I hope you girls aren't feeling guilty about what he goes through in prison. Whatever the circumstances of his unaliving someone incident, or anything else, you aren't responsible for anything in his life.
Absolutely; he is his own person. We all have our own choices, all of us make mistakes; some much bigger than others. Hopefully he gets himself sorted out (therapy/ anger management). No one really sets out to Unalive someone, it’s just scary how fragile life is. 😔 Unresolved anger is dangerous.
There is no ❤ judgement. There is no way that you, Lizzy and Cody are responsible for your father’s actions. He is your father and you all wouldn’t be here if it weren’t for him and your mom. Forgiveness is a blessing for you and your father. He made a terrible decision in what he did, what led up to it, and he is paying for that. It doesn’t change the situation, nothing can but I am proud of you for making the step to reconnect with him. You have to do what you feel is right, may your time with him continue to bring you all peace and happiness. It most certainly can’t have been easy. You all are amazing and you have become a beautiful young woman and mother!❤
You girls took a huge step with this one! Bless you both for accepting your bio dad and understanding who he is and where he is and why! I wish you guys only the best in the future!. Forgiveness is a huge part of life and understand, forgiving someone does not mean they are innocent or their past actions can be forgotten. You ladies can learn from this and you can build a bond with your bio dad. Again, forgiveness doesn't mean that you condone their actions, forgiveness is understanding their actions and the cause of their actions. God bless you both and prayers for a bright future!
Lacey, people F-Up some worse than others. My son is in federal prison right now. So I understand all that you’re saying and even some of what you’re feeling. It’s scary to even share. I’m so proud of both of you for going and visiting him. I can’t thank you enough for sharing. Love you and Lizzy both💞 Never be ashamed of others mistakes. It’s not our job to judge others it’s Gods. I constantly have to remind myself of that💞
Lizzie is a GEM, thank you so much for being responsible and looking at the road. Too many YTers out there filming while driving and taking their eyes off the road way too long for my taste.
As a child who was separated from her birth parents because they didn't make wise choices and have been in and out of jail. this was pretty emotional for me. I'm pretty young and I live with my adopted parents, it hits hard when I hear other people's parents have been in jail I can relate. I know what ur dad did wasn't right, but im so glad ur giving him a chance to change and let him see u. I honestly still need to work on forgiving my birth parents. I'm thankful for people like u, u are an inspiration to me. thank u.
Hay Lacy, My father abandoned me when I was 12 and I have held on to a lot of hurt and anger for so many years. Even though I know my dad doesn’t want a relationship with me you have inspired me to try and let go of the hurt and try to forgive him. If you can forgive your dad with everything that has happened then I think I should be able to. Really appreciate that you shared this very private information. Sending love ❤️ your way
You and Lizzie have great compassion and strength. I am proud of you. This decision was yours alone to make. I hope the experience of visiting your dad together makes the sweet bond you two share even deeper. And, I hope visiting him provided you both with a sense of peace. And, on a total aside, you both look beautiful in this video.... glowing. It is the beauty that comes from strength and wisdom.
I’m so glad that you ladies took the first step to have a relationship/visit your bio Dad. Prison is no place to be. I’m sure his heart was full to see you girls again.
Lacey, I am so proud of you for sharing this. I, myself did prison time in California for the same crime as your dad. I got out 9 years ago. That was after serving 20 years. You are strong woman and will achieve everything you set your mind to. Forgiveness is a huge step. Continue on this wonderful journey. I love watching your posts and even though I'm 56 years old, I learn from you. ❤❤❤
Great video Lacey. I am so happy that you were able to reconnect with your bio dad. And of course that you are letting go of negativity and grudges. You know, the human heart is like the ocean. It has an endless capacity to love. The more you let go, the bigger your ability to love will be. And ….hey, the more the merrier!
It’s nothing wrong with keeping things private from the internet sometimes it’s better for yourself. It’s about healing and growing and letting go and it’s your guys story your road. Sending hugs from Texas
I don’t realize by watching this video I was going to start crying because I’ve had a very hard time forgiving my brother. Like, a REALLY hard time. I’m working on it in therapy, but it’s still so hard.
Wow Lacey, I’m so proud of the both of you . Forgiveness isn’t always easy as in your case and it takes time to remove the hurt. But I believe you’re on the right track . So good to see you and Lizzy together I pray this works out for you ladies and thank you for sharing this part of your lives I know it must be difficult. I pray for guidance and strength for the both of you .
Lacey and Lizzy that was a huge step you both took! It had to be the hardest decision to make the trip to the prison to see your bio dad! Forgiveness is a hard thing to do.! ❤❤❤
His mistakes aren't your mistakes Lacey. We can't judge you for actions of someone else. I am glad you have managed to find some comfort and form a relationship of sorts with your bio dad. 🤗
I remember visiting my dad when he was in prison for a serious crime. I won't say what,but he's been out now and my mother accepted him over my sister and I. It took me over 20 years to forgive my parents. And I'm still going through it. But yes ,forgiving someone is such a great part of healing. I don't have much contact with my dad and I talk to my mother on the phone. My sister passed away last year at 46. She always wanted our family to have some sort of communication. There is a light at the end of this tunnel. But remember, itsokay to be angry and have all of those feelings. It does help with the healing process too. Thank you for sharing your story! ❤
I don't know why people feel the need to ask what someone did. I get being curious but I feel its stepping over the line and just rude to ask. if they wanted us to know they would say it in their comment.
You look so peaceful and self-assured in this video (the after the visit part). It warms my heart to see you and Lizzie on the healing road. Forgiveness is a huge thing, and it does not come easily, so you two are legends and you will be rewarded with more contentment in your life because of it. I really admire your strength ❤
So mature of both of you for taking the necessary steps to find your dad and forgiving him. May you have many more visits with him in the coming years!
As someone who has visited family in prison, it does get easier for the checking and such! But it doesn’t get easier knowing you have to leave them even if you never had a great relationship. What he did, or didn’t do doesn’t need your forgiveness, it needs to be shared and talked through between the parties it happened with, that way you can choose to forget, or forgive and forget. What happened isn’t on you, and forgiving him is a good thing. And yes forgiveness does not mean that they have to be in their life! I’m glad you’ve shared this!!
Lacey nobody should ever judge you for how you feel or about this. It was never you and your siblings faults at all. Ever. At the end of the day, your parents are your parents and with enough information and communication it is ok to move forward in life ❤
This is big. Telling people that my dad was in prison when they asked about him was so hard. I know this video will help a lot of people like myself. I didn't know anyone else who's parent(s) were in prison. I had amazing support from both sets of grandparents and my mom and stepdad, just no one who had been in my shoes.
I personally think that you n Lizzie have given him the best gift; having you two back in his life. Even though he may never get out, he has something positive to look at.
It’s amazing to see your growth and maturity through all of the obstacles that have been put in your journey. Congratulations on being an awesome adult and mother and sister and daughter. You are a great influence for your younger siblings and your daughter.
I am so proud of you and Lizzy for being so brave to go see your dad! Its really hard sometimes to know what they've done and go see them but glad it went well!!
I'm so proud of you girls ,this is probably gonna be the best thing that's happened to your dad 😊,it's a big step forward ❤ im much older then you but my sister killed my dad in 2001 ,i never thought id talk to her again but when she got out of prison,i had no choice as she was sick an dying of her drug use ,an needed me to watch her as her son went to work ,but it got easier.my story thought id share
It's good to connect to your roots. I'm sure if he's been there a long time, your visits and calls mean a lot more to him than you think. No matter what though, do what feels ok to you.
Hey Lacey I’m happy that you felt comfortable sharing this with us because it is very personal and we as your audience aren’t in way entitled to everything we have to know that you have your limits and I know myself putting something out there can be very hard because you never know what people will think and that is scary because it’s a part of you that you don’t know if people will accept.
So mature of you to not only develop a relationship with your dad but to wait and see how it goes, and share it with us! You deserve so much. Love the forgiveness and letting go.
I'm so proud of you & Lizzy! I know it had to be an emotional struggle. Keep that feeling of peace & joy & remember how happy you made your dad feel. You girls are amazing & stronger than you'll ever know. Major love & smiles xoxo
I am so happy that u, Lacey n ur sister, Lizzie got the chance to visit ur dad. No one is perfect n many people make poor choices every now n then. But, for those who are in prison ( n isn’t in prison for something very, extremely dangerous ) does deserve to receive letters/visitations. I just pray 🙏 in ur dad’s case n many others case, that they’ll realize wat they have done wrong while being incarcerated n if they ever get a second or third chance in life to make things right, they will come out to society n focus on staying strong n positive individuals. Blessings to all… Aloha from Hawaii 💙💜
What a fantastic video, Lacey!!! Thank you for sharing part of your story! Is Cody ready to see your bio dad, or not? I’m a firm believer once someone has served their time, completed parole, etc. their conviction records need to be expunged & not discriminated against re: housing or employment. Big hugs!!!🥰
I remember you talking about him once a long time ago on your moms channel. I’m glad you’re feeling better about the situation and I hope you find all the hope, happiness and healing you are looking for.
I admire you and Lizzie so much for making this video. You really have become such mature loving responsible person .I wish you and Bexley nothing but the best .
You should be super proud of yourselves for visiting him, because it's super brave. It sounds like you've had a very healing year. It was really wise to go together that first time, and to be watching out for him potentially using you for money, as much as it sucks that it's prudent to do that, it is prudent. I'm glad so far things are going well.
Lacey, my biological father killed someone as well, but his was on purpose. I dont really know the whole story. I was 7 or 8 years old. He never once layed an eye on me. Theres so much hate in my heart for him. I applaud you for having it in your heart to see him.
I watching your videos and I have my bells on your videos and I'm subscribed to your videos and I watching your friends and family videos on RU-vid too and 🙏 👍
Lacey and Lizzie it is so mature of you 2 to try to reconnect and develop a relationship with your dad after so many years 👏🏻 Forgiving someone for previous bad behavior is not forgetting that they did it‼️ If you can learn to forgive it will hopefully help you both to release pent up anger, pain, and negative feelings that you have been holding in. I hope that this experience will have been freeing and a relief for both of you ❤❤❤
There is NO way I would ever judge you or Lizzy or Cody for whatever your dad did. You forgiving your father doesn't mean you forgive his crime. That is up to the family of the affected and the judicial system. This is about YOU guys healing, and you deserve that.🥰I think it is very nice that you decided to share this with your audience as I am certain there will be people in similar situations who will feel less alone thanks to this video. I know I don't know you Lacey, but I appreciate you and your siblings very much and always wish you the best. 💕
First of all, this may sound like a backhanded compliment at first, but read it in the purest of intention... you have matured soooooooooo much, and I just love who you are as an adult. I'm sure motherhood has contributed to that, but I am seriously so impressed with the maturity displayed in this raw, real life, personal video. I won't pretend to understand, but love the grace and forgiveness that you and Lizzy are extending in this journey. Thanks for sharing. ❤
Lacey, this video made me tear up at several points. I spent one month in prison several years ago. Because of how long by the intake process was, I wasn’t able to have any visitors or phone calls during that time. Also no commissary (no snacks or toiletries and no stamps to send letters). It was so incredibly hard not having any contact with any of my family. I can only try to imagine how much your forgiveness and newfound relationships have meant to your bio father. Thank you so much for sharing this!
My mom has served prison time. For more minor crimes. Drug crimes and my mom raised me my whole life but has been an addict my whole life too. The forgiveness is ongoing. When my mom did her prison time I had my first baby. It was really hard to not have my mom when I needed her. Again. Like all the other times in my life she wasn't there. It took me right back to my childhood and I was really upset, but now as an adult. I just had my 2nd baby this Thanksgiving and my mom wasn't there, but she was able to watch my oldest while I was at the hospital having his baby sister. I think everyone deserves forgiveness and second chances, 3rd 4th and 5th chances even. It hurt my mom as much as it did me that she couldn't be around for my pregnancy and sons birth. I think it played a huge role in her lifestyle change. I think you guys visiting your dad is probably really good for him, and hopefully reminds him of his worthiness as a human. Prison does a good job of making people feel worthless
You girls are awesome, even if you don't pursue this relationship at further, I'm happy for you to have wanted at least one visit. It's hard to visit anyone in prison let alone a person you really don't even know. It's natural to feel all the emotions you may experience. Just remember to do any visits for yourselves and your own emotional being. Love yas.
No judgement almost everyone watching either knows or has done something in their life that they aren’t proud of. Love and prayers for this journey, you girls are so strong. Thank you for sharing and being real.
People deserve a 2nd chance. sometimes they can't help what has happened in their lives. glad you got to meet up with him you need to stay guarded for a while to make sure all is good.
Lacey, I want to say a huge thank you, not only for being so valuable on social media but to thank you for helping me let go from alot of anger towards my mother. We haven't spoken in a very long time, and I have kept alot of anger of the mother I never had in my life. I'm hurt at what she said and did to my sisters and my neice and her trying to take the death of our father to her advantage. I will never have a relationship with my mother, you have such a close bond with your mum that I envy. But thank you for doing this vlog about your dad, you and lizzy are awesome women and love you guys so much ❤
all these feelings are very valid and this is such a vulnerable thing to share with us. forgiveness can be hard but when it happens it takes a big weight off. i’m proud of you both for taking this step and finding the ability to forgive. ❤
Honey, I am so proud of both of you. you are very strong. And Awesome ladies , What are parents choose to do? It's not on us. It is on them. I'm so glad that you are able to visit with your dad and have a relationship you both deserve that. Both of you girls need to hold your head high and be proud of what you have accomplished in your life. God bless you
Chills. The way she’s had a crazy life journey and faced a really important part of her life, the ending conclusion of the video was so beautiful and inspiring ❤
YOU LOOK AMAZING. I feel that the stress anger has lifted. I really visually see a difference. . God Bless you both. Did he see pictures of his granddaughter? I bet that was amazing for him to see. My prayers are with you both! Love from Iowa!🙏🙏❤❤❤
It takes a lot to open up about your past and I’m so proud of you both you and Lizzie for being so open about your situation. I’m a lot older than you and I can admit that I still am so angry about my situation and what I have not done to try and repair some off those inner demons. Instead I just push it to the side until it’s too late. You can stand with your head held high as you have push through that pain. Sending love and hope
Wonder where was Cody when this all happened and what is his thought about your guys dad? Would he also visit his dad. Does he not want anything to do with his dad and families from mom and dad side. Also what about his mom does he want to see her? I know everyone goes through it differently. Also males and females takes totally different with a different mindset. Males are a bit more careless and females a bit more thoughtful. What about your mom now? Is she still alive or no longer around? Most people forgive their family members like the parents and siblings wise only is what I meant by that. I know lots of people will say, I will forgive but won’t forget. So will you forgive and forget your horrible past life? I wonder what type of death he did and why? Your guy’s parents must had a hard also growing up. I don’t think many parents would abandon their kids and let them go have other parents if their life growing up wasn’t so bad.
Wow Lacey I’m so proud of you for sharing this story. It really has made me think that I should start forgiving people in my life. So thank you and well done.
I agree. Don't feel the need to film it. It's private. And yes he's been charged with a serious crime with obviously a very sad outcome as somebody lost their life. Guard you're relationship. Coz sometimes people can be so judgemental and nasty. Take your own time getting to know him before people hound you for details. Just a bit of advice coz l have similar experience. Talk about the hard stuff with him too coz it helps your long term relationship. Good luck with getting to know your dad again. My experience was positive with my healing as well
Well done Sweetheart, I can see how much this has affected you but also allowed you to move on and find that forgiveness you so desperately deserve. I hope it all works out for you ❤❤❤
Darlin, don't let any judgment or nay sayers get to you or stop your relationship. I am 62 yrs old, and my only son spent the better part of his adult life in prison and in and out of jail. It doesn't stop the love for them. And someone who has never had a loved one behind bars can not possibly understand.
