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Martina, you are a darling girl! Young enough to be my daughter. Self-care is so important. I spent my working life under great stress and worrying about contracts. I’m now 63 and I have a fabulous job working from home. I can rest, knit, cook, exercise etc and my life is beautiful. You are a great inspiration. I made the cloudberry tee after looking at your version. You are such a sweet and gentle person. God bless you ❤
I for one am loving your Vlogmas videos as much as your podcasts. I also find December really overwhelming and have done for years. I only work part time now but still get very stressed about everything that needs to be done, both for work and at home. It is knitting that relaxes me… thank goodness for yarn and being creative! And thank goodness for people like you and @laurapenrose for sharing your thoughts and feelings. ❤
We only have a brief time on earth, so I want to spend as much of it relaxed and doing the things I love as possible. this makes it easier to be there for the people around me too. i always love your videos Martina and i feel you're a kindred spirit
🔥love your podcasts & your style of life. I live in the US & we were taught to work hard & by the time I retired I was worn out, stressed & sick. I’m knitting & enjoying my life now but I hate that I had to go through all that.
My dad was from Italy. Thank you so much for elucidating so many puzzling things about him. Love everything you post! You are so wise! I am 72, recently broke my hip and wrist which definitely will make you slow down! Enjoy knitting so much! When I was in hospital after surgery, my daughter said I held my hands up in air and looked like I was knitting. LOL😊. From USA
Oh that's so poetically beautiful that your daughter said that about your beautiful hands recovering. I hope your feeling safe and taken care of so your hip and wrist will heal🙏🏼
I can't imagine the pressure and time needed to keep up with vlogmas videos! Never feel pressure to keep up. If you stay in your flow and true to what balance is for you, it will all work out ❤
As a mum of six kids i have been finding it very hard now to get into a 9-5 job. Nothing has worked out for me but i need an income to survive. i started creating eco print clothing and artworks and i sell small amounts at the market. i recently started dying yarn and i really enjoy it but the outlay to make it is quite high. im trying my best but often get told im being lazy and should work hard. brining up six children was hard!!
Thanks for sharing, Martina. It was interesting to hear you talk about the Italian culture around work. This rings true for me, too. I live in Ontario, but part of my family is Italian, from Calabria. When I was younger and going to university and working, my Nonna and Nonno would only ever want to know that I was in school and had a job. If I wasn’t doing either of those things they were angry with me and I felt guilty. I know their anger came from wanting to make sure I was safe, but it always felt harsh to me. They never asked what my job was or what my interests in school or in life were - I felt they didn’t place value in what made me happy or what was of interest to me. Making money was the most important thing, and this always made me very sad. I’m quite past this now in my life, but it did take a while. I’m lucky to have other supportive family members. And I think growing up has helped tremendously. But it’s unfortunate that some cultures place so much on younger people to become adults as soon as possible, and don’t value the exploration and unfolding of who we are. How can we meaningfully contribute to the world if we don’t take time to figure out who we are and what matters to us?!
I have enjoyed your vlogmas videos so far. It's good that you keep it real. I am such a slow knitter and I have come to learn that I can only work at my speed. Finishing a garment etc is a real boost and an acumplishment, and I am slowly getting my me made wardrobe. I don't pressurise myself anymore. Finding the balance between life and work is hard, you are having that conversation with yourself so you are well on the way with that journey so well done you. 🙂
Thank you for a wonderful vlogmas 🤩 I heartily agree with your. I have been a stay at home mom for the last 10 years, taking care of our 3 children. In my view, the most important job you will ever find, but in the beginning it was a real challenge. It almost felt like some kind of identity loss. Here in Denmark, when you meet new people, the conversations always starts with "so what do you do". When I told them, it was a real conversations-stopper, because most didn't now how to respond. But I find this slow living, so rewarding and the bond I have with the kids and the stress free childhood I provide for them means the world to me. I would wish that more people were able to a least have the choice to spend time with their children like I have ❤
Oh my goodness I so love and appreciate your comment 🤎absolutely!!! Raising kids in a conscious, stress free and slow way it's the most important thing ever if you have kids! You're contributing in creating a world with better and more relaxed people🙏🏼🤎thank you for your incredible work!🤎
Vlogmas videos attaches your viewers because they get to know you outside of your knitting. I think your self reflections are an important step in making changes that will work for you. Love and accept yourself and good things will happen
I been loving your blogmas but this talk or topic of this episode really resonate with me. As an Mexican immigrant coming to California I feel your feelings sometimes I feel as if I have to uphold to this standard of achieving the "American dream" becoming a successful immigrant that contributes to the American economy or just come up in life and help my parents because I had the opportunity to come and achieve great success. I also my chosen family ( partners family) to be Italian and I feel like they are go getter and money driven, something that my roots and my family are not because we value other things in life more it's a hard balance. Hope that you get to read this and know your not alone in this feeling!!
Your heart is so beautiful ❤😊 never feel bad for taking care of yourself! ❤ enjoy time with your love ones!!! I love your mittens and that colour is so lovely x
🔥 Congratulations on finishing your mitts on time for the weekend! Its as if the church bells were ringing joyfully for you ❤. I love listening to your thoughts on well-being, self care, self-love, herbal lore, and of course knitting. I felt we were having a conversation. I found it very interesting to hear about the Italian constitution… and really funny to consider that as an American, the “pursuit of happiness” is in ours. And yet, we think of Italians as living the dolce vita and we are working until we drop. Of course these are clichés, and you are entirely correct that our immediate surroundings of family, school, neighbors, friends shape our value systems. And these are hard to change! I too usually gift mitts and hats and therefore have none. However, I recently re-acquired one of my favorite hats because my daughter does not enjoy the color. So now its mine! Yay! Would also very much like to make myself some mitts… Enjoy your weekend and enjoy your family!!
What you say resonates so much Martina, sending huge hugs ❤ I've been catching up with your vlogmas this afternoon and everything you share is just so stunning~~ keep your peace first above all (I know how much work goes into each of these videos, sharing, both in time, effort, and just energy) but know that you are such a breath of fresh air ❤🌲❤
I agree with you that burning yourself out is not worth any salary. But I struggle with the people not wanting to work, but want everything nonetheless: houses, expensive cars, travelling, clothes, makeup..... whatever. If you are willing to "simplify" your life and be happy with less work - and less money - wonderful! I only work 80%- it gives me so much more freedom and relaxation... but I can not expect to have the same salary as if I worked 100%. I like your Vlogmas very much. :-D
I said in the group chat but a relaxed nervous system is my dream. I really really want to learn how to work towards that because I think it will bring so much relief to my life and my soul
I found your ideas on work and resting so interesting and inspiring. I'm from Germany, where it's all about work as well, the busier you are and the more money you make, the more respect you get as a person. It's considered normal to sacrifice your health and your well-being, and if not, your considered lazy. I'm currently on maternal leave (the second one since I'm pregnant again), so I'm having a very long break from working life, which is so refreshing. Still, the first thing people want to know after having a baby is when youre going back to work and if you actually take the full 3 years of parental leave your entitled to, you're considered crazy. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on that. I love your Vlogmas, it's so nice to get so many videos from you, but please take care of yourself, no harm in skipping a day or two or making just a very short video. Have a lovely Christmas time!
Dear Martina, you no the way, just searching .., but please listen to your body and heart… because when you crash, what you already did… it is bad.. and I now…. Big hug and enjoying your red mittens. big hug
gorgeous mittens Martina cara 💚and gorgeous yarn and color Aida💚 I resonate so much with what you say...I am still struggling so much with all of this, doing/being, struggling/relaxing, always feel I am pulled in two directions...I still have not found my way into this, and I agree so much about not having had the right tole models around, I think it is a fairly new concept probably and my upbringing was all about doing and achieving and accomplishing and I am still dealing with that in and out...I feel today around us there are more and more people that are bringing forth a different way of living, there are many "movements" but I am not much into labels, but about the pace...slow living, decrescita, downsizing, off grid...etc...to each his/her own...as long as we find out alignment...way to go for me. thanks for sharing, these are such important concepts...❤
Do you know what Martina, you are learning very young the important values of life, and that bodes so well for your future. It took me 60 years and a cancer diagnosis to truly understand and accept what is important in life, to re-assess my values, slow down, and savour life. Keep doing what you are doing, you are on the right track. Loving your vlogmas as well as your podcasts. ♥
Wow your chat about feeling guilt for resting resonates with me so much! I'm also filming a type of vlogmas video's this month, also not to earn money but just for fun and I was talking about the exact same thing. I have my own business so there is always something to be done, something to improve etc etc. But it's so important to remember that we are not super humans, we need rest and we deserve to rest and do nothing. It's difficult for sure because for most people work is such a big part of our life, especially if you work full-time or something related to social media. I hope you are able to rest more in the future without feeling guilt because life is so much more, and just know that I love & appreciate your videos and look forward to them every day. ❤
🔥 I hear you. Productivity consciousness is such a hard pattern to shift. I've given my life to it, and am trying to achieve more balance by mini- breaks and regular meditation and acceptance. Interesting about Italian constitution and labour. Love the mitts!
How do you find the contrast with the Swedish working culture? (I am a Brit living in Sweden) The pressure to work is also strong here, but there seems to be an expectation of enjoying your work and being satisfied at work. The next big difference is fika culture! Having breakfast with colleagues before work begins (simple foods, in the office or the canteen) then the fika/coffee break, going to lunch, an afternoon fika/coffee break as well. Keeping to office hours, or working 80% if you have young children or disabled/elderly relatives or even your own health challenges. For that matter, sick leave, leave to care for sick children, temporary leave for whatever reason . . . The work/life balance is pretty incredible here - or at least in theory, the attitude, the belief system . . . And yet "What do you do?" is incredibly important and the expectation that everyone should be working (or studying) . . .
I felt this one in my bones. Thank you for your vulnerability and honesty. I'm also trying to unlearn the "productivity mindset" where you have to get the most done all the time. My nervous system doesn't thrive in that setting, even if my adhd craves the dopamine. I was always a highly sensitive person but 11 years ago I experienced and lived through the Christchurch earthquakes (over 11000 quakes some very violent which killed over 80 people) which wrecked my nervous system and feel like I've lived in fight flight freeze ever since. The punches kept coming over the years with a business loss, my daughters autism adhd diagnosis, moving several times, my daughters mental health struggles, the mosque attack where we were locked down in the library for hours less then a km from the mosque, my brothers sudden death after being hit by a car at speed off his bicycle and covid. I've never learnt to recover from things and they stacked up and I threw myself headfirst into my job for people quite happy to take advantage of that and then ask for more and surprise surprise, burnt out and had a break down. Even then I couldn't stop and rest, I signed up to do a course so that I could use my enforced time off productively. I hate the idea of people thinking I'm lazy or work shy so keep repeating the same cycles. My therapist was not impressed, lol. Anyhoo, all that to say, thank you for speaking up about this. It's important that we are reminded to literally and figuratively stop and smell the roses. I hope you enjoy your time with your mum and uncle!
Oh my dear you're so strong and brave for coming out of those hard times alive and resilient. You've done so much and when I try to improve something I always think that others too will benefit from my change. So maybe try to slow down and rest more and BE LAZY FOR ONCE, this will help your family and people too🤍🤍🤍🤎🤎🤎🤎💫 sending you so much love
Sweet Martina…it is hard to relax…so, when you do have a moment of grace, just enjoy it and leave the guilt behind. Look at anything that is bright in your life and make peace with the darker things that bother you. Just make peace with these, and you’ll see, they’ll go away. Sending you hugs and love. Delphine
Love the mitts, the yarn color ! I love the yarn of Aida, there are wonderful ! All good Martina, I send you some soft and strong and beautiful energies. Bye 🌿
🔥I hear you. And applause to you for speaking your truth and being vulnerable. Merry Christmas! And enjoy your moments of calm and peace with your loved ones.
🔥 it is so nice that you address the topic of mental health and the grind!! And it's really interesting, because in germany it always feels like you need to be productive and when we're visiting the family of my husband in northern italy, everyone has time for a quick espresso and sits down. So this was new to me and I quite enjoyed the fact, that you pause the work just to sit down and have a coffee with someone to catch up on things.
Such beautiful mittens. You are so sweet. Don't give up . To be diferent from most people it's hard and sometimes lonely, but you have a legion of people in many countries that love to see you and would like to really meet you. Now, does that really solves your problems? Probably not, but if you are having fun and realize that you are very appreciated by lots of people like you, maybe it helps a little, I hope😊I send you all my love from Lisbon ❤❤❤😊... I look at the sky and think of all of you that give me these little bits of their life and make me feel better, happier, and really ask inside my heart and mind that you have good things in your life❤ ❤❤❤❤
I so look forward to your videos and wish I lived closer so I could meet you. You mention you’re attracted to those with a calm nervous system and I think that’s why I am so attracted to listening to you! You have beautiful knits but you have a magical spirit that is soothing to be around. What you said resonated so much with me. I’m relaxing by the fire and Xmas tree after an exhausting weekend and am being full on LAZY 😜 thank you for the videos and all of the inspiration. Oh! And the I bought the book you recently recommended and love it!!
🔥 I have been loving all of your videos! It's like having conversation with a friend each time you upload ❤ this video resonated so hard because I've been feeling similarly. Thank you for sharing and you're amazing ❤
🔥Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us. I love the vlogmas format. Mikke and you are an inspiration for a slow, thoughtful, authentic lifestyle. I'm always happy to see progress on your knits and your new house. It must take a long time to document and edit, but know that this act of sharing is a cozy gift of inspiration ♥
I am working on my own Tulip sweater while I catch up on vlogmas! Mine is in forest green and it feels so wintery and wonderful. So inspiring to see the finished piece in action! 🔥
Not many People work and are relaxed. Work environnement is very rarely calm. Work shall be rewarding, in a way or other, money, power, feeling of being useful. I suppose changing job or company can be necessary.
Your doing a great job with vlogmas and the podcast, your viewers love you and your wild knits. Those mitts are such a complimentary color for you. I can envision you embroidering flowers or mushrooms onto them for added interest. Thank you, thank you for your very hard work. 🔥
I just adore you so much. I’m always excited when you’ve posted a new video. I really enjoyed your “Ted Talk” and agree with it completely. I think we all go through those times in our lives and if we are lucky we learn from living an imbalanced life just how important it is to live a life that has a healthy balance. I love your fingerless gloves and I agree that the color is stunning. You should definitely take the left over yarn and make a matching hat. HUGS 🤗
I've been really enjoying your vlogmas series! It's really nice to see how you get on everyday but it is a lot of work. Some people do bi-daily or weekly. The pressure to work and make money is very relatedable, I am currently very stressed ! Sono fusa! But' im trying my best to be okay where I am. Take care of yourself! Thank you so much for sharing with us!!
🔥 I like podcast and your vlogmas. ❤ Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I feel the same way and I need to remind to my self to stop and slow down and keep join from diy and to not stress by comparing myself to others. 😊
Holiday Madness makes me nauseous. So I’m grateful for having knitting and crocheting skills that require me to slow down and not get swept into the world. Thanks for acknowledging that less is more…and prettier too 😉❤️ Btw, loving the cardigan you’re wearing. Name of the pattern, please and thank you 😊
thank you very much for sharing your thoughts and feelings on this difficult topic ❤ it's so important to speak about such things in public to avoid even more hostile political developments than we already have, sadly... and you're absolutely spot on: having positive examples is incredibly powerful and has helped me so much in my healing journey from severe burnout too! and you definitely are one of those examples for me (not being perfectly relaxed all the time but never giving up on getting there eventually 😊) especially by bringing knitting back into my life! i had so much anxiety about any arts and crafts that i stopped for decades, but watching your content slowly chipped away on that anxiety and when i my other main hobby fell away due to technical issues two months ago and i was really desperate to do SOMETHING with my hands, i was ready to take the risk and get out the needled and yarns i had not touched for soooo long 🎉 and of course there has been a lot of trual and error and frustration about results i'm not happy with, but it's also a great way to see how far i have come in my healing, being able to persevere and let go of unwanted results with much less disappointment, seeing every unraveled project as a learning experience and slowly finding my way to the styles and techniques which bring me real joy ❤ so thank you again from the bottom of my heart for sharing - please know that you are really making a difference in this world 🙏💖
also those mittens are gorgeous and the yarn too 😊 and i can definitely see how some viewers could be overwhelmed by suddenly getting almost daily uploads from anyone, but i'm sure many of them will 'binge' watch it later ❤
Oh my goodness you brought tears to my eyes! Thank you for your wonderful support! And most of all, thank you for being more kind to yourself and persevere and make mistakes and grow and enjoy🤎it's all a unique and wonderful journey I can tell!!🤎
Thank you for sharing your Xmas vlogs. I love them. Please could you write the details of Ida’s instagram or website because I too find that red my favourite red of all time and I would love to knit with it🍁🧡🍄🌝 Thank you Martina🌚 Oh I have something to add that might interest you. The correct past tense of cast is cast rather than casted. So for example “I cast on some mittens yesterday”. This is because the verb cast is an irregular verb. I am English (from England) and many English knitters get this wrong. I hope that helps😉x
Oh thank you for teaching me that! I didn't know🤎 It feels like a relief to say "cast on" for past and future 🙏🏼 Aida is the maker behind the Athenian Maker on Instagram and Etsy 🤎www.etsy.com/uk/shop/TheAthenianMaker
if I were that busy ... I would not spend any time on recording and editing videos ... But okay, I am not you. Do what you like. Have a good weekend too.
Martina you are one of the most inspiring people on RU-vid. Your videos transmit calm and caring, and I would love to live in a world where there were more people like you. Sadly, we live in a system that doesn't tolerate anyone who chooses to live outside that system. It requires courage and strength to carve your own path in our society when that path means rejecting the work ethic we're brought up with. As Tyler Durden says in Fight Club: "we spend our lives working in jobs we hate so that we can buy crap we don't need" (or something like that...). You don't have to do daily vlogs in December, just do them whenever you want. There are so many Vlogmases out there, it's almost a relief to see someone making videos every few days! Take care sweet lady. ❤ Oops, almost forgot: 🔥 🔥
Thank you so much for these words. I feel so blessed to know that there are wonderful people like you who appreciate what I create and care for the subtle things in life🤍I send you all the joy your heart desires 🤍
Hello Martina! How are you doing? I feel the same way as you do when I take a time to myself, to rest or relax =\\ It's a complex feeling that I'm working on to feel good about it! Love your videos you ae such an inspiration! Thank you for that!
The life work balance is different for everyone, and always a struggle to find the good balance. You have a lot on at the moment but it is all part of creating a life that you love and want and sometimes this means we have to work to find the money to set ourselves up . If SOMEONE didn't work hard at their job, you would not have the bricks that have made your house, you would not have the metal wood stove to keep you warm. People do need to work hard to get things and sometimes that means working over christmas or working on a weekend. The generation today would like to do little but still have the benefits of a home and materials and someone to shear sheep and make wool in the mill. Life is not simple when we want the tools to make our life simple. Your mom was busy raising children and needed money to put food on the table, clothes on your back, facilities so you could wash clothes and have a home. one day you might have children and see that to provide even the basics, you might need to put yourself out a bit more to do that for them and that is just life. No one has the idyllic life unless they live in the forest and eat plants and don't care about schooling or clothes or electricity. But enough about the reality of life hehehehehe! Loved loved loved your mittens and getting that wood stove in the car. I was grunting with you both as you were pushing and pushing it into the car and then fitting the dogs in. They are just the loveliest dogs and I love how you both love them. You treat them as sentient beings which makes you the best fur parents. Mika looked like a little boy in the bushes as you were preparing to put the decorations on the tree. OH, and I was glad to hear that you realise you are priveleged. My friend is your age with three children and she could never just sit and knit or play with animals. She has chores to do and time to be with her children and washing for them and house work and cooking for a whole family. you can knit all day if you want and that is just a very good place to be and you are building your future so you hope to be able to live a simple life. Always remember, you are not doing all of these vlogmas for the audience, you are doing it because you want to do it, it's how you hope to make money, howyou hope to build a connection and a community that will pay for you to live this life and share with you in all your makes and your life in the mountains. Any time you want to stop doing anything, you know you can do it because you are your own mistress. :-) and we would understand and accept anything you have to give. I look for your podcasts every week and love the education and knitting and stories you tell. You have the power to stop or go, to share or keep silent. Merry Christmas to the four of you, and know that you're doing an excellent vlogmas. xxxxx
Ciao Martina! Quando hai detto che è dannoso vivere in un paese che ha quella frase, come prima frase, nella propria costituzione, mi sono un po' agitata ammetto. Credo che dare un messaggio del genere sia pericoloso, è facile travisare, fraintendere e creare falsi miti. Quella frase nasce prima di tutto dal diritto che ognuno deve avere di poter lavorare, è un diritto enorme che molti uomini e donne del mondo non hanno e non avranno mai (con relative leggi di tutela sulle quali certamente si può sempre migliorare, ma quello in tutti i paesi del mondo). Credo che quello di cui parli tu sia più psicologico, quindi su un altro piano. Concordo sul burnout in cui si rischia di cadere (io stessa l'ho sperimentato diverse volte), ma credo che "mettere in discussione" una delle costituzioni più invidiate e studiare del mondo sia un passo pericoloso da fare. Specialmente se si ha così tanta visibilità. Concordo anche sul discorso che dovremmo misurare il nostro valore su altro che non sia il rendimento lavorativo. Insomma, un gran minestrone di argomenti, tutti di per sé validi, ma delicati e complessi se accennati così.
Ciao🌌grazie per condividere il tuo pensiero qui. Il mio discorso è molto personale e sono stata chiara su questo, poi penso che avendo vissuto in paesi diversi, ho una percezione della politica e della cultura italiana diversa da altri. Il mio discorso non è affrontato con leggerezza e ignoranza, ho cercato di misurare le mie parole con cura e parlato di come altri paesi hanno situazioni più difficili delle nostre. E in ogni paesi ci sono piccoli mondi tutti diversi. Mettere in discussione ciò che ci viene insegnato è importante per avere prospettive più vaste e libere. E sono dell'opinione molto forte che il piano psicologico non sia affatto "disconnesso" dai piani sociale, politico, culturale e fisico di ogni individuo. È bello poter discutere, imparare e sbagliare ed entusiasmare ed è quello che voglio fare con il mio canale e, a leggere i commenti, non sembra che nessuno abbia frainteso o sia rimasto scioccato dalle mie parole. Ti mando un grande abbraccio
@@wegrowild Ciao! Grazie per la tua risposta educata. Continuo a pensare che sia un discorso difficile da capire in un accenno di video e che molti non italiani potrebbero avere un'idea falsata di ciò di cui stai parlando, anche se hai dedicato attenzione nell'esposizione. Non penso nemmeno io che il piano psicologico sia scollegato da quello sociale, politico ecc .. anzi tutt'altro. Senza dubbio è spesso sottovalutato senza capire che invece sta alla base di tutto (almeno secondo me). Grazie ancora per la tua risposta gentile. Sarebbe un bellissimo argomento di cui parlare di persona! È difficile trovare persone aperte (nell'ascolto, nel pensiero, nel dialogo) su certi temi. Grazie! Restituisco l'abbraccio ♥️ un saluto dall'Emilia!
the true American stressor is health insurance and needing to work a job at all costs to keep that coverage. you better pray you don't get sick and lose your job (that's ironically killing you anyway) 💀
Yeah, interesting topic about work earnings - however to be honest about this topic, you could also clarify how you earn your living now, because even just brushing your teeth with warm water and not too old brush and a toothpaste costs money, and somebody has to pay for it, work for it... and the hardest jobs are paid the least... Good luck with your journey!
@@sujammaz Obviously it is nobody business how anyone makes a living, as long as it is legal... However, if she titles her chat as "honest", praising her decision not to work traditional 9-5 jobs, it would certainly be honest to clarify how she is financing her expenses... She does not owe an explanation, she can call her unclear chat honest, and I can have an opinion about it and I can express this opinion, if I care. Cheers!
@@anciify elaborating on the pressure to perform and being grateful to be spared part of it is hardly "praise". and i have the right to have and voice an opinion on your opinion too.
@@sujammaz Agree with the last sentenced. The fist sentence is debatable - and that's what the comments are for. Depends on an individual and their pressure to perform, and the options they have to finance their living. It is great that she can organise and finance her living in the way she wants, it is just not "honest" to chat how she can not and will not work regular jobs without addressing how she finances her dream life. Cheers!
@@anciify yes it is, because honesty is not the same as full disclosure. it only means that nithing one says is a lie, not that one is obligated to give every background information that anyone could ever be interested in. the video is not titled 'how to make a living in central italy' so this information is not essential to the topic. also the basic explanation was not withheld at all: the ability to not work full time is highly increased by frugal/rural living.
It's a shame that we live in a society where your chosen career is literally seen as your identity. We are so much more than that. The 'what do you do' question is also very common in the UK. I don't know if that's the outcome of a capitalist society that puts status on where you are in the hierarchy of making money or just how the West has evolved (economy wise/socially etc). I personally believe that most women aren't cut out for working outside the home in the same way most men are. And before anyone attacks me for my viewpoint being sexist or derogatory for women, please hear me out. I have seen and heard again and again women burning out in the workforce and finding it absolutely miserable to work for a business or corporation. I have seen men get stressed at work but not burned out the same way women have (physically/emotionally). By sheer numbers it's mostly women who I've seen experience this and biology plays a part in it. Workplaces usually have strict times and daily schedules while women usually have a monthly clock we go by. Certain times of the month it's impossible to work without seriously stressing ourselves because either we are in horrible physical pain (I know not all women experience period pain) or our hormones are making us seriously upset/moody/sad (there can be a change of 25ng/ml in progesterone just before our period begins). All these things are real physical stressors that we already deal with and putting more on top of that by facing the world/workplace each day can cause very quick burnout. You can do it for a while but it will catch up to you. I personally love being in my home and working for myself. On certain days of my cycle I will take it easy with my business and on certain other days I will work harder because I have more energy and strength. Working with your body's rhythm is the best way to not over stress for most women and working from home (or for yourself in your own workspace) gives a sense of security, comfort and safety which is another unconscious need for a lot of women (please note there is nothing wrong with that). Also, if you are not earning physical money as a woman then again there is no sense of shame in that. As a couple you work as a team and you should decide what works best for you. Contributing to taking care of the house; cooking, cleaning, laundry is a never ending job in itself which is vital in making a happy home work. But because it is unpaid work, unfortunately many in our current society look down upon it and give little status to a woman who wants to stay at home and look after that side of the partnership. I personally have a lot of respect for a woman willing to give up societal status and finances to look after her partner and home. Especially in societies where some might belittle her for that rather than respect her for it (like in some parts of the world). It’s not a small job or an easy one but ultimately you need to look after yourself and your loved ones first and ignore the fallacious expectations of society.
@@22mononoke sure. in the current situation of women being raised to be unpaid caregivers, legislature which makes this "occupation" obsolete - i. e. a significant reduction in allowed weekly work hours - would be the quickest and easiest way to balance out the sexism. those who really want to do it could still do it but nobidy would be forced to do it, because nobody would rely on it being done.
the current laws which set the maximum amounts of weekly work hours were made in times when unpaid domestic work (including all the emotional labour!) was also written law: women were not allowed to work, except for their husbands, because no husband would have been able to work 60h a week without that support. because nobody would have been, and so nobody should be required to.
I see your point although I think weekly work hours are just part of the situation. Things like the abandoning of the gold standard leading to the adoption of fiat currency, and the relinquishing of traditional gender roles are also issues which have a hand in the way things are right now@@sujammaz
