I've been struggling to find my sexiness again after a disfiguring surgery on my backside, but I'm working to building that confidence back up. This conversation helped. Thanks guys.
For me, sexiness is entwined with being the change you want to see in the world. Clothing and footwear can describe sexiness for me, either when I look at a guy or if I dress like guys I like to see. Specifically, guys wearing denim or cargo pants along with lace-up boots really attract me. Sometimes I feel some swag and will dress like the above. Not that I really have a boot fetish, but if I see an attractive guy wearing them, combined with his intelligence and confidence, this is really the total package for me. When I dress this way, I feel more confident. The notion of knowing how to receive compliments, as Matt mentions, is critical in a relationship, IMHO. Balance is another key. Honesty is also important for me. The ultimate aim is to find all of these things in a person, if that’s possible. You all have espoused gems of wisdom in this episode, and to me, these are examples of sexiness. ❤
I just loved how you gave so many options for us to relate and feel sexy! I love wearing sexy clothes, short and tight, for the gym, parties or clubs! You all are the sexiest!!!!
Thanks guys, yes you are all sexy inside and out. ❤ I will confess I find myself admiring Matt for his uncanny likeness to my struggles as he shares his stories of his struggles and successes, never heard anyone put words to my innermost feelings of inadequacies, I too am an em-path who struggles with my inner confidence, on an earlier podcast he explained how his withdraw from 'the limelight' made him feel like hiding, thats exactly how I have always felt, then I realised my Father took delight in putting me down or humiliating me in front of others, I never realised until Matt said that about himself that's how I feel because of my inner critic (Maurice's voice) telling me 'I am not up to his standards', now I can see and hear who it is that tells me 'I not sexy' but I am. thank you to you all for sharing your experiences, so helpful. namaste 🙏
Thank you so much for sharing that. It’s incredible how hearing someone else’s story, like Matt’s, can make us feel seen in ways we didn’t expect. Realizing where those feelings of inadequacy come from is such a powerful step, and we're so glad the podcast helped you connect those dots. You are absolutely right-you are sexy, inside and out, and it’s amazing that you’re starting to see through that inner critic. Keep being kind to yourself, and know we’re all here supporting you on your journey. Namaste 🙏❤
This is a complex topic for most, if not all, including me. In my brain, feeling sexy (internal) and being sexy (external) are related but not the same thing. Personally, whether I feel sexy is 60% my perception of my appearance and 40% my mood and sense of self. Being sexy to others, on the other hand, is 70% appearance and 30% how you carry yourself or present to the external world (aura or energy). And for me, there is a degree of interdependence at play between the two. It would be exceedingly difficult to maintain feeling sexy if I never received any external validation that I am sexy to someone else. Vice versa, if you don’t internally feel good about yourself, you’re not going to exude positive sexy energy that will be perceived by others. I think most of us need that combination and balance of internal and external input, and if they are out of balance that’s where we start to experience issues.
Beautiful episode. I agreed with all you said. Not sure if you mentioned a sense of humor but to me that is soooooo important for me and others. Sometimes you just have to have a laugh and not take it all so seriously
From the first moments, even when he was just sitting there, I enjoyed Reno's energy! I didn't see his links in the description, but I'm glad I tracked down his website and insta. Looking forward to savoring this episode later!
Nudism is sexy! I've always felt the best energy from people who are happy in their bodies, not because of the shape they're in, but simply because their body *is* them.
@@GayMenGoingDeeper There's body positivity and then there's child predators and pedo's that we have to protect the children from. Public adult nudity needs to be kept in adult only spaces. In one of the daytime LGBTQ events it was disturbing to see grown middle aged gay men walking around the streets naked where families and little children were also present. If that would have been a normal man in broad daylight anywhere else they would have been arrested, but because it was an event under the LGBTQ these men were allowed to get away with it.
Apologies for my negativity on a positive channel, but negative feedback for all of my life (atleast since age 12) has made me feel unfit for the gay world. My “manhood” is at the lowest end of average for the US, and a botched circumcision at birth left it ugly and repulsive to my few partners. My “sexy” problems are wholly physical appearance as I have 20 or so deep, meaningful, and humor filled friendships with women. I’m 58, and I’ve only had sex five times, not more than once per man, two were before age 18, none after age 41. Some of my physical invalidation actually came from these partners. In the ‘80s I was tall and skinny and men in bars in Atlanta were consistent: No pecs, no sex. I was also told I was facially unattractive, and not once in my life has a man initiated a conversation related to sex or romance. I did put on (a lot of) weight in my 40s as a medication side effect. I lost about a third of my hair, and I have sagging jowls and a “turkey wattle” neck. Your guidance and suggestions seem fine for many, but I’m convinced that I’m not sexy in the remotest.
Sounds like you have faced some challenges when it comes to feeling sexy. We’re sorry that this is your experience. Sending love and hope that things can feel differently for you moving forward ❤
My abuelo use to call one of my fraternal twin younger sister niña fea translation ugly little girl. I ask my abuelo why do you call her that. He said I say it with love and it bug the sh*t out of me and she was never gay.
@@Ozymandi_as we're talking about someone who mentions having a mirror in their bedroom for sexual encounters. I know people who don't have mirrors in ANY room in their homes because their body image and self esteem are both so low. I feel pretty comfortable in my statement. To answer your question, I have several dozen female friends and I've made this comment several times to different groups of them. Funny thing? They've tapered WAY back on their tendency to bemoan how difficult their lives are when facing larger, more pressing concerns.
It wasn’t gross in the traditional sense of the word. It was cringy because they were attention seeking. If two guys were doing the same thing it would still be cringy yes
