i have been WAITING for someone to put how i feel into words. It is so exhausting every single day being the person i am but i can’t let myself stop doing what im doing. The obsession of trying to perfect the person i am and getting to the absolute best i can be is breaking me down as a person but i just feel like im suffocating myself and i can stop it at anytime but at the same time i can’t get myself to let go.
I resonate with this entire video so strongly girl!!! You’re not alone. Everything you said is so relatable and it so hard to stay positive because of it!!
As a girl in her early twenties can confirm it's HARD out here. Something I'm currently dealing with is developing trust in myself and my actions, that they'll ultimately lead me where I need to be. I have a hard time with always needing to be in control of my life as well (OCPD girly hello) but I also wish I could have someone telling me what to do all the time instead just for my mental health's sake. thank you for validating these feelings
okay I am back and have watched this while eating my brekky. I found your account recently I think over the past month, and you have helped me so much mentally. I always thought that once I'm happy I'll always be happy, but you've showed both sides, that we are never gonna have everything figured out, but we can take everyday day by day. I put so much pressure on myself to constantly evolving into a better version that I can't ever sit and relax and just calm the fuck down. I feel like I constantly have to be doing. but taking things slow and being kind to ourselves helps to prevent these burnouts of feeling like we can't give more. I learnt that there are 3 times in our life: past, present and the future. the period between our past and present is depression, and between present and future is anxiety. and it's because we are constantly finding ways to prevent mistakes, bad memories or flaws that happened to us in the past, that now we want to prevent more depression in the future for when we look back at our present selves. but we have to let ourselves live and write a story. because when we get so hyper focused on our future and our need to want to get better, that we can't focus on our right now. what makes us happy right now, what we are grateful for right now. and this causes this urge that our present self is not fulfilling us, but our present self is our vessel to take us where we want to go. I don't think this made any sense haha because typing my thoughts isn't very cohesive oops. but I tried my best to explain myself. take care haley and be kind to yourself
I get u so much with being stuck with ur brain, the fact that I’ll always have this anxiety,overthinking and struggles with me my whole life just makes me not want to carry on and it’s so hard to be positive
You have stated my exact thoughts into words! Lately I have been feeling the exact same way particularly about having such high standards for myself and not trying to waste time. I literally havent watched a movie/tv show for the exact same reason. I thought I was alone in feeling this way, but honestly I am so glad that you posted this video because it helps me feel like I'm not alone. Thank you for being so vulnerable which I know is absolutely hard to do as well.
Your timing is so perfect, I've been feeling a lot of the same. Fellow obsessive compulsive girly here and productivity can be such a trigger for me and kinda all-consuming. It's really hard being in constant battle and guilt with yourself. Sending lots of love!
relatable, for me it's more that whenever I don't do things that I KNOW will help me reach a goal it just feels like a "waste" of time you could say, and honestly it's sooo overwhelming when I don't have a clear plan for the day and time just passes by before you know it. I've been loving your content by the way, just listened to your episode on the ed athlete podcast, and love how well-spoken you are
i’m the same way with the need for perfection and self improvement. to the point where i feel lazy and guilty just watching a show after working my ass off alllll day. i got an adult coloring book and markers to do when i watch shows to still feel productive but to help turn my brain off and it’s been so nice! i also got stuff to start crocheting :)
i have NEVER related to anything more. and i get so frustrated that i cant rip my brain out and get a new one. i honestly am struggling so much with this too, and yeah, i dont think i can do it anymore either. i feel so lost. and i agree, im so sick of being like this, but how do you change... how do things get better. girl, you are NOT alone or the only person struggling with this. and with the direction GIRL SAME. i feel like im searching for guidance or direction in my life right now but for like, WHAT PATH AM I GOING?? i dont even know a destination im looking for directions for. anyways, thank you for this.
I feel this. It’s hard for me to hang out with others because I cant just sit down on the couch. However what has helped me ASTONOMOCALY is my boy friend. Some how his presence allows me to just sit down and cuddle. At the beginning of my relationship I recognized how i always had to be do something. The other thing is untimed journaling with out music, this helped me do less. Also the book the subtle art of not giving a fuck has a great chapter on profectistic self help.
thanks for the talk, i actually need that, im not in the best moment and i feel like no one understand me, but just listening to you made me feel not alone, i hope you get better because you deserve it, send u a lot of love ❤
You are not alone. I’m going through it! It’s tougher on some days . I’ll be 60 next month and I am constantly “aware”. I drive myself nuts but yay for the gym!
hey, if you need to clear your head and live in VA, i recommend a solo trip to Shenandoah national park. the Millers Head Trailhead is easy to find, like a less than 2 mile loop, and will leave you with a 180 degree view of mountains and sky. i think you might really enjoy hiking as a hobby! introspection is part of it for sure but it’s not debilitating. there’s nothing like sitting with a view so long, closing your eyes to meditate and enjoy the peace, and then reopening them again, and in front of you is a view you are SHOCKED you’re on earth and allowed to see. it’s just so magical. perhaps on your non-gym days you can hike local trails as a “non-productive” hobby? and when ur mom comes home bring her with?! tall socks & bug spray & clothing that covers as much as possible if u do :)
I really appreciate this!!! Hiking scares me lowkey bc I expect it to be only for ppl who are FR about it, like they have bumper stickers with trees and boots on it. But I’ll look into it now
No when I say I love ALL the content u produce I mean it!! Been working my way through the pod and loving it 🫶🫶love everything you’re about - u r my comfort 🥰🫶
It’s currently the holidays where I live and I’m struggling to find things to do throughout my day wich isn’t just going to the gym. I literally have absolutely nothing to do so I just end up scrolling on my phone wich makes me feel disgusting and unproductive but I don’t know what else I could be doing. I try to read, crochet or journal but it’s just not enough I want to BE DOING something. What are some ways that I can be productive in a way that I work on myself?
