My father died some years back in Northern Michigan. He was embalmed but it was a bad winter, and it would have been impossible to break the ground in that tiny town. In the spring, when the funeral was held, they offered a viewing. I declined, though others did not. My stepmom told me I made a good decision.
Thanks ladies, I enjoyed this episode as it struck home with me. We lost Mum two years ago, tragically in theatre during an op to mend a broken leg, so a real shocker to lose her. Obviously, the coroner got involved and we had to wait for p/m. Luckily, we were allowed to make an appointment to see Mum in the hospital morgue, although the room she was in was just like a chapel of rest. She still had her tubes in etc as they weren’t allowed to remove before pm. When she eventually arrived at the funeral home, we were advised not to see her and accepted that. You were right, you can’t unsee what you see and I now have that last image in my head. You have settled my mind thank you ladies. Hertfordshire Uk
Hi Terri, we are so truly sorry to hear such a very sad story of the loss of your mum 😞 it's so bloody heartbreaking. I see to many people who died on the operating table 😞 we are so so sorry, we have no words to make you feel better 😞 We hope you are looking after yourself and have lots of support around you. Take good care out in Hertfordshire 💚💚
Hi Trecy and Trish I'm glad I found your channel. I'm learning so much! I am glad you covered this topic because here in the United States in Ohio where I'm at, the funeral home I've been to made it out to seem like we didn't have a say in viewing. It was the deceased person was not viewable and that's it!!! 😢 I'm so glad I now know I have the right to view my loved one if I want to!!! ❤ Thank you for sharing!! Stay happy and healthy! Much Love to you both!
Always love listening to you and watching you ladies! I live in a very conservative state in the USA and sometimes it's hard to get this kind of information. And you are so much fun!
A very good friend of mine died and no-one found the body for 3 weeks. 3 weeks in a 72°house! Of course it was closed casket. I always wonder what state his body was in when they found him. I get nightmares of body parts just falling off. 🥺
Yes to a podcast! New subscriber here, and I am finding your content extremely interesting. My grandmother worked in a funeral home in North Carolina, USA for many years, and I used to go to work with her a lot when I was a kid. She was front office staff, so of course I didn't actually ever go into the embalming room when there were bodies in there, but I've always found deathcare to be fascinating.
You ladies do a wonderful job explaining this stuff! You are compassionate, but very matter of fact. I so appreciate that. Merry Christmas to you both.
Hey ladies , ya'll are looking pretty as usual. Love the hat , Tracy . My mother died on December 27th , my daddy died on December 21st . I still after all these year's 1970 and 1994 , I dread Christmas.
Another senditive subject handled with honesty and compassion. I don't think anyone could complain about the answer you have. Seems to me there were far too many variables to be more specific. I think asked the same question some people in the industry migh just say "Funeral Directors don't advertise no viewing without good reason" and leave it there. At least you went the extra mile and explained the process that would make a viewing less traumatic. I hope you girls are filming in batches of videos 'cos you've been wearing the same outfits for a while. Cal manages to change his outfit. 😉
Sometimes I enclose the entire head in a clear plastic bag prior to coating the face with massage cream/ moisturizer. The bag helps to minimize freezer burn from circulating cold air plus helps to minimize drying out of the moisturizer.
@@Areyoudyingtoknow i don't believe you know how much I appreciate your channel as an outlet to share professional techniques in morgue. Maybe you could extend it to offer other Embalmers our own unique domain Sharing is Caring.
Going back to a funeral home is pointless if you live in NZ. Lying, despicable funeral home had a family member in their words ON ICE for three months due to a coronial enquiry. Then they ........in their words......crated her up and took her to the furnace. 1983. And still a traumatic memory even now. The lying bastard himself is now dead. Hopefully enjoying a thermonuclear afterlife. You two ladies are marvelous. Thank you for your compassion and education of your viewers.
A podcast would be fantastic as you say you can listen to them while you're driving. I have a few podcast I love to listen to in the car and adding yours to the list would be great
We have only a few podcast but you can find it where ever you get your podcast. You just need to search by our name to find it are you dying to know 😊💚💚
I discovered my aunt and she had been deceased for 5 days and the funeral home said that she couldn't be embalmed or have a viewing I didn't actually see her I went in the door and I got the smell and didn't go to find her I called her son and the ambulance and law officials, I remember at the funeral home it was a much horrible smell it scarred me for life
Oh David so sorry to hear such a sad story 😔 and such a traumatic loss too. We both send you our deepest condolences to you and your family 🌹 Yes the smell dan be so very confronting, hope you have family and friends around to help in them difficult times. Take good care 💚💚
Hi beautiful ladies My mom passed away with breast cancer and was taking about two hundred miles away for service and was Embalmed But she was left in body bag under her clothes I took care of my mom while she was sick Dr ask my mom if she would be willing to help other women with breast cancer by taking a treatment of a Study treatment. My mom yes yes but my mom took no pain medication She said she wanted to always know what's going on But the Study meds, they gave her really destroyed her body I just glance at her because i just couldn't take her death even though I knew it was coming I should miss my loved ones I also took care of two young brothers who passed from cancer and now I'm talking care of my husband and I will never get over them passing But thank you for taking care of our loved ones
Ooh darling that's so very sad 😢 we are truly sorry you have gone through all this pain and so much loss 💔 words are never enough. Please take good care of yourself and always be kind to yourself too. In our thoughts big hugs from T&T ❤️❤️
This is really interesting! Just found your channel. My dad had his brain removed for autopsy. So it was 3 months before he was cremated. He wasnt embalmed. The undertaker did say a viewing wouldn’t be advised. So i kind of guessed at what he would have looked like. You use the term skin slipping. What does that actually mean? Do people start to get mold on them? Like food in a fridge?
Hi, so very sorry to hear you have lost you dad 😢 sending you all our best 🌹🌹 Skin slip is when the skin begins to separate from the underlying tissue, often caused by putrefaction and bacterial growth after death. The skin just becomes delicate and tears easier and our skin holds in liquid, so when it tears it leaked fluid. Yes bodies will eventually get mold on them if not treat. We are all organic just like a piece of fruit that you have seen go rotten the human body god through the same changes naturally. Take good care of yourself 💚💚
Hi Lynne, Tracy here, I do miss the cold snowy winter days around Christmas time. As you my have guessed I am from the North East of England and I have been in Australia nearly 17 years and still can not get use to Christmas been hot just not the same. Take care 😊💚
Hello ladies, I went to view my 95 year old Mum in the Chapel of Rest, 3 weeks and 5 days after she died. She wasn't embalmed. She looked peaceful but had red lips and a strangely wide mouth. Her nose had a dip in it but she looked very good. This was last week. She died of advanced Alzheimer's. I'm glad I went, I took pictures which give me comfort. Mum's funeral is on 6th April.
We are so very sorry to hear you have just lost your mum 😞 please accept our deepest condolences to you and your family 🌹🌹 Thinking of you today 💚 hope it's a beautiful service. Please take good care and always be kind to yourself 🙏💚💚
Yes some family do viewing when we advise against. We can not stop any family only advise. We do have waivers to sign for theses cases and we will always offer support throughout. Thank you for your question take care 😊💚
I love these two, well, 3 🖤 👩 💀 👩 🖤 btw, I usually listen to your videos while I’m washing the dishes 😆 but I always keep an eye on the screen in case there’s some footage. I do the same with most of the videos I watch.
That is a big question as it depends on a lot of factors. Such as how, where, when, temperature, water if any, cause of death and so on. So I really can not give you a definitive answer. Thank you take good care ❤️❤️
Hi Rio, the family was advised by the funeral home that they shouldn't view the body because time had passed. We are guessing the body had started to disintegrate but we don't know all the details. Thanks for your comment.
Hi do you have an email I can ask a personal question? I viewed my mum after 4 weeks and ended up with PTSD. The funeral home did not tell me she would look like she did.
Oh Emily, so very sorry to hear such sad news of your mum 😔 we both send you our deepest condolences 🌹❤️ Yes we do have an email it is - areyoudyingtoknow@gmail.com Will watch out for your email. Take good care 💚💚
We just had a loved one who died the end of November but because of the delay in post Morten and Christmas they are only being buried now. They are viewable? You think they were frozen in the hospital and if so how is it possible they still look fine?
Hiya, we are sorry for your loss and send hugs to you and your family. There is no way of us telling, without knowing all of the details, if they would be viewable, I'm sorry, but to give you an idea, the most I would be able to keep an unembalmed body for with constant application of cream etc would be a month provided there weren't other circumstances involved... If the person has had certain medications before death, if there was a delay between when they died and when they were refrigerated and the treatments done after death by the coronor and the mortician would all contribute to how they looked so long after death. It would be best for you to ask the funeral home if they are viewable and if not, why not. They may have been embalmed in which case, you may be fine to view, but you won't know until you ask.💜 I hope you can find peace in this awful situation. Sending our best wishes xx
Hiya, we are sorry for your loss and send hugs to you and your family. There is no way of us telling, without knowing all of the details, if they would be viewable, I'm sorry, but to give you an idea, the most I would be able to keep an unembalmed body for with constant application of cream etc would be a month provided there weren't other circumstances involved... If the person has had certain medications before death, if there was a delay between when they died and when they were refrigerated and the treatments done after death by the coronor and the mortician would all contribute to how they looked so long after death. It would be best for you to ask the funeral home if they are viewable and if not, why not. They may have been embalmed in which case, you may be fine to view, but you won't know until you ask.💜 I hope you can find peace in this awful situation. Sending our best wishes xx
In Sweden Most deseased have to wait in the fridge for at least 4 weeks, since most funerals only take place on fridays (for convenient reasons),and to my knowledge its not common practice to enbalm deseased People here(at least none in my friend/family zones ever been offered one). It strikes me now, when seeing this episode, that there ought to be an awful smell of decomposition when walking around the coffin saying goodbye, right? Or is it just masked with something? I would love to know how the procedures are done different in different parts of the world. I think in general, in Scandinavia, death is really taboo topic. You never hear anything about Whats being done after your dead up until the day of the burial. Makes death even more mystic and scary 😱 Btw Im all for a pod cast. I have a 30 minute drive to/from work every day, so that would really brighten those long drives. Have a merry christmas. Hope People never run out of question for you🎅/Robin
Hi Robin, thank you for sharing all that information. Wow had no idea about the way the funeral industry works in Sweden how bizarre to only have funerals mainly on one day 🤷♀️ I would really think that a lot of chemicals are been used in the coffin and funeral homes to mask the smells if no Embalming take place and deceased are held for such a long time. This is why we started this channel to get people talking about the one thing that will effect us all yet lots of cultures just don't want to talk about it and keep it hidden behind closed doors 🤷♀️ Thanks, we are trying to see if we can fit in a podcast too. Thank you for your support and watch this space. You and your family have a wonderful Christmas and New year 🎄🥳 take care 💚💚
hi again i can't believe i am learning educational things from you and i am not afraid of death and when i get old and before i die i will not worry and i will accept my death when i get old in 2078
Odd question! But I’m a tattoo artist in the uk and I’m curious if you could tattoo a body? I’d like to have my tattoo artist friends give me one last tattoo. Would that be possible or has anyone done this that you know of? If embalming is or isn’t done? Thank you 🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤
Hi Symone, never had that request before but if you wanted that done I personally would not have a problem with the tattoo artist coming in to do that. It would be better on embalmed skin as this firm's the skin up not sure if it would work well on un-embalmed skin as this can tear easier. It's definitely a different request, I have only had the request of removing a tattoo for the family to keep. Thank you for your question 😊 take care 💚💚
That’s so sad. With the way things are with getting the help they need, delays are being put on a lot of things. Okay, I have a question. Is it true that more embalming fluid is more on the face?
Ok no it's not true, the face does not need a lot of Embalming fluids, it's one area you have to be super careful about as you can easily over embalm the face and head. Thank for your question Neil 😘 💚💚
I think doing a podcast is a fantastic addition... 😊 I come here out of interest and also educational interest..so yeah... I'm giving the thumbs up 👍 xx
