@scottdavidson526what do they say? It isn't nonsense political shit calling him far right or something is it? Reddit is a fortress for zoomer neo-liberals 👎 booo. Grande seems to be a common sense centrist.

Yep me too. Narcissistic psychopath. Maybe grandiose 😢😢😢

Oh! I didn’t know about all of the churches doings! They are insane. Yes Dr. G! Please do an episode on Mastersons case and the churches underhanded dealings!

That would be cool

Oh me too, I heard it from one ASMR gal and would love to hear his take, Danny the psycho:/

Thanks

That movie is "Before He Wakes: A True Story of Money, Marriage, Sex and Murder."

I’m just glad I found my awesome husband, good, sincere men have been very hard to find since, well, about the 1970’s. I think that idiotic “sexual revolution” messed so many people up, both men and women, including this woman (Barbara Stager) in this video! (Her individual character is also to blame as well, of course!)

Humans have always had, would crazy, "illicit" sex, long before the so-called sexual revolution.

⁠​⁠@@culturalobserver8721Yeah.. it’s been difficult to find good women as well.. especially over the last 10-20 years. The sexual revolution was one of the worst things to ever happen to this country. So many women have been misled and lied to about being “strong, independent women that don’t need no man”.. and led to believe that being a homemaker is demeaning. There is a strong correlation tied to the decline of this country and western civilization in general starting in the 50’s.. and women entering the workforce enmass. Other things have contributed as well of course.. but we have lost our way as a people and so many of us are suffering for it.

Ephesians 5 5 Be ye therefore followers of God, as dear children; 17 Wherefore be ye not unwise, but understanding what the will of the Lord is. 18 And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit; 19 Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord; 20 Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ; 21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. 22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. 32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

I think he may have already done a video on Jared.

@@JustAnAverageWoman69 I checked and he hasn’t which is why I mentioned it.

@@DMalltheway Okay. I must have watched that on a different channel then! 👍

Obviously something fishy was going on.

Same

I had to quit watching the crime channel. Too much is too much.

​ She was impossible to satisfy. She doesn't look like a nymphomaniac. She looks like the type who wouldn't be interested in sex.

Sex

​@@caddieohm7059KIA?

Russ's ex-wife/friend said it was because of Barbara's two sons that he legally adopted. He loved those boys, the ex said. Still, he should have left that house, or at least not slept there. He should have made her sleep somewhere else in the house while he slept in their bedroom with the door locked and a piece of heavy furniture pushed in front of it.

​@@TheBOG3Well, he's not much help to the sons if he's dead 🤷‍♀️. That was a lame excuse on his part.

Hard things in the bedding? 😮

It turns me on, honestly.

​@@sarahjaye4117😂

I feel the same way about women with high sex drive it's not natural

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My sister's been married four times. The first husband died in a motorcycle accident, the second one she divorced, the third one committed suicide, and she's been married over 20 years to the fourth husband.

Wow! I'm just glad I got it right the second time around. 😅

Law in NC was changed to life without parole afterwards.

My first wife was a freak

​@@troy3456789And she didn't kill you! Not so bad.

😅

Yes, I'm hoping he covers this one too

Terrible! How old was the victim? I now live in the Midwest but I grew up in Whittier, California; it used to be a very decent city decades ago. 😢🙏

@@culturalobserver8721 she was just 19 yrs young. One correction. He also kidnapped her with intent to rape. Just feels so random and that’s scary.

Sounds like the BF didn't carry.

I'm always asking myself the same questions. It would be great if Dr. Grande ends his videos with some info about close relatives or children.

I always google the kids after........ Unfortunately most believe the lying parent.

Barbara Stager: Spendthrift and Murderer - Forensic Files Now As for what happened to Barbara Stager's sons after her imprisonment, the younger one went to live with an uncle and the other was old enough to get by on his own. Russ Stager's first wife, Jo Lynn Snow, married again, to a kitchen remodeler whom she helps run his business, according to the News & Observer.Sep 13, 2019

@@lf9341 Thanks for the update.

lol. I guess it depends on the cartoon character.

Hilarious

I think she had a very long neck

Looks like my bearded dragon, except that my bearded dragon is really cute !!!😊

I saw'Fatal Vows', a show about this. Jo Lynn, the first wife said that they made much better friends than spouses and she didn't elaborate too much about what made their marriage fall apart. Russ wanted to get back with her. Jo Lynn really went to bat for him and was really instrumental in Barbara's conviction--along with the cassette tape. Jo Lynn was a really lovely lady, very classy--his best friend.

The most dangerous time with a destructive partner is when your getting ready to leave. Especially, where kids are involved. That said, a lot of these people are consummate actors and very manipulative. There’s also a cycle that takes place. The honeymoon where everything is wine and roses. The build up, where “stress” will build up until there’s the explosion of violence, followed by the “apology stage”, where “it won’t happen again” and then you end back up at the honeymoon stage. The cycle continues like this until there’s no more honeymoon and no more apologies. You don’t necessarily see that cycle at first because it’s few and far between. Because of that its difficult to tell your in the frying pan while IN the pan until the flames are constantly at high temperatures. The one looking into the frying pan has the advantage of watching the flame get turned on and grow higher. While looking in, your not caught up in the emotions of hoping “things will get better” because he’s not like all the time. I never dreamed I would be in the frying pan. I spent two years trying to figure out HOW to get out alive when his whole personality turned into someone I didn’t recognize and he became increasing violent. They also spend a lot of time conditioning you to “accept” their behavior. I was also in a “no fault” divorce state and due to our unique circumstances, was told by my lawyer HE was going to get the house, the kids, the cars and child support and alimony and it didn’t matter if he was abusive and threatening to kill us all if I left him. I almost didn’t get out. I lost everything. But I’m alive and so are my children. Not just alive, but thriving. He on the other hand, not so much. When your in frying pan, you just don’t know HOW to get out of it. The terror takes over and clouds your judgement. A restraining order isn’t worth the paper it’s written on and our justice system cares more if you assault a complete stranger than it does if you assault your spouse. Despite having a mandatory 2 year sentence for domestic violence perpetrators (in our state) it was rarely enforced. Society shakes their head but then blames for the victims for being victims. They don’t understand the extent of emotional and psychological abuse and conditioning that takes place in these relationships along with the actual violence. In my case, I had no where to go. It’s even worse when the kids are manipulated to take the abusers side against the victim despite being victimized themselves. I hope this helps explain why “just leaving” isn’t as easy when your in frying pan. Dangerous people are deadly when you try to escape. Overcoming the emotional manipulation is a cliff too high for many too climb…until it’s too late. Unfortunately, without a lot of counseling, a lot of victims will just go on to find another controlling abuser. My mother believed she could “reform” her abusers and spent most of her life looking for one loser after another. It’s the definition of insanity.

@@little1942 Thanks for your detailed explanation. I'm glad you are doing well. I didn't mean to imply that leaving is easy - not at all. These videos often focus on the perpetrators of crimes and their psychological backgrounds. That in itself is helpful to learn what to look for in avoiding certain types of people - if it were that easy. But I also wonder what psychological traits might lead to becoming a victim Some insight would be helpful for self-reflection.

@@ajnasreddin I’m not sure it’s a “psychological” trait but a vulnerability one. Which can happen anytime you bond yourself to another human being. But if your already in a more vulnerable position (suffering loss, just lonely, or have kids with the person- or just a sexual relationship) your guard is down and you may not be able to see the possible indicators of abusive personalities. And as I said, a lot of these people are consummate actors. Sadly, abuse happens across all societal strata. It’s not a poor or ill educated problem. It’s too bad they don’t wear signs! Edit: one more thing I should mention. Substance abuse. Quite often, substance abuse takes place LATER in the relationship and turns a loving person into a monster. That’s what happened in my case. I just didn’t know that was the problem until after I left. There’s no indicators for that. Which is another reason why I say it can happen to anyone.

That's interesting!